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Your Child Has the Bents! Msg 47 - Pastor Chuck Swindoll Insight for Living me · INSIGHT FOR LIVING: Biblical Wisdom For Everyday Living

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Speaker 1: All scripture is given by the inspiration of God and
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Speaker 1: is profitable for doctrine, for reproof, for correction and righteousness,
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Speaker 1: that the man or woman of God may be brought
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Speaker 1: to maturity able to accomplish God's will in God's plan.
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Speaker 1: It's all tied in with God's Word, which we use
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Speaker 1: as a basis of every message delivered from Stonebrier Community Church.
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Speaker 1: Today is no exception my thoughts today. Turn to Psalm
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Speaker 1: one thirty nine. I'd like to have you turn in
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Speaker 1: your bibles. If you brought one with you, find the
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Speaker 1: one hundred and thirty ninth Psalm and locate verse thirteen.
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Speaker 1: I'll read down through verse eighteen. Right in the core
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Speaker 1: of that psalm is a very unique section of scripture
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Speaker 1: where the writer David takes us into the innermost womb
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Speaker 1: of a mother carrying her child and then describes God's
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Speaker 1: work on the fetus within that child. Turn to Psalm
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Speaker 1: one thirty nine thirteen, and when you do, please stand
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Speaker 1: together out of respect for the Word of God. Beginning
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Speaker 1: reading at verse thirteen, I'll be reading from the New
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Speaker 1: Living Translation. You made all the delicate inner parts of
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Speaker 1: my body and knit me together in my mother's womb.
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Speaker 1: Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex. Your workmanship
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Speaker 1: is marvelous. How well I know it. You watched me
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Speaker 1: as I was being formed in utter seclusion, as I
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Speaker 1: was woven together in the dark of the womb. You
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Speaker 1: saw me before I was born. Every day of my
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Speaker 1: life was recorded in your book. Every moment was laid
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Speaker 1: out before a single day had passed. How precious are
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Speaker 1: your thoughts about me? Oh God, they cannot be numbered.
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Speaker 1: I can't even count them. They outnumber the grains of sand.
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Speaker 1: And when I wake up, you are still with me.
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Speaker 1: May God open our eyes and our hearts to what
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Speaker 1: he has written in this section. I'd like you to
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Speaker 1: be seated. Please. On a quiet day in May, May
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Speaker 1: twenty fourth, a number of miles south of US, a
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Speaker 1: tragedy took place. As a result, many families grieved. Today,
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Speaker 1: the loss of children, adults as well. Flags fly at
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Speaker 1: half staff in honor of those who passed. The heartbreak
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Speaker 1: is unimaginable. From that day on. A chair is empty
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Speaker 1: at the table, a bed in the home is now empty,
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Speaker 1: a space in the life is no longer filled. A
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Speaker 1: hole is in the hearts of those grieving. In honor
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Speaker 1: of those dear families who suffer so these days, even
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Speaker 1: on this day of worship, as they gather with one
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Speaker 1: another in Yuvallee, they cry and grieve appropriately. The music
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Speaker 1: that follows my prayer to day was written by one
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Speaker 1: who lost four children, all girls, in a collision at sea.
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Speaker 1: His wife survived in Horatio's Stafford. Took a ship and
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Speaker 1: sailed to where his wife had gone in England, And
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Speaker 1: when they came near the spot were that those deaths
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Speaker 1: had occurred, he stood and grieved the loss of his daughters.
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Speaker 1: His piece is entitled it is Well with My soul
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Speaker 1: to day. You'll hear almost an eerie reminder of the
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Speaker 1: melody haunting as you remember those who have recently died.
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Speaker 1: Let's pray for them. These who survive and need hope
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Speaker 1: to go on, spend the first few moments in silence
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Speaker 1: as we bow together for prayer. It is excruciating, our Father,
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Speaker 1: for us to even try to imagine the grief that
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Speaker 1: sweeps over that little town in the valley, Those dear
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Speaker 1: people going about their day, knowing nothing of what was
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Speaker 1: going to happen, only to be made aware this horror
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Speaker 1: taking place in a classroom, Little six, seven, eight, nine
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Speaker 1: ten year old children gunned down, loving courageous teachers with
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Speaker 1: children in their arms killed as well, and even a
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Speaker 1: husband shortly thereafter, dying of a broken heart. Our hearts
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Speaker 1: go out to these dear people. Lord God, you who
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Speaker 1: made us, You who sustain us with life. I pray
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Speaker 1: that you will bring back hope, strength, the ability to
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Speaker 1: go on. May these families pull together. May they come
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Speaker 1: before you. May they find at least a measure of
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Speaker 1: hope in the ultimate resurrection that you have promised yet future.
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Speaker 1: May we hold our children closer. May we, as families
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Speaker 1: pull together. May we realize that life hangs a very
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Speaker 1: thin thread. We know, our Father, that you are at work,
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Speaker 1: and even in the horror and tragedy of it all,
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Speaker 1: you will bring about things that otherwise it would not occur.
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Speaker 1: You will bring people to yourself. As knees are bowed
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Speaker 1: and hearts break, You will reveal yourself to many as
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Speaker 1: we turn to you and your son, Jesus Christ. May
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Speaker 1: we now hear the melody of this song and remember
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Speaker 1: the brokenness of the man who wrote it, and know
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Speaker 1: that even in spite of such loss, through Christ, it
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Speaker 1: can be well with our souls. Bring peace like a
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Speaker 1: river and hope beyond the heartache. We ask through Christ,
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Speaker 1: our Savior and Lord, and everyone said amen. For years,
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Speaker 1: I've suggested a simple plan that will result in a
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Speaker 1: life of fulfillment and security. I've passed this plan along
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Speaker 1: to our four children, and on occasion to different ones
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Speaker 1: of our ten grandchildren, as well as to those men
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Speaker 1: and women who are preparing their lives for ministry to others,
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Speaker 1: for who doesn't want to know how to live a
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Speaker 1: life marked by security and fulfillment, free of envy, free
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Speaker 1: of competition with others, finding acceptance and satisfaction in one's
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Speaker 1: own life as God has made us. This simple plan
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Speaker 1: has only three parts, and they will sound so easy
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Speaker 1: you think they would come naturally, but they do not.
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Speaker 1: They are learned truths that must be cultivated. To begin with,
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Speaker 1: we need to know who we are, to understand that
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Speaker 1: we have been made uniquely by a God who took
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Speaker 1: care to build within us qualities that made us unique.
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Speaker 1: Just as we all have our own DNA, we all
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Speaker 1: have our own qualities characteristics, intuitions, voice, inflections, mental attitude,
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Speaker 1: personality that makes us who we are. But you don't
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Speaker 1: automatically know that when you're born or even when you're
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Speaker 1: growing up. So as a process of discovery. Next in
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Speaker 1: line comes accepting who we are. We don't fight it,
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Speaker 1: we don't resist it, we don't deny it. We acknowledge
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Speaker 1: this is me and we are in the process of
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Speaker 1: discovering ourselves, and in doing so we ideally learn to
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Speaker 1: accept that which means we are not like any other.
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Speaker 1: This frees us from the wanting to be like someone else,
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Speaker 1: or longing for what they have and who they are
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Speaker 1: and what they're able to accomplish. That doesn't enter into
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Speaker 1: it when you accept who you are. And third, you
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Speaker 1: would anticipate we must learn to be who we are,
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Speaker 1: no more hiding, no more denying, but facing it, being open, vulnerable,
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Speaker 1: and most importantly real. We don't try to be someone else.
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Speaker 1: We're satisfied knowing that we have been made like this
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Speaker 1: and now, because we are complete in Christ through a
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Speaker 1: relationship with him, package comes put together. We know who
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Speaker 1: we are, we accept who we are, and we become
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Speaker 1: who we are. I did not go through that process because,
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Speaker 1: for whatever reason, my parents preoccupied. They weren't abusive, they
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Speaker 1: didn't neglect my great needs for food and shelter. I
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Speaker 1: certainly was not abused, but I wasn't helped along the
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Speaker 1: way to discover who I am, how I have been made.
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Speaker 1: That began when I reached high school years and there
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Speaker 1: was a teacher who saw in me what I had
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Speaker 1: never seen in myself, certain abilities and skills that he
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Speaker 1: knew were there somehow, and began to cultivate them in
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Speaker 1: my life. It was a marvelous beginning, though later in
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Speaker 1: life than would have been ideal, and I began to
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Speaker 1: accept that. It was not until I was in the
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Speaker 1: Marine Corps I discovered that I'm a leader. The thought
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Speaker 1: never dawned on me before, but while in the military
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Speaker 1: it became evident that I could lead others. I somehow
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Speaker 1: have that ability, and I don't know all that goes
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Speaker 1: into that. I just know it comes naturally, and of
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Speaker 1: course it needs to be cultivated and developed, and as
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Speaker 1: those things transpire by the way they emerge in that order.
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Speaker 1: Not until we know who we are can we accept that?
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Speaker 1: And not until we accept that can we be that
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Speaker 1: we looked at some of this when we spend time.
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Speaker 1: In Proverbs twenty two six, which states train up a
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Speaker 1: child in the way he should go, and when he
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Speaker 1: is old, he will not depart from it. We dissected
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Speaker 1: that verse rather carefully in detail, and we found that
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Speaker 1: the best rendering from the Hebrew sentence is train up
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Speaker 1: a child according to his or her way, not the
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Speaker 1: way you think the child should go, but in keeping
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Speaker 1: with the child's own way. Every child is different. If
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Speaker 1: you have three children, you have children with three different ways.
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Speaker 1: And it's the responsibility of the parent to make a discovery,
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Speaker 1: make a study of the child, pay attention to the child,
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Speaker 1: and watch the child in those early years to see
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Speaker 1: what is of interest to the child, what he or
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Speaker 1: she is good at, how they are put together. And
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Speaker 1: then as time passes, the child grasps from the teaching
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Speaker 1: of the parents ideally those qualities and realizes that's who
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Speaker 1: I am and accepts that. Doesn't try to change it,
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Speaker 1: but does try to develop it. The amplified Bible renders
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Speaker 1: it this way, train up a child in the way
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Speaker 1: he should go, that is in keeping with his individual
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Speaker 1: gifts or bents. What an intriguing rendering. In keeping with
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Speaker 1: his individual gifts or bents. Every child has two major bents.
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Speaker 1: The first would be the good bents, the things that
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Speaker 1: we're gifted to do, to be things we're interested in
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Speaker 1: pursuits we want to study, develop ideally for our career
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Speaker 1: around those things, because that's the way we are bent,
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Speaker 1: and it's all given by God. We don't create it
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Speaker 1: in ourselves, though we can cultivate what God has given us.
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Speaker 1: He places it there. As we're going to see from
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Speaker 1: Psal one nine, the other bent is the dark side
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Speaker 1: of everyone, the evil bent within us. Paul writes in
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Speaker 1: Romans five point twelve. Through one man, Adam the first man.
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Speaker 1: Through one man, sin entered into the world, and death
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Speaker 1: through sin, So death and sin passed upon all, for
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Speaker 1: all have sinned, every one of us, including our parents,
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Speaker 1: as good and great and godly as they may have been,
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Speaker 1: including them, and they give birth to those who are
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Speaker 1: like them sinners. And that needs to be counteracted, discovered,
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Speaker 1: dealt with, and consistently and fairly counteracted through measures of discipline, confrontation,
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Speaker 1: and correction. We'll get to that in a few moments,
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Speaker 1: but first let's look at the light side, the bright side,
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Speaker 1: the good bents. I don't know if a passage in
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Speaker 1: all the Bible that develops us better than Psalm one
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Speaker 1: thirty nine thirteen to eighteen, which I read to you earlier.
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Speaker 1: I want us to focus on these verses, and as
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Speaker 1: you followed along when we did that with Proverbs twenty
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Speaker 1: two to six, I want to sort of dissect these
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Speaker 1: verses for you so that you'll glean from these words
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Speaker 1: a full meaning of what they include. Notice the psalm,
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Speaker 1: if you've got your Bible open, is titled Psalm one
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Speaker 1: thirty nine. Right below the title is the name of
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Speaker 1: the writer. This is called the superscription. Sometime it gives
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Speaker 1: an an explanation of the context in which the song
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Speaker 1: was written. The word song means song song number one
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Speaker 1: thirty nine. In this case, the writer the composer of
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Speaker 1: the song, is David. He begins by describing how well
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Speaker 1: God knows us. I mean, he he sees us in
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Speaker 1: our in our waking moments and sleeping moments, when we're
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Speaker 1: aware of him and when we're unaware. He is there
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Speaker 1: throughout our lives, never absent. This is called God's omnipresence,
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Speaker 1: all around us, within us. He sees us. He knows us.
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Speaker 1: That doesn't begin when we're adults and come to realize it.
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Speaker 1: It begins, according to verse thirteen, when we are just
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Speaker 1: beyond the embryonic stage in our mother's womb. We are
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Speaker 1: now a fetus being formed in the womb of the mother.
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Speaker 1: Notice how it begins. You made all the delicate inner
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Speaker 1: parts of my body. The you in the Hebrew is emphatic. You, you alone,
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Speaker 1: not my mother. My mother didn't make me, not mother nature,
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Speaker 1: she doesn't exist. Uh. Not a friend who had an
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Speaker 1: influence on me, he doesn't, or she didn't make me.
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Speaker 1: You and you alone, Oh, God made me. See the
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Speaker 1: word made, it's the word in the Hebrew that means
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Speaker 1: to originate, to create that beautiful when just beginning life
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Speaker 1: in the womb, God is making us, originating us in
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Speaker 1: the private place as our mother was carrying us. You
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Speaker 1: took such an interest in me that you made me
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Speaker 1: an original. There's no other like you. There's no other
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Speaker 1: exactly like me. In fact, it goes on to say,
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Speaker 1: you made my inmost being. You learn when you read
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Speaker 1: through the scriptures that you don't want to be in
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Speaker 1: a hurry. Let the words linger form them in your mind.
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Speaker 1: You made all the delicate inner parts of my body.
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Speaker 1: The word means inner being, would incline the vital organs,
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Speaker 1: the heart, the lungs, the liver, kidneys, brain, and others,
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Speaker 1: and the verse continues, you knit need together. This comes
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Speaker 1: from the Hebrew word that suggests that an interwoven mass
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Speaker 1: or thicket isn't that interesting? All the delicate interwoven parts
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Speaker 1: of my being, not only the various organs, but along
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Speaker 1: with a veritable thicket of muscles and tendons and bones
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Speaker 1: and glands and nerves and membranes and veins and arteries,
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Speaker 1: all of that interwoven within me. You and you alone,
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Speaker 1: did that. Let me tell you a child needs to
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Speaker 1: notice a child these you understand. It wasn't an accident,
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Speaker 1: There is no such thing. And the making of the womb,
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Speaker 1: within the womb, there is a handworking of God as
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Speaker 1: he puts together this one and only original you, and
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Speaker 1: only you. Even if you're a twin, you're distinct from
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Speaker 1: your twin. You may physically look alike, you may even
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Speaker 1: do some things alike, but you are different within, and
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Speaker 1: you've been knitted together in a different way. This dawns
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Speaker 1: on David, and he begins the next verse, verse fourteen,
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Speaker 1: with I praise you. He suddenly realizes how magnificent it
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Speaker 1: is that he has been put together like this. In fact,
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Speaker 1: the text reads, actually I praise you because I'm wonderfully made.
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Speaker 1: Your works in me are wonderful, he brings in juxtaphysician
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Speaker 1: the repeated word wonderful, wonderful doesn't have a better word
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Speaker 1: to use than the handwork of God is wonderful, and
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Speaker 1: the resulting work of God is wonderful, and your marvelous works.
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Speaker 1: I know it well. It's who I am, It's how
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Speaker 1: I've been made. Think of what that could do for
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Speaker 1: a young child when he or she has it dawn
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Speaker 1: on him. You're not like any other You're an original
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Speaker 1: from God's hand. And by the way, that matter of wonderful.
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Speaker 1: I thought of that when I read a piece sometime
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Speaker 1: ago titled this is You. Listen carefully today. Your heart
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Speaker 1: will beat an average of one hundred three thousand times.
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Speaker 1: Your blood will travel one hundred and sixty eight thousand
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Speaker 1: miles every hour. Two hundred and fifty pounds of blood
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Speaker 1: will pass through your heart. You will breathe twenty three
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Speaker 1: thousand times. You will inhale four hundred and thirty eight
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Speaker 1: cubic feet of air, and you will speak an average
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Speaker 1: of thirty six thousand words. For some of us a
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Speaker 1: lot more than that. You will move seven hundred and
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Speaker 1: fifty major muscles, and you will use seven million brain
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Speaker 1: cells in one day. How wonderful, How wonderful God has
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Speaker 1: given us these inner parts that serve in this way.
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Speaker 1: Is in any surprise that David says twice wonderful? Wonderful?
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Speaker 1: Not only has God originated our vital organs, but go further.
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Speaker 1: He's given each of us our set of emotions, our
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Speaker 1: unique personalities, our inclinations, our abilities, our interest in certain subjects.
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Speaker 1: As a result, no one else is exactly like you.
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Speaker 1: There is no clone. The Psalmist realized that he's an original,
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Speaker 1: and something happened within him as he came to terms
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Speaker 1: with that, he, as well as we, become free of comparison.
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Speaker 1: I said this last time, and I'll repeat it. A
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Speaker 1: great mistake parents make is comparing one child with another.
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Speaker 1: How unfair? Why would we do that? Comparisons help no one.
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Speaker 1: The one who's doing better just has his pride built up.
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Speaker 1: The one who's doing worse gets more depressed. What good
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Speaker 1: is comparison. You're not meant to be like your brother
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Speaker 1: or your sister. You're meant to be an original. It's
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Speaker 1: remarkable knowing of the Lord's original work within us and
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Speaker 1: how we're meant to be. Let me think of what
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Speaker 1: this would do for a child who grows up as
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Speaker 1: an adolescent and begins to out grow all the other
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Speaker 1: kids in his class. And by and bye, he reaches
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Speaker 1: about six seven six'. Eight it's fourteen years, old and
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Speaker 1: it's a. Girl, yeah now she needs to. Know she's
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Speaker 1: not a. Freak she's not, weird though the other classmates
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Speaker 1: will see her as. That she's a unique workmanship Of,
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Speaker 1: god made By, him designed for some, reason because he
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Speaker 1: put her frame. Together david goes on to talk about
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Speaker 1: the frame was not hidden from you WHEN i was
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Speaker 1: made in. Secret the frame is A hebrew word that
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Speaker 1: means bony. Substance it would refer to our. Skeleton our
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Speaker 1: height is shaped in our. Frame our, bones our frames
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Speaker 1: are all put together. Uniquely we're woven. Together these words
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Speaker 1: are translated woven, together that is from the word. Get
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Speaker 1: this variegated as in a multi colored, cloth is used
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Speaker 1: in The book Of exodus for the curtain that hangs
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Speaker 1: in the, tavern that hung in the, tabernacle that was
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Speaker 1: embroidered in these beautiful colors with colorful. Threads the word
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Speaker 1: rendered here variegated is used there In. Exodus The lord
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Speaker 1: was then engaged in the variegated inner workings of our.
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Speaker 1: Being what's so amazing about this is there are those
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Speaker 1: who deny that the one in the womb is. Alive
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Speaker 1: god is working on a living, being preparing this feed
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Speaker 1: us for. Birth so when you hold your child for
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Speaker 1: the first, time that saw a, wonderful little screaming creature
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Speaker 1: that you've got in your. Arms that child has come
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Speaker 1: prescribed By. God it's not a moldable piece of clay
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Speaker 1: that can be shaped or altered as you. Please it's
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Speaker 1: not about your. Way that child comes with his or
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Speaker 1: her own. Way god planned it like, that and wise
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Speaker 1: is the parent who realizes, it and he doesn't stop at.
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Speaker 1: Birth read. On look at verse. Sixteen you saw me
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Speaker 1: BEFORE i was. Born every day of my life was
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Speaker 1: recorded in your. Book look at That my days were
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Speaker 1: laid out In god's. Book he knows how it, reads
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Speaker 1: he knows what it. Says every moment was laid out
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Speaker 1: before you before there was a single day that had.
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Speaker 1: Passed how precious are your thoughts toward. Me you realize
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Speaker 1: how few people spend their life on this, earth never
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Speaker 1: once realizing That god thinks precious thoughts about. Them how
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Speaker 1: many people feel, discouraged useless in the. Way let me
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Speaker 1: jump from the earliest years to the later. Years in
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Speaker 1: the senior, category feel in the way? Useless not. So
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Speaker 1: the reason you're still living is Because god planned for
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Speaker 1: you to still be, living which Means he has an
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Speaker 1: arrangement of things for you to this. Day in, fact
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Speaker 1: those thoughts are so priceless and, numberless he calls them.
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Speaker 1: Precious so every child needs to know at least four. Things,
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Speaker 1: first The lord made them like none. Other, second The
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Speaker 1: lord loves them and cares about them throughout their. Lives,
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Speaker 1: third they are, important, gifted competent in specific, areas and
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Speaker 1: therefore they have a future as you help them discover
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Speaker 1: what those areas. Are And, fourth we parents and grandparents
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Speaker 1: are committed to the cultivation of those strengths and areas of.
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Speaker 1: Giftedness let me get very very personal. Here in our,
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Speaker 1: family we have two children of. Four Un i'm. Sorry
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Speaker 1: it's easy to, forget isn't. It we have four? Children
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Speaker 1: what a stupid. Mistake we have four. Children they've only
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Speaker 1: been with us fifty years or, more SO i should remember.
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Speaker 1: That and we have ten Grandchildren all four children are,
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Speaker 1: different two, girls two, ladies two, men boys on each,
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Speaker 1: end and the girls in the. Middle different as they can.
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Speaker 1: Be they're all, swindles but they're all, unique made By.
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Speaker 1: God different, interests different levels of, intelligence different emotional, makeups
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Speaker 1: different drives in. Life and then we have ten grandchildren
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Speaker 1: from those, four by the grace Of, god enjoyed now
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Speaker 1: the births of ten. Grandchildren one of our grandchildren is
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Speaker 1: an interesting young. Lady she has been from her earliest
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Speaker 1: years interested in. Creatures when she was tiny and crawled
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Speaker 1: along the, floor those little creatures that crawled along near,
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Speaker 1: her she found delight in messing around with them as
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Speaker 1: her mother tried to get the bugs. Away, moll this
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Speaker 1: is my, pet and she's messing around with. That she
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Speaker 1: grows a little, older animals become you, know her. DELIGHT
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Speaker 1: i once said To Ashley, actley you know there are,
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Speaker 1: People she, Said, BUBBA i don't really like. PEOPLE i like. Animals,
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Speaker 1: WELL i, know AND i know you want to be a,
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Speaker 1: vet but you need to, realize last TIME i, checked
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Speaker 1: no animal ever brought a credit, card or no animal
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Speaker 1: ever wrote a. Check so with every animal comes to.
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Speaker 1: People so it might be good to keep cultivating. Both
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Speaker 1: she kept cultivating an interest in. Animals the animal world
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Speaker 1: winds up going TO a AND N TEXAS a AND.
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Speaker 1: M there you, go see she's like one of, those
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Speaker 1: and realize the ultimate for her is The Veterinary school Of,
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Speaker 1: medicine prestigious, school difficult to get. Into we assured, her
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Speaker 1: you can make. It you've got an interest in, it
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Speaker 1: you will love, that you will. Pursue and she began
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Speaker 1: to pursue, it and she was accepted great and we
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Speaker 1: were all thrilled for her because this is her. Interest
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Speaker 1: her brother isn't interested in. That the other brother isn't
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Speaker 1: interested in that. World she. Is it's, her it's her,
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Speaker 1: future it's her. Life and just a few days ago
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Speaker 1: we attended the graduation at the commencement where she gets her.
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Speaker 1: Doctorate and now she expects us to call her. Doctor, no,
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Speaker 1: no she. Doesn't, no, no that's not. True but we've
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Speaker 1: had more fault while she was in. School she even
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Speaker 1: was a part of a team of people that went
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Speaker 1: To South africa and worked with huge. Animals scared her
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Speaker 1: grandmother to. Death nana said to, her won't they step
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Speaker 1: all over? Here she, Says, nana they don't they don't do.
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Speaker 1: That when you take care of, them they will love,
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Speaker 1: you And cynthia, goes but they can still hurt you
37:52
Speaker 1: because they're so. Big they're not gonna hurt. Me, oh
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Speaker 1: we had a great. Time we went on a granddaddy granddaughter.
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Speaker 1: Day bear with. Me i'll be through with this part
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Speaker 1: in about thirty. Minutes we want to we went on
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Speaker 1: a granddad granddaughter at. DATE i don't know if she'll
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Speaker 1: even remember, this but but there we. Set we finished
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Speaker 1: a nice meal AND i, said, well shall we take
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Speaker 1: in a movie? Together there are several good ones. On she,
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Speaker 1: said oh, No she, said, really i'd much whether you
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Speaker 1: take me to a pet. Store of, course of, course
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Speaker 1: so we go to the local large pet store And i'm,
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Speaker 1: thinking we're just gonna go look at a few. Things
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Speaker 1: she talks to a few animals and it. Leaves but
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Speaker 1: that's not. True we're there for an hour and a
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Speaker 1: half and she is if she could have gotten into
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Speaker 1: the cage with, him she would. Have but she got
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Speaker 1: her hand in virtually every, cage even wanted to get
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Speaker 1: in with the, snakes and the propridor, goes, no, no,
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Speaker 1: Don't you're not allowed to get into the snake's, cage
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Speaker 1: and there we, were and she says to, me come over.
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Speaker 1: HERE i, Say i'm over in the corner with my hands,
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Speaker 1: behind on my back watching all this. Happen she is a.
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Speaker 1: Natural did we make her like? That we did. Not
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Speaker 1: that isn't necessarily our. Interests, oh we have, Pets but
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Speaker 1: you know her interest is much deeper than, that much.
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Speaker 1: Broader why because that's the way she has been. Made
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Speaker 1: it's her. Way your child may not be that obvious at,
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Speaker 1: first as hers. Was but a child is known by
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Speaker 1: what he does good, things different, things interesting. Things and
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Speaker 1: you have been given a set of eyes and a
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Speaker 1: set of. Ears watch. LISTEN i never knew that growing.
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Speaker 1: Up please don't feel sorry for. Me things turned out
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Speaker 1: pretty well for, me And i'm. Grateful BUT i wasn't
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Speaker 1: cultivated by a mom and. DAD i didn't know what
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Speaker 1: my strengths. Were my dad was busy working and my
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Speaker 1: mother was busy with little kids living for the day
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Speaker 1: we'd all be out of the, house and mothers understand.
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Speaker 1: That SO i kind of grew myself up UNTIL i
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Speaker 1: along the way met people who were very interested in.
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Speaker 1: ME i don't say that out of any sense of.
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Speaker 1: CONCEIT i was overwhelmed that they were even. Interested, now
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Speaker 1: as your child is growing, up they long to be,
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Speaker 1: known and you're the best source to help them know
41:10
Speaker 1: and to help them cultivate who they. Are you got the.
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Speaker 1: Picture it takes, time it takes. Effort ultimately it will
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Speaker 1: cost if they go into the school of their choice
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Speaker 1: and they're, accepted it will be. Expensive it's the role
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Speaker 1: of a parent to help a child understand how they're put,
41:42
Speaker 1: together and then to stand with them and to applaud
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Speaker 1: their every move in that. Direction you, KNOW i don't
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Speaker 1: Believe david was raised like. This remember When samuel came
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Speaker 1: to choose a king and he brought the bag of
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Speaker 1: oil so he could anoint one of the sons Of.
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Speaker 1: Jesse jesse paraded his sons Before, samuel And samuel, said
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Speaker 1: none of these are the or the possible. KING i
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Speaker 1: have no guidance in. This they're they're not the. Ones
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Speaker 1: are these all your? Sons jesse, goes, OH i have
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Speaker 1: one more who was sort of like. Me remembered there
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Speaker 1: were more in the, family and so he, goes there's
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Speaker 1: one who keeps the. Sheep So david comes in and
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Speaker 1: before he knows that oil is running down the back
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Speaker 1: of his, neck and he realizes he's been anointed to
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Speaker 1: become the. King no one was more surprised Than. David
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Speaker 1: now he's not like most of us would have gone
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Speaker 1: down the north strums and trod on crowns that have or. Not,
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Speaker 1: david he goes right back with the. Sheep he's not
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Speaker 1: aware of his kingly abilities or strengths or leadership. Skills
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Speaker 1: he's taking care of his father's. SHEEP a child can
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Speaker 1: be lost in the process of growing. Up it's parents'
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Speaker 1: job to find, them help them know who they, are
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Speaker 1: that they might accept who they, are and, ultimately by,
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Speaker 1: adulthood become who they. Are NOW i have to get
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Speaker 1: to the dark. SIDE i can't leave that. Out psalm fifty, one. P. Five,
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Speaker 1: BEHOLD i was brought forth in iniquity and in. Sin
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Speaker 1: my mother conceived. Me the way it, reads you could
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Speaker 1: think it means my mother conceiving me was in. Sin
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Speaker 1: doesn't mean. That it means my, mother a, sinner conceived
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Speaker 1: me AND i, too and contaminated with the same. Sin
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Speaker 1: all who are born or born, Sinful your precious child
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Speaker 1: as lovely and as cuddly and soft and beautiful as
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Speaker 1: he or she may. Be as a nature that is,
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Speaker 1: evil it must be, confronted counteracted, consistently, firmly and. Fairly
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Speaker 1: that's the job of a. Parent when parents do, that
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Speaker 1: children love you for, it not at the, time but
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Speaker 1: later they thank you for helping them know how to
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Speaker 1: restrict such evil. Tendencies this is too strong for, you
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Speaker 1: and you just can't bring yourself to believe your child
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Speaker 1: is an. Evil vent paused for a, moment and remember
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Speaker 1: that day In may In, uvalde when an eighteen year
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Speaker 1: old with rifles went into a. Classroom you know the
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Speaker 1: rest of the. Story AS i heard the story and
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Speaker 1: grieved through it with all of, you and watching, IT
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Speaker 1: i wondered about his. CHILDHOOD i learned a little about
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Speaker 1: his mother from what was. Reported no need to get into,
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Speaker 1: that but it was obvious that her time wasn't spent
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Speaker 1: coming to know her. Son he lived with his, grandparents
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Speaker 1: and even his, grandfather when, interviewed, said we never knew
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Speaker 1: he was like. This we never knew he was like. That,
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Speaker 1: really do you have a son like? That? Watch are
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Speaker 1: they cruel to their? Animals are they brutal with their?
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Speaker 1: Friends are they mean? Spirited if you don't confront that who.
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Speaker 1: Will don't leave it for the. Church we can't resurrect
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Speaker 1: what the home puts to. Death don't leave it for
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Speaker 1: the teacher in the. Classroom she's not there to. Discipline
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Speaker 1: she's there to. Teach but alas most of them spend
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Speaker 1: more time disciplining the children in the class than. Teaching
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Speaker 1: Doctor Albert siegel wrote this in The Stanford observer several years.
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Speaker 1: Ago listen to these words from this. Authority when it
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Speaker 1: comes to rearing, children every society is only twenty years
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Speaker 1: away from. Barbarism twenty years is all we have to
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Speaker 1: accomplish the task of civilizing our, infants who are born
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Speaker 1: into our midst each. Year these savages know nothing of our,
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Speaker 1: language our, culture our, religion our, values our custom of interpersonal.
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Speaker 1: Relations the infant is totally ignorant about, respect, decency, honesty
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Speaker 1: conventions and. Manners the barberism must be tamed if civilization
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Speaker 1: is to. Survive we're in a bad way as a,
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Speaker 1: country and it's easy to look at the peripheral reasons
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Speaker 1: and people are doing. That go back to the, home
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Speaker 1: go back to the. Parenting much will be. Discovered proverbs twenty.
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Speaker 1: Eleven even children are known by the way they, act
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Speaker 1: whether their deeds are pure and. Right, stop, look, listen,
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Speaker 1: talk turn on the, television, off make plans to be.
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Speaker 1: Together proverb twenty nine point fifteen states to discipline a
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Speaker 1: child produces, wisdom but a mother is disgraced by an undisciplined.
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Speaker 1: Child the New american standard is closer to the. Original
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Speaker 1: the rod and reproof both give, wisdom but a child
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Speaker 1: who gets his own way brings shame to his. Mother
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Speaker 1: in The, hebrew it, says but a child left brings
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Speaker 1: shame to his, mother left in the original condition in
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Speaker 1: which he is. Born how how DO i do? It
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Speaker 1: MAY i tell? You start by leading your child To.
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Speaker 1: Christ you need all the help if you can get
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Speaker 1: the work Of Jesus, christ and a heart provides an
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Speaker 1: inner power that you can't provide as a. Parent as
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Speaker 1: much as you love your, Child christ in the life
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Speaker 1: can do wonders for that. Life, second spend time observing and,
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Speaker 1: listening not. Talking listening, observing and then there will be
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Speaker 1: time to. Dialogue, third be, faithful to confront and also to.
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Speaker 1: Cultivate confront the, evil cultivate the. Good stay with both
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Speaker 1: as long as any of the children are under your,
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Speaker 1: Roof remember the last time we were. Together the word
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Speaker 1: child covers an infant all the way up to a
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Speaker 1: child of marriagable, age as long as they're in your.
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Speaker 1: Home parents have a job to. Do keep abroad perspective in.
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Speaker 1: Mind you're helping our civilization. Survive makes all the difference
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Speaker 1: in our world when parents faithfully cultivate the good and
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Speaker 1: counteract the. EVIL i close with these true. Accounts in,
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Speaker 1: contrast the father Of Jonathan edwards was a minister and
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Speaker 1: his mother was the daughter of a. Clergyman among their
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Speaker 1: descendants were fourteen presidents of, colleges more than one hundred university,
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Speaker 1: professors more than one hundred, attorneys thirty judges and sixty,
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Speaker 1: physicians and more than one hundred, clergymen missionaries and theology,
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Speaker 1: professors and about sixty authors of great. Books hardly an
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Speaker 1: industry has not been touched by The edwards. Family in,
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Speaker 1: contrast listen to The dukes family Of New. York they
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Speaker 1: could not be made to study or to. Work they
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Speaker 1: were said to have cost the state Of New york
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Speaker 1: well over one million, dollars which was a fortune back.
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Speaker 1: Then their entire record is one of pauperism and. Crime
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Speaker 1: among their twelve hundred known, descendants three hundred ten were professional,
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Speaker 1: paupers four hundred forty were physically wrecked by their own,
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Speaker 1: wickedness sixty were habitual, thieves one hundred and thirty were convicted.
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Speaker 1: Criminals only twenty of them learned to, trade ten of
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Speaker 1: them learned it while in a state, penitentiary and seven
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Speaker 1: of them were. Murderers the next time you are tempted
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Speaker 1: to think that your efforts are really not that, important
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Speaker 1: remember The edwards and The dukes families called to, mind
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Speaker 1: these who made a difference in our, world and those
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Speaker 1: who hindered the good work of our. Society we need, you,
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Speaker 1: Parents we need every one of you grandparents as. Well
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Speaker 1: we need you to be there to love, them to
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Speaker 1: hold them near and dear to, you to speak words
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Speaker 1: privately to them that will be meaningful about who they
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Speaker 1: are and the things within them they can accept and.
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Speaker 1: Cultivate and, then when you see them being real and standing,
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Speaker 1: alone not afraid to stand against the, crowd tell them
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Speaker 1: how proud you are of. Them express to them your
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Speaker 1: gratitude for their. Lives not only are they precious to
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Speaker 1: The lord or precious to, us they need to hear
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Speaker 1: us say that again and again and. Again you may
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Speaker 1: be a parent who doesn't Know, christ and you hear
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Speaker 1: these words and you, think what does all that. Mean
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Speaker 1: it means you submit your life to The savior who
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Speaker 1: died for. You you're not in life for. Yourself you
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Speaker 1: begin to live your life for. Him you trust him
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Speaker 1: as your. Master you turn over your life to, him
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Speaker 1: and he in turn gives you his. Life one man
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Speaker 1: put it like, This the life That christ lived qualified
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Speaker 1: him for the death that he, died and the death
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Speaker 1: that he died qualifies us for the life that he.
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Speaker 1: Lived you can live a Christ like, life but it
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Speaker 1: begins by coming to the cross and trusting in The
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Speaker 1: Lord Jesus. Personally no one can do that for. You
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Speaker 1: even a set of godly parents does not bring you
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Speaker 1: closer To. Heaven each of us must make the decision
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Speaker 1: on our, own and you make it privately before The.
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Speaker 1: Lord let's take care of that right. Now please vow
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Speaker 1: with me just for a few. Moments are you sure
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Speaker 1: there was a time in your life when you trusted In.
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Speaker 1: Christ if there, was is he in charge or are
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Speaker 1: you now walking your own? Way come back to, Him
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Speaker 1: bring your life before him and tell him you want
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Speaker 1: to get in line with his way of. Life if
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Speaker 1: you've never trusted In, christ now's the time to do. That.
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Speaker 1: LORD i come before you as a. Sinner you AND
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Speaker 1: i are not on speaking, terms AND i want to
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Speaker 1: become one of your. CHILDREN i Receive christ into my.
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Speaker 1: LIFE i take him as my. Own thank, You lord
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Speaker 1: for forgiving me of my. SINS i believe in you.
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Speaker 1: Now we'd love to help you in that. Journey if
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Speaker 1: you'll just connect with, us we'll help you on your
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Speaker 1: way as you grow In. Christ we pause Our father
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Speaker 1: at the end of a searching. Message we've covered a
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Speaker 1: lot of. Territory we realize the responsibility of parenting far
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Speaker 1: more than simply, birthing, feeding, clothing and sheltering and schooling our.
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Speaker 1: Children we need to know. Them we need to cultivate
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Speaker 1: those things that make them. Unique we need to build
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Speaker 1: into them the assurance that they have been made By.
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Speaker 1: God help us to do, That, lord and to faithfully
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Speaker 1: carry that out as long as we. Live honor your
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Speaker 1: name and our families honor your work as we obey
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Speaker 1: you Through. CHRIST i ask, this everyone Said.
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