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277 - Human Design Centers: The Ego/Heart/Will Center · Unshakeable with Human Design - A Human Design For Business Podcast

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  Welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, the show dedicated to
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  helping entrepreneurs use human design to shift from hustle to
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  flow without sacrificing results.
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  Come here to become an unshakeable human and build an unshakeable business
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  according to your human design.
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  I'm your host, Nicole
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  Laino.
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  Hello and welcome to Unshakeable with Human Design, everybody.
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  I'm your host, Nicole Laino, and we are continuing our center series here today.
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  We have been doing this series on the centers in human
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  design for the last few weeks.
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  This is episode six of the nine centers.
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  We've already covered the root center, the sacral center, the spleen, the
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  solar plexus, the g center, and I think that counts for all of them.
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  And today we are going to dive into the ego/will center/heart center.
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  Same center, three different names.
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  Ego, heart, or will center are all accepted answers for this one.
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  So the ego center is a tiny little center that has a big, big job.
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  It is the heart of the tribal circuit.
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  So the whole goal with this series is to give you guys a walkthrough
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  of the nine themes that the human design system brings together.
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  So there are nine centers in the body graph.
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  When you run your chart, you're going to see nine big shapes.
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  And then there's going to be numbers within those shapes and then there's
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  going to be lines connecting those shapes.
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  At the heart of your design are the centers.
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  The centers are so important because pretty much everything in
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  your chart is determined by the centers that you have defined.
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  Your strategy and your type are determined by the centers that you have
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  or don't have defined in your chart.
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  Your authority, which is your decision making mechanism, is going
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  to be determined by the centers that you have defined in your chart.
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  All of this connects back to those nine centers.
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  And then we have the gates.
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  Now there are 64 gates in the chart.
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  64 gates represent the sub themes of each of the centers.
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  So all nine centers represent a specific theme.
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  The centers are similar but not the same to the Hindu chakra system.
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  So if you've taken a yoga class or gone to a meditation retreat or something, you're
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  familiar probably with the chakra system.
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  Only we look at it a bit differently.
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  The traditional chakra system looks at seven centers.
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  For us, we break it into nine energetic themes rather than just seven.
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  Every single center represents some sort of theme.
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  And whether you have your center defined or undefined determines
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  whether you have that theme as a consistent theme in your life.
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  These are the things that we are here to master in our lives.
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  We are here to master it because it's our energy.
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  It's our thing.
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  So if I have a defined center, then that's a theme that I
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  really need to get a handle on.
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  And then we go a level deeper and the channels, those lines that connect the
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  centers together, the channels are what gives the center definition or not.
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  If you have a channel connected to a center, that means that center
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  and the center on the other side of the channel are defined as well.
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  They're all colored in.
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  Because the channel is what gives it the consistency.
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  It passes energy from one center to the other, so to speak.
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  That this creates a consistent energetic theme or just a consistent
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  access to that energy all the time.
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  So the channel tells us, what kind of ego do I have?
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  Do I have three channels defined in my ego?
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  Do I have one channel?
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  Am I undefined in my ego?
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  That tells us the theme and what our relationship is to it.
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  So this is how the chart starts to tell us whether we are meant
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  to be something all the time.
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  We're here to transmit it.
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  We're here to embody that energy all the time.
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  Or are we a receiver, a receptive party to that energy?
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  And what we mean by that is if you have an undefined ego, you're going to be
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  more receptive and perceptive of that theme, of the theme of whatever center.
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  But as an ego, you'd magnify and be sensitive to the themes of the ego.
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  So in this series, we're exploring each of the centers, so you get to know if
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  it's defined in your chart, this is a theme, this is a center you want to
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  listen to, thinking, if I have the center defined, then there's something here
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  that I'm supposed to learn about, it's something you were meant to learn to use.
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  It's a tool in your life, so to speak.
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  If it's going to be consistent, we want it to be consistently
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  good, not consistently bad.
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  So these are going to be our life lessons.
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  The centers are going to be the themes where we're like,
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  I'm meant to break this horse.
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  I am meant to be able to ride this one.
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  And then if you have an open center that we're talking about,
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  these are going to be themes that are not yours to be all the time.
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  They are yours to receive, to feel into, to understand from the perspective of
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  receiving that from other people or from just the outside world in general.
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  Now, that can sound a little heady, but when you start to work with your
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  design and you start to realize what is you, what you are meant to be, that's
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  the colored in stuff, versus the stuff that you are not meant to be, it tells
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  you where maybe you're going off track.
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  So let's talk about this in the context of the center we're talking about today.
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  Talking about the ego center.
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  So what's the ego center all about?
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  In the last installment of this series, we did the G center.
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  And I said how the G center and the ego represent what is commonly known as
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  the heart chakra in the chakra system.
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  So when we look at the chakra system in our nine centers rather than the
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  seven, in human design that heart chakra gets split off into two and we get a
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  G center and we get the ego center.
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  And the G center feels more feminine to me.
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  It's the center of love, it's the center of purpose and direction in life.
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  That's what the G Center is all about.
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  Now to me, the ego center represents more that masculine side of
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  the heart center which is like determination, drive, willpower.
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  If you think about it from the traditional standpoint that the
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  masculine energy provided for the family.
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  So the keynote for the Ego Center is support.
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  It is divine support.
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  It is material support.
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  So the Ego Center has this theme of support.
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  And if you have that theme undefined in your chart, and you are trying
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  to be willful all the time, you're trying to be determined all the time,
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  then that's a clue into maybe why things aren't working out for you.
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  Why things feel misaligned.
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  Because what conditioning teaches us, and the open centers are the areas where we
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  typically can be more easily conditioned.
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  The outside world tells us to be X, but we're meant to be Y.
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  But we don't know that.
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  So we go through life hearing this message of you should be X,
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  you should be X, you should be X.
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  And with the ego, you should be willful, you should be determined,
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  you should be achieving more.
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  You should prove yourself.
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  That's what the ego center is about, proving yourself.
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  But if you have an open ego, you don't have anything to prove.
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  But how you get pulled off course is the rest of the world is telling
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  you, you should prove yourself, you should be better than this.
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  So you go and you take that bait, and you chase that carrot, only you
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  never get it, because it's not yours.
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  The common misconception with these open centers versus defined centers,
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  you think well then I'm not meant to achieve, because the other thing that the
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  ego center is known for is achievement.
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  Success is very much associated with the ego.
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  So people say, can I not be successful?
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  And I always say, no, that's not at all what it means.
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  It just means that your come from isn't going to be from you feeling
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  like you need to prove yourself.
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  If I get this thing, then I'll be enough.
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  That is the trap of the open ego.
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  So, the ego can be a really beautiful center and a beautiful
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  energy that takes care of those around them that says, I got this.
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  Don't worry about it.
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  And they go after what they want, and they go after what they feel they deserve.
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  An innate sense of self worth to the defined ego should come from within.
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  Now that does not mean that just because you have a defined ego that it's working
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  properly, that it's in a healthy state.
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  Because if you grew up thinking or being told that you were worthless and you
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  have a defined ego, then it gets fixed in a unhealthy position, in a position
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  that is less than what it's meant to be.
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  It's short and it gets fixed in that way.
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  And it can be much more difficult to change something that's fixed than change
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  something or shift something that is open.
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  So this is what is at the heart of the heart center.
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  It is biologically connected to the heart.
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  The ego center is such an important center to focus on because think
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  about the world that we live in.
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  We live in a world that where we're taught to achieve, where we are taught to
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  chase the next goal, where we are taught sometimes that we're nothing until we
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  hit a certain mark, hit a certain revenue number, until we get a certain number
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  of accolades, until we have a certain number of letters next to our name.
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  All these ways that we prop ourselves up or cut ourselves down
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  because we feel like we fall short.
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  All of that comes from ego.
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  So it's so important understanding these centers.
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  It is so critical to understanding how you work and how you are in
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  relationship and whether you're in alignment relationship or misalignment
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  relationship with the themes of the world, your home, your community,
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  whatever it is that you are around.
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  And we're going to get into a little bit more about what the Eco Center represents.
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  It represents tribal connections.
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  Now, I do want to take a pause here and just mention that if you are loving this
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  series, then I want you to know that I am running a workshop on magnetism.
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  Now the Activate Your Magnetism Workshop, which is all about 2xing
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  your revenue while working less.
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  It's a one day workshop.
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  It will be on June 12th at 11am central time.
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  There will be replays, so don't worry, you will not be shut out.
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  All you have to do is DM me the word workshop on Instagram.
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  I'm @NicoleLainoOfficial and we will register you right there.
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  Or go to nicolelaino.com/workshop and we will register you on the website.
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  So, what we are doing inside this workshop, I know the word magnetism
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  gets overused a little bit, we get confused with it meaning being vibey
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  and in your power and all of this stuff.
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  That somehow magnetism equals sexy.
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  That's not what we're talking about here.
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  What we're doing in this series is we're breaking down all of the nine centers
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  and we're breaking down the pieces.
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  In the workshop, I'm going to put it together for you.
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  I'm going to let you know how the mechanics of human design work,
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  how this makes you magnetic.
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  I'm going to break down exactly how this all works and how you can start to use it
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  to your advantage, to start to magnetize the things that you want into your life.
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  I was really hesitant to use that word but I was like, that's what we're talking
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  about, we are talking about magnetism.
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  We are talking about attracting what we want or what's meant for us along
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  our path of purpose in our life, and that's what we're going to discuss in
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  this workshop, so I hope you'll come, DM me the word workshop on Instagram
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  and we will register you right there.
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  So, let's talk a little bit more about the ego center.
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  Now, I brought up that this is part of tribal circuitry.
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  Now there are different themes inside the human design chart.
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  There's individual themes, collective themes, and tribal themes.
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  The heart of the whole tribal stream in human design is the ego.
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  It is what fuels it because the tribe is about support.
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  It is about building up community.
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  It is about taking care of those who are close to us.
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  It's what built our societies, and think about tribalism in the world right now.
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  Tribalism comes back to the ego.
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  One thing that I think is very interesting about all of this is that when you
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  look at the way that the human design chart is built, how it's structured,
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  that ego center sits in the center.
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  It's very isolated from the rest of the body graph.
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  It's right next to the G center, just hanging out there, right in
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  the middle, hanging off to the side, like nobody will know I'm here.
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  And has one connection to the throat that kind of rules the tribe, that kind
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  of tells everybody it's the queen, that 45th gate in the throat center that
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  connects to the 21st gate in the ego.
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  That is the voice of royalty.
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  The rulers have that voice.
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  And it kind of tells you how the tribe gets ruled.
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  If you think about the way that we are so tribal right now in our thinking,
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  in our ways of being and the ways that messaging gets passed around now, we
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  all have tribes for better or for worse.
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  We have political tribes, we have social tribes, we have business tribes.
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  And that whole theme is connected to that center of the ego.
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  What's good for my people, is what the ego is saying.
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  Now that can be in a really high frequency or it can be in a low frequency.
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  But I think that it's an interesting thing and an important thing to
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  understand if we're going to talk about the ego is that it sits at
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  the heart of this tribal circuitry.
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  It only cares about the individual and the tribe.
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  It only cares about taking care of those who are close to it.
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  Now, the ego is also about competition, willfulness, and then
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  we get to self hatred and self worth.
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  All the way from one end of the spectrum of self hatred to the other end of
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  believing that you are inherently worthy just for being who you are.
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  It ranges from that entire spectrum.
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  So, the ego can cause us to take action to try to be competitive, gain wealth,
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  to be willful, can take action because we hate ourselves and we want to feel worthy.
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  We can take action and charge what we are worth.
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  All of these themes come down to this tiny little center right there.
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  It's the most conditioned and most prone to conditioning center.
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  Because think about how powerful these themes are in the world that we live in.
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  I doubt you could open Instagram, read a newspaper, have a conversation
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  without one of these themes coming up.
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  You introduce yourself.
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  You start telling people things that you think will impress them about you.
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  How can I seem worthy to these people?
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  I want to make a good impression.
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  That's ego.
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  But what energy of that ego is it coming from?
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  And that's what studying and working with the ego and starting
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  to understand what your energy is around the ego starts to illuminate
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  exactly what's authentic for you.
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  I've done so much work around the ego.
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  My unconscious earth sits in the ego center.
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  And so I've done a lot of contemplation around that gate and I've done a
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  lot of contemplation around the ego.
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  And I've done a lot of observation and awareness work around this theme
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  of competition, proving myself, self worth, and particularly self hatred.
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  And all the work that I had to do to decondition, even with a defined
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  ego, that work that I had to do on facing feelings of self loathing,
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  of self hatred, of real hard self criticism, to find my own self worth.
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  And because it's defined for me, the work that I've done
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  around that center has paid off.
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  Because it's consistent for me, and by turning something consistent to
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  a higher expression, and certainly with something sitting in a prominent
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  space like my unconscious earth, I'm going to see a lot of bang for my
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  buck for this work that I'm doing.
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  And once we start doing it, you start to feel different.
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  When you turn something that's been in an unhealthy state, that you
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  have consistency in, and you turn it to a healthy state, you will start
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  to see real results very quickly.
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  And you'll see that simply because it's consistently running well now,
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  rather than consistently running bad.
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  If you had your air conditioning in your house, and it's running and running
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  and running, but it's pumping hot air.
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  It's not doing its job, it's not doing it right, it's making it hotter
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  when it's supposed to be cooler.
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  And you can't do that until you fix what's broken in there.
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  Once you get it pumping cool air, then consistency feels good.
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  Consistency feels terrible when it's pumping out the wrong thing.
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  And that's the work that we do with the defined centers.
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  And then the undefined centers we have to learn to work with how is
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  this being expressed and how am I operating from this center when this
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  isn't where I'm meant to operate from.
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  I'm not meant to prove myself.
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  Cause that causes you to make promises, form alliances, get
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  married, have kids, all those tribal themes that we talk about.
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  If you're trying to prove yourself, you start making those promises, you
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  start forming those alliances, you start doing those things in your life,
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  but it's not really right for you.
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  You did it because you were trying to fit in with the tribe.
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  That's how powerful this can be.
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  So I hope that you liked this.
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  I hope that you're enjoying this series.
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  If you are, let me know on Instagram, share it with your audience.
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  I would love to hear from you.
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  I'd love to know that you're enjoying this series.
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  I'm really enjoying putting these together because I think the centers are one of
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  the most powerful things in the chart to start to work with, because like I said,
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  you can get such a bang for your buck by understanding what is in balance, what
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  is working well and what's not, and then it gives you that map to say now if we
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  turn this dial a little bit to the right, we're going to start seeing some real
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  positive results and positive shifts.
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  So, I hope that this is giving you some insight into these themes and
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  how you can start to turn that dial.
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  And if you are wondering about that and you want to go deeper with
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  how this all works together, then please, I invite you to come to
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  the workshop on June 12th at 11 a.
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  Have a wonderful rest of your day, everybody.
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