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Happy Hour #67: The Baby Shower (SATC Ep. 10) · Stuff Mom Never Told You

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Speaker 1: Hey, this is Andy and Samantha, and welcome to Stephane
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Speaker 1: again to Sex in the City watch Party with Sminty. Yes,
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Speaker 1: here we go, and we are on episode ten. We
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Speaker 1: faced the progress of the ninety four episodes. We're closing
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Speaker 1: into see of season one, so we're getting there, We're
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Speaker 1: getting there. You scored a zero in the last episode. Okay,
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Speaker 1: it's okay, it's okay. That's the lowest possible score you
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Speaker 1: could ever good. But that's okay, it's okay, it's um
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Speaker 1: So can you give us a little revamp of what
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Speaker 1: just happens? A revamp? Is that that word? I think
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Speaker 1: you mean recap, but vamp revamp would be. It turns
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Speaker 1: out they're all vampires. So yes, we've had a lot
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Speaker 1: of conversations about sex vibrators, single women, the female body relationships,
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Speaker 1: and particularly like hiding somebody in a relationship or settling
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Speaker 1: married women versus single women. We've met Big, who is
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Speaker 1: the big love interest for Carrie. They're having a lot
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Speaker 1: of conversations about oh, dramatic conversations, I gotta say, about marriage.
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Speaker 1: And she felt like she was hiding him and he'd
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Speaker 1: been married before, been divorced. Um, So we're setting up
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Speaker 1: this relationship. I feel like we're closing in on the
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Speaker 1: season finale, which you've really built up. But I have
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Speaker 1: no idea what's gonna happen. So, uh, I'm excited to
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Speaker 1: see where it goes. Alright, alright, alright, that's pretty good.
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Speaker 1: That's pretty good vamping. Yeah, but look out for my
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Speaker 1: sex in the City fan fiction be amazing. I love it.
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Speaker 1: Please someone do this? Has it already existed? Like? Okay,
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Speaker 1: So we have episode ten coming up, um, and it
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Speaker 1: is our happy hour. Just so y'all know, look behind
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Speaker 1: the curtains. We are recording some of these back to back.
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Speaker 1: In our episode nine, I had created a champagne cocktail
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Speaker 1: called the BlackBerry Mosa. We have moved on for the
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Speaker 1: second round. Yes, and as always, drink responsibly if you
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Speaker 1: choose to drink, because, as any can attest to even
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Speaker 1: caffeine maybe too much for people's I am very sensitive
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Speaker 1: to caffeine. Everybody very sensitive indeed. But yes, and uh,
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Speaker 1: we're not sponsored, if that's a question. We were sponsored
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Speaker 1: at one point in time for one of the episodes
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Speaker 1: for just like that. Yes, depparently has a season two
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Speaker 1: coming out. I'm very intrigued to see how that happens.
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Speaker 1: That it happened. I think we'll talk about this later predictions.
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Speaker 1: But we are on episode ten, season one, and the
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Speaker 1: title Annie of this is the baby Shower. Will you
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Speaker 1: tell me what you predict for this? Very obvious? It
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Speaker 1: feels like they go to a baby shower and they
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Speaker 1: talk about having kids, much in the same way they
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Speaker 1: talked about marriage and settling in the last one. In
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Speaker 1: this one, it's the kid discussion. Okay, very good, very good.
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Speaker 1: All right, So y'all are you ready to begin this episode?
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Speaker 1: Here we go. There's hell on earth that only your
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Speaker 1: closest friends can inflict on you. The baby shower. You
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Speaker 1: cannot drag me to that thing if you put a
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Speaker 1: grappling hook in my mouth. I have never once been
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Speaker 1: to a baby shower. Oh, you haven't been invited to one,
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Speaker 1: but I've never gone. Oh oh that's right. So I've
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Speaker 1: been to several, but I've got it one coming up
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Speaker 1: in April, so it's interesting. Typically I've been just sending gifts. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: I have done that. I've sent gifts, but then I
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Speaker 1: don't wh will do you say? They want you to
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Speaker 1: show up. Maybe they just want the gift. I think
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Speaker 1: it's going to who it is. Okay, Oh I did
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Speaker 1: a baby shower on Zoom. Oh that's right, you did.
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Speaker 1: It is super awkward. I'm sure it was most things
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Speaker 1: on Umar. Samiantha and Lanny had a long standing library.
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Speaker 1: Both wild, both sexy, both incredibly insecure. I was talking
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Speaker 1: about this with my friend the other day about how
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Speaker 1: you go through this are We went through this period
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Speaker 1: in college that's where you would be dancing on the
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Speaker 1: table at like parties, or you take your shirt off
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Speaker 1: and walk around and it's just like a phase we
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Speaker 1: went through and it's over. I don't think I ever
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Speaker 1: did that. I never said I've never taken my shirt off.
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Speaker 1: Oh I took my shirt off. Oh damn, red Ra,
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Speaker 1: I never did that. I've lost I guess in this
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Speaker 1: cool cool. I don't think it's cool. I mean, if
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Speaker 1: you want to do hip and cool, then yes, you
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Speaker 1: do that. For me, not so much. I've lost two
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Speaker 1: sisters to the motherhood. I know. Okay, this is a
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Speaker 1: big conversation. So we talked a little bit about child
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Speaker 1: free life and versus like having children. The conversation is,
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Speaker 1: is there a battle between like do you lose your
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Speaker 1: friends once they have children? Yeah, And it's such a
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Speaker 1: sticky subject because I have really good friends that who
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Speaker 1: have kids. But yes, I've definitely lost friends after they
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Speaker 1: had kids. Yeah, And I know we talked about this
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Speaker 1: at a previous one, but it is like it makes
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Speaker 1: sense to me. There's it's said, you know, that's a
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Speaker 1: part of you that's like, oh, this is ending, but
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Speaker 1: it makes sense, like you move into a separate phase
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Speaker 1: of your life and now you've got a kid and
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Speaker 1: it's thinking about your time and energy. Like that makes
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Speaker 1: sense to me. But it is kind of like, oh, no,
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Speaker 1: we probably won't see each other anymore, especially after a
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Speaker 1: child number two, number three, it obviously become like it's
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Speaker 1: hard for you, and that's understandable. I could come and
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Speaker 1: see you, but it's going to be very like, right either,
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Speaker 1: we were going to have to be very intense and
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Speaker 1: very intentional about these business so like you get an
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Speaker 1: hour of a lunch or it just and then it
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Speaker 1: gets a little too, like harder when you start like
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Speaker 1: having your own job, or like moves to a separate
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Speaker 1: place or travel a lot. It's the whole thing. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: my last friend who invited me to a baby shower.
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Speaker 1: She called me and sat me down. She was like,
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Speaker 1: sit down, I'm having twins. And I remember like so
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Speaker 1: happy for her, but thinking like lesandum and it was.
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Speaker 1: But she also lived like fifteen minutes away. Part of
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Speaker 1: these is. Part of the thing is like a lot
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Speaker 1: of my friends that on need from college have settled
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Speaker 1: outside of Atlanta. I live in Atlanta. I don't see
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Speaker 1: them as much. Anybody with children of like over two
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Speaker 1: children is difficult and who focused their life into being
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Speaker 1: a mother. It's beautiful, but it's very different places. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: you become two different people. Yeah, so it feels like
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Speaker 1: I mean, and I've had friends who I've managed to
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Speaker 1: like we've stayed close and I've met met their kids
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Speaker 1: and your kids are super nice. Um, so it's not
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Speaker 1: like impossible, but it makes sense to me that it's harder. Right,
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Speaker 1: You're just in different places of what you're thinking about
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Speaker 1: and where your life is. Ready, girls, let's go. I
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Speaker 1: do love that they come in as a posse and
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Speaker 1: those the cool city kids coming into the suburbia. You
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Speaker 1: and I were just talking about this, Samantha, like, you've
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Speaker 1: got to have your crew when you're going to a party,
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Speaker 1: somebody that you're going to show up with. Yes, So
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Speaker 1: it's really funny that they're all in black and sleek
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Speaker 1: and then they show up to the suburbia and the
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Speaker 1: woman who they're coming to see is in pestels. Also,
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Speaker 1: I love Samantha's wearing, like, oh yeah, an interesting Halter
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Speaker 1: cross if you want to show up flat tummy, yes, right, Yeah,
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Speaker 1: that's something strange to those kind of comments like oh
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Speaker 1: I've moved on to a better up. Yeah, you're still
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Speaker 1: you're still living in that young lifestyle that you don't
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Speaker 1: fit into anymore. And to be fair, I feel that, no,
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Speaker 1: I don't you like like the life that I have
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Speaker 1: versus the life that my sister my siblings had at
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Speaker 1: my age are so different. Yes, I love my son
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Speaker 1: and he is eleven months old. He is a god
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Speaker 1: and I tell him so every day. I will say.
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Speaker 1: In this level nineties early two thousand's, especially nineties, it
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Speaker 1: kind of started the whole like participation trophy level of
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Speaker 1: like we need to encourage all the kids that they
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Speaker 1: are the best, and like that like coddling level. It
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Speaker 1: went past the boomer where you like disciplined everybody to
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Speaker 1: tell him back and then was abusive and like keeping
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Speaker 1: your children in line, to coddling and absolutely tell him
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Speaker 1: they're the best and you can be anything you want
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Speaker 1: and all these things like that's not true. It's not true,
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Speaker 1: you know, to where we are today, Yeah, I believe
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Speaker 1: it's not wonderful. But I'm just like, huh. I told
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Speaker 1: the story before my mom one time we were on
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Speaker 1: a walk and she was like, I'm going to tell
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Speaker 1: you the truth, the American dream. You can't not everybody
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Speaker 1: can succeed. And I was like, damn, thanks mom, But yeah,
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Speaker 1: that's kind of is that level of like if you
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Speaker 1: have the perfect house and like seemingly like you can
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Speaker 1: have the perfect life and you are the most amazing child. Yes,
10:14
Speaker 1: even seven months pregnant, Laney couldn't keep her clothes on.
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Speaker 1: Clearly a part of the old lady. I just got
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Speaker 1: distracted by a portrait of this woman pregnant, naked, naked
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Speaker 1: above the bathroom, above the bathroom, in her own hands.
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Speaker 1: I mean, where else are you gonna put it? You know,
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Speaker 1: the pregnancy photos and they can be amazing. They did
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Speaker 1: this as a caricature of that. Yeah, it's not necessarily
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Speaker 1: like true. Obviously, this is not a depiction of the
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Speaker 1: good things. But like this is definitely during that era
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Speaker 1: of falling into the American dream was being a mother
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Speaker 1: blah blah blah. Man. I went to a party like
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Speaker 1: this one's to where I was the only single person,
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Speaker 1: and it became very clear that they all thought in
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Speaker 1: the most benign, nice way that I needed to Yeah,
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Speaker 1: I just had to find the right person. I've been
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Speaker 1: to a few parties where it was like I was
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Speaker 1: a single person to a couple party. Of course, I've
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Speaker 1: been also excluded from parties, but I'm like, I know
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Speaker 1: everyone there, but I can't come because I don't have someone,
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Speaker 1: which is obviously like one of the weirdest things, Like
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Speaker 1: why is that such a thing? Like I was I
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Speaker 1: was friends with you, Like y'all can't talk to people separately, right,
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Speaker 1: it has to be coupled up. Like yeah, it's such
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Speaker 1: a weird concept to me. But this is kind of
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Speaker 1: that era as well, like the perfect hood, like being
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Speaker 1: an adult means, which is what we were, Like what
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Speaker 1: is this because we came out of that era specifically,
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Speaker 1: like and for me specifically with my own family, seeing
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Speaker 1: that as a constant thing, you need to be made
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Speaker 1: by twenty one, so having children by twenty four, that
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Speaker 1: giant house in the suburb with the perfect school. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: and I feel like I've had friends who made it.
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Speaker 1: It almost felt like they were trying to justify to me,
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Speaker 1: like the opposite thing, Like they weren't partying anymore, and
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Speaker 1: they weren't doing this stuff. But my life is so
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Speaker 1: good now and I love it, and like if it
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Speaker 1: is that, there's no judgment on my end, right, if
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Speaker 1: you're happy, that's great. There's no part of me that's like, oh,
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Speaker 1: you're not going to globe anymore, right, right, But they
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Speaker 1: felt like they had to justify themselves to me or something.
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Speaker 1: And again, when things like that happened, that's what puts
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Speaker 1: the straight of like, oh, yeah, we're very different and
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Speaker 1: this is going to be awkward. Right. I can't believe
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Speaker 1: you're freaking out over a name. I mean, you're not
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Speaker 1: even pregnant. That's not the point. What's going on? She
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Speaker 1: stole my baby name? Bitch, let's go. So this is
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Speaker 1: one of the also classic tales. Did you have this
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Speaker 1: conversation I picked out a child name? Oh yeah, I
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Speaker 1: had three children's names, and but I shared them with
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Speaker 1: friends and I'm like, you can't use these names, and
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Speaker 1: we all had that, and I was like, and that's
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Speaker 1: that the tragic women against women battle of like, but
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Speaker 1: then you stole it, dare you? Even though they never
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Speaker 1: have those children. Yeah. So Charlotte told this woman her
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Speaker 1: baby name, the baby the name she wanted to give
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Speaker 1: to her future baby, and she named that name, and
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Speaker 1: Charlotte's fairy upset and says, oh, I should have had
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Speaker 1: a baby earlier. Baby showers always feeling depressed. Baby showers
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Speaker 1: always leave feeling depressed. Is that your experience? No, I'm
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Speaker 1: really just grateful to get the out. I also hate
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Speaker 1: all showers and weddings as such. I don't love them. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: there's only been one or two that I've actually really liked. Yeah.
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Speaker 1: My cousin invited me to hers and we were not close,
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Speaker 1: like not close at all, but I was so fighted.
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Speaker 1: I was like in high school. And she gave me
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Speaker 1: some wine, but it felt like such a pity invite,
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Speaker 1: like somebody pressured, what are you gonna do? You're gonna
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Speaker 1: tell them, mr bit No, I'm not going to tell
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Speaker 1: him until I know what I so, I know how
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Speaker 1: I what gray area? Did you have a moment that
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Speaker 1: you thought you were pregnant at any point. No. Um,
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Speaker 1: only when I went to the kind of college and
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Speaker 1: he was like, you're pregnant. But that would have been
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Speaker 1: like a I would have been like virgin marry. That
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Speaker 1: would have been a miracle yea or just I don't know,
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Speaker 1: but completely weirdness. Yes, that's the only time I've actually
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Speaker 1: never bought a pregnancy test. I've never taken one outside
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Speaker 1: of the kind of college. I have taken one, um,
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Speaker 1: because I'm paranoid, but I've never really been I have
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Speaker 1: taken Plan B a couple of times, just in cases
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Speaker 1: because I'm like, yeah, absolutely not UM. But yeah, no,
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Speaker 1: not really to that level that would come. But I
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Speaker 1: think I'm pregnant. Yeah. I had a friend once we
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Speaker 1: were doing our like annual get away with our group,
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Speaker 1: and she she said to me, you know, I took
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Speaker 1: pregnancy tests but it came back negative. But I just
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Speaker 1: think I'm pregnant. And sure enough a month later, really
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Speaker 1: pregnant day, sweetie. I just spent three on a pair
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Speaker 1: of open toed Gucci's last week. This is not the
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Speaker 1: place to be frugal. What about this one? Oh, first response?
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Speaker 1: I remember first response I had a very reassuring moment
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Speaker 1: once with so she's now by PC tests and condoms
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Speaker 1: just in case, but here's hoping. Which is funny because
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Speaker 1: by the I think when was it they started putting
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Speaker 1: all those things behind the shelf, like behind glass request them.
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Speaker 1: It feels like a whole different level. But I think
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Speaker 1: people were stilling it out of shame. Oh yeah, people
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Speaker 1: were like stoplifting it because it's a shame thing. So
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Speaker 1: they would have the shoplifts and I actually buy it. Yeah,
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Speaker 1: it was high targeted, but also there's still like a
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Speaker 1: level of like why you have to ask and request it?
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Speaker 1: That's or like a level of judgment and stigma around it.
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Speaker 1: A lot of these in heavy quotes feminine products condoms
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Speaker 1: too are behind condoms, and I feel like buying like
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Speaker 1: tampons and paths, they're not behind the counter, but it's
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Speaker 1: still very like shame factor. You're trying to hide it
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Speaker 1: behind things. Alright. Sometimes I would purposefully find if there's
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Speaker 1: a woman cashier, I would go to her. Samantha did
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Speaker 1: something only Samantha could do. She threw an I don't
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Speaker 1: have a baby shower to let everyone know she was fabulous.
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Speaker 1: So Sam being Sam besides the throwaway, I'm not a
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Speaker 1: pregnant party party, which, to be fair, again, this is
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Speaker 1: my whole thing about like I'm not getting married. Still
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Speaker 1: I need that I'm not getting married. Shower shower, we
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Speaker 1: will throw you a party. Oh she showed up. The
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Speaker 1: pregnant girl showed up to Sam's party. Oh that's she's
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Speaker 1: trying to pretend like it's nineteen eighties. But I also
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Speaker 1: like her outfit went from Pastel's to black leather. Yes,
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Speaker 1: she saw them at the baby showers, Like I gotta
17:29
Speaker 1: get this matrix Fosse. Look, I'm sure you get asked
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Speaker 1: this all the time, but what is your problem? My
17:39
Speaker 1: problem just that I had a dream and you killed
17:42
Speaker 1: it in a nutshell. Really well, then you're lucky because
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Speaker 1: at least you know what happened to You're a dream
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Speaker 1: of I have absolutely no idea what happened to mine. Boy. Oh,
17:54
Speaker 1: there's a whole level to this of like glamorizing single life,
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Speaker 1: which I think I was grateful for because during that
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Speaker 1: time that wasn't necessarily the thing. Is it unrealistic? Absolutely,
18:07
Speaker 1: but it kind of was nice to see as a
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Speaker 1: person who never dated through high school and even in college,
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Speaker 1: to see that, like, yes, I will come into my
18:15
Speaker 1: prime in my thirties. Yeah, it did not work out
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Speaker 1: that way. Well, I mean, it's nice to have a
18:23
Speaker 1: different narrative, even though ultimately they're still trying to find
18:26
Speaker 1: men a man. It's nice to see them like friends
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Speaker 1: single friends together, right, But at the same time, also
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Speaker 1: it's like, you don't have to on the other lifestyle
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Speaker 1: to make your lifestyle feel better, which I don't think
18:38
Speaker 1: they necessarily are doing that, but they're definitely not putting
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Speaker 1: marriage or people who are having children in their thirties
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Speaker 1: in a great light or late twenties and a great light. Yeah,
18:47
Speaker 1: I mean, it's like you said, it's a caricature of her.
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Speaker 1: It's like this pregnant woman that we should be laughing
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Speaker 1: at and judging and yeah, and feeling bad for and
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Speaker 1: now because she wants to live her old lifestyle even
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Speaker 1: though she's probably just trying to show off her boobs
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Speaker 1: and tried to make a drink just a second ago.
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Speaker 1: What do be fair? You shouldn't have to do that
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Speaker 1: to feel validated. If you want to do that, then
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Speaker 1: you do you. But if this is like this level
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Speaker 1: of like reliving, that's the other question. Is is it
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Speaker 1: sad to relive or is it okay? The glory days
19:21
Speaker 1: there were such a thing. Yeah, there are things that
19:25
Speaker 1: I miss, Yeah, that I wish I could go back
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Speaker 1: on and relive again. There are things that I'm okay
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Speaker 1: with not doing ever again. And then like but so
19:34
Speaker 1: we talked about this a little bit in our parentification
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Speaker 1: about like doing rituals that same childlike but it brings
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Speaker 1: us to comfort. Of course, this is not the same
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Speaker 1: thing the flashing people and all of that living that
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Speaker 1: that lifestyle rock party, lifestyle rock party. Yeah, the fifty
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Speaker 1: seven year old here, um, but like all of those things, like,
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Speaker 1: isn't that's such a bad thing. It it's not harming anyone.
20:06
Speaker 1: I've thought about this as a player because we have
20:10
Speaker 1: those comments of like she should not be wearing that
20:12
Speaker 1: she's her body isn't right, or she's too old and
20:16
Speaker 1: and I wanna I think I mentioned it recently, but
20:19
Speaker 1: I want to come back and do an episode on
20:20
Speaker 1: problematic insults that I think have a legitimacy in them,
20:23
Speaker 1: but they're problematic. But also I've been thinking about this too,
20:29
Speaker 1: because there are a lot of conversations. To flip the gender,
20:32
Speaker 1: then we would have different reactions. And one thing I
20:34
Speaker 1: did that I really regret doing is I once had
20:37
Speaker 1: an audition. I had a kiss in it, and I
20:40
Speaker 1: kissed the guy and afterwards the casting director was like,
20:42
Speaker 1: you never do that, Like that's because it's the I
20:46
Speaker 1: didn't get consent. We just kissed. But I I read
20:48
Speaker 1: it in the script and I thought I was young
20:51
Speaker 1: and I thought that mean and I feel so bad
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Speaker 1: about it. But things like flat like women flashing, if
20:57
Speaker 1: men did that would be like, oh, it's just totally different,
21:02
Speaker 1: like mindset um, and there's a lot of intricacies and
21:06
Speaker 1: nuances in that. But just saying like I have been
21:09
Speaker 1: thinking about that lately. But we just also, you and
21:12
Speaker 1: I talked about this in that adults going to things
21:15
Speaker 1: like Disneyland and that whole like, because we talked about
21:18
Speaker 1: that it's like child free and what that looks like
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Speaker 1: and the fact that uh, people's fantasy growing up was
21:24
Speaker 1: to go to things like disney Land disney World and
21:27
Speaker 1: could not afford it. That parents cannot afford it, so
21:29
Speaker 1: they and themselves were able to do so. They love
21:31
Speaker 1: Disney movies. They loved Disney movies, but it didn't get
21:34
Speaker 1: to live that life. To see and then being able
21:36
Speaker 1: to do that as adult and being shamed for it
21:38
Speaker 1: because this is for kids. Why? And it is that
21:41
Speaker 1: level of like going back and reliving or hoping to
21:45
Speaker 1: relive a memory that you loved in this aspect, and
21:49
Speaker 1: the fact that when it comes down to it, Disney money,
21:52
Speaker 1: Disney costs are not children costs, you know what I mean,
21:55
Speaker 1: Like it is not affordable people with children typically, and
21:59
Speaker 1: it's not affordable for children at all. So like that
22:02
Speaker 1: is not that there's this like layer of like, yeah,
22:05
Speaker 1: just wonderful that you have the privilege to take your kid.
22:08
Speaker 1: Why are you shaving those who whose family couldn't do that?
22:11
Speaker 1: And so they're doing it for themselves, right, that's the level.
22:14
Speaker 1: Is there a problematic word like influencers go to do
22:17
Speaker 1: like a video bit and take up space to like
22:19
Speaker 1: film for three hours at a time instead of just
22:21
Speaker 1: enjoying the park. Yes, yes, and and also like possibly
22:25
Speaker 1: jeopardizing the jobs of the employees there, that's hugely problematic.
22:30
Speaker 1: That's not what we're talking about. We're talking about those
22:32
Speaker 1: who truly love Annie, who will take two days to
22:38
Speaker 1: plan an entire day to love the part that she
22:41
Speaker 1: loves to enjoy everything about it to sit there and
22:43
Speaker 1: literally tear up after a ride that she had been
22:46
Speaker 1: so excited about that we knew that it may take
22:49
Speaker 1: three hours to get to but the joy on your
22:52
Speaker 1: face was worth every Like that's what is for. Yeah, Yeah,
22:57
Speaker 1: And I think I feel like we made this point
22:59
Speaker 1: at the time, but I stick by it, Like if
23:01
Speaker 1: you're not bothering anybody, if I do my own thing
23:05
Speaker 1: and I'm not messing with you, then I don't see
23:08
Speaker 1: what the problem is with me having like my child
23:11
Speaker 1: at heart having this moment. And it is I mean,
23:16
Speaker 1: we talked about it briefly in Monday Many where we
23:18
Speaker 1: were talking about the pressure of especially women and mothers
23:20
Speaker 1: to plan this perfect trip and it's so expensive and
23:23
Speaker 1: there's all this expectation on it. It's stressful for everybody. Um,
23:28
Speaker 1: but if you go as an adult and you have
23:29
Speaker 1: money and it's nice, it's nice. And that's the thing is,
23:34
Speaker 1: like we can't hold that over our parents head because
23:36
Speaker 1: they couldn't afford it, Like, yeah, there was four of us.
23:40
Speaker 1: There are four children, two adults, two adults is like
23:44
Speaker 1: two thousand dollars essentially, So I can't imagine outside of
23:48
Speaker 1: that and then food and all of these things, and
23:51
Speaker 1: then kids begging for things like and nothing they have
23:54
Speaker 1: there is cheap um, So we should be talking about
23:57
Speaker 1: why that's so not affordable. But that's a whole different conversation.
24:00
Speaker 1: But to allow people the joy to do these things.
24:03
Speaker 1: But again, not the same thing what we're talking about
24:05
Speaker 1: the sex in the city, because she was trying to
24:06
Speaker 1: relive her days. Uh. And to the point that it's
24:10
Speaker 1: okay to grow out of it. It's okay to be
24:11
Speaker 1: uncomfortable today of like the things. You're not going to
24:14
Speaker 1: stain up on top of the table showing off your
24:16
Speaker 1: red bra anymore. If you did, you do you as
24:20
Speaker 1: long as you were in an environment that is consented.
24:23
Speaker 1: But like all of those things, it's like, okay, it's
24:25
Speaker 1: not bad to relive your past. I miss I missed
24:29
Speaker 1: some of the things in college. I don't miss all
24:30
Speaker 1: the things. I think. We did have a reunion and
24:34
Speaker 1: it was it wasn't wonderful. One of them wasn't, but
24:36
Speaker 1: some of the others were. And that's great. Um, we
24:40
Speaker 1: grow apart. That makes me sad, but that's also what
24:44
Speaker 1: it is. So what does that look like today? If
24:47
Speaker 1: you I mean and it's hard, especially if you live
24:49
Speaker 1: in a completely different city, completely different area, have completely
24:52
Speaker 1: different schedules. That makes it a little harder. Um and
24:56
Speaker 1: if it doesn't mean that makes it like I just
24:58
Speaker 1: saw a good friend of mine, but I don't see
25:01
Speaker 1: more than once every year, maybe or maybe sometimes every
25:03
Speaker 1: two years. But it's beautiful when I get to see them,
25:06
Speaker 1: and I don't talk to them every day. I'm talk
25:08
Speaker 1: to them once a month, but it's still wonderful when
25:11
Speaker 1: we come back together like that, there's sadness to it,
25:14
Speaker 1: so it's not as bad. And again, like I think,
25:17
Speaker 1: as much as I get, I think Sex in the
25:19
Speaker 1: City did an amazing job for me as a person
25:21
Speaker 1: who didn't necessarily who didn't want to seek relationships. So
25:25
Speaker 1: that's all that's something to do. I felt like an
25:26
Speaker 1: end goal that was like, oh, this seems nice to have.
25:29
Speaker 1: But at the same time, being able to be happy
25:31
Speaker 1: with my friends and being single. To advertise that as
25:34
Speaker 1: like this is an okay thing, right and glamorize it
25:37
Speaker 1: and make me feel like I could do this, what's
25:39
Speaker 1: a whole different thing. Yeah, I mean for sure, because
25:43
Speaker 1: I think the main relationship here is between these characters,
25:48
Speaker 1: and so they're just like men that come and go,
25:50
Speaker 1: but they're the beIN sturdy relationship and I think that's
25:55
Speaker 1: beautiful and that's important. It's like you can want to
25:57
Speaker 1: have that man or what ever what have you that
26:01
Speaker 1: you're looking for, but you got your group and you
26:04
Speaker 1: don't like abandoned them, leave them alone even if your
26:06
Speaker 1: relationship changes, because I also have friends, like I can
26:10
Speaker 1: go a year and then we talk. We might not
26:12
Speaker 1: even talk about anything really relevant in our lives, but
26:14
Speaker 1: it's just easy to pick up and it's great and
26:16
Speaker 1: then wait next year. Like there's a saddest to it,
26:20
Speaker 1: as you said, but there's also just that's kind of
26:23
Speaker 1: how life goes, and you can look back fondly and
26:26
Speaker 1: there's things you miss and things you won't is. I
26:29
Speaker 1: used to say, like seasons. Friends come through seasons and
26:32
Speaker 1: it's a perfect season and it may not be forever,
26:34
Speaker 1: but it's still nice. Yeah, enjoy things while you can. Alright, Anny,
26:58
Speaker 1: you got much higher score on that one. The bay
27:00
Speaker 1: least you did talk about children. That was a baby shower.
27:04
Speaker 1: I will give you in the comparison of women and
27:07
Speaker 1: children versus women's single hood. I will give you in
27:11
Speaker 1: my score of eight out of ten. Okay, okay, nice,
27:15
Speaker 1: better than zero. I think I did a percentage before
27:18
Speaker 1: you did. I like that you sometimes it's gonna happen.
27:22
Speaker 1: I'm maybe have a smaller face Friday face, slight face.
27:25
Speaker 1: Today's eight out of ten. Good job made up for
27:28
Speaker 1: the zero who are very competitive. So this is exciting.
27:33
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