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Everything Feels Impossible Until You Take the First Step | Vincent Van den Broeck · Wake Up with Marci

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  Speaker 1: I know him, I know this person. They get closer,
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  Speaker 1: but at the same time I'm gasping for that. I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: I'm dying. I'm literally dying on the spot. They get closer,
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  Speaker 1: they see me, takes me into his arms. Paramedics come,
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  Speaker 1: and you need to know that. When the paramedics left
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  Speaker 1: the spot, and again I'm this fast forward.
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  Speaker 2: When they left the spot, he asked them, and.
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  Speaker 1: This is a movie kind of thing, like they're they're
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  Speaker 1: in the back of the ambulance.
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  Speaker 2: They look back. He asked them, like this guy is
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  Speaker 2: gonna make it.
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  Speaker 1: They're like, no, No, at that moment, I was already
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  Speaker 1: supposed to die.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, were you conscious at that time?
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  Speaker 4: This is Wake Up with Marcy, a space for honest
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  Speaker 4: conversations about healing, recovery, and women's wellness. I'm Marcy Hopkins.
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  Speaker 4: Take a breath, You're safe here.
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  Speaker 3: Let's begin.
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  Speaker 4: What if everything you believed about your life changed in
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  Speaker 4: a single moment. One day you're making plans, you're building
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  Speaker 4: your future, living life at full speed, and the next you.
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  Speaker 3: Are fighting to survive.
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  Speaker 4: What do you do when you're told there's almost no
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  Speaker 4: chance that you'll make it. Do you give up? Or
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  Speaker 4: do you rebuild. Today's conversation is about rebuilding. About my guest, Vincent,
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  Speaker 4: being told he only had a one percent chance to live,
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  Speaker 4: and he chose to live and to rebuild. So today
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  Speaker 4: we're going to learn about that resilience and that purpose
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  Speaker 4: and discovering that sometimes the life that you've never planned
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  Speaker 4: becomes the one you're most grateful to live. So if
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  Speaker 4: you've ever felt like you've been knocked down, if you've
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  Speaker 4: ever wondered if it's too late to start over, then
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  Speaker 4: this episode is for you.
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  Speaker 3: Welcome all to wake up with Marcy.
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  Speaker 4: I'm so grateful you are back, and if you are
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  Speaker 4: new here, welcome. I am always so appreciative to all
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  Speaker 4: of you that are listening or watching.
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  Speaker 3: I'm Marcy Hopkins. I'm your host.
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  Speaker 4: I am an author, TV host, motivational speaker, mental health advocate, and.
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  Speaker 3: I am also in long term recovery.
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  Speaker 4: On this show, we have honest, raw conversations about mental health, healing,
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  Speaker 4: self discovery, and what it really takes to rebuild your life.
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  Speaker 4: And today's guest reminds us that life can change in
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  Speaker 4: an instant. The question isn't whether we'll face adversity, The
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  Speaker 4: question is who do we become because of it. Today
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  Speaker 4: we will meet Vincent van Denbrook. Vincent is an entrepreneur,
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  Speaker 4: founder of the Uid Club, podcast host, and the author
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  Speaker 4: of the upcoming book Everything Feels Impossible until It's Done.
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  Speaker 4: After surviving a near fatal accident that left him with
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  Speaker 4: just one percent chance of survival, Vincent faced the unimaginable
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  Speaker 4: challenge of rebuilding not only his body but his entire life. Today,
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  Speaker 4: he's helping people to stop living on autopilot and start
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  Speaker 4: intentionally designing lives built on purpose, resilience, health, meaningful relationships,
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  Speaker 4: and financial freedom. Now, let's welcome Vincent to the show
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  Speaker 4: and welcome to Wake Up with Marci.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you for having me for real.
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  Speaker 4: I'm grateful that you were here and you had a
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  Speaker 4: life changing experience on October eleventh, twenty twenty four. Everything
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  Speaker 4: changed for you. So what do you remember about that day?
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  Speaker 4: What happened.
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  Speaker 2: About that day? Everything?
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  Speaker 1: But the most important thing I remember in the morning,
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  Speaker 1: getting back to from my wife working during the day,
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  Speaker 1: being at a carring event that we did with the
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  Speaker 1: business with my wife, leaving from that event to go
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  Speaker 1: finish an important file, and that's it, and that's it,
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  Speaker 1: and then afterwards it on my way to the place
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  Speaker 1: I was gonna send the file.
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  Speaker 2: I got her bike.
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  Speaker 3: Car and d is that correct?
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  Speaker 1: An eascouter and like the you know a school thing, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: scool thing, not like it's not a scooter. Like it's
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  Speaker 1: like an e school you know, the thing that you
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  Speaker 1: like you push with your feet and then you go
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  Speaker 1: and like how do you say it in English? I
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  Speaker 1: think it's an eacuder.
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  Speaker 3: You're not sitting down, you're standing up, okay.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and then the thing moves forward.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, I might something that that's called an EA scooter
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  Speaker 1: by the way.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, So but what happened? So you were traveling and
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  Speaker 4: someone hit you with their car? What happened they from behind?
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  Speaker 4: And what happened? Like what was the next thing you remember?
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  Speaker 2: So you have to know.
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  Speaker 1: So in Brussels we have shared EA scudas which he
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  Speaker 1: can only stop at certain spots in the city. In
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  Speaker 1: front of the Hucks and the hotel I was going
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  Speaker 1: to is when you look at the hotel, it's on
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  Speaker 1: the right side. So I was driving on the right side.
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  Speaker 1: I crossed the street this way and what happened is
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  Speaker 1: a car came driving by from the other way and
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  Speaker 1: so I was supposed to give priority to the car.
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  Speaker 1: But what I learned afterwards is the car hit me
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  Speaker 1: with a breaking speed of fifty five kilometers an hour
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  Speaker 1: in a thirty zone, which means that he was probably
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  Speaker 1: driving at ninety one hundred, which is pretty fast. And
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  Speaker 1: also because when I was already conscious and pretty awake,
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  Speaker 1: like getting more and more to being me, I was
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  Speaker 1: like thinking, impossible that I see a car coming to
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  Speaker 1: me at a certain speed and I just stay.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and I and.
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  Speaker 1: I just freeze, and possibly because I've always had good reflexes.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, and then also.
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  Speaker 4: The danger coming to you, and that's one of the
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  Speaker 4: things that we do.
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  Speaker 3: We can freeze.
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  Speaker 2: No no, no, wait, no no. That was the thing I
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  Speaker 2: was asking myself.
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  Speaker 1: I do not have any memories of seeing him come
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  Speaker 1: in my way.
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  Speaker 2: And then also the.
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  Speaker 1: Expert wrote down in her report that the accident was inevitable,
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  Speaker 1: he came driving so fast. And then another fun fact
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  Speaker 1: is the driver in itself at the moment then I
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  Speaker 1: have his driver's license, it already had been taken away
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  Speaker 1: from him. So the moment that he so, the moment
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  Speaker 1: that it hit me driving way too fast, it did
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  Speaker 1: not even have his driver's license, and so that's where
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  Speaker 1: it gets disgusting.
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  Speaker 2: So what happens is I fall.
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  Speaker 1: On the front window on the roof, and then the
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  Speaker 1: person that found me, which is another long story, found
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  Speaker 1: me eleven meters further than a car eleven.
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  Speaker 2: Meters, so you had been thrown. I had thrown and
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  Speaker 2: the things. I wasn't wearing any helmets.
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  Speaker 1: And what happened is I fell on my head first thing, oh,
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  Speaker 1: skull open, suffocating on the spot. Yeah, it was, if
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  Speaker 1: I have to believe again, people that found me, it
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  Speaker 1: was disgusting to see.
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  Speaker 3: Oh my god, what a blessing they found you? And
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  Speaker 3: were you Were you in a ditch? Were you hidden?
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  Speaker 3: Is that why it was difficult to find me?
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  Speaker 1: Oh no, no at all. That's that's another funny, crazy story.
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  Speaker 1: So you need to know that my accountant since a
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  Speaker 1: couple of years already. So he's on his way to
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  Speaker 1: his aunt who lives in the center of Brussels, and
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  Speaker 1: he takes a route that he never takes usually mm hmmm,
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  Speaker 1: from Afar so and at the same time, his cousin
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  Speaker 1: who worked with us as a student back then, was
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  Speaker 1: sitting next to him, and from Afar he sees a
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  Speaker 1: couple of Cosmede two cars. I think making new terms,
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  Speaker 1: few terms. He gets closer, he sees a person laying
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  Speaker 1: on the floor on on the on the street, and
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  Speaker 1: he's like he's he's looking at like, how come there's
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  Speaker 1: a person in danger and these guys are making YouTube.
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  Speaker 2: So they stop the car.
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  Speaker 1: They get out of the car, and you need to
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  Speaker 1: know that since my sixteen years old, I've been wearing
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  Speaker 1: Nike Air Forces white every single day, like I have
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  Speaker 1: hairs of them at home.
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  Speaker 2: They get out of the car.
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  Speaker 1: They walk closer to the person laying on the floor,
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  Speaker 1: and they see the person is wearing Nike air Force White,
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  Speaker 1: and so my kind of has like this feel like
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  Speaker 1: I know him, I know this person. They get closer,
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  Speaker 1: but at the same time I'm gasping for that.
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  Speaker 2: I'm like I'm dying.
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  Speaker 1: I'm literally dying on the spot. They get closer, they
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  Speaker 1: see spin. He takes me, he takes me into his arms.
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  Speaker 1: Paramedics come, and you need to know that when the
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  Speaker 1: paramedics left the spot, and again, uh this fast forward.
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  Speaker 1: When they left the spot, he asked them and this
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  Speaker 1: is a movie kind of thing, like they're there in
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  Speaker 1: the back of the the ambulance.
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  Speaker 2: They look back. He asked them, like, is this guy's
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  Speaker 2: gonna make it?
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  Speaker 1: Like no, no, so at that at that moment, I
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  Speaker 1: was already supposed to die.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, were you conscious at that time? Or this is
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  Speaker 3: something they shared with you?
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  Speaker 2: Now they all shared, They all shared this.
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  Speaker 4: For me, I think it's incredible, your accountant, it must
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  Speaker 4: be pretty interesting to hear the story of why he
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  Speaker 4: went that way, right, because I believe in the higher power,
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  Speaker 4: and there's no mistakes that he was sent there to
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  Speaker 4: save you. But what's so incredible is that you were
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  Speaker 4: given a one percent chance to live?
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  Speaker 3: Is that correct?
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  Speaker 2: To at least live the way I'm talking to right now?
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  Speaker 1: Like the the percentages were like one of one out
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  Speaker 1: of a ten survives these kind of accidents, and then
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  Speaker 1: of that one out of a ten, only one out
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  Speaker 1: of a ten survives the way I did without any
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  Speaker 1: I major damages.
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  Speaker 2: Like yeah, if you look at me.
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  Speaker 4: Put open and you But were you in a coma
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  Speaker 4: for any amount of time?
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  Speaker 2: Three weeks?
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  Speaker 3: Three weeks?
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  Speaker 4: So you wake up and what happens, like what happened
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  Speaker 4: when you came to and do you remember anything when
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  Speaker 4: you were in the coma?
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  Speaker 2: Nothing?
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  Speaker 1: Nothing, Unfortunately, apparently that's the thing too, but unfortunately I
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  Speaker 1: did not have that opportunity.
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  Speaker 2: I was just sleeping for three weeks.
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  Speaker 4: You out, yeah, yeah, you you were recovering right, your
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  Speaker 4: brain with your brain, your body were healing.
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  Speaker 3: So what happened? You awoke and was your wife next
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  Speaker 3: to you? What happened?
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  Speaker 1: The things what I tell people a lot is the
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  Speaker 1: coma in itself took three weeks, but it was like
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  Speaker 1: five weeks were taken away from you because those first
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  Speaker 1: two weeks after me waking up, I was in a
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  Speaker 1: bad place, very few memories. I hallucinated a couple of times,
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  Speaker 1: and then there was also this This is also a
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  Speaker 1: funny story, So you need to know that the day
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  Speaker 1: of the accident itself, was supposed to call my best friend,
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  Speaker 1: who was back then living in New York about the
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  Speaker 1: business I had to call him, which of course then
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  Speaker 1: didn't happen. In that first week, when after I woke up,
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  Speaker 1: my wife called him on FaceTime. I completely forgot this.
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  Speaker 1: He reminded me of it months after. We're already in
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  Speaker 1: twenty twenty five, so last year he reminded me of
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  Speaker 1: this story, and so when we were calling I looked
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  Speaker 1: at him and said, oh, bro, I'm so sorry I
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  Speaker 1: didn't call you. But I was a bit busy, so
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  Speaker 1: I never realized how bad this situation for me. There
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  Speaker 1: was a couple of days that passed while it was
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  Speaker 1: three weeks. There's this crazy thing about how the brain
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  Speaker 1: works and what the brain.
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  Speaker 2: Is capable of, and I think that's also what.
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  Speaker 1: Made me, what made me recover the way I recovered,
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  Speaker 1: like the delusional part of not being conscious about how
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  Speaker 1: serious this situation because need to know, like after me
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  Speaker 1: waking up, I wasn't able to talk, I wasn't able
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  Speaker 1: to walk by myself. I wasn't able my wife had
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  Speaker 1: to wash me. My wife, I wasn't able to eat.
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  Speaker 1: So everything I had.
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  Speaker 2: To relearn again.
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  Speaker 1: But for me, it was like, come in a bad place,
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  Speaker 1: but let's do this.
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  Speaker 3: What was it like depending on somebody else for everything?
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  Speaker 2: The worst that was.
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  Speaker 1: Now, literally, Marci, literally the worst for someone that has
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  Speaker 1: always been not only the fact about being independent, but
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  Speaker 1: just being proud of being independent.
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  Speaker 3: Death.
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  Speaker 1: I cannot even I could not even go back to
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  Speaker 1: the way I was feeling. But I was in a
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  Speaker 1: bad place. I was complaining all the time. Everything was
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  Speaker 1: too much. I was so.
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  Speaker 2: Not patient. I was, I was delusional, I was.
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  Speaker 5: Using excuses and and at the same time, there was
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  Speaker 5: super funny situations and we even talked about it, my
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  Speaker 5: wife and I a couple of days ago, like when
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  Speaker 5: she was washing in the world, a couple of funny
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  Speaker 5: things that happened.
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  Speaker 1: But I can tell you, when you're thirty two years
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  Speaker 1: young and your own wife needs to literally with a
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  Speaker 1: forcare for shooting your mouth, tying your laces, putting on
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  Speaker 1: your shirt, while you have literally built your whole personality.
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  Speaker 2: On being.
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  Speaker 1: This, being the guy who is there who takes care
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  Speaker 1: of stuff, oh my god, it was. And it took,
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  Speaker 1: by the way, a very very long time, because even
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  Speaker 1: when I was already in rehab, I was telling my
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  Speaker 1: wife all the time, oh my god, I feel so shitty,
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  Speaker 1: like I cannot help you. I'm just far away from everything.
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  Speaker 4: And I think, as a man, right, you are raised
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  Speaker 4: and you feel that you have to be the caretaker
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  Speaker 4: and to have somebody else caring for you. I'm sure
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  Speaker 4: that was difficult, and obviously it was very difficult, and
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  Speaker 4: I can only imagine I've never gone through anything like that.
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  Speaker 4: Did you or your wife have any support during that time?
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  Speaker 4: Like maybe someone outside of the two of you that
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  Speaker 4: could help you physically, or did you have any mental support?
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  Speaker 2: All the time, you cannot do it. And then that's
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  Speaker 2: why I never talk about my This has never been
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  Speaker 2: my victory.
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  Speaker 1: This has always been our victory. You cannot do, by
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  Speaker 1: the way, this thing called life, especially when you're going
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  Speaker 1: through difficult situations. But this thing called life, we're not
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  Speaker 1: supposed to do this alone. It's very cliche, like show
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  Speaker 1: me your best friends, I'll tell you who you are.
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  Speaker 1: But it's a real thing, like when you have people
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  Speaker 1: around you that complain all the time, that always see
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  Speaker 1: the worst in situations, that never dream, Yeah, you're probably
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  Speaker 1: gonna find a way.
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  Speaker 2: And I always tell this like.
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  Speaker 1: I was lucky enough that I was already thirty two,
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  Speaker 1: and so I had already built life experience.
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  Speaker 2: I already built a support system around me.
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  Speaker 1: I was lucky with with the medical self and all that,
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  Speaker 1: but I had people around me that even when I
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  Speaker 1: was at my lowest, and Mary, I can tell you
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  Speaker 1: I was complaining all the time. And I'm, by the way,
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  Speaker 1: someone that never complains. I never do that. I'm the
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  Speaker 1: most high energy, the most optimistic person. And you can
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  Speaker 1: ask around. How will they will tell you? And I
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  Speaker 1: was just so bad and they will never And I
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  Speaker 1: was and I was missing a part of my skull,
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  Speaker 1: like the top of that, I was missing a part
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  Speaker 1: of my skull.
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  Speaker 2: My cervicles were fractured.
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  Speaker 1: I was in the hospital and I got people around
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  Speaker 1: me that weren't afraid to tell me, Hey, this and
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  Speaker 1: this isn't you.
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  Speaker 2: Are you going to keep on complaining? Are you ready
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  Speaker 2: to become better?
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  Speaker 1: Because you need to know that even walking ten meters
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  Speaker 1: physically felt like running American? Yeah, and they told me,
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  Speaker 1: like ten meters, pleas the twelve, that's the fifteen. No,
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  Speaker 1: but now that what I want to So you want
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  Speaker 1: to stay here? This is wake up a bit, please
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  Speaker 1: on touragi.
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  Speaker 4: It's everything create change is very hard work, right of course. Yeah,
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  Speaker 4: So what did this teach you about humility and trust
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  Speaker 4: and receiving help?
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  Speaker 2: That is a strength.
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  Speaker 1: Being ask just asking for help, especially as men, because
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  Speaker 1: we've been thought social media the past movies that asking
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  Speaker 1: for help is the week. Now it's a strength, or
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  Speaker 1: at least being open to it. Not necessarily asking.
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  Speaker 4: For me, but just.
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  Speaker 2: Be open to it.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, accept it, accept it. That's a great way to put.
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  Speaker 2: It right, Yeah, just accept it.
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  Speaker 4: Well, from this, you have written a book called Everything
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  Speaker 4: Feels Impossible Until It's done. Yes, tell us about tell
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  Speaker 4: us about your book. What was that like writing your book?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, I've learned so much by the way.
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  Speaker 1: I told so many people, like, one thing I would
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  Speaker 1: suggest you to do is write a book about your story,
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  Speaker 1: not to necessarily publish it, but you'll learn so many things.
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  Speaker 1: And for me, it was like when I was in
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  Speaker 1: coma still, so many people told my wife, if there's
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  Speaker 1: someone that is going to survive this, it's Vincent. And
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  Speaker 1: then after me waking up, there were so many people
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  Speaker 1: telling me like medical staff, friends, stranger that told me
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  Speaker 1: like there but your mindset made the whole difference.
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  Speaker 2: And I was like, where do these two things come from?
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  Speaker 1: And then there was a second thing where my Auntie,
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  Speaker 1: when I was still in rehab, she told me so
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  Speaker 1: many times, you should write a book on all the
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  Speaker 1: It was the most difficult period of my whole life,
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  Speaker 1: but not the worst. We left so much and she
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  Speaker 1: told me so many times like you should write a
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  Speaker 1: book about all this. And then it was a thirteen
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  Speaker 1: way twenty nineteen. So until twenty nineteen, it was considered
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  Speaker 1: physically in power to run a marathon under two hours.
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  Speaker 2: A human body.
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  Speaker 1: A human body is not able to run a marathon
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  Speaker 1: under two hours. Elliott Kipchoggi comes around, he's already rund
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: comes around and decides to run a marathon. This is
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: not an official a marathon, so it never got registered,
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: but you can look it up. By the way, runs
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: a marathon in one hour fifteen nine minutes. Wow, okay,
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: fifteen nine minutes forty seconds.
• 21:35
  Speaker 2: Twenty nineteen.
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: A couple of months ago, we're twenty twenty six, a
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: couple of months ago. There's a London marathon. Two marathon
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: runners in the same marathon run the marathon under two hours.
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: It always And so this all came together in because
• 21:57
  Speaker 1: the present, the DS were there. I was not supposed
• 22:03
  Speaker 1: to talk to have this conversation with you right now.
• 22:05
  Speaker 1: They were telling my wife, like, start preparing the funeral
• 22:08
  Speaker 1: because your husband it's not gonna make it. Every like,
• 22:15
  Speaker 1: when you're going through something difficult, it always seems it
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: is always the worst.
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: Thing in the whole world for you, which is okay,
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: And it.
• 22:28
  Speaker 6: Always seems feels impossible to go through and it could
• 22:36
  Speaker 6: be whatever, Okay, I got hit by a car.
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: It could be running a marathon under two hours.
• 22:43
  Speaker 1: You just went through a divorce, you feel an exam,
• 22:48
  Speaker 1: you try to lose weight, you try to do you
• 22:52
  Speaker 1: try to.
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: Earn more money. It always feels im possible until do it.
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: And so the book is for kee. It's just like
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: a means to an end for people to ask themselves
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: the question why not mean? And set up why I mean?
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: Because unfortunately for twenty six we.
• 23:15
  Speaker 7: Got so good at victimizing, and it's always something or
• 23:22
  Speaker 7: someone else, and then it's a society, and then it's government,
• 23:26
  Speaker 7: and then it's our friends, our family, our husband, wife.
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: Not writing your book.
• 23:34
  Speaker 4: So one of the things I was thinking of what
• 23:36
  Speaker 4: thinking it was impossible. I'm almost eleven years sober, and
• 23:41
  Speaker 4: I thought I would never live life without alcohol. I mean,
• 23:44
  Speaker 4: it was what I knew. And then I wrote my
• 23:48
  Speaker 4: memoir and it's so true, Like writing your book, it
• 23:51
  Speaker 4: was one of the most cathartic things for me to
• 23:54
  Speaker 4: ever do, like going back and reliving the story over
• 23:59
  Speaker 4: and over, but in a different way. Uh, the abuse
• 24:03
  Speaker 4: and such that that formed me and you know, took
• 24:09
  Speaker 4: me to coping with.
• 24:10
  Speaker 3: Alcohol, right, But.
• 24:13
  Speaker 4: It's it's so healing if you approach it in the
• 24:17
  Speaker 4: right way right and then you then you find from
• 24:21
  Speaker 4: that the miracles throughout it, and then how you can
• 24:25
  Speaker 4: turn that around and then help other people.
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: Always always bottle.
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: Once mm hmm. Yeah. So how are you helping people today?
• 24:36
  Speaker 2: Not only today? The only thing I did reacting, I
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: just filter everything.
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: I've been helping people since as long as I can remember,
• 24:46
  Speaker 1: which was again, by the way, proven when I was
• 24:49
  Speaker 1: in Coma.
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: You, Marcy, you need to know there was crazy things and.
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: Unfortunately I wasn't able to live it because I was sleep.
• 24:59
  Speaker 2: I was in came But you need to know.
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: When I was in ICU, there were lines outside of ICU.
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: Hundreds of people wanted to just visit. My wife had
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: to put up a word document for people meant to register.
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: Marcy. It was crazy. There were.
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: From all over the world, all over Belgium, people that
• 25:29
  Speaker 1: I did not even know that I just crossed ones
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: wise three times. People from the businesses that we owned, friends, families, strangers,
• 25:40
  Speaker 1: even clients from the business caving like big companies.
• 25:46
  Speaker 2: All because you try to.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: Be someone to people around you and you hope that
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: people see you in the same way. And then there's
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: this one thing like what what would you like people
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: to tell about you when you're not there anymore at
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: your funeral? And and it even gives me goose first
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: right now, like my family bought my family, my wife,
• 26:13
  Speaker 1: they bought me books when I was telling coma black
• 26:16
  Speaker 1: books where doctor's therapist, friends, family could write in it.
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: And in the beginning it was sort of like a
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: goodbye word because again the narrative was like, this guy
• 26:28
  Speaker 1: is not going to survive. And the most amazing thing
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: I was able to witness is reading all that while
• 26:39
  Speaker 1: still being in life. These were things people were going
• 26:42
  Speaker 1: to tell about me when I was dead, And I
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: was able to read all that while still be until
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: today and a couple of weeks ago i read it
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: for the last for the last time.
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: I still cry. You know what people tell about you?
• 27:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know what's beautiful things like? And again it
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: all goes back to the and you can call it whatever.
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: You can call it God, you can call it energy,
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: you can call it luck, you could call it destiny.
• 27:15
  Speaker 2: But there was never a plan.
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: B Vincent was supposed to survive what was considered impossible.
• 27:25
  Speaker 4: Well, that's what I wanted to ask you. What is you?
• 27:28
  Speaker 4: What is your spiritual connection today?
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: Oh my godness, that's an amazing question, because I had
• 27:35
  Speaker 1: a tough time, because I'm somemo'st I'm super rational, Like
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: I had such a hard time believing or being convinced
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: that there's like a God somewhere out there looking down
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: on October the eleventh and telling him some.
• 28:00
  Speaker 2: Today, this guy's gonna say that I had a hard time.
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: I couldn't.
• 28:05
  Speaker 1: I could not wrap my head around it impossible. And
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: then I was walking through Brussels. This is already more
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: than a year ago. I was walking through Brussels and
• 28:16
  Speaker 1: I was like, Hey, no, a lot but todd life. Hey,
• 28:22
  Speaker 1: maybe God lives through.
• 28:24
  Speaker 2: All of us.
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: Thank you, that's what I believe.
• 28:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he might lifts through Marcy lives to Vincent.
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: And I'm having, by the way, a lot of this
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: conversation with a lot of people nowadays, and I tell them,
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: he already did his work in He already puts you
• 28:46
  Speaker 1: on this earth. He already put thoughts in your head.
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: Information is out there. We live in a society where
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: life is by definition.
• 29:00
  Speaker 2: Pretty easy for you.
• 29:02
  Speaker 1: It must for you for me, it's pretty easy for
• 29:06
  Speaker 1: a lot of us. It's a bit more difficult, but
• 29:10
  Speaker 1: for us it's pretty easy. What what do you expect
• 29:16
  Speaker 1: when you pray that he pays your rent, that he
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: pays your salary, Like, come on, yeah, I know, come on,
• 29:26
  Speaker 1: Like everything you need is out there. It's not supposed
• 29:32
  Speaker 1: to be easy. It is going to be difficult, and
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: we're going to make a lot of mistakes.
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: But you complaining.
• 29:40
  Speaker 1: About not getting whatever you want to get while not
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: doing the work, it's gonna one day lead up to regret.
• 29:49
  Speaker 1: Please stop it. He already did this work.
• 29:53
  Speaker 4: So with that, what matters to you now that perhaps
• 30:00
  Speaker 4: didn't matter to you before.
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: I even posted on it a couple of months ago.
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: It's funny how ambition can change from opening I've always
• 30:12
  Speaker 1: been in hospitality, from opening more restaurants to just being helping.
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: I can tell you right now what matters to me is.
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: Living as long as I can in the best shape
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: that I can.
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: I'm going harder.
• 30:28
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I'm not negotiable anymore, And unconsciously I was already
• 30:33
  Speaker 1: before the accident. But I'm detailed and I went deep
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: into the research on supplementing, on movement and nutrition, on
• 30:43
  Speaker 1: chronic stress. All that I'm going hard I'm trying to
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: prove everyone, first of all myself, but everyone around me.
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: From afar and from very close, you can go a
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: very long way while enjoying life to the fullest. By
• 31:02
  Speaker 1: the way, and this is my ultimate goal, being able
• 31:07
  Speaker 1: to tell myself and I encourage everyone to do. Everyone
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: that is listening, by the way, right now, the last
• 31:14
  Speaker 1: moment on this earth, you being able to stare yourself. Wow,
• 31:22
  Speaker 1: what an amazing life that I have. I did everything
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: I wanted to do, and I said everything I wanted
• 31:29
  Speaker 1: to say. Whatever that looks like right now today, Marci,
• 31:34
  Speaker 1: for you, as for me, might look different than five
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: years ago, and will look different in five years or
• 31:40
  Speaker 1: in ten years and fifteen years. And you just need
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: to be all the time. And that's where it gets tricky,
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: because you need to be honest towards yourself every single moment.
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: And we got so good in twenty twenty six I
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: lying to ourselves and prepening and stop all that, please.
• 32:02
  Speaker 3: Yeah, one hundred percent. Hi.
• 32:06
  Speaker 4: Let me tell you when I stopped lying to myself
• 32:08
  Speaker 4: and lying to others, and life changed tremendously.
• 32:13
  Speaker 3: And there's like this weight that just comes.
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: Off your shoulders, right yep.
• 32:18
  Speaker 4: So I'm going to take just a quick break and
• 32:22
  Speaker 4: share about my new book, wake Up You're Not Broken.
• 32:25
  Speaker 4: Are you in the first thirty days of sobriety or
• 32:28
  Speaker 4: wondering if now is your time to start?
• 32:31
  Speaker 3: Hi?
• 32:31
  Speaker 4: I'm Marcy Hopkins and I wrote wake Up You're Not
• 32:34
  Speaker 4: Broken just for you.
• 32:36
  Speaker 3: It's a real.
• 32:36
  Speaker 4: Raw guide to those first thirty days, what no one
• 32:40
  Speaker 4: tells you, what you will feel, and how to keep going.
• 32:43
  Speaker 4: This isn't about perfection, It's about progress. Or to your
• 32:48
  Speaker 4: copy now on Amazon. Remember, You're not alone, You're not broken,
• 32:53
  Speaker 4: You're waking up. Hello all, Welcome back, Vincent. It's just
• 32:59
  Speaker 4: incredible that you are here with us today after what
• 33:03
  Speaker 4: you went through, and you've shared some incredible insights and
• 33:09
  Speaker 4: how things have changed for you. But as you've created
• 33:15
  Speaker 4: these changes in your life, in your life, and one
• 33:18
  Speaker 4: of the things that you've talked about is taking action, right,
• 33:20
  Speaker 4: we have to take action to create the change. So
• 33:26
  Speaker 4: what are some consistent actions that you've taken to help
• 33:30
  Speaker 4: you daily habits that have helped you to change your
• 33:35
  Speaker 4: outlook in life and the trajectory of your life.
• 33:40
  Speaker 2: I hope you're ready, Marci.
• 33:45
  Speaker 1: First of all, what you just said is literally the
• 33:48
  Speaker 1: most important thing everyone could should realize and should accept.
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: Big change is done in the big moments. It's always done.
• 34:03
  Speaker 1: And the small daily habits and the small decisions, and
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: it's oh there's a lot, Oh my god, there's a lot.
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: First of all, keep word to yourself you were gonna
• 34:18
  Speaker 1: wake up at seven or six or eight whatever. Second,
• 34:23
  Speaker 1: follow your own happiness, not your parents, not your family,
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: not your friends. And again it always goes back to
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: the you know, let me make it easy. There's these
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: three questions I encourage everyone to ask themselves at the
• 34:40
  Speaker 1: end of every day, not just one, but every day.
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: First did I do everything I had to do and
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: wanted to do today?
• 34:51
  Speaker 2: Yes? And no? And why? Two? Am I truly happy? Yes?
• 35:00
  Speaker 3: No?
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: And why? And three was that better today than I
• 35:07
  Speaker 2: was yesterday? Yes?
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: No?
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: Why?
• 35:11
  Speaker 1: If you're able to tell me, Because again, there are
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: days life is life. There are days that you'll be
• 35:18
  Speaker 1: less happy. There were days that you were not able
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: to do everything. But if you're able to chase yes,
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: to answer yes to those three questions as much as
• 35:27
  Speaker 1: you can, for as long as you can, I can
• 35:29
  Speaker 1: tell you, Marcy in your life is going to be
• 35:31
  Speaker 1: pretty amazing. Yea, and whatever that, whatever that looks like
• 35:36
  Speaker 1: for you, as for me today, as for everyone that
• 35:40
  Speaker 1: is listening right now, will be different than.
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: In five years, ten years.
• 35:46
  Speaker 1: And you just need to be conscious about it, intentional
• 35:50
  Speaker 1: about it.
• 35:52
  Speaker 2: We need to be like we live.
• 35:58
  Speaker 1: Life automatic pilot, every every single one of us. And
• 36:05
  Speaker 1: ask everyone that already flew a plane automatic talot goes
• 36:13
  Speaker 1: for so long you cannot land a planet plane on
• 36:17
  Speaker 1: automatic talent?
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: Yes, or we got so good like we Marcy, look
• 36:23
  Speaker 2: at this, we wake up. By the way, Wait where
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: do you live right now? Wait? Wait you are right now.
• 36:31
  Speaker 3: I'm in New Jersey.
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: New Jersey, of case of New York. Go to Central station.
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: Go to Central Station at eight a m.
• 36:39
  Speaker 1: In the morning, and look at people how they're walking around.
• 36:44
  Speaker 3: Mm hmm yeah, aimlessly.
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: Yeah, automatic talent.
• 36:52
  Speaker 1: They woke up in the morning just because they have
• 36:54
  Speaker 1: to do a job for a certain paycheck that is
• 36:58
  Speaker 1: going to afford their lives, start hopefully mm.
• 37:02
  Speaker 3: Hmmm, doing the same thing over and over again, right by.
• 37:06
  Speaker 2: Which, by the way, is good, which, by the way,
• 37:08
  Speaker 2: is good.
• 37:09
  Speaker 1: But where it gets funny is you have a lot
• 37:14
  Speaker 1: of people that do a job that they actually hate
• 37:20
  Speaker 1: for a paycheck that doesn't afford the lifestyle they built
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: for themselves, with colleagues.
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: That they hate and management that they hate.
• 37:31
  Speaker 1: To then complain about that same job too, friends that
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: they do not really like neither, And then we all
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: ask ourselves how come we're burned out in the depression?
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: Come on, please, But when you wake up every single
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: day excited about your day?
• 37:59
  Speaker 2: Were you excited about when you woke up this morning?
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: Where you're excited?
• 38:03
  Speaker 3: I'm always excited about a new day.
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: Yeah, of course, you know, you know, you see you
• 38:09
  Speaker 1: seem like it, but like exactly that whatever it looks like. Again,
• 38:14
  Speaker 1: it might be you going to your job because you
• 38:16
  Speaker 1: really love it, or you're going on vacation and you
• 38:19
  Speaker 1: have something to do, and you just when.
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: You wake up every most of your.
• 38:23
  Speaker 1: Days excited, and then you go at the end of
• 38:29
  Speaker 1: the day too bad, feeling at peace, like.
• 38:35
  Speaker 2: It was amazing.
• 38:37
  Speaker 1: Imagine Wait and that, because a year is pretty long.
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: A year is three hundred and sixty five days. Imagine
• 38:44
  Speaker 1: let's let's let's say not every single day, but let's
• 38:48
  Speaker 1: say you do at least three hundred days like this,
• 38:53
  Speaker 1: life all of a sudden becomes.
• 38:56
  Speaker 2: Exciting, easier, mm hmm. That's what's been even changed.
• 39:03
  Speaker 1: And that is and that is one decision, that is
• 39:07
  Speaker 1: you deciding like, hey, what does Martian like when you're
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: able to look at yourself in a mirror, and you'd
• 39:15
  Speaker 1: be like, what does Martian.
• 39:18
  Speaker 2: Really like doing today?
• 39:21
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I mean listen, it's it's your mindset and how
• 39:25
  Speaker 4: you think about things and the practices that you incorporate
• 39:29
  Speaker 4: in your day make a huge, huge change in the
• 39:33
  Speaker 4: way you live your life. I mean, I lived as
• 39:36
  Speaker 4: a victim for so very long because of trauma of
• 39:40
  Speaker 4: my childhood, and once I made that decision, it was
• 39:47
  Speaker 4: a very difficult decision, but it was life changing.
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: But it was a decision.
• 39:51
  Speaker 4: I mean, we have choices every single day and they're
• 39:55
  Speaker 4: not easy.
• 39:56
  Speaker 3: These things are not.
• 39:57
  Speaker 4: Easy, but there's so right, so rewarding, And that's one
• 40:04
  Speaker 4: of the things that you do. You encourage people to
• 40:06
  Speaker 4: build their lives around their health and their mindset and
• 40:09
  Speaker 4: their relationships and their financial freedom. So if someone out
• 40:15
  Speaker 4: there is feeling overwhelmed, right, we're talking about these things, but.
• 40:20
  Speaker 3: Where can they begin? Where can they start with? Which
• 40:24
  Speaker 3: is one small action today?
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: I always like to use examples that are easier to understand.
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: Look, the World Cup was literally two three months ago.
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: Ask any athletes, literally, any athletes worldwide. It could be
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: a football player, rugby player, or soccer player, potato potato athlete,
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: hockey player, why.
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: They do what they do? Why you do all this?
• 40:58
  Speaker 1: They will all tell you, literally on the spot, what
• 41:03
  Speaker 1: else would I do? I love this for them, It's
• 41:06
  Speaker 1: obvious if you ask the same question to every day people,
• 41:14
  Speaker 1: they will not even be able to start their second thing.
• 41:18
  Speaker 1: And this is probably the most important thing for this question.
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: There is not a single football okay, yeah, football player,
• 41:29
  Speaker 1: a soccer player after the World Cup that got eliminated.
• 41:37
  Speaker 1: World Cup was done for them, lost the final, go
• 41:41
  Speaker 1: for it.
• 41:41
  Speaker 4: There.
• 41:42
  Speaker 1: You can ask any one of them if they're gonna
• 41:46
  Speaker 1: quit their job, meaning stop playing football. Not a single
• 41:51
  Speaker 1: player will tell you why. For them, if you're playing
• 41:56
  Speaker 1: at that level, losing it's part of the game. But
• 42:01
  Speaker 1: for us as regular human beings, losing, falling down is
• 42:09
  Speaker 1: the word that can happen. And by the way, they
• 42:11
  Speaker 1: hate it. That's why they're crying on the field. They
• 42:14
  Speaker 1: hate it.
• 42:16
  Speaker 2: But okay, losing is part of the game.
• 42:19
  Speaker 1: Roger Federer, by the way, who's considered at least top
• 42:23
  Speaker 1: three tennis player in the whole world. The stats were
• 42:27
  Speaker 1: out a couple of months ago lost I think it
• 42:30
  Speaker 1: was games of points fifty four percent while still being
• 42:34
  Speaker 1: considered one of the best tennis players out there, Like,
• 42:38
  Speaker 1: come on, please, why are we so obsessed or so
• 42:42
  Speaker 1: focused on losing?
• 42:44
  Speaker 3: So absolutely, losing is part of our learning.
• 42:49
  Speaker 4: That's where we learn the most, and we don't even
• 42:53
  Speaker 4: start in life a lot of times because we're so
• 42:55
  Speaker 4: fearful of losing, of failing. That is where the most
• 43:00
  Speaker 4: important lessons are learned. So Vincent, thank you so much
• 43:05
  Speaker 4: for coming on wake up. If you can just tell
• 43:06
  Speaker 4: us really quick where we can find your book and
• 43:09
  Speaker 4: also your group ui D.
• 43:11
  Speaker 1: It's on Amazon and ui D Club is a Dui
• 43:15
  Speaker 1: D club dot com d h e ui D club
• 43:22
  Speaker 1: dot com.
• 43:24
  Speaker 4: Thank you all so much for joining today, And remember,
• 43:27
  Speaker 4: if this conversation resonated with you, please like, comment, or
• 43:31
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• 43:34
  Speaker 4: someone who is going through a really difficult time but
• 43:38
  Speaker 4: needs to know that they can start over, that it
• 43:41
  Speaker 4: is possible, because sometimes it just takes hearing one story
• 43:47
  Speaker 4: or one conversation like we had today, which shares a
• 43:51
  Speaker 4: message of hope to change the direction of someone's life.
• 43:55
  Speaker 4: And if you are rebuilding your own life, I hope
• 43:58
  Speaker 4: you will also check out my new book, wake Up
• 44:00
  Speaker 4: You're Not Broken, which is available on Amazon. And remember,
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  Speaker 4: you don't have to have all the answers. Nobody does.
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  Speaker 4: You don't have to even feel ready. You just simply
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  Speaker 4: have to take the next step, because everything feels impossible
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  Speaker 4: until it's done.
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  Speaker 3: So thank you so much.
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  Speaker 4: It's time to wake up to who you are and
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  Speaker 4: know that you're not broken. You are just beginning. So
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  Speaker 4: this is wake Up with Marcy. Thank you again for
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  Speaker 4: being a part of today's show. I will see you
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  Speaker 4: next Thursday with an all new show of an incredible week.
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  Speaker 4: Bye bye,