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Would You Let AI Pick Your Soulmate?--Sidney Marsh, CEO of Distill · Inside The Moms Club

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  Speaker 1: Welcome, moms. Welcome to the Mom's Club. I'm Monica, Samuel
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  Speaker 1: is your host, and I'm here with my lovely co host,
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  Speaker 1: Julie Orchid.
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  Speaker 2: Hi Monica, Hi Julie.
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  Speaker 1: I am so excited. You know, this show is pretty
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  Speaker 1: special to us because our guest, we have a very
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  Speaker 1: special guest we do.
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  Speaker 2: We have a guest that you know, treat is our own.
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  Speaker 3: You know.
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  Speaker 1: Well, that's what that takes me back to why the
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  Speaker 1: Mom's Club to start out.
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  Speaker 2: With totally we love this story.
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  Speaker 1: We are a group of five moms. We started out
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  Speaker 1: as close, close friends, and that's what so many of
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  Speaker 1: you moms have out there. You have these close, tight
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  Speaker 1: friendships that you're there for each other for everything. And
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  Speaker 1: so our kids went to school together, graduated in twenty twenty,
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  Speaker 1: which was rough, which was rough, and they moved. They've
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  Speaker 1: done great, as we shall suit and see by yeah
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  Speaker 1: when we're about to meet, but we're always we've traveled together.
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  Speaker 1: Since that time, we become like truly lifelong.
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  Speaker 2: We've done everything together.
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  Speaker 4: There's been you know, some illnesses, you know, there's been
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  Speaker 4: some surgeries, there's been some a divorce. You know, these
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  Speaker 4: are a lot of things that you know women need
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  Speaker 4: women for as friendships and groups. We've learned a lot
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  Speaker 4: about each other when we travel together. We learn yeah,
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  Speaker 4: who needs what? Who's snarky?
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  Speaker 1: Who?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah? Like all of these things that friendships.
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  Speaker 1: Who the good drivers are the good? Bad drivers?
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  Speaker 2: Are not mentioning any.
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  Speaker 1: Name names because I'm the bad driver, but anyway, not
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  Speaker 1: a bad but no, it's a supportive that's the thing.
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  Speaker 1: The Mom's Club is all about your friendships and supporting
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  Speaker 1: each other, and women have that and guys don't have those.
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  Speaker 5: Listen.
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  Speaker 4: I've always had a really strong group of friends. I'll
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  Speaker 4: say that I went I was lucky enough to go
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  Speaker 4: to a college where I still talk to those people
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  Speaker 4: every day, happy to say my youngest is started there.
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  Speaker 2: But I will also say that our group.
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  Speaker 4: We really really needed each other, and I would not
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  Speaker 4: be the same person I am without you guys for sure,
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  Speaker 4: Like it was really do or die these past five
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  Speaker 4: years with you know you guys and my friends. So
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  Speaker 4: I mean that really touches my heart. And I think
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  Speaker 4: that you know, you need a group of friends that
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  Speaker 4: you can talk to every day if you need to,
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  Speaker 4: or that you need to cry with, or you need
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  Speaker 4: to laugh with, or you know.
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  Speaker 2: It's it's critical.
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  Speaker 4: It's critical, and you don't really know it sometimes until
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  Speaker 4: something happens that's hefty.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, and we've had our hefty moments.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, I feel like I'm leading the hefty moment lead.
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  Speaker 4: I'd like someone else to do.
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  Speaker 1: Keeping score on that. Yeah, we have one person in
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  Speaker 1: or our group. He seemed everything goes great for her,
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  Speaker 1: So she's our example. That would not be me, but no,
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  Speaker 1: it's it's yeah, and that's what all all of you
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  Speaker 1: moms who are out there who are listening, that you
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  Speaker 1: all have that too in your life. I'm sure and
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  Speaker 1: if you don't, I'm sure that you're going to meet
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  Speaker 1: that group of women who will be your lifelong friends.
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  Speaker 1: My mom had a group called the Bridge Club.
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  Speaker 2: They played bridge bridge one time, one time, Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And they never did again. But they were together through everything.
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  Speaker 1: And my mom, as of last October, the last survivor.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah of her.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, but that's a really good like a sign of
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  Speaker 4: long friendships. So yeah, my kids used to make fun
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  Speaker 4: of me because I'd be like, I'm going to book
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  Speaker 4: club tonight.
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  Speaker 2: They're like, yeah, we know all about book club. What
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  Speaker 2: are you reading? I don't know, but we're going to
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  Speaker 2: book club tonight.
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  Speaker 1: Read people read the book. Well, you know one person
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  Speaker 1: who reads the book. Yeah, yeah, I actually did read.
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  Speaker 1: I did read the last book.
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  Speaker 2: I listened to the last book.
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  Speaker 1: I know you did, and you kept telling me, I'm
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  Speaker 1: listening to it. I keep falling asleep.
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  Speaker 2: I never said that.
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  Speaker 1: Well, the other great thing about the support that moms
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  Speaker 1: give each other is that we can help each other
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  Speaker 1: understand things that we may not understand because the world
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  Speaker 1: is changing so fast, and so one of the things
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  Speaker 1: that is changing is I'm learning a lot about dating.
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  Speaker 1: You have two sons, and I don't quite understand how
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  Speaker 1: the dating scene works for this new generation.
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  Speaker 2: So I mean, I'm sure they've tried to explain it to.
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  Speaker 1: The other night. For example, so my husband I went
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  Speaker 1: to dinner at this restaurant and the boys, my son
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  Speaker 1: and his friend were there, and they said, oh, yes,
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  Speaker 1: our friend so and so he asked his girlfriend to
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  Speaker 1: be official at this restaurant. It was they were talking
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  Speaker 1: about how they helped plan it and the whole thing,
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  Speaker 1: and I said, okay, explain to me the trajectory.
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  Speaker 2: Explained to me the stage of dating.
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  Speaker 1: Well, there's meeting them. I forgot what they called that
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  Speaker 1: there's hooking up, which I didn't want to hear about.
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  Speaker 2: Didn't you use the term hooking up? What they used
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  Speaker 2: a different word?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I forgot what they said exclusive. And then there's
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  Speaker 1: this moment where you have a restaurant meeting and you
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  Speaker 1: officially ask for this girl to be your girlfriend.
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  Speaker 4: And so then, so what's the difference between Well, I
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  Speaker 4: said exclusive, and yeah, I said, I said what girlfriend?
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  Speaker 1: Between the exclusive and officially girlfriend boyfriend? And the boys
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  Speaker 1: didn't know. They said, oh, I don't know what now
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  Speaker 1: that I stumped them, But then we asked them one
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  Speaker 1: yesterday and they said, oh, no, the difference when your
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  Speaker 1: boyfriend girlfriend you officially ask it means that you're going
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  Speaker 1: to introduce them to your parents.
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  Speaker 4: And I had to question question because.
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  Speaker 1: My son spent a week's vacation at this girl's house
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  Speaker 1: and met her parents and spent a week with them,
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  Speaker 1: and I still was not allowed to call that girl
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  Speaker 1: his girlfriend because oh my gosh.
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  Speaker 2: Well he didn't have the dinner, he didn't have the dinner,
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  Speaker 2: and ask, yeah, just that.
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  Speaker 1: Was happening when I hadn't even know there's not been official.
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  Speaker 2: You got Jeff Monica, I did.
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  Speaker 1: So I'm still confused, and this is my point. And
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  Speaker 1: so that is why we are so excited today to
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  Speaker 1: have a true expert in this field that she is.
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  Speaker 1: But not only an expert, but the daughter of one
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  Speaker 1: of our friends that we described earlier, and we'll meet
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  Speaker 1: her later.
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  Speaker 4: Well, she's not only the daughter, but she is an accomplished,
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  Speaker 4: accomplished CEO.
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  Speaker 1: Well, just let me give her.
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  Speaker 2: I'm sorry, I got real excited my own.
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  Speaker 1: Proper do here. She is the CEO and co founder
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  Speaker 1: of Distill, which is a next generation dating app that
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  Speaker 1: uses AI technology to bring efficiency, transparency, and intentionality back
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  Speaker 1: to modern dating apps.
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  Speaker 2: She's started in the.
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  Speaker 1: Company as a senior at Dartmouth in twenty twenty four
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  Speaker 1: and recently launched a beta version of this app in
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  Speaker 1: New York City. Please welcome, Sydney Marsh. Welcome to the
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  Speaker 1: Mom's Book. Well, Sydney, okay, so.
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  Speaker 2: How about that introduction?
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  Speaker 1: You like?
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  Speaker 6: That?
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  Speaker 1: Was that a good introduction?
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  Speaker 2: That was perfect?
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  Speaker 1: Good? Thank you? Well, yeah, so, Sydney, we you're the expert.
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  Speaker 1: And we know you're the expert because you've explained a
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  Speaker 1: lot of this to us. I've we had many meetings
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  Speaker 1: to discuss this.
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  Speaker 2: Huh.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I didn't even Yeah, occasionally I was thinking to myself,
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  Speaker 1: I have no idea what she's talking about, but I
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  Speaker 1: was like, I kind of got it. So we're gonna
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  Speaker 1: take it for all these moms like me out there
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  Speaker 1: who aren't so tech savvy to understand. But this has
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  Speaker 1: an AI artificial intelligence for you moms out there who
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  Speaker 1: don't have any clue what's going on in the world
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  Speaker 1: right now. It has that component which is a brand
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  Speaker 1: new thing that's happening everywhere, and it's what makes Distill
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  Speaker 1: different and exceptional. So can you explain, first of all,
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  Speaker 1: what is Distill? Explain to someone who's a mom who
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  Speaker 1: just woke up in this century and wants to know
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  Speaker 1: what's going on here with this dating thing?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, keep it. Keep it like breakfast round table. Like
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  Speaker 2: if I'm asking you how your date was last night?
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  Speaker 2: You know, Okay, go ahead.
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  Speaker 7: Huney, I can do that.
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  Speaker 8: But yeah, So what I'm so excited about to still
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  Speaker 8: is we're trying to have an entirely new paradigm for
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  Speaker 8: online dating. So all these apps you've heard about, Tinder,
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  Speaker 8: bumble hinge et cetera.
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  Speaker 7: Are all based off a swhite based paradigm and what
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  Speaker 7: I mean by that is you see a.
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  Speaker 8: Bunch of options, you're spending less than a minute is
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  Speaker 8: the average, looking at each profile, and you're making snap
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  Speaker 8: decisions mostly based.
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  Speaker 7: On how attractive they are.
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  Speaker 8: Like, let's be honest, we think that that's super psychologically unhealthy.
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  Speaker 8: It teaches you to commoditize people, and it's a massive
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  Speaker 8: time waster. I mean, the average is people are spending
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  Speaker 8: an hour days wipe thing. So when you're I mean, frankly,
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  Speaker 8: a lot of my friends are investment bankers in New
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  Speaker 8: York and just don't have the time to do that.
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  Speaker 7: They're working eighty hundred hours a week.
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  Speaker 8: So you think there is not only a better way
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  Speaker 8: emotionally and psychologically, but also just to be efficient, like
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  Speaker 8: you should spend your time resting or going to the
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  Speaker 8: gym and working out, or connecting with friends.
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  Speaker 7: Are you know Lo and Behold actually go on a date.
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  Speaker 8: So what we're trying to do is basically democratize this
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  Speaker 8: amazing thing which is matchmaking. And matchmaking has been around forever.
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  Speaker 8: I'm sure you've heard people talk about the new Indian
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  Speaker 8: Matchmaker Show or all of these things that are coming
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  Speaker 8: out today. But what's great is that AI actually makes matchmaking,
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  Speaker 8: which is typically a service that you have to pay
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  Speaker 8: for and cost thousands, if not tens of thousands, up
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  Speaker 8: to one hundred thousand dollars, and it's typically something people
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  Speaker 8: would only do in America at least when they're much older,
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  Speaker 8: like in their forties fifty sixties. We're bringing that downstream
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  Speaker 8: to people in their twenties and thirties, and because of AI,
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  Speaker 8: this can actually be an.
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  Speaker 7: Affordable service that everyone can use.
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  Speaker 8: So by you go on you onboard and you train
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  Speaker 8: your personal AI agent about your personality and preferences, that
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  Speaker 8: agent goes out and sources and vets matches for you,
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  Speaker 8: which completely eliminates.
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  Speaker 7: The need to swipe.
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  Speaker 8: And instead of just doing that, it also so it
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  Speaker 8: gives you the full agent to agent transcripts, So that
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  Speaker 8: means your agent is talking to someone else's personalized trained agent.
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  Speaker 8: So just think of it as their personal matchmaker who
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  Speaker 8: their only job is to represent your interests.
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  Speaker 7: You can see the conversation between those two people.
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  Speaker 8: Imagine your two best friends talking to each other saying
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  Speaker 8: I think that person A and person HY.
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  Speaker 7: Are great because of this, and you can see all
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  Speaker 7: of that.
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  Speaker 8: So it's one hundred percent transparency as to why this
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  Speaker 8: one was or wasn't a recommendation.
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  Speaker 7: So that's the high level.
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  Speaker 2: Allah, yeah, that's perfect.
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  Speaker 4: But when you say vetting, like are you talking like
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  Speaker 4: how deep does it go? As far as your personality?
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  Speaker 4: Like what you're like, what you don't like, are you religious?
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  Speaker 4: Are you you know? All these things that people like
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  Speaker 4: run through the gamut of why you wouldn't like somebody
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  Speaker 4: or you would absolutely.
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  Speaker 8: So what's so great is you can kind of make
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  Speaker 8: the experiences personal and deep levels you want it to be.
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  Speaker 8: Of course, sure, we have the basic level questions you
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  Speaker 8: have to ask us, like what's your religious background, what's your.
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  Speaker 7: Age, where are you from?
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  Speaker 8: Things like that, But if you want to get very granular,
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  Speaker 8: you want to say I want some and that wakes
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  Speaker 8: up between seven and nine am. Like your agent can
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  Speaker 8: vet based off of that preference. So the more information
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  Speaker 8: you give us about what you like yourself and what
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  Speaker 8: you hope to have in a partner, the more deeply
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  Speaker 8: your agent can vet someone. So some common things we
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  Speaker 8: see in the agent agent conversations are what's their communication style,
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  Speaker 8: what's their future plans? Like, how do they view gender
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  Speaker 8: roles in a marriage? Things like that so your agent
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  Speaker 8: can really dive so much deeper than you ever could
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  Speaker 8: on any other swipe based app.
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  Speaker 1: So when I first heard about this, I said, so
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  Speaker 1: someday I'm going to go to someone's wedding and I'm
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  Speaker 1: gonna say, how'd you two meet? And it's like, well,
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  Speaker 1: our my AI agent met his and at all often, Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: that's how this thing. They Yeah, it's but that's the
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  Speaker 1: new world that we're in.
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  Speaker 4: So well, I love this because we're learning as moms,
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  Speaker 4: we're evolving and like how this happens for you guys.
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  Speaker 4: And you know what's so popular about online dating because
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  Speaker 4: we didn't really have that, Like I didn't get to
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  Speaker 4: put in that I wanted to date somebody who's six
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  Speaker 4: to two, you know.
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  Speaker 2: What I mean? Or you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 4: All these things that you like start out on the
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  Speaker 4: regular app and then you move to this, So this
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  Speaker 4: is even more personal about how it is. I mean,
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  Speaker 4: we don't have to arrange marriages anymore.
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  Speaker 1: We don't have to, well we kind of want to, well,
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  Speaker 1: you know, and that's the city can help with that.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: So anyway, but I'm just saying, like, in general, tell
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  Speaker 4: us some stories about distill and you know.
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  Speaker 1: You've started this beta test. I mean, have you had
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  Speaker 1: some successes? Have you seen some matches here?
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  Speaker 7: Absolutely?
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  Speaker 8: And one of the stories I love to tell is
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  Speaker 8: related to this person. No i'll leave out his last name,
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  Speaker 8: but he's okay with me sharing the story.
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  Speaker 7: So one of our great.
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  Speaker 8: Beta testers, a great guy in the city I know
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  Speaker 8: him personally, got on the app. And something I should
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  Speaker 8: mention is, because it's all AI and your AI is
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  Speaker 8: going to continue to get better and learn with you,
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  Speaker 8: it's not gonna be perfect the first time because we
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  Speaker 8: don't have a perfect understanding what we want the first
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  Speaker 8: time either.
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  Speaker 7: I mean, it's very.
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  Speaker 8: Easy for me to rattle off, oh yeah, build a
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  Speaker 8: dream guy like this is what I want, but that's
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  Speaker 8: not actually reflective of my t through preferences. So your
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  Speaker 8: AI is going to learn along the way and get
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  Speaker 8: refined and better with times. So the reason for that
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  Speaker 8: is we have some good fits, which are people that
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  Speaker 8: your AI agent thinks are within your stated preferences, and
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  Speaker 8: then some not a good fits, which are people that
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  Speaker 8: are slightly outside.
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  Speaker 7: Of those preferences. And what we've found is it's.
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  Speaker 8: Really helpful to show people both so you can kind
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  Speaker 8: of get an understanding of oh, this is what my
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  Speaker 8: agent actually thinks I want. Let's think about if that's
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  Speaker 8: actually the case. So an example of this is Noah,
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  Speaker 8: he sees this girl she's in is not a good
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  Speaker 8: fits and he takes a very quick glance at her
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  Speaker 8: profile and goes, I don't she's beautiful, she's the right age,
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  Speaker 8: she's in the right location, she's got a great job.
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  Speaker 7: Why is this not a good fit? I would like
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  Speaker 7: to meet her?
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  Speaker 8: So he goes into the agent agent conversation and actually
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  Speaker 8: realizes that is agent uncovered that she's an extreme homebody
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  Speaker 8: and he's actually quite extroverted and likes to go out
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  Speaker 8: quite a bit.
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  Speaker 7: And he's like, that's not something I don't I would
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  Speaker 7: have figured out until like the.
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  Speaker 8: Second or third date. And at that point that's like
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  Speaker 8: eight hours of my time. Maybe if these dates are
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  Speaker 8: generally going well, that's hundreds of dollars, it's one hundreds.
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  Speaker 2: Of dollars later, so these.
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  Speaker 1: Days especially, Yeah, yeah, that's interesting.
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  Speaker 8: So he's like, I'm so glad I know this because
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  Speaker 8: I shouldn't go on a date with this groll. Maybe
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  Speaker 8: we'd be great friends, but this isn't what I'm looking
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  Speaker 8: for In a long term partner. And when you have
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  Speaker 8: that intentional mindset of I only want to go on
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  Speaker 8: a date with someone that I want to continue dating
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  Speaker 8: and see long term, that just helps truly distill the
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  Speaker 8: dating pool. You're not willing to go on a date
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  Speaker 8: with everyone. You're wanting to go on a date with
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  Speaker 8: just amazing, high quality fits for you.
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  Speaker 1: So when you showed us the beta, so when you
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  Speaker 1: showed us how it works. By going through with us,
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  Speaker 1: you created your own profile. So you put yourself into
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  Speaker 1: this world and it gave you people that you mashed with,
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  Speaker 1: and it gave you people you didn't. Now you as
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  Speaker 1: the founder, the CEO, you can look through that and
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  Speaker 1: did you make any adjustments, like you know because some
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  Speaker 1: of the guys you know, some of them you don't,
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  Speaker 1: the ones you actually know. Did you say, okay, that
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  Speaker 1: that's not really driving with what I really know, So
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  Speaker 1: maybe we need to refined because you said it's learning.
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  Speaker 1: So did you make changes based on your own personal
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  Speaker 1: experience with this or what have you learned from being
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  Speaker 1: part of the distillery?
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  Speaker 8: I guess I think the biggest thing we've learned so
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  Speaker 8: far in the beta is how can we ask people questions?
• 15:16
  Speaker 7: That get them to reveal specifics about what they want.
• 15:19
  Speaker 8: It's so easy to say, oh, yeah, I want someone
• 15:21
  Speaker 8: who's fun and good looking and like to have a
• 15:24
  Speaker 8: good time, Like that's great, doesn't really tell us that
• 15:27
  Speaker 8: much about you.
• 15:27
  Speaker 7: We want to.
• 15:28
  Speaker 8: Prompt people to say very specific things like I really
• 15:31
  Speaker 8: want someone who speaks a second language and would be
• 15:33
  Speaker 8: interested in teaching me that second language. Like we want
• 15:36
  Speaker 8: people to reveal specifics about them because on a Swite
• 15:39
  Speaker 8: based platform, the goals to kind of make yourself is
• 15:42
  Speaker 8: generalizably appealing to as many people as possible because you
• 15:46
  Speaker 8: want as many matches as possible. That's not how Distill works.
• 15:49
  Speaker 8: We want you to be authentically yourself and you shouldn't
• 15:51
  Speaker 8: match with hundreds of people at a time because people
• 15:55
  Speaker 8: don't like you. Should only have a couple of good
• 15:57
  Speaker 8: fits that are very highly tailored to you. So that's
• 16:00
  Speaker 8: kind of what we've been working on with the beta
• 16:02
  Speaker 8: is like, how do we get the right questions out
• 16:04
  Speaker 8: of people, how do we get people talking, how do
• 16:07
  Speaker 8: we learn and a big thing, I'll say the transition
• 16:09
  Speaker 8: from the beta to we're going to have a full
• 16:12
  Speaker 8: scale app that will be launched in the beginning of
• 16:14
  Speaker 8: twenty twenty six is the beta is just typing out survey.
• 16:21
  Speaker 7: We're going to use voice AI.
• 16:23
  Speaker 8: Actually it's in our onboarding process with a native app.
• 16:25
  Speaker 8: This means we can get people talking, we can figure
• 16:28
  Speaker 8: out where their voice gets excited and high pitched and like, Okay,
• 16:31
  Speaker 8: she really cares about family values because that's what she
• 16:33
  Speaker 8: started talking about. We're going to ask a questions about
• 16:36
  Speaker 8: that and use branch and technology to kind of follow
• 16:39
  Speaker 8: up on that.
• 16:40
  Speaker 4: I mean, it's no secret that people like if I
• 16:44
  Speaker 4: was going to go on a dating app, I'd probably
• 16:46
  Speaker 4: have Monica write it.
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: I'm a good writer and she's a really good.
• 16:50
  Speaker 4: Writer, and then I'd go out at that date and
• 16:52
  Speaker 4: I'd be like it said what Yeah, So I mean
• 16:54
  Speaker 4: this is good that the voice activated things like that
• 16:57
  Speaker 4: because you make it really genuine and that's what I love.
• 17:00
  Speaker 4: Like you, like you said, you don't want twenty or
• 17:02
  Speaker 4: thirty people, you want the quality of three people.
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we talked yesterday a little bit. Are where are
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: you are you bringing.
• 17:10
  Speaker 4: In more information about these people? I mean, do you
• 17:13
  Speaker 4: go to social media or how is it? Is it
• 17:15
  Speaker 4: intertwined or to make it more person.
• 17:18
  Speaker 1: Besides what they're saying about themselves, because they can say
• 17:20
  Speaker 1: almost anything about themselves.
• 17:22
  Speaker 4: I mean, I'm sure Monica you got a glowing yes,
• 17:24
  Speaker 4: I would, oh my gosh, you'd be very so desirable.
• 17:30
  Speaker 1: Yes.
• 17:31
  Speaker 7: Well.
• 17:31
  Speaker 8: One of the big ways that we can kind of
• 17:32
  Speaker 8: verify if people are representing themselves accurately is, of course,
• 17:36
  Speaker 8: we have AI analysis of the photos you submit, so
• 17:39
  Speaker 8: like the three.
• 17:40
  Speaker 7: To five photos that you give to us.
• 17:42
  Speaker 8: Also, you can choose to upload screenshots of your Instagram
• 17:45
  Speaker 8: page or another social media page that you think represents you.
• 17:48
  Speaker 8: So that's kind of a way that we can kind
• 17:50
  Speaker 8: of match up your personalities. Like, for example, if I'm
• 17:52
  Speaker 8: super loud and boisterous in all my photos and I
• 17:54
  Speaker 8: describe myself as this quiet, timid little mouse, like my
• 17:58
  Speaker 8: AA agent's going to maybe yeah. An example of this
• 18:02
  Speaker 8: is my co founder, Like when we were initially doing
• 18:05
  Speaker 8: our testing before we had users, he made a profile
• 18:08
  Speaker 8: and was trying to present himself as a single person
• 18:10
  Speaker 8: he's been married for a while, using younger photos of
• 18:13
  Speaker 8: himself with his then girlfriend who's now his wife, and
• 18:16
  Speaker 8: his AI agent was like, I think you're dating someone.
• 18:19
  Speaker 7: Why why is there all these pros like maybe maybe
• 18:22
  Speaker 7: you shouldn't be on this platform.
• 18:24
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yeah, exactly, there's going to be some of those
• 18:27
  Speaker 4: wild we can out there.
• 18:32
  Speaker 1: Nothing nothing is perfect, right, so and well I feel
• 18:36
  Speaker 1: like we can share this too. So you you have
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: a boyfriend that you met at the gym, So there's
• 18:41
  Speaker 1: the old fashioned way of doing this. So how do
• 18:44
  Speaker 1: you compare the old fashion way and what do you
• 18:46
  Speaker 1: believe the difference between If I'm advising my son, you know,
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: you should still go, you should join the running club,
• 18:52
  Speaker 1: you should do this, or hey, you should get on there.
• 18:55
  Speaker 1: Just still and maybe that's the way you can find
• 18:58
  Speaker 1: a match that's most perfect for you. Won't spend so
• 19:00
  Speaker 1: much time with this girl you think loves to run,
• 19:03
  Speaker 1: but turns out she's she really fitting for you, you
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: find out.
• 19:07
  Speaker 7: Five weeks later.
• 19:08
  Speaker 1: So what's your advice about that?
• 19:10
  Speaker 7: Absolutely not.
• 19:11
  Speaker 8: The first thing I'll say is I would never discourage
• 19:13
  Speaker 8: people from trying to reach out in real life. I
• 19:16
  Speaker 8: think that that's a great way to meet someone and
• 19:18
  Speaker 8: I love that that's the start of my story with
• 19:21
  Speaker 8: my now boyfriend. But yeah, I think that still is
• 19:24
  Speaker 8: just a great additional tool. Because there are a lot
• 19:27
  Speaker 8: of things and just for example, social media in general,
• 19:30
  Speaker 8: has made people unfortunately more intolerant to in person rejection
• 19:34
  Speaker 8: because it's so easy to tell online kind of get
• 19:36
  Speaker 8: a vibe for someone.
• 19:37
  Speaker 7: Is or isn't into you, versus if you're cold approaching.
• 19:39
  Speaker 8: Someone, it's either a flat yes or a flat no,
• 19:41
  Speaker 8: and you don't really know where it's going to go.
• 19:43
  Speaker 7: So people are being increasingly like I think.
• 19:46
  Speaker 8: There's a stat I saw from Date Psychology saying forty
• 19:50
  Speaker 8: five percent of men that are eighteen to twenty five
• 19:53
  Speaker 8: have never approached a woman before.
• 19:54
  Speaker 7: I think that's a shame.
• 19:56
  Speaker 8: I think people should approach people, but that's unfortunately the reality.
• 20:00
  Speaker 8: So we want to give people more tools available to
• 20:03
  Speaker 8: them so they have more opportunities to meet great people.
• 20:05
  Speaker 2: That's amazing. I'm loving this. I feel like I think
• 20:09
  Speaker 2: it's good.
• 20:10
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: Should should women who have a current boyfriend just fast
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: track it and say, hey, you need to get on distill.
• 20:18
  Speaker 1: I need to make you know do we match up?
• 20:20
  Speaker 2: Oh?
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: Like it would be a way to figure we really
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: we are a good fit or maybe oops, we should
• 20:26
  Speaker 1: think about this.
• 20:27
  Speaker 2: Possibly. I don't have a future like.
• 20:29
  Speaker 1: Sect and act to this where people can just check out,
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: you know who they're dating and say like, let's all
• 20:35
  Speaker 1: put our stuff, let's just match ourselves.
• 20:37
  Speaker 4: I think she's just trying to quality match some good pupils.
• 20:41
  Speaker 5: I want to.
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: Totally quality match. So I'm just saying, if this is good,
• 20:44
  Speaker 1: think about it.
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I could just say this.
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: Is my perfect match. This is a better match than
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: if I kept.
• 20:49
  Speaker 8: You know, we're certainly not building a platform that's aimed
• 20:53
  Speaker 8: to break up current couples, right.
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: Oh well I wouldn't. We hope that wouldn't happen. But
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: I mean, but if you save some marriages, you know,
• 21:00
  Speaker 1: that's another one.
• 21:01
  Speaker 7: So I will say I'll say this one thing.
• 21:03
  Speaker 8: There was someone that's on the platform that I dated briefly,
• 21:07
  Speaker 8: and my AA agent called out one.
• 21:09
  Speaker 7: Or two reasons why it didn't think we were a
• 21:11
  Speaker 7: good fit. Those are exactly why we didn't continue.
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: So yeah, that's.
• 21:17
  Speaker 2: Out exactly exactly.
• 21:19
  Speaker 6: Great.
• 21:20
  Speaker 4: How much how much do you have to go out
• 21:23
  Speaker 4: and talk about to still and tell me what your day,
• 21:26
  Speaker 4: what your day looks like?
• 21:28
  Speaker 2: A absolutely?
• 21:29
  Speaker 7: I think every day looks so different from me. I
• 21:31
  Speaker 7: mean truly week by week.
• 21:32
  Speaker 8: Like for example, I'm booking my flight to SF for
• 21:35
  Speaker 8: Tech Week coming up in October, so I'll be doing
• 21:38
  Speaker 8: events for that. I mean, just last week I hosted
• 21:41
  Speaker 8: a founder funder mixer with Upfront Ventures. I'm going out
• 21:45
  Speaker 8: and meeting venture investors either just socially, to just build
• 21:49
  Speaker 8: those relationships, and very soon it's going to be truly
• 21:52
  Speaker 8: actually pitches, so having two or three pitches a day,
• 21:55
  Speaker 8: hopefully even more. But yeah, I mean, it varies so much.
• 21:58
  Speaker 8: I mean, tonight I'm going to an event to support
• 22:01
  Speaker 8: female founders, and that's also a big part of I mean,
• 22:04
  Speaker 8: female founders are so dear to my heart because I
• 22:06
  Speaker 8: am one, and also like there's so much room in
• 22:09
  Speaker 8: the world for where female founders can make so much
• 22:11
  Speaker 8: of impact, particularly with AI, because AI is going to
• 22:14
  Speaker 8: shape so much of the world. If women are not
• 22:17
  Speaker 8: at the table when those decisions about how we can
• 22:20
  Speaker 8: use it appropriately are made, it's going to have ripple
• 22:22
  Speaker 8: effects that affect everyone, including women.
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: I love that. I think we need to take a
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: class in AI.
• 22:29
  Speaker 1: We definitely do. I will say this about AI one day.
• 22:33
  Speaker 1: I put my own name in there and see what
• 22:34
  Speaker 1: learn about myself. It was great. It was perfect spot
• 22:38
  Speaker 1: one except that said I had three children.
• 22:40
  Speaker 9: You do.
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: I'm still wondering who that third one is.
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: I know who it is.
• 22:44
  Speaker 1: She has her theory, but I'm like, yeah, so it's
• 22:47
  Speaker 1: not perfect. Everybody should know there are some things that
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: it doesn't get right. And I still look at the
• 22:51
  Speaker 1: spots works and.
• 22:54
  Speaker 8: That's so important into like why we think the evolving
• 22:57
  Speaker 8: feedback loops. So when you're giving your answer, if you
• 23:00
  Speaker 8: are you aren't interested in suggested or not suggested fits,
• 23:03
  Speaker 8: It's going to get better because I mean I think
• 23:05
  Speaker 8: we're all just gonna be blown away by how good
• 23:07
  Speaker 8: AI becomes. Like even in a year from now, it's
• 23:10
  Speaker 8: going to be night and day different. So starting now
• 23:13
  Speaker 8: when it's still learning, so we have this amazing data
• 23:15
  Speaker 8: set and can create really interesting and accurate matches for everyone.
• 23:20
  Speaker 1: Yeah, well it's very exciting, I mean, and it's exciting
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: that you're a CEO at soon to be twenty four
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: years old. That's very impressive. Yeah, who goes to you, Sydney.
• 23:32
  Speaker 4: I mean this is amazing, sure, I mean, I've learned
• 23:34
  Speaker 4: do great things about this. This app is amazing, and
• 23:37
  Speaker 4: I can tell you that your pitch to this is
• 23:39
  Speaker 4: excellent because I have so many questions afterwards and love
• 23:44
  Speaker 4: to learn about it.
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: So all of that's positive.
• 23:46
  Speaker 4: I did ask you if I would be the oldest
• 23:48
  Speaker 4: person on your app, and you're.
• 23:52
  Speaker 7: Like, it's aimed for people in their twenties.
• 23:54
  Speaker 8: Twenties, so courage anyone if you have children and that
• 23:57
  Speaker 8: aing rage, should check it out exactly back.
• 24:00
  Speaker 2: For gat children, I know, I know, I sometimes forget.
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: We have some wonderful women, our zoomer moms, who I'm
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: sure have a lot of questions I know about this.
• 24:09
  Speaker 1: So welcome zoomer moms. Welcome to the moms.
• 24:12
  Speaker 2: Yes, okayt wait to do what we're gonna say.
• 24:14
  Speaker 1: All right, welcome ladies. So let's start with Kathy. Tell
• 24:24
  Speaker 1: us a little bit about yourself. Where are you from?
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: And do you have a question for Sidney?
• 24:29
  Speaker 5: Yeah, a million questions.
• 24:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 24:32
  Speaker 6: First of all, Sidney, my goodness, you're brilliant. I think
• 24:34
  Speaker 6: this is this is amazing because there's so many things
• 24:37
  Speaker 6: out there nowadays where they're triggering and people get angry
• 24:41
  Speaker 6: very easily, whether that be politics or religion or heck,
• 24:45
  Speaker 6: even your favorite sports team. This can avoid a lot
• 24:48
  Speaker 6: of those conflicts upfront, So kudos to you.
• 24:52
  Speaker 7: My name is Kathy Ward.
• 24:53
  Speaker 5: I'm from Plano, Texas.
• 24:55
  Speaker 6: I've got a daughter who's twenty five and a son
• 24:58
  Speaker 6: who's twenty one, and they're the greatest bla things in
• 25:00
  Speaker 6: my life. And it's you know, Monica and I've had
• 25:03
  Speaker 6: this conversation. It's a very different point in your life.
• 25:05
  Speaker 6: And you love it. Like my daughter came to me
• 25:07
  Speaker 6: for advice today and I'm like, oh, I love it
• 25:09
  Speaker 6: when my kids ask me it for advice.
• 25:11
  Speaker 7: You know.
• 25:12
  Speaker 5: But I'm a former elected official.
• 25:14
  Speaker 6: I'm a former special special education teacher, did radio for
• 25:19
  Speaker 6: about ten years here in the Dallas area, and currently
• 25:22
  Speaker 6: serve on a commission for the state of Texas. My
• 25:25
  Speaker 6: question is, do you have plans one for older people
• 25:30
  Speaker 6: like is down the road?
• 25:32
  Speaker 5: You know, especially you know unfortunately.
• 25:34
  Speaker 7: Divorce and I've been through a divorce before.
• 25:36
  Speaker 6: It's part of it's part of the reality of our world.
• 25:41
  Speaker 6: Do you have plans to open up that field for
• 25:45
  Speaker 6: people who are older, who are maybe getting into their
• 25:47
  Speaker 6: second marriage or sometimes third marriage. And then also, is
• 25:52
  Speaker 6: there a way at Monica you kind of talked about it.
• 25:55
  Speaker 6: I would love to go in there and plug myself
• 25:57
  Speaker 6: in and my husband in. Maybe can you have a
• 25:59
  Speaker 6: separate apps people.
• 26:00
  Speaker 1: Who are like I don't think that is a bad
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: in the beginning of your marriage.
• 26:04
  Speaker 6: You're like, well, I don't want to tell somebody that
• 26:06
  Speaker 6: I binge True Crime for twenty hours over right, So
• 26:10
  Speaker 6: do you all have some plans moving forward like those
• 26:13
  Speaker 6: with those areas?
• 26:15
  Speaker 8: Absolutely great questions, And to your first one, I'll say
• 26:17
  Speaker 8: my vision for this app in the future that we
• 26:20
  Speaker 8: are right now targeting people in their twenties to thirties
• 26:22
  Speaker 8: and urban areas, is I want to see in everything
• 26:24
  Speaker 8: app I want I mean AI and agentic systems. So
• 26:28
  Speaker 8: not just one AI agent talking to another AI agent,
• 26:30
  Speaker 8: but this entire system of like little busy bees that
• 26:33
  Speaker 8: are communicating with each other and creating a fully fleshed
• 26:35
  Speaker 8: out ecosystem, can learn how different relationship dynamics work. Like
• 26:40
  Speaker 8: maybe like a man and a woman in their fifties
• 26:42
  Speaker 8: post divorce don't flirt or don't aren't attracted the same
• 26:45
  Speaker 8: types of things as a man and a woman that
• 26:47
  Speaker 8: are both twenty five. Do Maybe if like, like think
• 26:50
  Speaker 8: about jswipe, Maybe like that is a different set of
• 26:52
  Speaker 8: like qualities and qualifications, and that's what we can build to.
• 26:56
  Speaker 8: So not just you personally, but also the types of
• 26:58
  Speaker 8: relationships you're seeking. So absolutely we'd love to expand into
• 27:02
  Speaker 8: all different relationship types and ages, races, religions, everything like that.
• 27:08
  Speaker 8: In addition, I think that your second question gets it's
• 27:11
  Speaker 8: something that's so critical. What we've really discovered about our
• 27:14
  Speaker 8: beta pool is people. I mean, we've always known this,
• 27:16
  Speaker 8: but people love learning about themselves. It's why BuzzFeed is
• 27:20
  Speaker 8: such a big thing. People like to know what donut
• 27:21
  Speaker 8: they are, Like, people just love to hear about themselves
• 27:24
  Speaker 8: and just that process of self discovery and that's something
• 27:26
  Speaker 8: that's really cool without our platforms. So when you create
• 27:29
  Speaker 8: a profile and distill you, actually your AI agent generates
• 27:33
  Speaker 8: a personality and value summary about you, and that's something
• 27:36
  Speaker 8: that your matches can see. And you do have the
• 27:38
  Speaker 8: ability to make edits if you think, for whatever reason
• 27:40
  Speaker 8: something wasn't wrong. But that's kind of a cool way
• 27:43
  Speaker 8: to learn about yourself, and it could be a great
• 27:45
  Speaker 8: way that your partner can learn about you, Like, oh,
• 27:48
  Speaker 8: I didn't realize that you love travel photography and that's
• 27:51
  Speaker 8: a real big passion for you and that's so represented
• 27:53
  Speaker 8: on your social media page or it's something that you
• 27:55
  Speaker 8: talk about when you talking about your favorite pastimes. So
• 27:58
  Speaker 8: absolutely like that self descovery aspect, not just in your
• 28:02
  Speaker 8: preferences for a partner, but actually yourself. And an example
• 28:05
  Speaker 8: for me is people always tell me you're so extrovert,
• 28:07
  Speaker 8: you're so extroverted, whereas I kind of consider myself like
• 28:11
  Speaker 8: kind of in the middle. But then I sort of
• 28:12
  Speaker 8: saw myself through other people's eyes and I'm like, yeah,
• 28:14
  Speaker 8: actually I am pretty extroverted. I guess that's true, and
• 28:17
  Speaker 8: just learning more about myself. So absolutely love that.
• 28:19
  Speaker 1: I just had a great idea, why don't we start
• 28:21
  Speaker 1: mom's clubs using this a I think people can actually
• 28:24
  Speaker 1: meet friends that We'll talk to her about that later. Yeah, Constanza,
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us where you're from,
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: a little bit about yourself and do you have a
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: question for Sydney.
• 28:36
  Speaker 10: Oh yeah, hi guys. I'm Constanza. I am from Brazil,
• 28:40
  Speaker 10: currently living in Miami. I am a mother to a
• 28:43
  Speaker 10: beautiful and healthy and wonderful and incredible eleven year old daughter.
• 28:48
  Speaker 10: So this is very much top of mind for me,
• 28:51
  Speaker 10: and my ears are fully present and I am listening
• 28:54
  Speaker 10: and I am worried. So my daughter is eleven, I
• 29:01
  Speaker 10: can't help to think, you know, sort of what the
• 29:03
  Speaker 10: future holds for her when she's at the right age
• 29:05
  Speaker 10: of dating because as we know, it's not allowed quite yet. No,
• 29:09
  Speaker 10: but well to still make dating fun. And I think
• 29:12
  Speaker 10: this could all kind of mean a lot for everyone, right,
• 29:15
  Speaker 10: I feel like the fun of dating kind of is
• 29:17
  Speaker 10: completely out of the picture as recently, I'd hear from
• 29:20
  Speaker 10: my friends all the time. So how will this make
• 29:22
  Speaker 10: it more fun and exciting for it?
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: Good question, Dad?
• 29:25
  Speaker 7: Like absolutely.
• 29:26
  Speaker 8: And one of the big things I hear when I
• 29:28
  Speaker 8: ask people about their dating experience is, particularly people that
• 29:31
  Speaker 8: have a big online presence and have tried these apps,
• 29:33
  Speaker 8: is dating feels like a second job. Like I said,
• 29:35
  Speaker 8: you're swiping for an hour a day, You're going on
• 29:37
  Speaker 8: a bunch of first dates that don't lead to a
• 29:39
  Speaker 8: second It's exhausting, and people are having burnout. I mean
• 29:42
  Speaker 8: I recently read an article called people are taking situationships sabbaticals,
• 29:46
  Speaker 8: Like people can't even deal with situationships which aren't even
• 29:49
  Speaker 8: exclusive or with her girlfriend. It's like the first stage.
• 29:52
  Speaker 7: So like, that's the.
• 29:54
  Speaker 8: Level of burnout people are experiencing on these platforms, and
• 29:57
  Speaker 8: it's completely what we're trying to undo.
• 29:58
  Speaker 7: And having your agent basically.
• 30:01
  Speaker 8: Do the filtration process for you, which eliminates this massive
• 30:04
  Speaker 8: labor on your part should take make it more fun.
• 30:07
  Speaker 8: Like all you get to do is focus on the
• 30:09
  Speaker 8: actual connection element, not the filtration and the search element.
• 30:12
  Speaker 7: That shouldn't be your job anymore. That's what AI is
• 30:14
  Speaker 7: so great.
• 30:14
  Speaker 8: At another thing I'll mention for your daughter and just
• 30:17
  Speaker 8: for moms of girls everywhere, is we're taking a different
• 30:21
  Speaker 8: approach to what are the values that we're putting forward
• 30:24
  Speaker 8: on our apps. So when I mean my co founder
• 30:27
  Speaker 8: is a PhD in psychology, he was my psychology professor
• 30:30
  Speaker 8: at Dartmouth, And something he chatts about a lot is
• 30:32
  Speaker 8: like the different priorities for men and women, Like right
• 30:35
  Speaker 8: off the bat is men the number one thing they're
• 30:37
  Speaker 8: looking for is physical attractness. Women number one through five
• 30:42
  Speaker 8: things are looking for are honesty, reliability, safety, and security.
• 30:46
  Speaker 8: Things like this dating apps on this swipe based paradigm
• 30:50
  Speaker 8: have never highlighted those elements. Those are buried like maybe
• 30:53
  Speaker 8: you can infer like oh he seems nice in the photos,
• 30:56
  Speaker 8: but you don't really know, but us putting personality and
• 30:59
  Speaker 8: value reports and then this agentic conversation where you can
• 31:02
  Speaker 8: see like oh, here's his communication style and here's where
• 31:05
  Speaker 8: he talks about his family and friends and how important
• 31:08
  Speaker 8: that is to him. Like it's putting forward the things
• 31:10
  Speaker 8: that women really care about and putting that in the spotlight,
• 31:13
  Speaker 8: which has never really been the case for dating apps.
• 31:15
  Speaker 7: So that's something I'm again as a female founder. I'm
• 31:17
  Speaker 7: very excited, yeah about it.
• 31:18
  Speaker 4: So give us three top things that women want or like,
• 31:23
  Speaker 4: I mean, you've got to know, like what's in I
• 31:25
  Speaker 4: want to know what's important.
• 31:27
  Speaker 7: Yeah.
• 31:27
  Speaker 8: So some of the top three are honesty, kindness, reliability.
• 31:32
  Speaker 8: So shouldn't come as a shock to any woman out there,
• 31:34
  Speaker 8: but those are very important.
• 31:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think it's cool that you bring it up.
• 31:37
  Speaker 1: At honesty and yeah, that is number one.
• 31:39
  Speaker 2: It's number one.
• 31:41
  Speaker 1: Lisa, Welcome to the Mom's Club. Tell us a little
• 31:44
  Speaker 1: bit about yourself, where you're from and do you have
• 31:46
  Speaker 1: a question for Sydney.
• 31:47
  Speaker 11: Yes, Morris and I am married and.
• 31:51
  Speaker 7: Have few daughters.
• 31:53
  Speaker 11: One is thirty and one is thirty two and they
• 31:55
  Speaker 11: are both single.
• 31:58
  Speaker 7: I'm listening in a qu I have a question on this.
• 32:01
  Speaker 11: So I just think if I put my husband in there,
• 32:03
  Speaker 11: I love him and I think we're a great match,
• 32:04
  Speaker 11: but we would not have matched. So where do you
• 32:09
  Speaker 11: because I know that the things that were important to
• 32:11
  Speaker 11: me then are not the same things that are important
• 32:13
  Speaker 11: to me now. So if I'm basing it on what
• 32:15
  Speaker 11: was important to me when I'm twenty five, that might
• 32:17
  Speaker 11: not carry on through my life. But like opposites attract,
• 32:21
  Speaker 11: and there's some things you need a little tension. So
• 32:23
  Speaker 11: if following so much for this person, that's just it
• 32:25
  Speaker 11: almost feels like almost, Warren, I don't know, I don't
• 32:28
  Speaker 11: know what.
• 32:29
  Speaker 7: Tell me you're taking care of that. So I'm so
• 32:31
  Speaker 7: glad you asked.
• 32:32
  Speaker 8: And it gets a little bit into what Kathy mentioned about,
• 32:35
  Speaker 8: like do you want to expand this app to people
• 32:37
  Speaker 8: in different demographics like age wise or whatever, And yes,
• 32:41
  Speaker 8: we absolutely do, because relationships do look a little bit
• 32:44
  Speaker 8: different in different age categories and different demographics, with different backgrounds.
• 32:48
  Speaker 8: Whatever it is, people what they're looking for changes, and
• 32:50
  Speaker 8: it can change even in the span of five years.
• 32:52
  Speaker 8: And that's why AI knowing like all of these high
• 32:56
  Speaker 8: level patterns, being able to like kind of apply that
• 32:58
  Speaker 8: to its algorithm is going to be so great because
• 33:01
  Speaker 8: it can be such a tailored process. It's not like, oh,
• 33:03
  Speaker 8: here's just a blanket, like if this person checks these
• 33:06
  Speaker 8: boxes and this person checks these boxes will put them together. Also, again,
• 33:10
  Speaker 8: one thing I'll mention is going to be so important
• 33:12
  Speaker 8: is these evolving feedback loops. So as we gather a
• 33:15
  Speaker 8: massive set of data and a variety of different kinds
• 33:18
  Speaker 8: of people, AI want to think that's really really good
• 33:21
  Speaker 8: at is pattern recognition. So it will be able to say, oh,
• 33:24
  Speaker 8: just because Cindy and Kathy like have all these things
• 33:29
  Speaker 8: in common, they both said no to each other, why
• 33:32
  Speaker 8: is that happening? But Sydney's saying yes to people that
• 33:35
  Speaker 8: are completely different from her in terms of let's call
• 33:37
  Speaker 8: it politics or like level of religious dedication, whatever you
• 33:41
  Speaker 8: want to call it.
• 33:42
  Speaker 7: So those are things that will get better with time.
• 33:45
  Speaker 8: And it's kind of a data problem, and that's one
• 33:48
  Speaker 8: of the reasons why AI is going to be such
• 33:50
  Speaker 8: a benefit is helping uncover those underlying patterns that to
• 33:53
  Speaker 8: the naked human eye is just kind of glosses over
• 33:57
  Speaker 8: your head.
• 33:58
  Speaker 4: What is some of the feedback that you get from
• 34:01
  Speaker 4: kids your age?
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry I called you a kid, but you know
• 34:04
  Speaker 2: what I.
• 34:04
  Speaker 7: Mean, Like, I still have heard of myself as a kid.
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: Okay, well I'm saying and that's how yes. Anyway, So
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: what's some of it?
• 34:11
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I want to hear like what some of your
• 34:14
  Speaker 4: you know, the beta testers are saying, or like you
• 34:17
  Speaker 4: know people that are using your app.
• 34:19
  Speaker 8: Mm, yeah, it's some things I get are people saying
• 34:23
  Speaker 8: it's like super fun to read the agent conversations, Like
• 34:25
  Speaker 8: they think it's so funny to see this little like
• 34:28
  Speaker 8: person in the cloud going out and representing them and
• 34:31
  Speaker 8: seeing how good or not good it maybe is. I know,
• 34:35
  Speaker 8: I've talked to a few girls that said they really
• 34:37
  Speaker 8: like that they're able to see like right off the front,
• 34:39
  Speaker 8: like what people's values are in their type of relationship
• 34:41
  Speaker 8: they're looking for versus like having to just play a
• 34:44
  Speaker 8: guessing game.
• 34:45
  Speaker 7: And actually, like about half more.
• 34:47
  Speaker 8: Than half of people and they're like eighteen to thirty
• 34:49
  Speaker 8: five are looking for serious relationships. It's all just about
• 34:52
  Speaker 8: getting those people together, like you don't want to throw
• 34:54
  Speaker 8: them all in the same pool, which is what all
• 34:56
  Speaker 8: of these swipe based apps are like, and it's like, okay,
• 34:58
  Speaker 8: figure out the person for you, Like no, Like the
• 35:01
  Speaker 8: way we're set up is you have to answer a
• 35:03
  Speaker 8: longer onboaring process like that filters some people out already,
• 35:06
  Speaker 8: Like if you're just looking to go on a date,
• 35:09
  Speaker 8: one night date with so many things attractive like that,
• 35:12
  Speaker 8: that's what tenders for.
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's exactly right.
• 35:15
  Speaker 1: So our last Zoomer mom today is a woman that
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: we know has a lot of concerns. She has two children,
• 35:20
  Speaker 1: a daughter especially, she's got very great concerns about her
• 35:23
  Speaker 1: daughter's dating life. So please welcome Jennifer Marsh, who is
• 35:28
  Speaker 1: Sydney's father. Yeah, welcome to the Zoomer room. And do
• 35:32
  Speaker 1: you have a question for Sydney.
• 35:35
  Speaker 5: Yes, I'm not just a mom. I'm happy to be
• 35:37
  Speaker 5: the mom.
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: That's right, that's good.
• 35:39
  Speaker 5: And I am from Austin.
• 35:41
  Speaker 9: She has a brother, Sam, who is also he's in college.
• 35:46
  Speaker 5: So I've seen from her experience and his experience.
• 35:50
  Speaker 9: How the world of dating is just so different than
• 35:54
  Speaker 9: it used to be. And a million reasons, like we
• 35:57
  Speaker 9: all know about the epidemic of loneliness, sent about the
• 36:01
  Speaker 9: inability for people to develop deep relationships and the limit
• 36:04
  Speaker 9: of time they spend, you know, in contact with another
• 36:08
  Speaker 9: one another and sort of having these face to face
• 36:11
  Speaker 9: conversations and sort of in the room breathing the same air.
• 36:15
  Speaker 9: And you know, everyone basically is questioning how to move
• 36:20
  Speaker 9: forward with technology.
• 36:21
  Speaker 5: But still be human. And one of the things that I.
• 36:24
  Speaker 9: Think is so interesting about when I'm so proud of
• 36:28
  Speaker 9: Sitting for doing is as she followed her heart and
• 36:31
  Speaker 9: stuck with her like her passion for psychology and worked
• 36:35
  Speaker 9: with her professor from her an entrepreneur who wasn't at Dartmouth,
• 36:41
  Speaker 9: but it is more the age of her professor as well.
• 36:44
  Speaker 5: As her professor at Dartmouth.
• 36:48
  Speaker 9: And you know, they really are trying to solve a
• 36:50
  Speaker 9: problem like this clearly.
• 36:52
  Speaker 5: Needs to be a business. But I think first they're
• 36:55
  Speaker 5: trying to.
• 36:56
  Speaker 9: Really figure out I mean, and that's the basis of
• 36:59
  Speaker 9: the original. They've kind of they've pivoted a number of times.
• 37:01
  Speaker 9: It's been a number of different things. But I mean, Sydney,
• 37:04
  Speaker 9: I'd love for you to tell me what you think.
• 37:06
  Speaker 5: At this point.
• 37:07
  Speaker 9: But I really think the core sort of drive behind
• 37:11
  Speaker 9: the whole app is like how do we create deep,
• 37:15
  Speaker 9: meaningful connections That is like that is the north star,
• 37:19
  Speaker 9: the guiding light, the city that drives all the thinking
• 37:23
  Speaker 9: behind the core architecture and engineering of the app.
• 37:27
  Speaker 5: And Sydney, I love to hear what you think about that.
• 37:30
  Speaker 8: Yeah, absolutely, And I also mentioned because I know you're
• 37:32
  Speaker 8: obviously a boy mom as I am a sister to Sam,
• 37:37
  Speaker 8: and I'll talk a little bit about the male experience,
• 37:39
  Speaker 8: especially with like the loneliness epidemic. And I remember learning
• 37:42
  Speaker 8: about this from Bill, my professor in college, and that
• 37:46
  Speaker 8: is there's an epidemic with everyone, but particularly with men,
• 37:49
  Speaker 8: that men are having less close relationships than they used
• 37:52
  Speaker 8: to and men are increasingly relying on girlfriends for that
• 37:55
  Speaker 8: emotional support. Yet people are seeing these dating apps and
• 37:59
  Speaker 8: they're not finding those meaningful relationships, which just creates such
• 38:02
  Speaker 8: a negative feedback loop that is just making all of society,
• 38:06
  Speaker 8: I think, worse in general. And the reason why I
• 38:09
  Speaker 8: wanted to do this, I didn't originally wake up and
• 38:11
  Speaker 8: be like, wow, I really want to build a dating app,
• 38:13
  Speaker 8: But being in college and being a psychology major and
• 38:16
  Speaker 8: learning about this, I'm like, wow, I really want to
• 38:17
  Speaker 8: find a way to help fight this. And romantic relationships
• 38:21
  Speaker 8: are such a protective factor in just your general psychological health.
• 38:26
  Speaker 8: I mean, if you're satisfied with your deep close relationships
• 38:29
  Speaker 8: friendships yes as well, but also romantic relationships, you are
• 38:33
  Speaker 8: a kinder, more empathetic person in general. And the ripple
• 38:36
  Speaker 8: effect is massive. And another example that this is something
• 38:39
  Speaker 8: my mom always says to us.
• 38:41
  Speaker 7: Is the best thing you can do is go home and.
• 38:44
  Speaker 8: Love your family, and that's one of the best things
• 38:46
  Speaker 8: you can do for the world. And a romantic relationship
• 38:49
  Speaker 8: is a big part of that. So if we can
• 38:50
  Speaker 8: help connect to to people that are an amazing fit
• 38:54
  Speaker 8: for you and can help you build a life with
• 38:56
  Speaker 8: this person, society gets.
• 38:58
  Speaker 7: Better as a whole.
• 38:59
  Speaker 8: And also I'll touch on one more thing, which I
• 39:01
  Speaker 8: think I talked about why this app is amazing for women,
• 39:04
  Speaker 8: I'm also going to talk about why it's amazing for men.
• 39:06
  Speaker 8: Of course I'm talking about heterosexual relationships in this instance,
• 39:10
  Speaker 8: but on swipe based platforms, women are interested in three
• 39:14
  Speaker 8: to fifteen percent of male profiles.
• 39:17
  Speaker 7: On Distill, women are interested in over half the male
• 39:19
  Speaker 7: profiles they see because we give.
• 39:21
  Speaker 8: You high quality profiles and we give you more information
• 39:24
  Speaker 8: the information you want to see. So men are having
• 39:27
  Speaker 8: a better success rate and women are seeing better quality.
• 39:30
  Speaker 7: So I think it's a one when Yeah, personally.
• 39:32
  Speaker 4: That girl you just put a bow on that That
• 39:35
  Speaker 4: is amazing, that is that's perfect.
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: That is yeah.
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: How So in terms of the kind of questions like
• 39:41
  Speaker 1: are you looking more immediate dating meeting or like more
• 39:45
  Speaker 1: long term, because if you're thinking about your psychology majors,
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: you've gotta know how it works when you get married.
• 39:51
  Speaker 1: A little known secret is you basically married the whole family? Oh,
• 39:55
  Speaker 1: you're marrying everybody? That like, if you're not careful about
• 39:59
  Speaker 1: who you like, what's the what's the dynamic?
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: I don't know, why are you looking at me?
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: I guess i'd heard, but I'm not looking at you.
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: And that's just that's just that's just true. So how
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: deep are these do these questions get more extensive?
• 40:16
  Speaker 4: Like do they talk about family? Do they talk about
• 40:19
  Speaker 4: their siblings? Do they talk about family life? Like your
• 40:22
  Speaker 4: mom says the best thing you can do is to
• 40:24
  Speaker 4: love your family. Which, by the way, Jennifer, that's beautiful.
• 40:27
  Speaker 1: That is you know what we've been asking for.
• 40:30
  Speaker 5: I can't take any credit for that. That is a
• 40:32
  Speaker 5: quote from mother Teresa.
• 40:34
  Speaker 2: I don't care where it came from, but you're teaching
• 40:37
  Speaker 2: your kids that. Yeah, so you should have taken.
• 40:40
  Speaker 1: Credit for it. Nobody would have known. But just even
• 40:44
  Speaker 1: more a bigger picture, you know, how much are you
• 40:47
  Speaker 1: really learning? Like if you learned, are you keeping in mind?
• 40:51
  Speaker 1: They're like, what are what's our relationship? Because I know
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: as a as a mom of two boys. Mothers of
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: boys are very protective throughout their lives and might be
• 41:00
  Speaker 1: quite opinionated about their future spouse or whatever and could
• 41:04
  Speaker 1: be very involved. Not that I will be.
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: I will be very not at all money easy to.
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: Get along with, ye, But I mean do you put
• 41:11
  Speaker 1: that in their mind to like, Okay, what's your relationship
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: with your mother, what's your relationship with your father? What's
• 41:17
  Speaker 1: your like? Do you get into more things that actually
• 41:20
  Speaker 1: could long term? I mean you're getting them to meet
• 41:23
  Speaker 1: each other initially and get to know each other, but
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: to a put in their mind when I do meet
• 41:27
  Speaker 1: this person, maybe I should right be careful? How you know?
• 41:32
  Speaker 1: I when I am introduced to the in law, potential
• 41:35
  Speaker 1: in laws or whatever, what that looks like?
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah? What do you think? Sid?
• 41:40
  Speaker 8: So we do try and keep some of our questions
• 41:42
  Speaker 8: a little bit more open ended, but we do actually
• 41:44
  Speaker 8: have a question that very specifically targets tell us about
• 41:47
  Speaker 8: your childhood in your early life, like were you very
• 41:50
  Speaker 8: close with your family? Is that a core value for you?
• 41:53
  Speaker 8: Were you very emotionally tied to your hometown? Did you
• 41:56
  Speaker 8: move around a lot? So we do encourage people to
• 41:59
  Speaker 8: talk about that in general, and we want to give
• 42:01
  Speaker 8: people space to, like, if they want to talk about
• 42:03
  Speaker 8: one thing more than something else, like, that's their prerogative
• 42:06
  Speaker 8: to do so. And I do think using voice AI
• 42:09
  Speaker 8: to do these onboarding processes will get even better at that.
• 42:13
  Speaker 8: But yes, we do ask people one tell us about
• 42:15
  Speaker 8: what you want in general in a partner, and we
• 42:18
  Speaker 8: give some examples of like values like substance use, like politics,
• 42:23
  Speaker 8: things like that, and a big thing people often use
• 42:26
  Speaker 8: that space to talk about is future family planning, like
• 42:29
  Speaker 8: do you want to get married, do you want to
• 42:30
  Speaker 8: have kids?
• 42:31
  Speaker 7: Do you want your parents involved?
• 42:32
  Speaker 8: Like I see a lot of people use it for that,
• 42:34
  Speaker 8: but also your childhood, like people often talk about their
• 42:37
  Speaker 8: relationship with their parents and if they had a lot
• 42:39
  Speaker 8: of siblings and what that was like. So yes, that's
• 42:41
  Speaker 8: definitely something that is seen a lot on the app.
• 42:44
  Speaker 2: Well that's key.
• 42:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah, Well it's interesting to do because you all are psychologists,
• 42:48
  Speaker 1: so you can look into those things that are so important. Constanza,
• 42:53
  Speaker 1: I feel like you have another question over there.
• 42:57
  Speaker 10: I mean, I'm ruin over here, King and you.
• 43:02
  Speaker 4: You have I mean, this may be how your daughter
• 43:04
  Speaker 4: dates when you know what I mean and how it
• 43:07
  Speaker 4: happens for her, you have the whole I said, this
• 43:10
  Speaker 4: may be how it your daughter dates in the future,
• 43:13
  Speaker 4: and how it's going to happen for her.
• 43:15
  Speaker 10: Yeah, so no, absolutely absolutely. I mean, listen, we all
• 43:18
  Speaker 10: hope that you know she she makes the right decision,
• 43:21
  Speaker 10: whether or not it's with an app or without an app.
• 43:23
  Speaker 10: But I feel like you know, by the time that
• 43:25
  Speaker 10: she's that she's ready to to take that step forward,
• 43:28
  Speaker 10: that everything will be bunted up a I will will
• 43:31
  Speaker 10: know exactly what it's doing. I just what I don't
• 43:34
  Speaker 10: want is that human connection to get lost within the pross.
• 43:39
  Speaker 10: I've had my fair share of bad boyfriends and good
• 43:42
  Speaker 10: boyfriend I know Mi I will have you know her
• 43:45
  Speaker 10: breakups and and heartbreaks. But that human connection is so important.
• 43:50
  Speaker 10: And sometimes, you know, you meet somebody and you fall
• 43:52
  Speaker 10: completely in love without even speaking.
• 43:54
  Speaker 7: To each other.
• 43:55
  Speaker 10: So yeah, I'm interested, I'm curious. I'm excited about this
• 43:59
  Speaker 10: for the future. It's the future's bread for you, Sydney,
• 44:02
  Speaker 10: so very very exciting stuff.
• 44:03
  Speaker 7: Yeah, thank you.
• 44:05
  Speaker 8: Yeah, And I love I love that you're focused on
• 44:07
  Speaker 8: that because that's obviously such a critical element. And I
• 44:09
  Speaker 8: wouldn't be doing what we're doing if human connection wasn't
• 44:12
  Speaker 8: such a critical part of it. So one thing I'll
• 44:14
  Speaker 8: mention really briefly with dating apps, and someone mentioned one
• 44:16
  Speaker 8: of my badizers mentioned this to me, and I thought
• 44:18
  Speaker 8: it was such a good quote, is that it feels
• 44:20
  Speaker 8: like a video game, Like it's like how many matches
• 44:22
  Speaker 8: can I get? How many points can I rack up?
• 44:24
  Speaker 8: Like how many inbound messages can I get? And like
• 44:27
  Speaker 8: that's the opposite of human connection. That's the commodification of people.
• 44:31
  Speaker 8: That's what we want to get away from. And I
• 44:33
  Speaker 8: think what's like, like I mentioned earlier, like the goal
• 44:36
  Speaker 8: of a dating profile be quote unquote successful is to
• 44:39
  Speaker 8: be generalizable to as many people as possible. And that's
• 44:41
  Speaker 8: the exact opposite of what we want you to do.
• 44:43
  Speaker 7: On distill.
• 44:43
  Speaker 8: We want you to be specific, a niche to what
• 44:45
  Speaker 8: you want and who you are, be as authentic as
• 44:48
  Speaker 8: you can so we can give you the most authentic connection,
• 44:50
  Speaker 8: and then from there we want you to go on
• 44:52
  Speaker 8: that date, because you don't really know until you see
• 44:54
  Speaker 8: that person in person, and then it's you have that
• 44:57
  Speaker 8: connection or you don't. And generally, if everyone is being
• 45:00
  Speaker 8: safe and we have safety features built in. There's it's
• 45:04
  Speaker 8: always great to go on that date because you learn
• 45:07
  Speaker 8: more about yourself for it. You'd be like, wow, I
• 45:08
  Speaker 8: thought this is someone that I wanted, turns out it's not,
• 45:11
  Speaker 8: or vice versa, like I really wasn't sure about this
• 45:13
  Speaker 8: going in. Oh my gosh, she's amazing. She's amazing whoever,
• 45:17
  Speaker 8: but I do think that is so important. So getting
• 45:19
  Speaker 8: people to go not just on dates, but on dates
• 45:22
  Speaker 8: that are highly likely to convert to a second and
• 45:25
  Speaker 8: third and wife or husband.
• 45:27
  Speaker 1: So, yeah, can you meet.
• 45:28
  Speaker 7: Each other voice notes?
• 45:30
  Speaker 10: Is it something that if they chose to communicate and
• 45:32
  Speaker 10: maybe ta get a little bit, is that's on the my
• 45:33
  Speaker 10: ahead and hear their voice?
• 45:35
  Speaker 2: Is that a possibility?
• 45:36
  Speaker 8: So for the beta as of right now, no, but
• 45:39
  Speaker 8: for the app, yes, that is something we want to do.
• 45:41
  Speaker 8: So like, the way it would work is basically, your
• 45:43
  Speaker 8: agent recommends people.
• 45:44
  Speaker 7: You say you're interested.
• 45:45
  Speaker 8: If the other person alsoys they're interested in you, then
• 45:47
  Speaker 8: you go to a human to human chat in which
• 45:49
  Speaker 8: you could send voice notes, send messages, pictures, whatever, and
• 45:53
  Speaker 8: then decide if you want to meet up in person.
• 45:55
  Speaker 1: What sha real quick that you mentioned safety? Can you
• 45:58
  Speaker 1: just mention that really quick, because I know a lot
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: of the reasons women are getting off of swhite basis
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: because they still don't feel like they're it's safe, They're
• 46:05
  Speaker 1: they're really worried about that.
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  Speaker 8: So yes, so a big thing that what we're able
• 46:10
  Speaker 8: to do with AIS you can kind of get a
• 46:12
  Speaker 8: sense for someone is the other online very public online presence.
• 46:15
  Speaker 7: So one, we can look at the photos you submit.
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  Speaker 8: And tell with the high de group of confidence if
• 46:19
  Speaker 8: they're AI generated or not, because that's going to continue
• 46:22
  Speaker 8: to be an issue. It's going to be a greater
• 46:23
  Speaker 8: issue as time goes on, unfortunately. And also we can
• 46:27
  Speaker 8: say like, okay, you gave me these number of these
• 46:29
  Speaker 8: stats about you, like we can just do a broad based,
• 46:31
  Speaker 8: very public information search and be like we are ninety
• 46:34
  Speaker 8: percent sure or higher that you are who you say
• 46:36
  Speaker 8: you are, and even things like we're deciding if we
• 46:39
  Speaker 8: want to go through with this, but like if you
• 46:41
  Speaker 8: lie about your height, we can kind of tell from
• 46:43
  Speaker 8: your photos like as an.
• 46:46
  Speaker 2: Age, yeah, yeah.
• 46:48
  Speaker 8: So when it found you, and we do want to
• 46:52
  Speaker 8: make sure this is a like exclusive community, like this
• 46:55
  Speaker 8: is a community of people that are here for the
• 46:56
  Speaker 8: right reasons and putting checks in place to make sure that.
• 46:59
  Speaker 9: That is the case.
• 47:00
  Speaker 2: Well, look correct me if I'm wrong, Sydney.
• 47:02
  Speaker 4: But this feels really nice because it's a little bit
• 47:06
  Speaker 4: like the old fashioned way of meeting someone with a
• 47:09
  Speaker 4: modern twist and going together with technology as we evolve.
• 47:14
  Speaker 8: Yes, no, yes, yes, yeah, we want to mimic how
• 47:19
  Speaker 8: people behave in real life dating, but use the benefit
• 47:22
  Speaker 8: of an online platform, which really just expands the community
• 47:25
  Speaker 8: available to you. So that's the benefit online dating, taking
• 47:29
  Speaker 8: away all the negative things that it's kind of turned
• 47:31
  Speaker 8: into in terms of the video gamification i'll call it of.
• 47:34
  Speaker 7: Modern dating apps.
• 47:36
  Speaker 1: Well, and that's also the all part of social media too,
• 47:38
  Speaker 1: because when you mentioned that it's how many you know
• 47:41
  Speaker 1: people say that I like you. It's the same thing
• 47:43
  Speaker 1: in social on Instagram or TikTok. You're looking how many
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: likes did I get? How many followers do I have?
• 47:48
  Speaker 1: But you think at that mindset, So, but you want
• 47:50
  Speaker 1: this to be You're trying to meet one person, not
• 47:53
  Speaker 1: say that I have a fan club of people that
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: decided that.
• 47:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that sounds exhausting.
• 47:57
  Speaker 4: Dating should be if it is enhances your life and
• 48:02
  Speaker 4: not exhausting, because really, a really good deep relationship should
• 48:07
  Speaker 4: be something that is like nice to have, not something
• 48:10
  Speaker 4: that you're like, you know what I mean.
• 48:12
  Speaker 2: I feel like it needs to complete, like it's a
• 48:14
  Speaker 2: job too, right, right, right? So I love it. Where
• 48:17
  Speaker 2: does Sam fit in the picture of distill? Please spill?
• 48:21
  Speaker 2: Is he signed up yet?
• 48:24
  Speaker 7: Sorry?
• 48:24
  Speaker 2: I repeat that when we're your brother? Has he signed
• 48:26
  Speaker 2: up yet?
• 48:28
  Speaker 7: He has signed up?
• 48:29
  Speaker 2: Okay?
• 48:30
  Speaker 8: I did not to know that a cute girl likes
• 48:32
  Speaker 8: him on it and I'm trying to bug get back
• 48:35
  Speaker 8: to her. Oh he's busy.
• 48:37
  Speaker 7: He just moved into school.
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: Yes, Oh well, that's my last question. So if that happens,
• 48:43
  Speaker 1: so cute girl likes you and you say that, do
• 48:45
  Speaker 1: you you put a bug in their other person's ear
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: because they have to just both decide they like each other.
• 48:51
  Speaker 8: Do you So I will ever reveal that this specific
• 48:55
  Speaker 8: person likes anyone specific person, you would have an indification
• 48:59
  Speaker 8: that goes out. So someone on the platform is shown
• 49:01
  Speaker 8: interest in you, make sure to check back in and
• 49:03
  Speaker 8: if you're interested in anyone, indicate that.
• 49:06
  Speaker 1: Okay, And then of.
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: Course, so it's connect you some kind of yes, no
• 49:09
  Speaker 2: maybe situation.
• 49:13
  Speaker 4: Like when that happens and they connect someone on the
• 49:15
  Speaker 4: platform has shown interest in you, is it like yesno,
• 49:20
  Speaker 4: maybe I'll go out with them, or how does that?
• 49:22
  Speaker 2: I mean yes?
• 49:24
  Speaker 8: So actually, something that we're doing that's a little bit
• 49:26
  Speaker 8: different than you'd see on other dating apps is you
• 49:28
  Speaker 8: can choose to say yes, no, or maybe to someone,
• 49:31
  Speaker 8: but you would also say like I do or don't
• 49:33
  Speaker 8: want be connected. So you could say maybe, but I
• 49:35
  Speaker 8: want to be connected, or yes, but I don't want
• 49:38
  Speaker 8: to be connected, and that just could be like you
• 49:40
  Speaker 8: are interested in checking it out your traveling, so you're
• 49:43
  Speaker 8: not in the right place to go on a date,
• 49:44
  Speaker 8: but you still want the app to learn and get better.
• 49:47
  Speaker 8: And I do think this maybe is kind of critical
• 49:49
  Speaker 8: because having a forced choice on dating products, like there's
• 49:52
  Speaker 8: a big difference between someone that's a ninety five percent
• 49:55
  Speaker 8: no and a sixty percent no, right, So having a
• 49:58
  Speaker 8: way to kind of capch for that information is really
• 50:02
  Speaker 8: helpful because I know that, I mean I have I've
• 50:04
  Speaker 8: had to try out all these apps just to see
• 50:05
  Speaker 8: my competitive landscape, and sometimes it's like how fast can
• 50:09
  Speaker 8: I swipe away?
• 50:10
  Speaker 3: Versus a okay, thinking about yeah, what do you want
• 50:15
  Speaker 3: us to know as moms about this dating app, like
• 50:19
  Speaker 3: or in dating in general, Like I've I'm down with.
• 50:23
  Speaker 4: I've learned situationship. I've learned exclusive, you know, exclusive, and
• 50:28
  Speaker 4: then apparently you have to go out to dinner and
• 50:31
  Speaker 4: ask someone to be your girlfriend or boyfriend.
• 50:33
  Speaker 1: I also learned the other day that just the boyfriend
• 50:36
  Speaker 1: girlfriend thing does not mean that we should start planning
• 50:38
  Speaker 1: the wedding because when I mentioned to those boys, oh,
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: are they getting married?
• 50:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah?
• 50:43
  Speaker 4: Married?
• 50:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah? So what do you want us to know?
• 50:46
  Speaker 3: Like?
• 50:46
  Speaker 2: Teaches something? So I don't stick my foot in my
• 50:48
  Speaker 2: mouth today.
• 50:50
  Speaker 8: Absolutely, I mean, I think the biggest thing, and what
• 50:52
  Speaker 8: we've all kind of seen is dating is such an
• 50:54
  Speaker 8: evolving landscape and there's so many trends, and yes, some
• 50:56
  Speaker 8: of them are kind of clickbait, like Shrekking. I don't
• 50:59
  Speaker 8: know if you guys have heard of that.
• 51:00
  Speaker 2: I have no idea what you're talking about. You know
• 51:02
  Speaker 2: the movie? Yeah, I do.
• 51:05
  Speaker 8: Basically, shrekking is when you date someone that's standing down,
• 51:08
  Speaker 8: not attracted as.
• 51:09
  Speaker 7: You because you're settling. So that's a fun little daytak
• 51:13
  Speaker 7: to Georgia why she didn't teach this way, but there is.
• 51:17
  Speaker 7: It's a lot of noise in just dating in general.
• 51:19
  Speaker 8: It's like, oh, dress this way, dressed that way like
• 51:22
  Speaker 8: or act this way or say this line like it's
• 51:25
  Speaker 8: so much noise and clutter. But we're trying to do
• 51:28
  Speaker 8: is just make it a simplistic, minimalistic process, like I
• 51:31
  Speaker 8: know who I am, what I want. Maybe your agent
• 51:35
  Speaker 8: can help you clarify that even further through like learning
• 51:38
  Speaker 8: about yourself on the app and find you an amazing
• 51:41
  Speaker 8: person and spend less time on the app, not more.
• 51:44
  Speaker 8: We're not trying to increase daily active users. We're trying
• 51:47
  Speaker 8: to increase amazing data.
• 51:49
  Speaker 1: People out there having great dates.
• 51:50
  Speaker 2: Well is filtering?
• 51:52
  Speaker 1: I love it? I love it so Sydney. Where did
• 51:55
  Speaker 1: they find Where does the our audience find you on
• 51:58
  Speaker 1: social media? Or how they sign their children up for
• 52:02
  Speaker 1: distill or whatever they choo get signed up.
• 52:08
  Speaker 12: Lisa on both talking, Instagram at Distill dot Dating and
• 52:18
  Speaker 12: you can go to distill dating dot com to sign
• 52:21
  Speaker 12: up for the beta access code is curate.
• 52:24
  Speaker 8: But native app will be coming out very very soon.
• 52:27
  Speaker 8: So some cities to start getting excited for Dallas, Austin, Miami,
• 52:32
  Speaker 8: s f Chicago, Nashville, all start getting excited because we're
• 52:36
  Speaker 8: coming to your.
• 52:36
  Speaker 2: City possible launch.
• 52:38
  Speaker 1: Please say so much city, Thanks.
• 52:39
  Speaker 2: For spilling the tea on that one.
• 52:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, speaking of launch cities, that just segues right, we're
• 52:45
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• 52:49
  Speaker 1: the country where you'll see us in Nashville, Atlanta, Dallas,
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: We're going to be all over the place. So moms,
• 52:55
  Speaker 1: you can bring your mom tarage of friends together and
• 52:59
  Speaker 1: we will commiserate and we'll all talk about our kids dating.
• 53:04
  Speaker 2: Like okay, ed you that.
• 53:06
  Speaker 1: Yeah, see now I know what Shreking was. Now you'll know,
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: and so it will sound really important and like we
• 53:11
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