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Rabbi Moshe Haber Path of the Just: The Ascent to Unconditional Divine Love 11.26.25 · Rabbi Moshe Haber - Daily Mussar/Weekly Perasha

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  385 and yesterday we built when it comes to avata sham, which
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  sounds like a lofty word, love has sham.
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  Here's a lovely concept of you said, you know love is a
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  connection and it's certain thing to get you.
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  You go further and do more and have dedication.
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  We always think about days like today, a rainy day, you get up
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  in the morning, you're negating and thinking to yourself, roll
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  over, you're going to go leading in yen even after this ain't
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  going to do that. It's cold, it's rainy that
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  weather, it's in the bones. But because you have a certain
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  sense of connection, you don't even think that way and you just
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  go. You just go, you go.
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  That is all about the Hashem. That's what gets you going and
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  the structure to keep steady about Hashem.
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  We said as a person needs consistency and consistency
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  means he always feels a certain connection and a certain sort of
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  relationship with God. The challenge to that
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  consistency is are our challenges themselves, Our up
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  and down our own lives often lead to a break.
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  And I consistency. How can I feel the love of
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  Hashem feeling that he's loving me?
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  If I have an issue here, an issue there or stress here or
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  stress there, that makes me feel out of my senses.
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  That makes me not really feel so close to God.
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  So the key to create that hashem #1 is the concept.
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  Whatever Hashem does for the best, we said yesterday, it
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  sounds again like the concept is a little bit out there and
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  that's a real whatever action does for the best.
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  You can't. You're telling me that and I'm
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  dealing with this and dealing with that.
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  But we said, and this is important, that your own
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  personal life, you have a way of processing whatever you dealt
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  with. I'm looking at your whole
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  picture and saying these up. I know I dealt with ups and
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  downs. I know I have this challenge and
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  that child and that issue in business and all those things.
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  My whole picture clays into my picture and it's all OK and in
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  fact it all seems like it's leading to good.
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  Every person in their own life has that capability.
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  If I would look at your life, or you would look at mine and see
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  my challenges and me looking at your challenges, I wouldn't have
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  an easy time saying it's good. But for your own self, you
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  somehow have a way. Because of your connection to
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  God and because of your full picture, you have a way of
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  seeing even the difficult things as part of your mix, part of
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  your blend, and one thing led to another.
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  You say to yourself, it developed me somehow, some way I
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  can give you let's say 10 ways argument's sake of how a
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  challenge was good for you. That will let me just give you
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  an example. And then a lot of times ours
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  friends, either they develop resiliency, for example, they
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  may have less spoiled another example.
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  They may have developed our faith.
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  They made us look at appreciate the other parts of life, right?
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  They may have prepared for other times.
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  They may have developed some tools, right?
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  This is just some they created a good character for us, right?
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  All these things are what came from challenge.
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  They may have to learn the new ways of doing business.
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  Let's say all this is part of the picture.
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  So you could say that and you can't appreciate that and
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  therefore you can keep your connection to God strong.
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  I can't for you because I don't know.
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  No one knows your entire total picture, only you do.
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  And the point is if you have that perspective, you develop
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  and you can retain A havat Hashem throughout throughout
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  everything. That's what he says and nobody
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  has a burp. No one has a burp of a suit.
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  And no, but our point is that everyone has an understanding of
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  how their own life is rolling and because of that, they can
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  see whatever Hashem does for the best.
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  So he says you see it like as if a Doctor Who has to do
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  something. I see the words you appreciate
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  when you get better. You for sure appreciation comes
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  to Mitt or I could have the 12 comes from the dips.
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  This there a middle 384 even a certain pain that Doha can some
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  pressure which seems to our eyes as Bay, and then we know is
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  reality. Only good a guy to leave a job.
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  Think of those examples and LED to a different job, or LED to
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  avoiding a certain influence, or LED to him avoiding a certain
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  issue of the law, whatever these things are.
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  For example, a doctor has to do something very serious, cut some
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  flesh or something else. She never saw it.
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  That's really difficult. He's hurting the person.
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  But today the purpose is Shiavri Shara goof Stabaya lives on
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  Voloyamut to allow him to live. Even though the action of the
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  doctor cutting this and cutting that is really very destructive.
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  It's it seems very actually cool.
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  In reality, it's mercy. A doctor does something severe.
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  It seems cruel. Ultimately, it's for our sake.
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  That is what our wow have our of our sham.
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  We should tell ourselves, even though I'm dealing with this and
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  I'm dealing with that, it's all for my sake.
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  And what do you do for the person who has the health
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  challenge? What do you say for that person?
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  I told you, I cannot answer that person.
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  They are required. We hope that they can have this
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  perspective. And reality is most people
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  throughout their own situations have a lens that sees it as
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  good. It's an unbelievable thing.
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  We can't for they, but they can't for themselves.
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  No, no ill person would dislike his doctor because the doctor
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  did something severe to him. But what is that?
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  I must say rather the opposite is true.
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  You'll see it's only going to add to more love, right?
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  That's when it comes to the doctor.
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  You appreciate doctor even if he tells a person tells a woman go
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  on bed rest, go embarrassed to big pain bed rest.
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  That means she has literally not moved for months.
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  But it's forsake of having a child, right?
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  Cut this or cut that or peel this or you tell someone go on a
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  diet, diet. It's pain, it's not fun.
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  I can't eat, but it's the sake of living longer.
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  All these things are challenges for the sake of building and
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  that's what God is doing for us and our perspective based on our
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  already solid relationship is required and expected and hoped
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  that we go on to this mindset. If we didn't have a solid
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  foundation, this would be impossible.
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  You come to a guy who's brand new Jew complete bout the Shiva
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  and then he's facing all these challenges and don't worry it's
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  all from Hashem. It's all good and nothing too
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  late to say not I need to have the relationship then I have out
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  from for start. I need to have my background and
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  then I go further with his mind. That's the idea right now.
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  Whatever Hashem does for you, the has been done for your good.
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  Bengier be go for whether it's physical, Bengier be Mamuno
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  whether it's financial. Vava be join in her hair.
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  You may not see the positives Venom Marie you may understand
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  the view. Dwight ECH Zohoto tomato how
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  this helps us Vada Torvato guaranteed it is for your
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  benefit in it based on this mindset, you'll love him, God
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  will stay strong. There's nothing that's dropping
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  it or whatever pressure and stress or even pain that a
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  person deals with. The love will remain his love
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  Hashem will build. How will it build because he
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  constantly feels Hashem is busy. Allah.
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  Hashem is doing what best for me and that should be our mindset.
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  Like I said, for generally good lives, this is easy to perform,
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  right? Let's go on a step further.
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  A guy who's a real oh hey, of Hashem doesn't even require that
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  perspective. He does need to say, oh, what
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  Hashem does to me is really good and that's why I love Hashem.
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  I love Hashem because I do in a relationship there father to
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  son, regardless if my father does anything for me or not, I
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  simply love him. That's the two months that we
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  want to get to the first one we said is clear, solid and doable.
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  It brought you into this life. There's a lot there.
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  It's a lot of Hashem exactly without even having a constant
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  reason. The way of the real circle and
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  I'm Sihim, I feel Thomas, they don't require that perspective
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  or it's good for me. It over helps me got it and the
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  ham the cavella small call forget about ourselves.
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  That perspective that I say I love Hashem because it does good
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  for me is based on the mindset of I'm thinking about our
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  perspective of our development of Hashem comes from within toe
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  it out. I work backward.
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  I say I like myself as I goes. I love myself not then crow sway
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  in a long way. We all like ourselves.
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  I like my life. I wanted to continue and because
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  I feel and I've appreciated Hashem is involved with it.
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  I love Hashem. So I'm working backward from
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  here to with Him. Good is a better way, is a
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  higher way, a more lofty way which comes to you at times, but
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  not all the time, and then you start from Him.
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  To me, that is Hashem exists. I love Him to get about my
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  perspective and my life and how it's working out for me and how
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  productive He is, making me ignore that simply from here to
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  God, I look at God and I say God for me is something special.
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  I love Him because He exists. I do not think about myself.
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  I have a certain sense as you all have to do through a sense
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  of Hashem, one job. That sense that required one
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  job, that sense Hashem exists. What you all do.
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  Then you start to realize if He exists, He exists in this in
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  this mode, which is for my connection.
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  He's there and I'm a part of Him.
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  That in and of itself. Ignore the outcome for me.
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  Ignore how much Hashem does for you.
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  You could do without it. Simply the existence of God
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  alone is something that's a magnet to make you love Him.
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  Imagine I may give you a bad example, but a relevant example.
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  It's usable. You have someone who has a lot
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  of charm, famous person. You like that person.
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  It's a likability right now. Likability does not relate to
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  yourself. It's not because they did
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  anything or will do anything for you.
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  It's simply because they're charm with me on that concept,
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  Ada, very physical concept, very material concept that exists.
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  A person with hand is likable without without the without the
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  payment to you or giving you anything.
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  Just because they exist, you like them, they're in the room,
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  you're happier, nothing to do what they're going to give you.
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  Hashem, in a sense, is that existence.
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  It is so solid, so beautiful, so wonderful, so powerful, so
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  impressive, so charming, so beneficial to the world.
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  So wow, you like that existence. Regardless of whether he's going
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  to give you anything in life or has given any fun, just because
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  He exists. That in and of itself gives you
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  Ava on top, but that you have the fact that Hashem exists in
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  you. She doesn't just exist over
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  there. Like I said, charm, attraction,
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  power, all those typical reasons we like people.
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  No, no, no, He exists and He exists in me.
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  So there's a level of love that's there because of the
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  strength of God's existence through me.
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  If you follow this point, that's what it's for.
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  And like call to the Talmud Bill Cable, you end up thinking about
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  God's glory and to make him happy.
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  If you call Mashika do all Kareem Mcdam.
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  I see The Who am I'm going to strengthen myself.
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  He's Mahul Daharot talk every time I love Hashem so much.
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  The more obstacles thrown my way, the more opportunities
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  there are for love. This is our father's working go
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  if he is built on the consistency like we said earlier
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  where he says Hashem has done so much much for me.
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  He did my challenges beneficial. I have to see them as
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  beneficial, but this guy, our today's guy who simply loves
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  Hashem because Hashema's existence, the challenges don't
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  need to be seen past. The challenges are more stepping
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  steps to love. God is so powerful, He's so
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  impressive, He's so amazing. I love him because he exists.
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  The more obstacles I face, the more opportunities there are for
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  love, right? That's how far this guy goes.
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  Like that's real love. And what this does, it's not
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  just a different love, it's a whole different ball team.
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  Here's why. Every time he sees something
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  that's I've been the news, right?
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  I've been the news, a new law that's illegal, that's IE, but
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  new thing that's IE. But I'm going to go down the
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  road of IE. It bothers you, right?
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  Why does it bother you? Simple reason is my kids have to
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  grow up in this world. I don't want them to see that I
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  have to walk the streets. I don't want to be a part of
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  that society. I wish the society I'm a part of
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  is, you know, we're coming on to, to, to Thanksgiving
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  tomorrow. So you want to you want to
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  appreciate the world you're in. You don't want to be in a
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  certain mode, the hating the, the streets you live on.
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  OK, that's a simple reason. A deeper reason why you do not
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  like or do not appreciate immorality on the streets.
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  I even lose a deeper reason is because you have built in
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  yourself an appreciation of the Kaboi Shamim.
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  You like Kabo shamim, you like Hashem's world to represent God.
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  You got used to that. You try to represent them, so
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  you try to have the world represent them and it makes you
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  feel good when the whenever the world let's say says a value,
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  that is a value that us Jewish people are appreciate.
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  It gives us a good feeling. Why?
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  Because the world is pro Jew? No, because you like what our
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  values exist in the world. You just like it better.
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  The deeper reason why you like it better, you don't realize
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  it's animals. The deeper reason you like it
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  better is because you like Cavuto mang.
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  You've gotten used to Hashem's existence and you enjoy
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  existence, existence. And the greatest way that God
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  can exist is if there's more God representation in the world.
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  So when you are not representing God, we're bringing out Kavosia.
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  We're doing a major, a major benefit to the world and to this
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  topic. But when the world and the news
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  and the laws and everything else follow the ways of God, it's
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  unbelievably beneficial to the world.
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  And in your eyes and my eyes, we're thrilled that Hashem
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  exists and Hashem name is being known that makes us feel good.
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  And that is because we got used to and a hava of Hashem
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  unrelated and independent from our own benefit.
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  We simply love God and we simply want God to exist more.
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  And we like his power and we like his charm, so to speak.
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  We like his attraction. All those words, they use a
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  physical and a physical in God. But we like His existence.
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  The more Hashem in the world makes us feel better.
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  You go to the quarter, you feel happier, you go to Kevrahe, you
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  feel more settled, you go to these places.
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  What is that? You like the presence of Hashem
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  and you go to visit a rabbi. You walk out of the door, he
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  didn't say anything. You feel good.
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  Why could you touch him? No, because you feel something
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  and that is all your appreciation of kabocha mine.
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  And because of that you have built an Alva.
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  And with that love, it's not dependent.
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  Classic. I'm sure you have a song for
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  this love that's not pendant. That's not really a charming
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  line. Any better line.
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  Love without string is unconditional love.
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  What is those? Yeah, yeah, yeah, Yeah, that's
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  right. Yeah.
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  OK, Well, I love without strings attached, something like that.
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  Point is, you love God without the.
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  What does it do for me? I love him because I love him.
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  I love him because I want his existence to exist.
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  And based on that, our own challenges of life will not get
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  in the way. In fact, they're going to make
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  you stronger. Yes, I do current purely up.