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Hypnosis to Feel Confident and Worthy to Meet New People · The Hypnotist

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  Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
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  access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
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  issues. Brought to you by the
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  hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
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  royalty. Adam Cox.
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  These recordings took place live from Adam's clinic in London's
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  world famous Harley Street. This podcast features powerful
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  hypnosis, so do not listen while driving or operating machinery.
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  This recording is not suitable for those with epilepsy or
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  severe mental health issues, so get yourself comfortable and
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  enjoy today's episode of The Hypnotist.
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  Hi, it's Adam here. And in today's episode of The
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  Hypnotist, you can be listening to a hypnosis session created
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  for a client that was struggling to meet new people socially,
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  particularly in the dating world.
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  And what became evident is that they were trying an approach
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  that was carrying some risk and probably a lower probability and
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  their. Approach was to.
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  Cold introduce themselves to women they liked and then hoped
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  there was some kind of instant connection that would.
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  Then lead. To a date.
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  And I would say that, look, that's possible, but more often
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  than not, there's an element of risk, you know, if you imagine a
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  stranger walks up to you with the intention to ask you out.
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  That there's. A lots of very superficial
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  evaluations that take place very, very quick.
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  Plus, you might not be single, you might be in a relationship,
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  you might not like that person or their approach.
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  So it just reduces the risk. What was evident for this client
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  is that they weren't doing many things that were social where
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  they could just meet new people anyway.
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  So this hypnosis session starts with a metaphor, and it's a
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  metaphor of a, of a fisherman. And you know, a lot of people
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  will use this unconscious metaphor anyway in the dating
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  world. And if something doesn't work
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  out with someone, they'll literally use the phrase, oh,
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  there's plenty more fish in the sea.
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  So this is an unconscious metaphor for dating and
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  relationships anyway. But it uses this idea of a
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  fisherman using one approach, let's say a fishing rod in the
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  same pond. We're using the same bait again
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  and again and not getting much luck.
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  And then you see the fisherman go through some kind of a
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  transformation where they start fishing in different places, so
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  in rivers and streams, in the sea and lakes and ponds and
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  having more success, increasing the frequency, trying different
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  approaches, not just a fishing rod, but maybe a net or hiring a
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  boat and fishing that way and. Of course the.
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  Fisherman that tries more things, you know, is a bit more
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  creative, a bit more tenacious, a bit more motivated, is going
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  to get way more fish than the kind of person that does one
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  thing in a particular way and doesn't really change anything.
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  And of course, phishing is just a metaphor.
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  For. Let's say socially interacting
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  and from that perspective it sows a seed that this client has
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  got many more options than approaching women cold.
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  And that could be being on all the dating sites, having
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  different profiles, joining dance classes and clubs and
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  exercise. Classes in the.
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  Gym and all those kind of things, we just going to meet
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  lots of people anyway, and not with the goal of dating, but
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  just getting to know people. And that increases the
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  likelihood of what is called a chance encounter.
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  And that's how a lot of people describe meeting someone is that
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  they weren't looking for a relationship, they weren't
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  trying to pick someone up, they just were in the right place at
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  the right time. And then something happened and
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  it came from there. So it's designed to create this
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  idea of abundance that if you do the right things, you'll get the
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  right results. Now, I appreciate there will be
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  a lot of people here that are already in relationships or not
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  necessarily dating or wanting to date.
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  But you can look at the phishing metaphor and even the dating
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  metaphor that follows as a, as a broader metaphor for let's say
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  something that you're doing the same thing and it's not getting
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  the results that you want. That might be in your work life,
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  that might be regarding friendships.
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  It might be with creativity and ideas.
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  It's this idea of trying new things, trying a different
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  approach and then seeing what happens.
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  And, and an obvious thing there is client acquisition.
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  If you run your own business, maybe you're attracting the
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  clients in the same way all the time and maybe, you know,
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  getting in as many clients as you want.
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  That would be like the fisherman only fishing in one way.
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  And therefore this session can mean it.
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  Whatever you want it to mean, that's most important for you.
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  So think about that before the session starts and if you do
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  like the idea. Of a bespoke.
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  Session calibrated and customized to you and your
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  individual needs and goals. Check out the show notes.
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  There should be something near this where you can click more or
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  you can see more information. It's normally around the
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  recording and then you'll see a link where you can book a free
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  consultation call and we can have a chat just to see if I'm
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  the right. Hypnotherapist to be.
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  Working with you in the meantime, find a quiet,
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  comfortable place where you won't be disturbed.
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  Relax and enjoy the session. Take a deep breath in, and as
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  you breathe in, breathe in that slow, long, relaxing breath.
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  And as you exhale, just allow any feelings of tension, stress,
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  or worries to feel like it's leaving your body in your
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  outward breath. Breathing in and breathing out.
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  I want you to get a sense of gradually drifting into a place
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  of pure relaxation. Not because relaxation is
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  necessary for hypnosis, just because it feels good to release
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  that tension, to let go of any feelings of stress and worry,
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  and allow your mind to awaken the infinite potential within.
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  Breathe in and breathe out, releasing that tension in your
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  outward breath and allow your mind to awaken.
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  As your body relaxes, your imagination awakens, enabling
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  you to explore new ideas and new possibilities.
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  I want you to get a sense that sometimes we become a prisoner
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  of our own fears, beliefs, and ideas, locked in patterns of how
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  we think things should be. And I want you to get a sense
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  that you are about to explore new ideas, new ways of
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  exploring, new strategies, that you get to test out and try to
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  see what works for you. I want you to allow your mind to
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  drift. Drift to a place in your mind
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  where you can see a small lake. And I want you to imagine seeing
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  a man there about your age, with a fishing rod.
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  And I want you to see that man with a fishing rod cast the lion
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  into the small lake, spending lots of time but not really
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  getting much back. A small fish every now and then.
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  But as you observe this frustrated fisherman, I want you
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  to zoom out and see that there are many other ponds and lakes
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  that the fisherman hasn't even tried.
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  They keep using the same fishing rod in the same lake with the
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  same bait, feeling frustrated that they're not catching the
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  fish they would want. But they're not trying the
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  rivers, the streams, or even the ocean.
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  Just the same lake again and again.
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  And I want you to imagine what would have to happen for this
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  same fisherman to be catching more fish than they could
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  possibly either eat or sell or even release back into the
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  water. And maybe they would test out
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  different places to fish until they find the place that gives
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  them more fish than any other place.
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  Maybe that is the stream or the river instead of that same old
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  lake. Maybe you see them trying a
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  different approach instead of using the same fishing rod.
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  Maybe they use a net. Maybe they hire a boat.
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  I want you to see them using different approaches.
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  I want you to get a sense then by trying different places and
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  different approaches. Maybe they get lucky, or maybe
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  they find the thing that works best with the resources they
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  have. A wise man once said the
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  definition of insanity is doing the same thing again and again
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  and expecting a different result.
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  Therefore, observe the fishermen trying different places,
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  different approaches, but also increasing their frequency.
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  If the fisherman was only fishing once a week, maybe you
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  see them fishing two or three or even 4 times a week in different
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  places with different approaches until they find what works best
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  for them. See them with so many fish,
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  large fish, small fish, they have too many fish, which
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  enables them to be discerning. They keep the fish they want and
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  allow any of the fishes that before they would have accepted.
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  Now they don't meet the standard, so they return the
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  fish that aren't of the standard back into the water.
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  I want you to see that fishermen with a new sense of confidence,
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  motivation and pride. I want you to get a sense that
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  the only thing that stopped them before was the confines of their
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  own thinking. But when they changed their
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  thinking, they were able to change their approach.
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  And when they changed their approach, they could go from
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  scarcity to abundance rapidly. And as you observe this
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  fisherman, I want you to start thinking of a future version of
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  you. But no longer are we talking
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  about fish. I want you to see a future
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  version of you with a new found level of confidence, a new found
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  level of motivation. I want you to see that version
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  of you going to the kind of places where they could meet
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  someone new, perhaps new friendships, new acquaintances,
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  perhaps people that could turn into dates that may lead into a
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  relationship. I want you to see that version
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  of you doing things they wouldn't normally do.
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  Maybe going to an exercise class, a dance class, social
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  situations and places where meeting new people is just a by
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  product of being in that place. But I want you to see that
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  version of you with no scarcity, no desperation, with a level of
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  confidence, a level of assurance, a level of
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  resilience. I want you to get a sense that
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  that version of you is increasing the probability of
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  good fortune. A lot of.
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  People describe meeting what becomes the love of their life
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  as a chance encounter, serendipity, an unexpected
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  meeting. So I wonder what places you can
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  see that future version of you going to, doing and being in
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  that dramatically increase the probability of a chance
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  encounter. A spark of chemistry, a
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  wonderful meeting of minds and moments.
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  It might start off with just eye contact and a smile, an
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  introduction, perhaps curious questions, and get a sense that
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  these could have a chain reaction that leads to something
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  meaningful, something wonderful, something magical.
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  I want you to get a sense that this version of you sees dating
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  as just a natural way to find the right relationship.
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  I want you to get a sense that this version of you is
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  comfortable going on different dates to find the kind of
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  relationship that they would be willing to stop dating for.
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  See that version of you with a deep conviction, a new level of
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  belief that what you reap is a result of what you sow That when
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  you do certain things, certain outcomes become inevitable.
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  To see yourself being engaging, respectful, complimentary,
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  interested, and see yourself in very different social
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  situations. And then imagine seeing yourself
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  going on different dates. See yourself with a different
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  look. See yourself on different dating
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  platforms. Get a sense that this version of
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  you isn't relying on one strategy, one place, one time.
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  This version of you is doing the kind of things that make it
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  inevitable that good things calm your way as you return from this
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  journey in your imagination, feel that there is a dial inside
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  your mind that is increasing self-confidence, self belief,
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  self worthiness, optimum levels and enthusiasm.
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  Turn them all up to the highest levels and know that as you
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  sleep, your mind is rewiring so that when you wake up in the
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  morning. You awaken the most confident,
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  enthusiastic version of you with the highest self esteem, with a
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  deep sense of belief that the ideal relationship for you is
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  now imminent in your future. It's time to return to the
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  present, so take a deep breath in through your nose and out
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  through your nose. Wiggle your fingers and wiggle.
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  Your toes. Start to calibrate and connect
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  with the here and the now as I now count from 1:00 to 10:00 to
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  awaken you. Starting to count 123 waking up
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  456 more alert 7-8. Open your eyes.
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  Open your eyes 910 Wide awake, Wide awake.
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  Wide awake. Thank you for listening to The
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