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We're judging your marriage, babe. · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: How to tell a couple has a truly happy marriage.
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  Speaker 1: The website I go to every once in a while
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  Speaker 1: is called yourtengo.com and they did all this research on it.
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  Speaker 1: So I have, this is how you can tell. I mean,
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  Speaker 1: I'm just go over with you. Number one, how to
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  Speaker 1: tell a couple has a truly happy marriage. A cozy
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  Speaker 1: space for having deep conversations, right? The happiest of couples
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  Speaker 1: love having deep talks with each other. about all sorts
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  Speaker 1: of things. They may not always want to do it intentionally,
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  Speaker 1: but they often have a space in their home That
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  Speaker 1: becomes their designated space to sit down and share the
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  Speaker 1: details of their work days or fill each other in
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  Speaker 1: with gossip about family and friends. When something goes wrong,
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  Speaker 1: they need to brainstorm through the problem together, and it's
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  Speaker 1: just one place in their house. Peyton, do you have that?
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  Speaker 1: I feel like that's just like our bedroom. That's just
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  Speaker 1: pillow talk. It's interesting for you because you live with
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  Speaker 1: your grandmother and your parents. Exactly. So we have no
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  Speaker 1: space to ourselves, which is why our bedroom is literally
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  Speaker 1: our safe space. That's what I would say. Do you
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  Speaker 1: have that, Kyle? I don't think there's like a designated spot.
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  Speaker 1: We'll find ourselves in conversation in the kitchen, on the couch, wherever.
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  Speaker 1: Not where you have sex. No, John Jay. Not that.
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  Speaker 1: Photos of themselves and their families. Having framed photos on
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  Speaker 1: display around your home can make us truly happy, especially
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  Speaker 1: when they center around warm, nostalgic memories. These pictures are
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  Speaker 1: reminders of the love we share with the people in
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  Speaker 1: our lives, even when it's easy to get caught up
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  Speaker 1: in everyday demands and obligations. The happiest couples are proud
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  Speaker 1: of their relationship and probably talk a lot about it,
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  Speaker 1: but they also broadcast happy memories of each other at home.
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  Speaker 1: They're proud to love out loud, even if it's just
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  Speaker 1: the two of them. So that's important. Yeah, that's good.
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  Speaker 1: Photos of themselves and their family. A shared calendar. Instead
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  Speaker 1: of being completely on different pages or even worse, being
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  Speaker 1: secretive about where they're spending their time, happy couples often
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  Speaker 1: share calendars. A calendar may seem purely logistical, but it's
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  Speaker 1: very important to a marriage to have shared calendars. Yes, 100%.
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  Speaker 1: I will say that is one thing as like a
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  Speaker 1: newlywed that Kadeem and I implemented right after we got married.
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  Speaker 1: And it's like, it takes away any of the extra stress. Like,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I mean? It's like, if I don't
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  Speaker 1: know where you're at, I'm just going to check the calendar.
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  Speaker 1: I know where you're at. Just check the calendar. Hold
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  Speaker 1: on a second. Hey, Floor, what's up? You're on the air.
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  Speaker 1: Buenos dias, guys. Buenos dias. We're listening to you guys.
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  Speaker 1: We're just pumped and ready to win these Disney tickets. Okay. Well,
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  Speaker 1: that's coming up in about two and a half minutes,
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  Speaker 1: three minutes. You got to keep listening. We will. All right. Thanks, Laura.
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  Speaker 1: Have a great day. Yeah, you just got to know
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  Speaker 1: the magic words, and that's coming up just a little bit.
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  Speaker 1: All right. These are the signs of a happy couple.
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  Speaker 1: Equipment or supplies for a shared hobby. Lots of people
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  Speaker 1: like to say opposites attract, and sometimes that's true. But
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  Speaker 1: it's far more common for successful couples to share the
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  Speaker 1: same interests and hobbies than for them not to. If
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  Speaker 1: you visit a couple's house and you see there's mountain
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  Speaker 1: bikes parked on the side or hiking shoes placed waiting
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  Speaker 1: for their next adventure, that's a good sign you're in
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  Speaker 1: the presence of a happy couple. That's cool. Separate spaces.
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  Speaker 1: I think this is very important. While it might sound
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  Speaker 1: counterintuitive in a close relationship, having space for yourself at
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  Speaker 1: home can actually deepen your connection. If you feel like
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  Speaker 1: your entire life and sense of self revolve around your relationship,
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  Speaker 1: the relationship itself sometimes becomes a point of anxiety rather
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  Speaker 1: than a safe space. Some of the healthiest couples have
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  Speaker 1: their own space. Yeah, I got a whole basement. Your
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  Speaker 1: man cave. It's an underground man cave. A dedicated place
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  Speaker 1: for their phones when they're not being used. Too much
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  Speaker 1: screen time and distraction notifications from your phones can slowly
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  Speaker 1: chip away at the relationship over time. Yeah, that's a
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  Speaker 1: big deal. Sometimes I'll be like, if my wife, if
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  Speaker 1: I'm talking to her and she's on her phone, I
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  Speaker 1: just stop talking. And I'll just wait for you to
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  Speaker 1: put your phone down. Because I've already learned. Do you
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  Speaker 1: make the noise? The John Jay noise? No, I've already
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  Speaker 1: learned that we'll have a conversation if she's on her
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  Speaker 1: phone Whatever I'm saying doesn't make sense. It's not connecting.
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  Speaker 1: We're making plans to whatever it is. Even if it's
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  Speaker 1: something that just happened five minutes ago, she doesn't get it.
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  Speaker 1: Decorative touches that blend each of their personal styles. When
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  Speaker 1: you share a home with someone, you also have to
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  Speaker 1: share the vibe. So it's ideal to make it safe,
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  Speaker 1: enjoyable space for both people. That means letting their partner
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  Speaker 1: take the reins and make some decorating decisions, which is
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  Speaker 1: not in my home. I have no say. That's probably
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  Speaker 1: a good idea. You do too, Havasay. We literally went
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  Speaker 1: with you couch shopping. You had to pick out the couch.
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  Speaker 1: She had to approve the couch. This is true. That
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  Speaker 1: is true. But I like, she took down all my
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  Speaker 1: Star Wars posters. Yeah, I'm like, Scott can do whatever
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  Speaker 1: he wants in the garage. Our magic words for Disney
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  Speaker 1: tickets is back. We're minutes away from your next shot
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  Speaker 1: at a four-pack of two-day, one-park-per-day passes. Get those magic
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  Speaker 1: words ready because we're going to need three of them
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  Speaker 1: after Bruno Mars.