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My bio parents suddenly want me after GIVING ME UP years ago! | Reddit Stories | EP3126 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Dakota. And this is Keon, your favorite
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  Speaker 1: OK Storytime host, and we've got some great stories coming
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  Speaker 1: right up. But before that, we have a quick two-minute
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  Speaker 1: break from the sponsors that keep the show alive. My
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  Speaker 1: bio parents suddenly want me after giving me up years ago.
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  Speaker 2: Too little, too late.
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  Speaker 1: So before I talk about the dilemma, let me talk
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  Speaker 1: about my background. I'm 24, and I grew up living
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  Speaker 1: in group homes. Ooh. If you don't know what a
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  Speaker 1: group home is, it's basically a smaller orphanage. Living in
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  Speaker 1: a group home was rough. We generally weren't guaranteed meals
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  Speaker 1: and we shared literally everything. So if we got new clothes,
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  Speaker 1: we had 10 other kids fighting over it. If we
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  Speaker 1: got pizza, we had 10 kids fighting over it. When
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  Speaker 1: I was 11, I became close with this kid from school.
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  Speaker 1: He invited me over to his house for a couple sleepovers,
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  Speaker 1: and his parents would notice how much I was eating.
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  Speaker 1: I would completely pig out despite being relatively skinny. There
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  Speaker 1: were a couple of other things they noticed about how
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  Speaker 1: I behaved that were very weird. They realized I was
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  Speaker 1: probably being underfed and decided to take action. Eventually, they
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  Speaker 1: took me in, and I never looked back.
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  Speaker 2: W parents.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Truly like angels.
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  Speaker 1: By the way... This comes from a deleted user. And
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  Speaker 1: if you want to submit your own stories, go to
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  Speaker 1: the r slash OK Storytime subreddit. I'm Dakota.
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  Speaker 2: I'm Sophia. And I'm Savannah.
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  Speaker 1: And we are here to read this story and give
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  Speaker 1: our little tidbits, little good advices, little goofball thoughts. But
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  Speaker 1: we need you to tell us what you would do
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  Speaker 1: because we only know what we would do. We want
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  Speaker 1: to hear. OP says, so today I'm 24 and I'm
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  Speaker 1: working a nice desk job. I'm generally happy and I'm
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  Speaker 1: still close with my adopted parents. My bio parents reached
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  Speaker 1: out two weeks ago and were relieved when I responded.
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  Speaker 1: We ended up setting up a meeting yesterday. I was
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  Speaker 1: already quite hesitant to meet them, but only did it
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  Speaker 1: because my mom and dad said it could be worthwhile.
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  Speaker 1: So we sat down and talked over lunch. They told
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  Speaker 1: me they gave me up because they didn't want to
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  Speaker 1: be parents. They were in their mid-20s and married. The
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  Speaker 1: only reason they gave me up was because they weren't
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  Speaker 1: ready for parenthood. After this, I pretty much gave up
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  Speaker 1: on being civil and I started making snide comments like, oh,
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  Speaker 1: so I was ready for group homes?
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  Speaker 3: Hmm.
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  Speaker 1: I was being pretty rude and my bio mom was
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  Speaker 1: fighting tears.
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  Speaker 2: Good.
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  Speaker 1: After they told me I have a brother, I said, oh, okay.
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  Speaker 1: So you were ready enough to be a parent, but
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  Speaker 1: weren't ready enough to check on your son. Cool. I
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  Speaker 1: had enough. I paid the bill and I left. I
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  Speaker 1: was very angry.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And told my adopted mom what happened. She said that
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  Speaker 1: I should go easier on them since it probably took
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  Speaker 1: a lot to reach out and apologize. She went on
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  Speaker 1: and on about how she'll support me no matter what,
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  Speaker 1: but she thinks I'm acting a bit harsh. My bio
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  Speaker 1: parents called and asked if we could meet again and
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  Speaker 1: talk more. My mom thinks that it could be beneficial
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  Speaker 1: now that my initial emotions are out there. If I
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  Speaker 1: think I was acting like an a-hole and my mom
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  Speaker 1: thinks I'm acting like an a-hole, I probably am an a-hole.
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  Speaker 2: Am I the a-hole?
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  Speaker 4: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: Too many a-holes in there. I don't know.
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  Speaker 1: I don't even think that's what your mom really was saying.
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  Speaker 2: No, I think she said you were acting harsh, which personally,
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  Speaker 2: I think you have every right to feel this way.
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  Speaker 2: But if you feel that you acted too harsh and
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  Speaker 2: would like to act a different way, then that is
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  Speaker 2: your own prerogative.
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  Speaker 1: I mean, I'd be so pissed off at the brother.
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  Speaker 3: Yes.
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  Speaker 1: Because then it's like, OK, so you had the brother.
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  Speaker 1: Where did you didn't come back to get me?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I truly don't think they have any right to
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  Speaker 2: come back and and want to just restart things. That
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  Speaker 2: is completely your decision and up to you. You can decide.
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  Speaker 1: I don't ever want to see you guys again.
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  Speaker 2: Or, you know, maybe we can maybe we can have
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  Speaker 2: some sort of relationship. That is your decision. One thousand percent.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. I mean, maybe they have some stronger reasons that
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  Speaker 1: they just weren't saying or something. I don't know. But
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  Speaker 1: just being like, yeah, we were in our mid-20s. We
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  Speaker 1: weren't ready to be parents.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, mid-20s is tough, too. It's like, oh, mid-20s? That's
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  Speaker 2: when a lot of people have kids.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you're kind of never really ready, right? That's the
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  Speaker 1: whole thing.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh, you're fighting tears? I remember when I fought
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  Speaker 1: for love and food, but whatever.
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  Speaker 2: I don't think that you are the a-hole in the slightest.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think your mom is right, though, in that
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  Speaker 1: now that your initial very, like, understandable and justified, like,
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  Speaker 1: anger and frustration has just been laid out there, you
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  Speaker 1: can probably have a more nuanced conversation with them now
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  Speaker 1: if you want.
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  Speaker 2: If you want that.
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  Speaker 1: Edit. I am meeting them again this Friday. This time,
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  Speaker 1: my mom is coming with me. I let them hear
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  Speaker 1: my perspective, and now I'm gonna do my best to
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  Speaker 1: listen to hear them out. I think my mom being
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  Speaker 1: there will make it a lot easier. She is a
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  Speaker 1: calming presence, and I would hate for her to see
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  Speaker 1: me lose my temper. Also, a couple of people suggested
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  Speaker 1: developing a relationship with my half-brother, and I'm vague. vehemently
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  Speaker 1: against that for a couple personal reasons. And we have
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  Speaker 1: that update. Let's see what happened. Five days later, as
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  Speaker 1: per my update, I did meet with my bio parents
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  Speaker 1: again with my adopted mom. This meeting went very differently.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I imagine having someone who supported you next to
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  Speaker 2: you is very helpful.
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  Speaker 3: I think having someone calm as the mediator who kind
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  Speaker 3: of knows what has happened.
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  Speaker 1: This meeting, they wanted to hear about my experiences in
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  Speaker 1: group homes. I talked about it and I got a
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  Speaker 1: little emotional. That was one of the few times in
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  Speaker 1: my life I shared what happened and it was tough.
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  Speaker 1: So I told my stories and my bio mom again
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  Speaker 1: got teared up. So they told me how they never
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  Speaker 1: intended for me to be put in that situation when
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  Speaker 1: they had someone adopt me. They explained more about my
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  Speaker 1: adoption process and I was more understanding of their reasons.
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  Speaker 1: My bio parents deeply apologized and told me they didn't
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  Speaker 1: know that my life turned out that way. Things started
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  Speaker 1: lightening up and I started telling them more about my
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  Speaker 1: current life. I told them about my college years and
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  Speaker 1: some of my accomplishments. Me and my mom told a
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  Speaker 1: few funny stories about me and it was nice. I
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  Speaker 1: had a good time. I think having a middle man,
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  Speaker 1: middle woman, my mom, was helpful. On to the part
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  Speaker 1: a lot of people were wondering about. A lot of
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  Speaker 1: people wondered why they reached out now. We talked about that.
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  Speaker 1: So there's two reasons. They want to have my name
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  Speaker 1: included in my grandpa's will. I'm their first grandchild among
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  Speaker 1: six children, so they did want to leave something significant.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know how to feel about it, especially considering
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  Speaker 1: I don't know them at all. Money is money, but
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  Speaker 1: it feels weird accepting it from them. Whoa. Also feels
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  Speaker 1: weird that everyone else in their family knows I exist
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  Speaker 1: and never reached out.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that is a really, really tough realization. But were
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  Speaker 2: they told not to? Essentially, it could have been a
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  Speaker 2: closed adoption. It could have been something like that. There
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  Speaker 2: are reasons, you know, there are things around that. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: to not check in, it would be tough to hear
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  Speaker 2: for OP, I'm sure.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's just, I just don't, I need an explanation
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  Speaker 1: as to why when you had, if I'm OP, I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: when you had my brother.
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  Speaker 2: Why did you not come back?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, where were, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: To give them some benefit of the doubt, it seems
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  Speaker 2: that OP said they had OP adopted, like they went
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  Speaker 2: through an adoption process and found a parent.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, like something wasn't right.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, so something did happen. Adoptive parents, I guess, handed
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  Speaker 2: OP off to group homes. Something did not work out
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  Speaker 2: as was planned. However, OP has every right to be like, like,
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  Speaker 2: screw you guys. Like that, you have every right to
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  Speaker 2: feel that way.
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  Speaker 1: The other reason was that they told my brother about me.
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  Speaker 1: He's been pushing to contact me and meet me. I
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  Speaker 1: told them I'm not yet sure about meeting him, but
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  Speaker 1: it's definitely a possibility. And here's another interesting outcome, though.
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  Speaker 1: I learned I'm mostly Greek and I have a lot
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  Speaker 1: of relatives in Greece. My parents offered to set me
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  Speaker 1: up a trip to Greece to explore and meet my family.
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  Speaker 1: Probably decline for other reasons, but that is besides the point.
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  Speaker 1: My adopted parents are Italian, so it's cool knowing where
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  Speaker 1: I'm really from. Hey, you were basically right next door.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, super close, super close.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, we're almost at the end here. Have your adopted
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  Speaker 1: mom be a mediator when you talk to your biological
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  Speaker 1: parents for the first time in 24 years.
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  Speaker 2: Absolutely. I am very happy that you are having a
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  Speaker 2: productive conversation. And also, feel your emotions how you need
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  Speaker 2: to feel them. Don't let anyone tell you that your
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  Speaker 2: emotions are not valid. Because they are. And maybe get therapy.
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  Speaker 1: Probably always therapy, you know, a little bit. Couldn't hurt, right? Overall,
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  Speaker 1: letting them speak and really explain themselves helped things. I
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  Speaker 1: think they did have good intentions by reaching out, and
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if I want to have a relationship,
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  Speaker 1: but I'm at peace with everything. A lot of people
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  Speaker 1: suggested therapy, and I will be attending therapy starting two
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  Speaker 1: weeks from now. I think I've tried for too long
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  Speaker 1: to just handle things on my own, and I'm hoping
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  Speaker 1: I can change some things about myself. Things changed, and
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  Speaker 1: I appreciate the advice and understanding that story.
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  Speaker 2: Good work, OP.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know what checking in on the adoption status.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know how that works.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, if it's a closed adoption, you might not
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  Speaker 2: be able to or like find them.
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  Speaker 1: Seems a little silly that once they were ready to
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  Speaker 1: have kids, they were like, hey, should we find the
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  Speaker 1: first one?
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  Speaker 2: Nah, probably, probably fine.
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  Speaker 1: Probably not.
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  Speaker 2: He's probably good.
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  Speaker 1: So I wonder if he was adopted by somebody and
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  Speaker 1: then that person just like immediately just tossed him out.
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  Speaker 2: It seems like it, or at least when he was
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  Speaker 2: old enough for some sort of group home situation. They're like, oh, bye.
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  Speaker 2: Like he was no longer a baby and they're like, hmm.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, gross.
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  Speaker 1: There's probably people that do that.
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  Speaker 2: There are people.
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  Speaker 1: Adopted baby, grew up to toddler, toss it in the
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  Speaker 1: group home, try to get another baby. They're like, what
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  Speaker 1: happened to the first one? Like it started talking.
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  Speaker 2: It started having opinions and I didn't like that.
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  Speaker 1: I just didn't like its voice. Hopefully the next one
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  Speaker 1: will have a better voice.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, you're not getting an X1. What are they cooking
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  Speaker 2: down there? It smells like a breakfast dish. I think
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  Speaker 2: I said breakfast.
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  Speaker 1: There's definitely potatoes in there.
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  Speaker 2: Sounds good. But we've got another story. My in-laws wanted
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  Speaker 2: us to travel their way with our newborn, so I refused.
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  Speaker 1: You need to put the newborn in a cage?
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  Speaker 2: My husband and I are going to be traveling soon
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  Speaker 2: to attend his sister's wedding. along with her one-year-old son.
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  Speaker 2: The plan was that we would land at his parents'
• 9:42
  Speaker 2: place and attend one of the wedding ceremonies there. A
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  Speaker 2: few days after that, there's another wedding reception in my
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  Speaker 2: sister-in-law's soon-to-be-husband's city. My in-laws plan to book a few
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  Speaker 2: train compartments for the entire family and an Airbnb for
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  Speaker 2: the stay there, two to three days. I really don't
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  Speaker 2: want to be in a confined space with my in-laws
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  Speaker 2: for the long, especially with my son. My in-laws and
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  Speaker 2: I used to be cordial with each other until my
• 10:05
  Speaker 2: son was born. A few weeks after delivery, my mother-in-law
• 10:08
  Speaker 2: and sister-in-law visited us to help. All they did was
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  Speaker 2: find any opportunity to hold him, regardless of whether he
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  Speaker 2: was asleep or in my arms. criticizing me for being
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  Speaker 2: too clingy with him when I would put my foot down.
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  Speaker 2: And I basically started locking myself in my room with him.
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  Speaker 2: That sounds so fun.
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  Speaker 1: Literally basic baby 101. If the baby's sleeping, don't touch it.
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  Speaker 1: Don't wake it up.
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  Speaker 2: Don't wake it up, silly. They would lament how poor
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  Speaker 2: my cooking was and how sorry they felt for their
• 10:36
  Speaker 2: poor son slash brother who had to endure it. These
• 10:39
  Speaker 2: people suck. These people stink. okay, why is the lady
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  Speaker 2: trying to take care of her one-year-old baby? I'm gonna
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  Speaker 2: cook for all of them. Until both my husband and
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  Speaker 2: I had enough. And my husband hinted heavily that they
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  Speaker 2: had overstayed their welcome. By the way, this comes from largechallenge6242.
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  Speaker 2: And if you want to submit your own stories, go
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  Speaker 2: to the r slash okstorytime subreddit and op says. Since then,
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  Speaker 2: I get hounded for not sending enough pictures and videos
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  Speaker 2: of him and how I dress him. I'm so grateful
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  Speaker 2: we're far enough away that we see them rarely. I
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  Speaker 2: told my husband a couple of days ago that I'd
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  Speaker 2: rather we just fly from his parents' place to the
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  Speaker 2: other city and just stay at a hotel while we
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  Speaker 2: attend the second ceremony. My husband said that would make
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  Speaker 2: us look snobbish, that he himself wasn't over the moon
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  Speaker 2: about the whole itinerary, but it was a family event
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  Speaker 2: and we should be with family. The fact that he
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  Speaker 2: wasn't into it frustrated me even more. We got into
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  Speaker 2: an argument, his mother and sister's stay got rehashed, and
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  Speaker 2: I told them he was choosing to make me uncomfortable
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  Speaker 2: rather than potentially risk his family being affronted. Am I
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  Speaker 2: the a-hole? We've got an update!
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  Speaker 1: Nah, I was on your side ever since you went.
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  Speaker 1: My husband heavily hinted they overstayed their welcome. Use your words.
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  Speaker 1: Let's not make it a game of Clue, buddy. Let's
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  Speaker 1: tell them they're out of line.
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  Speaker 2: Oh, sorry. Sorry, you can't stay here anymore, actually.
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  Speaker 1: Welcome revoked, actually. You can just take your.
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  Speaker 2: Stuff and head on out. But we got an update. No, OP,
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  Speaker 2: I don't think you're the ale.
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  Speaker 1: And your husband's probably just like, well, if I say anything,
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  Speaker 1: they're going to do it to me.
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  Speaker 2: They're going to be mad at me.
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  Speaker 1: I don't want to have to deal with it. Come on.
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  Speaker 2: He's like, you're way more reasonable than they are.
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  Speaker 3: But like, if this is how you're going to react,
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  Speaker 3: especially when it has to do with your child, I'd
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  Speaker 3: be like, hmm.
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  Speaker 2: So you're not going to stand up for me or
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  Speaker 2: your kid? Yeah, like we're your family now. Yeah. That's
• 12:35
  Speaker 2: your extended family. You're just going to let your parents run,
• 12:39
  Speaker 2: run all over us?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, ain't nobody's waking up the baby.
• 12:42
  Speaker 2: Don't touch that baby. After reading comments in my original post,
• 12:45
  Speaker 2: I had decided that taking the flight with my son
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  Speaker 2: rather than the train was non-negotiable, and I hoped to
• 12:51
  Speaker 2: convince my husband for three of us to stay at
• 12:53
  Speaker 2: a hotel. I brought up the topic with him again
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  Speaker 2: and said that a 22-hour train ride wasn't fair to
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  Speaker 2: our son. He's been doing really well recently with his
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  Speaker 2: sleep cycle, and messing that up for my in-law's sake
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  Speaker 2: wasn't right. Regardless of what they ended up thinking, I
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  Speaker 2: was firm about it.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, dude. Babies love trains.
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  Speaker 2: Babies do love trains.
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  Speaker 1: 22 hours?
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  Speaker 2: Maybe not, but they do love trains.
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  Speaker 1: If there's one thing I know about the youngins.
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  Speaker 2: They love a train.
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  Speaker 1: They love a choo-choo.
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  Speaker 2: He finally agreed. I thought it meant my son and
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  Speaker 2: I would be taking the flight and my husband the train,
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  Speaker 2: but he said he'd be taking the flight with us.
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  Speaker 2: He's like, well, now that you've put it that way,
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  Speaker 2: I also really don't want to spend 22 hours on
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  Speaker 2: a train with my family. He said the long train
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  Speaker 2: ride would be horrible for him without us. And that
• 13:35
  Speaker 2: his family would bring up me taking the plane. And
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  Speaker 2: he didn't want to be around for that.
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  Speaker 1: Dude, shut up. Your family brings up her taking the plane.
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  Speaker 1: You go, yeah, she took the plane because she's got
• 13:43
  Speaker 1: a baby. We have a baby.
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  Speaker 2: We have a baby. Well, I think he's just like,
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to have to hear them. So I'm
• 13:48
  Speaker 2: also going to take the plane. And then they can
• 13:50
  Speaker 2: complain all they want. But we both took it.
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  Speaker 1: Just it's just annoying because it i hear that and
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  Speaker 1: it's it's him going well i don't want to be
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  Speaker 1: around them because then i'd have to defend you.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah yeah that's what i'm thinking he's not he's not
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  Speaker 3: doing it for the right reasons he's doing it like
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  Speaker 3: i don't want to have to deal with them alone
• 14:04
  Speaker 3: usually they just bag on you and i just watch
• 14:06
  Speaker 3: now they're gonna bag on me what am i supposed
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  Speaker 3: to do defend myself for 22 hours and it's.
• 14:11
  Speaker 2: Like she's like i've been defending myself for however long
• 14:13
  Speaker 2: we've been.
• 14:13
  Speaker 3: Married yeah like that's the reason you're you're not taking
• 14:16
  Speaker 3: it for the right reasons I was really happy and
• 14:18
  Speaker 3: decided to bring up hotel accommodations, and he agreed to
• 14:21
  Speaker 3: that too, saying that his family were already going to
• 14:23
  Speaker 3: be mad at us for taking the flight, so at
• 14:25
  Speaker 3: this point we might as well make ourselves comfortable.
• 14:27
  Speaker 2: When he told his parents about this, they did not
• 14:30
  Speaker 2: take it well. My mother-in-law complained about how everyone was
• 14:33
  Speaker 2: looking forward to playing with and entertaining our son, that
• 14:36
  Speaker 2: it was a family event and it wouldn't be fun
• 14:39
  Speaker 2: without us.
• 14:40
  Speaker 1: Oh, pause.
• 14:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 14:41
  Speaker 2: My mother-in-law even suggested to him, Opie's husband, that I
• 14:46
  Speaker 2: could take the plane and my husband and son take
• 14:48
  Speaker 2: the train. Are you dumb?
• 14:50
  Speaker 1: Yeah, fully dumb. You're not getting it. You're not getting it.
• 14:54
  Speaker 2: It's not about me. It's about the freaking baby, dum-dum.
• 14:57
  Speaker 1: The baby with a delicate sleep schedule. We just got
• 15:00
  Speaker 1: kind of a rhythm on.
• 15:00
  Speaker 2: The baby doesn't want to take a 22-hour train ride.
• 15:03
  Speaker 2: These people are thick.
• 15:04
  Speaker 1: It's just annoying, dude. And if you don't call your
• 15:06
  Speaker 1: mom for that, be like, what do you mean by that?
• 15:09
  Speaker 1: What are you implying by that?
• 15:11
  Speaker 2: But my husband shut that down. Said that our son
• 15:14
  Speaker 2: doesn't react well to having his normal routine disrupted and
• 15:17
  Speaker 2: we'd see them there. So that's that. This has been
• 15:19
  Speaker 2: such a weight off my shoulders since we're taking the flight.
• 15:22
  Speaker 2: We'll be there a day before everyone else and can
• 15:24
  Speaker 2: tour the city by ourselves. I also hope we can
• 15:27
  Speaker 2: avoid having to go to the Airbnb for everything. Like
• 15:29
  Speaker 2: they're gonna expect us to have breakfast, lunch, dinner with them.
• 15:33
  Speaker 2: But I'd rather we do our own thing for the meals.
• 15:35
  Speaker 2: At least breakfast. But still, this has been such a relief.
• 15:38
  Speaker 2: And we have a second update. Oh boy.
• 15:40
  Speaker 1: I hope this ends with your husband being like, I
• 15:44
  Speaker 1: will no longer tolerate blatant disrespect of my wife. Or
• 15:48
  Speaker 1: you will not have access to any member of my family.
• 15:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I need him to like stop tiptoeing around the point. Update.
• 15:56
  Speaker 2: A while ago, I had posted about whether it would
• 15:58
  Speaker 2: be okay if my husband and I abandoned his family's
• 16:00
  Speaker 2: plan of a 22-hour train ride and a shared Airbnb.
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: And the comments had given me the confidence to convince
• 16:06
  Speaker 2: my husband to make our own plans. I just like
• 16:09
  Speaker 2: would never do a 22 hour train ride. Just wouldn't
• 16:11
  Speaker 2: do that. I would.
• 16:12
  Speaker 3: I feel like it'd be really fun. I've never done
• 16:14
  Speaker 3: a train ride though. So maybe I would be like,
• 16:16
  Speaker 3: but I feel like you can like stretch your legs,
• 16:17
  Speaker 3: walk around, you know?
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: If I had my own cabin, maybe.
• 16:20
  Speaker 1: Depends on the train.
• 16:21
  Speaker 2: If it's like the Amtrak cross country thingy, maybe.
• 16:24
  Speaker 1: I would never take a 22 hour train in the States.
• 16:26
  Speaker 2: Well, the Amtrak is nice.
• 16:28
  Speaker 1: I just, yeah, dude, no.
• 16:29
  Speaker 2: Have you ever seen the things about the Amtrak though?
• 16:32
  Speaker 2: not really it's like a whole it's like obviously not
• 16:35
  Speaker 2: fast it's about the same price I think as a
• 16:38
  Speaker 2: plane ticket but it's more of like the experience and
• 16:39
  Speaker 2: you get like a nice little cabin yeah I'd rather just.
• 16:42
  Speaker 1: Drive me too in the states but if I'm in
• 16:45
  Speaker 1: Europe like yeah put me on the train from Spain
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: to freaking Poland man.
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: No, I still wouldn't take a 22-hour train.
• 16:52
  Speaker 1: I'd get off at some point.
• 16:53
  Speaker 2: Well, see, I'm thinking it's like Harry Potter when they
• 16:55
  Speaker 2: go on that train. That's not 22 hours. That's from
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: London to Scotland. Well, no, but I'm saying, is that
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: the experience? That's what it looks like? Or no? Again,
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: even if it looks like that.
• 17:05
  Speaker 1: To be clear, are you asking if the experience is
• 17:08
  Speaker 1: everyone rides a magical train that takes them to magic college?
• 17:11
  Speaker 2: No, it just looks pretty outside. You're training through Scotland.
• 17:14
  Speaker 2: You're training through Scotland? Well, not in this story, but
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: is that what you're asking?
• 17:17
  Speaker 3: I'm saying, like, is that what the trains look like? Like,
• 17:19
  Speaker 3: would that be the train experience?
• 17:22
  Speaker 1: I gotta say, the odds of it being a whimsical
• 17:25
  Speaker 1: wizard train on the inside, probably not very high. That's
• 17:29
  Speaker 1: not what I'm saying.
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: I'm saying like the inside, like, does it like, would
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: it be cool or, you know, like.
• 17:35
  Speaker 1: Or is it like cramped? To be clear, that's exactly
• 17:38
  Speaker 1: what I just answered. I find it very unlikely that
• 17:41
  Speaker 1: it would have the vibe of the Harry Potter train
• 17:44
  Speaker 1: on the inside.
• 17:45
  Speaker 2: The Hogwarts.
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: Is exactly what I said.
• 17:47
  Speaker 2: Look, okay, wait. If it's like... No, I think we
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: understand what you're asking now.
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: We know.
• 17:51
  Speaker 1: We know what you're saying.
• 17:52
  Speaker 2: Is it like this? Probably. You know, like, this doesn't
• 17:55
  Speaker 2: seem too bad.
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: It's probably more like that.
• 17:57
  Speaker 2: You got leg room. You got... I've taken long trains
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: all around Europe. They're very nice. I still don't want
• 18:03
  Speaker 2: to be on them for 22 hours. Okay, well, I
• 18:05
  Speaker 2: feel like I'd like it. We came back from the
• 18:06
  Speaker 2: trip last night and are back at our house now.
• 18:09
  Speaker 2: After attending the first event in my in-laws' city, we
• 18:12
  Speaker 2: had booked our flight for the second event for the
• 18:14
  Speaker 2: same day as my in-laws had booked their train so
• 18:16
  Speaker 2: that we wouldn't have to mind their house. We reached
• 18:19
  Speaker 2: there a day before them and spent that day, just
• 18:21
  Speaker 2: the three of us, touring the city. My in-laws arrived
• 18:24
  Speaker 2: a couple of hours later than scheduled, but said the
• 18:27
  Speaker 2: trip was immense fun. However, my husband spoke to a
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: cousin who he's close with and who was on the train,
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: And he spilled some tea. He said it was all
• 18:36
  Speaker 2: fun for the first eight hours. Honestly, pretty good.
• 18:39
  Speaker 1: Almost 50%?
• 18:40
  Speaker 2: Yeah, almost 50% of the time with this insane family
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: was pretty good.
• 18:45
  Speaker 1: Well, wait, it was two hours late. So it's actually,
• 18:47
  Speaker 1: that's a third.
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: Minus all the time you're like probably sleeping.
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: Okay, so no, it's back to half.
• 18:52
  Speaker 3: True.
• 18:53
  Speaker 1: If you got a good eight hours of train sleep.
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: Then old fights regarding inheritance and who'd been wrong by
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: who 30 years ago got rehashed, which spoiled the mood.
• 19:02
  Speaker 2: Is to be talking about inheritance someone is just like
• 19:08
  Speaker 2: oh yeah i'm gonna go get something neat when's grandma
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: gonna give up all of her stuff i also think
• 19:14
  Speaker 2: it's really funny that op's husband's family was like oh
• 19:17
  Speaker 2: we had such a fun time on the train sucks
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: for anyone who didn't get to go on the fun
• 19:22
  Speaker 2: train ride.
• 19:22
  Speaker 1: Yeah i would have been like oh well that's great
• 19:25
  Speaker 1: because i remember you told us you weren't gonna have
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: any fun unless we were on the train too yeah
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: so i'm glad that that wasn't.
• 19:31
  Speaker 2: True He also said, According to that comment, and not
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: be so wasteful when it comes to money for me
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: and our son. We only met them for lunch and
• 19:44
  Speaker 2: had breakfast at the hotel despite their insistence because we
• 19:47
  Speaker 2: wanted to relax and sleep in. According to that cousin,
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: some of those fights had continued overnight at the Airbnb.
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: The second wedding event went well. My husband and I
• 19:56
  Speaker 2: had to put our foot down, though, because my mother-in-law
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: would ask for my son and then hand him over
• 20:01
  Speaker 2: to some random relative and be confused when he would
• 20:04
  Speaker 2: start crying.
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: Well, there it is. I bet they're all happy he's
• 20:06
  Speaker 1: putting his foot down like a man. Or is that
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: only in the context of when it's with his wife?
• 20:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, don't put your foot down with us. Okay, look
• 20:14
  Speaker 2: at these ones. Like, that looks so fun. Well, that's
• 20:17
  Speaker 2: what I'm saying. That's like the Amtrak. Swivel chairs, are
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: you kidding me? Or, like, if I want to lay down, like, ugh.
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: And look, you just are outside. It's all bright and nice. Well,
• 20:26
  Speaker 2: look at, look up the Amtrak. These are Amtrak.
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: Oh yeah.
• 20:28
  Speaker 1: Okay.
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: That's, it looked like it.
• 20:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: And then like, this one's like more of a cabin, like,
• 20:33
  Speaker 3: you know, and I'm sure like something, all these other ones,
• 20:35
  Speaker 3: like you can get like.
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: There's, there's one. Well, they will say anytime the train
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: is more about the experience of being on the train
• 20:43
  Speaker 2: and looking outside, it tends to be equal or more
• 20:47
  Speaker 2: than a flight.
• 20:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah.
• 20:49
  Speaker 2: So it's like, oh, why would I not just fly?
• 20:51
  Speaker 1: They're a little pricey.
• 20:52
  Speaker 2: And FLB says Amtrak is not that nice, Sophia. I've
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: seen the, I've watched the Amtrak videos. I got super
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: into that. I was watching people like take the Amtrak
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: and some of the, most of the train is actually
• 21:02
  Speaker 2: quite nice.
• 21:03
  Speaker 1: When was this, when was this Amtrak revival happening?
• 21:06
  Speaker 2: It's mostly just Sophia. She's a big YouTuber.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: No, I said, when did this hell happen?
• 21:12
  Speaker 2: Like the cross-country one?
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 21:14
  Speaker 2: I don't know. But the cross-country one has a really
• 21:16
  Speaker 2: nice viewing seats and stuff.
• 21:18
  Speaker 1: They must have done this boy up recently.
• 21:20
  Speaker 3: My 30th, my dirty 30, I would like to go
• 21:22
  Speaker 3: to Jersey because Jersey Shore love my Jersey 30.
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: What if we all took an Amtrak, guys? All of
• 21:29
  Speaker 2: us together, Amtrak? Probably be a long time, but like, what?
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: 35-hour ride on Amtrak's Coast Starlight. Specifically, it's the Starlight train.
• 21:39
  Speaker 2: I should have been more specific. Let me type that one.
• 21:41
  Speaker 2: But that one is supposed to be like very nice.
• 21:43
  Speaker 2: I'm not talking about any Amtrak.
• 21:44
  Speaker 1: I'm going to say cross country. The ticket for that
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: train is probably like $ 800. Oh, yeah.
• 21:50
  Speaker 2: It's probably super expensive. Oh, no.
• 21:53
  Speaker 1: Yeah, it's they're not. It's not like it's like a
• 21:56
  Speaker 1: discount option.
• 21:57
  Speaker 2: Long distance, around $ 200, but private sleeping rooms cost significantly more.
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so if you didn't get a room, it would
• 22:04
  Speaker 2: be about $ 100 to $ 200.
• 22:06
  Speaker 1: You don't need a room to go from LA to
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: New Jersey.
• 22:09
  Speaker 2: How long?
• 22:10
  Speaker 1: The train is my room.
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: 35 hours for the full trip.
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: 35?
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: Yeah, for the full trip. You don't have to stay
• 22:15
  Speaker 2: on the train, but it's just like if you want
• 22:16
  Speaker 2: to go from the whole trip. This is the starlight.
• 22:19
  Speaker 2: That's what I was thinking of, to be clear.
• 22:21
  Speaker 1: Cool.
• 22:22
  Speaker 2: Oh, I would like that. There's double. You and your
• 22:25
  Speaker 2: significant other can sit and make out right in front
• 22:27
  Speaker 2: of the trees. It's supposed to be like- Look at
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: this one. It's like a Denny's. Oh my God, that's
• 22:32
  Speaker 2: like the Polar Express. They're doing hot chocolate right now
• 22:35
  Speaker 2: on these tables.
• 22:36
  Speaker 1: Hot, hot.
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: Oh, we got it. There's a Polar Express train in California.
• 22:40
  Speaker 1: No way.
• 22:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, they do it every Christmas. It's like 70 bucks.
• 22:44
  Speaker 2: It's not like a super, you're not like- Yeah, look
• 22:47
  Speaker 2: it up. It's 70 bucks. It's just the experience and
• 22:49
  Speaker 2: they have a hot chocolate.
• 22:50
  Speaker 1: You coming? Yeah, coming.
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: But I think it's only like an hour train ride.
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: You do have to like go up. It's like near
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: San Francisco or something.
• 22:57
  Speaker 1: I need a Tom Hans impression so I can say
• 23:00
  Speaker 1: that line when he's the hobo.
• 23:00
  Speaker 2: There's more of the story, folks. We're almost done. Neither
• 23:03
  Speaker 2: of our families live in our city, so we don't
• 23:05
  Speaker 2: have a ton of relatives visiting us regularly, thankfully. Just
• 23:08
  Speaker 2: our friends. So he's just not used to so many people,
• 23:10
  Speaker 2: which we were told is bad parenting. After this happened
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: a couple of times, we took turns with him and
• 23:15
  Speaker 2: stopped letting our relatives take him. Their return ride on
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: the train was yesterday afternoon. Our flight was in the evening.
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: They're still on the train on their way back. I
• 23:23
  Speaker 2: sincerely wanted to thank everyone who backed me up in
• 23:26
  Speaker 2: my first post. I don't know how I would have
• 23:28
  Speaker 2: handled it. And that is the end of that story.
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: Man, I would have handled it so much worse.
• 23:33
  Speaker 2: Stop it! The Polar Express!
• 23:36
  Speaker 1: Ha ha!
• 23:36
  Speaker 2: Oh, we got it!
• 23:37
  Speaker 1: Ha ha!
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we got it!
• 23:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah!
• 23:39
  Speaker 1: They had a Polar Express in St. Louis I almost
• 23:42
  Speaker 1: worked at.
• 23:42
  Speaker 2: I wanted to do it with Sam last year, but
• 23:45
  Speaker 2: we didn't have time. I'm totally doing this. Guys, we
• 23:49
  Speaker 2: should all do it. I would be super down.
• 23:51
  Speaker 1: You need to bring your rocks that you got.
• 23:52
  Speaker 2: I would be incredibly down to do this.
• 23:54
  Speaker 3: Oh, okay.
• 23:55
  Speaker 1: I'll bring them tomorrow. My sister started a drama just
• 23:58
  Speaker 1: because she wasn't invited to be my bridesmaid.
• 24:01
  Speaker 2: Well, I want what I want.
• 24:03
  Speaker 1: As background, I, 28, female, am adopted and have not
• 24:07
  Speaker 1: always gotten along with my siblings. My younger sister, Kat, 24,
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: is adopted as well, and it has allowed us to
• 24:13
  Speaker 1: bond quite a bit in our young adulthood. My older sister, Bev, 38,
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: and I, on the other hand, have always had a
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: very rocky relationship, to the point where we have had
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: to be physically pulled apart. Oh, like conjoined twins. Y'all
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: are really rocky. I guess that's more surgically pulled apart. Anyway,
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: I moved out of my parents' house at 18 to
• 24:33
  Speaker 1: avoid living with Bev. Since then, there are times where
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: she completely refuses to talk to me and will try
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: to take passive-aggressive jabs at me on Facebook, which she
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: will delete after she is certain I have seen it.
• 24:45
  Speaker 1: In our family group chat, she will talk crap about
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: me to people or delete me off everything until she
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: needs something. For example, one time she got pissed that
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: I was pregnant and she wasn't.
• 24:55
  Speaker 4: Oh boy.
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: There's a real easy fix for that. Just get pregnant, girl.
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: She also already had a kid at this time. She
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: found out that I was having a girl and posted
• 25:04
  Speaker 1: all over Facebook about it the week before my gender reveal.
• 25:08
  Speaker 2: Yeah, at that point, information diet and maybe you're blocked
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: on Facebook too.
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: If I have a kid, I'd do a gender reveal party.
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: And when the balloon pops, the confetti would just be black.
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: And it'd be like, no one's finding out till it's born.
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: It's just black.
• 25:23
  Speaker 3: Gotcha.
• 25:23
  Speaker 2: You're not going to know until he's 18 or 19.
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: She has a say in it. We don't know anything.
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: A few months later, when she found out she was
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: also pregnant, she admitted that she had done this on
• 25:35
  Speaker 1: purpose because of her jealousy.
• 25:36
  Speaker 3: No.
• 25:37
  Speaker 1: Wow. And a little jealousy baby.
• 25:39
  Speaker 2: A jealousy baby. How beautiful. Are you going to name
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: the baby Jealousy? Her gender reveal came out green. Jelest.
• 25:47
  Speaker 1: Oh, Jelest.
• 25:47
  Speaker 2: This is my daughter Jelest.
• 25:49
  Speaker 1: Oh. Don't you Jelest me, dude. By the way, this
• 25:52
  Speaker 1: comes from DarkPrincessJ. If you want to submit your own stories,
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: go to the r slash OKStoryTime subreddit. And OP says,
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: green and someone in a shriek costume comes running out.
• 26:02
  Speaker 2: Presumably Shrek.
• 26:03
  Speaker 3: Shriek.
• 26:04
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Shriek. Yeah.
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: My babies are shriek.
• 26:08
  Speaker 1: Favorite character is shriek. It's just a guy in a
• 26:11
  Speaker 1: green suit with the mouth cut out and he just goes, oh, oh, shriek.
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: Gotta love classic shriek, dude.
• 26:18
  Speaker 2: He goes shriek in a Scottish accent. Shriek. I'm shriek.
• 26:23
  Speaker 1: Donkey.
• 26:24
  Speaker 2: No, except donkey is actually.
• 26:27
  Speaker 1: What's the exact opposite of Eddie Murphy? Matt Smith. I
• 26:31
  Speaker 1: think I nailed that actually.
• 26:32
  Speaker 2: Donkey.
• 26:33
  Speaker 1: That's what comes out.
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: They shoot the gender reveal cannon. I'm trying to get
• 26:38
  Speaker 2: a Matt Smith impression. I'm working on it. We'll come
• 26:40
  Speaker 2: back to that.
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: OP says she has changed my name in her phone
• 26:44
  Speaker 1: to something along the lines of lying money user. Wow.
• 26:47
  Speaker 1: Discovered as she was showing me something on her phone.
• 26:50
  Speaker 4: Crazy.
• 26:50
  Speaker 1: No, I do not know why she has me as that,
• 26:53
  Speaker 1: considering I pay for everything I have and will treat
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: her kids to things all the time. There are many
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: other instances like this. Anytime that she is called out
• 27:02
  Speaker 1: for these things, she will completely act innocent and try
• 27:05
  Speaker 1: to play it off as the victim. Usually someone is
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: just misconstruing things or purposefully making her seem like she
• 27:12
  Speaker 1: did something wrong. I do understand that misunderstandings happen, but
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: when she has a little smirk on her face when
• 27:19
  Speaker 1: she first gets confronted and when she gets her way,
• 27:22
  Speaker 1: it makes it very obvious that she's doing it all
• 27:24
  Speaker 1: on purpose. She has the habit that when she isn't
• 27:27
  Speaker 1: the center of attention, she thrives on the drama that
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: she creates. Back to my current dilemma. Now that we've
• 27:33
  Speaker 1: got all the character background info on why your sister
• 27:37
  Speaker 1: is terrible. I wanted to call your sister Jalest.
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: Jalest, no.
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: And that's what we'll do. We're going to call your
• 27:42
  Speaker 1: sister Jalest now. No, it's Bev. That was her name.
• 27:45
  Speaker 2: I guess Jalest could be Jalest Jr.
• 27:47
  Speaker 1: I hope. Jaleste is not her daughter, to be clear.
• 27:50
  Speaker 2: It's her daughter Jaleste.
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: Name her Geneva.
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: Geneva on the lake.
• 27:53
  Speaker 1: I am now planning my wedding. My mom had asked
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: me a month ago who I was going to have
• 27:57
  Speaker 1: in my lineup. I told her that I wanted a
• 28:00
  Speaker 1: few of my close friends and Kat. She asked if
• 28:02
  Speaker 1: I was planning to ask Bev as well. I told
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: her that I hadn't asked anyone yet, but no.
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: No.
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: And drama.
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: Drama.
• 28:35
  Speaker 1: Weddings are stressful enough and I don't want to add
• 28:37
  Speaker 1: stress to it. So I want to enjoy planning my
• 28:40
  Speaker 1: wedding and getting married to the love of my life.
• 28:43
  Speaker 1: Am I the a-hole if I stick to my decision
• 28:45
  Speaker 1: and do not ask Bev to be a bridesmaid? There's
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: an update.
• 28:48
  Speaker 2: I'm just gonna just gonna say one thing. She named
• 28:52
  Speaker 2: you in her phone?
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: Money you uh lying money user stealing money user.
• 28:57
  Speaker 2: So yeah that that's it that's all i wanted to
• 29:01
  Speaker 2: say that is it yeah does that answer your question.
• 29:05
  Speaker 3: I named my something my my mom something mean on
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: my phone when i was in high school Because I
• 29:10
  Speaker 3: was really mad at her.
• 29:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah, maybe you should just point out. Be like, have
• 29:15
  Speaker 1: you seen sister's contact for me? That's interesting. She's probably
• 29:18
  Speaker 1: going to change it now.
• 29:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 29:20
  Speaker 1: She's going to be like, lying money user who doesn't
• 29:22
  Speaker 1: think I'm pretty enough to be her bridesmaid.
• 29:25
  Speaker 2: I hate her. I hate her. It's just really long.
• 29:27
  Speaker 1: Ugly bride who I hate.
• 29:30
  Speaker 2: She's the worst. I had a baby because I'm jealous.
• 29:33
  Speaker 2: And I named it Jalest.
• 29:35
  Speaker 1: That's her. Aww. Yeah, yeah.
• 29:38
  Speaker 2: It's like those acronyms that people wear on shirts. And
• 29:40
  Speaker 2: it's like W-D-D-D-D-D-D-D-D.
• 29:42
  Speaker 4: And she's just like, L-M-U-W-I-H-A-I-N-M-D-J.
• 29:53
  Speaker 2: Lying money user who I hate and I named my
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: daughter Jalest.
• 29:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah! Yeah!
• 29:58
  Speaker 2: We got there!
• 30:00
  Speaker 1: Well, we have an update. Hey, it's Dakota, your favorite
• 30:02
  Speaker 1: rat brain host here. And we're going to get back
• 30:04
  Speaker 1: to the stories soon. But here's three minutes of ads
• 30:07
  Speaker 1: from our sponsors. I have very much stood my ground
• 30:10
  Speaker 1: and have officially asked all of my bridesmaids. Last week,
• 30:13
  Speaker 1: Bev made sure to ask who my bridesmaids were in
• 30:17
  Speaker 1: front of my mom. We weren't even talking about it
• 30:20
  Speaker 1: or anything related to it. In fact, we were talking
• 30:22
  Speaker 1: about a car show my dad was in the day prior.
• 30:25
  Speaker 1: My mom already knew who my bridesmaids were, and she
• 30:27
  Speaker 1: stayed quiet as I told Bev. Bev made a comment
• 30:31
  Speaker 1: about being upset, and then made a comment about my colors,
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: saying she wouldn't use gold, which I'm not, and I
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: never said I was.
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: I think that's when you go, good idea, Bev.
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: I actually, I agree with Bev on that. I feel
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: like gold in the wedding is tacky.
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: Good job, Bev. You nailed that.
• 30:46
  Speaker 1: A few days later, my fiance made a joke in
• 30:49
  Speaker 1: the family group and she went off about how she
• 30:51
  Speaker 1: doesn't like some of the people in the group and
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: left the chat. This is a 40-year-old woman, by the way.
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: Phew.
• 30:59
  Speaker 1: This is not a 16-year-old girl.
• 31:01
  Speaker 2: With a child and another child on the way.
• 31:03
  Speaker 1: I guess she's 38, but... A few minutes later, she
• 31:06
  Speaker 1: blocked me on Facebook and sent me long texts on
• 31:08
  Speaker 1: my phone about how I'm the reason she left that chat.
• 31:10
  Speaker 1: And how I've done nothing but hurt her and that
• 31:13
  Speaker 1: I don't care about anyone but myself. I sent the
• 31:15
  Speaker 1: text to my mom and told her that I was
• 31:17
  Speaker 1: officially done with Bev. Dude, I would have just replied
• 31:19
  Speaker 1: to Bev with an image of a projector.
• 31:22
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you go... And she goes, what does that mean?
• 31:25
  Speaker 2: What does that mean?
• 31:26
  Speaker 1: I'd be like, that's you.
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: That's you.
• 31:28
  Speaker 1: And she's like, I don't understand.
• 31:29
  Speaker 2: I don't know what you're saying.
• 31:31
  Speaker 1: My mom called me and lectured me on how Bev
• 31:35
  Speaker 1: feels and that she cried over my bridesmaid decision and
• 31:38
  Speaker 1: feels that I don't care about or appreciate her. I don't.
• 31:42
  Speaker 2: That's exactly right.
• 31:43
  Speaker 1: I kind of don't at this point.
• 31:44
  Speaker 2: I'm glad she feels that way. It means it's working.
• 31:47
  Speaker 1: I'd be like, mom, ask her why she wants to
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: be in the bridal party of the lying money user.
• 31:55
  Speaker 1: See what she says to that.
• 31:56
  Speaker 2: I'll wait.
• 31:57
  Speaker 1: They both tried to use a hospital incident against me
• 32:01
  Speaker 1: where I didn't go up to the hospital to see her. However,
• 32:04
  Speaker 1: I had taken a whole week off to take care
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: of her and her kids. When I questioned my mom
• 32:08
  Speaker 1: about what I've done that is so wrong and is
• 32:11
  Speaker 1: constantly hurting Bev, my mom could not give me an answer. Oh.
• 32:15
  Speaker 1: Because there isn't one.
• 32:16
  Speaker 2: I guess there's just not anything there.
• 32:19
  Speaker 1: I guess the answer is that there is no answer
• 32:21
  Speaker 1: to that other than, wait, I guess that's not right.
• 32:24
  Speaker 2: I guess that's not right. Just give me a second.
• 32:27
  Speaker 2: I'll think of one. Beth didn't tell me of any
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: reasons why. She just said she was upset.
• 32:32
  Speaker 1: She cried.
• 32:33
  Speaker 2: Does it count if she cried?
• 32:34
  Speaker 1: I took this opportunity to re-explain that this situation and
• 32:38
  Speaker 1: the way Bev is behaving is the exact reason why
• 32:41
  Speaker 1: I don't want Bev involved in my wedding. We didn't
• 32:44
  Speaker 1: yell at each other, and I think my mom has
• 32:46
  Speaker 1: now come to the understanding that I will stand my
• 32:49
  Speaker 1: ground on this and begrudgingly respects my decision. Listen to
• 32:53
  Speaker 1: us in the car. Listen to us at the bar.
• 32:55
  Speaker 2: Listen to us in El Mar. Listen to us in
• 33:00
  Speaker 2: the car.
• 33:01
  Speaker 1: Send that one first.
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: Listen to us with the stars. Yeah, that's good. Listen
• 33:05
  Speaker 2: to us while you spar.
• 33:07
  Speaker 3: Oh, shoot.
• 33:08
  Speaker 2: My toes were in that.
• 33:09
  Speaker 3: Ew.
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: Take that out. Gross. My toes.
• 33:12
  Speaker 1: My toes.
• 33:14
  Speaker 2: No. I feel like Peter Parker.
• 33:16
  Speaker 1: What do you mean?
• 33:17
  Speaker 2: In the new movie?
• 33:17
  Speaker 1: He's got toe stuff.
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: You didn't see the new movie?
• 33:19
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I don't remember the toe stuff.
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: He had toes. When he's in the bathhouse and his
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: toes just float up.
• 33:24
  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah. That was funny.
• 33:26
  Speaker 2: That's what just happened right now.
• 33:27
  Speaker 1: For a second, I thought you were like, yeah, he's
• 33:28
  Speaker 1: got like web shooter toes now. I was like, I
• 33:32
  Speaker 1: don't remember that part. Spider-Man would feel a lot different
• 33:36
  Speaker 1: if he swung around like.
• 33:38
  Speaker 2: Yeah. He's just ballet dancing.
• 33:42
  Speaker 1: Stop right there, criminal.
• 33:45
  Speaker 2: Hold on.
• 33:47
  Speaker 1: So with this current development, I have also decided that
• 33:50
  Speaker 1: I will not be inviting Bev to the wedding at all.
• 33:53
  Speaker 1: Smart move. I know that will cause a huge fight,
• 33:55
  Speaker 1: but I know it will just be more drama and
• 33:58
  Speaker 1: unhappy endings if she's present at all. I'm sure it
• 34:01
  Speaker 1: will cause many rifts, and I will get many lectures
• 34:04
  Speaker 1: from everyone in my family, but I have earned the
• 34:06
  Speaker 1: right to be happy on my wedding day. And if
• 34:08
  Speaker 1: anyone has an issue with any of my decisions, they
• 34:10
  Speaker 1: can choose not to be there. True. And that is
• 34:13
  Speaker 1: the end of that story.
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: And that's the gosh dang truth.
• 34:16
  Speaker 1: How could any, you can just be like, oh, they're like, oh,
• 34:19
  Speaker 1: you got it.
• 34:20
  Speaker 3: What?
• 34:20
  Speaker 1: Oh, Bev can't go to the wedding at all. What's
• 34:22
  Speaker 1: wrong with you? I'd be like, why would I want
• 34:25
  Speaker 1: Bev there? The only thing she's going to do is
• 34:28
  Speaker 1: say all this stuff that she hates and she thinks
• 34:30
  Speaker 1: is bad and that I'm fat and I'm ugly and
• 34:33
  Speaker 1: my bridesmaids don't look as good as her.
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: She just doesn't like me.
• 34:36
  Speaker 1: It's like, Bev, just go to therapy and deal with
• 34:38
  Speaker 1: the fact you have an adopted younger sister.
• 34:41
  Speaker 2: Deal with it, Bev. Deal with it.
• 34:44
  Speaker 1: Bev Humbug over here.
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: Very Bev-nevelent. Bev-nevelent.
• 34:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, she is Bev-nevelent, and it's the opposite of be-nevelent.
• 34:52
  Speaker 1: She's Bev-nevelent. And she's going to gaslight you into saying
• 34:55
  Speaker 1: it's the exact same thing.
• 34:56
  Speaker 2: Guys, you know how we just, like, talked about Geneva
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: on the lake? Oh, I thought you were going to
• 35:00
  Speaker 2: say that. You know how we just had a whole
• 35:02
  Speaker 2: episode and I had to record it? I thought you
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: were going to say that. My father disapproved of my interests,
• 35:06
  Speaker 2: so he pulled strings behind my back.
• 35:09
  Speaker 1: What is this guy, Geppetto?
• 35:11
  Speaker 2: My 15-male school has recently restarted all of the sports
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: programs after almost a year of no or limited activity.
• 35:19
  Speaker 2: I see you. Your dad's like, you being around other
• 35:20
  Speaker 2: men in Speedos? What are you, J with a G?
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: Get out of here. That's my guess. Get out of here.
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: With the restart, the school also made a new system.
• 35:38
  Speaker 2: Every student writes down three different after-school activities in order
• 35:42
  Speaker 2: of interest. So first choice is your favorite, second is
• 35:45
  Speaker 2: your second favorite, and so on. The teachers in charge
• 35:47
  Speaker 2: of the groups then pick the students. First pick is
• 35:50
  Speaker 2: students who already belong to the groups before lockdown. Second
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: pick is then random, and third pick is if there
• 35:56
  Speaker 2: are still places left open in the group. since i
• 35:59
  Speaker 2: was part of the swim team before and put it
• 36:00
  Speaker 2: down as my first choice i would basically be guaranteed
• 36:04
  Speaker 2: to get in but now the results are out and
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: i was placed in wrestling oh and i understand the
• 36:11
  Speaker 2: issue now i never even put that on my list
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: at all so i went to the teacher and asked
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: what's going on turns out the teacher in charge of
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: wrestling specifically requested me for whatever reason.
• 36:23
  Speaker 1: He's like I know that boy's got a wrestler's soul
• 36:27
  Speaker 1: inside of his body.
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Nogrand4260. And if you
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: want to submit your own stories, go to the r
• 36:34
  Speaker 2: slash okstorytime subreddit. This is a stupid system.
• 36:37
  Speaker 1: I mean, what do you mean?
• 36:38
  Speaker 2: I feel like you should just be able to go
• 36:40
  Speaker 2: out for the clubs that you want.
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: Well, yeah, that's why they give you a list of
• 36:43
  Speaker 1: three stuff.
• 36:44
  Speaker 2: Everyone has to sign up. And then you have to be...
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: This feels weird. Feels like it was open for this situation.
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: As OP says, turns out my dad knows the wrestling
• 36:55
  Speaker 2: teacher quite well and asked for me to be placed
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: on the team. I know my dad hates that I
• 37:00
  Speaker 2: prefer swimming. He always says, it's not a real sport.
• 37:03
  Speaker 2: How is it not a real sport? In what way
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: is swimming not a real sport?
• 37:07
  Speaker 1: The oldest sports of all time.
• 37:09
  Speaker 2: It's an incredibly famous, well-respected sport.
• 37:13
  Speaker 1: Since people were swimming, they were doing it against each other.
• 37:17
  Speaker 2: And that I should do some sport that actually gives
• 37:20
  Speaker 2: me muscles. That's insane. Swimming is one of the most...
• 37:23
  Speaker 2: That will give you all-around muscles. Yeah, you get toned
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: as heck. You get your back muscles crazy. He constantly
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: tells me I'm too skinny for a guy and has
• 37:32
  Speaker 2: made several attempts to make me go to the gym
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: to work out. I ask the teachers if I can
• 37:36
  Speaker 2: still switch teams, but they say no. I also cannot
• 37:39
  Speaker 2: just avoid the wrestling club because after school activities are mandatory.
• 37:43
  Speaker 1: My take here is like, dude, like maybe just do wrestling.
• 37:47
  Speaker 1: Could be cool. And also just swim. In your time. Swim,
• 37:51
  Speaker 1: swim time. Swim. You know?
• 37:53
  Speaker 2: So last night I had a huge fight with my dad.
• 37:55
  Speaker 2: I called him a butt for forcing me to go
• 37:57
  Speaker 2: to wrestling and that I will just forfeit every single
• 38:00
  Speaker 2: match I have to attend. He threatened me saying if
• 38:02
  Speaker 2: I do that, he will take away all my electronics
• 38:05
  Speaker 2: and I will only be allowed to leave the house
• 38:07
  Speaker 2: for school and nothing else. My mom says I should
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: have the right to choose whatever sport I want, but
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: now that I'm on the wrestling team, I should still
• 38:13
  Speaker 2: do my best. Also, not to call my dad a butt,
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: but I don't want to participate in something I have
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: zero interest in. Was forced into even. It's crazy that
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: they're forcing people into these. This is weird. This is
• 38:24
  Speaker 2: really strange.
• 38:25
  Speaker 1: I got you. Your dad is dumb for being like,
• 38:27
  Speaker 1: swim's not a real sport and you won't build muscles. Like, okay,
• 38:31
  Speaker 1: first of all, that's crazy. You know how you build
• 38:33
  Speaker 1: muscles in wrestling? You do literal, like, workout weight routine
• 38:38
  Speaker 1: strength training. So you can do that while also doing
• 38:41
  Speaker 1: any other sport.
• 38:42
  Speaker 2: Yeah, people strength train during swimming too.
• 38:45
  Speaker 3: I don't know about swimming, but I know for diving
• 38:47
  Speaker 3: we would have, it's called dry board.
• 38:49
  Speaker 2: I mean, Sam had to do.
• 38:50
  Speaker 1: It was just a.
• 38:51
  Speaker 2: Board and a mat and whatever. And we would do
• 38:52
  Speaker 2: like all that kind of stuff.
• 38:53
  Speaker 3: But we would also still do pull-ups and like core work.
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: And we would also do tumbling.
• 38:58
  Speaker 1: Because just doing a sport doesn't build all of your muscles.
• 39:02
  Speaker 1: That's why athletes train when they're not doing their sport.
• 39:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah, you don't just like, because you're a sprinter, you
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: just sprint every single day.
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: You do strength training.
• 39:13
  Speaker 1: I step onto a football field. I am now 250
• 39:16
  Speaker 1: pounds of solid muscle.
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I'm immediately super strong. Also, I was really looking
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: forward to swimming again and meeting my teammates. We haven't
• 39:24
  Speaker 2: had it.
• 39:25
  Speaker 1: Oh, you know, I didn't really think about that because
• 39:27
  Speaker 1: I never, it is like there's, it's the competition. It's the,
• 39:30
  Speaker 1: it's insane.
• 39:31
  Speaker 2: I think this is so strange that you have to
• 39:33
  Speaker 2: be for one, that your school is forcing you to
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: do this and that your dad also finagled his way.
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: Like, this is really weird.
• 39:39
  Speaker 3: Edit.
• 39:40
  Speaker 2: Next week, I will talk to more teachers, guidance teacher,
• 39:43
  Speaker 2: and also write to the principal. Guess I will also
• 39:45
  Speaker 2: try to talk with my mom again and maybe convince her. Also,
• 39:49
  Speaker 2: we'll mention what some people wrote that wrestling could potentially
• 39:52
  Speaker 2: be dangerous and maybe that will convince her.
• 39:54
  Speaker 1: You ever heard of this thing called drowning? Happens in
• 39:56
  Speaker 1: the water.
• 39:56
  Speaker 2: Worst case, I will go through with it and just
• 39:58
  Speaker 2: put in zero effort if no one listens to me.
• 40:00
  Speaker 1: But don't do that. See, this is why I disagree
• 40:03
  Speaker 1: with you. This is why, like, there should be mandatory
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: after school stuff. It's like, so what? Like, do it.
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: See it.
• 40:07
  Speaker 2: See it.
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: Try it. If you actually hate it, okay. But don't
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: go into it being like, I'm not even going to try.
• 40:13
  Speaker 2: Try, but I still don't agree. Mandatory.
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: Everything that you have ever liked or do like right now,
• 40:19
  Speaker 1: you started out by knowing nothing about it and not
• 40:23
  Speaker 1: doing it.
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: I personally was never forced to do anything. I always
• 40:26
  Speaker 2: I always did things because like my parents.
• 40:28
  Speaker 1: Like because she's a movable object.
• 40:31
  Speaker 2: My parents signed me up for things that I never
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: knew about, but I was never forced to do things,
• 40:35
  Speaker 2: which I think was good.
• 40:36
  Speaker 3: I was very much forced to do everything. But that's
• 40:39
  Speaker 3: just because I was marked as good. I was really
• 40:42
  Speaker 3: good at things, so I had to do things. I
• 40:45
  Speaker 3: talked to my mom again without my dad nearby. She
• 40:47
  Speaker 3: still thinks I should give wrestling a try, but if
• 40:49
  Speaker 3: I really want to change, she will support me. So
• 40:51
  Speaker 3: next week, I will go and talk first to my
• 40:53
  Speaker 3: swim coach and the wrestling coach and.
• 40:55
  Speaker 2: Hopefully get it resolved. Otherwise, I will go further to
• 40:58
  Speaker 2: the principal. I can post an update next week and
• 41:00
  Speaker 2: tell you guys how things worked out. Some of you
• 41:03
  Speaker 2: suggested I should go to the newspaper or something.
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: Ha ha ha. Why? Front page news. Someone stop this!
• 41:10
  Speaker 2: But I really do not feel comfortable blowing things up
• 41:12
  Speaker 2: like that. Slandering the school is gonna backfire like 100%.
• 41:16
  Speaker 2: I have also gotten a lot of creative suggestions instead
• 41:19
  Speaker 2: of just throwing the match. I would like to show
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: my face in public sometime. So no, I will ignore
• 41:24
  Speaker 2: most of the really weird suggestions. Thanks, I guess. I
• 41:27
  Speaker 2: also got a few questions about the rule of afternoon
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: activities being mandatory.
• 41:31
  Speaker 1: There you go. Here come your answers.
• 41:33
  Speaker 2: So we have to do activities for two years total,
• 41:36
  Speaker 2: but we are free to choose when we do them
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: during high school. We can choose between a lot of
• 41:40
  Speaker 2: club activities offered by the school, not just sports, but
• 41:43
  Speaker 2: all kinds of activities, music, art, reading, writing clubs, gardening,
• 41:47
  Speaker 2: or even game design. School club activities are always free.
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: And if you require financial assistance for like an instrument
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: or so, I think you can also get financial aid,
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: but I don't really know the details. Additionally, if we
• 41:59
  Speaker 2: attend a club or regular activity outside of school, we
• 42:02
  Speaker 2: can also get credit for that. We just need to
• 42:04
  Speaker 2: work it out with the teachers. We also don't get
• 42:06
  Speaker 2: grades or something. It's just noted on our final report.
• 42:09
  Speaker 2: I also do not really know what happens if you
• 42:11
  Speaker 2: don't complete them. And we do have an update. I
• 42:13
  Speaker 2: think what is getting to me is the mandatory outside
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: of school because I had mandatory physical activity. Like I
• 42:20
  Speaker 2: was told that I had to do some sort of
• 42:23
  Speaker 2: like I did ballet. That was my or not ballet.
• 42:26
  Speaker 2: I did dance in school and that was mandatory because
• 42:28
  Speaker 2: that was a class.
• 42:29
  Speaker 1: But I think.
• 42:30
  Speaker 2: Outside of class is it's kind of ridiculous for it
• 42:32
  Speaker 2: to be mandatory. Because then it's just like, oh, I
• 42:34
  Speaker 2: just have school for longer. I've never known people... Like,
• 42:38
  Speaker 2: there have been people in my school who just don't
• 42:41
  Speaker 2: do anything. Don't do any clubs, no after-school activities, just, like,
• 42:44
  Speaker 2: go home and... Do I think that is good for
• 42:47
  Speaker 2: a kid? Not necessarily, no.
• 42:49
  Speaker 3: My... So, a lot of the kids who came to
• 42:52
  Speaker 3: theater when I was teaching... A lot of the kids, well,
• 42:56
  Speaker 3: the kids' parents would come to me and be like,
• 42:57
  Speaker 3: we've tried sports. We've tried clubs. We tried all this.
• 43:01
  Speaker 3: We're going to move on to this. And so many
• 43:03
  Speaker 3: of them were like, oh.
• 43:04
  Speaker 2: Yeah, this is it. And I'm like, ah, yay. Kids
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: should be not forced into something they don't want, but
• 43:10
  Speaker 2: should be encouraged to find something that fits for them.
• 43:12
  Speaker 2: And I hope that you can go to your dad
• 43:14
  Speaker 2: and say, hey, this just doesn't fit me. So many things.
• 43:17
  Speaker 2: So many things. But we got an update. First things first.
• 43:20
  Speaker 2: I am back on the swim team.
• 43:21
  Speaker 3: Oh.
• 43:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Oh, that's I would have just also said like, yeah,
• 43:26
  Speaker 1: you can just be on the swim team if you
• 43:28
  Speaker 1: just speak up at school. If you're like, I'd rather
• 43:31
  Speaker 1: be on the swim team than the wrestling team. They'd
• 43:32
  Speaker 1: be like, OK.
• 43:33
  Speaker 2: Today was a really weird and awkward day. First opportunity
• 43:36
  Speaker 2: I went to talk to my swim coach and explain
• 43:38
  Speaker 2: the whole situation. and that I am not willing to
• 43:41
  Speaker 2: stay on the wrestling team. He was pretty mad at
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: my dad as well as the wrestling coach, so he
• 43:46
  Speaker 2: took me to the secretary, explained the whole thing, and
• 43:49
  Speaker 2: asked her to change the list. She was in turn
• 43:52
  Speaker 2: quite mad, because apparently the whole system is a big mess.
• 43:55
  Speaker 2: I'm not even remotely the only student who was misplaced.
• 43:58
  Speaker 2: So then the secretary called in my homeroom teacher. There
• 44:02
  Speaker 2: was a lot of accusation. I was just standing there
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: feeling awkward. Really weird to see three adults being mad
• 44:07
  Speaker 2: at each other. In the end, I was basically told
• 44:09
  Speaker 2: by all three to just ignore the whole thing and
• 44:11
  Speaker 2: that I can just join the swim team if I
• 44:13
  Speaker 2: want to. I figured that was it until the end
• 44:15
  Speaker 2: of the school day. Then the wrestling coach had me
• 44:17
  Speaker 2: come to his office. He gave me a long talk
• 44:20
  Speaker 2: about how disappointed he is. How he had high hopes.
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: The wrestling coach did?
• 44:25
  Speaker 1: Yeah, he's like, son, I want you to look in
• 44:27
  Speaker 1: this mirror. Do you know what I see?
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: I see a wrestler.
• 44:29
  Speaker 1: I see the dimensions of a champion. I see what
• 44:33
  Speaker 1: you could be.
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: You could be much bigger than you are now, and
• 44:36
  Speaker 2: I want to help you get there.
• 44:37
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you've got the arm length. You've got the neck width.
• 44:41
  Speaker 1: And let me tell you, buddy, I bet my bottom
• 44:43
  Speaker 1: dollar that you got the tendon strength to do it.
• 44:45
  Speaker 2: I told him I really don't care and that he
• 44:47
  Speaker 2: was a knucklehead for just ignoring what I want to do.
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: To sum up, wrestling coach mad at me, homeroom teacher
• 44:52
  Speaker 2: mad at me for complaining, swimming coach mad at school,
• 44:55
  Speaker 2: and my dad is probably gonna freak out when he
• 44:57
  Speaker 2: hears that I won't wrestle.
• 44:58
  Speaker 1: Oh, well. That's such a 15-year-old way to think about that, too.
• 45:02
  Speaker 2: Everyone's mad at me.
• 45:04
  Speaker 1: No one's even thinking about you anymore, dude.
• 45:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 45:07
  Speaker 1: None of those people are thinking about you for one
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: second once you leave their line of sight. Yeah, I'm
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: not talking about the dad. I just mean like... The
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: other people. All the people at the school. It's like...
• 45:16
  Speaker 1: They don't care. Nah, dude. They have their whole life.
• 45:18
  Speaker 1: You're one in a thousand. School is your whole life
• 45:21
  Speaker 1: when you're in it, but it's not theirs.
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: But we got a second update, folks. Let's get into it.
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: Hey, it's Keelan, your residential nerd. We're going to get
• 45:29
  Speaker 1: back to the stories, but here's three minutes of ads
• 45:31
  Speaker 1: from our sponsors.
• 45:32
  Speaker 2: Mom told dad about the switch as he came home
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: from work. He has so far completely ignored me. Not
• 45:37
  Speaker 2: a single word. Cool. Actually a nice outcome, I guess.
• 45:41
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I mean, that's better than, you know, being all
• 45:44
  Speaker 1: ornery about it.
• 45:45
  Speaker 2: You know what movie you and your dad should watch?
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: Remember the Titans.
• 45:48
  Speaker 2: Billy Elliot.
• 45:49
  Speaker 1: Yeah, watch the Elton John movie.
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: That's less relevant. Rocket Man. He, uh, his dad wants
• 45:54
  Speaker 2: him to be a wrestler. And he just wants to die.
• 45:56
  Speaker 2: We've got a third update. Let's finish her off. You
• 45:59
  Speaker 2: know what?
• 46:00
  Speaker 1: Maybe instead of Billy Elliot, you should watch the 2008
• 46:02
  Speaker 1: Olympic gold medal swimming matches.
• 46:05
  Speaker 2: Yes, we should watch Michael Phelps and then go, Dad,
• 46:08
  Speaker 2: is that? Look at that man's frame. That's not a...
• 46:12
  Speaker 2: A sport?
• 46:13
  Speaker 1: Or flip it around, do the other side of the coin, go,
• 46:16
  Speaker 1: look at all these pretend athletes competing on an international
• 46:21
  Speaker 1: stage for a gold medal for, oh, I'm in the water.
• 46:25
  Speaker 1: I touched the water real fast. Yeah. What a bunch
• 46:29
  Speaker 1: of idiots, right, Dad?
• 46:30
  Speaker 2: I wanted to add a last point here. Last night,
• 46:33
  Speaker 2: I had a talk with my dad and my mom.
• 46:35
  Speaker 2: It was awkward. Dad apologized for the wrestling thing, but
• 46:38
  Speaker 2: also said he wants me to grow up strong so
• 46:40
  Speaker 2: that I can defend myself. He says swimming won't help
• 46:42
  Speaker 2: me when I get in trouble. I was really confused
• 46:45
  Speaker 2: about that because I never have been bullied or gotten
• 46:47
  Speaker 2: in trouble or something like that. I mean, if OP
• 46:50
  Speaker 2: was near water, it would help. He'd just swim away
• 46:52
  Speaker 2: from those bullies. They'd never catch him.
• 46:55
  Speaker 1: Your dad's missing the fundamental principle of self-defense. If you
• 46:59
  Speaker 1: ever get in a situation where someone wants to throw
• 47:02
  Speaker 1: down with you, just get away. Get away from that person.
• 47:05
  Speaker 2: We're not going to be using wrestling moves when we're
• 47:07
  Speaker 2: in a fight.
• 47:08
  Speaker 1: The answer is not to get down in your stance
• 47:10
  Speaker 1: and tackle him to the pavement. The answer is to
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: extract yourself.
• 47:13
  Speaker 2: Mom later told me that my dad used to get
• 47:15
  Speaker 2: bullied a lot in high school. I was about to
• 47:17
  Speaker 2: say it felt like he was just attributing. Projection! So
• 47:22
  Speaker 2: he started working out in college and that helped him
• 47:24
  Speaker 2: a lot. I guess he wanted me to do the same.
• 47:26
  Speaker 2: It's really weird at home at the moment, but I
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: guess he's not a complete butt. Still kind of, but
• 47:31
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 47:31
  Speaker 1: Yeah, he was just projecting his own.
• 47:35
  Speaker 2: Figured it out. Isn't that what all parents do?
• 47:37
  Speaker 1: Can't really blame him for that, right? It's like, God,
• 47:40
  Speaker 1: that would suck if he had my life.
• 47:42
  Speaker 2: This is Michael Phelps's body. Pansy. Michael Phelps's.
• 47:46
  Speaker 1: It's all CGI. Look at that. Pull up what Steve
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: Rogers looked like before he got the super soldier serum.
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: That's what a swimmer looks like in real life. And
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: if you've ever seen a swimmer with muscles, they're wearing
• 47:57
  Speaker 1: a suit. They're lying. And if any swimmer you know
• 48:00
  Speaker 1: wasn't wearing a suit, they have all those muscles because
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: they are.
• 48:04
  Speaker 2: That's a swimmer.
• 48:05
  Speaker 1: There's Michael Phelps. There's the Phelps that I know.
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: Michael Phelps without the CGI.
• 48:10
  Speaker 1: Michael Phelps pre-CGI.
• 48:13
  Speaker 3: Look, I was researching the spider game.
• 48:15
  Speaker 1: Yes, the bug squisher. Yes.
• 48:18
  Speaker 2: Big Bertha.
• 48:19
  Speaker 1: Oh, whoa.
• 48:20
  Speaker 2: Big Bertha, you ever play that?
• 48:22
  Speaker 1: This is the first time I'm laying eyes on Big Bertha.
• 48:25
  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, you throw the things.
• 48:27
  Speaker 1: The whole thing is feed Big Bertha.
• 48:30
  Speaker 2: Yes, feed Big Bertha. But also the best thing was this. Truthfully,
• 48:36
  Speaker 2: this was the best.
• 48:37
  Speaker 1: It was just like in every Chuck E. Cheese for
• 48:39
  Speaker 1: no reason. What was that? I would go.
• 48:42
  Speaker 2: On this constantly and be like, I was above everyone.
• 48:45
  Speaker 2: I was like, look how tall I am. Oh my God,
• 48:47
  Speaker 2: I loved it.
• 48:48
  Speaker 1: Oh, yeah. No, that's why they go up.
• 48:50
  Speaker 2: You can see like the whole thing. That's what I loved.
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: Wanted that thing to go through the freaking roof. Yeah.
• 48:55
  Speaker 2: And then also.
• 48:56
  Speaker 4: Oh, my God.
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: Do you know what the City Museum in St. Louis is?
• 48:59
  Speaker 1: Of course you don't. Look it up right now. It's
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: an adult playground. There are no arcade games, but look
• 49:03
  Speaker 1: up the City Museum in St. Louis, please. The thought
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: of that going through the roof just reminded me of
• 49:07
  Speaker 1: because there's a big building that was gutted and this
• 49:11
  Speaker 1: guy turned it into like a giant like art installation
• 49:15
  Speaker 1: slash museum slash interactive playground for like, I mean, it
• 49:19
  Speaker 1: was sick. as a kid dude it's just as sick
• 49:22
  Speaker 1: as an adult looks so There's just some spots you
• 49:24
  Speaker 1: can't get into because you're not small enough anymore. They
• 49:27
  Speaker 1: got a giant praying mantis on the roof. They got
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: a fighter jet. They got stuff hanging off the ceiling
• 49:32
  Speaker 1: you can climb up into. It's so cool, dude. It's
• 49:35
  Speaker 1: the coolest place. Maybe the coolest place I've ever been. Yeah,
• 49:39
  Speaker 1: and that's like, and the building's like, I don't know, like,
• 49:41
  Speaker 1: eight stories tall probably five or six well.
• 49:44
  Speaker 3: This cool you want to know what i miss it
• 49:47
  Speaker 3: was called kahuna ville is that feels like they were
• 49:50
  Speaker 3: just trying to not get sued by jimmy buffett kahuna
• 49:53
  Speaker 3: ville the eastwood mall they had they used to have
• 49:55
  Speaker 3: a carousel in my mall.
• 49:57
  Speaker 2: Oh yeah they used to have a carousel at my mall.
• 49:59
  Speaker 3: And then they took it out and then they used
• 50:01
  Speaker 3: to also have little like kiosks we got our turtle
• 50:04
  Speaker 3: there kind of lame that they took the carousel out
• 50:06
  Speaker 3: of the mall got like this big Then it ran away.
• 50:08
  Speaker 1: Oh, there's also the St. Louis Science Center. I forgot
• 50:11
  Speaker 1: about the Science Center.
• 50:12
  Speaker 2: This is what it looked like on the outside.
• 50:14
  Speaker 1: Kahunaville!
• 50:15
  Speaker 2: That was right next to the mall.
• 50:16
  Speaker 1: That's a, I got, I got that. That's a big kahuna.
• 50:19
  Speaker 2: It's basically like a rainforest cafe.
• 50:20
  Speaker 1: It's, yeah, I was about to say, that's just, that's
• 50:22
  Speaker 1: actually just Rainforest Cafe.
• 50:24
  Speaker 3: Kahunaville, and it had a very specific smell. And we
• 50:28
  Speaker 3: all know what it smells like, me and all my siblings.
• 50:30
  Speaker 3: And then literally, you just like walk in somewhere and
• 50:32
  Speaker 3: it's like, oh my god, it.
• 50:33
  Speaker 2: Smells like Kahunaville. And there you have it.
• 50:34
  Speaker 1: Final side thing. Very interesting thing about the guy who
• 50:37
  Speaker 1: made the city museum. He was going to make another
• 50:40
  Speaker 1: thing called like Concrete City or Concrete-topia or something. He
• 50:44
  Speaker 1: was just going to lay a bunch of, like, it
• 50:45
  Speaker 1: was going to be like a giant concrete compound.
• 50:47
  Speaker 2: Lay a bunch of concrete.
• 50:48
  Speaker 1: And he fell in the concrete and died.
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: You die how you live, I suppose.
• 50:53
  Speaker 1: He used to be able to sneak into the ruins.
• 50:55
  Speaker 1: They've torn it all down now. And that is the
• 50:57
  Speaker 1: end of those stories, but we have some comments to
• 51:00
  Speaker 1: finish off this video. The video, My Sister Bullied Me
• 51:03
  Speaker 1: For Years Now, Karma Finally Got Her. That was posted
• 51:06
  Speaker 1: on August 19th, 2026. The TLDR for the first story is,
• 51:12
  Speaker 1: OP is the youngest of four sisters, and growing up,
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: one sister named Lisa bullied her relentlessly. Lisa spread... vicious rumors,
• 51:19
  Speaker 1: humiliated OP in front of entire groups of girls, and
• 51:23
  Speaker 1: played the perfect innocent angel at home. So convincingly that
• 51:26
  Speaker 1: teachers and even OP's older sisters believed OP was making
• 51:30
  Speaker 1: it all up. It took years and Lisa finally confessing
• 51:34
  Speaker 1: to a therapist for the family to realize the truth.
• 51:37
  Speaker 1: Now grown, married, and a new parent, OP wants nothing
• 51:41
  Speaker 1: to do with any of her sisters, but they are
• 51:43
  Speaker 1: desperate to meet the baby, and OP's own wife keeps
• 51:47
  Speaker 1: pushing him to forgive. If you're curious to know how
• 51:50
  Speaker 1: that story unfolds, you can go watch the full video.
• 51:53
  Speaker 3: Watch it so comment number one from cozy karma 1542
• 51:57
  Speaker 3: says story one i'm not a fan of everyone manipulating
• 52:00
  Speaker 3: op into being in contact with his abuser this is
• 52:04
  Speaker 3: a major l for the wife too comment number two
• 52:07
  Speaker 3: from eol care education debbie says if she was truly
• 52:11
  Speaker 3: sorry she would leave him alone at his request she
• 52:14
  Speaker 3: would honor him by leaving him alone she's just trying
• 52:17
  Speaker 3: to make herself feel better in my.
• 52:19
  Speaker 1: Opinion yeah i bet you that's pretty.
• 52:22
  Speaker 3: Accurate sure sure sure comment number three from theme park
• 52:26
  Speaker 3: exclusives 85 86 forgiveness is not the same as reconciliation
• 52:31
  Speaker 3: you forgive to heal yourself no need to reconcile that
• 52:36
  Speaker 3: is very true and the last comment from ollie sean
• 52:40
  Speaker 3: 92 says cheating would have been less of a betrayal
• 52:43
  Speaker 3: than this i don't remember what the betrayal was but sure.
• 52:47
  Speaker 1: That's that sounds pretty Desevere. Maybe we should all go
• 52:51
  Speaker 1: watch that episode together.
• 52:53
  Speaker 2: Ooh, let's see. Yeah, let's see what's so crazy. But
• 52:56
  Speaker 2: that's the end of those comments and the end of
• 52:58
  Speaker 2: this episode. So if you love us, make sure to subscribe.
• 53:02
  Speaker 1: We love you and see you tomorrow.