Nara Smith, Body Counts, and Why Every Choice Becomes an Identity

Note 2 Self · Aug 20, 2026 · 35m

In this episode of Note 2 Self, Saskia is trying to understand why every choice a woman makes has to become evidence of who she is. Hustle in your career and you are a girlboss. Get married and you are a wife. Sleep with too many people and you are a slut.

That question follows Saskia from wedding planning into something much bigger. She shares why she and Jeffrey are spending as much time designing their marriage as they are planning their wedding, and why tradition alone is not a good enough reason to build a day, or a life, around something.

Then she unpacks the debate that erupted under…