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Israel DMW & Wife Sheila End Their 1 Year Marriage, Citing Financial Abuse · DidiLawren

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  Hello and welcome back to another episode of Battle
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  Laurentia, how are you all doing?
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  I hope you're doing great. Now for today's episode, we're
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  going to be talking about Israel DMW.
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  If you don't know Israel, he is dividos, logistic manager.
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  Now we're just sitting there minding our business.
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  Yeah. Israel and his wife, Sheila
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  decided to bring their matters to social media in laws for us
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  to discuss and weigh in on the issue that is going on between
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  them. So if you don't know Israel and
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  his wife, Sheila, they've been married for, they married last
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  year, October. They met February last year.
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  And then they got married in October.
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  Very big wedding, lavish wedding.
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  And then Israel came online to say that one of the reasons why
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  he married his wife was because she was a virgin.
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  And everybody was like, wow, at that point.
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  Sheila was 2021 at that point. So people were like, wow,
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  Sheila, you are a virgin. So this is very good.
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  Now, Israel was so happy that he got a virgin.
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  By the way, Israel is 41 years old, so 20 years gap in between
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  these two people. But Israel wanted a virgin, so
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  he got a virgin. He paid the bride price.
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  They did a lavish wedding started living together.
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  Now I think middle of this year probably June, July just love a
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  shady post where he said that Israel and his wife they were
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  having issues marital problem that Sheila has actually moved
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  out of the house. Israel came online and debunked
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  the whole thing saying that this level was lying.
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  Why would people wish them bad and all that Even with the
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  online those were like this is this is ridiculous, this we just
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  got married. It's not even up to 8 months
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  that they're married so why would their marriage be in
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  trouble. Like definitely this is not
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  true. So that was the whole thing.
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  Just Love Actually said that they were going to give a full
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  detail of the breakup. That was the end of that
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  conversation at that point. So everybody thought, OK, this
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  is what they've moved on with. Their life.
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  They are newlyweds, isn't even up to a year so they should be
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  enjoying their marriage together.
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  And as we all know the videos side chick Anita was calling him
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  out on social media and all those kind of things.
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  So the heat was on the video at that point and then before you
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  know trauma gave birth to twins. Congratulations to her so you
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  could see that his boss. I mean the thing about this
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  thirty Biggie gang is that all they are marriages are filled to
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  be honest with you, with those cousins.
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  I don't know what you don't know what's going on.
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  I think the sets, the millennials, the guys, the
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  millennial guys. I I think there's a a disconnect
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  somewhere. But I am not going to see the
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  millennial guys because you know we're all millennials and the
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  genesis some of them are married and their marriage is successful
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  anyway. We're just is there might not
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  business thinking we're trying to solve Mr Ibu's problem with
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  Jasmine and his wife. We're just still trying to get
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  out of that situation. When Israel tweeted or posted a
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  picture of Sheila and said my wife Sheila replied and said God
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  forbid like your dreams. So that was all that went viral
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  because people were thinking what is going on.
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  I think it was their one year anniversary that Israel posted
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  that picture. So people were like thinking you
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  guys are supposed to be celebrating the one year
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  anniversary and your wife Sheila is already saying God forbid
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  what is going on. They kind of kept it hush hush
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  hush hush until Israel started posting pictures of his
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  ex-girlfriend saying that ohh she left him because of 150
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  naira. I think that was in 2020, 2000
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  or 2001 at that point. But today you know what is 150
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  naira. So the 30 BG gang were reposting
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  those pictures. I think it kind of rubbed his
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  wife Sheila in some kind of way. I don't even know who started
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  this online. That's bus and then she lasted
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  talking. She last said they are no longer
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  together. Israel is abusive.
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  Israel is controlling. Israel will not allow her to go
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  out of the house. That even when she wants to go
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  to the salon, Israel would. She would tell Israel that he's
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  going to the salon and then when she gets there, Israel will tell
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  her don't come back to the house.
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  And she would just leave everything because she said,
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  according to her, he has locked her out of the house several
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  times. So she said she would just leave
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  everything and get back home only to find out that her
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  husband actually locked her out of the house.
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  She said that that has happened a lot of time.
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  Now. We're still reading what Sheila
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  was posting because Sheila, Sheila writes, I give it to her.
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  She sat down, she composed and she, she was telling her own
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  side of the story. So Israel started saying his own
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  part of the story. According to Israel, he made
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  Sheila famous that Sheila did not have any followers on
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  Instagram. That Sheila goes with him just
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  to be famous. No, not that she has a lot of
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  followers. That she's no longer regarding
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  him or she no longer wants to be married to him.
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  That her parents were asking him for money.
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  Israel produced receipts where he sent money to the parents
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  saying that they are Deacon and deaconesses of one church like
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  that. Winners, I think.
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  And he was calling them out basically saying that they were
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  responsible for the marriage breakup.
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  She's on the other hand came out and said that is not true.
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  Israel is just trying to get sympathy from people that yes
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  was a virgin when they met. They met during a church
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  service. He asked for her number and she
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  refused because she was thinking OK, she she according to her,
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  she said she didn't even know who Israel was at that point.
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  So she refused to give Israel the number.
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  Israel actually went through the that to get her number,
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  presented all the whole church certificates and everything
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  saying that he's a very attentive member of the church,
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  that he has done all the whole programme and everything.
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  So I think that that spoke to Sheila and they kind of set up
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  something and they started dating.
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  They dated. They I think they missed in
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  January and in October they were already married.
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  So Sheila said she did not even want to get married to Israel at
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  that point. She said she wanted them to date
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  for some time before they get married.
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  But Israel was, I mean, he's 41 years old.
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  He was thinking, OK, I just want to get married.
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  I want to have children. I am settled now and all that.
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  I think he was in that face. He just wanted to get married.
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  So. But you're getting married to
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  somebody who is 2021, and they're telling you, OK, let us
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  date. And anyway, the long and short
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  story is that the cause of the marriage breakup is money
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  because Israel was accusing the parents and Sheila of saying
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  that you should bring their. OK, so the wedding that they had
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  the people spread their money, you know, bundles of money and
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  then Sheila wanted to know what the money was used for.
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  The parents wanted their own. She according to Israel, the
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  parents wanted share of that money.
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  But Israel was like he had to use the money to settle because
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  he was in a very lavish wedding that Davido attended the
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  wedding. They we do have to cancel a
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  $140,000 show to attend the wedding and he had to charter
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  private jets of about $30,000. So Israel was just calling
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  money, money, money, money, money.
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  But one thing that he said that Sheila said was that he was
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  being a slave to Davido, that he should start something for
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  himself. He shouldn't just rely on
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  begging Davido for money, that he could do something for
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  himself. He could start something, you
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  know, start a business just to get busy instead of always
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  begging his boss. Then we do for money.
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  That did not sit well with Israel because no man would be
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  happy. When you call them, you slave,
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  whether to their boss or to anything.
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  Israel was not happy. I think that was the genesis of
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  the breakdown of their marriage. And I think according to Sheila,
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  it happened in November. So you look at this whole thing,
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  the Internet, the everybody is divided because we have some
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  people supporting Sheila, we have some people supporting
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  Israel, we have some people supporting the video.
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  Like the whole thing is just everybody giving their own
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  opinion. And I'm like, listen, I'm going
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  to give my own opinion on this because this is a as a result of
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  P2, people who got married without discussing finances.
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  You know, I always say this finances is is, is that about
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  you getting money or that that person, how do you want to spend
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  your money? How does your partner see you?
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  Because at this point, Israel got married to somebody who is
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  20 years younger than himself. So obviously he would think
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  that's what he's going to be making all the decisions he's
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  going to be. She will just sit down there
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  like a trophy wife do nothing. And but you got married to
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  somebody who was, according to her, she was a beauty queen.
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  She had endorsement deal. She was already working, making
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  our own money. Israel said no, that she was
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  broke, that he bought her the first iPhone she used.
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  He bought her human hair. He he was just listing.
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  I just sat down and like these people did not have a
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  conversation before this marriage.
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  They did not talk about money. They did not talk about
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  finances. They did not even discuss how
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  the home is going to be run, even children, because according
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  to Sheila, Israel was accusing her of taking pills to not get
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  pregnant. And she was like she had
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  hormonal imbalance. She was supposed to the
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  hospital. They said she had the high level
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  of prolactin and that was making her not to get pregnant.
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  But Israel was insisting that, you know, she it was just
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  ridiculous, the whole reason why the marriage was ending.
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  But you look at this whole thing, Israel, although he's 41,
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  I think he's not. Maturity is not about age.
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  You can create a Mumu brand and that will be your brand, but
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  don't let that get into your private life.
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  But most times what we see on camera, especially these
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  comedians, what you see is what you get.
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  We are just realising that we with Mr Ibu, you know John
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  Okafor, who was always acting, you know, I don't even know how
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  to call it, but that was actually John Okafor.
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  Yes, he was interpreting his script, but the way he was
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  interpreting it was based on his character.
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  Thus we can see. So Israel and Apple are
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  defending Israel. Saying that ohh, why would
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  Sheila want to change Israel now?
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  Why? Why would you get married to
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  somebody and not want that person to influence you in any
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  way? That does not make sense.
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  But I think that conversation should have happened before that
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  marriage, which is you. Sit down.
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  OK, You're engaged. Sit down with your partner.
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  Discuss how how are we going to spend this money?
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  How are we going to raise our children?
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  What? What is your 510 years goal?
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  What? What would you like me to do?
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  Would you like me to be a housewife?
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  Are you comfortable for me to do this?
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  Do that. Because Israel was complaining
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  that he doesn't want her to work.
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  He would never open a business for her.
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  He would. Israel got married to a virgin,
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  but he was calling the friend a show.
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  So I was like, yes, and you are wife was a virgin but you will
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  never allow her to go out. Is it now that she's married to
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  you that she will now want to go out and start doing things,
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  things that she did not do when she was single before you marry
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  anybody? It might be a very difficult
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  conversation, yes, that has ended a whole lot of engagements
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  relationship, but it is better to end it at that point than to
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  get married. Thank God kids are not even
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  involved with this whole Israel thing.
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  But it is better to end it at that point and to get married to
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  somebody and then families are involved and then the whole
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  drama is just is online now on social media.
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  If they had a broken engagement, I don't think it would be as
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  serious as this because Israel spent a whole lot of money
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  because according to Sheila, she was not carried along.
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  At some point she was asking Israel if if he was getting
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  married to his wedding planner. I think Israel just had a very
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  like, OK, I want to be celebrated.
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  My orgasm should come to my wedding.
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  Like, if the video comes to your wedding, I don't think Israel
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  was planning the marriage. Israel planned the wedding to
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  the tea and it was his success. But then in the marriage, I
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  don't think any of them sat. I can't even blame her.
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  She's 21 years old, you understand.
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  So if a 41 years old man is getting married, I think at that
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  point he should have realise that OK this and I am getting
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  married to somebody who who has not even experience, who has not
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  dated, but that person have an idea of what relationship is
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  based on let's say their appearance.
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  That was why the parents are very influential in that
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  relationship or influential to her as a person because she has
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  not dated the only example of a relationship that she knows is
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  apparent. So she's always going to go back
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  to her parents. If let's say she has dated 123
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  people then she would have seen OK this is how people are
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  different. Where we approach this person
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  will be different from the way our approach this other person.
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  But that experience she did not have, so she had to rely on her
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  appearance. And now Israel is trying to sue
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  the parents saying that the parents were had a problem.
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  Listen, hey, anybody that bring their mathon social media will
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  sit down and talk to everyone of us will have our own family
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  drama. But the person that brings it to
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  social media is the one that will sit down and talk.
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  This is very common in the whole lot of relationship, in a whole
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  lot of marriages, in a whole lot of family.
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  Because people don't sit down and because they will tell you
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  ohh if you sit down and talk he may leave me or you may not be
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  happy with me or he may pick somebody else.
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  Why don't you have that conversation so that he can go
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  and pick the person that suits what he wants.
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  Now Israel is saying that oh Sheila deceived him.
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  Sheila did this. He was busy causing Sheila
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  online reigning courses on him. Just because Sheila said don't
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  be a slave to Davido. Get something doing for
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  yourself. Do something else.
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  Ohh hmm. I understand Sheila completely.
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  I understand exactly the position she is.
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  I used to read this guy who, you know, he was OK, he was renting
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  but not, you know, in the UK you see a whole lot of younger
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  people renting, you know, a house and then sharing with
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  other people. But he was not rent sharing with
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  anybody. He was driving.
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  He has a job. So I was thinking, OK, this is a
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  starting point because he wanted something serious.
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  So I was thinking, OK, this is a starting point we can build with
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  this because as a human being I also have my expectation.
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  I also have what I want out of the relationship.
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  I also want to know what I want to do with my life in the next
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  5-10 years. So I was thinking, OK, I can
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  build with this person. We can start from somewhere.
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  Lo and behold, when we started talking seriously, I sat down,
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  was like, OK, we need to talk about finances, you know, where
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  are you at? We are finances.
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  What is happening? I realised that he was living
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  paycheck to paycheck just to maintain, you know, everything
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  that you're thinking is OK. It was actually just
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  smokescreen. He was taking credit card to do
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  all these things and I was thinking, why are you doing all
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  these things? And this person was working
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  almost seven days a week so that they could meet up.
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  Even with the the, the, the seven days a week was still a
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  challenge. You know, let's go out for
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  dinner. That's a problem because they
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  have to plan, let's say two months in advance to even fit
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  that budget in going. So I was like thinking, listen,
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  OK let's crazy plan. If this is actually going to
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  work, why don't you cut down, somebody can move in with you to
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  share the bills, give up your car, you know, you can always
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  buy later. But right now you're trying to
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  sort out these finances. You're trying, we're trying.
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  Let's sort this out first, they said.
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  He looked at me and said, why am I being manipulative?
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  I say manipulative. I was so, I was so shocked.
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  I was surprised. But it was very important that
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  we had that conversation at that time because he showed me that
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  this relationship is not going anywhere.
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  That was the end of that relationship.
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  You know, this is somebody I was thinking, OK, advice.
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  Just like Sheila. Yeah.
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  She said he's a slave, Not necessarily a slave, but I
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  understand what she was trying to tell him.
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  Like if anything happens to Davido now, today, you are
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  jobless and you are coverless because you always for you to
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  have extra money, you have to go and beg your boss.
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  You have to rely on handouts. You are literally a slave to
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  him. I understand what she was trying
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  to say. Or because of that word, slave.
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  I think it was too harsh. You know, you called me a slave.
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  You know, you kind of rubbed on his ego, but that was the fact.
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  So I understand what Sheila was trying to do for her husband,
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  but he did not get it. In the next let's say 10-15
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  years he will learn the he would appreciate the fact that Sheila
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  actually told him this. And I I am happy that people
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  actually talking to him because a whole lot of men are also
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  coming out to support Sheila, to say that Sheila is only advising
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  you to get do something else or do something by the side, start
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  a business, start selling socks, start selling cufflinks, start
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  selling cap. Just you don't have to brand,
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  rebrand or anything. You can partner with somebody
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  that is not in Nigeria and do something, OK?
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  If you're if you don't want a warehouse in Nigeria, you can
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  always do something. Davido has fans all over the
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  world. If he pulls down his page,
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  that's it. People will start patronising
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  you. You are not just getting money
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  as you know there were those dissemble, you're also getting
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  money. Your wife, she can manage that.
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  But Israel was saying that he will never open a business for
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  the wife. While I only finish you before
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  you get married, sit down, talk about finances.
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  Sit down, talk about how monies are going to be spent.
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  Sit down, talk about is this going to be a partnership or is
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  it going to be do your own and do my own.
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  That has to be understood before getting into so that you align.
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  Financial alignment is very important, very, very necessary.
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  You can want a virgin, you can want somebody who is working.
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  But how those monies are spent and how you improve on your
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  family income, you have to align that.
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  And if you don't align on that, you will come online and be
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  stressing us with the information and details of your
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  marriage. Break up.
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  Anyway, I wish Israel and Sheila all the best.
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  I hope they could sit down and actually talk about this because
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  I don't think any of them is wrong.
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  Israel has every right to be angry that the wife called him
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  his slave. The wife also have every right
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  to tell her husband this is not working.
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  This is how we can improve our lives.
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  And if the two of them, they cannot come back together and
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  resolve their issue. We wish them all the best in
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  their separate endeavours. Thank you very much for in
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  today's episode, please like, like, like and share.
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  Thank you very much. Bye, bye.