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745. How to Stop Perfectionism From Secretly Destroying Your Happiness · Be It Till You See It

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[SPEAKER_02]: Burnout is actually one of the most beautiful things that can ever happen in your life because your soul is finally getting involved.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That is what burnout means.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It is nothing to do with the amount of hours worked.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It has to do with the amount of hours spent out of alignment.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Welcome to the be it till you see it podcast where we talk about taking messy action, knowing that perfect is boring.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm also Logan, prize instructor, and fitness business coach.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've trained thousands of people around the world, and the number one thing I see stopping people from achieving anything is self-doubt.
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[SPEAKER_00]: My friends, action brings clarity.
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[SPEAKER_00]: and it's the antidote to fear.
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[SPEAKER_02]: All right, here's Brad Bizzcheck.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All right, be a babe.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is going to be fun because it was fun the last time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it was a great conversation, but I know it's going to be life changing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: At the very least, it's going to have you stop in your tracks and go, oh, wait a second.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've been doing this maybe a little bit, not in the service of myself and my best interest.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Brad Bizzcheck is back.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Brad, can you remind everyone who you are?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And why you rock so much?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, I'm super fun to be back.
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[SPEAKER_02]: First of all, thanks so much for having me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'm excited to add some value to your amazing listeners.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I am a personal development expert, sir, about high performance coach.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I really help people shift the limiting beliefs, toxic, dot patterns, limiting emotional
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[SPEAKER_02]: habits that go on in the blind spots of your mind and how do we break through those and reach the next level of success and more importantly, fulfillment in our lives.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so that's the the two-minute spark notes I can get into the story and all that stuff if you want me to, but that's just a little bit of backstory of what I do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know because, well, you do it so well, first of all.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I mean, there's so many people who claim to do these things, but you actually
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, the Instagram people claim that their services can help, but sometimes I find that there's another thing that people can collect.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm a applies instructor who teach suppliers and instructors as we know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I'm some of, you're just collecting exercises.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You don't need to collect more exercises.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You need to do the ones you have.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But what sets you apart, I guess.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I mean, that's a big question.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But you know, you can, you can brag about yourself a little bit.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I mean, there's, there's a lot of really beautiful things that we've been able to do in and serve people with, we obviously we've trained over 80,000 people all over the world and how to shift their psychology.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But one of the things that I think really separates us from everyone that claims to be a mindset coach on the internet and you like you said there are a lot of them.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then there's people that haven't really gone through life and they claim to be a life coach, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And it's, it's just really interesting to see how that works.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But one of the things that
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[SPEAKER_02]: really helps our students and everyone that we serve on podcast and things like that is that we we take these ethereal concepts, let's use the example of a belief and we actually make it tactical on how you can actually shift them, how you can actually remove some of these blocks in your subconscious mind because a lot of times when people are talking about this stuff on the interwebs
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then someone's sitting there going, no shit, but how do I do that?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And we actually show you how to actually do that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I think that's one of the things that makes us really stand out.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I agree.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I couldn't agree more.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's true.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I interviewed someone.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And she's, well, you have, you have it already.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're born with all these things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You just need to not care so much about people thinking, I'm like, okay, but how do I do that?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, because...
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[SPEAKER_00]: How do I, it's like, well, you're just gonna stop caring, because it's okay, I just, okay, I love your confidence, but I am, I am as someone who's quite confident.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've done a lot of work on themselves.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have listeners who are, I'm gonna need more, man.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Do you want to actually answer that question?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Like how do you actually get yourself the stuff caring about what I do with things?
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[SPEAKER_02]: So if that's ever bothered you, and I think a lot of times people are in this space, yeah, of course, I need to stop caring what people think.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Most people don't recognize that every single thing that we do has a reason.
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[SPEAKER_02]: There's a sub-country reason behind everything.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And a couple of those reasons, they're six, but a couple of them are certainty and significance, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: We need to feel certain.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We need to know that we're gonna be able to avoid
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[SPEAKER_02]: we need significance, we need to feel important like we matter.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so whenever we're thinking about what are other people thinking of us, what's actually being asked is, is this enough?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Am I worthy in the eyes of others?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Which tells me that there is a strong craving of significance and that I will feel worthy if I achieve XYZ if other people think of me in a certain way.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The thing about significance is that there's unlimited ways to meet that need.
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[SPEAKER_02]: One of which can be getting approval from others.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's a disempowering way to meet the need for significance, but there's so many more empowering ways.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And one of the greatest ways is self-solubration.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And most people don't recognize this, that when you celebrate yourself, what you're actually doing is you're changing your own perception of your worth.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And there's this, everyone knows that you have unlimited worth, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: That everyone knows that logically, but our perception of that truth is often limited.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so if we can see that the perception of worth is what we need to change, well, there's a step to change that worth equals love over time, particularly the love you give yourself actively, like the act of love towards yourself,
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[SPEAKER_02]: and the greatest act of love towards yourself in the day-to-day is that self-solubration.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I particularly have people celebrate three things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: One is what actions you took today.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Number two is how you had a value to the world.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And number three is who you are as a person.
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[SPEAKER_02]: A great mom, a great dad, a great partner, whatever it is.
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[SPEAKER_02]: What you're doing then is you're priming your subconscious.
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[SPEAKER_02]: to have a bias towards action and contribution and seeing how great you are.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You did each day, your perceptive worth increases.
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[SPEAKER_02]: When your perception of worth increases, you are no longer in the state of craving perfection.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Perfection is the fear that I'm not enough and it needs to be perfect in order to feel that way.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So if we increase our perception of worth,
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[SPEAKER_02]: tend and see to go into perfection dissipates, then we don't really care what other people think.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so that's an example of taking a high level, a ethereal concept, and breaking it down into a tactical, what do you actually do to change it?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my god, I love these questions way more than the gratitude stuff everyone suggests to do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think you should be grateful.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that's really great, but you know, my husband had a gratitude journal and he made himself a bet that he had to do the gratitude journal every day, or you'd have to do, he'd have to go up run with me.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And it's not the with me part, it's the run part, but anyways, he was doing it and that he at some point he was, you know, this is really I find myself repeating Some of these gratitude because it's not like life is so different Monday to fry up, but all the time there's something new and but I like these because It really forces you to see you are doing things each day and you might not think that there is big as a deal as they are, but they are really impact people.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, I will say a sort of volunteering for the dog shelter here, for the SPCA.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I love them because they don't have any requirements of how many hours I have to be there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I might perfectionism can't achieve anything.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I can't, I just go when I want to go.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's a whole on me thing and I'm not going to lie.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Sometimes I just go for a 15 minutes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I feel so, I feel like I'm the greatest person in the world.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know, I guess.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't have to do much more self-selebration.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I could probably do some other things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, for people to do this, you know, for them to actually, I love the idea of like the perfectionism dissipates, because that's why a lot of the people listen to this podcast are recovering perfectionists, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: So they're trying to do these things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: When you identify as a perfectionist, because that's how you've received love and admiration and the significance, it becomes a new identity that you have to come into.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know what I mean?
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[SPEAKER_00]: You have to be, you're somebody else now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, you can't rely on while I'm a, you know, I grew up going, I'm a perfectionist.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's why I do it like that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Or I'm, I, you, you, you, you, you, you make that part of your, your story.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So become something you have to change.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have to, how do people do that?
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[SPEAKER_02]: You're asking great questions, by the way.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So you mentioned it became part of your identity.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that is very true for a lot of people.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Most people don't understand.
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[SPEAKER_02]: is that the strongest force in the human personality is the need to stay consistent with who you already think you are.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So if you label yourself as a perfectionist and life has taught you that you are, that's gonna be your biggest obstacle to break.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Now there's a step-by-step process on how you actually shift that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Number one is identifying something worth changing for.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then we can go deep into that if we want to.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Number two is, where do that belief form?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Because you were born in this world, a perfectionist.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You didn't decide that at a particular age.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You never signed a contract, but there was a belief that came into your world.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And somehow you adopted, and that might have been through an extreme, that might have been through consistent results.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But typically, if we go back and we take a look at, who's loved did you crave the most as a child?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Not who's loved did you get?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Who's love did you crave, mom or dad or grandma or grandpa who ever raised you?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And you ask yourself the question, who did I need to be to receive that love?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And who could I never be to receive that love?
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[SPEAKER_02]: You'll oftentimes find, unless you had a very empowering childhood, you'll oftentimes find the greatest limiting belief of your life.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's where a lot of that perfectionism comes from.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That opens up the conversation of heal all of those pieces of the past, which can be uncomfortable to look at, but there's ways to do it that are not painful.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then reframe, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: So if we take a look at healing a relationship, what do I mean by healing a relationship?
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[SPEAKER_02]: I had a really challenging childhood.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I had a lot of blame and resentment for that growing up.
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[SPEAKER_02]: A lot of anger, even borderline hatred, for it for a long time.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It was like there was this hook in me that I couldn't get out of me.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Until I recognized that there are three sides to every story.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's an interesting thing most people say there's two sides.
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[SPEAKER_02]: There's three sides, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: So number one is my perspective of what happened, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so there's all the things that happened, what shouldn't be done, all the things that should never be said to kids, all that, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Then there's the compassionate side of the story.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Well, let's put myself in that person's shoes.
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[SPEAKER_02]: right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Well, in my case, this person was adopted when they were born.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They were given away.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They were bullied all growing up.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They were the black sheep of their family.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They were in a very toxic relationship.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They were not mentally equipped to raise children in any way.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So anybody in that situation would act, there doesn't excuse it, but it helps us understand anybody in that situation would act that way.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So I can have compassion for the way that this person acted when I was a kid.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But then there's a third side of that story and this goes back to my fundamental belief that life is happening for you and not to you.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And we elevate to whatever you believe in.
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[SPEAKER_02]: God, the universe source, infant intelligence,
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[SPEAKER_02]: The if life is really happening for me and not to me, there is some gift in this pain.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And life's lessons get louder and louder and louder until you pay attention, and most people don't pay attention, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: They start really quiet, but then they get louder, and they think that life shouldn't be going how it is.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So life should be going exactly how it is.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You're just thinking it shouldn't.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So you're not seeing the gift that is hidden in your pain.
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[SPEAKER_02]: This gift is wrapped in pain so that you pay attention because if it was pleasurable, you wouldn't pay attention to it at all, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: So if we elevate to that perspective,
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[SPEAKER_02]: Well, let me take a look at this.
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[SPEAKER_02]: If I'm looking at it from the universe's perspective, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: If this person never treated me that way, I would not have the empathy I have today.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It has person intrigued me that way.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I wouldn't be the data I am or the spouse I am.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I wouldn't be able to have the ability to see patterns going on in people's minds and help them break through it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so it's only cow, the worst days of my life were actually the best days of my life in disguise.
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[SPEAKER_02]: that pain gave me the gift to do what I do now and so if we take a look at most people's most most proud qualities, most of them came from contrast of what they didn't want and so then there's a whole other so that's what the reframe is and then there's the gratitude then there's the thank you then there's that I'm so grateful that I experienced this which comes after the forgiveness piece after the reframing piece.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But all of that when it's done step by step you can start to let go of this identity of I'm a perfectionist because if people don't what they don't recognize and this is kind of a Perfection is just a way of being right and that's what your partners are really about who you're being What most people do is they try to change this just through behavior and action And so they'll start taking action to shift something in their life do something different
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[SPEAKER_02]: but it never really lasts and the reason is because perfectionism is embedded into their psychology so then they don't they stop at some point two weeks later and they label it as self-sabotage.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, but I have a very controversial opinion on self-sabotage.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I believe that self-sabotage is physically impossible and the reason why I believe that is because your brain is a survival mechanism.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so why would the world's greatest survival mechanism intentionally destroy the very host that's designed to protect?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, it could.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So anyway.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Let's call that a disease.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We would say that the brain is diseased.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's when that, yeah, exactly.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So people labeled as self sabotage when really all that's going on is who you're being.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The perfectionists in this example just has not been changed or dealt with.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And most people go about this backward.
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[SPEAKER_02]: What we want to create, but then there's the, how do we change who are actually being in the subconscious which and we go any direction you want to Yeah, yeah, yeah, no, I do want to go I want to keep you fall in this ramp up because I do think you're correct.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I call it be a tell you see it because it's instead of waiting until this time then I will right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So when I have this money then I will become a kinder person or when I have this then I will prioritize myself and it's actually you'll just have those things and you'll still be you right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's not thing because you didn't actually practice it you didn't you didn't find five minutes for yourself and so
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think that if you're going towards something that you want to change, but you're bringing the person that you, the perfectionists that you were, towards it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's never going to be perfect.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So you're going to stop halfway through and then you call it your failure, it's a failure thing or it's a sabotage thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I actually really like going down this train because I do think it can be helpful for the person who's been listening for a long time and they're still not getting to the see it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, there's a there's a there's a model that I love to teach and I didn't create this it's just something I learned years ago that really helps people from a high level perspective see how they're trying to change your life it's called the B do have model and I can go as deep as you want into it but the whole idea of this is that most people are going about changing their life completely backwards right and I've I've noticed this at the privilege now of working with.
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[SPEAKER_02]: over 80,000 people, and I've seen patterns.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I could be completely blind at this point with what I'm recognizing people, and I could still recognize this.
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[SPEAKER_02]: This is completely obvious.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I would say that 90% if I were to ballpark it, 90% of people operate from, and I recognize three paradigms, but 90% of people operate from the first one, which is what I call the have-do-be psychology.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And you'll kind of recognize yourself here because I'll explain some of the symptoms of this in just a moment, but most people will believe once I have more money.
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[SPEAKER_02]: or more time, or more spousal supports, or more freedom, or whatever.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Then I'll take courageous action on whatever my dreams are, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And once I take that courageous action, then I will have my goals.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Then I'll be successful, I'll be happy, I'll be fulfilled, I'll be whatever it is.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So have to be, once I have more money, then I'll hire a coach so I can be successful, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And what people that live in this place tend to do
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[SPEAKER_02]: is they tend to tip toe around their dreams.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So they'll just do the things that are safe enough to try but not really go all in.
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[SPEAKER_02]: This is the person that is addicted to insights and so they just study all day long but never really take any action.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And they could tell people all day long how to change their life or how to do something but they're not doing it themselves.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They're the person that consistently says, I know I need to.
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[SPEAKER_02]: and they're not doing it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: By the way, anyone that's actually doing something doesn't say, I know I need to.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's doing it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so, and this person is so caught up in being perfect that they will either not start because they don't know exactly how it's going to go.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They'll either, like I said, tiptoe on the edge of a dream or nothing they do will ever feel like enough.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So they'll eventually get burnt out or stressed out and then they don't continue anyways.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so this, I labeled this paradigm of the world, the worried perfectionist because that's just what consumes their life.
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[SPEAKER_02]: This person is obsessed with certainty and safety and wanting to know they're going to be okay and they think that life needs to change first before they change.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But that's not how life works, because all of life is cause and effect.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And most people will obsess over the effect and the effect is what's in the bank, how the business is going, how the family is doing, what your health, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's the effect.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The cause is who you're being.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Most people aren't seeing that, though.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And if you forget about the effect, or if you forget about the cause, which is who you're being, then you can no longer influence the effect, which is what you have.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so most people will become trapped here and they just wait for life to change complaining about their life, but you only complain about things that you could change what you're too afraid to.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So this is where 90% of the world lives is in this place of worried perfectionism because they're operating from a have-do-be psychology.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But then there's this small segment of the world.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I would argue, eight, nine percent of the world that operates from a little bit of a different,
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[SPEAKER_02]: paradigm.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's still not incredibly empowering.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They're just starting to actually get some results, but they're not fulfilled.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And you'll know that you're this person if you're always going and can never stop because you're afraid it's all going to fall apart.
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[SPEAKER_02]: This is you if you feel like everything's held together by a tiny little thread.
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[SPEAKER_02]: This is you if you become addicted to action and you can't sit and take on a sunset.
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[SPEAKER_02]: This person operates from a do-have-be psychology.
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[SPEAKER_02]: This is where I need to be doing all the time I can never slow down.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And if I do enough, then I'll have a goal.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I might have the great business whatever it is.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And if I have the goal, that's what qualifies me to be worthy.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's what qualifies me to let go of perfection.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that's what qualifies me to be enough, right?
20:02
[SPEAKER_00]: I'm smiling because I feel like people who are listening to the have, you know, have B-do, what's up with that?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Well, that's worth half.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They were, I'm not that one, but they're probably this one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: The doer, the doer, and it's gonna come and then they burn out.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, exactly.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's one of the symptoms is you're totally burnt out and people will say all the time, I'm burnt out, I've spent so much time on work, I'm so burnt out.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But burnout is actually one of the most beautiful things that can ever happen in your life because your soul is finally getting involved.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That is what burnout means.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It is nothing to do with the amount of hours worked.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It has to do with the amount of hours spent out of alignment.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's what burnout is.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my god, I've run her wine and listen that one more time now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm so good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's so good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's so true.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I can think back to two burnouts and go, oh yeah, I know every time I get them, I am out of alignment, you know, and I think God, I know it now, but you can spot it now.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So, okay, yeah, I'm in.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And it prevents it from happening, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so,
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[SPEAKER_02]: Whenever you're in that state, all it means is you're not listening to what your heart really needs.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And you're just depending on an old paradigm of life that has been limiting you.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So this person will push a motion down because they just don't have time for that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And they're just always stressed out, so they don't feel.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They don't experience fulfillment.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They think fulfillment is at the end instead of now,
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[SPEAKER_02]: is incredibly addicted to achievement because they think achievement makes them feel like they're enough, but what happens with this person is they bounce from goal to goal, peak to peak to do list to do list and nothing ever feels like enough.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So it's like their worth is, it's a moving target like they're chasing a ghost.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so this person just feels like nothing, the way that I could best describe it is this person is consistently wondering subconsciously, what's gonna be enough?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And that just operates their psychology.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And the reason why is because they're going, they're not doing it in a way that's actually going to lead to a fulfilling life, because if you have achievement, but you don't have fulfillment, that's not success.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That is failure.
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[SPEAKER_02]: A achievement without fulfillment is one of the greatest failures in life.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I see that was so much respect for everybody listening because I was there.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I lived that way.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so what we need to do is take a look at these first two paradigms.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Have to be and do have to be.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You'll notice that the B is at the end, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And the B, by the way, is the sum total of our thoughts, our emotions, our beliefs, our values, and our identities.
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[SPEAKER_02]: how we view our model of the world, that is the B.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And if the perspective is the B is at the end, we're going to have a very hard go at life.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So you'll notice that the most successful people that are actually successful in all terms of the word, I mean, financially, emotionally, spiritually, physically.
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[SPEAKER_02]: People that are truly crushing it at life and are genuinely happy, they flip the entire paradigm.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They operate from a B do have psychology.
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[SPEAKER_02]: and they reverse engineer.
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[SPEAKER_02]: They say, okay, well, what, what do I want to have?
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[SPEAKER_02]: What's the effect?
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[SPEAKER_02]: What's the outcome I'm after?
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[SPEAKER_02]: I want to have these things.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Whatever these things are, it could be a seven figure business.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It could be this level of health.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It could be whatever, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: I want to have that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Okay.
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[SPEAKER_02]: If I already had that, what would I be doing already?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: because chances are the doing at that level is very different from the doing at the current level.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yes, it is.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And the challenge with that is that those actions require courage because they're different what you're currently doing.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So then the question becomes, who do I need to be now?
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[SPEAKER_02]: So that those actions become automatic.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That means what do my thoughts need to be?
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[SPEAKER_02]: What emotional state do I need to live in consistently?
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[SPEAKER_02]: What beliefs do I need to have about my identity in my life in general, about success, about money, about people?
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[SPEAKER_02]: What do I need to value?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Not certain not just in terms of family or whatever.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I mean in terms of what emotion am I driving towards in life.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And when we can rewire that to where the operating system of your mind, the B,
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[SPEAKER_02]: is set up for success, then do becomes automatic.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You don't have to do any internal marketing anymore.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You're just doing the actions, and then the have is the natural byproduct.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's where a very small portion of the world lives, and that's why a very small portion of the world is successful and deeply fulfilled.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I remember years, this has been probably on 2015.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, no.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah, I read that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Anyways, I remember going, I can't wait to, I wish I just knew how to run a company because then I could just handle the problems I have, but I don't know how to run a company.
24:46
[SPEAKER_00]: And there was this part of my brand and this, well, what if you had to know how to run a company?
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[SPEAKER_00]: What would you be doing if you knew what you were doing?
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[SPEAKER_00]: And I was walking down the street and I was, oh, people who run things, they have people on the team who know how to do the thing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I don't know how to do account in the people.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I just started going, okay,
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[SPEAKER_00]: What what experts can I bring in?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I don't have the money for that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So what expert is making a podcast on that right now because I can listen to that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so I just started using this for you time is okay if I if I am a CEO.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What am I doing and it changed my whole schedule.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It changed my approach things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And then I sort of realized, oh, I reverse engineer a lot of things.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This is just what it is, right?
25:22
[SPEAKER_00]: As a kid, you guys, I would only play a maze, but from the finish line.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Back when.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I only would do the maze backwards, and I would always win.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And my friends took me to a cornfield to do one of those mazes, and I was not having it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was there was no way to do the reverse.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But it's funny when you do it like that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: One, I'm sure people go, oh, wow, that makes so much sense, but it is not the easiest thing to do because it requires you to be at the beginning of this podcast.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can't be the identity that you are now.
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[UNKNOWN]: Right.
25:54
[SPEAKER_02]: That's right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, you can't be at the identity level that you are.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Now, I mean, saying you need to be someone different sounds really cute on Instagram.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Right, but and I could do that approach that you talked about earlier.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Well, you just got to believe it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But that does nothing.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Right.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It does nothing.
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[SPEAKER_02]: There is a strategy and a step by step of how do we actually shift this and if I can give anyone here, one kind of just yeah call in nugget that will put their current situation put a little bit more easing their current situation to allow for more mental bandwidth and energy to solve this problem.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's the idea that your success is directly proportional to the amount and quality of problems that you're willing to handle and so the situation you're in now, if you feel capped in some way in any area of life, it's because of your perception of the problem you're in.
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[SPEAKER_02]: your perception of the problem is likely limiting you.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Because here's the thing about success.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The more successful you become, I promise you the more problems you're gonna have.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It is, I promise you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I promise.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I can guarantee it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Because in order to become successful, you have to get really good at solving problems.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then the very active solving of problem creates another one.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So the more successful you become, you're just really good at creating problems.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so if your relationship with what I'm facing in my life right now is hard.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Just making that up as an example.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Well, then you're limited in the amount and quality of problems that you have because your relationship with your existing problem is this shouldn't be the case.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yet life is always happening for you and not to you.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's trying to teach you something.
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[SPEAKER_02]: When if this problem becomes a gift that you get to grow from, or something that's meant to help you evolve it at the next level of you, it doesn't solve, let's say the bank issues or the fitness issues or whatever.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It doesn't solve the 3D issue.
27:51
[SPEAKER_02]: but it opens up emotional energy for you to solve it because you're no longer giving your personal power away to a problem.
27:59
[SPEAKER_02]: If you give all of your personal power, meaning your feelings of your ability to handle life, if you give your personal power away to your existing circumstances and saying that means a change before I feel better, then you have no personal power left to do anything about your circumstances.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so most people just give their power away all day long.
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[SPEAKER_02]: But if we can see that these problems are meant to be there to help us grow, because life is rigged in our favor, then we won't give as much power away.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And if we don't give as much power away, we have more space to actually say, well, then who do I need to be and how do I change these beliefs instead of just saying, yeah, let's be positive and live in toxic positivity and just believe in yourself.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That doesn't work.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: No, I'm so glad you said that because I think toxic positivity is one of the worst things that someone could actually fall into.
28:47
[SPEAKER_00]: So it's so terrible.
28:48
[SPEAKER_00]: So in our communities, we have a channel that's I need a moment.
28:51
[SPEAKER_00]: So you can vent.
28:52
[SPEAKER_00]: You can bitch.
28:53
[SPEAKER_00]: You can whatever you want.
28:54
[SPEAKER_00]: It's so great.
28:55
[SPEAKER_00]: But you must.
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[SPEAKER_00]: before you leave the community go to the wins channel and leave a win.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now, it doesn't have to be that I'm so glad this thing has happened to me because it doesn't have to be that it can be something completely different.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But the idea that you can find that there is something going on for you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's some sort of self celebration that you can do amongst the muck.
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[SPEAKER_00]: is a really, really helpful, right?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think it's really helpful.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so on the podcast on Fridays, I have a fucking Friday episode where I'm allowed to vent about something.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I celebrate and then they, oh, my husband Brad is here.
29:31
[SPEAKER_00]: Let there be light.
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[SPEAKER_00]: If you're watching the YouTube, it does got brighter.
29:34
[SPEAKER_00]: And now you can see how sweaty I am.
29:36
[SPEAKER_00]: It's all other story guys, then the listener can have a win because when they hear their win, it's often weeks or months after they submitted it and they can be reminded of it.
29:44
[SPEAKER_00]: But we have to notice that there are some, there's something good and I had this woman who studied happiness in and she was talking about living in a world in the third world countries and living there and people barely have a bicycle and yet they're smiling.
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[SPEAKER_00]: They're smiling and so you're happy, you're happiness isn't coming from all these things that you have.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's back to your
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[SPEAKER_00]: Happiness is actually you that it comes from the people that people who are the happy actually dealing with problems but they are they're recognizing that there's other good stuff is coming from that right because they can see good when it's good and then they have this problem they deal with but they still see joy in life because they're not so in the place of I should have it differently.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Yeah, you said the word should and a lot of people just should all over themselves all the time and I should have this it should be different and you mentioned happiness and people in these third world countries if I could make up a reason why they're so happy it's because they have the least amount of expectations.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The happiest people in life have the least amount of expectations of how it should be, and they're more grateful for how it is.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Doesn't mean that you don't have aspirations to change your grow.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It just means that there's not this expectation of it should be different.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's beautiful, as is, and I'm excited for what else I build.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I've just noticed that as a direct correlation in people that are the happiest, there's a lot less should in their life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And if people listening here can just adopt that and say, what do I believe should be different?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And maybe if I trade those expectations for appreciation, I'd have a different life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Something new to it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're so good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: There's 17 liners.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I've wanted to say 17 times.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We're going to go back to that one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's so good to say to get to that one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was really listening to it when you were on last year and I was just, yeah, oh my god.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yes, okay.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And oh, I've done that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, that is no longer a thing that I have to remind myself about.
31:37
[SPEAKER_00]: So I just am obsessed with how you help people because that's what you really do.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know,
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[SPEAKER_00]: I was so excited to have you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I felt like this had to be an annual experience for all of us, because each thing that you say is, it's not a light switch.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, now I've wrote that down, noted.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I got it because you have to put that into the system that you have, the day that you have, the life you have, the people in your life that you have, and then try to integrate it, try to take the next step.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so you're gonna, it feels like two steps forward, one step back, but each year that I know you, when I listen to this amazing things that you say, I'm, oh, that is easier.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, I've just moved up on that one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh, now, oh, oh, oh, oh,
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[SPEAKER_00]: that I forgot to do that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I missed that one.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I love that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, so I mean my goodness, you have so many wonderful things for us to help us be do have and also really I love the beginning of this talk of removing the perfectionism for our lives so we can have more fulfillment but more more more life to live.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What are you super excited about right now?
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because I know you're
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[SPEAKER_02]: I, this is my favorite time of year.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's like Christmas.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I know it's October, but it's Christmas.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I love October.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So I'm at, you know, I notice the problem.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And there's an example.
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[SPEAKER_02]: A life gives you challenges and you have to figure out how to solve them.
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[SPEAKER_02]: The problem was I'd be on podcasts and shows, and I would, you know, do speaking gigs on the stuff.
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[SPEAKER_02]: people would listen to these words, right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And they would be so inspired by the depth of it and the how I can make this kind of tactical and try to make it real.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then people did nothing with it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And I was, what the heck, if I'm going to make an impact, I like we actually have to make this real, and I realize in those moments there's a very big difference between knowledge and knowing.
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[SPEAKER_02]: knowing is I'm living this.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I thought to myself, what do I do to make this real for people and actually give them an experience?
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[SPEAKER_02]: So these inspirational concepts aren't just something you hear on a podcast one day, but actually become part of you.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I decided to put together a five day challenge and I do it every year in October.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It is my favorite timing here.
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[SPEAKER_02]: We have thousands of people from all over the world that come together to take these concepts and actually make it applicable and reel to your life, custom to what you have going on, your specific goals.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Because my goals are different from your goals.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And who am I to tell you what to want?
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's you want what you want.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Well, let's break down all of the garbage getting in the way of getting there.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so we go through a five-day process of
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[SPEAKER_02]: identifying what am I really after in life and what is the be that I'm living through now right in the be do have so the identity the beliefs the values the emotional patterns the thought patterns and is that in alignment with what I really want to have most people recognize that the way that you're operating has to be an energetic coherence with what you want you've heard your vibe attract your tribe right like attracts like so if you're in a low energy and your goals are beautiful.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You're not going to create them because you're in a low energy.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You're just going to attract more of what you don't want.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So we need to see the gap between where we are in terms of being and what we really want in our life.
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[SPEAKER_02]: That's day one.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And then the rest of the week, we go to town on how do we break down all the things that are limiting us?
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[SPEAKER_02]: How do we
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[SPEAKER_02]: Maximize the things that are empowering us and how do we close the gap from where we are to where we want to be and How do we live in a state of fulfillment now while striving for so much more so it's a beautiful process It's helped over 80,000 people from all over the world and so it starts next week I'm super excited about it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I'm excited because I feel like you always picked the perfect week for me because I'm always back
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm coming off cam voting in time so much early any I'm up early anyways, but I'm very much up and I take you on my dog walk You're the I really do I take you on the dog walk and I just walk and it's just the best way to start my day obviously different time So it might be a different time, but it's wonderful and
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[SPEAKER_00]: I do love that you do this because you're right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: These words are wonderful and if somebody writes them down and hits repeat on the show, it's so good.
35:47
[SPEAKER_00]: But you do kind of need a container sometimes to practice.
35:51
[SPEAKER_00]: And then being a container with other people who are also doing at the same time because of the Vibertracks who tribe, but you're with all these people, so it makes it easier to show up and take in all these tips that you've been saying, but actually put them into practice,
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm excited for it, Brad and I will obviously be in attendance because there's just something about that makes me go, oh yeah, okay, that's good.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm doing that while, you know, like a little affirmation that I might have for on day of myself.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I am so grateful for you for doing that for all these people because so they need it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So what an impact you're making.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Well, thank you so much for your friendly appreciate.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, and it's free by the way.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's free by the way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It is free.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So you have a kind of no excuse.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Don't treat it like it's free though.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Treat like you invested 10 grand into it because it's it's such a powerful experience.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And also there's replays.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So you guys can schedule and if you can't come live, you can schedule in the replays.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's really wonderful.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the community aspect of it is able get you out of your head if you get stuck.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I think it's so wonderful.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Okay, you have given us the world of wonderful tips, but you know the podcast does end with bold, executable intrinsic or targeted steps.
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[SPEAKER_00]: People can take to be it to they see it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: What do you have for us?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Oh, man, there's so many.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I know, you can pull for many you.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So say it again, bold.
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[SPEAKER_00]: bold, executable, intrinsic or targeted steps.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So you can pick one of them or some people go crazy and do all of them, but you've already got one.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So go, take it away.
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[SPEAKER_02]: This is going to ruffle some feathers, especially for the achievers in the room, but stop making to do lists.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I'll explain why, and I'll be quick about it.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I promise when most people have, they're so good at making to do lists, but they have their dream at the same level of importance as laundry.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so I, and I promise you, when you run out of underwear, you're gonna wash your clothes like you're going to.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And the 88 person living with an 88 person you do, you will wash your clothes.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It will happen.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It will get put hung up.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Everything will happen.
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[SPEAKER_02]: It'll figure itself out, but most people don't recognize that this is actually limiting their productivity because if we take a look at most people have had those days where they complete everything in their list and they still feel empty and then they've had those days where they do.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Next to nothing on their list, they still feel filled, and the reason why is because when you checked all the boxes, you were focused on what was urgent and demanded when you felt the fillet, you were focused on what was important.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so most people obsess over completing it to do list.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I never, ever follow it to do list.
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[SPEAKER_02]: What I ask myself is, what result do I want today?
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[SPEAKER_02]: Not what do I need to do today?
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[SPEAKER_02]: What result do I want today?
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[SPEAKER_02]: For example,
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[SPEAKER_02]: If I have an objective of, let's say, signing three new clients, if that is a goal today, that is a very different, emotional, energetic, and physical experience, then I just really want to get a couple of social media posts up in film and podcast.
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[SPEAKER_02]: right?
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[SPEAKER_02]: It's everything becomes targeted.
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[SPEAKER_02]: So once I know what I'm after and why I'm after it, then I can reverse engineer a list strategically from that outcome.
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[SPEAKER_02]: What are the most important items that will yield that result?
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[SPEAKER_02]: And typically the one at the top of the list is the one you've been procrastinating on the most.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And if you do that one thing and only that thing first, you will have more success in a week than you did all of last year.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And so this is how successful people seem like they're operating in a completely different wavelength, it's because they are instead of what they need to do today, what result do I want to today and reverse engineer from that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my god, no one has ever said to ditch the to do list.
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[SPEAKER_02]: This is the first go.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's like, just took 800 episodes to get the best tip.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Oh my god, Brad, I adore you.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Someday we must be in person.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I must go on the leg with you and your family.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And my Brad, I'll just be, I'll leave wonderful.
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[SPEAKER_00]: We've got to get our tour to come through there.
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[SPEAKER_00]: But you are so great.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I can't wait to spend all next week with you and all of these listeners.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You're going to join in.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's going to change your life and also here's another reason why I like you do it in October.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Just want to shout at the timing of it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I think when people ask, oh, what are you doing for next year?
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[SPEAKER_00]: I have already planned next year before Q4 just so you know.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I like having the last two months of the year to kind of wrap up things, tie off loose ends so that I can make next year the B do have that I want.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I can get rid of the stuff that's in the way.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You know, you can, you're already prepared for what you want.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Now that I'm a new year, new me kind of girly.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's not it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I'm saying, but for some people, there is the way that the seasons work.
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[SPEAKER_00]: You are going into wrapping things up already.
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[SPEAKER_00]: the October of having the, this is the results I want to have.
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[SPEAKER_00]: How am I going to do that?
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[SPEAKER_00]: You can really use the end of the year to to reverse engineer.
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[SPEAKER_00]: That's, that's my excitement.
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[SPEAKER_02]: I love that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: Never thought of that.
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[SPEAKER_00]: I always look at it from my think of that.
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[SPEAKER_02]: You know, it's a lot of times I also notice going in October, November, I notice sometimes there's an energy dip in society as Pumpkin spice comes out, the energy about dreams goes down.
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[SPEAKER_02]: And this injects a serum into your mind that makes you just incredibly excited about possibly the rest of the year.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Yeah.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's brilliant.
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[SPEAKER_00]: It's really, really brilliant.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And for me, Q4 is just an insane time of my life.
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[SPEAKER_00]: This one is even crazier.
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[SPEAKER_00]: And so going with all your tips going in, it just changes how I show up in that busyness.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Because otherwise, it's just a busy body of person's having
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[SPEAKER_00]: being the person I want to be in that time.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I can appreciate it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I can enjoy it.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So it's not just a to-do list.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Anyways, Brad, you're amazing.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Thank you so much, being here.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So I can celebrate you with you next week.
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[SPEAKER_00]: All right.
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[SPEAKER_00]: So take care of you and my love.
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[SPEAKER_00]: Go be it till you see it.
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