I Thought Motherhood Would Change Me More Than It Did

Mommywood · Jun 4, 2026 · 10m

I Thought Motherhood Would Make Me Disappear. It Didn’t.

Before I became a mom, I was honestly terrified of losing myself.

I felt like everywhere I looked, the story was the same: motherhood changes you completely. You stop recognizing yourself. Your dreams go on pause. Your entire identity becomes “mom.” And while I understood that for a lot of women, I also quietly panicked thinking… wait, what if I disappear?

But the weird thing is… I don’t actually feel like I disappeared.

And sometimes I almost feel guilty saying that out loud.

Because yes, motherhood changed me. Of course it did. I’m…