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CONTROL REASSEMBLY BEGINS: Monday  (S5) S20:E3 · Inspirations for Your Life

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Well, hello there, everyone.
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It is John C.
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Morley here, serial entrepreneur.
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It is so great to be with you
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on the Inspirations for Your Life show, the
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motivational daily show.
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Again, great to be with you here.
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If this is your very first time joining
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me, I want to take the opportunity to
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welcome.
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times or many times before than that, I
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want to say thank you.
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But I also want to say the words
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welcome back.
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Thank you so much.
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It really does mean a lot to me
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or listen to the show and make this
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part of your daily life.
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So really, really grateful for each and every
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one of you.
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Today, ladies and gentlemen, is Monday, the start
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of your week, but it's not the start
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of our week.
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Our week, ladies and gentlemen, actually starts on
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a Saturday and ends on a Friday.
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Yes.
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So today is Monday, May 11th, 2026.
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And welcome.
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So if you have heard about us before
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or not, don't forget to check out BelieveMeAchieved
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inspiring creations, which you can do 24 hours
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All right, guys, it is so great to
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be with everyone.
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Thank you so much for being here.
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And so let's go ahead and kick the
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show off.
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But before I do that, I have my
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hot chocolate here, which is really good.
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And I've also got my RO water here,
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also delicious, with a spot of fresh lemon
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in there, which is really, really good, really
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a nice trick.
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So let's kick this show off.
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Ladies and gentlemen, this is Inspirations for Your
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Life.
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And yeah, we're going to be talking about
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control reassembly and how this begins.
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I think that's an important thing for a
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lot of people to realize, you know, how
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does that begin?
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How does that work?
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And it can be daunting for, you know,
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a lot of people, I'll just be honest
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with you.
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So like I said, everyone, welcome to Inspirations
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for Your Life.
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Who am I?
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I'm John C.
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Morley.
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I'm a serial entrepreneur, engineer, marketing specialist, video
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producer, podcast host, coach, keynote speaker, graduate student,
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a passionate lifelong learner, and now a graduate
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student and a published author.
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So thank you, everyone.
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Today we are focusing on a critical stage
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in human performance, the moment when scattered attention
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begins to come back together into, well, a
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structured focus.
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This is not about motivation, guys.
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It's not about discipline, okay?
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It is about reassembly.
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The process we're thinking, the execution and decision
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-making begin to reorganize after the fragmentation.
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Now when attention becomes too divided for too
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long, performance does not fail all at once.
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It starts to break in layers.
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And today I'm going to look at the
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first stage of rebuilding that whole structure.
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I think this is really a very, very
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big key thing, all right?
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So control reassembly.
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Number one, attention isolation techniques begin forming.
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And you know, you don't realize what you're
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doing, but you're actually blocking yourself from success.
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You're blocking yourself from success, unfortunately, all right?
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That's important to know.
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And you develop this pattern and you keep
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doing things over and over again, and you
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think that you're actually getting better, but really
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what you're doing is you're getting worse.
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Yeah, not good.
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Number two, guys, task grouping starts reducing fragmentation.
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So when you group things together, you reduce
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the fragmentation, okay?
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Kind of like organize things better, more efficient.
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Number three, input filtering begins to improve clarity.
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You know, we've got so many signals coming
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at us a day, and we don't respond
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to every one of them.
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We couldn't.
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But these signals are affecting our nervous system,
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our brain, our body.
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I think that's an important thing to understand.
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Number four, guys, decision pacing increases accuracy under
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reduced pressure, under reduced pressure.
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And I can't believe all the things that
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are happening, but I can't believe
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people are, you know, sometimes stuck.
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I think sometimes people just don't understand, okay?
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And I think that's hard for a lot
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of people.
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Number five, work boundaries begin reappearing naturally.
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Focus windows begin stabilizing during the day.
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I think these are important things to understand.
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It's important to understand, guys, really important to
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understand.
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And I think the more that we can
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have a moment that we can be stabilized
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during a day, I think that changes who
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we are, changes our outcome.
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Number seven, guys, execution blocks begin forming.
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Structured work cycles happen.
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When we get structured work cycles, we get
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success.
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We get success.
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I think that's important to know.
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I think that's important to know.
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I think sometimes people don't get it.
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And I think the cycles, we go into
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wrong cycles.
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And these cycles cause us to just spiral
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down.
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You ever kicked your foot maybe in the
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morning or something and, you know, you do
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that and then maybe you, let's say, follow
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it by a whole bunch of adjectives or
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words that are not really polite words and
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your morning starts to go downhill and everything
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during that day just goes down and down
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and down and down until you realize that
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your focus is taking you down.
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Have you ever broke a glass?
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I've done that before, right?
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So, like, I broke the glass.
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Okay, great.
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I'm going to clean the glass up.
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I'm going to put the glass away and
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I'm fine.
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And the rest of my day is going
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to be great because, you see, when you
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don't do that, you know, you could have
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spilled something.
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I know this happens sometimes.
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I'm visiting my parents and they spill something.
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I say, you know, nobody died.
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Everybody's fine.
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You just broke a glass.
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You just spilled some soda.
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You just spilled some wine, some beer.
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You just spilled the drink, right?
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You just knocked over the food.
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It's no big deal.
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No big deal.
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Number eight, guys, priority stacking becomes more organized,
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becomes more organized.
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Number nine, information intake begins limiting unnecessary overload,
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unnecessary overload.
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So, we have to limit the intake so
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that we can deal with what we're processing.
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Otherwise, it becomes like that cup that I
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was telling you the other night.
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You pour some water or liquid and then
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you pour a little more.
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And before you know it, it goes over.
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Every time you've gone to one of the
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restaurants, you know, they have those fountains and
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they have the wrong, the wrong size was
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hit.
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Like, they used to have small, medium, and
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large.
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And if you hit the wrong size, well,
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there was no way to stop it, unfortunately.
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Now, you just kind of go until, you
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know, you want to stop.
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And then you should pull in and it
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usually stops within a second.
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Number 10, guys, context switching begins reducing gradually,
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gradually.
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And when we can do that, that means
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we're present in the moment.
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Mental load begins decreasing through structure, through structure.
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The more structured we become, the less energy
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that we actually burn out, the less energy
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we burn out.
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The mental load can take a toll on
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you.
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So, and it decreases when we get the
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right structure.
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Number 12, guys, workflow segmentation begins improving clarity,
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begins improving clarity.
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Number 13, task ownership becomes more clearly defined.
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Attention discipline begins forming internally.
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And I think that's something that we don't
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all realize.
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External interruption resistance begins improving day by day.
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Output focus begins returning consistently every single day.
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Output focus begins returning consistently.
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Number 17, planning structure begins reestablishing itself.
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Cognitive clarity begins increasing through reduction, through reduction.
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And I think sometimes we're afraid to stop
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doing things.
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But we have to focus on the things
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that are going to matter in our life.
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Things that are going to give us more
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joy in our life.
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When thinking about joy, I'm not going to
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mention the person's name directly here on the
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show.
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But somebody I got a chance to know,
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not personally, but I got a chance to
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know.
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And I was on LinkedIn just before the
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show.
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And this guy, a lot younger than me,
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he took his life.
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Last night, 2 a.m. He was crying
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in a bar.
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And I'm sad about that.
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I'm almost tearing.
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I think his parents actually wrote the thing.
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I'm going to mention his first name.
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I'm not going to mention his last name.
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But I'm also going to probably link the
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video to the thing.
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And Connor, I want to let you know
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that I don't know you very well.
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But I really believed in your mission.
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And, you know, being an entrepreneur is not
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easy.
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Okay?
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It's challenging.
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I'm crying because, you know, one of the
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things that I wanted to do was, I
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wanted to meet you someday.
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And I wanted to hire you.
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Working on growing a group that I have.
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And I said, this would be great.
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You know, the things you do.
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So he's in this bar.
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He's saying he was homeless and nobody hired
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him.
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He puts amazing content out there.
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He had some of the best, I should
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say, he grew his Instagram page up so
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much.
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I'm tearing for you, Connor.
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In the discretion of his family, they can't
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post exactly what happened.
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They talked about a ray of hope he
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was.
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And they put down here, he did everything
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he did solo.
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He was left homeless.
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But he posted like everything was just going
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well.
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Every room he went into, he lit up.
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I really wanted to meet this gentleman.
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He was full of joy.
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He loved his page.
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And Connor, I'm actually tearing right now.
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I'm tearing.
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I had heard that you had a trip
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you were going on, you were doing.
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And I thought the trip was something that
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you were running.
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I thought it was something profitable for you.
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And I was actually happy for you.
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I was happy for you.
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And I can't say very much.
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And it was just kind of going off
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the rail of the show.
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I didn't plan this.
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This literally happened a few seconds before it
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was going on the air.
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And I said, I can't just ignore this.
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I have to talk about this.
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His parents actually posted it on his LinkedIn
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profile.
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And I don't know if they posted on
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his other profile.
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I don't know if I go to his
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Instagram.
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I'm looking right now.
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And I'm just looking to see if here
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it is.
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Two hours ago, the family posted.
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Looking at his eyes, we love our ray
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of sunshine.
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Last night at 2 something a.m., they
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posted here some more things.
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They said he lost his life at 34
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years last night following a horrendous time of
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online bullying.
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Emma's last seen at 2 a.m. crying
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at a bar.
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Again, this is a question of his family.
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They're not going to post what happened.
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And then they just put down here if
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you or someone you know is struggling with
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suicidal thoughts, reach out to a mental health
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professional or a support network and show kindness
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instead of hate.
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The person who encouraged him or supported network
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is showing kindness instead of the person who
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encouraged him to end it.
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Connor, I'm so sorry.
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They didn't tell how it happened, but he
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killed himself.
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You know, I don't get very emotional guys
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on the shows.
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I really don't.
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It's as if you or someone you know
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is struggling with suicidal thoughts.
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Reaching out to a mental health professional or
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a support network is showing kindness instead of
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this person who encouraged him to end it
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and end it.
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There's a person on TikTok.
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And I'm just looking at it right now
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for this person.
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But this one person, I'm looking here.
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He didn't even have that many followers, the
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other guy.
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But this guy on Instagram, I mean, what
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he did, I mean, was amazing.
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89,000.1 followers.
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And he was only following 2,746.
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There was a picture posted here, his first
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trip, everything to see.
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It was him and a few other people.
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And it looked like he was just having
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a great time.
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Connor, I didn't have the chance to know
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you personally.
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I didn't.
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But I wish that I would have had
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the chance to talk to you.
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I wanted to talk to you, but I
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knew, you know, having 90 some thousand followers
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or whatever, like you're probably never going to
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talk to me.
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But I wanted to talk to you.
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I sent you a, I think, a message
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or something that I wanted to talk to
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you.
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I think I even gave you, I'm trying
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to remember, I think I even gave you
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my scheduling link.
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I think I did.
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And I, I just don't know what to
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say.
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I don't know what to say.
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He had a very, very good heart.
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So I, what I would have said, Connor,
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I would have said to you, I'm here.
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I never knew what you were going through.
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I had no idea, but I, I wanted
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to just be your friend, to get to
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know you and tell you, I thought what
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you were doing was amazing.
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And to tell you that I wanted to
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know what, you would charge me to do
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some things for me, but you were busy
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and I never heard from you.
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And I feel really bad tonight.
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I am in so many tears right now.
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Okay.
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So many tears.
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And I'm looking at his, I'm looking at
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the post.
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Okay.
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I'm looking at the post and the post
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is got six things on it.
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I know I want to write something back
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after the show, but I also want to
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let them know, Connor, that I'm dedicating tonight's
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show to you and to your family.
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I know I can't bring you back.
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I know that.
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It's important ladies, gentlemen, that we choose kindness.
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Sometimes I know this is going way off
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the topic of the show.
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Sometimes it's easy to choose hate or to
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choose something else because we see that's what
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other people are doing.
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But when we choose kindness, it's so much
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better for ourselves.
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And it's so much better for everybody else.
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And this hits home.
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And I'll tell you why this also hits
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home.
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Connor, when I was in, well, undergrad school,
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college, back in college again, my grad studies,
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there was somebody that I was kind of
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trying to befriend, nice person who was in
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my class.
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I think I was, I forget what year
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I was, but anyway, he came there.
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I'll tell you his first name.
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His first name was Craig.
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And he was just absolutely amazing.
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He was great, but there was something about
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him I didn't know.
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And one night I was at the Hartford
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Counseling Lines and I was a peer facilitator.
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I forget what night it was.
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It was Friday or Saturday night.
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Got a call.
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And when I got that call, I said,
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thank you for calling such as a counseling
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line.
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This is John speaking.
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Can I ask your first name?
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And he came on the phone and first
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thing I heard his voice and I was
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like, oh my gosh, this is Craig.
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So I didn't know why I was calling.
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I just was listening.
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And he says, John, I said, yeah.
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And I'm like, Craig, he's like, I said,
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are you okay talking to me or do
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you want me to get you somebody else?
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Why would you get me somebody else?
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I didn't know if he wanted to talk
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to me.
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I mean, we're kind of friends.
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I guess better to talk to you than
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a stranger, right?
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I said, yeah.
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So he was telling me how he wanted
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to take his life and got him to
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enjoy his life a little bit.
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I was talking to him on the phone
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for a while, but then in school, I'd
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see him around and he'd tell me something
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like he was gonna slit his wrist or
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something.
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And I was just like, and I'd pop
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by to say hello to him.
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And I haven't heard from him in a
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while.
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I'd pop by, hey, Craig, how you doing?
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Let's go grab someone.
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And I wanted to seriously be his friend,
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not for, I mean, this was even before
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that.
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And so normally at college, you're not allowed
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to befriend somebody that calls the line, but
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I asked my supervisor and I said to
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him, I already knew him before he called.
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And I said, that's okay.
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And I said, well, now I have an
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obligation because I don't know what he's doing.
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But real quick, I'm gonna tell you the
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story.
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Stories, I was invited up to his home
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from one weekend and there was a problem
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with the cell phones or whatever.
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And I couldn't get him.
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There's bad service coming back from Connecticut to
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New Jersey.
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And he lived one stop after Newark.
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He lived the next stop.
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I think it was Menlo Park where it
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was.
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And I got there, but I got there
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late.
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I couldn't call him.
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When I got to the train station, he
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wasn't there.
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I couldn't get him on the phone, just
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his voicemail.
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I waited there for several hours.
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I didn't know his parents' phone number or
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anything.
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I just knew there were two dentists in
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town.
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I didn't know.
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They came and picked me up.
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Long story short, I said, how are you
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doing?
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And they said, fine.
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And I said, what's quick?
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Oh, he's home.
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Oh, okay, okay.
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Why didn't you call him?
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I said, well, my phone went bad and
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I left him a message and I couldn't
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get through.
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Oh my gosh.
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So I get to his house.
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And long story short, they make me dinner
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and apple pie and all that.
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I go to his room and I see
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this letter on the dresser.
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And it basically says, if you didn't even
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want me, why should I be here?
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And it was very sad.
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So Connor, I dedicate this show to you
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tonight and also to all the people out
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there that are contemplating, should they leave this
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world?
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And my answer to you is, no, you
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should stay in this world.
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There's a lot of people in this world
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that love you.
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Yeah, there might be some people in this
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world that don't like you very much, but
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there's a lot of people that like you
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and there's a lot of good in this
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world.
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And I'm so sorry, Connor.
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I wish I would have been able to
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befriend you, to talk to you.
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I would have told you how important you
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are.
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I pray that tonight you're in no pain
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and that the Lord's taken you and that
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you're up in heaven.
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I pray that.
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And I pray for the parents that they're
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able to get some peace soon.
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Get some peace soon.
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So I'll say, God bless you.
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I know the show went off track and
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I'm sorry about that, but this was a
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lot more important than the topic of my
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show.
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I'm John C.
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Morley, serial entrepreneur.
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Be sure to check out believemeachieve.com for
29:17
more of my amazing, of course, inspiring creations.
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Be well, everyone.
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Take care.
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Have a good one.