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Do As I Say, Not As I Did | Ep 166 | The Dear Son, Show · Dear Son,

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[SPEAKER_02]: Welcome to the Dead Sun Show.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We have meaningful conversations about all I have to do the lens of Fatherhood, it's four fathers, those with fathers, and the Fatherless of nobody's left out.
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[SPEAKER_02]: These are the conversations we want our sons that access as they grow through life in the manhood, so no type is off.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Namons, I'm just one of your old Steve Jones.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm your other host, Jake Black.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Jay Black, first of the year, how are you feeling?
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[SPEAKER_00]: First of the year, top of the year, we went in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We went in, baby.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Feeling good, feeling good, studio rollist, studio is a room, y'all saw a snippet of that studio.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Not a snippet, y'all caught it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: First episode, so yeah, a better together, went with.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, got an amazing feedback on that, man.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm excited.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I'm talking about musk, musk continue.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, yeah, so y'all got to see much more of that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Fender good holidays, we survive.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Man, everything.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't have no complaints.
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[SPEAKER_02]: What about you kids back the school today.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, thank God Started my show.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So I started partial shuttle yesterday because Donovan went back on Tuesday kids went back the day Yeah, and Everything's food man.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I got up this morning about five thirty five forty five
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[SPEAKER_02]: got my devotion there and was kicking around the house.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I pulled out the phone to tell the kids to see if they're awake.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I got to be starting a break for an all-in-all that Eden Hedari takes me at six o'clock.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Let's go.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We up are you.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: All right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So it was moving on.
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[SPEAKER_02]: There's not like the first week back in the school and the promise about a month in.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They started to be like, I forget I don't really like school.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: running out of games, but they anxious the day, man.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So it's been a good saying, holiday good, happy belated.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Just in case people didn't know, they're still kind of within a week.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, you, within a, they'll see this belly within a week of your birthday.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I still get loose.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I hope we windin' down now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, okay, it's time to get to something now.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Get back to the focus, man.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Dude, it was dope, uh, bringing in the new year and your birthday.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And just the family atmosphere, that's,
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's the whole vibe.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know I'm coming there.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I might not be going out to the house.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You're house my house?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Let's house somebody.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that works just fine for me, man.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm in there, man.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But I'm definitely excited.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The studio has already changed.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So, which I saw, I'm better together.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It already looks different.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It already looks different.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We're recording here now because of it becoming different.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, yeah, floors are going down.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Whereas when crazy, when crazy, the pain to the whole.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That listen without the paint with the line of the.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, painted the painted the pool.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He might get that basketball goal up.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's about to be a vibe, man.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Number, kisha's telling me all the things she's making note.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She's putting notes in my mind of things that can't go from the house.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Ugh.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She's like, are you, are you, are you taking your, are you back, we're gonna take your, back drop, sort of.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The third chair, you took two of the chairs, the third one did you did.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm just asking.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He said I'm replacing my space.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The couch and the bedroom.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I mean, did you?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Is that good for a set?
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[SPEAKER_02]: We'll get these lights.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Say hey, man.
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[SPEAKER_01]: I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You're all aware.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't know.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't know if a piano going there.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't know what's fitting to happen.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She already got this mapped up somewhere.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Hey, well, hey.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It looks like I got his face to be me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I would be me, that space is way larger, way more opportunity to be me, but uh, would say something about the live show, I guess I am say something about the live show, least, just know that we don't know.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Just know they come in because the first one is tough.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's like the end, it's tough.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It sounds like we're honestly, we're gonna probably, I don't want to speak too soon,
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[SPEAKER_00]: We may end up having a move to the the large space for the first second.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay first one We're gonna make it do what they do that second one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm almost certain we're gonna have to go into the largest space because the capacity The demand for the space now
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[SPEAKER_00]: is it, it's overloaded.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So we got to move it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's not being airing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And that's, that's being, I'm looking at the logistics here that we don't have to spill over to the other space for the second one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because we really want to be more inclusive about, if you want to be there, we want to make it available for you to be there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're not going to, you know, try to be highly wood and keep the lines standing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I thought that that club game they play.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You want to be here, we'll let you in.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I've got a story about that for another part.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He's not with you all my day.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, share, subscribe.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Top of the year, top of the show.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_03]: Today's topic is, this one, do as I say, not as I did for this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This son, do as I say, not as I did, and my one of my country-broke local religions, we don't need you around here with the same old sub-reheated.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, okay, if I already made the mistake, yeah, please don't double down and run back and see if that things deal whole true.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If it was bad then it's it's highly likely it's bad now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Also, just because I did do something and it went well.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let's try something different perhaps.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe it's something more tailored to your personality.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like, just don't, don't be so focused on my shoes that you lose sight of.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We trying to make sure you have on your shoe.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, that's what I got on there.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, you want to park wait for sure.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Definitely not to park wait.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What you got.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Very, very similar in this, it's a click with a life in general, but specifically because we
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[SPEAKER_02]: kids are listening.
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[SPEAKER_02]: As they shoot, it wasn't intended for them not to hear it, but I'm getting concerned that they're hearing it in the sense of, well, it's all going to work out.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know saying it's it's all it's all gonna work out.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm not gonna.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm not gonna be as bad as what you saying Yeah, but I got my version of out the window That you know you say Come on, you know, you know, we ain't gonna go through all this business street Cuz that's not that's not what you see.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, it's not but
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[SPEAKER_02]: I want to give it context because it's meaningful in the sense of the difference between the relationship I have with my son versus what I have my father.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Again, always caveat.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Great father.
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[SPEAKER_01]: Yes, yes, yes.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, communication on both ends.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He wasn't sure what to talk about with some things and some things I just didn't want to talk about.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_02]: We'll talk more about it now.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But my son is bringing things to me that make me uncomfortable in the moment, but I don't stay there.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And it's things that I'm like, I never maybe to this day I still haven't talked to my dad about it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But he's bringing it to me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And sometimes I think it's in the lens of now.
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[SPEAKER_02]: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's a struggle was a bit of your background.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I know it's a struggle was I'm peeking into this struggle.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I'm laughing through it, it's comedic to a degree, but I did not take it serious.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_02]: So he's been bringing some things to me lately.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Talked about before in terms of dating a woman with the child and that wasn't about a, that didn't blow anything up for him.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So, but this particular one, I'm not gonna say what it is, but it was a thing that,
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[SPEAKER_02]: I had struggled with it in my past, and he kind of brought it to me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so you said on the better together, you, you, what has come out on the show goes to your mind and those scenarios, and I realized that happened to us like, I need to take a beat, not for the sake of having content, but for the sake of, let me make sure I'm here in this thing.
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[SPEAKER_02]: what he's saying right and that actually creating a scenario and responding to what he's not even intended to say, you know, we brought it to me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I was like, part of part of me wanted to be you better not traditional parents.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: In my life.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Because you couldn't notice.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: There's those that put them.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Um, and he when he came in the road, I knew it was something.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And my mind, I had to catch my mind from going to all of the things that it could be and just listen to what he was saying.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yes.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Because of all the conversations we had, I'm like,
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[SPEAKER_02]: So I'm already a grandfather.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, yes, cheers.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It wasn't it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Right, thank God.
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[SPEAKER_02]: At the time, it is recording.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, at the time, it's recording.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, at the time, it is recording.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He was like, um, we shut the door.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I said, oh, oh, you're going to have to have it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, yeah, I was like, yeah, I was like, a door, like, mm.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It was, it was a thing, but it was, it was manageable and we had a conversation about I was like strongly, ten out of ten, do not ten times out of nine, I do not recommend it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yes, I've had an issue with it, yes, I've struggled with it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: at this age for you.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's another thing I want to get to.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Pen in that at this age for you, this thing can get beyond you really quickly.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Additionally, if you're around other people that are being impacted by this, this is.
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[SPEAKER_02]: pick up the phone.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, don't don't stay in the place in your chance and things in your life because you, please, you did not be the uncle one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know what I'm saying?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Just because everybody else is not it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But yeah, that I mean, that's kind of kind of the kind of the framework.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I don't want to.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, no, I don't agree because I'm really excited about a conversation I had, this past week.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Um, obviously, my son is on that.
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[UNKNOWN]: I'll
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I called him to hit a ghost in my mind.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I got proof of life.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I did get proof of life.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's fine.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm gonna kill you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I won't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I won't.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I won't be with the fake.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Nobody lying on you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'll get a party red.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I only get a ghost.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So.
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[SPEAKER_00]: uh you know Jay was in town he has a cousin.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes uh Jay is 20.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He's home from the military.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's correct.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's accurate.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's 20.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The boy 19 he'll be 20 in a couple of Mark and Diesel.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I'm not in a place.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, it's okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, and then Joe uh Jay Lebrother he's
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[SPEAKER_00]: the boy lead us weekend going back to LSU, but a situation developed, they always historically little bro the heck out of Joe.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He the youngest of the three you catch it by default this your brother in your cousin this part of it I don't intervene because that's part of your that she'll write a passage my boy.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You got no Is that your job?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Get some over here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I need all of all the male cousins the females too They got the smoke too and that's this prepping your out for life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This will you get it?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, a situation development and you know, a little stuff turned the big thing if you internalize it too long.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So basically what ended up happening was Joe exploded.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Like had no.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, he had enough that he was over it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Stop playing with me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's a little little bros stuff making me very uncomfortable.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm not rolling with it no more.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So again, you have to let it take its course.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's a good peek into what your conflict resolution skills are looking like right now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All of you do y'all crash out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Does he crash out and that puts y'all in his own?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do you intervene?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do you match his energy?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Do you intervene being that you're not even involved?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Is them to a bystander?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or do you, hey, hey, we, I'm evaluate
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, when we got so it crashed out and then he's just he rolled out like I'm done.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no
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[SPEAKER_00]: We have to actively engage with these young men here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I explained to them the importance of, I didn't have any, what I'm about to tell you, I didn't have anybody to share this with me as a young man.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All I knew was crass out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We finished scrap, throw maybe throw some hands, we go out separate ways, we cool later this evening.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We all go hang out again, we back at square one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That was part of me and my cousin's existence.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We fight by day, we cool by night, if that went to that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was like, listen man, everybody got something to learn here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I feel like them dumping down on you as little bro is making you feel a certain way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We as men typically don't get the message of, hey man, express, I don't like how this making me feel.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Don't play with me like this.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This aggravating, this is aggravating me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm really about to snap, say something.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It don't have to be so structured and takes book, but it's nothing wrong with saying, hey, man, I had enough of that stop playing with me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so now, y'all have to receive it, because at the end of the day, I'm guilty of it with y'all.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Every time I see them, it's man with two lamals, for the dudes out doing y'all, man.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Y'all, man.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But I'm joking that you're trying to make your tougher and stronger so that when somebody comes at you like that in the street, you're not so susceptible to outside or outer influence or opinion.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm good man.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You playing with me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm trying to build your confidence but through the jerking.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I told him, Hey, I need to do a better job of actively praising y'all this way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I do but not enough.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I said, I love the three of y'all.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So when I stop critiquing you or trying to tell you, I didn't the way to do that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now you should be worried because now perhaps I've ridden you off.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't care letting you crash out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's a warning sign.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can't always dump down on your little brother man.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He look up to your whether you tell you that or not.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He's watching you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So if everything you're doing is criticize criticize criticize tear down mock laugh attack.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He feels
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[SPEAKER_00]: like I'm just not good enough.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He's not going to voice that perhaps maybe he don't even have the words.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Maybe he doesn't even know that that's the feeling that he's experiencing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: He just knows that he doesn't feel good or that it's acceptable to voice it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's acceptable to even tell you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't like how he's going.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So now you have to think of that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's nothing wrong with every now and then telling you a little bro, good job man, I see your boy, keep pushing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Man, I see your playing football and doing this here, whatever it is, don't be careful not to always be juggling and tearing down.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, not knowing that enough is enough.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Man, balanced that thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I saw him with some positive reinforcement or some uplift as we call it, you know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think that's, I think that's, that's don't to be that intentional about a thing like that, because nobody, it just kind of played out, even in my family, we were young, it just, it just played out until it didn't, until it didn't, until it didn't, and hopefully you get the lesson later in life, but I think it make a lot of sense to give it to them a real time.
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[SPEAKER_02]: yesterday was another one of those moments with uh, with E-lar.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, what's any of that time?
16:19
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, and the thing was, I was in my mind.
16:26
[SPEAKER_02]: like debate and whether or not I'm gonna pull them into it.
16:30
[SPEAKER_02]: It was very short live, but honestly, I had a flat, try to put air in it, wouldn't take air.
16:38
[SPEAKER_02]: She tried, right?
16:38
[SPEAKER_02]: So she went out there.
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[SPEAKER_02]: She was like, hey, this was going on.
16:41
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
16:42
[SPEAKER_02]: The dummy tie was, that was not in two of it, but her rem was messed up.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So it wouldn't, the seal was gone.
16:48
[SPEAKER_02]: It couldn't hold air unless they adjusted the rem.
16:50
[SPEAKER_02]: And I was like, let's just find another rem.
16:52
[SPEAKER_02]: Right.
16:53
[SPEAKER_02]: going to the studio had as benefits to because the shot was right there.
16:57
[SPEAKER_02]: I stopped and went in and was like, let me see before I order one.
16:59
[SPEAKER_02]: Let me, what did the sense of y'all?
17:01
[SPEAKER_02]: We got this right here.
17:01
[SPEAKER_02]: And on the way home, I'm thinking like, I probably didn't do this enough with none of them.
17:07
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
17:07
[SPEAKER_02]: And I just dropped them off.
17:08
[SPEAKER_02]: So everything, it's kind of fresh in my mind.
17:11
[SPEAKER_02]: So I texted you, I was like, uh, are you up?
17:15
[SPEAKER_02]: It should be up.
17:16
[SPEAKER_02]: It's too close.
17:18
[SPEAKER_02]: It should be up.
17:18
[SPEAKER_02]: And I knew he was up
17:20
[SPEAKER_02]: He's like, yeah, I said, um, you'll help me change on the time when I get home about 15 minutes.
17:26
[SPEAKER_02]: So I came in.
17:27
[SPEAKER_02]: Son of a son, yes, sir, let's get to it came out there.
17:32
[SPEAKER_02]: It was focused like learning like the, yeah, yeah, you know, I, I kind of put the jack in the ass like, hey, do you see this, the error right here, this indicates with a jack, the jack placement.
17:41
[SPEAKER_02]: Here's what we got to do.
17:42
[SPEAKER_02]: Put some under the back, the opposite rear tire, the opposite time period.
17:46
[SPEAKER_02]: And he's like, okay, got it, got it, got it, got it.
17:51
[SPEAKER_02]: I saw that boy to jack.
17:52
[SPEAKER_02]: He went to it went to end and now I had to make them take guys like you cool because you got to get it up a little bit off the ground.
18:00
[SPEAKER_02]: He's like now I'm good.
18:01
[SPEAKER_02]: So and I'm giving him these lessons and he never complained.
18:05
[SPEAKER_02]: I've loved like he looked like he was interested in the thing which was telling me.
18:12
[SPEAKER_02]: It's not so much that they're distracted by other things.
18:15
[SPEAKER_02]: In my house as it is, me not inviting them into whatever the thing is.
18:19
[SPEAKER_02]: Exactly.
18:20
[SPEAKER_02]: That I'm doing.
18:21
[SPEAKER_02]: Exactly.
18:21
[SPEAKER_02]: And it's, and I was, you know, I was giving him, you know, the logic and the theory is like, you know, we want to break that, we want to break the nut while this on the ground, we don't want to put too much force one way or the other while it's on the jack because you can rock the car.
18:35
[SPEAKER_02]: I got it, I got it.
18:37
[SPEAKER_02]: And the end of it, you know, it took us about,
18:40
[SPEAKER_02]: It probably took 20 minutes to do it, right?
18:42
[SPEAKER_02]: Did it took that long, right?
18:44
[SPEAKER_02]: And he was like, that was easy.
18:46
[SPEAKER_01]: There.
18:47
[SPEAKER_02]: But I knew it clicked.
18:49
[SPEAKER_02]: Like he was engaged in the whole thing.
18:50
[SPEAKER_02]: And I'm sorry to see with him, like, including me.
18:56
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
18:56
[SPEAKER_01]: It's like there.
18:57
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm here with this.
18:59
[SPEAKER_02]: It included me.
19:00
[SPEAKER_02]: If I'm in the kitchen cooking, I'm noticing he's coming down, stairs, and sitting there.
19:04
[SPEAKER_02]: Before, I'm like, he's waiting for dinner.
19:07
[SPEAKER_02]: No, he, yeah.
19:08
[SPEAKER_02]: was what's going on?
19:10
[SPEAKER_02]: Why do you do this first?
19:11
[SPEAKER_02]: Why do you use olive oil and butter?
19:13
[SPEAKER_02]: I wouldn't, I wouldn't, I was going through your mind with that.
19:16
[SPEAKER_02]: So I'm, you know, again, as a value to show, which is not rocket science.
19:21
[SPEAKER_02]: The many people, it's this routine.
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[SPEAKER_02]: muscle memory to have these conversations to be inclusive.
19:34
[SPEAKER_02]: And to not disconnect them from the thing that they haven't tried to disconnect themselves from.
19:41
[SPEAKER_02]: Exactly.
19:41
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, just give me, you can't get me to me.
19:44
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
19:44
[SPEAKER_02]: All too often, I've uh,
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[SPEAKER_02]: I've used my childhood as an excuse to not give them certain lessons there, right?
19:56
[SPEAKER_02]: And then had a nerd to be a little annoyed that they don't understand.
19:59
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
20:00
[SPEAKER_02]: A thing that's going on.
20:03
[SPEAKER_00]: Good.
20:03
[SPEAKER_00]: Not because you all to get a point about that very thing.
20:06
[SPEAKER_00]: And also in the spirit of.
20:09
[SPEAKER_00]: Do as I say, not as I did.
20:10
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
20:11
[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We as men.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm talking about our generation.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We as men.
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[SPEAKER_00]: through muscle memory, perhaps out of habit, creatures of habit.
20:22
[SPEAKER_00]: We're so in love with our childhood or our right of passage or our path that we took to get what we are.
20:30
[SPEAKER_00]: We criticize the younger generation for the path that they have to go on, right?
20:36
[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm noticing this a lot with a lot of other things as well.
20:41
[SPEAKER_00]: Um, careers.
20:43
[SPEAKER_00]: Michael Irvin, right now, 10 people are new one about this current league when they've survived in his era.
20:50
[SPEAKER_00]: The current, the past NBA players are saying that this current league when they've survived, same thing in childhood.
20:57
[SPEAKER_00]: We went, we went here.
20:58
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
20:59
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
20:59
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm, I'm guilty as well.
21:01
[SPEAKER_00]: But we went through a certain thing and if that thing is just not prevalent or present anymore, it's not their fault.
21:06
[SPEAKER_00]: They can't go create the environment to prove to you, they're capable of surviving or going through this environment.
21:13
[SPEAKER_00]: So again, with them three young men at the house, that's usually when I really get my bag out, so recently went to an event.
21:24
[SPEAKER_00]: This past weekend and this is young hothead, a dope man.
21:29
[SPEAKER_00]: He says I'm slick to me, and he knew it.
21:34
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, he's intentionally trying to talk slick to me.
21:37
[SPEAKER_00]: And I come all the way, when I fall to do this.
21:41
[SPEAKER_00]: He had three people with him.
21:43
[SPEAKER_00]: I acknowledge the other three people.
21:45
[SPEAKER_00]: Come back to this guy, Nahi.
21:48
[SPEAKER_00]: Reached the embrace, shake my hand.
21:49
[SPEAKER_00]: But still got something to slick to say.
21:52
[SPEAKER_00]: God bless you, brother.
21:53
[SPEAKER_00]: That's all I got for you.
21:55
[SPEAKER_00]: So as I'm walking away, he's sliding one more.
21:59
[SPEAKER_00]: He's he really tapping on my shoulder on the cool verbally understand and I see what I would like to do how I would like to respond but as you know better you do better.
22:14
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
22:14
[SPEAKER_00]: So I had this in gaze.
22:18
[SPEAKER_00]: Watch out.
22:20
[SPEAKER_00]: I used that as a teaching moment for the three young men at my house that night.
22:26
[SPEAKER_00]: almost bad at me one in the mouth tonight, but here's why I did not, this isn't the way to go, trying to show them, I can honestly say 20 years ago, in any day, I'm at the station.
22:43
[SPEAKER_00]: I got to have you, I have to bro you for the, we can do whatever come with it, let's go.
22:48
[SPEAKER_00]: That's not right.
22:50
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
22:50
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't condone.
22:51
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't endorse.
22:53
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm praising the fact that I'm no longer in that mental space, but I'm trying to show them as well.
22:59
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't get caught up in this male ego as a drug environment out here that somebody trying to.
23:06
[SPEAKER_00]: talk you into a course you into their ignorance or their space or their energy that's don't align with what you know to be now the next move after that if you rise above that the next attack is to femininity card you solve all you don't want to know what I don't want to do
23:28
[SPEAKER_00]: It's not for me to explain to you.
23:31
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't know why I'm walking away, but I could have just saved your life, walking away.
23:35
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, my ass, I'm not going to be a bad man.
23:36
[SPEAKER_00]: Somebody lives just got spared perhaps.
23:38
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
23:39
[SPEAKER_00]: Prison jail, what a record.
23:42
[SPEAKER_00]: Who cares?
23:44
[SPEAKER_00]: Why?
23:45
[SPEAKER_00]: you're choosing to walk away.
23:47
[SPEAKER_00]: Just know within yourself why you walking away.
23:50
[SPEAKER_00]: And be cool with that.
23:51
[SPEAKER_00]: It's hard.
23:53
[SPEAKER_00]: It's hard.
23:54
[SPEAKER_00]: It's basically the beginning of a yo personality falls.
23:57
[SPEAKER_00]: My personality not really made for people to play with me like that, however, you can't just rattle my cage and I'm under yo control.
24:07
[SPEAKER_00]: I can't just relinquish control to you over me, like that.
24:11
[SPEAKER_02]: Even perfect example, would you just get imagine that perfect example?
24:15
[SPEAKER_02]: Um, do you, are you ever concerned with how you communicate?
24:23
[SPEAKER_02]: the was, the from to them gives them some inkling or desire to prove themselves in that way in any man.
24:35
[SPEAKER_02]: I just defied, but just in any manner because I'm gonna go back to the to dawn and story with it.
24:40
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't only because I'd make certain that in that same moment of me speaking on it,
24:49
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, I'm absolutely not proud of that.
24:52
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I'm ashamed of it.
24:53
[SPEAKER_00]: If I feel like if I tell it as a glorious story, okay, you know.
24:57
[SPEAKER_00]: And 20 years ago, I was knocked out by a tee that is mine.
25:00
[SPEAKER_00]: We moved on and I ain't, and now in their mind,
25:04
[SPEAKER_00]: That's what I'm supposed to do, I'm supposed to, yeah, but I say something to me, I'm supposed to put my hands on it.
25:09
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
25:10
[SPEAKER_00]: No, no, no, no, no, I feel like your delivery is where the concern with life.
25:15
[SPEAKER_00]: My concern is always to make certain that when I do, even speak on things I've done in the past, because it's nostalgic.
25:22
[SPEAKER_00]: So you may have a glaze on your face, your smile, and you are almost looking in the cloud.
25:28
[SPEAKER_00]: Every plan you live in, your smile, and they look at your face like each, oh, look like.
25:33
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, he missed that or something.
25:35
[SPEAKER_00]: So you have to be mindful not to not to glorify it to a point and then come back and double down and be like those were the day.
25:44
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
25:45
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I think I got to do much better.
25:48
[SPEAKER_02]: It's not even just I present in the manner of it not being a
26:03
[SPEAKER_02]: I just, for some reason, because of what he sees the day or what he has seen, looking successful, it's almost like.
26:17
[SPEAKER_02]: you're also proved that it can turn around.
26:22
[SPEAKER_02]: You're also proved that it, and again, it's not, it's never going to the point why I haven't been positioned to get to a point while disengaging or when they say, a no contact is a thing now, right, right?
26:35
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm not, I'm not trying to get to that point, but it, it concerns me.
26:41
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm grateful that he's bringing these things to me.
26:44
[SPEAKER_02]: It concerns me about how strong of a message or influence I have after that conversation.
26:57
[SPEAKER_02]: Putting yourself in certain environments, and I've said it before the environment is way more likely to change you before you change it, yes or.
27:04
[SPEAKER_02]: But I also know that I've been the one in my crew with amongst other things when I see something
27:10
[SPEAKER_02]: Hmm, at least not today, right?
27:14
[SPEAKER_02]: At least you don't say, and I'm not saying that I never, but at least not today, I recognize that something about this can go way left there.
27:23
[SPEAKER_02]: I've also had the way left moments.
27:25
[SPEAKER_02]: The way left moments, and I'm a thumb on the bus a little bit, because he, you know, because he, I hope that he was,
27:36
[SPEAKER_02]: see live under the bus that well he he uh it's it was about communication right it was manage and freedom okay right okay new year's Eve I was under the impression that he was standing out all night which was I knew the day before somewhere along the line what was at your house matter fact I wasn't aware of it but uh Kiesu was contacting them and he
28:03
[SPEAKER_02]: So, Nail, that's the measure.
28:05
[SPEAKER_02]: Yes.
28:06
[SPEAKER_02]: He's doing whatever big chilling or, you know, that.
28:11
[SPEAKER_02]: We had a conversation about what's appropriate, whatever he did, he got to own that.
28:15
[SPEAKER_02]: We didn't come home.
28:16
[SPEAKER_02]: Yes.
28:17
[SPEAKER_02]: So, Nail, he's asked the work in the morning at six, and then she's frazzled.
28:21
[SPEAKER_02]: And then I'm getting messages.
28:22
[SPEAKER_02]: Yes.
28:24
[SPEAKER_02]: And, um...
28:26
[SPEAKER_02]: I was smiling and I'm like, my mind, I'm kind of like, I know this play like, I have to for sure.
28:33
[SPEAKER_02]: Like, they wouldn't have been able to find me, like, bring them up.
28:38
[SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
28:39
[SPEAKER_02]: But then I started thinking about, oh, hold on, hold on, hold on, we just had conversations about some things.
28:45
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
28:46
[SPEAKER_02]: Is that that played?
28:47
[SPEAKER_02]: Yes.
28:47
[SPEAKER_02]: So now I'm texting the waiting, texting the waiting, calling, I'm like, hmm.
28:56
[SPEAKER_02]: And Keesha had his location, took himself out of the group chat, out of the family thing.
29:02
[SPEAKER_02]: To turn his location on, so I'm like, I can't get my boy, I got you.
29:06
[SPEAKER_02]: You, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you
29:23
[SPEAKER_02]: I was like, when I got the page you all took that and then gave it back so that I can caught my dad became the one that pays me the most, but that's at the mercy of me telling you I'm somewhere, not tracking, that's right, I know that I'm there, so he sent it to me and I'm like, okay, so I'm starting to go over there, Keisha is me, she's like,
29:42
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm leaving work going over there, hold on, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, hey, I'm to two miles away from going in anyway, you know what I'm saying?
29:55
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, yeah, that's that, I'm not, no, I'm not confused hurt, I'm in, I'm in motion, sad now because he thinks something has to be, it's after we're over.
30:04
[SPEAKER_02]: It's consigned.
30:05
[SPEAKER_02]: And that's why he under the bus because he got a shed.
30:07
[SPEAKER_02]: It's he got a shed.
30:10
[SPEAKER_02]: You got a shed as well.
30:12
[SPEAKER_02]: And so you know, the location, luckily, so now I'm thinking like, okay, was that just the last location that he was at?
30:20
[SPEAKER_02]: Is his phone was on where he's not, I don't know his friends.
30:24
[SPEAKER_02]: I don't know his friends.
30:24
[SPEAKER_02]: Paris, you know what I'm saying?
30:25
[SPEAKER_02]: So it was like, now I'm knocking on doors.
30:27
[SPEAKER_02]: Based on whatever the location said.
30:30
[SPEAKER_02]: And you know, I found me, you know,
30:34
[SPEAKER_02]: I ain't wild out of that.
30:36
[SPEAKER_02]: But because I'm here, you get in the car.
30:38
[SPEAKER_02]: You got that.
30:38
[SPEAKER_02]: And we, this ain't no welfare chip.
30:41
[SPEAKER_02]: You got to come with me.
30:42
[SPEAKER_02]: That's why I told my father.
30:43
[SPEAKER_02]: He said, did he leave?
30:44
[SPEAKER_02]: We just said, I don't, I don't go to the wood fence checks, like I'm not going over there to figure out the view okay, then I go back to where I was, if you got what I'm doing or so you got it.
30:55
[SPEAKER_02]: But it was, it was a choir round home.
30:58
[SPEAKER_02]: And then by the time we got home, he was, he, you know, I'm saying, he realized what was going on.
31:02
[SPEAKER_02]: I was like, hey,
31:03
[SPEAKER_02]: the actions.
31:04
[SPEAKER_02]: It's bigger than you, bigger than even though this was not I'm not accused of anything.
31:11
[SPEAKER_02]: If you want to tell me something cool, it's not what this is about.
31:14
[SPEAKER_02]: This is different.
31:16
[SPEAKER_02]: Now now you're raising levels of concern like you got you got to get that that message.
31:22
[SPEAKER_02]: So again, hearing hearing about me, being out all the time as a night, no curfew to 230, you know what I'm
31:34
[SPEAKER_02]: If you'd rather sleep, you'd rather sleep.
31:36
[SPEAKER_02]: If, however, she got to meet me guys and you guys think, but now, you don't like the time.
31:42
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, because now you have white possibly, but I wasn't there.
31:47
[SPEAKER_02]: I was already out for a lot of it.
31:50
[SPEAKER_02]: No, no, no, no, I'm saying he had no, make sure I'm not lying about how it was for me.
31:56
[SPEAKER_03]: Hey, mama.
31:58
[SPEAKER_02]: No, hey, mama.
31:59
[SPEAKER_03]: Still like I'm not on it.
32:00
[SPEAKER_03]: He jumped from me on the camera.
32:02
[SPEAKER_03]: Nope.
32:03
[SPEAKER_03]: Okay.
32:06
[SPEAKER_03]: Let's say I had to the people.
32:07
[SPEAKER_03]: They're high.
32:08
[SPEAKER_03]: We're going to fall.
32:09
[SPEAKER_03]: Not the way.
32:10
[SPEAKER_03]: Look to the look.
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[SPEAKER_03]: This new.
32:16
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I'm sorry about when you leave because just see more of the one that was pushing them limits.
32:26
[SPEAKER_02]: Don't don't don't don't be chillin don't don't don't don't be tell you too much In most cases, yeah, in most cases, I'm going here.
32:34
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm going there.
32:35
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm going here.
32:36
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm going here.
32:36
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm right here.
32:38
[SPEAKER_02]: Right, and then maybe that's another thing that uh maybe I've been to dismiss of of
32:44
[SPEAKER_02]: that.
32:45
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
32:45
[SPEAKER_02]: And once I was telling you the one on the back five, I'm like, hey, you told me one thing that you said something else.
32:53
[SPEAKER_02]: I was like, what you can do is get to play you.
32:56
[SPEAKER_02]: Don't cross your mind, like you can not do that.
32:59
[SPEAKER_02]: You can not do that.
33:00
[SPEAKER_02]: But, but, but think it back to like some of the stuff that I pulled, I never pulled the all night with eight thought I was coming home.
33:07
[SPEAKER_02]: I know I didn't have that in me, I didn't have that in me, I didn't have that in me, and it wasn't a huge pool there.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It was just a communication.
33:15
[SPEAKER_02]: It just was like, are you?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Tell me.
33:17
[SPEAKER_02]: That cut talk out.
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[SPEAKER_02]: He's saying he was...
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[SPEAKER_02]: Stan out, she's like, no, the latest four hours ago, he said it was coming home.
33:23
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, God.
33:24
[SPEAKER_02]: Now are you in a ditch somewhere?
33:26
[SPEAKER_02]: Right.
33:27
[SPEAKER_02]: Or New Years, where the likelihood of something terrible happening on the road, people who's not being in any right minds, think it's an influx.
33:36
[SPEAKER_02]: Because it's not necessarily even you, like you just said, it could be somebody else.
33:39
[SPEAKER_02]: Correct.
33:40
[SPEAKER_02]: So being that environment, I just wanted to make sure that he, and that's something that came up in the council.
33:46
[SPEAKER_02]: When he brought the thing to me, I was like, man,
33:51
[SPEAKER_02]: Like, you'll always be accepted for doing everybody's normal.
33:54
[SPEAKER_02]: Yes.
33:55
[SPEAKER_02]: You'll be respected for doing what you want to do.
33:58
[SPEAKER_02]: Correct.
33:59
[SPEAKER_02]: At some point, correct.
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[SPEAKER_02]: At some point, maybe not immediately.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Especially when it looks different.
34:05
[SPEAKER_02]: when you're always like the end crowd is full of, that's why it's in inclusion.
34:10
[SPEAKER_02]: Everybody's fickle.
34:12
[SPEAKER_00]: True.
34:13
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't fall in love with the crowd.
34:14
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That crowd, man.
34:17
[SPEAKER_00]: You go do your thing and watch how quickly the crowd jump on.
34:20
[SPEAKER_00]: What we doing?
34:20
[SPEAKER_00]: Right.
34:21
[SPEAKER_00]: So imagine if you just were to fill in with them.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
34:24
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I'll just deal with you over there.
34:25
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
34:25
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
34:26
[SPEAKER_02]: So that's how we started the year.
34:29
[SPEAKER_02]: And it was like I said it was interesting day.
34:36
[SPEAKER_02]: I felt my, my Tim Suras, not even an anger, but a concern, yeah, and I hadn't felt like that.
34:44
[SPEAKER_02]: In a long time, I can't remember the last time I was.
34:48
[SPEAKER_02]: like, like, like, what's I don't know what's happening?
34:53
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm not talking about being angry because somehow I'm talking about, like, I don't I am out of control.
34:56
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, what is the status of this person?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like, where are they?
35:01
[SPEAKER_02]: Are they okay?
35:02
[SPEAKER_00]: I thought you were trying to shoot a slew, but I don't know why I'm glad it's like how you did it.
35:06
[SPEAKER_02]: No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no, no,
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[SPEAKER_02]: making sure that I'm having the full conversations and I think that happened there, but also maybe I owe more of, well, I got it right.
35:29
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
35:31
[SPEAKER_00]: Cause you could've been on whatever.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
35:34
[SPEAKER_00]: And you weren't, you know, you were not.
35:37
[SPEAKER_00]: So we did, we did, we did.
35:39
[SPEAKER_02]: We did right by, yeah, yeah, yeah.
35:41
[SPEAKER_02]: But just give him more scenarios
35:46
[SPEAKER_02]: I'm big on this platform with big on, let me share my mistakes to make you aware, not just so you don't repeat them, but here's what may be ingrained in you.
35:56
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, that you need to be aware of and you don't want a scenario to bring this thing out half-as-a-lead, you don't.
36:03
[SPEAKER_02]: You can try to manage it.
36:05
[SPEAKER_02]: But also, probably more conversations about, so this is what I actually got it right.
36:11
[SPEAKER_02]: Right here.
36:16
[SPEAKER_02]: Not the, that to do that, I chose to make a small decision.
36:20
[SPEAKER_02]: Um, it just given, given more of a reference of, of all of it.
36:26
[SPEAKER_02]: I've been, I think I've been over indexing on, man, here's why I messed up there.
36:31
[SPEAKER_02]: And then leave it, leave it to chance to see what kind of right looks like to be with it.
36:37
[SPEAKER_02]: Do you, do you, are you sure your conversation is taking?
36:43
[SPEAKER_02]: Especially when it wouldn't be in a way of school now, like, you know what would this visit tell you?
36:50
[SPEAKER_00]: Boy went backwards, man.
36:51
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't do that.
36:51
[SPEAKER_01]: I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care, I don't care,
37:10
[SPEAKER_00]: I sent my son a way to college.
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[SPEAKER_00]: A certain kind of way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That was ready for the world man in my mind.
37:19
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
37:21
[SPEAKER_00]: And he came back a little Hollywood on me in my opinion.
37:25
[SPEAKER_00]: That's how I'm a word that yeah, I told you a part of the red.
37:29
[SPEAKER_00]: So he went before he left to go the way, go away to college.
37:35
[SPEAKER_00]: If the trash can was fully gonna put the trash, I don't care.
37:37
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm for the pop that boy.
37:39
[SPEAKER_00]: If the trash can't fool, he gonna put the trash out.
37:43
[SPEAKER_00]: He putting the recycle out on recycle day.
37:47
[SPEAKER_00]: Put the trash out on the trash days.
37:49
[SPEAKER_00]: If his little brothers needed some assistance with some, he took care of it.
37:54
[SPEAKER_00]: He was in the mix.
37:55
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
37:56
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh yeah.
37:57
[SPEAKER_00]: Now, this college kid, excuse me, I don't like this college kid.
38:04
[SPEAKER_00]: Because now, because now, he's hate.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I hate, they want him home.
38:13
[SPEAKER_00]: He's sleep to 12 noon.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
38:16
[SPEAKER_00]: No, sir, that's blasphemy.
38:18
[SPEAKER_00]: That's blasphemy.
38:19
[SPEAKER_00]: I told him, yeah, we don't do this.
38:21
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't care if it's Sunday, Saturday.
38:25
[SPEAKER_00]: Cause by 9.30, everybody feed on the flow in this house.
38:30
[SPEAKER_00]: The man, anyway, I don't have that problem with your mom.
38:34
[SPEAKER_00]: if not she linger.
38:36
[SPEAKER_00]: The males in the house, there are four males in this house.
38:41
[SPEAKER_00]: By 1930, four sets of men feet on this floor.
38:45
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't go cut the grass.
38:46
[SPEAKER_00]: Go go rub the wall.
38:47
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't get what you're doing.
38:49
[SPEAKER_00]: But land down won't be it.
38:50
[SPEAKER_00]: Get up.
38:50
[SPEAKER_00]: Let's do stuff.
38:52
[SPEAKER_00]: This guy land down.
38:54
[SPEAKER_00]: This guy not taking the trash.
38:56
[SPEAKER_00]: I didn't know it was over the trash.
38:58
[SPEAKER_00]: I hadn't put in the tank in that trash.
39:00
[SPEAKER_00]: I know you're not talking to
39:02
[SPEAKER_00]: You're not talking to me.
39:08
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't care.
39:09
[SPEAKER_00]: And for that young lady in the comment section, who would turn to me, talk about this all the time?
39:15
[SPEAKER_00]: I think he ate him.
39:16
[SPEAKER_00]: I love him.
39:17
[SPEAKER_00]: I love his soul.
39:19
[SPEAKER_00]: That's why I got something to say to him.
39:21
[SPEAKER_00]: Because I won't let you be less than great, because I love you.
39:26
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
39:26
[SPEAKER_00]: So listen, man, because when I'm trying to steal an all my sons,
39:30
[SPEAKER_00]: even if you go to your aunt's house, your girlfriend's house, a relative house, a friend's house, a lady you're dating.
39:39
[SPEAKER_00]: So, and if the trash fool, that's not the wrong one.
39:41
[SPEAKER_00]: We're grabbing the trash.
39:42
[SPEAKER_00]: Hey, we are normally keeping our trash in a police house.
39:44
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, just do the manly thing.
39:46
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't be like, we're not in my house, not in my trash.
39:49
[SPEAKER_00]: Sure, it is.
39:50
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
39:50
[SPEAKER_00]: Get just just the lesson.
39:52
[SPEAKER_00]: Don't pay attention
39:56
[SPEAKER_00]: of what's going on, pay attention to the lesson that's being taught.
40:00
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I'm teaching you responsibility and accountability.
40:03
[SPEAKER_00]: It's just dressed with a trash can with trash and to it in the top.
40:08
[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I'm saying?
40:10
[SPEAKER_00]: I don't like this cool passive guy.
40:15
[SPEAKER_00]: It's a phase, I'm sure.
40:16
[SPEAKER_00]: No, no, no, no.
40:17
[SPEAKER_00]: It's a phase.
40:17
[SPEAKER_00]: No, I'm going through it too, it's a... You remember the question you asked about,
40:23
[SPEAKER_00]: You will concern about his drive or you can do it.
40:25
[SPEAKER_00]: You don't have your drive.
40:28
[SPEAKER_02]: Get the call back.
40:29
[SPEAKER_02]: I tried to say you'd be.
40:30
[SPEAKER_02]: I tried to say you'd be.
40:31
[SPEAKER_00]: No, I tried to say you'd be.
40:32
[SPEAKER_00]: You'd be a sir.
40:33
[SPEAKER_00]: Try to shoot us some big homages saying.
40:36
[SPEAKER_00]: He going back to college this Saturday.
40:37
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
40:39
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm from the giving that PIP dog Friday night.
40:42
[SPEAKER_00]: Hey, hey, hey, group auto.
40:43
[SPEAKER_00]: You and your mama.
40:45
[SPEAKER_00]: I got, I got, I got, I got, I got it.
40:48
[SPEAKER_00]: I got to get both of the youth people together, man.
40:51
[SPEAKER_00]: I got to get both of these people together.
40:53
[SPEAKER_02]: I don't want to wipe it down.
40:55
[SPEAKER_02]: I don't want to wipe it down like this.
40:57
[SPEAKER_02]: There's something.
40:58
[SPEAKER_02]: Do as I say.
41:00
[SPEAKER_02]: Not as I did.
41:00
[SPEAKER_02]: What are some things?
41:02
[SPEAKER_02]: Since it's still early in twenty twenty six.
41:06
[SPEAKER_02]: That you need to align your actions with.
41:09
[SPEAKER_02]: More.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Around what you say.
41:12
[SPEAKER_00]: My health.
41:15
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm constantly talking to my children about making long term.
41:18
[SPEAKER_00]: informed decisions about the effects on their lives, their bodies, their health, their nutrition.
41:26
[SPEAKER_00]: And I have to align my actions with my words.
41:30
[SPEAKER_00]: Like, they eat good, they eat their vegetables and all of this thing, but they back door with, how can I add this candy?
41:36
[SPEAKER_00]: Can I get a snack?
41:37
[SPEAKER_00]: How can I get a soda?
41:38
[SPEAKER_00]: We don't really let them drink sodas.
41:40
[SPEAKER_00]: They drink, they make it two sodas a month.
41:49
[SPEAKER_00]: Well, I can't have a stance on like that, and I'm not living it.
41:54
[SPEAKER_00]: They're by by, but the hypocrisy of it all, like, my, well, listen to the song of that, that you say some of that for yourself.
42:02
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
42:02
[SPEAKER_00]: And you get on that band way.
42:04
[SPEAKER_00]: And so in 26, I must align my actions with my words, pertaining to my health.
42:10
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
42:11
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
42:11
[SPEAKER_02]: For me, it's, uh, being smarter with money.
42:17
[SPEAKER_02]: like I've been avoiding, avoiding conversations because like I've been bearish meant to a degree.
42:22
[SPEAKER_02]: But now, especially with Donovan, work in every two weeks, he's getting used to it.
42:27
[SPEAKER_02]: And that was the track that I let myself fall into.
42:30
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
42:31
[SPEAKER_02]: Much larger scale, right?
42:33
[SPEAKER_02]: Right, right, right, right.
42:34
[SPEAKER_02]: Much larger scale, more, more, more liability to task to it, but just now,
42:40
[SPEAKER_02]: Demonstrating it and forcing it for us because then it's like I'm asking questions and make like try to keep it top of my It's coming to a point like hey hey 2k 26 I mean with with Let's go it's no I'm talking about the game.
42:58
[SPEAKER_02]: Oh You know they'd be buying the packs and all that oh Like they count they count still Like the count still in my name he'd be paying for but I'm like hey, man.
43:07
[SPEAKER_02]: Hey, but I see you hey you
43:10
[SPEAKER_02]: that could be.
43:12
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, but again, got to be mindful.
43:14
[SPEAKER_02]: Dude, I say not as I did.
43:16
[SPEAKER_02]: I got to make, I got to do more aligned in my, uh, my walk with my talk, so that this is reinforcing in every area.
43:25
[SPEAKER_02]: Just say the other one is probably going big.
43:28
[SPEAKER_02]: I know there's been a thing for me, but uh, not even just going big, but showing up as we really are like stop playing, playing down to situations, playing down the crowd, playing down
43:40
[SPEAKER_02]: expectations, yours are other people's, you know, definitely, definitely working on that, not specific to 26, but because we're here.
43:51
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, just a mile marker.
43:52
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm taking a couple more risks in 26.
43:54
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm a little too safe right now.
43:58
[SPEAKER_00]: Yes.
44:00
[SPEAKER_00]: I definitely look back and see some opportunities
44:06
[SPEAKER_00]: I could have taken some aggressive risks in 25, and I feel like it would have really paned out better than I gave it credit.
44:15
[SPEAKER_00]: I just was like, I felt like I talked myself into a viewing it as that's just taking a risk for the sake of taking a risk.
44:24
[SPEAKER_00]: And that's not true because this is not, these are investments per se.
44:28
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm rolling the dice this year, man.
44:35
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, you got to do something all you got to go.
44:37
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
44:37
[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm getting pretty aggressive this year.
44:43
[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
44:44
[SPEAKER_02]: Definitely getting aggressive on this content.
44:46
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
44:46
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
44:47
[SPEAKER_02]: If you're this part of the show, you care.
44:50
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
44:51
[SPEAKER_02]: There's no, no, there's some more.
44:55
[SPEAKER_02]: Some more shows come in the volume is going to pick up on the channel in general.
45:00
[SPEAKER_02]: You'll see some different things all the line with the, with the messes with the, with the purpose.
45:10
[SPEAKER_02]: But I'm just, I don't have, I haven't really had excuses.
45:18
[SPEAKER_02]: I've had reasons that I've given that people accept.
45:22
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
45:23
[SPEAKER_02]: But you, you, you, you, you've, you've accepted a couple of them.
45:25
[SPEAKER_02]: Just, just, I don't think she's my partner.
45:28
[SPEAKER_02]: Whatever, but I, I don't really have nothing's in the way right now.
45:33
[SPEAKER_02]: Right.
45:34
[SPEAKER_02]: Nothing that can't be overcome because there'll be obstacles.
45:37
[SPEAKER_02]: It wouldn't be fun without obstacles.
45:38
[SPEAKER_02]: No, no, okay, but I'll land.
45:40
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, but it's, uh, it, it is always for the taking.
45:45
[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
45:47
[SPEAKER_02]: Take it.
45:47
[SPEAKER_02]: Take it.
45:48
[SPEAKER_02]: Take it.
45:48
[SPEAKER_02]: Take it.
45:49
[SPEAKER_00]: Take it.
45:49
[SPEAKER_00]: Taking it.
45:50
[SPEAKER_00]: Uh, if you got nothing else, I got nothing, man.
45:52
[SPEAKER_00]: Be intentional.
45:53
[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, you know, we hadn't said that in a while, uh, and I always remember to ask yourself, at what cost?
45:58
[SPEAKER_02]: And what cost?
45:59
[SPEAKER_02]: Use your words, people.
46:01
[SPEAKER_02]: Talking to me, uh, that's going to do a for this episode.
46:04
[SPEAKER_02]: We appreciate you guys.
46:05
[SPEAKER_02]: God bless you, peace.
46:06
[SPEAKER_02]: Peace.