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Ep 30 | The Right Choice - The Hard Feeling: How to Live Without Regret · Amazing Life Breakthrough

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  SPEAKER_00: Have you ever made a decision you still believe was right?
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  SPEAKER_00: And yet you felt sad afterward anyway?
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  SPEAKER_00: Not guilty sad.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not I messed up sad.
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  SPEAKER_00: More like this quiet, surprising heaviness that shows up later.
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  SPEAKER_00: When you realize something you assumed would always be available, isn't available anymore.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's where I found myself recently, and it had to do with my cousin taking care of my mom and a lake house.
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  SPEAKER_00: Welcome to Amazing Life Breakthrough.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm Steve Klein, and today I want to talk about how to live with a decision you made, even when it was the right one, without letting regret become the narrator of your story.
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  SPEAKER_00: It would mean a lot to us.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's what happened.
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  SPEAKER_00: I have a cousin.
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  SPEAKER_00: She and her husband have this beautiful place on a lake in another state.
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  SPEAKER_00: It was their dream home, the kind of place you imagine hosting families, sitting outside with coffee in the morning, seeing eagles nesting and flying overhead, laughing around the table at night, taking in the quiet of the water.
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  SPEAKER_00: And there was a plan for all of us, me and my wife, plus a couple of other cousins, six of us together staying there, making memories.
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  SPEAKER_00: My cousin invited us to stay and mentioned their eagles that would nest and take flight around their lake home, something my wife loved the idea of seeing up close since she had been eagle watching lately.
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  SPEAKER_00: Dates got picked, plans got made, and then life happened.
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  SPEAKER_00: My mom is in assisted living, and at that time there were health concerns and potential issues that made it clear my wife and I couldn't leave.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not because we didn't have the money to travel, we couldn't afford to be away from her, emotionally, responsibly, and realistically.
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  SPEAKER_00: Our priority had to be my mom, immediate family first.
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  SPEAKER_00: And honestly, we were at peace with that decision.
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  SPEAKER_00: We knew we were doing the right thing.
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  SPEAKER_00: But then time passed.
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  SPEAKER_00: A year turned into two, two turned into three, work happened, career stuff, business, life filled the space.
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  SPEAKER_00: And last year I could have gone, but I didn't.
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  SPEAKER_00: I assumed there would be another chance.
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  SPEAKER_00: And then this year I found out they're selling the lake house.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that's when the feeling hit.
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  SPEAKER_00: Not just disappointment, but rather it was a sort of like this tender regret.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because now the lake house isn't just a place we didn't visit, it's a door that's closing.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's a version of together that we'll probably never have again in that exact setting.
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  SPEAKER_00: And and it's funny, isn't it?
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  SPEAKER_00: You don't miss something until it's taken away.
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  SPEAKER_00: So what do you do with that?
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  SPEAKER_00: How do you live with the ache without rewriting history in a way that punishes you?
• 2:55
  SPEAKER_00: Here's the breakthrough I'm learning in real time.
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  SPEAKER_00: You can make the right decisions and still grieve what it costs you.
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  SPEAKER_00: Those are not contradictions, that's maturity.
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  SPEAKER_00: So let me give you a few practical shifts, simple, real things you can do when you're living with the right choice, and the hard feeling.
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  SPEAKER_00: First, name what you're actually feeling accurately.
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  SPEAKER_00: Regret is a powerful word, but sometimes we use it when we mean something else.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes what we're calling regret is really grief.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's grief for an experience you didn't get to have.
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  SPEAKER_00: It's grief for a season that passed, it's grief for the fact that life changes and opportunities have edges.
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  SPEAKER_00: And grief doesn't mean you chose wrong, it means you're human.
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  SPEAKER_00: So try this sentence out loud if you can.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm sad we missed that, and I'm still glad we did what we did.
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  SPEAKER_00: That one sentence can hold both truths without forcing you to pick one.
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  SPEAKER_00: Second, stop negotiating with a timeline that doesn't exist.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is where FOMO, fear of missing out, can sneak in because your mind starts building an alternate version of life.
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  SPEAKER_00: If we would have gone, then we would have had this memory.
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  SPEAKER_00: If we would have gone, then everything would feel complete.
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  SPEAKER_00: If we would have gone, then I wouldn't feel this way.
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  SPEAKER_00: But you don't actually know that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because the version of you who went might have been worried the entire time about your mom.
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  SPEAKER_00: The version of you who went might have come home to an emergency and carried a different kind of regret.
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  SPEAKER_00: The version of you who went might have been physically present but emotionally split.
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  SPEAKER_00: The truth is you made the best decision you could with the information, responsibility, and priorities you had at the time.
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  SPEAKER_00: So when your mind starts trying to renegotiate the past, you can gently say, That timeline isn't mine, this one is.
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  SPEAKER_00: And third, create the next best moment on purpose.
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  SPEAKER_00: This is where you take your power back.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because yes, the lake house might be gone, and that setting might be gone, but your cousin isn't gone, relationship isn't gone, time together isn't gone.
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  SPEAKER_00: In fact, part of why they're selling is beautiful.
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  SPEAKER_00: They're downsizing so they can be closer to their kids and grandkids.
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  SPEAKER_00: That's not a loss story, that's a value story.
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  SPEAKER_00: So, with this situation, what's the next best possible moments that could take place?
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's scheduling a weekend in the town they're moving to.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's a simple visit where you sit at a kitchen table and laugh like you always do.
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  SPEAKER_00: Maybe it's a phone call where you tell your cousin, I'm sad we never made it to the lake place, but I want you to know how much I value you, and I want to make time now.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because here's something I'm realizing.
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  SPEAKER_00: Locations are wonderful, but love and being around those you love is what makes a location beautiful.
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  SPEAKER_00: And sometimes the breakthrough isn't getting the moment you wanted.
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  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes the breakthrough is becoming the kind of person who doesn't wait for perfect conditions to show up with intention.
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  SPEAKER_00: So here's your simple challenge this week.
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  SPEAKER_00: Think of one missed thing that's been haunting you a little: an opportunity, a visit, a season, a place.
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  SPEAKER_00: Then do two things.
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  SPEAKER_00: One, write down the right reason behind the decision you made, honor it, respect it.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you chose family, responsibility, health, integrity, name that.
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  SPEAKER_00: That matters.
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  SPEAKER_00: And two, choose one small next step to create connection now.
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  SPEAKER_00: A text, a call, a date on the calendar, something real, something that turns regret into relationship.
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  SPEAKER_00: Because you can't always go back, but you can almost always go forward with love.
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  SPEAKER_00: And if you're carrying that quiet ache today, I just want to say this you're not behind, you're not failing, you're learning what matters.
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  SPEAKER_00: And that awareness, painful as it is sometimes, is also what helps you live life more fully from here.
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  SPEAKER_00: So that's it for this episode.
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  SPEAKER_00: If you found value in this episode, please leave a comment and be sure to subscribe over on Apple Podcasts.
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  SPEAKER_00: It really helps us out.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'll see you next time on Amazing Life Breakthrough.
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  SPEAKER_00: And remember to live life to the fullest.