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why YOU should talk about your feelings · feel your feelings with Ethan Jewell

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  Throughout my entire life. I've been told that I need to
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  talk about my feelings as often as I can and for the longest
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  time I never knew why I never tried to understand why.
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  And to be honest, I didn't care that much so I didn't talk about
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  my feelings and I didn't try to understand the benefits that
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  this could bring to my life. However now I have talked about
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  my feelings extensively over the past two years through music.
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  And interviews and therapy and this podcast, and it has done
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  absolute wonders for my mental state, and the mental awareness
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  that I have when it comes to my emotions.
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  So today, let's dive into why you should talk about your
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  feelings. Hey there and welcome back to
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  another episode of feel your feelings with me.
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  Ethan Jewel. This is a really casual podcast
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  that I have started. Um, you know, I'm not a doctor,
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  I'm not a psychologist a psychiatrist.
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  I'm not a professional in the mental health field in any way.
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  I'm just a person, just like you, who has felt some big
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  feelings and decided to talk about them.
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  So thanks so much for joining me and together.
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  Let's feel some feelings. So this entire broadcast is all
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  about talking about our feelings.
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  It's me talking about my feelings in hopes that it will
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  in Inspire you to talk about your feelings and become more
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  aware of your feelings. However, I've never really
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  talked about why I've decided to do this and why I think talking
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  about your feelings is so incredibly important.
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  So I figured hey what better way to do that?
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  Then to talk about it in an episode.
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  So this episode is entirely dedicated to the importance of
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  talking about your feelings. So I mentioned at the beginning,
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  my whole life and maybe you've heard this to, I've heard that I
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  should talk about my feelings and I should go to therapy and I
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  should talk to family and friends.
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  I mean, he'll that's like the first thing that people suggest
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  that you do. When you tell them that you are
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  mentally struggling. And I've heard this for so long,
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  and it became really stale. And to be honest, I, I never
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  took it to heart. I never really talked about my
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  feelings that much for most of my life.
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  And I think that goes for a lot of people, they here.
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  R. This Narrative of talking about
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  your feelings over and over and you never really understand the
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  importance of it. So why is talking about our
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  feelings important? Well, there is a enormous amount
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  of reasons why you should talk about your feelings.
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  And we're going to go over just a few of them today.
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  And the first one is really the most obvious.
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  It helps you acknowledge your feelings and really pinpoint
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  what they are. I mean, this is the entire point
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  of therapy. Really like cognitive behavioral
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  therapy, I think it is or just behavioral therapy in.
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  General is all about identifying feelings and identifying
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  patterns and then talking about them in trying to kind of rewire
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  them that in essence, is exactly why you should talk about your
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  feelings. When we acknowledge something,
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  it allows us to become more aware of.
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  It allows us to learn about it. I mean, think about it in
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  school. How do we learn about things?
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  We talked about them. I mean, it's so basic.
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  Evil. It's such a simple concept yet.
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  It's so important to understand that the simple Act of talking
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  about your feelings brings so much Relief by being able to
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  label them. And that's the second reason
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  that I want to talk about a lot of times when we feel bad or we
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  feel sad, we feel depressed, we feel anxious, we feel whatever
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  it is that we feel it can be really frustrating to not really
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  know why we feel it. Sometimes we don't even know
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  what exactly we're feeling. I mean, sometimes I simply I
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  feel bad and I don't know why I discussed this in the interlude
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  of my most recent album loneliness in the presence of
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  company. I kind of just get on a piano
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  track and then I just rant about how I'll feel a certain way.
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  I'll go to therapy, my therapist will ask how I am and I'll just
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  say, I don't know because so often I feel a certain way and I
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  don't know why, but even being able to say out loud, I don't
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  know why I feel this way. I feel bad that alone brings so
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  much relief. It brings Relief and being able
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  to put a label on that feeling, it brings relief in potentially
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  being able to figure out what that feeling is because so often
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  in therapy, my therapist would then ask.
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  Okay, well, where do you feel it, and what does it feel like,
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  what's an emotion, you can relate it to what's this, what's
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  that? Where is it stemming from?
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  And by talking through this entire process, I was able to
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  find so much relief and learn so much about myself and my
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  feelings and it was just honestly empowering it felt
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  amazing. And that ability to learn about
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  your feelings and talk about them, only grows it only gets
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  easier and it only gets more beneficial.
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  The more you do it, it's exponentially beneficial to you.
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  Another reason, you should talk about your feelings is it can
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  potentially help you gain support from your friends and
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  family? One of the biggest things you
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  always hear when it comes to fighting mental health is to
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  reach out to somebody. You always hear that oh, you're
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  struggling, reach out to somebody, and it's for good.
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  Reason, it's for very good reason.
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  It's because it's one of the best things you can do, mental
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  illness, tries to convince you that you are alone.
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  It tries to convince you that nobody else is feeling this way.
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  And that is when it becomes truly deadly.
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  So by talking to other people, you one are able to share your
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  experience and understand that other people are having the same
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  experience. And on top of that, you are also
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  able to Garner support. I mean people won't be able to
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  support you if they don't know what you're going.
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  Through the moment, I started releasing music.
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  Some of my closest friends came to me and said, hey man, do you
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  really feel this way? You know, do you really feel the
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  way that you are saying you feel?
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  And I told him the truth I said, yeah man I'm you know I'm
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  struggling, it's hard and the support system that was
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  instantly created just by that communication just by telling my
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  friends, hey I am struggling that alone created this instant
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  Connection in this instance of Port.
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  Now, one thing I do sometimes here and I sometimes get
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  messages about is, people telling me that they've tried to
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  tell their family. They've tried to tell their
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  friends about their mental health, in either their family
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  and friends, don't believe them, or they don't support them where
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  they kind of just write it off. This is a great way to tell who
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  you should keep in her life, and who you should distance yourself
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  from because real friends and family members, who are loving
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  and caring. Will be there and they'll hear
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  you in the listen and you'll Garner support.
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  When I first started being open about my feelings.
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  I mean, it wasn't all rainbows and sunshine.
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  I lost a lot of friends, I'll be honest.
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  It was, it was very odd. I started releasing this
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  emotional music and talking about my feelings and some
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  people got really weirded out by it.
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  And my friend group struck down from, you know, several people
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  probably, you know, almost a dozen people that I regularly
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  hung out with the literally like two or three people.
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  And it stayed that way. But the connection that are
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  formed with those two or three people has made me realize they
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  are some true friends because true friends will stick by you
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  and they will support you and love you.
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  And this is another reason that you should talk about your
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  feelings next and we're going to get a little bit scientific
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  here. It is actually been
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  scientifically proven that talking about your feelings,
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  helps relieve. The stress that these feelings
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  can bring psychologists. UCLA proved that talking about
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  feelings brings relief and talking about feelings is a
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  positive thing. They did this through brain
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  image studies where they found the mere act of putting a
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  feeling into a word reduced brain activity in the amygdala,
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  which is the part of the brain that is responsible for
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  triggering. Emotional reactions, literally
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  by labeling a feeling and by talking about it and by bringing
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  it to the surface, it actually reduced the emotional stress
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  response. It's in the amygdala.
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  This is scientifically proven. I mean, this isn't just, you
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  know, a little point about oh you know, talking about your
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  feelings is good because blah blah, blah.
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  This is this is science, people. This is proven, it helps so
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  much. There's a reason why therapy is
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  becoming more and more popular. There's a reason that I
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  constantly preach, that, you should go to therapy, and then
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  one of the final reasons that I want to talk about today, is
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  that it helps you gain control over your feelings.
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  I'm You've heard the idea that knowledge is power throughout
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  your life, and that's not only just referring to education
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  being aware of something, knowing about something is a
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  powerful thing, and that applies to our feelings knowing about
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  your feelings, knowing that they exist being able to label them.
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  Being able to talk about them, gives you power over them.
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  The goal should always be to have control and power over our
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  emotions instead of allowing them to control us and by simply
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  talking about them, it allows you to have more control Think
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  about it. Like your feelings are trying to
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  hide from you. They're hiding in your brain and
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  they're causing you distress. They're making you anxious.
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  They're making you depressed. They're poking in their prodding
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  by talking about them. You are bringing them to the
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  front. You are releasing that stress
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  response in your amygdala and you are gaining control over
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  your emotions. Now if we're being completely
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  honest, I fully understand talking about feelings is hard.
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  Oh, it's so I've been doing this for almost three years now
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  between my music, this podcast just posting on the internet
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  about my feelings. I've been doing it for almost
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  three years and it is still as difficult as it was on day one.
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  It is really, really tough to be able to identify emotions to
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  talk about them and say to other people.
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  I am not. Okay, that is a challenge, but
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  it is one of the most rewarding challenges that you can give
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  yourself. It is one of the most healthy
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  challenges you can give yourself.
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  It is scientifically proven that this will benefit your life.
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  So please next time you have a feeling come up next time,
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  you're struggling with something like depression or anxiety or
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  anything else. That makes you feel an intense
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  way talk about it. Please.
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  I'm practically begging you. It could be in therapy.
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  It could be two friends. It Beat a family, if none of
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  those resources are available to you.
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  There is free online therapy where you can simply talk about
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  your feelings if you go to school, see, if your school has
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  any resources, if you have a job, see if your job has any
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  Mental Health Resources, just please talk about your feelings.
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  This isn't just me preaching at you.
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  It's literal science. It will benefit your life.
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  So that just about does it for today.
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  Thank you so much for tuning in. Please message me on Instagram
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  at Jewel boy underscore and tell me what you think about this
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  episode and if you need help identifying your feelings and
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  feeling them in order to talk about them, go check out my
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  music, Ethan Jewel, on all platforms and I guarantee it
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  will help you feel your feelings as always.
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  Thank you so much for being here.
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  My name is Ethan Jewel and thank you so much for feeling your
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  feelings. I'll Next.
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  Next.