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10 Everyday Things That Are HARD for Autistic People (SHOCKING) · Aspergers & Autism Podcast [The Aspie World] AuDHD

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  Here are 10 everyday things that are really hard for autistic
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  people. Hey guys, what's going on?
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  Welcome back to the Aspy world. My name is Dan.
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  I have autism and ADHD, and I make weekly videos all about
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  this. So if you want to learn more,
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  remember to hit that subscribe button by clicking the
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  notification bell and hit follow if you're watching on the other
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  platforms. OK, so 10 things that autistic
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  individuals find really difficult.
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  Here we go. Number one is phone calls.
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  Now, phone calls are something that is a socially accepted norm
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  or something that is typically OK.
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  You know, you pick up the phone, you dial A number and you talk
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  to somebody and you don't really think much about it.
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  Whereas autistic individuals will not only worry about making
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  the phone call and panic whilst on the phone call, they will
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  plan and try and script out what to say on the phone call.
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  Why? Because this type of interaction
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  is so difficult to gauge. The person isn't in front of
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  you. You don't know what their
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  reaction is, you don't know what they're going to react with when
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  you say something. You don't know if it's your turn
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  to talk or their turn to talk or whose turn to talk.
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  It's hard to know. Also Click to subscribe.
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  The interesting thing about it is that autistic people struggle
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  with phone calls unless you've had prior training on phone
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  calls, right? Please share this video if you
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  think it's helpful for somebody and also tag your friends in the
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  comments to see if they would be interested in this video.
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  I remember when I was in one of my office jobs I worked at, they
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  taught me how to use the telephones and like how to talk
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  appropriately on the telephone. Like, hello, Daniel speaking,
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  welcome to blah, blah, blah. And so I use that etiquette now
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  when I'm on the phone anyway. But unless I had prior training,
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  it was difficult. So I'm like, oh, am I silent on
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  the phone? Do I talk?
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  Do they talk to me? It's so difficult.
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  It's very difficult. If you relate to this, you got
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  to give the video a thumbs up. OK, Number 2 is fluorescent
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  lighting. Oh my goodness, I did a TikTok
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  video about this, which I will link description down below.
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  I'll link a link to this. It was a viral video went over
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  1,000,000 views. It was all about showing the
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  flicker of lights. Fluorescent lights flicker,
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  right? For they have a rapid rate of
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  flickering. Now typical people like
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  neurotypical people who are not autistic cannot see this
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  flicker. But autistic people not only see
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  the flicker because sometimes we hear the flicker, the noise, the
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  buzzing. And I did a video where I show
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  this on the camera. I changed the the frame rate on
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  the camera so you could see the flicker and what we are we see
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  as autistic individuals. It's fascinating.
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  I highly recommend checking out the video down below.
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  You can on my tick to channel give me a follow and watch that
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  video. But this is a daily struggle
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  because it is in every supermarket, most offices
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  horrendous. Okay #3 is wearing certain
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  clothes now. Clothing is so difficult, not
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  only because the materials can become harsh or the difficult to
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  kind of use, but also the tags on the back of the shirts.
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  Like I don't have tags on any of my shirts, right?
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  Because that is just like a prickly, awful sensation.
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  But the scenes of shirts and socks and trousers, so difficult
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  for artistic individuals to navigate around, very
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  uncomfortable. It's irritating because you're
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  having to wear those clothes all day.
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  So we find it hard to find clothes that are sensory
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  pleasing for us and and that are going to make us feel less
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  irritated during the day. Because if you're irritated by
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  your clothes, then everything else is going to be rubbish.
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  You know, it's going to be garbage all day.
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  And so it's hard to find out. And that's a daily struggle, you
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  know, really is OK. So #4 is unstructured social
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  events. Oh my goodness.
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  I can't tell you the amount of times I've been somewhere where
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  it's kind of like unorganized. I don't know what's going on.
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  Where do we sit? Where do we get food?
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  Well, we're going to have drinks.
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  Are we going to speak to this person?
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  Is somebody talking? Is their music?
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  It's chaos. The autistic brain can't deal
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  with chaos because the world is chaos.
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  Don't add any more chaos into this already difficult life.
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  To understand social events, especially unplanned social
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  structured events is so difficult.
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  It's so demanding. Yet people want to do this thing
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  on a daily. They want to have like friends
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  over and they want to go here and they want to do this and
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  they want to do that. And no, no, no, we get things
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  planned and those unstructured things give us so much anxiety
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  and fear. It's so difficult to navigate
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  around. And I apologize to all my
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  friends who've always wanted to do stuff with me and I can never
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  do it because I'm so overwhelmed with the instructure.
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  OK #5 is making eye contact. People do this on the daily.
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  They want to make eye contact with people and then they
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  maintain this eye contact and they talk to people and make eye
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  contact. Actually, funny story, when I
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  first started YouTube, I couldn't even make eye contact
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  with the camera. I've since realized that it's a
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  camera lens and it's not a person, so it's a little bit
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  easier to do. However, I still struggle with
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  eye contact with people. It's something that I, you never
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  really get over as a certain person.
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  It's just something that's difficult.
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  The only person that I can make eye contact contact with is my
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  partner because we share into a connection.
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  That is the only person I make eye contact with.
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  It's so difficult. OK, number six is transitioning
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  between tasks. Now a lot of people can have a,
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  you know, they're doing a task of blah, blah, blah.
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  And then they'll be like, oh, I need to stop back and go to the
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  grocery store and pick something up.
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  Now one of the things that I cannot stand and it's so
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  irritating. It kind of hurts us like
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  painful. Is that like if I'm in the
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  middle of doing a task and then like, oh, I've run out of solid
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  tape. Now I need to go out to the
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  store to buy sticky tape. It's it's, it's it knocked all
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  the dominoes over. It's all a mess of this chaotic.
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  It's not how I needed to be. I just I can't deal with it.
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  It's so irritating and it oh, I can't even I can't describe how
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  irritating and destructive this is to life.
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  Click to subscribe. OK #7 is unspoken rules.
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  Not that there's so many rules that people engage with like you
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  know what's an etiquette? Do you give up your seat for
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  somebody, open the door for somebody to let someone sit down
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  first? Do you speak in a social
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  situation? How far do you stand away from
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  somebody? Do you engage in small talk?
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  How do I get the. But there's so many things that
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  we don't understand those autistic individuals.
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  There are unspoken unwritten social rules that people just
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  know through just existing and being around other people.
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  Whereas the entire world is so difficult for autistic
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  individuals to to come to terms with and come to really
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  understand the chaos that these unwritten, unspoken social
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  rules, we never understand that we have to kind of then now
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  learn with like catch up ad hoc meaning in the moment, which is
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  so difficult. OK #8 This is probably one of my
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  biggest issues. And my girlfriend always tries,
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  bless us all, trying new foods. We like our comfort foods.
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  And I know I can see you chicken nugget fam.
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  I'm there. I, I'm, I'm like, I eat vegan
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  food, right? And so I'm a vegan chicken
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  nugget fan. Chicken Nuggets are like the
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  staple if you're an autistic person.
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  Chicken Nuggets, I got you if if I just called you how you have
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  to give this video a thumbs up. Chicken Nuggets is the boy
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  trying new foods difficult. So difficult because we're used
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  to that thing and that thing gives us comfort and
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  predictability and that predictability is calming to us.
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  Everything else is chaos. OK #9 is answering open-ended
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  questions like tell me about yourself.
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  What do you want to do today? This is a gridlock because it's
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  like there are so many things about me.
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  Which one do you want to know? Where do I start?
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  You didn't ask for my name, didn't ask for my hobby, you
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  didn't ask for my job. You just said tell me about
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  yourself. Where do I start with this?
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  Autistic individuals like structured routine in a
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  incremented format, very black and white.
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  There's no grey areas. So just asking an open-ended
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  question like you know, what do you want to do today?
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  I have no idea. Like you should be, hey, what
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  would you like to do after breakfast today before we go to
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  the grocery store? That's a question.
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  That's a good question. That's a question.
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  OK #10 all time craziest 1 is being interrupted.
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  Oh my goodness. It's like it sets me on fire.
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  I remember once I was like moving a carpet around in my
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  house and the girl I was living with, I was, I was just about
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  the corner of the carpet down to make it all nice and flush, and
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  she came over and just whipped the carpet down and put it
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  herself. It interrupted my task, my flow.
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  I couldn't believe it. I was, I was ignited with rage
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  because I don't like to be interrupted.
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  I like to see something too fruition.
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  I start something and then I end it there, but this was just like
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  this Raz rage. I can't even guys, honestly, I
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  can't even if this resonates with you, drop me a comment down
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  below like this video and subscribe if you haven't already
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  clicked to subscribe. We'll see the next one, guys.
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  Peace.