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Gratitude Is A Game Changer | Episode #473 · Legacy Living with Dr. Gloria Burgess

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  Speaker 1: Hello, and welcome to today's show, Legacy Living, Make Your
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  Speaker 1: Life Count. I'm your host, doctor Gloria Gloria Burgess, international
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  Speaker 1: leadership expert and trusted advisor. Welcome to Legacy Living, Make
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  Speaker 1: Your Life Count. I'm delighted that you joined me today.
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  Speaker 1: I want to give a great big thank you and
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  Speaker 1: shout out to all of you listening today all around
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  Speaker 1: the world. I'm delighted and so grateful that you joined me.
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  Speaker 1: Want to let you know that I've made a few
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  Speaker 1: changes to my show. The first change is that I
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  Speaker 1: want you to know a little bit more about me,
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  Speaker 1: and that you can now find my podcasts under the
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  Speaker 1: heading of management on some of our listening platforms. That's
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  Speaker 1: right management. So if you're just finding me and tuning
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  Speaker 1: in for the very first time, I want you to
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  Speaker 1: know that I'm a leader and an entrepreneur. In fact,
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  Speaker 1: I have founded or co founded not one, not two,
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  Speaker 1: but three successful businesses, or maybe I should say three
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  Speaker 1: successful organizations because one is a nonprofit and two are
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  Speaker 1: for profit businesses. Yes, that's right now. Before I became
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  Speaker 1: an entrepreneur, which was over twenty five years ago, now,
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  Speaker 1: I worked in corporate America for some really big companies
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  Speaker 1: like Xerox and Citibank. I also worked in higher education
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  Speaker 1: as an administrator and as a professor. As a matter
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  Speaker 1: of fact, I still do a little professing every now
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  Speaker 1: and then. I'm also a founding partner with the John
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  Speaker 1: Maxwell team, and I'm one of their faculty members as well,
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  Speaker 1: where I help all kinds of people leave their job,
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  Speaker 1: their job and start their own business. I help speakers
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  Speaker 1: and experienced coach or a trusted advisor or thought partner
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  Speaker 1: the leaders in your organization, let's talk about how I
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  Speaker 1: can serve you and add value to you and your team.
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  Speaker 1: You can connect with me via LinkedIn or on Facebook.
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  Speaker 1: Gloriaburgess dot com. All right, great, So again, I'm delighted
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  Speaker 1: and so very grateful that you joined me today. I
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  Speaker 1: sure hope you're enjoying a fabulous day and that you're
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  Speaker 1: having a fantastic week, because, you know what, and the
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  Speaker 1: grand song of the universe, life is very very short.
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  Speaker 1: It's short and sweet and very precious. So I hope
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  Speaker 1: you're making a difference in your own life, because you
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  Speaker 1: know what, when you do, you also make a difference
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  Speaker 1: in someone else's life. Now, a lot of folks really
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  Speaker 1: want to make their life count for something, but they
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  Speaker 1: don't know how, or it just seems so big and overwhelming.
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  Speaker 1: They don't know how or where to begin. So they
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  Speaker 1: ask me, doctor Gloria, how do you do that? How
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  Speaker 1: do you make your life count? Well, let me tell
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  Speaker 1: you it's very simple, very very simple. You make your
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  Speaker 1: life count day by day, step by step, smile by smile,
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  Speaker 1: every single day. Three sixty five twenty four seven. You
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  Speaker 1: make your life count by making real connections with people. Now,
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  Speaker 1: don't get me wrong. Social media is great for some things,
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  Speaker 1: but in your real every day do you want followers
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  Speaker 1: or do you want to be connected with real people?
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  Speaker 1: Do you want air friends or do you want real
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  Speaker 1: friends you can actually talk with and be with. Can
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  Speaker 1: I just tell you something, when life throws you a curve,
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  Speaker 1: you want people who know you and love you, not
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  Speaker 1: just people who friend you and like you. Right, I
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  Speaker 1: know you know what I'm talking about. I know that
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  Speaker 1: I'm talking to somebody out there. Okay, Now, you can
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  Speaker 1: make a huge difference in somebody's life today. How you
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  Speaker 1: can make a difference simply by being grateful, that's right,
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  Speaker 1: By being grateful, grateful for who you are, whose you are,
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  Speaker 1: and by being grateful that when you know whose you are,
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  Speaker 1: you can lead with a sense of steadiness and purpose.
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  Speaker 1: You can lead with courage and confidence. You can lead
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  Speaker 1: with mastery through any situation. Now I'm going to stop
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  Speaker 1: right here for just a minute. I know that some
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  Speaker 1: of you are wondering, is this doctor Gloria talking to me?
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  Speaker 1: Because you may not even think of yourself as a leader.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe you're a doctor or a nurse or teacher, or maybe,
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  Speaker 1: like me, you're an entrepreneur or an artist, or maybe
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  Speaker 1: you're a student in college or high school and you
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  Speaker 1: have no idea what you want to be or do
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  Speaker 1: after you graduate. Well, let me tell you this. It
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  Speaker 1: does not matter what you do in your professional life,
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  Speaker 1: and it doesn't matter what life stage you're in. You
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  Speaker 1: are a leader. Now, how can I say that with
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  Speaker 1: such clarity and conviction and confidence. Here's the thing. If
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  Speaker 1: you are participating in this wonderful adventure we call life,
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  Speaker 1: then guess what. You are a leader? Maybe just maybe
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  Speaker 1: you are the only person you're leading at the moment.
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  Speaker 1: But somebody has to be in charge, right and that's you.
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  Speaker 1: You are in charge of yourself, so you can make
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  Speaker 1: a difference in your own life, and you can also
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  Speaker 1: make a difference in someone else's life. When you know
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  Speaker 1: how to lead yourself, you can take that knowledge and
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  Speaker 1: transfer it. You can transfer those skills and competencies so
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  Speaker 1: you can lead in any circumstance. Now, today we are
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  Speaker 1: going to talk about how to do just that. Specifically,
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  Speaker 1: we're going to talk about leadership and gratitude. I am
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  Speaker 1: going to share with you about the mindset of a
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  Speaker 1: great leader. This mindset is summed up quite nicely in
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  Speaker 1: this wonderful quote from Max Deprie. Here's what he says.
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  Speaker 1: Deprie reminds us that the very first responsibility of a
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  Speaker 1: leader is to define reality, and the last responsibility of
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  Speaker 1: a leader. The last responsibility is to say thank you,
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  Speaker 1: and in between, he says, the leader is a servant.
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  Speaker 1: Now I'm going to repeat that. The first responsibility of
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  Speaker 1: a leader is to define reality, and the last responsibility
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  Speaker 1: is to say thank you, and in between, the leader
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  Speaker 1: is a servant. Now, let me unpack this just a bit.
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  Speaker 1: What Dupris is saying here is the first aspect in
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  Speaker 1: the mindset of a great leader, Okay, and that's what
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  Speaker 1: to define reality. Now, this simply means that you have
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  Speaker 1: to have a clear grasp of what's happening around you
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  Speaker 1: and within you, and you must have the ability to
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  Speaker 1: clearly communicate, to clearly articulate what's happening around you and
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  Speaker 1: within you. The second aspect in the mindset of a
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  Speaker 1: great leader is gratitude. Now, how many times have you
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  Speaker 1: heard me talk about gratitude on this show? Right, if
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  Speaker 1: you're my daughter, or one of my clients, or one
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  Speaker 1: of my students or my husband, you've heard me say
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  Speaker 1: any number of times that gratitude is one of the
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  Speaker 1: greatest gifts you can give to anyone. I'll say a
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  Speaker 1: little bit more about that later in the show. The
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  Speaker 1: third aspect of the mindset of a great leader is
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  Speaker 1: to be a servant. So in between defining reality and
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  Speaker 1: saying thank you, the leader is a servant. Now today
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  Speaker 1: I want to focus on that very special responsibility that
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  Speaker 1: we have as leaders, and that's saying thank you, the
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  Speaker 1: responsibility of expressing our gratitude. I've done quite a bit
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  Speaker 1: of research on gratitude, and as I said earlier, I'm
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  Speaker 1: constantly reminding my clients, my students, my family about the
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  Speaker 1: power of gratitude. Now, my sisters and I grew up steeped.
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  Speaker 1: I'm talking about steeped in learning about and practicing the
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  Speaker 1: power of counting our blessings, the power of love, the
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  Speaker 1: power of respecting others, the power of honoring our elders
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  Speaker 1: and everyone else in our personal village. Right now, all
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  Speaker 1: of these things, all of these practices are aspects of gratitude.
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  Speaker 1: In fact, one of my mentors refers to them as
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  Speaker 1: the long arms of gratitude. I just love that. Several
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  Speaker 1: years ago, I read an article that talked about Marshall Ramsey,
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  Speaker 1: an editorial cartoonist. Now, apparently, when he was a young boy,
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  Speaker 1: his mother would give him a pencil and a piece
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  Speaker 1: of paper, in order to keep him quiet during church service.
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  Speaker 1: She was an art teacher, and Ramsey must have learned
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  Speaker 1: a few things about art from her along the way
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  Speaker 1: to his two Pulitzer Prize nominations as a cartoonist. When
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  Speaker 1: he left his position as editorial cartoonist at the Clarion
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  Speaker 1: Ledger in Jackson, Mississippi, Ramsey actually express his gratitude for
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  Speaker 1: those two Pulitzer Prize nominations. More importantly, he named the
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  Speaker 1: various people who made a way for him to achieve
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  Speaker 1: that level of excellence along the way. But several years earlier,
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  Speaker 1: when he was asked to list what he was most
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  Speaker 1: grateful for, those nominations were not on the list. So
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  Speaker 1: what was What did he actually put on that list? Well,
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  Speaker 1: here we go. He was grateful for his very first
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  Speaker 1: job after college, which was as a high school janitor.
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  Speaker 1: He was grateful for a major recession because it compelled
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  Speaker 1: him to take a part time job. He was grateful
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  Speaker 1: for being diagnosed with cancer with melanoma. He was also
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  Speaker 1: grateful for the folks who didn't have his back, for
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  Speaker 1: the folks who didn't believe in him. Now, what do
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  Speaker 1: all of these things have in common, Well, they sound
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  Speaker 1: kind of like snags or bumps in the road, don't they?
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  Speaker 1: But you know what, when we hit bumps in the road,
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  Speaker 1: those bumps are actually very special moments. Why because they
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  Speaker 1: give us an opportunity to take a closer look at
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  Speaker 1: the bumps. That's right, because behind every bump there is
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  Speaker 1: a blessing. You see. In his first job out of college,
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  Speaker 1: he worked as a janitor, just like my dad. And
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  Speaker 1: because of that particular job, mister Ramsey met the woman
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  Speaker 1: he would later marry. How did that happen? Well, she
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  Speaker 1: was the daughter of a fellow janitor. Now how cool
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  Speaker 1: is that? You know, some folks when they lose their jobs,
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  Speaker 1: they just get grumpy. All of a sudden, they find
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  Speaker 1: they have all of this spare time on their hands,
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  Speaker 1: but instead of making use of that time, they just
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  Speaker 1: get grouchy. Well, not Ramsey. When he got laid off,
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  Speaker 1: he used his spare time to launch a second career,
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  Speaker 1: and when he received his diagnosis that he had cancer,
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  Speaker 1: he decided to reach out and help others. He actually
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  Speaker 1: decided to help raise awareness about melanoma. Now I just
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  Speaker 1: love that. Here he was with a cancer diagnosis and
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  Speaker 1: instead of having a pity party, well, he probably did
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  Speaker 1: have a pity party, but instead of dwelling in that
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  Speaker 1: place of pity, he was inspired to reach out to
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  Speaker 1: help save other people's lives. Now, we all encounter folks
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  Speaker 1: in our life who don't believe in us. Right. Sometimes
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  Speaker 1: it's our classmates, sometimes it's a teacher, sometimes it's people
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  Speaker 1: in our own family. But you know what, this guy
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  Speaker 1: didn't let those folks stand in his way. He was
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  Speaker 1: handed a bunch of lemons, right, but he knew how
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  Speaker 1: to make lemonade. Now I share this with you because
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  Speaker 1: as leaders, sometimes we get a bunch of lemons. Sometimes
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  Speaker 1: we hit a lot of bumps in the road. Sometimes
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  Speaker 1: it just seems like one thing after another crops up
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  Speaker 1: in our lives. And the best response is not to
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  Speaker 1: throw a pity party. Right, Well, we can throw one,
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  Speaker 1: but we can't wallow in pity. Our next best response
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  Speaker 1: is guess what that's right, it's gratitude. We must cultivate
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  Speaker 1: an attitude of gratitude, which means that we must be
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  Speaker 1: able to identify, pay attention to, and depreciate the negative forces,
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  Speaker 1: the negative people, the negative events in our lives so
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  Speaker 1: that we can be intentional to harvest what we learn
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  Speaker 1: and to reap the many benefits that come our way
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  Speaker 1: as a result of those negative experiences. Research shows that
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  Speaker 1: when you can be grateful rather than hateful about bad experiences,
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  Speaker 1: you can actually see the silver lining and see behind
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  Speaker 1: what appears to just be a big, fat, gloomy cloud.
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  Speaker 1: By being grateful instead of hateful, you can give your
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  Speaker 1: psychological and physical immune system a leg up. You can
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  Speaker 1: actually give it a boost right, And you can rewire
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  Speaker 1: your brain. In fact, you can alter your brain and
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  Speaker 1: your mindset so that gratitude can become a way of
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  Speaker 1: moving through the world. It can become a habit. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: it can become a practice, the way that you approach life.
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  Speaker 1: When I was a little girl, my parents insisted that
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  Speaker 1: I appreciate who I was, Okay, that I appreciate whose
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  Speaker 1: I was. That I appreciate my sisters, that I appreciate them, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: that I appreciate my teachers, my neighbors, my friends, even
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  Speaker 1: when we didn't see eye to eye, even when they
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  Speaker 1: said mean things to me, even when people or events
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  Speaker 1: became bumps in my road. They insisted because they knew,
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  Speaker 1: they knew it would transform me. Right, it would also
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  Speaker 1: make me stronger, more loving, more caring. They probably knew
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  Speaker 1: that they were equipping me for life and for leading,
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  Speaker 1: for leading myself and eventually the others. Nowaday's research is
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  Speaker 1: now documenting what my parents learn from their parents who
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  Speaker 1: learned it from their parents. Right, here's what I know,
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  Speaker 1: and here's what the research shows. Before you can count
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  Speaker 1: your bumps as blessings, you first have to learn how
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  Speaker 1: to be grateful for the bump. Okay, And here's the
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  Speaker 1: best way to do that. Instead of viewing the bump
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  Speaker 1: as a bump, reframe it. Reframe your bump as a blessing.
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  Speaker 1: Now that's a great practice, a great habit. I also
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  Speaker 1: like to share what you must do before you reframe.
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  Speaker 1: So this is the work before the work, right, And
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  Speaker 1: so what I want to tell you is that it's
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  Speaker 1: also helpful to look for the good in your life, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: as a practice as well. So look for the things
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  Speaker 1: that you're like, look for the good people, look for
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  Speaker 1: the good moments, and celebrate those. So when your life
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  Speaker 1: is going smoothly, when your life is going well, when
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  Speaker 1: you feel like you're on top of the world, that's
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  Speaker 1: what I'm talking about. Now, why is that helpful? Because
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  Speaker 1: when you practice looking for the positive, looking for the good,
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  Speaker 1: you're actually training yourself to see the gifts in your life,
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  Speaker 1: the blessings in your life. If you can see these
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  Speaker 1: gifts when times are good, you can more easily find
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  Speaker 1: them when your road gets bumpy. Makes sense, all right.
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  Speaker 1: In one of my books, this one's called Dare to
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  Speaker 1: Wear Your Soul on the Outside, I have an entire
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  Speaker 1: chapter just focused on gratitude right now. One of the
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  Speaker 1: people I'm grateful for, and one of the people I
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  Speaker 1: quote in my book, is doctor Richard Emmons. He is
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  Speaker 1: a pre eminent expert on gratitude. Along with other scholars,
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  Speaker 1: he tells us that keeping a gratitude journal is actually
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  Speaker 1: good for us. In fact, it's really good for you.
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  Speaker 1: Here are some of the many benefits for the people
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  Speaker 1: who keep a gratitude journal. These people are happier. They're
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  Speaker 1: healthier physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. They're nicer, they're more optimistic.
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  Speaker 1: Guess what, they have more energy, they have less pain,
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  Speaker 1: they have a more positive attitude, and they sleep better.
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  Speaker 1: How cool is that. I can't tell you how many
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  Speaker 1: of my clients I encourage to keep gratitude journals, especially
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  Speaker 1: my coaching clients, especially my students. Right, all right, now,
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  Speaker 1: because your brain is wired to respond to threats first
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  Speaker 1: and foremost, you have to be very intentional about reprogramming yourself,
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  Speaker 1: reprogramming your brain so that gratitude becomes your go to
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  Speaker 1: response instead of the typical knee jerk response when you
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  Speaker 1: hit that inevitable bump in the road. Now, research tells
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  Speaker 1: us that we actually need to practice gratitude frequently and
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  Speaker 1: to practice it with a degree of emotional intensity. Right, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: we have to be on purpose. We have to be
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  Speaker 1: intentional about this. Now. I want you to try this
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  Speaker 1: recall or recreate or actually you know, immerse yourself in
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  Speaker 1: a direct experience of gratitude, and be sure that this
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  Speaker 1: experience lasts for at least to half a minute, okay,
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  Speaker 1: thirty seconds or more. All right, now, this could actually
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  Speaker 1: be an experience of a beautiful sunrise, or you could
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  Speaker 1: be remembering, okay, calling up that memory of beautiful sunrises
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  Speaker 1: that you have encountered. Right. One of my mentors lives
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  Speaker 1: on the Atlantic Ocean, and he sends out videos of
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  Speaker 1: beautiful sunrises. Okay, you can also hear these videos that
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  Speaker 1: he sends the soft sounds of the waves lapping against
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  Speaker 1: the shore. So it could be a sunrise, a sunset,
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  Speaker 1: or maybe it's a memory of you holding your son
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  Speaker 1: or your daughter for the very first time, or someone
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  Speaker 1: on your team who just made your day right. So,
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  Speaker 1: once you have whatever experience it is that you are
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  Speaker 1: grateful for, then I want you to feel that sense
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  Speaker 1: of gratitude in your body. Okay. I want you to feel,
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  Speaker 1: actually feel those feel good emotions that come from gratitude,
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  Speaker 1: and I want you to welcome them and on purpose,
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  Speaker 1: be intentional, to locate in your body that sense of
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  Speaker 1: gratitude somewhere specific in your body. Maybe it's running through
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  Speaker 1: your fingers or your chest, or your throat, or your
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  Speaker 1: head or your feet, okay. And then I just want
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  Speaker 1: you to revel, just rejoice and the positive emotions and
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  Speaker 1: that sensation that's running through your body. Okay. And then
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  Speaker 1: I want you to just let yourself lean into it, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: lean into that gratitude. In other words, let yourself go surrender,
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  Speaker 1: give it up, surrender yourself to gratitude. This will help
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  Speaker 1: the sensation and the felt memory of gratitude go deep,
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  Speaker 1: deep and deeper into your brain. Now some of you
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  Speaker 1: are probably saying, well, you know what I just can't.
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  Speaker 1: I can't do this gratitude thing. I just don't have
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  Speaker 1: anything or anyone to be grateful for. Well, let me
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  Speaker 1: tell you, if you have breath in your body, that
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  Speaker 1: is sufficient reason to be grateful. Can I hear an amen?
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  Speaker 1: And here's some more good news. Most of you know
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  Speaker 1: about the movie called It's a Wonderful Life Now, this
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  Speaker 1: is one of my favorites. If you don't know about it.
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  Speaker 1: It's a lovely, heartwarming story about a guy who comes
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  Speaker 1: to understand how horrible life would have been for all
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  Speaker 1: the people in his life if he had not been born,
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  Speaker 1: if he had not been part of their lives. Now,
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  Speaker 1: research actually tells us that when you really take a
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  Speaker 1: close look at the lessons you've learned, when you really
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  Speaker 1: search for that silver lining behind the dark clouds in
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  Speaker 1: your life, then you remember where you are in your
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  Speaker 1: life at this particular point, this moment in time, then
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  Speaker 1: the way that you see things actually begins to shift.
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  Speaker 1: In fact, remembering the trials, the tribulations, the suffering, the difficulties,
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  Speaker 1: the losses, the traumas helps us know that now that
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  Speaker 1: we're on the other side of those hardships, the bright
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  Speaker 1: spots happened because of the difficulty. Now, when you recall
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  Speaker 1: how hard your life once was and the road you
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  Speaker 1: traveled to be here. Now, the road you traveled and
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  Speaker 1: how far you have traveled, you actually set up a
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  Speaker 1: clear contrast in your mind. And this contrast becomes a
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  Speaker 1: wonderful soil for gratefulness to take root in and to blossom.
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  Speaker 1: Did you know that gratitude is actually one of the
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  Speaker 1: many aspects of resilience. Now, before we talked about the
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  Speaker 1: long arms of gratitude, while resilience is one of those arms, right,
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  Speaker 1: So that means that when the hard times set in,
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  Speaker 1: gratitude can help you bounce back better. Okay, that's what
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  Speaker 1: resilience is all about, being able to bounce back after
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  Speaker 1: stress or hardship or difficulty. And it also means that
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  Speaker 1: you'll be able to pinpoint the positive when life throws
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  Speaker 1: you a curveball. As an element of resilience, gratitude helps
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  Speaker 1: you recover from adversity. Now, earlier I mentioned that when
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  Speaker 1: you make gratitude a habit, it can become part of
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  Speaker 1: your physical and psychological immune system that will help you
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  Speaker 1: transform trauma into opportunity, pain into possibility, turning your victim
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  Speaker 1: mindset into a victorious mindset. So when something awful occurs
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  Speaker 1: in your life, I want you to stop, look and listen.
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  Speaker 1: Then ask yourself, what is the lesson in this for me?
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  Speaker 1: What's the silver lining here? What's the rainbow that I
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  Speaker 1: can find? Right? How can I turn these lemons into lemonade?
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  Speaker 1: In other words, how can I be grateful for this
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  Speaker 1: awful event or person or moment or circumstance. How can
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  Speaker 1: I be grateful for this adversity? And then how can
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  Speaker 1: I flip it and reframe it and be thankful for it? All? Right?
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  Speaker 1: If you learn something in the show today, be sure
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  Speaker 1: to tell somebody. I want you to share the wealth.
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  Speaker 1: Share it with your friends, your family, your coworkers so
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  Speaker 1: they can be lifted up and inspired and equipped just
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  Speaker 1: like you. You know what, one of the biggest gifts you
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  Speaker 1: can give to someone else is to give them the
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  Speaker 1: gift of you. It is to use your gifts, your talents,
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  Speaker 1: and your signature presence that exists nowhere else on the planet.
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  Speaker 1: So ask yourself, how will I use my leadership to
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  Speaker 1: reimagine my team, my law practice, my police force, my
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  Speaker 1: city council, my school building. How can I provide a
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  Speaker 1: lifeline to someone I may never know, so that you
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  Speaker 1: can make a difference in your own life and in
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  Speaker 1: the lives of others. As we continue to celebrate the
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  Speaker 1: majestic music of your life, I want to celebrate you
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  Speaker 1: for making your life count. Be sure to join me
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  Speaker 1: next week. Now, if you missed last week's show or
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  Speaker 1: can learn more about my work and Legacy Living Make
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  Speaker 1: all right now, before I close today's show, I want
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  Speaker 1: to thank each of you for tuning in, for allowing
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  Speaker 1: me to share a bit about my journey with what
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  Speaker 1: legacy living is all about, not just living and learning,
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  Speaker 1: but living and learning and serving so that you make
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  Speaker 1: a difference in your own life and in the lives
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  Speaker 1: of others. It's about being on purpose every single day.
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  Speaker 1: Three sixty five twenty four to seven. Legacy living is
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  Speaker 1: a powerful way to make your life count. I'm your host,
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  Speaker 1: doctor Gloria. Gloria Burgess. Please join me again next time
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  Speaker 1: right here for another segment of legacy living. Make your
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  Speaker 1: life count. Don't just count the days in your life,
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  Speaker 1: Make the days in your life count. That's what legacy
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  Speaker 1: living is all about. Have a fantastic day, and remember,
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  Speaker 1: make the days in your life count. God bless you.
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  Speaker 1: That's our show today. I'm your host doctor Gloria Gloria Burgess.
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  Speaker 1: I hope you'll join me again next time. Until then,
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  Speaker 1: don't just count the days in your life. Make the
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  Speaker 1: days in your life count. That's what legacy living is
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  Speaker 1: all about. Here's to you have a fantastic day and
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  Speaker 1: be sure to make it a yes kind of day.
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  Speaker 1: Remember to celebrate the music of your life. Make the
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  Speaker 1: days in your life count.