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What are narcissists like in the bedroom? · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  What is going on beautiful people?
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  Welcome to another episode of the narcissist Code.
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  I'm your favorite self aware narcissist Mr. Lee Hammock
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  better known as Mental illness across all social media
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  platforms. This is the first time seeing my
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  face or hearing my lovely voice. I'm a clinically diagnosed
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  narcissist and I use my platform on social media to raise
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  awareness for NPD, get more people into therapy and also
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  validate the victims, survivors and thrivers of said disorder,
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  said Toxic people said toxic traits.
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  Today's episode is going to be about how are narcissists in the
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  bedroom, clapping cheeks, all that other good stuff that
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  people want to hear about. What are they like in the
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  bedroom and whatnot? Y'all.
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  But before you hop into today's episode, y'all make sure y'all
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  TuneIn every Thursday at 6:00 PM Pacific Time, 9:00 PM Eastern
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  Standard Time for my live show called Waving the Red Flag.
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  You have a lot of great stuff going on YouTube and Facebook.
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  This week's show is about going No contact.
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  How to go, no contact state, no contact.
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  All the other good stuff waving the red flag live on YouTube and
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  Facebook every single week. But yeah, yeah, yes, yes, yes,
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  yes, yes. What are narcissists like in the
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  bedroom? Yeah, I know a lot of people
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  just like narcissists or some people are going to.
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  Everybody's going to have a different perspective.
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  Y'all everybody's going to have a different perspective of who
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  you when you've dealt with a narcissistic person.
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  But from the mind of a narcissist, it's just like, you
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  know, in the bedroom. They want a lot of them want
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  control. They won't control over you.
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  They won't control over every aspect of who you are over your
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  body, over their body, over how long ago, where, who, what,
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  when, why, where, who, what with all the other good stuff, you
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  know, they won't absolute control in these situations.
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  And I'm talking to a lot of people, they're just like, well,
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  Lee, that's that's so fine and dandy.
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  But no, some people like when other person is in control.
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  Other Some people might like when the narcissistic person is
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  in control, but a lot of narcissists are out to serve
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  themselves in the bedroom. When you clap your cheeks,
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  having sex, whatever whatever y'all want to say, you know?
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  It's just like they're out to serve themselves.
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  You know they are using your body.
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  A lot of them. Not all of them.
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  Y'all. A lot of them are using your
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  body as an object to please themselves, not to please you.
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  That some of them do absolutely do not care if you are pleased
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  or whatever the situation arises.
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  Some of them. Absolutely.
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  Just out to just please themselves.
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  They want to please themselves. Like they want to say they want
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  to control and dominate you. So like Okay here, here we go.
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  35 seconds in and out. Done.
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  You know, in and out. Done.
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  They want to control you and you, you.
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  Some of them use you and abuse you also in the bedroom.
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  You know, they absolutely do that because I said they want
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  that control. And you get a lot of times where
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  you get narcissistic people who are into BDSM because of that
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  controlling aspect, because of that.
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  So you know, dominant submissive aspect a lot of times.
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  But sometimes they get into, they get into the BDSM part of
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  it because some of them are sadistic and they want to beat
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  you. They want to consensually beat
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  your ass. So they'll get you into BDSM, or
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  they themselves will be into BDSM and they will consensually,
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  consensually beat your ass. That's what they will do.
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  Some of them will absolutely put their hands on.
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  Some of them will absolutely beat, like literally beat on you
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  because of it. You know what I mean?
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  Some of them will absolutely do that.
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  They'll literally hop on there and they tie you up, Whatever.
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  You know, I ain't going through too much, too much graphic
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  detail, but some of them will tie you up, handcuff you,
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  breath, play. They want to control, like stop
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  you from breathing, choke you, whatever it is.
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  They want to beat you and cause you pain because they like it
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  and they want to see you in pain.
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  They want to be in control of your pain.
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  They want to be in control of your suffering.
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  Sometimes in the like in the bedroom, what it's supposed to
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  you know and there's nothing to guess.
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  If you are into BDSM or breath play or whatever you're into,
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  that's fine dandy. This is not a judgment that like
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  we we don't kink Shane here or whatever.
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  So do you you know what I mean? At the end of the day, do you.
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  But when you're doing with the narcissist, the person you have
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  to expect when they when they if they are into this, they are not
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  there doing this, they might take it to the next level.
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  Safe word. You're safe.
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  Word might go out the door. Oh, I didn't hear you.
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  Pineapple. Pineapple.
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  Oops, I thought. I thought.
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  I thought the safe word was grapefruit.
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  You said pineapple. I didn't know what you did about
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  Boo Boo, Boo Boo Boo. They'll catch you up.
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  Y'all. They're out to serve themselves
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  and control you. It's like I said, some of them
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  want to cause you pain. They just do.
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  You have the sadistic, narcissistic person who wants to
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  cause you pain throughout the day, but they can do it
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  consensually in the bedroom because like, they're into this.
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  And they even if you are not into this y'all.
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  Even if you are not into mediasm or birthplay or getting getting
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  tied up in your ass beat or choked or something like that,
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  they will guilt trip you into it.
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  If they really want to do it, they will guilt trip you into
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  doing it. They will guilt trip you into
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  take, like, say into into doing that type of stuff right there.
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  They will guilt trip you. They will make you feel bad
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  about not wanting to do it. Oh, you don't want to please me?
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  Oh well, if you're not going to do it, someone else is going to
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  do it. You see what I'm saying?
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  They will do that right there. Some of them will absolutely do
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  that. But another thing that happens
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  in the bedroom with a narcissistic people, Y'all is
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  that if this is kind of very specific to if narcissistic
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  people have, you have a cheating narcissist, right?
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  Or they are. They might be super bland and
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  vanilla with you, but if they the person they cheat on you
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  with, they treat them. They do the BDSM stuff with
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  them. They do all that crazy wild
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  stuff with them. They they're more experimental
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  with their affair partners or somebody along those lines right
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  there. They like it's bland vanilla
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  with you, but with everybody else, they just jumping off the
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  roof, hanging from the cyiling, whatever it is.
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  And a lot of times because narcissistic people don't want
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  to view their main partner in a negative light, they don't, They
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  don't want to treat you like dirt in the bedroom because it
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  makes them view you in a different like they want to.
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  They want to have this purity. They want to look at you in this
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  purity. Like sometimes what they don't
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  do the the nasty, filthy, dirty stuff to you, but they do it to
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  everybody else because they don't have the the connection to
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  them. They'll bland and clap the
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  cheeks, whatever, they'll do whatever regular cheek clap it
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  with you. But all here in the world, real
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  world, they all hear like Spiderman and they do all do all
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  kinds of wildness with somebody else because they don't want to
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  view you in a weird light. You know, I could do a longer
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  video on that right there, but it happens a lot.
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  Like, you look like I've heard this story so many times from
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  people that have caught that narcissistic partner cheating or
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  something like that. They'll say like, well, they the
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  thing that hurt the most. I looked through their phone and
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  I saw that they like to get tied up or they like to get beaten
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  and choked and stuff like that by their far, far partner.
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  Or they like to tie that fair partner up or be the choke them
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  or whatever. But with me that's like, it's
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  just like boring. Like it's just regular declar.
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  I was like, yeah, because they don't want to view you in a
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  dirty light of dirty light. You're not dirty.
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  They don't want to view you in the light of you being, you
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  know, a less than. Because they they, they view
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  people as objects. And if you like, if you are a
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  sexual object to them, then they view you as less than them.
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  They view you as a damn near subhuman, you know what I'm
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  saying? So it has less to do with it has
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  them. We wanted to keep you in this
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  purity light, especially if they don't want to leave you.
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  If they want to stay with you, they'll definitely keep you in
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  this, try to keep you in a purity light.
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  You know what I mean? Not all of them do their job,
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  but some of them very well, very much will do this type of stuff
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  like that. What they want to keep you in
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  this, like that purity, like to preserve you or whatever, you
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  know, whatever weird words y'all want to use and whatnot.
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  But it happens quite a bit in these toxic relationship
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  dynamics and whatnot. So, and that's what I'm telling
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  people, like this happens quite a bit.
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  This is not, this is just not centered.
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  It's just not you just going through this.
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  You know, a lot of people go through the same exact
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  experience with narcissistic people because the narcissistic
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  person, you know, they don't really know what's going on in
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  this space. You know what I mean?
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  So that's what I'm just saying. So in in this, in this dynamic
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  right here, and this is what I like to tell a lot of people
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  when in the bedroom with a narcissistic person, Y'all they
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  want that absolute control. They do.
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  They want to control, dominate, do whatever they feel is
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  necessary to take the power away from you and strip you strip you
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  down. Now you get narcissistic people,
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  male, female or what not. They in the bedroom, they'll
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  withhold the bedroom stuff to out.
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  They would hold the bedroom boom or the sex or whatever, to
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  control you and to punish you or whatever.
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  You know, you get a lot of narcissists.
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  The people who do that, like they'll, you know, maybe I can
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  cheating on you and not sleeping with you like y'all go, y'all
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  go. I heard these stories before.
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  Narcissists person will go six, 7-8 months, a whole year without
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  touching their partner. But be out there having affairs
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  the whole time, you know, and just wildness, because a
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  narcissist wants to have control of you.
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  They know, especially if they know that you're like love.
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  Language is like physical touch or something like that.
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  If you're love, language is physical touch and you want them
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  to physically touch you or something like that, and they
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  just withhold it from you to hurt you, they would hold it
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  from you to punish you. And they make you feel guilty
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  for demanding it from them or something like that.
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  Just like you you you like. They'll make you feel like a
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  damn whore male female whore or whatever in this situation.
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  Like hey you hey you want to get it?
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  You want to do something Have some fun tonight.
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  Oh God, what is wrong with you? You're just so damn you're a
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  whore. Yeah, they'll make you feel bad
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  about wanting to express you're except you're wanting to express
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  yourself sexually with your partner.
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  They'll make you feel bad about that, which is wild as hell.
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  Y'all I'm just being realistic. They'll make you feel bad about
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  it and it's wild as hell. Did they do it like that?
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  Yeah. But again, they want to demean
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  you. They want to control you.
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  They want to make you feel like they want to make you feel less
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  than so narcissistic people in the bedroom are going to go in a
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  few different ways. You know, just how to go, just
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  how to go about it. I know people are going to say,
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  Lee, why don't you keep saying bedroom?
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  Why don't you just take sex? We are, we're adults here.
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  You know, these platforms have a very unique way of taking words
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  that you say if you say them during a certain time and just
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  dragging the platform down. I just like, I can't do that,
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  you know, man, I don't want to do that.
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  So I appreciate that. Like, so yeah, yeah.
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  Make sure y'all TuneIn to waving the Red Flag show because we we
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  do it at No Contact episode this week.
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  Next week we'll probably talk about bedroom live.
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  We'll have people, we'll have guests coming out and talk about
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  their experiences with narcissists.
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  The people in the bedroom live. Because again, the last thing I
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  cover is like how some narcissists in the bedroom like
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  they want to be the best you ever have.
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  You know, so they watch a lot of, a lot of corn with a P,
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  replace the P with A, replace that C with a P They watch a lot
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  of corn. Oh, to get better at what they
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  do with you. And some of them just prefer to
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  corn over you because the corn allows them to control and stuff
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  like that. That allows them to not to have
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  to engage with you and things of that nature.
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  But they some, a lot of narcissists want to be, to try
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  to want to be. They want to be the best you
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  ever had. You know, not all of them are
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  good at it. Yeah.
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  I promise you, not every single narcissistic person is good at
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  good at clapping chicks. Some of them are, but like, if
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  you are what, a narcissist because the sex is good.
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  Y'all come on now, there's billions of genitalia out there
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  because the sex is good with this one person.
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  Come on, don't get whipped in the bedroom.
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  To the fact that when they have you out here looking silly as
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  hell, going back into a toxic abusive relationship where they
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  they might clap your cheeks good, but they punch you in the
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  mouth or choke you or knock you like literally knock you in the
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  next week, put hospitalize you or try to hurt you or something
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  like that outside of the bedroom.
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  Don't let some good sex be the lead to the detriment or your or
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  you embarrassing yourself. I'll leave it with it.
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  Y'all. Anyways, y'all like and
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