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Divorced Jobs · Let's Ask the Mamas!

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  Speaker 1: Speaking of questions, we got a question for American mama's.
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  Speaker 1: Dear mama's, what's your guests as to what jobs have
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  Speaker 1: the most divorced women?
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's ask are American mamas.
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  Speaker 3: Alma May joining us now our American mama's Terry Edville
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  Speaker 3: and Kimberly Burlison.
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  Speaker 1: Uh. You know, I've never looked at this data based
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  Speaker 1: on divorces by occupation, so I'm not sure what what
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  Speaker 1: do you guys think? What's what's the I'm ast have
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  Speaker 1: either one of you looked this up since we have
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  Speaker 1: this question.
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  Speaker 4: I saw a podcast about Okay it was so interesting,
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  Speaker 4: and the expert was saying that.
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  Speaker 1: Wait, wait, wait, wait, before we get there, Terry, what's
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  Speaker 1: your guess?
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  Speaker 2: I would guess probably nurses, flat attendants, strippers, probably uh just.
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  Speaker 1: Launched nurses in with strippers.
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  Speaker 2: But there, I'm just trying to think. I'm just trying
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  Speaker 2: to think on the tip because I know devoted wives
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  Speaker 2: who are in the top two professions. Any strippers. But
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  Speaker 2: I'm curious.
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  Speaker 4: Well, the expert said nurses, teachers, homemakers, and I thought
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  Speaker 4: what homemakers? So when I first heard this, I thought
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  Speaker 4: he was going to go into the area of these
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  Speaker 4: women are around men, professional men, and they're trying That's
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  Speaker 4: what I'm thinking. But the more I looked into it,
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  Speaker 4: because I kind of went down the rabbit hole, what
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  Speaker 4: I believe it is is women with women. Women are
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  Speaker 4: bad about encouraging negative behavior at home. Because to me,
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  Speaker 4: we have a friend who was unhappy marriage, so all
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  Speaker 4: of her friends they all got together. All the friends
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  Speaker 4: were divorced, and I feel like they were literally bullying
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  Speaker 4: her to divorce her husband. She gets divorced from her husband,
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  Speaker 4: and then years later she tells Terry, I mean the
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  Speaker 4: biggest mistake of my life. Those girls are no longer
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  Speaker 4: in their lives, but Misery loved company, and I think
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  Speaker 4: they just wanted her to also be with them. And
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  Speaker 4: I think that in these professions like nurses, teachers, it's
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  Speaker 4: all these women, and I think that's what's happening. I
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  Speaker 4: think women are talking negatively about their husbands and their marriages,
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  Speaker 4: so you.
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  Speaker 1: Get divorced as a form of social contagion.
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  Speaker 4: That's what I think. That's what I think.
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  Speaker 3: That's kind of interesting.
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  Speaker 1: Because my wife has been a teacher in the past,
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  Speaker 1: and there were times that she could come home and
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  Speaker 1: she was like, you know, all these coworkers had issues
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  Speaker 1: with their husbands and they're saying negative things about their husband.
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  Speaker 1: She's like, I just sat there, you know, eating chips
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  Speaker 1: or whatever. And I was like, well, I mean you
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  Speaker 1: could have. You could have said all the bad things
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  Speaker 1: about me if you wanted to. And she's like, no,
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  Speaker 1: I just I can't.
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  Speaker 2: I can't do that.
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  Speaker 1: And frankly, by the way, as a husband, knowing that
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  Speaker 1: my wife isn't going around telling other women all the
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  Speaker 1: bad things about me, that's kind of cool. Yeah, that's
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  Speaker 1: kind of nice.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, exactly.
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  Speaker 2: Well that's so interesting to me. I never would have
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  Speaker 2: guessed that. I would have guessed, like in the business world,
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  Speaker 2: like Wall Street, like women who are working side by
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  Speaker 2: side with men, and I can see where that closeness
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  Speaker 2: would you know, you form a bond maybe even off
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  Speaker 2: police officers who are with these men and they share
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  Speaker 2: their stories and they get close in that way. Maybe
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  Speaker 2: there's you got a little wrinkle in your marriage and
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  Speaker 2: it becomes a little bit more and you know, and
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  Speaker 2: then you get close. So that actually really surprises me
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  Speaker 2: that that was even at the top of the list.
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  Speaker 4: My youngest daughter, she has become with friends with this
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  Speaker 4: person who is a girlfriend of a baseball player. And
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  Speaker 4: this girl is very famous on TikTok, and she's famous
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  Speaker 4: for being in this group of girls that talked negatively
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  Speaker 4: about her boyfriend who is also the father of her child.
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  Speaker 4: So this entire page is built around talking negatively about
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  Speaker 4: this person because people weighing in. People are always weighing in.
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  Speaker 4: So they are one of the best friends in this
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  Speaker 4: particular group. The one that was the cheerleader on all
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  Speaker 4: the negativity has now married this man and had a
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  Speaker 4: child with him, and so to me, it's another proof
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  Speaker 4: that misery loves company. But like sabotaging, I think women
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  Speaker 4: are bad about sabotaging each other if someone looks too happy,
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  Speaker 4: if things look too good. It's sad to say.
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  Speaker 2: That, and not like really true friends.
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  Speaker 4: I think the closer the friend, the more you need
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  Speaker 4: to watch them, like especially this particular one. And I
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  Speaker 4: think if flight attendant friends that I flew with, it's
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  Speaker 4: like I would never they act like they're your best friend,
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  Speaker 4: but never, I know, but never would I trust him.
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  Speaker 4: I trust my husband, but I also don't trust certain women.
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  Speaker 4: And they're the the things that they'll do to try
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  Speaker 4: to get what they want.
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  Speaker 1: I do find that the idea that social contagion, because
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  Speaker 1: you've seen that in a lot of other things, that
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  Speaker 1: who you're there's their studies out there, who you hang around,
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  Speaker 1: the five people spend the most time around, those are
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  Speaker 1: the people you become the most like. Yeah, and so
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  Speaker 1: you do have to be careful of who it is
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  Speaker 1: you're hanging around, who it is you're spending time with,
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  Speaker 1: because you become more like people.
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  Speaker 2: Kevin and I we just celebrated our thirty first anniversary,
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  Speaker 2: yes by the week. Yeah, And so he he and
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  Speaker 2: I were we were talking, we were, you know, in
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  Speaker 2: the pool. We were just talking about our life and
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  Speaker 2: he said, you know, we really you know, we've had
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  Speaker 2: a phenomenal marriage. I said, we really have. And he said,
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  Speaker 2: we've had some major doozies, some ups and downs and
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  Speaker 2: years where you know, it was rough that we weren't sure,
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  Speaker 2: you know, which direction we wanted to go, but we
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  Speaker 2: were stubborn enough and love each other enough to keep
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  Speaker 2: with it. And he said, you know, Terry, I think
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  Speaker 2: that if people would have just if people would just
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  Speaker 2: stick it out during the hard times, he said, look
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  Speaker 2: at what we would have missed out on with our children.
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  Speaker 2: And grandchildren. Have we gone through with some of those
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  Speaker 2: rockier times.
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