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see so away, Shashi, stop along you test events. Welcome back to
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everybody. Imagine that at two years old, you step outside and you're going
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to have fun with your cousins, and your cousins are burning some shingles that
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came off the barn in your grand vow father's backyard. They're having fun and
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you just want to join in. You're two years old. Something happens.
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Next thing you know, you are a blaze. Remember you're only two years
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old. You don't really understand what is happening as you know it as it
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hurts. And you're gonna spend the next few years of your life in surgeries,
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having skin repairs and other things to treat the birds, and to some
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people in school and everything that you're gonna be bullied because well you have scarry
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and you don't really look quite like the other kids because of the scars.
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This is a story of our next guest, Kelly, and she even when
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as far as an adult, she's had a documentary done about her. It's
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called Still Beautiful. Her message is that our beauty comes from within us and
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it isn't just what our skin looks like. So why don't we welcome Kelly
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to the show and let's hear her story and hear how she is helping our
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world now with publishing and helping authors get their stories out there in front of
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the world something. So I want to welcome Kelly Pilardo to the show.
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And it's a Kelly. Why did we just start from a very beginning?
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You were two years old and you were playing in what was your grandparents' backyard.
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Well something wasn't. Yeah, Actually, we actually lived on the farm
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with my grandparents. So my grandparents had a house and then we had a
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house right next door to them, and my cousins were nine and eleven,
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and my grandpa had asked my cousin to burn the singles from the old barn
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roof. And so I was inside my in our house and we had just
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had supper, and then you know, my cousins wanted to go outside to
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burn the singles, and I wanted to go outside to be with my cousin
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because they were my big cousins, right, And so my mom had a
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decisi whether she was going to let me go outside or keep me inside and
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trained my diaper, and she decided to let me go outside with my cousins.
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And a few minutes later, she looked out the window because she could
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hear some screaming and crying, and she saw me engulfed in flames, and
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so she opened up the door and ran out, and you know, my
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cousins had grabbed the bucket of water, and our neighbor came down the driveway,
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and the neighbor threw the bucket of water on me, and then they
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rushed me to the hospital. And I spent four months in the hospital.
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Every two days I would have to go in the operating room for surgery,
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and then every two years until I was twenty years old, I'd have to
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go back for more surgeries. I was answering a couple of questions about about
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the surgeries earlier before we went on air, and it said something about that
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they took I guess, the flat of skin from the back of your leg
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to help helping so that your mouth would move properly. Well, because of
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the scarring around my face, it was so tight that my mouth was always
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open. So what they did is they took a piece of skin from my
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stomach and they put it on my chin so that I could open and close
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my mouth. So that was just one of the thur dress. There was
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so many more. I think I had roughly about forty different surderies and in
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my lifetime. Well, I'm going to quote a little bit from your from
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your documentary. In the documentary, you said that there's one strip of skin
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down your back that wasn't burnt or didn't have scarf. Is that right,
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Yeah, that's true. Actually it looked like a tease. So there's the
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top of my shoulders and then down it's the only natural skin that I have,
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So everywhere else has been burnt other than on my legs. What they've
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done is they used the skin on my legs six times over to you know,
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for donor sites. So they've done I've had breast surgery because they my
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skin was so tight around my truck, then all the way around to my
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back into the middle of my almost to the middle of my back, and
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so what they did is they thought they didn't know if I would grow breasts
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or not. So my doctor thought, well, why don't we take some
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skin from her legs and then we'll put them where her breasts would be and
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then hopefully that will allow them to grow. And they at that time the
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common thing to use instead of stitches was staples, so they stapled the skin
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onto my trust and then of course, you know, we had to get
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the staples taken out when when I grew, and my doctor didn't get all
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the staples out, and I remember him saying, I mean, I don't
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think I got them all because he had left them in too long and some
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of the skin overgrew the staples, and so he told me that I had
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to actually soak in the bathtub for every day for like two hours and sore
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enough the you know, more staples came out. And so yeah, so
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those are some of the crazy things I've had to deal with. Wow,
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that's just it's just crazy. I didn't see that one coming. It sounds
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like he's had a great medical team, if he could be that honest with
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you that, hey, I don't think I got everything, you know,
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because doctors sometimes if they're not so we say transparent, that they try to
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cover things over and then oh, I don't know how that happened. But
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yeah, it sounds like he had a really great medical team though, right,
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yeah, well, and this is back in the sixties and the seventies
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and eighties, so this is you know, the technology that we have now
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is so much more different than what we had back then. So now people
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wouldn't have to, you know, go through as much as what I had
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to go through. And definitely the medical advancers are way better. So mm
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hmm. So what about school, So how was that affected? So fortunately,
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you know, we went We lived in a little town and right from
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kindergarten to high school, I was pretty much while I was in the same
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town, and so I grew up with a lot of the kids, the
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same kids. But I still remember in grade five and I walked past my
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teacher's desk and someone had drawn a picture of me, and it was a
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circle with eyes and nose and mouth on it, and it had scribbles all
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over it and it said scarface. And that was when I really understood what
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the kids were calling me. I mean, back when I was little,
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like my hearing was so bad, I didn't always hear the names that people
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were calling me, but I knew that they were. And you know,
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I remember being sixteen and praying to God and saying, dear God, please
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don't make me wake up in the morning. But if I have to,
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can I at least be scarless so I can be pretty like all the other
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girls, and thank you and amen. And of course I woke up in
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the morning, and of course the scars were still there, and I was
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devastated because I wanted to be pretty like all the other girls, right,
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I didn't want to have all the ugly scars on my face. I was
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I was tired of people staring at me, and so school was challenging for
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me because, you know, were stared at a lot, and I was
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teased, I was bullied, and you know, I mean, I know
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a lot of kids, we all go through the same thing. But I
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think for me, the difference was that I always believed if someone is overweight,
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well they can just go on a diet and they lose their weight and
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they no longer get called fatty fatty two by four. Right, someone who's
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got glasses and you get called four eyes, well all you need to do
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was go and get contacts, and you're no longer four eyes. But I
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knew my scars were never ever going to go away. Like my body is,
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you know, covered on scars, and I knew that there was no
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way that my scars were going to disappear because my doctor couldn't make them disappear,
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and neither could my my God. So I knew that I would be
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the ugly girl forever. And that's what I believed at the time, because
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I knew my scars were never going to go away. Yeah. I kind
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of get what you saying with that one, because I was bullied because of
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my basic appearance, my skin tone, my my curly hair, all that
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sort of stuff. It's not necessarily scarring, but but kids were meaningful about
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it. I got called names like half breed and stuff like that because oh
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he's a mixed kid. In of course, in the sixties and the seventies,
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that wasn't so cool, right, Yeah, I kind of get get
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a grasp of it. It's you know, the difference is, mind was
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I wasn't scarred, So you had pain to go along with this, and
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so along with the bullying in the in the visical pain, how did that
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How how was your emotional status day to day with that? Well, I
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was a very shy girl, so I was very very quiet. I didn't
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talk a lot. I don't know if I had a depression, like I
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may have had some form of a depression, But you know, I think
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I think what my parents did differently is that if I was ever whining or
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complaining about myself, my parents would always say to me, oh, so
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suck it up, quit feeling sorry for yourself. And so I think that
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was one of the ways that I became strong, is because my parents wouldn't
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let me feel sorry for myself. My parents wouldn't no matter what I wanted
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to do, they let me do it. They encouraged me to do it,
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even though some other people might think, well, yeah, the ugly
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girl, why would you do that, or how can you do that?
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You're not pretty enough or you're not smarter enough. And I just believe that
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it didn't matter whether that scarves on me or not. If I wanted to
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do something, I was going to do it with that you're you're a very
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successful person if you've had a large following with your with your documentary, right,
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and well they made me your documentary again, I'm sorry. It's still
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beautiful. So we should all take a look at that documentary. It is
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a wonderful film and should be a few words for you if it hasn't already.
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Yeah, we'd love to win some awards. We haven't really won any
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awards, but we we It aired on am I in Canada. They had
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the Canadian right to the film, so but yeah, so it was cool.
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It was quite an experience. It's not It's not something I would have
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ever expected, and they did such an incredible job and you know, recreating
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my accident of me getting burnt as a two year old, like two a
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tea like that was just how real they made it. And yeah, I
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was so impressed that, you know, how how they made it so realistic.
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So yeah, it was pretty cool. Yeah, they followed you for
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a while though, because there's a scene in there. Did you're talking to
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your hairstylus about your I don't know if if if the haircut was for an
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occasion or whatever, but they were she was talking about well, how we're
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going to style your hair today and everything, So it looks like they followed
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you followed around for a while, but yeah, you know what, they
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were with me at my house for about four weeks, and so we planned
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all these different events and different things that we wanted to show in the documentary.
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So you know, like I did a paint night, and so they
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followed me with that. I had to speak in San Francisco. I was
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speaking in a woman's event, and so they came to San Francisco with me,
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and while we were in San Francisco, we met up with a friend
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of mine who's also a burned survivor and she lives in San Diego, so
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she met us in San Francisco. And the really cool thing about Cindy is
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that she actually encouraged me to have children. So I didn't think I could
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ever have a baby. I thought, because I was burnt, that I
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wouldn't be able to And I don't know why I had that belief. I
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just did. I just had that belief that I wasn't, you know,
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able to have kids. And so she told me, well, she said,
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well I have kids. I have two girls. And the incredible thing
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about that for me was that I always wanted to know what would I look
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like without scars? And so I said to you know, Cindy, I
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said, so what does your daughter look like like? Does she look like
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you? And she goes, yeah, she does. And I said,
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oh my gosh, so you that means you know what you would look like
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without scars, and she goes, yeah, I do, and a lot
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of people can't understand what that's like, but for us, who are you
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know? She got burt when she was six years old. I got burt
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when I was two, and I always wondered, like, would I be
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beautiful? And it was really beautiful when I did have a daughter, and
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I was so excited to have her first because I thought, hmm, maybe
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I'll know what I look like without scars. Yeah, And it was such
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a beautiful experience having her. And then I ended up having a second baby
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and I lost that baby at twenty eight weeks. I lost a little baby
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girl. And then a couple of years after that, I got pregnant for
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the third time, and this time I had twin boys. And so when
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I had the twin boys, that is what I realized that my little baby
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that died, she was a gift because her her passing away meant that we
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would bring the two twin boys into the world, because if we wouldn't,
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if we would have had her, we wouldn't have had the twin boys.
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We would have just stopped at having the two little girls. So you know,
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it would just I believe it's such a beautiful thing when people can see
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that their tragedy is actually a gift. And I think that there's too many
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people that are so focused on their tragedies as being tragedies and something that's there
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to harm them and ruin their lives instead of seeing it as a gift.
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And I know a lot of times people don't see death as a gift,
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or even me getting burnt as a two year old as a gift. But
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I believe that I have a purpose in this world, and that is my
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gift, is that I am supposed to go were there so that I can
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help other people to learn who love or learn to love who they are,
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and that they don't have to be perfect and they don't have to be flawless
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in order to be beautiful or in order to be loved. And so that's
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what I believe my purpose is in their life. Well, that leads me
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into this because you're a mindset coach. Well, I actually coach people to
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write books and become bestselling authors. And also I'm starting to get into coaching
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people know how to be speakers. So because that's my passion, and so
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many people are asking me, Kelly, teach me how to be a speaker.
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I want to be a speaker, and so I'm starting to get into
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coaching people for that also very cool. So what is your process like to
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to teaching people to to write their book into into speak. So the biggest
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thing you've got to figure out is is you know what, what is your
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message? Right? And why? Why do you want to write a book?
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Why do you want to speak? Is what is going on in your
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mind. A lot of people think their why is their kids, and I
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believe that is a why to a certain level. But I think there's a
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deeper why. And so, for example, my deeper why is about I
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think about eight years ago, someone sent me a picture on Facebook of a
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little girl who got burnt and she was eighteen months old, and she's covered
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on pressure garments and her her whole face, her whole body is just covered
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in scarves. And I just broke down into tears because I realized that that
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little girl is going to have to go through my life. You know,
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at eighteen months, she spent a year and a half in the hospital.
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She's you know, gonna she's still going for surgeries and I think she's like
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eight or nine years old now and you know, she's being teased, she's
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being bullied, she's got a rough life. And I realized that that's my
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why of that little girl, Rosie. Okay, I'm going I'm going to
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say this that sometimes being a rough life, like you said, is a
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gift because it helps you. It helps you to pull others up, right,
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that, hey, you don't have to have to stay in the dregs.
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You can come out of it and you and it helps you. It
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helps you be strung enough to help lift them. Right. Yeah, absolutely,
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I totally believe that one hundred percent. I really believe that the reason
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certain things happen to us in life is so that we can share our information
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and our knowledge and our wisdom with other people and help them. And I'll
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still remember my son was violated by a girl at one point, and he
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said he was really depressed and he was suicide. And he said to me,
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Mom, why did this happen to me? I didn't deserve this?
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I said, You're right, I said, did I deserve to get burnt
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as a two year old? You don't know? I said, And what
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am I doing about it? Because you're helping people? I said, exactly,
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I said, I believe this happened to you, so that someday some
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young man is going to come to you and said, look, this happened
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to me, and I want to end my life. And you're going to
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be able to help that kid get through it. And you're going to be
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able to help them talk it through and give them some strategies and things that
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you did so that you can help them to get it. You know,
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moved through that tragedy. And so that's what I believe. I believe we
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have to go through life experiences so we can teach other people. Yeah,
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and that's a really strong place to start finding your why. You know,
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Yeah, absolutely, that's an excellent way to start finding your your why.
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Who who is that person that you want to help, What do they look
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like, what are they going through? What are they doing? And that
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becomes your why. It's not just about your kids, right, or it's
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not just about leaving a legacy for your kids. It's all about what is
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What is that that painful story that when you hear that story, it just
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hits you right in your heart and it makes you cry, and it's like,
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I am not going to let somebody else go through what I went through
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and and that becomes your why. Yeah, that you know what? And
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that makes sense because that why led you to the documentary. It's still beautiful,
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and it led you to be on our show right now. Inspiring stories,
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Yeah, absolutely, And that's what life's all about, is how can
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we inspire other people so that they can get through some of the challengers and
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they can learn to love themselves and learn to love their life. Yeah,
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do you love these life? You know what? Right now, I'm going
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through a challenger in time, and the reason being is, you know,
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I've had a death of my niece and so I'm going through that right now.
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And you know, we're struggling a little bit financially were my business is
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doing some growing and it's going through some changes. And so there's some things
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that you know, I can't I can't say that I absolutely love everything about
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my life right now. I'm going through some challenges, but there's a lot
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of things that I absolutely do love about my life. And I do love
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that I get to be creative, right That's one of the big things for
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me is I need to have creativity in my life, whether it's painting or
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drawing or speaking, whatever that may be. I need to have creativity in
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my life, and I love that. I love that I'm not stuck in
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a nine to five job and I only get to do one thing. I
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love being able to be creative and dream things and just do whatever make me
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feel happy. I'm going to ask you a background question. In your background,
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how many of those books did you help get published? Oh my gosh,
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so all of these are all my clients books. So all of them?
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So yeah, these are all my clients books. So all of them.
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I think pretty much all of them are best sellers except maybe one.
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Wow, No, you know what I think. No, all of these
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books, all of these books are bestsellers. Behind me, Well, it's
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it's it's it's it's there, and it's and you're proud of and you're proud
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of what you do right and how you help people. So it's like ahead
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that. Yeah, like let's let's ask you the name of the documentary?
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Is still beautiful? And how does that make you feel when someone says that
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you are beautiful? So you know, I didn't believe I was beautiful.
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And one day I remember saying to myself, I'm done. I'm done feeling
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like the ugly girl And what happened is me and my ex husband went to
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a garage sale. We were still married at the time, and so we're
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in this graade show. We're looking at stuff, and this older lady says
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to me, they couldn't do better than that, and I was stocked.
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I was like, oh my gosh, how can someone say something so cruel?
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And I thought, what am I going to say to her? And
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I'm looking down and I'm thinking what am I going to say? And I
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looked at her and I said, you know what I happened to think,
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I looked pretty damn good. And I turned around and I walked away,
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and I went into the car, and my husband said to me, kel,
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she didn't mean it that way, So she meant it how she said
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it, and I know what she meant. She meant, why couldn't they
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do some sort of surgery on you and take your scurries away and then you'd
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be beautiful. But she didn't know that I got burnt as a two year
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old to seventy five percent of my body. She didn't know that I've had
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over forty surgeries. She didn't know about everything that I've had to go through
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to even just look the way I do. And I thought, why am
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I going to complete stranger take my power away? I'm never going to see
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this woman ever again. And I thought, not once have my kids,
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or my family, or my friends ever said to me kel or mom,
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we would love you more if you were scarless. So why am I letting
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a complete stranger take my power away? And that was the day that I
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decided that I wasn't going to feel ugly anymore, and I wasn't going to
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let somebody else staring at me make me feel ugly. And so the next
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day I went into the bathroom and I made sure everybody was out of the
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house, and I locked the bathroom door even though there was nobody in the
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house, and I looked in the mirror, and instead of saying, I
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am beautiful, because when I would say I am beautiful, that little voice
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in my head would say, no, you're not beautiful. Women don't have
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scars on their face. You are not beautiful. So instead of saying that,
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I would say, I said to myself, I love my big,
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beautiful green eyes. And I didn't hear that voice, because it's true.
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I believe I have big, beautiful green eyes. And then I turned to
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my side and I looked at my nose and I'm like, oh my gosh,
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I love my cute little nose. And again I didn't hear that negative
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voice, right. And then I looked at my ear, and you know,
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my ear, it's it's not a pretty ear. It's it's deformed and
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it's not pretty. And there was a time when I hated my ear.
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I just absolutely hated what it looked like. And I thought, you know
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what, I love my cute little ear. It makes me special, it
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makes me different, it makes me unique. And there was a time when
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I was going to get surgery and I was going to get this ear cut
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off, and then they were gonna make me new ear, a prosthetic ear,
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and then I'd have a snap on ear. And then I thought,
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well, what about what I forget to take put my ear on? Then
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I just got this hole in my head, right, So I thought,
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forget it. I'm not gonna do that just so somebody else looking at me
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is more comfortable and thinks I'm pretty. I'm not doing that if it's not
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going to help me to feel better, or if it's not going to help
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me to hear better, why would I do that. Why would I put
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myself through all that pain just so somebody else can feel more comfortable around me.
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And then I looked I had my favorite dreams on, and so I
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turned around. I looked at my butt and I was like, oh my
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god, I love my cute, little hot ass. And you know,
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I wasn't I wasn't bragging about myself. I was embracing myself. I was
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learning how to embrace me. And so the next time I looked in the
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mirror, I didn't see all the ugly scars. I saw what was beautiful
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about me, and all my scars just blended in. And so I believe
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if you can't go in the mirror and say I am beautiful, because a
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lot of times, if you don't believe it, it's not going to work.
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But I believed all those things I've said about me, and because I
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believed it, that was what made me feel beautiful, is that I realized,
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you know what, it really doesn't matter what other people think about me.
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It only matters what I think about me. And so yes, I
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am beautiful, and it doesn't matter what I have on my body and what
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I'm covered in. I am beautiful. No matter what for you. It
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took a long time to get to that point though. I mean I was
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in my forties when that happened. It wasn't something that just happened overnight.
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It was just something that took a long time before I realized that I had
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to stop worrying about what everybody's thinking about me. Yeah, well you look,
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for whatever the reason is, there are a lot of us that I'm
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going to put it. See this way, it took us to we're almost
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forty years old to learn to like ourselves. It maybe we got to work
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fifty before we learned to, Hey, I do love myself. That's right,
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it is. That isn't something that always comes easy to all of us,
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right, right, It doesn't always come easy, you know. I
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think especially these days, people are just so focused on social media and they
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compare themselves to everybody else. And when you're comparing yourself, you're diminishing yourself.
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And you don't need to compare yourself to other people because most people,
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if you ask them if they think that they're beautiful, they're going to say
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no, I'm not. I've got this, this and this and this and
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this wrong with me. Instead of focusing on what's right with them. They
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focus on what's wrong with them, and that's why they don't feel beautiful.
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Compairing yourself is diminishing yourself. That's a good lesson. Mm hmmm. Will
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everybody make sure they actually heard that, because there's another society, like you
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said, social media and all that kind of stuff. I've seen one of
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my friends on social media. She has a beautiful voice and okay, she's
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a little bit on the chubby side. Okay, okay, what but who
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cares about that when you can sing the way you do? I know exactly.
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So I look on social media and she started posting pictures of her that
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they use some kind of AI program to make her look cookie cutter beautiful.
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Oh brother, and like, why did you? It's like you don't eat
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that? No exactly. Yeah, but you know, that's society. You're
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just so focused on being flawless and being perfect, and it makes it really
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difficult for people to live up to those standards. And it shouldn't be a
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standard. No, there shouldn't be. I mean, if you're happy the
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way you are, then you should just be happy the way you are.
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Right. If you're not happy and you want to make changes. Then great,
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make changes. That's okay. So yeah, there's nothing wrong in making
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changes for you, not for them exactly. That's that's one of the reasons
34:45
why I believe that sometimes surgery doesn't work for people. Who did I know,
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oh, a friend, Actually it's my boyfriend's us sister. She went
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and had some surgery so she could lose Wait, and when she's in the
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mirror, she still sees the fat version of ourselves. She doesn't see how
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skinny she is, right, And so I said, well, I think
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what you need to do is get out before and after picture of yourself so
35:15
that you can see the change that actually happened. But I think what's happened
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is we're so programmed to see the negatives in ourselves and to see the bad
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part of ourselves. We're not. We're not. It's very difficult for us
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to see the good in ourselves. Yeah, and that's part. That's part
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of what you want what people to know, is that there's lots a good
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inside of them, right Exactly. I think that we focus way too much
35:49
on what's wrong with that, and instead we need to start focusing on what's
35:52
right with us. So instead of going in the mirror and saying, oh,
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my gosh, I look at all the wrinkles I have, but look
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at the crows I have, or you know, look at the double train
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I have. And I'm like, instead of focusing on that, focus,
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yeah, you know, focus on all the beautiful things about yourself. Oh.
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I almost want to ask you the question is is there anything in your
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life that you did that that you had changed it would make the paths for
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you to get here easier. But I think you've already answered that question.
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Well, you know, it's interesting that you asked me that question. It's
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a very good question. I mean, I do get asked that a lot.
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People will say to me, if you could go back and change things,
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would you if you could go back and not get burnt? As a
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two year old, would you do that? And if you were to ask
36:53
me that question as a teenager, I would say absolutely, I would have
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gone back and I would not have wanted to be burnt. But if you
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ask me that now as an adult, I know that that's the reason I
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am where I am. If I wouldn't have got burnt, I wouldn't be
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here in the same way, right, I wouldn't be inspiring people I wouldn't
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be teaching them. I wouldn't have a documentary about my life story. You
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know, I wouldn't have, you know, the beautiful man in my life
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that I have. I wouldn't have all that. I wouldn't be able to
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coach people on, you know, sharing their stories. And I wouldn't have
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any of that if I wouldn't have got burned as a two year old.
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So I see the gift in my tragedy, whereas I didn't see the gift
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of my tragedy when I was a teenager. Is that something that most of
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us missed? The gift? It's hidden or as they put it, the
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silver lining to Yeah. Absolutely. People are so engrossed in their tragedy and
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then the badge stuff that's going on with them that they don't see where it
38:05
could lead them, right, So they don't see that that it is actually
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what made them who they are, right, and that it's it's lesson that
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you're learning and you're being taught. Mm hmmm, mm hmmm. Who is
38:25
Kelly Pard of me? Who is Kelly? Who is Kelly? Oh my
38:31
gosh, what a another great question. M So you know what Kelly is
38:44
a beautiful soul who want to inspire and and help other people to learn to
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love who they are and that it's okay to be imperfect. You know what,
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We're gonna leave leave that for now, And why don't you tell people
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the best ways to get a hold of you and actually work with you as
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a publishing coach or as a speaking coach there. So the best way to
39:17
find me is on my website, so Kellyflado dot com. And I also
39:24
have a link tree account where all my links are so it's link tree dot
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com forwards last Kelly n FT so they can find me there and uh yeah,
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I have some free gifts there too, so they can check that out
39:43
also. But yeah, if they're interested in, you know, being coached,
39:47
or if you want to hire me as a speaker, you can also
39:51
go to my email which was book Kelly too speak at gremail dot com.
39:55
Yeah, Kelly, thank you so much. You know, it's a real
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honor to meet you and to actually see you for the because this is the
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first time I've got to see you with the in person. We've talked a
40:09
couple of times on the phone and texted and all that kind of stuff,
40:14
but it's like you're more beautiful than your profile picture. Thank you, Michael,
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and you know you are awesome. I just love your soul, your
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beautiful soul, and I love all the questions that you asked. You're just
40:28
an amazing you know post. So thank you all right, thank you so
40:32
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