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#398 Are You on Auto Parent? · Dr Justin Coulson's Happy Families

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Speaker 1: It's the Happy Families Podcast. It's the podcast for the
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Speaker 1: time poor parent who just answers Now when you get
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Speaker 1: too focused on routine, when you don't have enough flexibility,
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Speaker 1: anything that's random, anything that's unexpected, any sort of volatility
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Speaker 1: that happens in the environment, and it's like it's gone.
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Speaker 2: And now here's the stars of our show, my mum
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Speaker 1: We are Justin and Kylie Coulson, the podcast hosts of
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Speaker 1: the Happy Families podcast, and the bets are On Tonight
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Speaker 2: You should have heard the noise and outlound through last
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Speaker 1: them first thing tomorrow when you wake up and the
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Speaker 1: podcast drops. In the meantime, we need to talk about
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Speaker 1: what happened last night in the crowded house. Our final
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Speaker 1: two activities, our final two sets of parents took over
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Speaker 1: parenting twelve kids and giving them memories that will.
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Speaker 2: Be memorable, definitely memorable.
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Speaker 1: So we had what do we have? We had Andrew Miriam.
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Speaker 2: With the Ossie barbecue yep.
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Speaker 1: And Britain Tony did the dream part which they turned
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Speaker 1: at Azara's birthday party. Let's talk about that after break. We'll
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Speaker 1: stick with Andrew Miriam's Ossie Barbecue right now. Now, I
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Speaker 1: think for those of you who haven't seen the show,
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Speaker 1: what's essentially happened is we've got a couple of parents
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Speaker 1: known as the Strict Parents, and they've got to put
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Speaker 1: on an incredible Australian barbecue for twelve kids and get
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Speaker 1: the kids completely involved, absorbed and focused on doing things
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Speaker 1: for the duration. And there were some let's talk less
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Speaker 1: about how Andrew Miriam did and just the central talking
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Speaker 1: points the things that we can take from it as
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Speaker 1: parents so that we can be better as parents when
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Speaker 1: we're working with our kids to put together a great
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Speaker 1: Ozzie barbecue.
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Speaker 3: So guys, listen, listen. Our parenting style, our paaring style
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Speaker 3: is strict, and that means that when we played by
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Speaker 3: the rules, everyone has more fun.
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Speaker 1: That's not fun. Our basic plan was prepare hard, play hard.
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Speaker 1: We need onions.
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Speaker 2: Onions.
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Speaker 1: We need onions. Now I command you to make the
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Speaker 1: onions clicker.
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Speaker 2: Well, there's three things that stood out to me. There
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Speaker 2: was the induction process.
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Speaker 1: Which was laboursome and challenging, and twelve kids did not
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Speaker 1: want to sit there for too long and be told
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Speaker 1: all the strict rules that they were going to have
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Speaker 1: to adhere to. That was tough.
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Speaker 2: And then there was the involvement as everybody worked together
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Speaker 2: as a team yep to get the job done. And
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Speaker 2: then there was connection having lunch when they were all
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Speaker 2: able to sit down at the dinner table and have
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Speaker 2: lunch together.
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Speaker 1: Sure, and there was another series a series of moments
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Speaker 1: around induction. Again, once lunch was finished, it was time
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Speaker 1: to play when the water pistols came out, which really
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Speaker 1: ties in very much with our initial conversation about induction.
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Speaker 1: So let's start there and let's talk about giving kids instruction.
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Speaker 1: I think that it's fair to say if you saw
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Speaker 1: the show that it didn't go particularly well.
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Speaker 2: It was a long conversation, way too long. Lots of
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Speaker 2: different age groups, right.
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Speaker 1: Right, And this is the critical thing as parents when
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Speaker 1: it comes to giving our kids instruction. Once we start talking,
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Speaker 1: their brain does one thing and one thing only it
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Speaker 1: stops working completely, like they just they switch off. And
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Speaker 1: you could see it in the kids, their eyes glazed over.
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Speaker 1: The older kids did better than the younger kids. And
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Speaker 1: there's a developmental reality here. Children struggle to listen, and
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Speaker 1: the younger they are, the more they struggle well, and.
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Speaker 2: Families deal with this all the time. Right, We've got
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Speaker 2: a two year old and a ten year old, right,
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Speaker 2: but we've got to deal with the whole family. Yes,
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Speaker 2: And so there is challenge for every single parent out
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Speaker 2: there of how to make this age appropriate and time sensitive.
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Speaker 2: I'm going to say sensitive because it really is.
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Speaker 1: Yeah yeah, yeah. So here are my tips you might
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Speaker 1: have some as well for giving kids instruction. Number one,
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Speaker 1: keep it really short, like really short, like not nearly
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Speaker 1: as long as it went last night, like really short.
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Speaker 1: And did you notice how long I took to say
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Speaker 1: to keep it really short? I took too long. Keep
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Speaker 1: it really short for a kid just in and out,
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Speaker 1: here's what I need. But what you usually will happen
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Speaker 1: is that they will miss it because you've kept it
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Speaker 1: really short. So I think that the next thing to
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Speaker 1: make sure that you're doing well you're keeping it really short,
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Speaker 1: is make sure you've got eye contact, because when they're
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Speaker 1: looking in your eyes, you know that they're much more
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Speaker 1: likely to be paying attention. But you know, the thing
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Speaker 1: that really clinches it, the thing that actually makes it work,
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Speaker 1: what you get them to repeat back to you what
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Speaker 1: they've got to do.
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Speaker 2: I would have said to involve them in the process.
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Speaker 1: Oh do you mean collaborate with them on what needs
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Speaker 1: to be done. Yeah, that's even better. That's great because.
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Speaker 2: Then there's brain thinking yeah, yeah, yeah, and then they're
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Speaker 2: more inclined to do it because they've come up with
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Speaker 2: the suggestions.
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Speaker 1: Which ties in with what we do with our morning
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Speaker 1: routine right where you don't tell the kids do this,
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Speaker 1: do that. We said to them, hey, what's next? What
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Speaker 1: do you need to do other than you need to
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Speaker 1: go and do this. I've told you a thousand times
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Speaker 1: going The reason we tell them a thousand times because
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Speaker 1: they didn't listen for the first nine hundred and ninety nine.
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Speaker 1: Because they don't want to listen, we're boring. So if
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Speaker 1: we say, hey, what's next, what do you need to
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Speaker 1: do what do you think would be good? Now, they're
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Speaker 1: actually much more likely to do it. So giving kids instruction,
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Speaker 1: keep it short and simple, get eye contact to the
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Speaker 1: extent that you can get them to buy into it
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Speaker 1: and tell you what to do, or at least to
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Speaker 1: repeat back to you what you've asked.
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Speaker 2: Then there was this opportunity for everybody to get.
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Speaker 1: Involved do the work.
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Speaker 2: In doing the work. And there again was a lot
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Speaker 2: of sour faces. Kids were not happy that they were
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Speaker 2: having to do something that's right.
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Speaker 1: So I think there's an important lesson here, and that
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Speaker 1: is sometimes you've got to say the kids, sorry, stuff
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Speaker 1: has to be done, and sometimes doing stuff just isn't
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Speaker 1: that fun. But if we all get in and get
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Speaker 1: it done, we get to enjoy the rewards. And we
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Speaker 1: saw that, and I love this. In the entire four
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Speaker 1: days that all these families are in the crowded house,
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Speaker 1: we only really saw one sit down meal together. It
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Speaker 1: was the lunchtime that Andrew and Miriam put on for
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Speaker 1: the Great Ozzie barbecuehere. They said no, no, we're gonna wait
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Speaker 1: and we're gonna eat together. We're gonna eat at the
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Speaker 1: table together. It just felt good. Didn't it. Okay, I
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Speaker 1: think we're ready for sit.
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Speaker 3: Down food after all that good epic, but we have
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Speaker 3: to wait to eat.
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Speaker 1: Together, don't forget.
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Speaker 3: Okay, so we've got some beautiful food here. I'm going
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Speaker 3: to give thanks for this food. It's closed our eyes
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Speaker 3: and give thanks this food Father God, thank you for
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Speaker 3: this food, this beautiful day, and for the friends we have.
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Speaker 2: Amen dig in what was not.
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Speaker 1: Rare as as short as I ever heard, Hello God. Amen.
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Speaker 2: It was really nice to see the parents having conversations
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Speaker 2: with the kids and just having that one on one connection. Yeah,
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Speaker 2: it was a beautiful moment.
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Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah, I agree. So that was a really interesting
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Speaker 1: one to watch. Probably also worth highlighting again at the
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Speaker 1: end of the session. At the end of the barbecue,
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Speaker 1: they had the big water pistol water gun fight, and
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Speaker 1: once again there was a big sit down. Let me
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Speaker 1: explain the rules they were playing, trying to play Capture
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Speaker 1: the Flag with kids age between five and ten, five
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Speaker 1: and twelve, and the little kids, it was just too
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Speaker 1: much for them, Like it's a complicated game if you've
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Speaker 1: never played it before, and I.
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Speaker 2: Think probably keep the guns hidden. Yeah, the kids know
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Speaker 2: what's happening.
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Speaker 1: Totally, totally and maybe play games that are more in
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Speaker 1: line with the developmental capacity of the kids, Like if
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Speaker 1: you've got kids that are ten and up, twelve and up,
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Speaker 1: you'll be able to play Capture the Flag no worries,
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Speaker 1: But younger kids it's a little bit complex if they've
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Speaker 1: never done it before and there's so much going on.
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Speaker 1: So they were the really big things I think to
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Speaker 1: come out of that. As from a parenting perspective, keep
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Speaker 1: your instructions short and sweet, have moments of connection, and
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Speaker 1: let the kids know, yes, sometimes stuff's boring, but we've
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Speaker 1: got to do it so that we can enjoy the
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Speaker 1: good times. When we work.
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Speaker 2: Together as a team, things happen much quicker and we're
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Speaker 2: able to enjoy our time together a lot faster.
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Speaker 1: After the break, we find out where Brita and Tony
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Speaker 1: went right and where they went wrong with their dream
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Speaker 1: party that turned into a three year old party. Fizara,
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Speaker 2: It's the Happy Families podcast, the podcast for the time
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Speaker 2: Poor Parent who just Wants Answers Now, And today we
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Speaker 2: are reviewing last night's episode on parental guidance in the
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Speaker 2: Crowded House, and we've had our last two super challenges.
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Speaker 1: We've seen two sets of parents struggle with twelve kids
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Speaker 1: as they've tried to put on a barbecue and now
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Speaker 1: a dream party Breton Tony. I mean, they had the
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Speaker 1: right idea, they had the routine. But you know what
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Speaker 1: I saw really really clearly, and that is that when
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Speaker 1: you get too focused on routine, when you don't have
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Speaker 1: enough flexibility, anything that's random, anything that's unexpected, any sort
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Speaker 1: of volatility that happens in the environment, and it's like
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Speaker 1: it's gone, and how do we get back to the routine.
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Speaker 1: There was a lack of flexibility, lack of capacity to adapt,
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Speaker 1: and I think that as parents, it's something that we've
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Speaker 1: got to be able to respond to.
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Speaker 2: I wonder if sometimes parents get stuck in this rat
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Speaker 2: of routine where they actually get stuck in autopilot mode
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Speaker 2: without having to think about anything because they're just following
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Speaker 2: what's on the paper.
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Speaker 1: So years ago I read it in a book and
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Speaker 1: I've adopted it as a phrase that I use all
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Speaker 1: the time. Now we get stuck on autoparent rather than autopilot,
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Speaker 1: and the more we auto parent, the less effectively we
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Speaker 1: can respond to unexpected challenges in the environment. If you've
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Speaker 1: got children, there are going to be regular unexpected challenges,
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Speaker 1: which we saw with the dream party. We will nail
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Speaker 1: this if we utilize our three piece of parenting, planning,
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Speaker 1: process and participation.
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Speaker 3: So to be successful, we want to have lots of fun.
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Speaker 1: What are our ideas we should decorate the outside of
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Speaker 1: the house part of that, I think we should come
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Speaker 1: into a watermelon Leslie's bo one at a time.
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Speaker 2: The birthday party looked amazing with all the beautiful decoration
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Speaker 2: and lots of nice food. Oh what else stood out
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Speaker 2: to you?
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Speaker 4: Well?
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Speaker 1: I love I love the delight. I mean there was
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Speaker 1: there was a lot of fun at this dream party,
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Speaker 1: and I think that that's because parties are fun, full stop.
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Speaker 1: End of story. But I think it's also worth highlighting
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Speaker 1: just one other thing from a parenting perspective that's really important,
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Speaker 1: and that is that when when you start to end
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Speaker 1: up out of control, you can't let the kids know
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Speaker 1: like they see it. They feed off it, They know
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Speaker 1: they can tell, and emotions are contagious. And what ended
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Speaker 1: up happening at a couple of points is that as
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Speaker 1: Breton Tony increasingly felt out of their depth, the kids
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Speaker 1: fed off it and got crazier and crazy. Like the
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Speaker 1: kids catch our chaos, and they catch our cranky and
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Speaker 1: they catch ow crazy, but they also catch how calm.
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Speaker 1: I talk about all the time how emotions are contagious,
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Speaker 1: and my feeling was that a few times emotions just
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Speaker 1: weren't quite in check. There was a sense of I
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Speaker 1: might say that Breton Tony seemed terrified once or twice.
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Speaker 1: I don't know if I'm overstating it or not. I sorry,
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Speaker 1: Breton Tony, if you're listening, I'm not trying to give
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Speaker 1: you two hard a time here. But it was like, no,
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Speaker 1: we're out of control. This isn't how it was supposed
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Speaker 1: to be.
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Speaker 2: Well, they acknowledged that, They one hundred percent acknowledge that.
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Speaker 2: But I guess the question I have now that you've
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Speaker 2: you know, kind of shared what you shared is just
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Speaker 2: I think it's every parent's nightmare to find yourself out
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Speaker 2: of your depth, and it happens regularly for so many
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Speaker 2: of us where we're just placed in these situations, go
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Speaker 2: Holy heck, how did I get here? How do I
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Speaker 2: get out of here?
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Speaker 1: So?
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Speaker 2: Do you have any tips with mums and dads when
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Speaker 2: they're in that situation? How how do you, you know,
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Speaker 2: kind of not let the kids catch the emotions that
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Speaker 2: you're feeling in that moment. What can you do to
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Speaker 2: kind of pull it all back, rein it in and
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Speaker 2: get back on track.
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Speaker 1: Yeah. So, I mean, I'm talking to myself as much
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Speaker 1: as anyone here, because I've said this many times. I
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Speaker 1: don't claim to any parenting perfection. So what I'm about
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Speaker 1: to share I struggle with myself. We all do, like
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Speaker 1: it's it's really hard to get this right, but I reckon,
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Speaker 1: there's a couple of things that we can do. First
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Speaker 1: of all, you got to make sure that you're well rested.
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Speaker 1: You can't parent well if you're exhausted and you're hungry,
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Speaker 1: and you're tired, and you're sick and you're stressed, like
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Speaker 1: it just it doesn't work. The second thing, though, is
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Speaker 1: you've got to you've got to recognize the triggers. So
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Speaker 1: I've recognized, for.
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Speaker 2: Me, if I was bredent Tony, I would have canned
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Speaker 2: the party from the beginning after that sleepover, that's right
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Speaker 2: after that sleepover, there wasn't going to be no win, no, no, no.
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Speaker 1: I think I think that's a fair call. I do think, though,
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Speaker 1: that we need to know what our triggers are and
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Speaker 1: we've got to practice how we're going to respond. Like
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Speaker 1: the answer is be intentional.
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Speaker 2: Oh, kids give you lots of opportunities to practice.
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Speaker 3: Well.
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Speaker 1: I know that one of my triggers is disrespect. When
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Speaker 1: the kids are just super, super disrespectful, I know that
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Speaker 1: that triggers. It sets me off and I'm not able
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Speaker 1: to be my best. And so what I need to
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Speaker 1: do when that happens is I've got to think to myself,
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Speaker 1: I've just experienced disrespect. What was the response that I
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Speaker 1: decided on ahead of time? And I've got to drag
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Speaker 1: that response out of myself when it's exactly the sort
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Speaker 1: of what I want to do, Because what I want
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Speaker 1: to do is rant and rave and say, don't you
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Speaker 1: dare disrespect me in the most disrespectful manner possible. And
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Speaker 1: I think that's that's the hardest thing about being a parent,
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Speaker 1: is hang on, what's the right way for me to
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Speaker 1: respond to this thing that triggers me so much and
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Speaker 1: sets me off. I how do I get there? And
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Speaker 1: then in the moment, remind yourself that that's what you
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Speaker 1: committed to do, really hard to do it, but that's
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Speaker 1: that's the solution.
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Speaker 2: Can I get all therapists on you at the moment?
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Speaker 1: Yeah? Are you going to be therapy minded? Are you? Well?
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Speaker 2: I'm just wondering whether it would actually be more helpful
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Speaker 2: in a quiet space to actually start to think about
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Speaker 2: why that particular behavior is so triggering for you, and
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Speaker 2: if you're able to work out why it is and
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Speaker 2: then work out the belief behind that, what does that
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Speaker 2: say about you as a person.
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Speaker 1: So let me be far too vulnerable on the podcast.
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Speaker 1: When a child is disrespectful to me, one of our
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Speaker 1: kids is disrespectful to me, the reason that I struggle
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Speaker 1: to maintain my composure, the reason that I start to
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Speaker 1: get angry. I know that anger is a secondary emotion,
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Speaker 1: and anger comes from feeling something else first. And so
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Speaker 1: if I'm really honest with you about this, I get
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Speaker 1: angry because I'm either sad or scared. And when it
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Speaker 1: comes to disrespect, I think that the better word is terrified.
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Speaker 1: I'm terrified that my children in disrespecting me, are then
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Speaker 1: not going to listen to me, which means that my
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Speaker 1: opportunity to influence them and help them to make safe
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Speaker 1: and healthy decisions is going to be limited or even
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Speaker 1: zero because that disrespect. And of course, the great irony
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Speaker 1: is that because I'm so scared that they won't listen
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Speaker 1: to me, and I'm so scared that they'll make unsafe,
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Speaker 1: unhealthy choices. Because I'm so scared, I get angry that
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Speaker 1: they're not listening and that they're being disrespectful. So I
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Speaker 1: blow up at them.
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Speaker 2: You act in a way that actually creates what you.
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Speaker 1: Were Precisely, They're like, well, as if I'm going to
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Speaker 1: listen to him, he doesn't respect me, why would I
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Speaker 1: respect him? And so it's a really important question that
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Speaker 1: I've asked, and it's a really hard thing to acknowledge
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Speaker 1: and respond to, but that's in that's the great fear
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Speaker 1: that I have as a parent, What if I can't
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Speaker 1: influence my kids and keep them safe?
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Speaker 2: And then I guess going The next step is that
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Speaker 2: conversation we have with our kids that thoughts are just thoughts, right,
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Speaker 2: and they don't have to be truth because they're just
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Speaker 2: a thought. And so what is the thought that you
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Speaker 2: want to have to create the connection and the love
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Speaker 2: that you want between your child and you.
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Speaker 1: Well, I guess it's not necessarily true that if my
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Speaker 1: children are being disrespectful to me that I won't be
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Speaker 1: able to be influential lives. Unless I fight fire with fire.
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Speaker 1: Then it's almost certain that that'll be the case. But
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Speaker 1: that's going to be most parents, and it's certainly mine
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Speaker 1: instant response. That's why it's so important to have that
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Speaker 1: intentional fallback. And the intentional fallback for me has to be,
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Speaker 1: you're having a really rough time right now, you don't
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Speaker 1: like what's going on. And if they're angry, then they're
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Speaker 1: upset about something, They're fearful of something. Maybe they're fearful
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Speaker 1: of their autonomy being taken away or something like that.
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Speaker 1: So my job then is to step in and try
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Speaker 1: to understand, try to work through their situation rather than
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Speaker 1: making it all about me.
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Speaker 2: It's such a big, hard space to walk.
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Speaker 1: And all of that came out of Breton Tony's dream party.
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Speaker 1: How did that happen?
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Speaker 2: I think that this is where the power in the
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Speaker 2: show comes from, though, this opportunity for us to dig
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Speaker 2: deeper and have conversations that actually challenge us. Yeah, because
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Speaker 2: the shows the way we think.
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Speaker 1: The show's not really about the dream party, It's not
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Speaker 1: really about the crowded how so it's understanding what the
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Speaker 1: assumptions are that we have that underlay our parenting decisions.
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Speaker 1: And what we've got with Andrew and Miriam, our strict
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Speaker 1: parents giving those kids instructions, is a really strong feeling
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Speaker 1: that we've got to control our kids. Now. I'm not
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Speaker 1: saying this about Andrew Miriam. I haven't sat down with
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Speaker 1: them and asked them these questions. But ultimately, the more
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Speaker 1: controlling we are, I think we tend to control out
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Speaker 1: of a place of fear. That is, we're scared that
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Speaker 1: the kids are going to make poor choices, and so
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Speaker 1: we've got to control them. We've got to make sure
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Speaker 1: that we keep them on track. And when it comes
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Speaker 1: to the dream party with Breton Tony, emotions get really
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Speaker 1: big and everyone ends up all over the place and
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Speaker 1: it can be kind of chaotic. And how do we
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Speaker 1: respond to that and what can we do to keep
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Speaker 1: our emotions in check so that we can continue to
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Speaker 1: guide our children effectively and to influence them. Well, I
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Speaker 1: think they're the kinds of questions that the show's really
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Speaker 1: bringing up at a deeper level.
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Speaker 2: Well, I hope you've loved the show as much as
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Speaker 2: we have and have been able to have these kinds
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Speaker 2: of conversations with your significant other, with your children, with
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Speaker 2: your parents like this. This stuff really matters and it's
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Speaker 2: making a difference in our home as we've watched it
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Speaker 2: with our children.
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Speaker 1: the best in the show. I mean, on the show
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Speaker 1: we're going to say it's the best parenting style in
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Speaker 1: Australia and all that kind of thing. But really we're
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Speaker 1: just talking about learning from parents and having a great time.
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Speaker 1: And I can't wait to see how they go on
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Speaker 1: the bush because they've never camped, either of them. This
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