E 382: Tammys Takes #51 Is This Really Me—or Who I Learned to Be?

Adult Child of Dysfunction · Oct 11, 2026 · 13m

How much of your personality is really you—and how much of it developed because of what your family needed you to be?

Maybe you're the responsible one, the helper, the peacekeeper, the high achiever, or the person who never needs anything. Maybe you've always described yourself as independent, easygoing, or a people-pleaser.

But have you ever stopped and asked:

Is that actually who I am—or is that who I learned to be?

In this Tammy’s Takes, inspired by my conversation with Margaret Eastman Smith, we're going deeper into generational patterns, family conditioning, self-abandonment, and what…