Your Own Choices or Not. Who's Deciding Your Life Right Now?

Your Effin’ Love Story · Oct 30, 2026 · 14m

When did you start making your own choices? And how many of those choices are actually yours, rather than decisions you've made to satisfy somebody else's expectations about who you're supposed to be?

I started thinking about this because of something as simple as music. I'm a Black man who grew up listening to Marvin Gaye and the Temptations, learned to play classical flute, and discovered Kiss and Black Sabbath along the way. Apparently, even what music we're supposed to enjoy can come with somebody else's rules.

But this goes a hell of a lot deeper than music.

Growing up, I was surrounded…