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Ep 41. Manifestation in the Mess: How to Stay Magnetic When Life Is Overwhelming · The Manifestation Station

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You're listening to the Manifestation Station podcast.
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I'm your host Holly Edwards and together we can help create your magic.
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Hello, you gorgeous manifestors. Happy Friday. Happy Saturday,
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Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday.
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I'm not sure what day you're listening, but hello.
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Welcome back to another episode of the Manifestation Station.
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I'm so pleased you're here. We are chatting about something amazing today that
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I think is really, well, I'm hoping it will resonate with you.
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Now, I know it will certainly resonate with a lot of my Manifesting clients,
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who let's just say and actually a lot of
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people around me friends some family a
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little bit in my life as well is that you know
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when life just seems a little bit crazy and a bit messy and people have so much
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on their plate is this just a new thing at the moment where you know is this
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modern day life when we are just trying to juggle a million things work life
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drinking water exercising,
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long to-do lists, housework.
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Instagram, you know, whatever you've got going on, big or small,
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life can just get a little bit messy, can't it? And a little bit overwhelming.
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And this is for you today. And I'm sure even if you're flying at the moment,
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you know, if you're like me, I have a to-do list as long as my elbow.
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But the thing with to-do lists, I saw this thing recently, actually a while
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ago, and I actually live and swear by it now, which is if you've got a to-do
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list like me, which just seems to get ever longer,
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you know, you're turning over the page, going over the next page for your to-do list.
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Here's something I'm going to tell you. Did you know your to-do list will never be complete?
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No, this is not me delivering bad news. this
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is actually good news a to-do list will never you'll never
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get to the end of a to-do list when you realize
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that you suddenly break through this
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ceiling of I don't know being restrained and
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held down and aggravated by this
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to-do list when you realize that actually a to-do list
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is kind of everlasting it's you're ever
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adding to it it is never complete and that sounds scary but actually it's not
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we live life there will always be something to do there will always be things
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that you need to do in your home that you need to do via email at work in the garden with your kids.
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It's never going to be complete and that is okay. It's just a matter of sorting
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into, actually, do you know what?
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What is really urgent? What needs to be completed today?
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What is less urgent, but I do, you know, has some importance and what isn't important?
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This isn't the whole thing of what today is about. It's not about to-do lists.
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It's just about manifesting in the messiness, basically.
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But I just wanted to share that because it was just a thought that popped into
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my head and actually my partner my lovely fiancee Ben he said the other day
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oh my god you know I've got so much to do in the house and it's never ending
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we do this and then we need to do something else and I was like actually darling
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you know what a to-do list is never complete it's just a constant little to-do
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and once you make peace with that he was like.
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Oh right I feel like I can breathe so I just
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thought I'd pass that on to you guys today but do
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you know what if you're busy if it's messy if
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you've got things to do if you've got laundry piled up
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in your kitchen if you've got work things do
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if you've got important emails to send you know what that is life guys that
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is life and we have this idea in the manifestation space that sometimes we need
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everything in life to just be perfectly aligned in a little aligned bubble you
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know sipping our green juices in the morning at sunrise,
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journaling with our crystals out in the moonlight,
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only ever thinking positively.
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And that is not the case. Let's be honest.
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Most of the time, life is happening whilst we're manifesting.
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Real life is happening alongside that. And I quite often get asked or not even asked questions.
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I often have thoughts relayed to me from clients and friends and people on my
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DM saying, oh, you know, I don't know if I'm doing very well at the moment.
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This has happened and it's made me feel a bit rubbish. And now I'm worried.
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I'm, you know, I'm doing all my good manifesting work and that makes me feel
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negative. Guys, it's okay.
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This is why it's so important to make sure that you are living life and understanding
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that life is happening whilst we're manifesting.
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The end goal isn't us in our little bubble in our dream life.
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Even if you get your dream house, the dream man, your dream bank balance,
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there will still be life happening to you then. It's not always going to look completely dreamy.
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So, you know, the kids might be crying. You might have bills that are due.
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Maybe some relationships at the moment feel wobbly. Maybe you're kind of a bit
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unsure with where you're living or your living arrangements.
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Maybe you just feel a little bit all over the place and that things aren't quite
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going, you know, smoothly at the moment.
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And today's episode is about manifesting in the messy seasons.
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And just remember these words I'm saying to you right now is that the messiness
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is okay. The messiness isn't going to hold you back.
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Messiness is real life. And sometimes some seasons are going to be messier than others.
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But it's about how we kind of deal with those messy seasons and how we continue
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to manifest and how we continue to stay positive and how to not let yourself sink in those moments.
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Because messy doesn't mean that you're failing.
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Messy doesn't cancel out your manifestations.
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I mean, if anything, it's messy seasons can actually make you more magnetic.
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They make you kind of stand up and show up and go, do you know what?
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I'm going overcome this messiness and you can become magnetic in those seasons
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if you know how to work with them,
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So let's just redefine our messy for a moment. And here's the thing.
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Here's what you need to really take away from today's episode.
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S-E doesn't mean broken. S-E doesn't mean that it's not working.
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Sometimes when we have hiccups or obstacles of things,
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life throws us kind of certain bombs and things go off and we're like,
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oh my God, I just want you to know that that doesn't mean that your manifestations
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or that your law of attraction isn't working.
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Messy means movement. Messy means your life is rearranging itself to create
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space for the things that you've asked for.
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The amount of times that I tell my clients, do you know what?
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You are in chaos right now.
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Everything is turning upside down and you may not thinking at the moment.
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However, this means that the universe is aligning in your favour,
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sometimes things have to blow up.
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Sometimes everything has to get cluttered and, you know, thrown around with
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obstacles landing in your way in order for everything to rearrange.
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Think about it. Like how can you expect new love to arrive, new jobs,
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new money, new houses, if everything else doesn't rearrange itself beforehand?
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That's what you have to think about. and think about it. When you renovate a
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house, the process is chaos.
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There is dust everywhere. There are things half painted. You've got boxes and
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furniture shoved into corners.
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But it doesn't mean that your house is ruined. It means transformation is happening.
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That's what you have to remember.
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Transformation kind of comes through chaos. Transformation is at the end of your chaotic journey.
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And it's the same with manifestation. When you've set an intention, Thank you.
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Sometimes your life has to have a little reshuffle in order for that intention to come to fruition.
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When you realign it and you reassess it and you reframe it like that,
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isn't that amazing? I mean, it's really obvious.
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Of course, it kind of has to have a shuffle round.
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And shuffle, the unknown and kind of chaos can feel a little bit unsettling. You know why?
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Because it's not our normal comfort zone. Our reshuffling is the unknown.
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So of course, that might come with a little bit of discomfort.
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But this is where you have to trust the process and trust that transformation comes from chaos.
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That relationship, maybe that you're in a relationship at the moment that is not serving you.
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And this can be a romantic relationship or it can be a relationship with a friend
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or a loved one, a family member even.
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That relationship, if that's not serving you, perhaps that has to fall away.
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Perhaps that has to break up right now so if you're going
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through something at the moment whether that's a breakup or you've had
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a fallout with a friend maybe this has to
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reshuffle maybe it has to have a bit of a breakdown first before you either
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come back together or maybe for the right person to show up into your life and
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that job you know the one that you're in at the moment that might feel a little
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bit unbearable maybe that is paving the way for something new a promotion a new opportunity.
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Maybe a shift within your departments that maybe make every day more bearable.
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Maybe the management shifts around with this kind of chaos.
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Friendships may shift or maybe your emotions come bubbling up because they're clearing.
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So you have to kind of thrust the chaos but also settle into the uncomfortable.
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So instead of saying, oh my god, my life is falling apart right now.
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Maybe try a reframe of my life is rearranging.
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Let's swap my life is falling apart to my life is rearranging.
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And say it to yourself over and over. If you're in that chaos right now,
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if you have something falling apart, if it feels like it's messy and it's chaotic,
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maybe you feel like you're drowning in things, your to-do list and it's not getting anywhere.
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Say my life is rearranging.
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My life is rearranging. I'm creating space for new opportunities.
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Say it over and over again, like an affirmation. My life is rearranging. My life is rearranging.
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My life is rearranging. That one shift can change everything.
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And it's really important to ground yourself in the chaos. If you're in the
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chaos, you know, you're going to say that out loud, my life is rearranging.
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But it's really important to ground yourself as well.
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So let's talk about strategy? How do we do that? Because you know me,
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I always want you to walk away with the things that you can actually go and do.
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After this episode, you can pause me, you can end me at the end of the episode
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and you can go off and you can actually act. You can act today.
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So when life feels messy, grounding practices are everything.
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There are so many grounding practices that I use on a daily basis.
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When things happen to me, in fact, I've had a bit of a morning this morning.
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I'm actually recording this. It's a few days before release day.
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And I've woken up, I had some news this morning. I thought, oh no, oh no.
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This has the ability to make me sink today. And I don't want to do that.
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And there are grounding strategies and grounding little practices that I do
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that help bring me back to even just a neutral headspace. It doesn't mean that
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I'm going to be bouncing off the wall.
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Sometimes I am, but just to bring you back to a neutral place and not spiraling,
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anything you can do to ground yourself.
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And I don't mean it has to turn into a two-hour morning routine.
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I mean tiny anchors that stop you from spinning and spiraling.
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So here's a couple that work for me and I've tried these this morning and I
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quite often revert back to these when I'm kind of having that crazy kind of
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chaotic space that I just need to bring myself back to me.
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So the first one is a really simple one and it's a two-minute breath reset.
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Now, we all hear about breath work. You know, there's a lot of emphasis at the
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moment on it in the wellness world.
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But it is something that when my thoughts are running away from themselves and
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I start going, oh no, I'm spironing and this doesn't feel good and now this
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is going to impact my day, you have to stop and interrupt those thoughts.
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The best way to do this is to do and practice breath work.
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Now, what I do is I do a big release of all the breath that is currently in my lungs.
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Now, if you've been to one of my live events, I quite often do this to do a reset.
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And what I do, I lift, I kind of want you to imagine what I'm doing right now.
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I kind of breathe in and I lift my arms up in the air above my head.
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So I breathe in, I inhale, lifting my arms above my head.
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So I go, now my arms are above my head.
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Now what I do, I blow out all of the air that is in my lungs.
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And I imagine when I'm blowing out this air, when I'm taking this big.
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Huge exhale, with it, I blow out all the negativity, the stress,
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the chaos, the messiness, the negativity in my head, and I throw my arms down.
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So it's almost like I'm throwing my arms down.
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It's coming out of my fingertips. It's coming out of my lungs.
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It's releasing from my body.
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So let's do that together. We're going to do the deep breath in and we're going
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to do my throw it out and exhale.
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Are you ready let's do it big deep breath
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in arms above
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the head and release now I
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quite often do that with my eyes closed it just interrupts it acts like a circuit
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breaker in your brain it interrupts the thoughts and it kind of takes back the
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reins of your body you're like you know what your body is throwing out all kinds
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of signals that I'm stressed my cortisol is going up I'm like you know what, guys?
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I'm just going to give this a little bit of a break, a little bit of an interruption.
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I interrupt, I hone in and I'm like, let's stop. Pause, deep breath, throw it out.
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And then I have a two minute breath reset.
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So put your hand on your heart, just take a deep breath in and one slow breath
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out and just do that three times. That is it.
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You can literally do this in the bathroom at work. If you're having a stress
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out at work, just take yourself off it.
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Actually, I've called it the two-minute breath reset. It's probably like one minute or 30 seconds.
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Sit with that for a minute and it just regulates your breathing.
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It's like it throws out the stress cells.
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That's what I always like to think of it. I like to think you're exhaling all
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of those stress cells out into the universe. And you're like, do you know what?
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You're not welcoming my body. I'm not going to be pushing you around with my blood flow.
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And those deep breaths in, those slow deep breaths in and your hand on your
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heart, you are just tuning in and checking back in with your body.
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You are just slowing down your heart rate, you are resettling,
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you are being mindful and you're just tuning back in to give yourself.
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Kind of moment of grounding. Like I said, even if you're at work,
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you could do it now in the car.
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If you're commuting to work and you're feeling stressed today about work,
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about the people that you work with, maybe you're on your way to a meeting or
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you've got a day at work that you just think, I don't know if I can face this today.
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You could do this while you're driving, put your hand on your heart,
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maybe don't do the closed eyes bit.
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Just take those deep breaths in, do the exhale first. That is the biggest one
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for me. Sometimes I just do that and I feel instantly better.
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If you're at work and you just need a moment, just take a step away,
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just take yourself to the bathroom and just do this in the bathroom just for a minute to reset.
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Wherever you are, take yourself off and have this two-minute breath reset to yourself.
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The next grounding ritual that I have is to think about what is actually in my control.
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So when you find yourself having an anxious spiral or maybe you're just thinking
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of all the things that aren't going right and you're just, oh,
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you know, you know what it's like.
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You get that really heavy feeling in your head.
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You can feel it in your gut. You can feel it in your chest.
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Do this and just do the what's in my control list. So just take a notepad out and pen.
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Now, again, even if you're at work, just take a piece of paper,
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draw two columns. And on the left side, just put what's in my control.
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What is in my control. On the right side, what's not?
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So for example, I can control how I start my morning.
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I cannot control when that email reply comes through.
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So maybe you're waiting for an email reply from your boss or maybe a message
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from someone where you've, I don't know, maybe you've spoken up in a relationship
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and you're waiting for them to reply or maybe it's someone that you're dating.
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Just think, what can I control? I can control how I start my morning.
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I cannot control when my reply comes through, whether that's your email or your
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text message. That's just a little reply.
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And then just follow that through on your list. What can I control?
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And what can't I control? What's out of my control?
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Because that way, that kind of helps your brain stop obsessing over what it can't change.
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The things that are out of your control, you may as well release them from your
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brain, release them from your thoughts, release them from your body.
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You have no control over those things.
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Let's just concentrate on the list that you do have control of.
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Now, the other grounding ritual I do is tiny anchors.
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So you just pick one little ritual that makes you feel like you.
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Now, I do this all the time, all the time.
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This is actually, I'd say, my go-to ritual. If I'm feeling a bit uncomfortable,
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if I feel like I'm spiraling,
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if I'm having a moment, if I'm feeling a bit lost this is the one that I come
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back to pick one ritual that makes you feel like you that could be going to
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get your morning coffee maybe that's lighting a candle at night maybe it's blasting
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your favorite song in the car whatever it is.
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Do that and protect it like it's your sacred thing. What can you do right now
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in the messiness that will make you feel better?
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Sometimes I take myself off on a five-minute walk.
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Even if I walk to the end of my road or back, sometimes that is enough to kind
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of break the circuit of my thoughts and to kind of bring me back and ground me to now.
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Whatever it is for you, yesterday I was having a bit of stress.
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I thought, you know what? I'm stopping for a minute.
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I'm going to grab myself a takeaway coffee and I'm going to sit in the sun for five minutes.
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Do you know what I didn't come away bouncing I was quite stressed
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had a few things going on the last couple of days that made me a little
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bit more stressed do you know what it just brought me back to
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me a little bit closer to me and instantly kind
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of offered me that comfort offered me
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that feeling of feeling comfortable
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and grounded and do you know what you know
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I remember a client recently they were saying that they were moving house
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it was pure chaos there were boxes everywhere they were
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living off takeaway and they said they had a mound
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of paperwork piling up and the only thing
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that kept them sane was their morning coffee ritual
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they were like you know what they had their same mug they in fact we worked
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together they went and bought themselves you know a perfect special mug that
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meant something for them it made them smile when they looked at this mug so
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they had their same mug their same seat in the garden for coffee even if the
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rest of the house looked like a disaster zone.
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That one anchor made them feel safe and it made them feel stable.
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So here's a little kind of takeaway for you here. Find your anchor and guard it.
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Even if your whole life feels like it is spinning, you'll always have that one thing that grounds you.
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And kind of make it known to yourself that that is your sacred thing.
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That is your grounding ritual.
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And keep it safe. Protect it with everything.
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What I mean by that is when everything is spiraling, you make sure that that doesn't go amiss.
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If you need that five minute walk around the block, you take it.
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If you need that five minutes in the sun with your coffee, you take it.
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Even if you're busy at work, you can step away for a couple of minutes.
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You can do that. You can go into the bathroom and have your breath reset work.
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Whatever it is that you do, just protect it and make sure that you always have
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that and that will help bring you back to you.
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Now let's talk about manifesting through contrast and it's so underrated in
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the manifestation world.
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It's such an amazing manifestation tool and it's contrast.
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Contrast is when life shows you what you don't want and that clarity is powerful.
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So when things are happening, so if you have things happening to you right now
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that you don't want and you're thinking, why universe?
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Why? Why are you bringing me this? Why is this happening to me?
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And you're feeling a bit sorry for yourself. Think about it.
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Your life is showing you parts of it that you don't want. And that clarity is powerful.
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We must use that clarity. We must lean on that clarity.
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Think about a time perhaps, maybe this really resonates with me,
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but think about a time maybe you dated someone who was completely wrong for you.
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Maybe they were flaky, maybe they didn't communicate, or maybe they didn't share their values.
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At the time, maybe it felt messy, maybe it felt painful.
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Afterwards, maybe you had that crystal clear clarity about the kind of partner you do want.
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And now that is manifestation goal. There is a lesson in there.
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And do you know what? This resonates with me perfectly. For years,
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for quite a few years, in my 30s, for about five, six years,
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maybe a bit longer, I was single.
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I split up with someone when I was 30. I thought, what am I doing?
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But it felt right. I just knew there was something more for me.
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Then I spent the next, yeah, five or six years single and dating.
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And I was, you know, I had situationships I
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did have actually relationships in that time but generally I was dating and
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I say I had probably quite a
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healthy outlook on dating but it doesn't mean that sometimes I didn't come crashing
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down thinking where is he am I ever going to meet him am I ever going to meet
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my soulmate but with each day I learned things about myself and about what I
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wanted in my future part now I think it's important to word that as not saying
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what you don't want You know,
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for example, if you're on a dating app, it's really important to say,
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not to say in your bio, I don't want this. I don't want a partner who travels all the time.
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I don't know. I don't want a partner who's, I don't know.
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What don't you want? I don't want a partner who goes out all the time and parties with their friends.
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It's really important to reframe it and think that you are actually learning
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with each of these relationships, with each of these dates that you feel have failed.
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You are learning what's important to you and what is going to be perfect for
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you in your perfect partner.
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And ultimately, if your end goal is to meet your soulmate, don't you want to
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just spend that little bit longer creating the perfect person?
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Because this list, this clarity list you're going to get of your perfect person,
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that is going to bring you that match from the universe into your life,
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your soulmate that matches that list perfectly. It's worth the wait, isn't it?
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And I think I had an ex-partner who was a very lovely guy. He was a very lovely guy.
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But I have to be honest, I think as a partner, I'm not going to,
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I'm going to say out loud, maybe I shouldn't go this personal,
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but not a very good partner in terms of a very good boyfriend.
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And it wasn't because they were a horrible person it's because they
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had lots of businesses going on and actually I kind
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of got cancelled a lot I got let down a lot but they
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didn't have much time for me and I really wanted
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it to work because I could see some value in this person
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but ultimately I ended up feeling disappointed
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a lot of the time and it made me realize it made
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me really realize that actually I was looking for someone who
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made time for me who could make time for me
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and showed me that they can make time for me that showed
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me that I was a priority that was so important
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to me and I took myself out of that relationship and I
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went back to being single and then I met my soulmate who makes time for me who
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shows me I'm a priority what I'm trying to say to you I'm not showing off here
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going I met my soulmate but you know it really does work And what I want to
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provide you is the hope and that clarity that actually, guys,
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just because life is showing you at the moment chaos and things going what you
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might feel like are wrong is actually showing you what you don't want.
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And that clarity is your power.
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This messy season is teaching you something.
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It's saying, hey, you know, this that's going on in your life right now,
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that's not for you. But what would you like instead?
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So the more clear you get, the more clarity you get, the better you become at manifesting.
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So here's a practice for you. Whenever something feels messy, just pause,
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stop for a minute and ask yourself, okay, what is
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this showing me that I want instead that's all
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you have to do that's your only task so for example think
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about this for a moment let's say for example maybe you've been dating
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someone and you had some hope that it might work and
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maybe they drop off the face of the earth maybe you've been ghosted okay it
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feels hurtful you feel disappointed you might feel like right that's it I'm
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never going to meet anyone swap this around and say what have I learned here
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maybe your clarity is that you want someone who communicates maybe your clarity
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is that you want someone to show up.
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And do you know what? Also the clarity in there is that if they are going to ghost you, let them go.
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Let them go off and ghost you and let's find your soulmate quicker.
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Maybe if your workplace at the moment feels chaotic, maybe your clarity is that
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you want a job where you feel like you're respected and that you feel like your work is valued.
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So just kind of have a look at what is going on in your life at the moment and
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how you can swap it with what you've learned and what clarity you are getting.
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Now, that shift makes those messy moments useful instead of painful.
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And it doesn't mean that all the pain is going to go away and that all the disappointment
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or frustration is going to go away.
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But it does mean that your moment is useful and not painful.
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Now, energy hygiene in messy times. Now, this last piece of advice,
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we're calling it energy hygiene.
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Now, bear with me. Now, messy seasons can suck you in if you're not careful.
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You can get so bogged down with them. And maybe you just start to identify with the chaos.
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And the chaos kind of comes your normal. It's just who I am, maybe you'll say.
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And maybe you just kind of come out of things like, I'm stressed,
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I'm broke, I'm stuck, or I feel stuck.
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But those are just temporary experiences. They are not your identity.
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So the reason we call this energy hygiene, This is about protecting our energy
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and keeping our energy clean.
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So how do we do this? Well, number one, we limit the venting.
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Now, I know we all need a good vent sometimes, but there is a limit to how much we can vent.
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If you notice that you are constantly telling yourself or other people the same story over and over,
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poor me, this is what happened with my breakup I
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feel rubbish I have no money I can't pay the bills that is keeping that energy
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alive it's keeping the energy tainted and we need to clean that energy so instead
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I'm not telling you to rant because equally we don't want to keep it all trapped
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in in our bodies either where it just kind of goes around in the cycle.
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But here is my advice to you. Have a mini rant.
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Now, my sister and I, we often do this. We'll get on the phone to each other
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and we'll say, right, this is what's happening for me right now.
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And we'll take it in turns.
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We'll, you know, she'll have her rant. I'll have mine.
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So we'll go, right, this is what's happening for me at the moment.
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And we'll say to each other, do you mind if I just have a mini rant?
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Let me just have a mini rant.
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So we have a little rant and we get it out and say, this happened at work.
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I'm feeling this and I'm feeling a bit trapped.
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And then we stop. We share it once. It's like we get it out.
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We get all that energy and that negativity out of our bodies and then we leave it there.
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We share it once and then we work on finding and facing and talking about our solutions instead.
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So we're kind of sharing how we feel. It's been really open and it's been really honest.
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We're not hiding the fact we feel negative or that we feel frustrated or disappointed.
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We get that out, we release it, we have a brain dump.
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Then we go, right, okay, so what can we do to improve this? What can we do to
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raise our vibrations today?
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How can I feel better about this situation?
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And we talk to each other, but we also kind of talk to ourselves in that.
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We sometimes, what I quite often say, and actually my sister does as well,
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we'll have a bit of a rant and we'll say, I'm going to have a rant.
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I kind of know what I need to do. So we'll rant about the situation.
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Then we go, I know that I need to do this. I need to do this thing,
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which I know is going to make me feel better.
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But it kind of just helps to have that little rant.
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The important thing here is to limit your venting.
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What we can do is keep going around telling everybody who will listen how bad
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our health is, how bad that job was, where it was really rubbish and we felt
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really rubbish about ourselves.
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That is what we need to limit. You know, and I think sometimes it's easy to
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live in that world of feeling sorry for ourselves.
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Dare I say it like a little bit of a victim. And it's so, it's like a safe space
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to live. You want to kind of say to people, I'm having a rough time right now.
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Please feel for me. And it's not a bad way to be, but it is not going to help you.
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So we are, first of all, number one, we are limiting the venting.
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Now, that is the first thing we are going to do to protect our energy.
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Number two is we are going to have energetic cutoffs,
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So end the day with something that resets you.
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So if you've had one of those days, maybe you've had a row with your partner,
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maybe work felt really heavy, maybe you've had a difficult day with the children,
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maybe you're just feeling rubbish and you don't know why.
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End the day with something that resets and cleans your energy.
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Shower it off, shake it off, walk it off. Literally say out loud, I release this day.
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Sometimes I get a hot shower or a hot bath and when I stand under the running
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water, I like to visualize all of the negativity running off of me,
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kind of running over my body, running out of my body and down into the plug
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hole and watch it kind of swirl away down the plug.
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Maybe you can shake it out, put some music on, move.
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Sometimes I kind of bounce around. I'm doing it now. I don't know if you can hear it in my voice.
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Shake it out in the words of Taylor Swift. just shake
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it out bounce around move your body sometimes I actually
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do this before or after a really important meeting I
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shake it out that negative energy it's like it's cleansing
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it you're shaking out through your fingertips move
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your body shake it out through your fingertips the
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negativity the stress the chaos say out
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loud I release this day maybe take
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yourself for a walk and sometimes in the evening people just want to
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get in they want to put something on the tv and just
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veg out now that is totally okay but you
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know what even two minutes two minutes walking around in your
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garden two minutes to the end of the road maybe two minutes to the lamppost
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in your outdoor out the front of your house just say out loud I release this
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day and think of that as an energetic cleanse it's also an energetic cut off
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no more of the chaos no more of the stress I release this day,
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your body listens, your brain listens, and it will kind of release the same chemicals to say.
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Okay, I'm safe now.
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I can relax now. The chaos is gone. I have reset.
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And it's such a powerful ritual to do at nighttime before bed,
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because before we go to sleep, we reset when we sleep anyway.
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But imagine saying to your brain, it's okay.
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I'm not taking that stress into
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my sleep and I'm not straight taking that stress into my following day.
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I release this day. Put your arms up in the air.
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I'm actually looking out to a blue sky right now. I'm filming this in a studio
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apartment. I'm somewhere else filming at the moment.
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And I'm looking up at this blue sky, I'm lifting my arms in the air,
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and I'm saying, I release this day.
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Take it with you, universe. Thank you so much. I release it.
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Number three is to protect your vision. So even in chaos, keep your affirmations alive.
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Keep your vision board up. You don't have to believe it 100% at the moment.
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If you're looking at your vision board and thinking, oh, well,
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life is a bit rubbish right now.
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Life is messy and chaotic right now and you're not feeling it.
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It's okay. Keep it there.
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Protect your vision. You don't have to believe in it 100% of the time.
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Just keep reminding yourself that the bigger picture is powerful.
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Trust that in that vision board and trust that in those affirmations that these
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will become clear in time.
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Maybe you're not in it right now, you're in the messiness, but that future,
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that future, your affirmations will be alive and your vision board will be alive
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and your visualizations, your manifestations will come to fruition,
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even if you're not 100% feeling it today.
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Now, your takeaway here is that the messy seasons don't cancel your manifestations.
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Don't panic. this is actually probably
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my most frequently asked question a lot of you have
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been sliding into my dms recently thank you for that
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i do read all of my dms i'm slowly
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getting back to everyone if you're not following me on
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instagram please do i'm at the holly edwards i was going to say different one
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then at the holly edwards and i'm at the dot manifestation station as well and
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do you know what on my instagram i'm always trying to provide some free content
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and some just things that practices and things that you can do while sharing
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a little bit of my life as well.
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So I hope that's helpful for you, but please do slide into my DMs.
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So remember, those messy seasons, they do not cancel your manifestations.
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This is what I was saying to you. My most frequently asked question is,
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oh my God, I've been working so hard on my manifestations and I've been doing
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this positivity work and my vision boards and I'm visualizing and doing my affirmations.
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However, I'm feeling a bit negative at the moment. This has happened and I'm
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now worrying that I'm undoing all of my good manifestation work.
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I'm worrying that I'm now going to be manifesting things that feel really negative.
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Don't worry these messy seasons
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the chaotic season that you're in at the moment is
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not going to cancel your manifestation and it
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is so important you remember that and remember these words that I'm saying to
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you because we don't have to be positive 100% of the time even if 51% of the
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time we're positive that is going to kind of swing the pendulum in your favor
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for your manifestations but But also, these messy seasons,
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what I'm providing you with today, it's just about not spiraling in them.
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We are all going to have messy seasons at times.
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That is completely normal. That is life happening to you and around you.
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But it's not going to undo all of your good work. It's recognizing those messy seasons,
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but also knowing that your vision is still powerful and that actually you just
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don't get sucked down and spiral with these messy seasons. That's the key here.
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It's just asking you to be more intentional with your energy.
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Be intentional with your thoughts and the energy that you're putting out.
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So we are going to wrap this up, my loves.
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Messy does not mean you're broken. Messy means movement.
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Keep thinking that. Write it down. Messy is movement. Messy means movement.
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Messy means you're in the middle of rearrangement, welcoming new things,
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ready to welcome new things from the universe, new opportunities.
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We've just got to kind of rearrange everything first so that all of these lovely
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new manifestations can slot in.
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And remember that rearrangement might be exactly what you asked for.
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Maybe it's just disguised, but actually it's bringing you what you asked for.
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So if you are in rearrangement season at the moment, kind of think,
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okay, this is allowing me to make space and this is bringing me exactly what I asked for.
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So here is my challenge for you this week. every night, write down one way your
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messy season is secretly serving you.
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Maybe it's teaching you patience. Think about what your messy season is teaching you right now.
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What is the lesson in there? Is it teaching you patience?
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Maybe it's clarifying your desires. It's making you think, okay,
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what is this making me realize that I do want?
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Maybe it's forcing you to finally rest. I love that.
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Maybe something is teaching you that you need to rest.
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Whatever it is, train your brain to see the magic in that mess.
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And remember, you are not behind, you are not failing and you are not off track.
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You are exactly where you're meant to be right now.
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Nobody has a super clear journey from A to B.
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We go on bendy roads, we go down side roads, we get obstacles on our road that
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we have to take a turn off.
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No one's journey is from A to B, absolutely super clear journey.
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Okay, you have to remember that you are not off track. You are just in the middle of your story.
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Think about films and movies. Now, if you don't know about this about me,
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I also work as a makeup designer in film and TV.
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So I do a lot of film work. And every film that you watch, every TV series that
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you watch, if you think about it, even the lovely rom-com.
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It starts off really beautiful, setting the scene, and everything looks aesthetically wonderful.
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Then something happens. Something happens to the main character where they're in turmoil.
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Their life gets turned upside down. They lose the love of their life.
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Something happens, right?
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And then it becomes clear. And then we get our happy ending in the film.
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And that's what I love. maybe you
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know your lesson in there this is training your brain
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to see the magic in the mess you're
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not off track and this is just the
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middle of your story we've got the finale to come
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we've got the amazing rom-com where she
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meets the love of her life and everything becomes good
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and they go skipping off into the sunset but also remember
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you're in the middle of your story and then
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you might get the finale and then you might have another messy bit and
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then a finale and then that is how life
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goes so remember you are not off track and those
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messy chapters are often the ones that make
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the ending of your film so good think about it think about how boring that movie
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would be if the girl met her soulmate at the start and they just lived a lovely
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life together and that was it I mean actually it does sound quite nice but trust
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me if you're watching that film you go.
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Do you know what? That's a little bit boring. So these Bessie chapters,
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they are the ones that will make the ending of your movie so worth the wait,
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so wonderful, so magical.
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Music.