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Season 4 - Episode 116 - The questions we ask ourselves most often · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Hey everybody, welcome to the good Morning from the Chicken
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  Coop podcast. My name is Kim Johnson and I am
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  a mastermindset coach, creative strategist, and also happen to
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  be a farmer. This is my Chicken coop and I
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  come out here every day to record a podcast.
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  To. Teach distinctions,
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  possibilities, new ways of thinking, and just bring some
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  joy into the world. So welcome to the coop and let's
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  start your day off in a fantastic way, hey?
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  Everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So today we are talking about questions and the fact that
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  sometimes people do not like to ask questions.
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  I understand that I am definitely not one of those
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  people, but there are a lot of people out there and maybe even
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  some of my listeners who do not like to ask questions for one
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  reason or another. Now I I personally, I've spent a
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  great deal of time in my life in trouble for asking too many.
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  Questions. I annoy people I know I annoy my
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  husband by asking too many questions when I see people I
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  mean him. He's probably the only person
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  that really gets annoyed with all the questions and I don't.
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  And it's not questions to be nosy, it's just curiosity driven
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  questions. And sometimes, you know, I enjoy
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  asking them because I'm constantly learning things.
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  But I can understand that some people are uncomfortable asking
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  questions because let's face it, it, it's may possibly be
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  interpreted as an indication that you don't know what you're
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  doing. So therefore some people don't
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  like to ask questions. But from my perspective, the
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  question, it's how we source our life, it's how we take on the,
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  you know, the growth path of our life by asking questions of
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  ourselves and of others, by really making sure we understand
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  where we are and where we want to go.
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  We ask questions and they're powerful.
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  Now, there is something to be said for asking crappy questions
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  because that does happen and people do ask crappy questions.
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  So when you ask a, you know, a, a quality question, you get
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  quality answers. When you ask questions that are,
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  you know, not so quality, you don't get quality answers and
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  therefore you get stuck in a lot of places because you're not
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  asking the right questions. Now, when I say the right
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  questions, I genuinely mean questions that will help you
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  along the path in the sense of is this bringing me towards
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  something? You've heard me talk before
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  about the towards, in a way, are we moving towards what we want
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  and away from what we don't want?
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  Because that's really what it comes down to.
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  Everything comes to moving towards and moving away.
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  It's not going to be an instantaneous shift in most
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  situations. Sometimes it will, but for the
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  most part it's not and it's it's back and forth.
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  So the questions you're asking yourself most often, the
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  predominant questions that you ask yourself most often really
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  do drive that outcome of am I moving towards something or am I
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  moving away from something. It's really tricky when you
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  don't monitor those questions because they're very unconscious
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  often and they, they will, they will push you in a direction
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  that you probably didn't even know you were headed.
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  So it's incredibly important to recognize that when you are,
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  when you're in the process of discovering your own questions
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  that you actually, you know, jot them down, say, OK, I really
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  need to like dig into this. So I'm going to start jotting
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  questions down that I hear myself say, but you're going to
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  tap into it consciously by saying, because most of the
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  questions we ask are unconscious, we don't even pay
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  attention to them. But once you start asking
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  yourself, I really want to know the questions in the
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  conversations I'm having with myself, you can start to hear
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  them, You can start to delineate them.
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  You can start to feel them in a different way.
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  So I, I think it's critical to write things down.
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  Now, when I say write them down, you could use your notes app in
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  your phone. You can record them.
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  I don't care how you do them. Write them with pen and paper.
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  I mean, that's the way I do it most of the time.
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  But I think it's, I think it's imperative in growth to write
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  down what are the questions that I'm asking myself most of the
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  time, you know, like, why does this always happen to me?
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  Like think about how many times you've heard yourself ask that
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  question. And of course, when you ask,
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  that's a very unresourceful question.
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  Why does this always happen to me?
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  What's not always happening to you?
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  May have happened a few times, maybe you think it's often I'm
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  air quoting as I say that, but you get the point.
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  It's not a resourceful question to ask that.
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  A better question to say is what brought this forward?
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  What brought this on? What were the indicators that
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  this was going to happen or happen again?
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  It's getting really good at understanding that portion of
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  it, the ones that take place most frequently.
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  Now, I will say there are some very, very good questions out
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  there that you can ask yourself regularly that really help you.
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  One of my favourites is this, the person I choose to be.
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  So if you're in a situation and you don't like that situation
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  and you're trying to navigate it and you're getting frustrated,
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  aggravated, all of that, and you ask yourself, is this the person
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  I choose to be? You're going to say no.
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  OK, then let me change how I show up.
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  That will shift you pretty quickly.
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  And I promise you, once you start identifying that things
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  start to look up. All right, my friends, I hope
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  you have a blessed day and I will see you tomorrow.
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  Bye.