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TIkTok Meltdown · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  We got a question for our American mama's. Dear mamas, did you see
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  the TikTok video the girl having a meltdown over her life after college, having
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  to commute to work every day and feeling like she doesn't have a life anymore.
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  What are your thoughts? Well, let's ask our American mama. Mama,
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  mama, she said, and joining us now our American mama's Terry Netteville
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  and Kerly Burlison. Okay, there's a TikTok that's going around. This is
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  a young woman's just straight out of college working her first job. She has
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  to commute from I don't know, outside the downtown area into the downtown area,
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  and it is very upsetting for her. Take a listen. So it
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  literally takes me like I leave here, like I get on the train at
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  seven thirty and I don't get home till like six fifteen earliest, and then
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  like I don't have time to do anything. I don't I want to shower,
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  eat my dinner, and go to sleep. I don't have time or
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  energy to cook by dinner, eat are like I don't have energy to work
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  out, like not to out the window, Like I'm so upset. Oh
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  my God not we said it loud, but that last far I'm so upset.
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  Oh go And and the use of the word like that is, you
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  know, taking the place of oh, yeah, okay. I feel sorry
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  for her because I do know that after you graduate from college, it's really
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  a depressing year, that first year trying to adjust they of adults. Your
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  whole four years of college, you're preparing for something, you're excited about getting
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  out into the real world. You get out in the real world and you're
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  like, oh, exactly, that's exactly how you feel, because you think
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  you're gonna get out there and you're gonna have this great job because you're preparing
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  for four years. I'm gonna ge out there, I'm gonna be in the
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  I'm gonna have on my suit and i'm gonna have my briefcase and I'm gonna
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  walk in there and make two hundred thousand dollars a year. And you get
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  out you're like, wait, where are the jobs? And then you find
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  one. She's lucky she has one, and instead of looking at it,
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  and she did say, well, you know, and the thing she's like
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  she was hormonal that time of the month or whatever. But she did say
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  and by the way, she said that you're not She said that, she
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  said that as a as a man, I'm just wanting to make sure that
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  that is expressed, that you're not the one putting. Yeah, you know,
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  you cannot comment on that, but I get it. She doesn't get
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  to work out anymore. She's seeing things change, probably in her body.
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  She doesn't have a social life. But I'm also at the same time,
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  this generation who has been doing everything by remote for the last few years,
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  there's such a beauty in going to work and making friends there and having conversations
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  in person there, not everything through a computer screen. Like I was,
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  well, they see everything through a lens of victimhood as well. I know
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  what you're saying as far as the remote, but they also are a generation
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  of seeing everything through the lens of victimhood. Like my husband said, we
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  talking about this yesterday, and he said, why doesn't she feel good about
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  herself? Like, look at her on her own and paying her bills,
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  Like that's rewarding. Yeah, you know, but it's not because they don't
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  look at things that way. The other thing I found interesting was the fact
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  that she was she went to her phone, she's by herself in her room,
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  Like if I had issues, I called my sisters or my mom or
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  my dad and we would talk about it and you know, try to come
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  up with a solutions. What she did was she went into her room by
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  herself with her one little phone and videoed herself to the world to TikTok.
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  To TikTok, it's gone viral, where by the way, she's going to
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  get a whole tens of negative responses. People are going to they did.
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  They ripped her apart, But she also had a lot of people that felt
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  very much like her. But a lot of people just well, when you're
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  struggling with something and you're already looking at the negatives in your life, if
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  you start getting comments and say, say fifty percent or negative fifty percent of
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  positive, yeah, which I doubt that's the ratio. But if let's just
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  say that's the ratio, you're only going to see the negative. Yeah.
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  And if you're already in a negative spot, going putting your negative stuff out
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  on TikTok is just begging for depression. Yeah, I agree. And she
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  made the point in the video of saying it's not the job itself. She's
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  glad that she has the job. Yeah, but it's all the other things
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  she's missing out on because of the job and because of the commute. You
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  know, she's like she has to take a I guess she's taking a track
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  trying or something, and so she's getting home. How many people like I
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  think about Philip, that's my future son in law. He has to drive
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  an hour and fifteen minutes to work and back every day and instead of you
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  know, when I asked him how it's going, he's like, he's so
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  grateful to have a job outside of college because he recognizes that a lot of
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  college age kids are not getting jobs. Right. It's the kind of kid
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  he is. He's a very humble kid. I do feel like colleges do
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  not prepare our kids for the real world. I think it's just a lot
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  of fun for four years, but they're not prepared. I know my two
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  oldest kids, they did internships, they worked all the way through college,
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  so they were more prepared and they're both more successful than others their age.
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  My third daughter did sports the whole time, so she's a lot like this
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  little girl, like, I don't want to do that. Where the job
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  really because I would have thought that being on the sports team would have added
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  extra complexity to the college schedule. You would think, you would think,
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  but everything has been about sports, and so you know, she could definitely
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  coach wherever she wanted. I want to be a coach, right, you
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  know. But she's not prepared like the other two are were prepared for the
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  real world. That's interesting. One of the things Wendy and I have been
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  saying since the beginning of our kids we wanted to raise adults. We didn't
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  want to raise kids. We weren't raising kids, we were raising adults.
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  And I think a lot of people have missed that distinction. If you like
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  to ask our American Mama's a question, go to our website at Americanground Radio
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  dot com, slash Mama's and click on the ask the Mama's button. Terry
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  Neteville can really bur listen. Thank you so much, Thank you. Thanks