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My husband FAKED a severe allergy for years…I want to leave him! | Reddit Stories | ft. Kwesi James | EP3044 · ok storytime

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  Speaker 1: Hey, this is Riley. And this is Dakota, your favorite
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  Speaker 2: My husband faked a deadly allergy for years. I want
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  Speaker 2: to leave him.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, damn.
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  Speaker 2: When I met my husband and we started dating, he
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  Speaker 2: told me that he was very allergic to a certain food.
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  Speaker 2: We avoided certain restaurants on dates. He was always careful
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  Speaker 2: what he ordered when we ate out. And the first
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  Speaker 2: time I cooked for him, I purged that food from
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  Speaker 2: my apartment and basically sterilized my kitchen.
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  Speaker 4: Do you have any guesses?
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  Speaker 2: Ah, peanuts.
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  Speaker 4: Peanuts is usually peanuts.
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  Speaker 3: Ah, strawberries.
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  Speaker 4: Strawberries?
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  Speaker 2: Specifically strawberries.
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  Speaker 5: My wife is allergic to strawberries, and I don't even
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  Speaker 5: know if it's true. The whole family doesn't know. The
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  Speaker 5: whole family's like, no, I don't think it's true.
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  Speaker 4: I don't buy it. So it's something like this.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah. I got a lot to talk about
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  Speaker 3: when I get home.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 2: You're like, prove it. He showed me his EpiPen and
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  Speaker 2: explained how to use it. When we moved in together,
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  Speaker 2: we made sure there was one in the house, one
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  Speaker 2: in the car, and And I always had one in
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  Speaker 2: my purse. Don't you kind of like have to go
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  Speaker 2: to a doctor?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: What doctor was like, yeah, here, take this EpiPen.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like the doctor, well, come on, especially if
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  Speaker 4: it's like the US, they're like, you paid for it.
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  Speaker 3: You know what?
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  Speaker 4: We're not going to question it. You're allergic. Cool. Go
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  Speaker 4: for it.
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  Speaker 3: Word, word, word.
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  Speaker 2: My family knows and they avoid using that food at
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  Speaker 2: family events. And my husband is still extra careful about
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  Speaker 2: what he eats. Last weekend for my brother's birthday, my
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  Speaker 2: sister-in-law made dinner. One of my nephews has an allergy,
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  Speaker 2: though different from my husband, and my sister-in-law is very
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  Speaker 2: diligent about keeping him and my husband safe.
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  Speaker 3: Uh-oh.
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  Speaker 2: She gave us two Tupperware dishes of leftovers, and the
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  Speaker 2: one for my husband had a different colored lid. When
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  Speaker 2: my husband ate the wrong leftovers, both me and my
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  Speaker 2: sister-in-law panicked.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, it's about to get real.
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  Speaker 2: Uh-oh. My husband said even having his food prepared with
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  Speaker 2: utensils that touched the food he's allergic to would be
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  Speaker 2: enough to give him a very bad reaction. He told
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  Speaker 2: me stories of it happening as a kid, but he
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  Speaker 2: ate the wrong dish of leftovers and nothing happened.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, snap. Either he didn't know, he.
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  Speaker 3: Is lying.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Or he's not as allergic as he think he is.
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  Speaker 2: That's what I was thinking. Like maybe he just kind
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  Speaker 2: of grew because sometimes you can like grow out of
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  Speaker 2: an allergy.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 4: Right.
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  Speaker 3: Or manifest it. Yeah. Yeah. He's like, I want to
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  Speaker 3: eat it. Or somebody like misdiagnose. Yeah. You know what
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  Speaker 3: I'm saying?
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  Speaker 2: It could be that. It could not be him lying.
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  Speaker 4: It could be like his mom.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, his mom was like, you're allergic.
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  Speaker 4: We don't eat that. Right. And then you're allergic.
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  Speaker 3: But for some reason, I think the plot is going
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  Speaker 3: to thicken.
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  Speaker 2: I think you're right.
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  Speaker 4: You know who this sounds like?
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  Speaker 3: Who?
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  Speaker 4: Riley. Riley was like, I can't have shrimp.
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  Speaker 3: No Ray.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, no shrimp, nothing. And he's like, wait, I can
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  Speaker 4: have shrimp.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, he's like, I lied.
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  Speaker 4: I lied.
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  Speaker 4: I'm Keon. And we have a very special guest here today.
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  Speaker 4: Can you introduce yourself?
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  Speaker 3: Yo, I'm Kwesi James. First of his name. Come on.
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  Speaker 3: I'm out there.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. And Kwesi's going to help us read these stories
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  Speaker 2: and give some fun jokes and advice.
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  Speaker 3: Let's start. Let's get into it. Are we getting into
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  Speaker 3: this story now?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, we're getting into this story. All right, cool.
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  Speaker 3: I'll wait.
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  Speaker 4: Are you about to take some notes? You're like, what
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  Speaker 4: do I say to my wife?
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  Speaker 3: I'm playing Columbo in my head.
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  Speaker 5: You're figuring it out. All the facts and all the
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  Speaker 5: clues are coming, but I'll wait.
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  Speaker 4: Does your wife have an EpiPen?
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  Speaker 3: No, but do you have EpiPen? Is there any allergy?
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  Speaker 4: I think it's like for severe, like.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, like a severe allergy.
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  Speaker 3: Really?
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  Speaker 2: It's just adrenaline.
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  Speaker 3: That's it?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 3: This gets you to the hospital?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, basically.
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  Speaker 3: Huh.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, because I have a friend who has severe, severe
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  Speaker 2: allergies to like six different things. And so he's always
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  Speaker 2: got his EpiPen on him.
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  Speaker 5: No, we don't have EpiPen in the house, but it's
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  Speaker 5: been told the whole family knows.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. Meaning her family is like, yeah, Courtney's allergic to strawberries.
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  Speaker 2: Avoid. Wheat.
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  Speaker 3: Everyone is like, but really?
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  Speaker 2: Are you sure?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah. So we'll get to the bottom of this.
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  Speaker 2: He confessed to me and my family that he was
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  Speaker 2: never allergic. Oh, all right.
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  Speaker 3: That was easy.
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  Speaker 2: He just doesn't like that particular food, and when he
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  Speaker 2: went to university, he started saying he was allergic because
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  Speaker 2: that was better than looking like a picky eater.
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  Speaker 3: Bruh.
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  Speaker 2: That's crazy.
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  Speaker 3: See how lies just compound?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, he's like, I didn't know what to tell you.
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  Speaker 2: I've been saying this lie since college.
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  Speaker 3: I have a body in the basement.
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  Speaker 4: He's like, I have so.
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  Speaker 2: Many other lies I need to tell you now. His
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  Speaker 2: mom passed away before I met him. His parents were divorced,
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  Speaker 2: and until he was an adult, He didn't see his
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  Speaker 2: dad a lot because his dad lived in another province.
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  Speaker 3: Because he keeps lying.
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  Speaker 2: He just keeps lying. So his dad, his friends, and
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  Speaker 2: even his own family thought he was allergic. The panic
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  Speaker 2: I felt when I thought he ate something that would
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  Speaker 2: unalive him is something I could never describe. My sister-in-law
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  Speaker 2: thought she did unalive him. I can't believe he's been
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  Speaker 2: lying since the day I met him.
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  Speaker 4: That's crazy.
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  Speaker 3: That's crazy.
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  Speaker 2: Would this lie be enough? Like if you found out
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  Speaker 2: that your wife had a deathly allergy and that she
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  Speaker 2: actually was just lying about it the whole time.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, what if your wife was like- And you were changing.
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  Speaker 2: Your whole life around it. Like you were cooking, like
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  Speaker 2: you were sanitizing the kitchen every day and telling everyone
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  Speaker 2: to be careful.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Oh, well, let's just start here. Yeah. I love you, sweetheart.
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  Speaker 3: From the bottom of my heart.
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  Speaker 2: Mm-hmm.
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  Speaker 3: I love you, sweetheart. All right, this is a test
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  Speaker 3: on forgiveness.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: This is a test on if someone is not well
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  Speaker 5: in a way, and how do I forgive this behavior
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  Speaker 5: to find change behavior?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: I just seen a movie similar to this where the couple...
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  Speaker 5: We're about to get married, playing a game.
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  Speaker 3: It's a movie. It's out.
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  Speaker 2: Is this the drama?
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  Speaker 3: Yes. Okay.
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  Speaker 2: Don't spoil it.
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  Speaker 4: Yes.
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  Speaker 3: Okay. I haven't seen it yet. Got it. And at
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  Speaker 3: the end of that moment, I was like, oh, forgiveness.
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  Speaker 2: Wow.
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  Speaker 3: I don't have it.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 5: I don't have it. It's hard for me to be like, wait, what?
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  Speaker 5: Why go so far? Why do so much to keep
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  Speaker 5: this lie alive?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, it is very interesting in this case because he
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  Speaker 2: did go really far. Like everyone around him. Everyone around
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  Speaker 2: him was like playing into this.
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  Speaker 4: They had EpiPens everywhere. He could have just said everywhere. Wait,
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  Speaker 4: how'd they get the EpiPens? I mean, again, like I said.
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  Speaker 4: That's what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 3: Insurance cover that?
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  Speaker 2: I guess so. Who paid for that?
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  Speaker 4: I don't know. Taxes?
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  Speaker 3: We paid for the EpiPen, bro.
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  Speaker 2: We're paying for his EpiPen?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Unbelievable.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I just need to get it off my chest how
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  Speaker 2: furious I am at him right now. Any advice? We
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  Speaker 2: have an update nearly four years later.
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  Speaker 4: I'm doing something real fun. I go, all right, the
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  Speaker 4: meal that we're eating, whatever you're allergic to, we're eating
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  Speaker 4: it for the week.
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  Speaker 3: Wow, yeah.
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  Speaker 4: You're getting used to this. I don't care. I don't
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  Speaker 4: care if you.
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  Speaker 2: Don't like it.
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  Speaker 4: I miss eating.
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  Speaker 3: I know.
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  Speaker 4: I don't know.
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  Speaker 2: I'm trying to think of like mushrooms.
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  Speaker 4: I like mushrooms. Shrimp. It was like shrimp.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: I love shrimp. We're doing bubble gum. True.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I'm trying to think of something that is very common
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  Speaker 2: to have in kitchens because she said she purged her kitchen.
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  Speaker 4: I think it was like peanuts was the easiest one.
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  Speaker 3: For a long time.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah. So I'm thinking like peanuts or mushrooms maybe is
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  Speaker 2: something that he said he was allergic to.
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  Speaker 4: I said we're growing up.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 4: We're going to grow up this week.
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  Speaker 3: Right.
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  Speaker 4: You're trying this food because I like it. Because if
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  Speaker 4: Opie was like, eh, I don't feel anything to it.
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  Speaker 4: I don't care about it.
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  Speaker 2: She likes it.
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  Speaker 5: He changed everyone's lives because of this lie.
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  Speaker 3: He's been telling for so long.
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  Speaker 2: Do you think that they're going to stay together four
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  Speaker 2: years later? Because we're about to jump four years.
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  Speaker 3: Well, does he save animals?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Is he a really good person? Does he save animals
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  Speaker 3: in his spare time? Yeah. Is he really attractive? Does
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  Speaker 3: he give swimming classes to like youth?
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying? Does he do things that's like, oh,
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  Speaker 3: this outweighs.
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  Speaker 2: Is this his worst trait?
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  Speaker 4: Exactly.
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  Speaker 2: And he's really good at it.
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  Speaker 3: Right. He's not giving swimming lessons to kids. To the youths. No,
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  Speaker 3: to youths. Yeah. In a city. You know what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 5: If he's not paying parking tickets for people or putting
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  Speaker 5: quarters in meters, no.
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  Speaker 2: We're done.
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  Speaker 3: It's over.
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  Speaker 2: Well, let's see if she's staying. Nearly four years later.
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  Speaker 2: The long and short of it is that we are
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  Speaker 2: in marriage counseling.
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  Speaker 3: Makes sense.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, four years later.
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  Speaker 4: Wow.
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  Speaker 2: Yes, and I'm not trying to sound dramatic. When the
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  Speaker 2: situation with the leftovers happened, my husband apologized to me
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  Speaker 2: for making me panic and for his lying. He admitted
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  Speaker 2: to being a picky eater, and while a lot of
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  Speaker 2: people were upset with him, I thought that was the
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  Speaker 2: end of it. I tried to let it go, even
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  Speaker 2: though it bothered me how he went so far as
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  Speaker 2: to carry an EpiPen for an allergy he doesn't have.
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  Speaker 2: But this wasn't the only lie, and I've been floundering.
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  Speaker 2: He lied about receiving a scholarship for University for Athletics,
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  Speaker 2: and then losing it because he got injured. Okay, so
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  Speaker 2: now we're finding out that, as you said, it wasn't
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  Speaker 2: the only lie.
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  Speaker 3: This is compounding.
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  Speaker 4: What's his real name?
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  Speaker 3: No, leave him.
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  Speaker 2: Leave him. He was never recruited for a sport. He
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  Speaker 2: applied to university the regular way and took student loans
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  Speaker 2: like most other people do. He lied about spending a
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  Speaker 2: season working in Antarctica before we met.
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  Speaker 3: What? What is Homeboy's problem? Why is he lying about
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  Speaker 3: these things?
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  Speaker 2: He's never even been there. He lied about restoring an
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  Speaker 2: old automobile. He bought it fully restored, but when he
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  Speaker 2: goes to car shows, he says he did it wrong.
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  Speaker 2: it all himself. There are a million other things, and
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  Speaker 2: it's basically been a bomb in our relationship. I know.
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  Speaker 2: And to have proof there are things he didn't lie about,
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  Speaker 2: his mom did pass away from a terminal illness. That
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  Speaker 2: would be insane if he lied about that. That would
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  Speaker 2: be like diabolic.
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  Speaker 3: But at this point, sadly, not far-fetched.
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  Speaker 2: I know. I wouldn't, you know, I could believe he
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  Speaker 2: would lie about that.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: Because he's lied about everything else.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, what is that called?
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  Speaker 2: Oh, like a chronic, yeah, pathological liar.
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  Speaker 4: Pathological liar. Psychopath.
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  Speaker 5: And it says, I don't want to, yeah, something's obviously
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  Speaker 5: wrong where homeboy needs some type of therapy.
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  Speaker 2: Because it seems like, yeah, that is a pathological liar
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  Speaker 2: if this is someone who lies about really small things
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  Speaker 2: for apparently no reason.
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  Speaker 4: And big things, too. I would be like, I don't
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  Speaker 4: know you. I don't trust you.
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  Speaker 2: It's big things that seem to grow into, or small
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  Speaker 2: things that seem to grow into bigger things.
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  Speaker 4: It's the snowball effect.
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  Speaker 3: Seems like a lie. Seems like a regular lie to me. Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: That can happen.
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  Speaker 2: Because it's not like, oh, my mom passed away. He's
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  Speaker 2: not lying about that. He said, oh, well, I'm allergic
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  Speaker 2: to that.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But then it becomes a much bigger thing because now
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  Speaker 2: everyone's catering and around him.
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  Speaker 5: And also, we have to admit, like, yo, it's really
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  Speaker 5: hard telling the truth.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah. Like, especially when you're wrong.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: Like, to, like, fess up to something.
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  Speaker 5: Like, it takes, like, either you get checked as a
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  Speaker 5: kid or at some point in your life.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 3: So, like, for instance, my roommate, his dad had a
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  Speaker 3: really expensive car. And he... scratched that car so bad
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  Speaker 3: on the side of the house. So bad.
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  Speaker 5: And I'm like, oh, just say it was a Mercedes model.
• 11:43
  Speaker 4: It was an S, S class. Very, very, very brand new.
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  Speaker 5: Dad makes a lot of money and he destroyed the
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  Speaker 5: side of his car.
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  Speaker 3: I mean, he just scratched it on the wall.
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  Speaker 5: And I was like, oh man, just say someone bumped
• 11:57
  Speaker 5: into the car and he stopped me.
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  Speaker 3: He's like, no, man. I got to do the hard thing.
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  Speaker 2: And I was like, damn.
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  Speaker 3: Damn. Oh, wow. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: He's probably giving swim lessons to the youth.
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  Speaker 3: Exactly. He's a good guy. Exactly.
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  Speaker 2: That's crazy.
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  Speaker 5: When you're doing something wrong, it's sometimes really hard because
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  Speaker 5: it's so easy to lie.
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  Speaker 3: To get the pressure off of you. But I don't
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  Speaker 3: think there's any pressure on homeboy.
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 3: It's just plain lies.
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  Speaker 2: Until I guess OP was like, is there anything else
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  Speaker 2: you lied about? He's like, well, and unrolled the scroll
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  Speaker 2: of all the lies.
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  Speaker 3: Right. Oh, my gosh.
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  Speaker 4: He's like, you know how I said I loved you?
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  Speaker 2: Another lie. His dad lives in another province and wasn't
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  Speaker 2: involved in his life.
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  Speaker 3: This is true. Canada. Ah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 2: He has a law degree and works as a lawyer.
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  Speaker 2: My husband's excuse is that he lies so he can
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  Speaker 2: feel better about himself. And that's why he doesn't lie
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  Speaker 2: about big things like his dad not being involved in
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  Speaker 2: his life growing up.
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  Speaker 3: Is this man Robert Ford?
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  Speaker 2: He could be. He could be.
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  Speaker 3: I think it's Robert Ford.
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  Speaker 2: I think we cracked the code. Yeah, it's... It's a
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  Speaker 2: little concerning that he is a lawyer and a real, like,
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  Speaker 2: I imagine that he's a really good liar.
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  Speaker 3: Right, right.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, he must be.
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  Speaker 3: And just so you know, if you don't know who
• 13:21
  Speaker 3: Robert Ford is, Google. Yeah. The premier of Ontario. Fun
• 13:28
  Speaker 3: fact for Kweisi James. We're a fact show now. Yeah,
• 13:32
  Speaker 3: and he's dead.
• 13:33
  Speaker 4: Oh.
• 13:33
  Speaker 3: Sorry. Bummer.
• 13:34
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think OP, I don't know how you come
• 13:37
  Speaker 2: back from this. All of these lies.
• 13:39
  Speaker 3: So would you end the relationship?
• 13:41
  Speaker 2: If I found out that he, like, not only, if
• 13:43
  Speaker 2: it was just the allergy thing.
• 13:45
  Speaker 3: Yeah, what's the cutoff point for you?
• 13:46
  Speaker 2: I think, I think, I find out the allergy thing.
• 13:48
  Speaker 2: I'm like, okay, you know, that's pretty hurtful. We go
• 13:51
  Speaker 2: to counseling.
• 13:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 13:52
  Speaker 2: Maybe I get over that. But then when I find
• 13:54
  Speaker 2: out that it's, there's like a hundred other things.
• 13:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 13:57
  Speaker 2: That he's been lying about. To me, to make him
• 14:00
  Speaker 2: look better to me.
• 14:01
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 14:01
  Speaker 2: I'd be like, why do you need to look better?
• 14:03
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 14:04
  Speaker 2: You know, what about our relationship has made you think?
• 14:07
  Speaker 2: That you can't be yourself.
• 14:08
  Speaker 3: I dig that. So what is it? The third lie?
• 14:10
  Speaker 3: The fourth lie?
• 14:11
  Speaker 2: The third lie? The three lies you're out.
• 14:12
  Speaker 3: The three lies and you're done.
• 14:13
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 14:14
  Speaker 3: That's enough. Yeah. Oh, something's wrong.
• 14:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 14:18
  Speaker 3: Something's wrong.
• 14:18
  Speaker 4: I did look it up. I wanted to see what
• 14:20
  Speaker 4: he was allergic to. I couldn't find it. But there
• 14:23
  Speaker 4: is a comment from the post that we're going to finish.
• 14:25
  Speaker 4: But the comment from Yeah Rocco says, these are not
• 14:28
  Speaker 4: the only lies. These are the only lies that you
• 14:30
  Speaker 4: know about.
• 14:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Yeah, yeah.
• 14:32
  Speaker 4: He could be still lying about whatever.
• 14:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 14:36
  Speaker 3: A lot.
• 14:37
  Speaker 4: Yeah. Like, every time he talks, you're like, was that
• 14:39
  Speaker 4: a lie?
• 14:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah, was that true?
• 14:40
  Speaker 4: Or is that the truth?
• 14:41
  Speaker 3: I don't know. You start questioning yourself, right? Yeah.
• 14:44
  Speaker 2: Like, what about our relationship is even true?
• 14:47
  Speaker 3: Goodness gracious, what? That's work.
• 14:50
  Speaker 2: Because then it, like, I feel like then you start
• 14:51
  Speaker 2: to think, oh, well, because we read so many cheating stories.
• 14:55
  Speaker 2: And you're like, well, if you can lie about all this,
• 14:57
  Speaker 2: what's to say you can't lie about something bigger?
• 14:58
  Speaker 3: Yeah. And it seems like he's just not good at it. No.
• 15:03
  Speaker 4: No.
• 15:03
  Speaker 2: Well, kind of. I guess he did hold up for
• 15:05
  Speaker 2: like four years.
• 15:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 15:07
  Speaker 2: So he's okay at it.
• 15:08
  Speaker 3: Because who questions the allergy except me or my wife
• 15:11
  Speaker 3: with strawberries?
• 15:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 15:12
  Speaker 3: But who questions the allergy? Hmm. It's because... It's hard
• 15:16
  Speaker 3: to put someone on the spot. I don't know.
• 15:18
  Speaker 2: You probably figured it out. You're questioning the strawberry.
• 15:22
  Speaker 3: My wife's mom questioned the strawberries, and I was like, huh.
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: Maybe I should question it.
• 15:27
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah. But my wife doesn't really lie.
• 15:33
  Speaker 5: She's like, yeah, but it's hard to put someone on
• 15:36
  Speaker 5: the spot when they have some type of allergic reaction.
• 15:39
  Speaker 3: You just don't know.
• 15:40
  Speaker 4: We did this with my buddy growing up. He was like,
• 15:42
  Speaker 4: I'm allergic to ketchup, but then he's eating pizza. We're like, oh,
• 15:46
  Speaker 4: because you're like, okay, is there something in the ketchup
• 15:48
  Speaker 4: that you can't have?
• 15:49
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 15:49
  Speaker 4: He's like, no, no, no, I just, keep that away
• 15:51
  Speaker 4: from me. I'm really allergic to ketchup. We found out
• 15:53
  Speaker 4: later that he, again, is just a picky eater. And
• 15:55
  Speaker 4: he's like, I don't like, he's like, please, I don't
• 15:58
  Speaker 4: like ketchup.
• 15:59
  Speaker 2: I had a friend who, like, said that they were really,
• 16:02
  Speaker 2: or they didn't say they were allergic to it, but
• 16:04
  Speaker 2: they said that they're like, I can't eat sugar. Can't
• 16:07
  Speaker 2: eat sugar. And I was like, oh, okay. And so
• 16:08
  Speaker 2: they avoided, like, anything sugary. And I thought they were
• 16:12
  Speaker 2: allergic to something because they were really, you know, adamant
• 16:15
  Speaker 2: that they couldn't eat it.
• 16:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 16:16
  Speaker 2: But then I realized, I was like, they drink a
• 16:18
  Speaker 2: lot of soda.
• 16:20
  Speaker 3: Got it.
• 16:20
  Speaker 2: Like, actually, I don't know what your vibe is because
• 16:23
  Speaker 2: you just drink so much soda.
• 16:24
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Goodness gracious. Well, my cutoff point is two lies. Mm-hmm.
• 16:31
  Speaker 3: Two lies, and it's like, whoa, now I'm questioning, like,
• 16:34
  Speaker 3: I'm questioning friendships.
• 16:36
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we won't even get to a third.
• 16:38
  Speaker 3: You know what I mean? Yeah, there's no three lies. Like,
• 16:41
  Speaker 3: One lie, shame on you. Two lies, shame on me. Three,
• 16:44
  Speaker 3: it won't even get there.
• 16:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we're not there. But we got a little bit left.
• 16:48
  Speaker 2: For about a year and a half after the leftover situation,
• 16:50
  Speaker 2: things were normal, even if people couldn't understand why he
• 16:54
  Speaker 2: lied about an allergy. Then more lies came out. I
• 16:58
  Speaker 2: haven't left because we have a five-year-old. We are in
• 17:01
  Speaker 2: counseling because we are both children of divorce, and I
• 17:04
  Speaker 2: don't want that for my son. My family and friends
• 17:06
  Speaker 2: say I should leave, but I'm trying to work on
• 17:09
  Speaker 2: my marriage for my son's sake. I'm floundering. That's basically
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: what's going on and where I'm at right now. And
• 17:15
  Speaker 2: we've got some relevant comments. Polyester says, What happened to
• 17:18
  Speaker 2: the nephew who also got his food switched? Great point.
• 17:21
  Speaker 4: They were both allergic.
• 17:23
  Speaker 2: OP says, My nephew never had his food switched. My
• 17:27
  Speaker 2: sister-in-law gave us two containers of leftovers to take home. Oh,
• 17:31
  Speaker 2: and my husband ate mine instead of his own. When
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: asked how she got an EpiPen, she says, In Canada,
• 17:37
  Speaker 2: you can purchase them at the pharmacy. A prescription isn't required.
• 17:40
  Speaker 3: Dang.
• 17:40
  Speaker 4: Shout out to Canada for that.
• 17:42
  Speaker 3: I'm just saying. Big maple leaf right there for you.
• 17:46
  Speaker 2: I guess it makes sense because it's not specific to
• 17:49
  Speaker 2: an allergy.
• 17:50
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 17:51
  Speaker 2: But yeah, that's interesting that you can just over the
• 17:53
  Speaker 2: counter get that.
• 17:54
  Speaker 5: My uncle, who used to live with us for a minute,
• 17:57
  Speaker 5: he was adamant, like, oh, I don't eat meat.
• 18:01
  Speaker 3: I don't think he looked down on us for eating meat,
• 18:03
  Speaker 3: but he's like, oh, I don't eat meat.
• 18:04
  Speaker 5: I remember one time I woke up really late at
• 18:06
  Speaker 5: night and my mom made some lasagna and I saw
• 18:09
  Speaker 5: him eating it from the Pyrex dish.
• 18:11
  Speaker 4: And he's like, he's so good.
• 18:13
  Speaker 3: He didn't even put it in a plate, dude.
• 18:16
  Speaker 5: He opened the floor and just went crazy on this.
• 18:20
  Speaker 3: I think it was like baked ziti or something like that.
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: I don't know what it was. It was something with...
• 18:24
  Speaker 3: It was piled of meat.
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: Right? He smelled it. He's like, I can't.
• 18:28
  Speaker 3: He's been doing this for years probably. Yeah. Behind our backs. Dang.
• 18:32
  Speaker 2: I remember, I don't eat meat. And I remember, so
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: the first year that I, I used to go to
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: Catholic school.
• 18:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: And for Lent, I remember in high school, I gave
• 18:42
  Speaker 2: up meat during the week and then I would have
• 18:44
  Speaker 2: it on the weekend. And I really liked meat before,
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: but on those weekends, I craved it so much. It
• 18:53
  Speaker 2: was crazy. I was rapping in the mornings. I was
• 18:56
  Speaker 2: doing a bacon wrap thing. I didn't even like bacon
• 18:58
  Speaker 2: that much before. And then the next year, I fully
• 19:03
  Speaker 2: went off and it was fine.
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: It was done, yeah. You got over it. The transition.
• 19:06
  Speaker 2: The transition.
• 19:07
  Speaker 3: Oh, trans is so hard. It is.
• 19:09
  Speaker 5: I mean, it's hard from being a liar to, like,
• 19:11
  Speaker 5: not a liar. You can get used to these things.
• 19:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah. And it becomes part of your identity.
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 19:17
  Speaker 3: And I would imagine this lying thing is a part
• 19:19
  Speaker 3: of his identity.
• 19:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I mean, he changes who he is.
• 19:23
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 19:23
  Speaker 2: You know? Like, that's... Like, if you've introduced yourself as
• 19:27
  Speaker 2: someone and then... Everyone in like, you know, everyone around
• 19:30
  Speaker 2: you gets to know that version of yourself. It's like, oh, shoot.
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: If I tell them none of that is true.
• 19:36
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: You know, who do they?
• 19:38
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 19:38
  Speaker 5: And sometimes I think it's nice to be it's nice,
• 19:41
  Speaker 5: but it's not cool to be a social chameleon.
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 19:47
  Speaker 3: Right?
• 19:47
  Speaker 5: I'm going to make myself fit in or change the
• 19:52
  Speaker 5: way people look at me.
• 19:53
  Speaker 2: So that group likes me.
• 19:54
  Speaker 3: Because that group likes me. And it doesn't matter.
• 19:57
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 19:58
  Speaker 2: It's like, why do you need to fit into that group?
• 20:00
  Speaker 2: Wouldn't you want a group that accepts you?
• 20:02
  Speaker 3: Boom.
• 20:03
  Speaker 2: And I also feel like sometimes you forget who you are.
• 20:06
  Speaker 3: Bruh.
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: It's like, what version am I?
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: Yep.
• 20:09
  Speaker 5: And what lie did I tell that I forgot I told?
• 20:11
  Speaker 5: I tell so much lies. How do I keep up
• 20:14
  Speaker 5: with this? Yo, guess what? If you don't lie, it's
• 20:17
  Speaker 5: less work.
• 20:18
  Speaker 2: It's true.
• 20:19
  Speaker 3: I mean, you don't got to think about any conversation.
• 20:21
  Speaker 4: Because you'll slip up eventually. Exactly. Someone will catch you like, wait,
• 20:25
  Speaker 4: didn't you say that?
• 20:26
  Speaker 3: You're like, oh, wait, wait, wait. I thought you didn't
• 20:28
  Speaker 3: eat me, Uncle Selwyn.
• 20:30
  Speaker 2: He's like, no, what are you talking about? I said
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: I didn't eat me during the day.
• 20:34
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Tell the truth.
• 20:37
  Speaker 2: Tell the truth. That's the moral of the story.
• 20:39
  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's hard in the beginning, just like anything else,
• 20:42
  Speaker 5: but it makes your life so much more easier.
• 20:44
  Speaker 4: So I did some sleuthing.
• 20:46
  Speaker 2: Yes.
• 20:47
  Speaker 4: We still don't have a confirmation from OP what the
• 20:49
  Speaker 4: food was, but a lot of commenters were like, cilantro
• 20:53
  Speaker 4: or tomatoes?
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: Oh, interesting. Yeah, those are other things that could be
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: in the house a lot.
• 20:59
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 20:59
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 21:00
  Speaker 3: Okay. I have a friend that's very, very allergic.
• 21:05
  Speaker 5: To uh bell pepper oh and it's bell peppers and
• 21:09
  Speaker 5: a lot of things.
• 21:10
  Speaker 2: Yeah yeah because they're so chopped up and like.
• 21:12
  Speaker 5: Yes yeah oh yeah this is bell peppers and so
• 21:16
  Speaker 5: many things and like yeah i don't.
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: And i don't think i don't think he's lying.
• 21:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah i have a friend who's allergic to my my
• 21:23
  Speaker 2: friend with severe allergy is allergic to all dairy eggs
• 21:26
  Speaker 2: peanut butter and shellfish so what does.
• 21:29
  Speaker 3: Your friend eat air He's actually a really good cook.
• 21:33
  Speaker 2: It's kind of just like being vegan, but also you
• 21:36
  Speaker 2: eat meat. So he can have meat, fish, and then
• 21:40
  Speaker 2: it's just like being vegan. Minus peanut butter, I suppose.
• 21:44
  Speaker 2: But yeah, it's actually surprisingly, I think because he has
• 21:47
  Speaker 2: so many food restrictions, he's had to become a very
• 21:51
  Speaker 2: good cook.
• 21:52
  Speaker 3: Got it.
• 21:52
  Speaker 2: So, like, if you ever ate dinner with him, you
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: wouldn't even think about it.
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: But restaurants is just like.
• 21:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, restaurants, he just has to be like, hey, I
• 21:59
  Speaker 2: can't eat this. So, like, can you, you know, take
• 22:02
  Speaker 2: the food out? Yeah. So he has to be pretty.
• 22:04
  Speaker 3: Shout out to everyone with allergies out there. Like, man,
• 22:08
  Speaker 3: it's tough. I don't know how it feels. I don't.
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: I just don't like coconut. I'm not allergic to it,
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: but it's just not my thing.
• 22:14
  Speaker 4: See what I just thought I did? You see what
• 22:17
  Speaker 4: I did there? That's cool.
• 22:18
  Speaker 3: You know what? If you care that I don't like coconut,
• 22:21
  Speaker 3: I was like, I don't care.
• 22:23
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 22:24
  Speaker 4: So what?
• 22:26
  Speaker 2: Oh, really? So what?
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: That's what I don't like coconut, and that's okay. Yeah.
• 22:33
  Speaker 2: This is a safe space OP's partner for not liking
• 22:37
  Speaker 2: certain fits.
• 22:38
  Speaker 3: But what are you going to do, OP? I don't know.
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: I guess you get to try.
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: A rock and a hard place. For real.
• 22:43
  Speaker 2: For real. I wouldn't want to stay there.
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: I know.
• 22:46
  Speaker 5: What it is is a great lesson for your five-year-old.
• 22:50
  Speaker 5: Just like, yo, you don't have to be like this.
• 22:54
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I would be worried to stay in that relationship
• 22:55
  Speaker 2: because I wouldn't want the five-year-old to learn, oh, it's
• 22:58
  Speaker 2: okay to lie about anything. And there's no consequences.
• 23:00
  Speaker 3: Rock and a hard place. I don't know. I guess
• 23:03
  Speaker 3: buy some dice. Yeah.
• 23:06
  Speaker 4: Magic eight baller.
• 23:06
  Speaker 3: Buy a magic eight baller roll and see what happens.
• 23:09
  Speaker 5: Yeah, it's... I don't have any advice for anybody getting
• 23:12
  Speaker 5: divorced or staying together.
• 23:14
  Speaker 3: It's not my call, but man, it's that tough.
• 23:17
  Speaker 2: But we got another story that we're going to get into.
• 23:21
  Speaker 2: My husband prioritized his mother's comfort over my health. I
• 23:25
  Speaker 2: confronted him.
• 23:27
  Speaker 3: Stop it at all costs.
• 23:29
  Speaker 2: I have celiac disease. Okay, we're getting back into the allergies.
• 23:33
  Speaker 4: Common theme here.
• 23:35
  Speaker 2: So I cannot have gluten, wheat, which is flour. I
• 23:39
  Speaker 2: am particularly sensitive and cross-contamination can also cause a reaction.
• 23:44
  Speaker 2: My husband and I do have a shared kitchen. People
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: sometimes have snacks that contain gluten or food such as
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: pizza or chicken nuggets that are made with gluten-containing flour. However,
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: we do have separate utensils, meaning he has his own
• 23:58
  Speaker 2: flour sifter for gluten-containing flour, his own pots for gluten-containing noodles,
• 24:03
  Speaker 2: his own shelf in the pantry for gluten-containing snacks, his
• 24:06
  Speaker 2: own plates and bowls for the foods that contain gluten.
• 24:09
  Speaker 4: I guess gluten's just that good to him.
• 24:11
  Speaker 2: He's like, I can't give it up. Gotta keep it.
• 24:15
  Speaker 2: The rest of the kitchen we share, as those are
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: used with things that do not contain gluten. My husband
• 24:21
  Speaker 2: invited his mother over to watch the World Cup game
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: and said they would make pizza. I had no problem
• 24:26
  Speaker 2: with this. I had made my own pizza the previous
• 24:28
  Speaker 2: night and had leftovers. When his mother arrived, they went
• 24:31
  Speaker 2: to the kitchen and began making the pizza.
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: Oh, snap.
• 24:35
  Speaker 2: By the way, this comes from Rooster2041. And if you
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: want to smit your own stories, go to the r
• 24:40
  Speaker 2: slash OK Storytime subreddit. I'm Sophia.
• 24:43
  Speaker 4: I'm Keon. And we have a very special guest here.
• 24:45
  Speaker 4: Let them know who you are.
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: Quase James.
• 24:47
  Speaker 2: Thank you so much. Tell us a little bit about yourself.
• 24:50
  Speaker 3: I'm on the internet.
• 24:52
  Speaker 2: He's on the internet, folks. And now he's on our podcast.
• 24:56
  Speaker 4: I like how you took my advice before. Change it up.
• 24:59
  Speaker 3: Change it up.
• 25:01
  Speaker 2: It's cold outside. It's freezing. Thank you so much for
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: joining us.
• 25:08
  Speaker 3: You're welcome. You're welcome.
• 25:12
  Speaker 2: Thank you. Opie says, I was in the living room
• 25:16
  Speaker 2: with our niece watching a movie. I could hear them
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: talking and my husband asked her to begin sifting the flour.
• 25:22
  Speaker 2: He explained that it could be slightly hard if you
• 25:24
  Speaker 2: fill it too much as it is a little older.
• 25:27
  Speaker 2: She asked where the electric one she got us was
• 25:29
  Speaker 2: and he explained that we don't put gluten in that
• 25:31
  Speaker 2: one because wife uses it for her flour. Mother-in-law then
• 25:35
  Speaker 2: asked where the strainer is so she could use it
• 25:37
  Speaker 2: as it would be faster. It was then quiet.
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: Whose house? Wife's house? Husband's house?
• 25:41
  Speaker 2: This is their house.
• 25:42
  Speaker 3: Their house? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Mom's visiting?
• 25:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah, mom's visiting.
• 25:45
  Speaker 3: Let's continue. You know what that.
• 25:46
  Speaker 4: Means for the son? It's her house now. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 25:50
  Speaker 3: Oh, okay.
• 25:51
  Speaker 2: I walked in to get more water and saw them
• 25:53
  Speaker 2: using the strainer that is not supposed to have gluten
• 25:57
  Speaker 2: in it. They then proceed to get cheese and pepperoni
• 26:00
  Speaker 2: out of the bags without washing their hands first, meaning
• 26:03
  Speaker 2: they touched gluten and flour first. then put into a
• 26:06
  Speaker 2: bag of ingredients that is shared between us.
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: Whose house?
• 26:10
  Speaker 2: There's still their house.
• 26:12
  Speaker 3: Mom? Wife's house? Husband's house?
• 26:14
  Speaker 2: Wife's house.
• 26:14
  Speaker 3: Who's visiting? Mom. Continue.
• 26:17
  Speaker 2: So I will no longer be able to use these ingredients.
• 26:20
  Speaker 2: I now have to go buy a new strainer, cheese,
• 26:23
  Speaker 2: and pepperoni for myself. He saw I was upset and apologized.
• 26:27
  Speaker 2: I'm not sure he would have apologized if I wasn't
• 26:30
  Speaker 2: visibly upset. My kitchen is the one place in the
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: world where I'm able to feel completely safe.
• 26:36
  Speaker 3: Who's kitchen?
• 26:36
  Speaker 2: This is her kitchen.
• 26:38
  Speaker 3: Who's visiting?
• 26:39
  Speaker 2: Mother-in-law.
• 26:40
  Speaker 3: Continue.
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: I don't have to worry about getting sick because we
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: have what I guess you could say are procedures in place.
• 26:47
  Speaker 2: This has made me feel unsafe in the one place
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: in the world where I'm supposed to feel safe.
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: Mm-hmm.
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: I have explained and educated my husband on my disease,
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: and this is why we do things the way we
• 26:59
  Speaker 2: do in our kitchen.
• 27:01
  Speaker 3: Whose kitchen?
• 27:02
  Speaker 2: Her kitchen!
• 27:03
  Speaker 4: Who's visiting?
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: Mother-in-law!
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: That's right!
• 27:06
  Speaker 2: He has even gone as far to suggest things that
• 27:08
  Speaker 2: I haven't thought of to make the kitchen safer for me.
• 27:11
  Speaker 2: Because my husband already has the knowledge of my disease
• 27:14
  Speaker 2: and is very aware of what to do and not
• 27:17
  Speaker 2: do in our kitchen, it feels like he was just
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: doing those things to please his mother. Even if it
• 27:23
  Speaker 2: meant inconveniencing me.
• 27:26
  Speaker 4: Who's he married to? His wife.
• 27:28
  Speaker 3: And not married to who?
• 27:29
  Speaker 2: His mother.
• 27:30
  Speaker 3: Continue.
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: Any advice on how to handle this or talk to
• 27:33
  Speaker 2: my husband about this without making it seem like I'm overreacting?
• 27:38
  Speaker 2: We've got comments. We've got an update. But what do
• 27:41
  Speaker 2: you think? Is OP overreacting in her kitchen?
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: Yo, you said it. Her kitchen.
• 27:48
  Speaker 2: It's her kitchen.
• 27:49
  Speaker 3: Her house. Her house. What did I do when I
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: came in here, when I came through the front door?
• 27:53
  Speaker 2: You took your shoes off.
• 27:54
  Speaker 5: Because I felt that this was a non-shoe place.
• 27:58
  Speaker 2: Then you felt right.
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: You felt it. You know what I'm saying?
• 28:02
  Speaker 4: You felt it.
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: I was like, you know what? I think I'm going
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: to take my shoes off too.
• 28:06
  Speaker 2: And people don't do that sometimes.
• 28:07
  Speaker 4: Oh, wow.
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: People walk in and they keep their shoes on. I'm like,
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: but you didn't. I didn't even have to ask. You knew.
• 28:13
  Speaker 3: I'm like, I see shoes by the door.
• 28:17
  Speaker 5: You know, it's just like, ah, I don't think this
• 28:19
  Speaker 5: is a place with no shoes because I respect your place.
• 28:23
  Speaker 2: Thank you.
• 28:24
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 28:25
  Speaker 3: Wow.
• 28:26
  Speaker 2: I feel so seen.
• 28:27
  Speaker 3: And for someone. Yeah. For someone to invade your space. Yeah.
• 28:36
  Speaker 3: Like the Spartans invading Troy.
• 28:38
  Speaker 2: Exactly. Speak on it.
• 28:40
  Speaker 5: You know what I'm saying? To just do that. To
• 28:43
  Speaker 5: come in with what you think is like family vibes,
• 28:46
  Speaker 5: like a Trojan horse.
• 28:48
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 28:49
  Speaker 2: She's bringing in the Trojan horse full of gluten.
• 28:51
  Speaker 3: To just break through the gates and just do anything
• 28:55
  Speaker 3: anyway because I have an allergy. I have celiac. Yeah.
• 29:00
  Speaker 5: And you just do that because you think that's okay.
• 29:02
  Speaker 5: And then your husband, your partner, your dog, your best friend.
• 29:08
  Speaker 5: The person where you say, I do.
• 29:10
  Speaker 2: The snake. Yeah. He brings the snake inside the home.
• 29:14
  Speaker 2: It's ridiculous. And it's so easy. He could have just
• 29:17
  Speaker 2: been like, oh, mom, we can't actually do that.
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: Because these are the rules.
• 29:21
  Speaker 2: These are the rules in our home. We can't do that.
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 29:24
  Speaker 2: It's not that hard.
• 29:25
  Speaker 5: These are the rules. The person where I have the
• 29:30
  Speaker 5: best seat in the house for their life, the front
• 29:33
  Speaker 5: row seat to someone that I love, that I want
• 29:36
  Speaker 5: to protect, that I cherish. I feel like her husband
• 29:41
  Speaker 5: is not really taking care of her in a way
• 29:43
  Speaker 5: that sucks.
• 29:45
  Speaker 2: That also is crazy. They have so much gluten in
• 29:47
  Speaker 2: their house already, so he really is not impacted in
• 29:51
  Speaker 2: his day-to-day life. It is pretty easy for him. And
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: he can't even follow the one rule of just like,
• 29:56
  Speaker 2: wash your hands, and don't use my strainer.
• 29:59
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: That's it.
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: It's not like, oh, don't use my slippers. It's like, yo,
• 30:02
  Speaker 3: I may get sick.
• 30:03
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: No, it's like, it's not because, oh, I don't want
• 30:06
  Speaker 2: you to use my stuff. I could, like, you could
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: affect my whole body.
• 30:12
  Speaker 3: Yep.
• 30:12
  Speaker 2: My whole body's going down.
• 30:13
  Speaker 5: And I don't know too much about, like, this disease
• 30:16
  Speaker 5: of celiac. I don't understand. Like, I don't, I don't.
• 30:19
  Speaker 3: But I imagine, like, yeah, like, this is, it's serious. Yeah. Like,
• 30:22
  Speaker 3: come on.
• 30:22
  Speaker 2: It's different than gluten. So gluten intolerance is just, like,
• 30:26
  Speaker 2: You know, you get an upset stomach, and it's, like,
• 30:28
  Speaker 2: not good. But celiac is a lot more intense. Like,
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: you can go to the hospital and stuff like that.
• 30:33
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah.
• 30:34
  Speaker 2: Because I have a cousin who has celiac.
• 30:36
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 30:37
  Speaker 2: And she, like, can't eat it at all.
• 30:38
  Speaker 3: Right. I would imagine.
• 30:41
  Speaker 5: Whoever she lives with, hopefully they respect the space.
• 30:44
  Speaker 2: I would hope so.
• 30:45
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: I would hope so. Yeah.
• 30:46
  Speaker 3: And then also, mom, no disrespect. It is hotels, bro. Yeah.
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: You can stay somewhere else.
• 30:52
  Speaker 3: If you want to do whatever you want to do.
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: Or we could cook at your house.
• 30:55
  Speaker 3: Or we could cook at your house. Yeah, we could
• 30:57
  Speaker 3: cook at your house.
• 30:57
  Speaker 4: Who's more disrespectful here? Is it mother-in-law or OP's husband?
• 31:03
  Speaker 2: Well, I think Opie's husband knows the rules. Mother-in-law is
• 31:07
  Speaker 2: just coming in and is like, oh, can I use this?
• 31:08
  Speaker 2: Can I use this? She doesn't know the rules. He
• 31:11
  Speaker 2: knows the rules, so he, I think, in my mind,
• 31:13
  Speaker 2: is the most disrespectful.
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: Oh, word. Word, word.
• 31:17
  Speaker 2: Because if, like, you came in, let's say, like, I
• 31:20
  Speaker 2: have another roommate or something, and you came in, or
• 31:24
  Speaker 2: maybe like, let's say Keon welcomes you into the home,
• 31:26
  Speaker 2: and you're like, oh, do I need to take my
• 31:27
  Speaker 2: shoes off? And Keon's like, nah, nah, nah. You know, like,
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: Keon knows the rules. You don't know the rules.
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: I'm not gonna get mad at you. I see, I
• 31:34
  Speaker 3: have an idea.
• 31:35
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 31:35
  Speaker 3: Of like, oh, there's, there's, there's, there's like, yeah, there's
• 31:39
  Speaker 3: the shoes over here.
• 31:40
  Speaker 2: There's two sets of strainers.
• 31:40
  Speaker 4: That means, take the shoes.
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: Off, but Keon is like, no, take the shoes off.
• 31:43
  Speaker 4: I'm like, no, this is an alternate universe.
• 31:45
  Speaker 3: I know.
• 31:46
  Speaker 4: I respect, I respect the house.
• 31:50
  Speaker 3: As a visitor, come on.
• 31:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah, for real.
• 31:53
  Speaker 3: But I mean, yeah, it's the husband.
• 31:56
  Speaker 4: That's the truth, yeah. What's happening? You have separate utensils
• 32:00
  Speaker 4: and everything in between.
• 32:02
  Speaker 2: Buy your own strainer if you need one.
• 32:04
  Speaker 3: Follow the pattern.
• 32:05
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• 32:08
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• 32:11
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• 32:16
  Speaker 2: Comment one says, firstly, that really sucks. Did you say
• 32:20
  Speaker 2: he has his own sifter for gluten flour? Did they
• 32:23
  Speaker 2: use the electric sifter that you heard him tell her
• 32:25
  Speaker 2: he couldn't use for gluten flour? If so, that's also
• 32:29
  Speaker 2: just kind of crazy that she had been told no
• 32:32
  Speaker 2: and why and simply didn't care about your health.
• 32:35
  Speaker 1: Yeesh.
• 32:36
  Speaker 2: OP says, yes, they were originally using his own sifter,
• 32:40
  Speaker 2: but it takes longer since it's older and cannot be
• 32:42
  Speaker 2: filled up all the way. But they did not use
• 32:45
  Speaker 2: the electric one because he did say no and explain why,
• 32:47
  Speaker 2: which is why I'm having such a hard time understanding
• 32:50
  Speaker 2: why he couldn't have done the same thing with the
• 32:52
  Speaker 2: strainer and continue to use his own sifter. Okay, okay,
• 32:57
  Speaker 2: so there was two things here, and there is an update.
• 32:59
  Speaker 2: There was a sifter that they both had their own sifter, and...
• 33:04
  Speaker 2: He didn't use her sifter. He used his own, but
• 33:06
  Speaker 2: then they needed a strainer and he used her strainer.
• 33:10
  Speaker 3: So it was like a my bad.
• 33:11
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I guess so. I don't know.
• 33:13
  Speaker 3: It was like, it wasn't egregious.
• 33:15
  Speaker 2: It doesn't seem as bad because the electric sifter seems
• 33:18
  Speaker 2: like it probably would be harder to clean.
• 33:20
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 33:21
  Speaker 2: But she's, yeah. So, but like still, so he said, oh,
• 33:25
  Speaker 2: we don't, we can't use this one. But then it
• 33:27
  Speaker 2: didn't continue to say we can't use that for the sifter.
• 33:30
  Speaker 2: So he could have kept that pattern going.
• 33:32
  Speaker 3: Yeah. But didn't, which is weird.
• 33:35
  Speaker 5: I mean, I think a small mistake, your partner may
• 33:40
  Speaker 5: end up in the hospital.
• 33:41
  Speaker 2: Exactly.
• 33:41
  Speaker 3: Which sucks, but everyone makes mistakes.
• 33:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think just talk to him about it. But
• 33:48
  Speaker 2: let's see if conversation works.
• 33:50
  Speaker 3: Okay.
• 33:51
  Speaker 2: Update. I wanted to address some comments that I did see.
• 33:54
  Speaker 2: Celiac is a severe disease, but it is different for
• 33:57
  Speaker 2: everyone than has it. What works for one person may
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: not work for another. The procedures we have put in
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: place in our kitchen have worked for me my entire life.
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: The procedures that worked for me growing up in my
• 34:08
  Speaker 2: household I brought with me as I transferred into adulthood,
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: and they have continued to work. My husband has always
• 34:14
  Speaker 2: been willing to learn about my disease and what he
• 34:16
  Speaker 2: can do to help and how to handle food. He's
• 34:19
  Speaker 2: advocated for me and supported me time and time again.
• 34:22
  Speaker 2: Celiac has a lot of nuances that can be hard
• 34:25
  Speaker 2: to learn unless you're living it, but he has put
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: in the work to make me feel safe. To clear
• 34:30
  Speaker 2: some things up, I do need to replace the strainer.
• 34:33
  Speaker 2: This is part of the nuance of my disease that
• 34:35
  Speaker 2: not everyone understands.
• 34:36
  Speaker 4: Hold on. He needs to replace the strainer.
• 34:39
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 34:39
  Speaker 2: He needs to go out and get you a new strainer.
• 34:41
  Speaker 3: Oh, word. Yeah, I see, I see.
• 34:43
  Speaker 4: You don't need to replace it.
• 34:45
  Speaker 3: He needs to replace it. I see, I see.
• 34:46
  Speaker 4: Yeah, get it.
• 34:47
  Speaker 3: Yo, yeah.
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: Go get that strainer.
• 34:48
  Speaker 3: Yo, yeah. Come on. Come on.
• 34:50
  Speaker 2: Yes, it was a shared strainer, but in the sense
• 34:52
  Speaker 2: that we both used it for things that did not
• 34:55
  Speaker 2: contain gluten. Anything that is shared in our kitchen doesn't
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: have gluten in it. My celiac reactions, I do get
• 35:02
  Speaker 2: pretty sick when I get gluten. I get incredibly bad
• 35:05
  Speaker 2: stomach pains, many bathroom runs, headaches, brain fog, etc. My
• 35:10
  Speaker 2: husband has seen this and is aware. He knows this
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: is a real disease and has never made me feel
• 35:15
  Speaker 2: like it wasn't. He is actually more cautious than me
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: sometimes because he doesn't want me to go through that
• 35:20
  Speaker 2: pain and put my health at risk. The cheese and pepperoni,
• 35:23
  Speaker 2: he clarified that while he did wash his hands after
• 35:26
  Speaker 2: touching gluten and touching these shared items, he was unsure
• 35:31
  Speaker 2: if his mother did. Therefore told me not to use
• 35:34
  Speaker 2: these items because he wasn't sure if there was any
• 35:36
  Speaker 2: cross-contamination and would rather be safe than sorry. We will
• 35:40
  Speaker 2: be getting new ingredients. We did talk. I told him
• 35:44
  Speaker 2: how this incident made me feel and it was a
• 35:46
  Speaker 2: hard conversation to He explained his thought process. He said
• 35:49
  Speaker 2: that when mother-in-law asked for the strainer, that he did
• 35:53
  Speaker 2: hesitate because he knew that we would no longer be
• 35:55
  Speaker 2: able to use this one and would need a new one.
• 35:58
  Speaker 2: He thought that the strainer is relatively easy to replace though.
• 36:01
  Speaker 2: And since my health and gluten safety is important to him,
• 36:04
  Speaker 2: didn't want to be met with opposition from his mother
• 36:06
  Speaker 2: in that moment, as if she would have met him
• 36:09
  Speaker 2: with pushback about some type of gluten safety, it would
• 36:11
  Speaker 2: have upset him and caused a bigger argument.
• 36:14
  Speaker 4: Hmm.
• 36:15
  Speaker 2: I explained I wasn't upset about replacing the strainer or ingredients. Ultimately,
• 36:20
  Speaker 2: it had everything to do with educating his family about
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: that nuance of my disease as this concept of cross-contamination
• 36:28
  Speaker 2: transfers to other situations, such as holidays or family gatherings.
• 36:32
  Speaker 2: He said he understood how I felt and why I
• 36:35
  Speaker 2: felt that way. After more conversation, we ended up on
• 36:38
  Speaker 2: the same page. We will be educating his family going
• 36:41
  Speaker 2: forward when situations arise. And our boundaries in our kitchen
• 36:45
  Speaker 2: are strict. We won't be bending those boundaries for anyone.
• 36:49
  Speaker 2: And he will be replacing all the items. Comment one says,
• 36:52
  Speaker 2: if it's easier to buy a new kitchen utensil than
• 36:54
  Speaker 2: tell a grown woman she has to use a different
• 36:56
  Speaker 2: kitchen utensil, there's bigger problems. And that is the end
• 37:02
  Speaker 2: of the story. Do you think that he has any,
• 37:05
  Speaker 2: you know, validity in what he was saying? Right.
• 37:09
  Speaker 4: Yeah, welcome to marriage, y'all.
• 37:11
  Speaker 5: This is the real stuff. Give it to the nitty gritty. Yeah,
• 37:15
  Speaker 5: you think weddings and receptions are fun? Think about doing life.
• 37:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, all of life.
• 37:19
  Speaker 5: This is what it's about. This is these, like, everyone
• 37:23
  Speaker 5: has a point. No one's really that wrong.
• 37:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I think that's a good way to look at
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: it because when he explained, it doesn't sound wrong.
• 37:34
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 37:34
  Speaker 2: It just sounds like they weren't fully communicating on, you know,
• 37:38
  Speaker 2: how they wanted to react in, like, that specific situation. Because, like,
• 37:43
  Speaker 2: how would you know?
• 37:44
  Speaker 5: Yes, because when you're doing life with someone, it's like, yeah,
• 37:49
  Speaker 5: these things pop up. Of, like, we were missing each
• 37:52
  Speaker 5: other here. And, yeah, like, she's right. He's kind of right.
• 37:56
  Speaker 5: It's just, yeah, boundaries.
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: And the answer is somewhere in the middle.
• 37:59
  Speaker 3: Somewhere in the middle. Like, yeah.
• 38:01
  Speaker 4: We call that a compromise.
• 38:03
  Speaker 3: Right, right, right. Like, we need a color code. Yeah.
• 38:08
  Speaker 3: And really have, like, a next time if this happened.
• 38:12
  Speaker 4: There shouldn't be a next time.
• 38:12
  Speaker 5: Yeah, this is how I want you to react. Yeah,
• 38:14
  Speaker 5: this is how I want you to react. Or let's
• 38:16
  Speaker 5: not have this happen again.
• 38:17
  Speaker 3: Or, yeah, it's like.
• 38:18
  Speaker 2: Well, now they have another strainer.
• 38:19
  Speaker 5: Buy another strainer if you, like, yeah. Because the mom
• 38:23
  Speaker 5: is just being the mom.
• 38:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 38:25
  Speaker 3: She doesn't seem like she had any malicious intent.
• 38:29
  Speaker 2: No, she just seemed like she wasn't, like, she didn't care. Yeah.
• 38:32
  Speaker 2: Which I understand why Opie.
• 38:33
  Speaker 3: Is hurt by. True, because I'm thinking the mom came
• 38:35
  Speaker 3: in there and was just like. Well, I'm the mom.
• 38:37
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I'm the mom. What I say, go.
• 38:40
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I use any strength I want wherever I'm at.
• 38:43
  Speaker 4: Rules, I make the rules.
• 38:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. Right?
• 38:46
  Speaker 5: And it didn't seem like the mom came at it
• 38:50
  Speaker 5: with malicious intent. So now it's like, yeah, the dynamic
• 38:54
  Speaker 5: of husband and wife and how are we going to
• 38:58
  Speaker 5: solve this problem so we can keep doing life?
• 39:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and this was not a big issue, because I
• 39:03
  Speaker 2: feel like these are the types of issues that happen
• 39:05
  Speaker 2: all the time in any sort of relationship.
• 39:07
  Speaker 3: Big time.
• 39:08
  Speaker 2: And you just have to hear the other person and
• 39:11
  Speaker 2: then make a path forward.
• 39:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 39:13
  Speaker 2: But that's the end of that story.
• 39:15
  Speaker 3: I know. And you're welcome for the marriage advice. Yeah.
• 39:19
  Speaker 2: Professional marriage guy over here.
• 39:20
  Speaker 4: Boom.
• 39:20
  Speaker 3: Don't say that.
• 39:21
  Speaker 2: Nope.
• 39:22
  Speaker 3: You're in a professional marriage. Don't put that on me.
• 39:25
  Speaker 3: I'm a human with human things, going through human problems.
• 39:29
  Speaker 5: Trying to live and grow absolutely that's professional marriage advice.
• 39:33
  Speaker 4: That's what like a Extraterrestrial would say.
• 39:35
  Speaker 3: I am a human. I am a human.
• 39:40
  Speaker 4: Going through human things. I got a human brain.
• 39:43
  Speaker 3: Yeah. That's what I am.
• 39:45
  Speaker 4: I'm not a robot.
• 39:46
  Speaker 2: Don't look into it any further.
• 39:50
  Speaker 3: No one's perfect.
• 39:51
  Speaker 5: It's very sensitive when you have someone with a severe,
• 39:57
  Speaker 5: something like celiac, and then it's like they'll end up
• 39:59
  Speaker 5: in the hospital.
• 40:00
  Speaker 3: You don't want that. Yeah.
• 40:01
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 40:02
  Speaker 2: And yeah, it really didn't seem like something huge. Obviously,
• 40:05
  Speaker 2: we're nowhere near like a divorce thing.
• 40:07
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Rahm Emanuel said, never waste a crisis.
• 40:11
  Speaker 2: It's a good one.
• 40:12
  Speaker 5: So it's a really good opportunity to have a very
• 40:14
  Speaker 5: serious conversation.
• 40:15
  Speaker 2: About how we move forward. Yeah, the best time for
• 40:18
  Speaker 2: a conversation is when you think.
• 40:19
  Speaker 3: About it, I guess. It's like now.
• 40:23
  Speaker 2: But we got another story. My husband bought a shockingly
• 40:27
  Speaker 2: intimate gift for a coworker as a joke.
• 40:31
  Speaker 3: Oh, no.
• 40:32
  Speaker 2: So being 28 female, I had been with my husband,
• 40:35
  Speaker 2: 28 male, for about three and a half years. Married
• 40:38
  Speaker 2: for one year. He's always had a spicy sense of humor.
• 40:43
  Speaker 2: But due to issues we had in the past, particularly
• 40:45
  Speaker 2: when he would say how he thinks about cheating on
• 40:48
  Speaker 2: me or thinks about leaving me to get busy, he
• 40:53
  Speaker 2: got on medication and that hyper spicy side of him
• 40:56
  Speaker 2: That's calmed down a lot. That's a crazy red flag.
• 41:02
  Speaker 2: She said, she said, oh yeah, he would joke about
• 41:04
  Speaker 2: leaving me and like hooking up with other people. But
• 41:08
  Speaker 2: you know, it's okay. We worked on it.
• 41:10
  Speaker 4: Right, right.
• 41:10
  Speaker 3: Oh, we don't know what type of relationship they, cause
• 41:12
  Speaker 3: they vibing.
• 41:13
  Speaker 2: We don't.
• 41:14
  Speaker 3: We don't, you know what I'm saying?
• 41:15
  Speaker 2: It could be chill.
• 41:16
  Speaker 3: It could be, it could be we have friends.
• 41:18
  Speaker 2: Totally fine, yeah. Due to these issues, I had told
• 41:21
  Speaker 2: him to stop talking spicily in general to one of
• 41:25
  Speaker 2: his friends because he had told me in the past
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: that if I hadn't gotten together with him, he would
• 41:30
  Speaker 2: have tried dating her.
• 41:31
  Speaker 4: Oof.
• 41:32
  Speaker 2: He needs to stop talking.
• 41:34
  Speaker 4: Oof.
• 41:34
  Speaker 2: Why is he telling you things?
• 41:36
  Speaker 4: Oof.
• 41:37
  Speaker 2: So he has a co-worker who's a married woman and
• 41:40
  Speaker 2: apparently they started talking about spicy toys and stuff like
• 41:44
  Speaker 2: that and how they are both filthy minded and make
• 41:48
  Speaker 2: jokes like that. I normally wouldn't care as long as
• 41:51
  Speaker 2: it's friendly and not in a what I would do
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: with you kind of way. So he got her a
• 41:57
  Speaker 2: Secret Santa this year, and he told me he got
• 41:59
  Speaker 2: her a normal gift for the office and a gift
• 42:01
  Speaker 2: for at home. When I asked what he meant, he
• 42:04
  Speaker 2: told me he got her a large phallic object.
• 42:09
  Speaker 3: Oh, snap.
• 42:10
  Speaker 4: What could that be?
• 42:12
  Speaker 2: Phallic object to use in the bedroom. OP continues too
• 42:17
  Speaker 2: big to use as a gag gift and started laughing.
• 42:21
  Speaker 4: What do you mean too big to use?
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: That's like immediate HR. Yeah. It's an HR complaint right there.
• 42:30
  Speaker 4: HR's like, I love this game.
• 42:32
  Speaker 5: Yeah, you could do something and mess around and stop
• 42:35
  Speaker 5: paying your rent or mortgage for that joke.
• 42:38
  Speaker 3: Oh, yeah.
• 42:38
  Speaker 2: I said immediately, you bought a phallic object for another girl?
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: And he immediately stopped laughing and said, what do you
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: mean by that? I told him, you know how this looks, right?
• 42:49
  Speaker 2: He got really awkward and said he didn't think of
• 42:51
  Speaker 2: it like that. And then I know that was his
• 42:53
  Speaker 2: sense of humor.
• 42:54
  Speaker 3: What's up with the voice, yo?
• 42:55
  Speaker 2: That's my man voice.
• 42:56
  Speaker 3: That's your man voice?
• 42:57
  Speaker 2: That's my man voice, yeah.
• 42:58
  Speaker 3: That's what to say.
• 42:58
  Speaker 2: That's my stupid man voice.
• 43:00
  Speaker 3: Copy.
• 43:02
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• 43:04
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• 43:11
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• 43:18
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• 43:20
  Speaker 3: Thank you. Thank you for having me. Yeah.
• 43:22
  Speaker 2: Kwesi's going to help us read these stories and give
• 43:24
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• 43:28
  Speaker 2: You've been nailing every advice. And let's get into the story.
• 43:32
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• 43:40
  Speaker 2: OP says, I just said it felt way too intimate
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: of a gift. Talking about it is one thing, but
• 43:47
  Speaker 2: giving her something like that is entirely different. He should
• 43:51
  Speaker 2: overturn it because he respects me. Then he said that
• 43:54
  Speaker 2: he's always had this kind of humor. And that he
• 43:56
  Speaker 2: even bought me a phallic object in the past before
• 43:59
  Speaker 2: we started dating. A too big to use object. I said,
• 44:04
  Speaker 2: that doesn't mean anything because he liked me back then too.
• 44:07
  Speaker 4: He told me before.
• 44:08
  Speaker 3: Wait, wait, wait.
• 44:09
  Speaker 4: What do you mean? So you buy that for people
• 44:11
  Speaker 4: you like?
• 44:12
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's what it seems like.
• 44:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah, I just buy flowers.
• 44:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you could just buy flowers. That would be normal.
• 44:17
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 44:19
  Speaker 2: He got quiet and just kept repeating, this sucks.
• 44:23
  Speaker 3: Over and over.
• 44:23
  Speaker 2: Oh, this sucks.
• 44:27
  Speaker 3: I love your acting. Thank you, thank you.
• 44:28
  Speaker 2: That's what's up. Am I being the a-hole here? It
• 44:33
  Speaker 2: just feels very boundary-stepping, especially due to our past. But
• 44:38
  Speaker 2: at the same time, he did buy me one, too,
• 44:40
  Speaker 2: in the past, before we started dating, like years before.
• 44:44
  Speaker 2: We've got an update. Is this boundary-stepping?
• 44:47
  Speaker 3: To give your co-worker... Boundary-hopping? Yes. I mean, he hopped
• 44:51
  Speaker 3: on a plane.
• 44:53
  Speaker 2: Took it to like the boundary that's 20 places over.
• 44:58
  Speaker 2: 20 states over.
• 44:59
  Speaker 4: Stepping on the boundary.
• 45:01
  Speaker 3: It's dancing on the boundary.
• 45:02
  Speaker 4: He's dancing on the boundary.
• 45:03
  Speaker 3: Dancing on the boundary.
• 45:04
  Speaker 2: Oh my goodness.
• 45:06
  Speaker 3: Yeah, he paid tolls to get through, then crossed the boundary.
• 45:10
  Speaker 2: Took a ferry over to the next boundary.
• 45:12
  Speaker 3: Big time. Like, yo, grow up.
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's ridiculous.
• 45:16
  Speaker 3: I mean, and then. But I mean, it worked with
• 45:20
  Speaker 3: his current?
• 45:21
  Speaker 2: It worked with OP.
• 45:22
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 45:23
  Speaker 2: But I feel like now OP's like, dang, that's his move.
• 45:26
  Speaker 3: Word.
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: That's his move. He does this with all the girls
• 45:28
  Speaker 2: he likes. That's his dirty dancing.
• 45:30
  Speaker 3: Yeah, don't put baby in a corner. He Patrick Swayze
• 45:33
  Speaker 3: the whole thing.
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: But with a phallic object.
• 45:36
  Speaker 4: With a giant phallic object.
• 45:39
  Speaker 2: Too big to use.
• 45:42
  Speaker 3: Wow.
• 45:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I think that he's much more than stepped on
• 45:47
  Speaker 2: your boundaries.
• 45:47
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Big time. What are these? Phallic objects going on sale?
• 45:51
  Speaker 2: I guess so. He's got a whole store.
• 45:53
  Speaker 4: To buy one, get one.
• 45:55
  Speaker 2: He's got a box of them in his garage.
• 45:57
  Speaker 3: Get a bundle. He probably has a wholesale license.
• 46:00
  Speaker 4: He's using them like nunchucks.
• 46:01
  Speaker 3: Yeah, he buys them in bulk.
• 46:04
  Speaker 2: He's giving them out to everyone.
• 46:05
  Speaker 3: Goodness gracious. Oh, yo, yo.
• 46:09
  Speaker 2: Because this, along with all the comments that he used
• 46:13
  Speaker 2: to make that OP didn't like, I feel like I
• 46:16
  Speaker 2: don't think this is lasting. This is a tough one.
• 46:19
  Speaker 3: You think you're on thin ice, huh? Yeah.
• 46:21
  Speaker 2: I'm on more than thin ice. I've broken through. I'm
• 46:23
  Speaker 2: in the cold water. I'm freezing.
• 46:25
  Speaker 3: Get a jacket.
• 46:27
  Speaker 2: Someone save me.
• 46:29
  Speaker 3: Goodness gracious. Relationships could be hard.
• 46:33
  Speaker 2: For real. It's true. They don't have to be this hard, though.
• 46:36
  Speaker 3: No, they don't.
• 46:37
  Speaker 2: They're hard, but not that hard. Yeah.
• 46:41
  Speaker 3: Wow.
• 46:41
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we've got an update. I'm not... Too hopeful. So
• 46:46
  Speaker 2: my husband kept telling me that he doesn't care about
• 46:48
  Speaker 2: this situation and that he hadn't thought about it since
• 46:51
  Speaker 2: he canceled the spicy toy order. So I decided to
• 46:55
  Speaker 2: drop it as well. But reading a lot of your guys'
• 46:58
  Speaker 2: concern in the comments really made me think and reflect
• 47:02
  Speaker 2: on everything. My husband had always been controlling. If he
• 47:06
  Speaker 2: didn't like something that I did or wanted to do,
• 47:08
  Speaker 2: like dye my hair... He'll argue for hours, hyper-focus on
• 47:12
  Speaker 2: how I used specific words, get hooked on the proper
• 47:16
  Speaker 2: way to use a word instead of actually listening to
• 47:18
  Speaker 2: the argument. He'll throw around buzzwords like gaslighting and how
• 47:22
  Speaker 2: I'm manipulative and also downplay anything he's done and only
• 47:26
  Speaker 2: focus on how I react to his actions. Well, I
• 47:30
  Speaker 2: decided a while ago that I think I might want
• 47:32
  Speaker 2: my lip pierced, but I'm worried I might not like
• 47:35
  Speaker 2: it and it might scar up. So yesterday I ordered
• 47:38
  Speaker 2: some fake sticky piercings to test out the look without committing.
• 47:43
  Speaker 2: And I told my husband about my order. He told
• 47:45
  Speaker 2: me it's my body, but he hates piercings and thinks
• 47:49
  Speaker 2: they're really ugly and that he wants them nowhere near
• 47:52
  Speaker 2: my beautiful skin. That's weird.
• 47:54
  Speaker 3: Oh, snap.
• 47:55
  Speaker 2: I told him I noted his feelings on this and
• 47:57
  Speaker 2: will keep it in mind, but I'm not making a
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: decision just yet on if I'm getting one or not.
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: He didn't like this at all. He said me saying
• 48:05
  Speaker 2: that I had noted his feelings and means I don't
• 48:09
  Speaker 2: give a crap and I'm just ignoring it.
• 48:11
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 48:12
  Speaker 2: I told him no. I'm keeping it in mind. I
• 48:15
  Speaker 2: have just not made a decision yet. Somehow this escalated
• 48:19
  Speaker 2: very quickly because I was going out of my way
• 48:22
  Speaker 2: to speak to him calmly since if I get upset
• 48:24
  Speaker 2: or raise my voice, he'll hyper-focus on that instead of
• 48:27
  Speaker 2: the argument.
• 48:28
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 48:29
  Speaker 2: Wow. Well, you shouldn't be raising your voice.
• 48:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 48:31
  Speaker 2: He started saying that I don't sound like myself, that
• 48:34
  Speaker 2: I sound like my sister, who he hates. and his
• 48:37
  Speaker 2: harmful mother. Because while he was talking, I was responding like, mm-hmm,
• 48:42
  Speaker 2: and okay. He said I was mocking him and that
• 48:45
  Speaker 2: I don't care. I told him I'm just listening, and
• 48:48
  Speaker 2: I do care. Somehow it turned into me gaslighting him
• 48:52
  Speaker 2: and only wanting him for his money. Not true, he
• 48:55
  Speaker 2: has really bad money problems, and I've had to help
• 48:58
  Speaker 2: him out plenty of times. Yeah, I hope he's like,
• 49:00
  Speaker 2: how could I want you for your money? You don't
• 49:02
  Speaker 2: have any.
• 49:02
  Speaker 4: You're spending your money on giant phallic objects.
• 49:05
  Speaker 2: Yeah, maybe that's where all his money's going from. He's
• 49:07
  Speaker 2: getting like the top of the line stuff.
• 49:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, the good ones.
• 49:11
  Speaker 4: It's like the Nimbus 3000.
• 49:14
  Speaker 2: He kept calling me a manipulator and was saying things like,
• 49:18
  Speaker 2: don't you see it? We're done. After a while of this,
• 49:21
  Speaker 2: I started getting upset and said, I'm genuinely trying to
• 49:25
  Speaker 2: talk to you about this and you keep going off.
• 49:28
  Speaker 2: My voice got a bit wobbly and he told me
• 49:30
  Speaker 2: not to get emotional. So I told him I was done.
• 49:34
  Speaker 2: This is exhausting and I cannot do this anymore. He
• 49:38
  Speaker 2: asked what I meant. So I told him I wanted
• 49:41
  Speaker 2: a divorce.
• 49:42
  Speaker 3: Ooh, got him.
• 49:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah. We've got a little bit left. Do you think
• 49:48
  Speaker 2: that was the right move? Divorce?
• 49:51
  Speaker 3: Or do you think that there was anyway?
• 49:53
  Speaker 5: I have a hard time telling anyone if they should
• 49:56
  Speaker 5: get divorced or not.
• 49:58
  Speaker 3: As a married person.
• 50:00
  Speaker 2: Yeah, absolutely.
• 50:01
  Speaker 5: But if you feel unsafe, if you feel like you're
• 50:06
  Speaker 5: being belittled, you shouldn't be in any friendship yeah or
• 50:10
  Speaker 5: a romantic relationship.
• 50:11
  Speaker 3: With anyone absolutely you know i mean um oh gosh
• 50:15
  Speaker 3: this he sounds exhausting he.
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: Really does it's like everything he wants to do is
• 50:21
  Speaker 2: okay yeah and then everything you want to do is
• 50:24
  Speaker 2: not okay and he just doesn't listen.
• 50:27
  Speaker 5: I dig yeah i think he's like he's yeah he's
• 50:30
  Speaker 5: living in the world where he can buy his co-workers.
• 50:34
  Speaker 2: Yes tools that are too.
• 50:37
  Speaker 3: Big to use.
• 50:39
  Speaker 2: Tools that are actually kind of useless.
• 50:41
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah. Like, where do you put it? On
• 50:45
  Speaker 3: a mantle?
• 50:46
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you know what? I do have friends who have,
• 50:49
  Speaker 2: they have like a little phallic object things on their mantle.
• 50:53
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 50:53
  Speaker 2: What's actually above, it's like they have doorway and then
• 50:55
  Speaker 2: like a lip on the doorway.
• 50:56
  Speaker 3: A collection?
• 50:58
  Speaker 2: Well, they got them at like a party or something
• 51:00
  Speaker 2: and they just like, they like stuck them to it.
• 51:02
  Speaker 2: They're just small.
• 51:03
  Speaker 3: As like a door holder?
• 51:05
  Speaker 2: I don't know.
• 51:05
  Speaker 3: Oh.
• 51:06
  Speaker 2: I don't know why they have it.
• 51:07
  Speaker 3: I hate it.
• 51:07
  Speaker 2: But it's just like, it's like above.
• 51:09
  Speaker 3: Oh, nice.
• 51:10
  Speaker 2: So like you wouldn't see it unless you were like
• 51:11
  Speaker 2: looking up.
• 51:12
  Speaker 3: Yeah. I look up all the time.
• 51:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, so you'd probably see it.
• 51:15
  Speaker 3: What is the co-worker's husband?
• 51:18
  Speaker 2: Yeah, she's married. That's a good point.
• 51:19
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying?
• 51:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I don't know. Maybe he doesn't know. Maybe OP's
• 51:24
  Speaker 2: husband is just like really open about.
• 51:27
  Speaker 3: Right. Husband or partner, I don't know. Yes. We didn't
• 51:30
  Speaker 3: even specify.
• 51:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we don't know.
• 51:33
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 51:34
  Speaker 2: I don't know. We don't know how they feel. But
• 51:38
  Speaker 2: she probably is keeping that to herself.
• 51:40
  Speaker 3: I think so.
• 51:41
  Speaker 2: And Opie's husband's just like way too open.
• 51:43
  Speaker 3: I think so.
• 51:44
  Speaker 2: He's like, yeah, I did that.
• 51:46
  Speaker 3: I hope I never find these problems.
• 51:48
  Speaker 2: Me too.
• 51:49
  Speaker 3: Right?
• 51:49
  Speaker 4: I hope this isn't the love that finds me.
• 51:51
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying? Yeah, yeah. Stay away from me,
• 51:53
  Speaker 3: those problems.
• 51:54
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 51:55
  Speaker 3: Please.
• 51:55
  Speaker 2: I don't need them. I don't need them.
• 51:57
  Speaker 3: I don't need those problems.
• 51:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 51:59
  Speaker 3: Opie.
• 51:59
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 52:00
  Speaker 3: Divorce is expensive.
• 52:01
  Speaker 5: But if this is the decision you want to make
• 52:04
  Speaker 5: and separate, think of it as an investment into your future.
• 52:07
  Speaker 4: True.
• 52:07
  Speaker 2: That's a good way to look at it.
• 52:09
  Speaker 3: To not be with someone who's not your person.
• 52:12
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 52:12
  Speaker 2: It's kind of like student loans.
• 52:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 52:14
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Think of your husband as Sally Mae. Yeah. Yeah.
• 52:19
  Speaker 2: And your divorce is your student loan.
• 52:22
  Speaker 3: Yeah, just pay it.
• 52:23
  Speaker 4: Yeah, just do it.
• 52:24
  Speaker 3: Just do it. Just do what you can to find
• 52:26
  Speaker 3: freedom and happiness. The person.
• 52:29
  Speaker 5: We will listen to you and all these things that
• 52:32
  Speaker 5: you want that's clear and easy for a partner is
• 52:36
  Speaker 5: out there. And this is probably not the one.
• 52:38
  Speaker 3: I agree.
• 52:39
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 52:40
  Speaker 3: We just call that like a learning tax.
• 52:43
  Speaker 2: It's so true.
• 52:44
  Speaker 3: Let's go ahead and look at it.
• 52:46
  Speaker 2: There's a little bit left, though. Let's see if they
• 52:48
  Speaker 2: solidify the divorce. He immediately got upset, saying divorce wasn't
• 52:53
  Speaker 2: even on his mind. He said, I broke his heart again,
• 52:56
  Speaker 2: and it's not fair that I can decide this. Then
• 53:00
  Speaker 2: he said, I'm giving up because of one conversation. I
• 53:03
  Speaker 2: told him we were never going to work as a
• 53:05
  Speaker 2: married couple. We're too different. One of us would have
• 53:08
  Speaker 2: to sacrifice a lot for the other, and that's not fair.
• 53:11
  Speaker 2: He said, fine. He's in no position to divorce me
• 53:14
  Speaker 2: at the moment and asked if we can hold on
• 53:16
  Speaker 2: until June. He said, we're going to go through with
• 53:18
  Speaker 2: the divorce no matter what, but it's to get our
• 53:21
  Speaker 2: finances together.
• 53:22
  Speaker 4: Our?
• 53:23
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 53:24
  Speaker 2: He just doesn't have money. He's in the military. And
• 53:27
  Speaker 2: we share a BAH, a bi-monthly check for housing.
• 53:31
  Speaker 5: You better be careful because that USAA account is undefeated.
• 53:36
  Speaker 5: Also that Navy Federal.
• 53:37
  Speaker 3: Yeah. But you could find better.
• 53:39
  Speaker 4: It's not worth it.
• 53:40
  Speaker 3: It's not worth it. It's not worth a Navy Federal
• 53:42
  Speaker 3: credit union. No, no, no.
• 53:44
  Speaker 4: Just staying with. Oh, is it though?
• 53:46
  Speaker 2: I'm sure there's other Navy men.
• 53:48
  Speaker 3: All right, cool.
• 53:49
  Speaker 2: So that's what he's referring to. I went over to
• 53:51
  Speaker 2: my best friend's place after and she wants to celebrate
• 53:54
  Speaker 2: me finally leaving him. She's always hated him and I
• 53:57
  Speaker 2: understand why now. So yeah, I guess it's finally happening
• 54:01
  Speaker 2: and I'm not backing out this time.
• 54:03
  Speaker 3: That's what's up.
• 54:05
  Speaker 2: There we go.
• 54:05
  Speaker 3: P said, I got a backbone. She did. Stella got
• 54:09
  Speaker 3: a groove back.
• 54:10
  Speaker 2: So true.
• 54:11
  Speaker 3: Her groove back.
• 54:12
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 54:13
  Speaker 2: I love that. Opie's got her groove back. She's grooving.
• 54:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 54:19
  Speaker 2: She grooved out of the relationship.
• 54:21
  Speaker 3: Come on. New haircut coming. Yes.
• 54:23
  Speaker 2: She's going to get the lip piercing.
• 54:24
  Speaker 3: Get the lip piercing. Come on.
• 54:26
  Speaker 2: She should shave her head.
• 54:27
  Speaker 4: Dye her hair.
• 54:28
  Speaker 3: Dye her hair. Do your thing. Look at those phallic
• 54:32
  Speaker 3: objects from a distance. Yeah.
• 54:33
  Speaker 2: How do you have you ever because Opie kind of
• 54:35
  Speaker 2: mentioned briefly like, oh, I wanted this lip piercing, but
• 54:38
  Speaker 2: he was really against it. yeah have you ever had
• 54:40
  Speaker 2: a moment where your wife was like oh i want
• 54:42
  Speaker 2: to do this new change and you didn't like it
• 54:44
  Speaker 2: and how did you you know or.
• 54:46
  Speaker 5: Vice versa like yeah um i i think i'm the
• 54:50
  Speaker 5: one who's a lot of changing my wife just makes
• 54:52
  Speaker 5: fun of me yeah yeah that's.
• 54:54
  Speaker 4: Pretty much like a playful way yeah definitely.
• 54:56
  Speaker 5: Playful way yeah absolutely yeah yeah yeah because like like
• 55:00
  Speaker 5: um like all right so like i just fasted for
• 55:03
  Speaker 5: like four days and like Did it like when she
• 55:05
  Speaker 5: was not home because she would just be concerned that
• 55:09
  Speaker 5: I'll pass out.
• 55:09
  Speaker 2: Yeah, sure, sure.
• 55:10
  Speaker 5: Yeah, and my wife, she can be pretty bossy, but
• 55:13
  Speaker 5: I don't listen to anyone, so I think it works
• 55:15
  Speaker 5: within our relationship.
• 55:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah, you take it when you need it.
• 55:18
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, for sure.
• 55:19
  Speaker 5: Sometimes she's right, though, and that's the part where it's like, damn,
• 55:23
  Speaker 5: I really should have freaking listened.
• 55:24
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 55:24
  Speaker 3: But have you had a relationship like that where somebody
• 55:26
  Speaker 3: didn't want you to do something or vice versa? Uh.
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: I don't think I've I was thinking you know like
• 55:32
  Speaker 2: sometimes I'll like my boyfriend will be like oh like
• 55:37
  Speaker 2: if he has if he wants to get a new
• 55:38
  Speaker 2: haircut or he's like oh this is how I want
• 55:40
  Speaker 2: my hair and stuff and I'm like not into it
• 55:43
  Speaker 2: I don't say like oh you don't get that haircut
• 55:46
  Speaker 2: you know But when he gets a haircut I like,
• 55:48
  Speaker 2: I just positive reinforce. I'm like, that is a great
• 55:51
  Speaker 2: haircut on you. Or with his clothes, because he used
• 55:55
  Speaker 2: to wear more skinny jeans or skinny pants and stuff.
• 55:58
  Speaker 2: But I really like the wide leg. I'm like, the
• 55:59
  Speaker 2: wide leg personally.
• 56:00
  Speaker 3: That's in right now. Yeah, it's in.
• 56:02
  Speaker 2: And I just personally, I've been telling him, I'm like,
• 56:04
  Speaker 2: you should get on the wide leg. And so instead
• 56:06
  Speaker 2: of being like, don't wear those pants, just every time
• 56:09
  Speaker 2: he would wear the wide leg, I'd be like, oh
• 56:10
  Speaker 2: my God, you look amazing. You look incredible.
• 56:12
  Speaker 4: Oh.
• 56:13
  Speaker 2: And I think that's the way to go. Like, you
• 56:14
  Speaker 2: don't tell someone they look bad. You just tell them
• 56:17
  Speaker 2: they look good.
• 56:17
  Speaker 3: Got it. Got it. Got it. All right. I'll learn
• 56:20
  Speaker 3: from that.
• 56:20
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 56:21
  Speaker 3: That's my trick. I'll take that note.
• 56:23
  Speaker 2: It's worked. He doesn't wear the skinny pants anymore. And
• 56:26
  Speaker 2: his hair looks great.
• 56:27
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 56:29
  Speaker 5: You probably would like to Dominican guy because he's saying
• 56:31
  Speaker 5: like real.
• 56:32
  Speaker 3: He's going to give you something good. Yeah. Yeah. That's
• 56:36
  Speaker 3: what's up. Hey, man.
• 56:37
  Speaker 2: That's my trick. That's my trick.
• 56:39
  Speaker 3: I'll take it.
• 56:40
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 56:40
  Speaker 3: I'll take it. I'll take it. I can give you anything.
• 56:42
  Speaker 3: I'm pretty critical sometimes, though.
• 56:44
  Speaker 4: I don't know.
• 56:45
  Speaker 3: I think I have really good taste. Yeah. But we
• 56:48
  Speaker 3: don't know.
• 56:48
  Speaker 5: I love when, I guess, my wife experiments with different looks.
• 56:53
  Speaker 3: But she's very, I guess, really conservative with her. She
• 56:56
  Speaker 3: knows the hairstyle she likes.
• 56:58
  Speaker 2: That's how I am. I'm like, I know how I
• 57:00
  Speaker 2: like my hair. But it's tricky because my hairstylist never
• 57:04
  Speaker 2: does it the same. Okay.
• 57:05
  Speaker 3: Okay. Oh, it's a little different all the time? It's
• 57:08
  Speaker 3: always different.
• 57:09
  Speaker 2: I'm like, I always go in asking for the same thing,
• 57:11
  Speaker 2: but it always comes out a little different.
• 57:13
  Speaker 3: Got it. Got it. Oh, man.
• 57:15
  Speaker 2: Do we have another story?
• 57:16
  Speaker 4: We have one more story. Okay.
• 57:19
  Speaker 2: That's all right with you?
• 57:19
  Speaker 3: Yeah, for sure.
• 57:21
  Speaker 2: My husband drained our emergency fund to buy World Cup
• 57:26
  Speaker 2: tickets we couldn't afford.
• 57:27
  Speaker 3: Worth it.
• 57:29
  Speaker 2: Yeah my husband bought three tickets for the world cup
• 57:34
  Speaker 2: and each one cost over a thousand dollars what.
• 57:38
  Speaker 4: Did you expect yeah yeah it.
• 57:40
  Speaker 2: Was gonna i have been furious since i found out
• 57:43
  Speaker 2: we absolutely cannot afford this and my husband knows it
• 57:47
  Speaker 2: but he still bought them for self yeah for himself
• 57:51
  Speaker 2: i think and may not as a I wonder if
• 57:54
  Speaker 2: he bought them for her too.
• 57:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah, because that changes things a bit.
• 57:57
  Speaker 2: He's like, no, you and I are going.
• 57:59
  Speaker 4: He's like, I'm going to the World Cup.
• 58:01
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 58:03
  Speaker 2: I found out he entered the most recent lottery to
• 58:05
  Speaker 2: get tickets. I have since also found out that it
• 58:07
  Speaker 2: was different from the previous lotteries. Instead of going online
• 58:11
  Speaker 2: and buying tickets right when they went on sale, you
• 58:14
  Speaker 2: had to submit a list of which games you wanted
• 58:16
  Speaker 2: tickets for. And if you won the lottery tickets... your
• 58:19
  Speaker 2: credit card would automatically get charged.
• 58:21
  Speaker 4: This man put every game.
• 58:23
  Speaker 3: Yeah, he said, please, please, please.
• 58:26
  Speaker 4: I need one game.
• 58:28
  Speaker 2: Our credit card was charged on Monday, and normally I
• 58:31
  Speaker 2: get an alert whenever a card is used, but my
• 58:33
  Speaker 2: husband deleted it from my phone.
• 58:36
  Speaker 3: Before I saw it.
• 58:38
  Speaker 2: Oh, scandalous. Yeah, that's a little bit too much.
• 58:41
  Speaker 4: It's a surprise.
• 58:43
  Speaker 2: I didn't see the charge until two days later, and
• 58:46
  Speaker 2: I thought our card was compromised. I found out what
• 58:49
  Speaker 2: the charge was, and I was still going to dispute
• 58:52
  Speaker 2: it because we absolutely cannot afford it.
• 58:54
  Speaker 3: Dispute it. Scam. Yeah, scam, y'all.
• 58:57
  Speaker 2: But my husband already paid it and confirmed he made
• 59:00
  Speaker 2: the purchase. He took money from our emergency account. This
• 59:05
  Speaker 2: is getting worse and worse. We have less than $ 100
• 59:08
  Speaker 2: in our emergency account now.
• 59:11
  Speaker 4: Guys, to him, it was an emergency.
• 59:15
  Speaker 2: You don't understand.
• 59:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah, when is it going to be in America's again?
• 59:18
  Speaker 2: I needed to see Messi.
• 59:21
  Speaker 4: This is his last time. Ronaldo, this is it.
• 59:24
  Speaker 2: I will say, I'm not a soccer fan.
• 59:27
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 59:27
  Speaker 2: I did watch a lot of the games because my
• 59:29
  Speaker 2: boyfriend really loves it, and they were pretty good.
• 59:32
  Speaker 5: I mean, you're not a soccer fan, but guess what? 90%
• 59:34
  Speaker 5: of the planet is a soccer fan.
• 59:37
  Speaker 2: Well, I'm just saying from my point of view of
• 59:39
  Speaker 2: being like, I don't even care, and it was good.
• 59:41
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 59:42
  Speaker 2: So I'm like, if you were a fan, it's incredible.
• 59:45
  Speaker 5: If he took money out of your emergency fund to
• 59:49
  Speaker 5: pay for.
• 59:49
  Speaker 3: It, though.
• 59:49
  Speaker 4: But for both of you.
• 59:51
  Speaker 3: We don't know that yet. Yeah, we don't even know.
• 59:53
  Speaker 3: Let's see what happens.
• 59:55
  Speaker 2: Our emergency fund was low already because two and a
• 59:58
  Speaker 2: half years ago, my husband lost his job and he
• 1:00:00
  Speaker 2: was out of work for a year. We had to
• 1:00:03
  Speaker 2: dip into our emergency savings a bunch of times while
• 1:00:06
  Speaker 2: he was unemployed. He knows what our financial situation is like,
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 2: and I can't believe he did this. If I didn't
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 2: have some overtime shifts scheduled over the next two weeks,
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 2: we would not be able to afford our next mortgage payment.
• 1:00:19
  Speaker 3: No.
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 4: What if he's doing this? What if he's like, honey?
• 1:00:22
  Speaker 4: If we get them now, we can sell them. Right, right, right.
• 1:00:26
  Speaker 2: Wait, wait. Hold on. Two tickets, you, me, $ 1, 000 each.
• 1:00:33
  Speaker 2: Third ticket, we wait, and then we sell it at
• 1:00:37
  Speaker 2: the last minute for triple the price.
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 3: My wife did that a couple of times. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
• 1:00:44
  Speaker 3: I don't have the stomach for that.
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 2: No, neither do I. My boyfriend did that for the
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 2: Olympic tickets. He bought a bunch of them, and he's like,
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 2: I'm just selling them.
• 1:00:50
  Speaker 3: And those are freaking expensive.
• 1:00:52
  Speaker 2: I got... Did you get the next... The second... Like Olympics.
• 1:00:56
  Speaker 3: I got all of them. Yeah. I got the first
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 3: one and the second one.
• 1:00:58
  Speaker 2: I got the first one and the second two. And
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 2: I didn't even look at the second one because I'm like,
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 2: I heard that they were just so expensive.
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 3: They're so expensive.
• 1:01:04
  Speaker 2: I'm like, I already bought 12 tickets last time. And
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 2: that was a price. Well, I didn't. You're balling. I
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 2: didn't buy them all for myself.
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 3: You're doing it.
• 1:01:11
  Speaker 2: I bought, I bought, yeah, I bought them all for
• 1:01:14
  Speaker 2: my family.
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 3: That's what's up. Yeah, yeah.
• 1:01:16
  Speaker 2: So it was 12 tickets split between four people.
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 3: What games? You had a Batman and all that?
• 1:01:20
  Speaker 2: No, I'm not in the world. Like golf.
• 1:01:22
  Speaker 3: Oh, wow.
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 2: I think I got women's basketball, so.
• 1:01:25
  Speaker 3: I'm excited about that. That's what's up.
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 1:01:26
  Speaker 2: Equestrian. Nice. And I think I also got beach volleyball.
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 3: Sick. Beach volleyball is also on TV.
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 1:01:32
  Speaker 2: Oh, it's lit. I'm excited for those ones. I really
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 2: wanted rock climbing. That was sold out immediately.
• 1:01:38
  Speaker 3: It was gone. We, as a family, we were all like,
• 1:01:42
  Speaker 3: should we spend money on it?
• 1:01:43
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 3: And it was like, no.
• 1:01:45
  Speaker 2: Yeah, we don't need it.
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 3: Yeah, no.
• 1:01:47
  Speaker 2: I was like, I'm spending max money. I think I spent,
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 2: the most expensive was like $ 100 for the beach volleyball,
• 1:01:53
  Speaker 2: and everything else was like $ 40.
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 3: Yep. Oh, that's perfect.
• 1:01:56
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I was like, I don't need to spend more
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 2: in my own city.
• 1:02:00
  Speaker 5: I'll find a way to finesse to get there.
• 1:02:03
  Speaker 2: $ 3, 000, you're not paying for the World Cup.
• 1:02:05
  Speaker 4: True, I know.
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 3: All right, one ticket.
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 1:02:08
  Speaker 3: Let's put a little side bet. Yes. The husband bought
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 3: one ticket. Yes. We agree?
• 1:02:13
  Speaker 4: Yes.
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 3: For $ 1, 000.
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 5: Because that seems like the going price for World Cup tickets.
• 1:02:19
  Speaker 4: That's probably like a nosebleed seat.
• 1:02:21
  Speaker 3: Yeah, the worst seat. Nosebleed seat. And he said, you
• 1:02:24
  Speaker 3: know what? I'll just apologize for this later.
• 1:02:27
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I think he did. I think he went, oh,
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 2: it's fine.
• 1:02:30
  Speaker 4: That's a later problem.
• 1:02:32
  Speaker 3: That is a later problem.
• 1:02:34
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• 1:02:36
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• 1:02:38
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• 1:02:41
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• 1:02:43
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• 1:02:44
  Speaker 3: Hi, I'm Koisi James, and you're watching OK Storytime. Yes.
• 1:02:50
  Speaker 4: Okay.
• 1:02:52
  Speaker 3: We're in time. That was my NPR title. No, I
• 1:02:55
  Speaker 3: liked it.
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 2: I switched it up. Ira Glass a little bit.
• 1:02:58
  Speaker 3: Yeah, a little Ira Glass here. Come on. Ira Glasses?
• 1:03:01
  Speaker 2: Yeah. And Opie says, I'm furious. And he says, I'm overreacting.
• 1:03:07
  Speaker 2: He says he's taking his dad and his brother to
• 1:03:11
  Speaker 2: the World Cup because both of their birthdays are the
• 1:03:14
  Speaker 2: same week as the game. Wow.
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 4: So OP's not going.
• 1:03:18
  Speaker 2: OP's not going.
• 1:03:19
  Speaker 3: That changes stuff.
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 2: OP was not invited.
• 1:03:22
  Speaker 4: He was not saving a third ticket to sell it
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 4: down the line.
• 1:03:27
  Speaker 3: Mostly OP's money. Yes. With OP's money.
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 2: That's crazy. But that doesn't mean we can afford to
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 2: spend over $ 3, 000. My husband said at least the tickets
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 2: didn't cost $ 1, 500 each. He also dropped a bomb on me.
• 1:03:42
  Speaker 2: He applied for tickets to every game that is being
• 1:03:45
  Speaker 2: played in our city. And if he had won all
• 1:03:48
  Speaker 2: the games instead of just one, the total cost would
• 1:03:51
  Speaker 2: have been over $ 12, 000.
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 4: I called it. This is the type of guy, he's like.
• 1:03:57
  Speaker 2: I'm going to go to every game.
• 1:03:59
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I'm just going to go to any game I can.
• 1:04:01
  Speaker 4: If I get every game, great.
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah, he would have spent $ 12, 000.
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 3: He's bugging.
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's crazy.
• 1:04:07
  Speaker 3: He's not afraid of his wife.
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 4: No.
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 3: He's like, it's fine.
• 1:04:12
  Speaker 2: He's like, I know we don't... He didn't even have...
• 1:04:14
  Speaker 2: OP says they have $ 100 left in their emergency fund.
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 2: He would have had to overdraft.
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 1:04:19
  Speaker 2: Because it said they immediately charged the card.
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 3: Right, right.
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 2: So if he had gotten any more than the three tickets...
• 1:04:26
  Speaker 2: would have been in.
• 1:04:27
  Speaker 4: Debt holy he's like honey house is temporary yeah watching
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 4: messi and ronaldo play forever lifetime yeah infinite.
• 1:04:36
  Speaker 2: I couldn't believe what i was hearing i asked my
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 2: husband where we would have gotten that kind of money
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 2: and he just said we would figure it out He
• 1:04:43
  Speaker 2: tried telling me that Canada has a huge demand for
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 2: World Cup tickets, so that's why it cost him over
• 1:04:48
  Speaker 2: $ 1, 000 per ticket. As if that is an explanation for
• 1:04:53
  Speaker 2: what he did.
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 3: Wow.
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 2: I can't even explain how furious I am. We have
• 1:04:57
  Speaker 2: been going to marriage counseling because of how strange things
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 2: got after my husband got fired. But that's not going
• 1:05:03
  Speaker 2: to cut it anymore. I've always been the breadwinner in
• 1:05:06
  Speaker 2: our marriage. And that's never bothered me. But now the
• 1:05:09
  Speaker 2: stupid decision he made is the last straw. I tried
• 1:05:14
  Speaker 2: to make it work, but I can't anymore. I'm going
• 1:05:17
  Speaker 2: to get my ducks in a row and talk to
• 1:05:18
  Speaker 2: a lawyer before I do anything with our finances. Then
• 1:05:23
  Speaker 2: I'm done with him.
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 3: Wow.
• 1:05:24
  Speaker 2: He thinks I'm overreacting and that all of this is
• 1:05:26
  Speaker 2: a big joke. I'm done. And we've got comments. And
• 1:05:31
  Speaker 2: I think another update, but wow.
• 1:05:33
  Speaker 3: Somebody had enough.
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 2: I think it was because of the other money trouble
• 1:05:37
  Speaker 2: they were having. And then this was just like, oh,
• 1:05:40
  Speaker 2: you're not even, you don't even care.
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 4: You're not even working.
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 3: Oh my goodness.
• 1:05:42
  Speaker 2: I think he's working now.
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 3: You're playing with other people's money.
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 3: I mean, but like. Whoa.
• 1:05:47
  Speaker 2: Yeah. I can see why OP... I think money is
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 2: like one of the biggest stressors on a relationship.
• 1:05:53
  Speaker 3: Big time. Yeah.
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 2: So I can see why OP would be so frustrated
• 1:05:56
  Speaker 2: when he just spends $ 3, 000.
• 1:05:57
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:05:57
  Speaker 2: And not even on her.
• 1:05:59
  Speaker 3: True. And OP's... I think OP.
• 1:06:02
  Speaker 5: Let's just say OP was a big fan of Jay-Z
• 1:06:05
  Speaker 5: and his Jay-Z concerts and the husband bought it for
• 1:06:07
  Speaker 5: her to like, hey, let's go to this. I think
• 1:06:10
  Speaker 5: OP will still be upset because I think... From what
• 1:06:12
  Speaker 5: I'm hearing, OP cares about security.
• 1:06:14
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree. She still would have been upset if
• 1:06:16
  Speaker 2: it was something for her. Because it's not about what
• 1:06:19
  Speaker 2: you bought. It's just the fact that you used this money.
• 1:06:22
  Speaker 3: Yeah, it's secure. Like, we don't have it.
• 1:06:25
  Speaker 2: Yeah, like, what happens if someone has to go to
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 2: the hospital? You know, what happens if we, I don't know. Like,
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 2: the house burns. Like, there are so many things that
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 2: emergency fund is for that they don't have anymore.
• 1:06:38
  Speaker 4: Again, babe. this was an emergency. It's the World Cup.
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 5: Yeah.
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 2: All right.
• 1:06:43
  Speaker 5: It got egregious for me when homeboy got the tickets.
• 1:06:48
  Speaker 5: From what I understand, oh, he bought his own ticket,
• 1:06:51
  Speaker 5: I would imagine, and his dad and his brother are going,
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 5: They bought their separate tickets.
• 1:06:55
  Speaker 2: I think he bought it for all of them.
• 1:06:57
  Speaker 4: No!
• 1:06:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, because he bought three tickets. Don't do that.
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 3: Don't say that.
• 1:07:02
  Speaker 2: I feel like he could have just been like, oh, like, guys,
• 1:07:05
  Speaker 2: can you pay for your tickets?
• 1:07:06
  Speaker 3: Yeah. I'm giving him the benefit of the doubt.
• 1:07:09
  Speaker 2: It's tough. Let's see. Yeah, let's see if he specifies, oh,
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 2: my dad and my brother.
• 1:07:13
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:07:14
  Speaker 2: Common One says, so he's using your money and not
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 2: even taking you? OP says, I don't watch or follow
• 1:07:21
  Speaker 2: soccer at all. Even if we could afford tickets, I
• 1:07:24
  Speaker 2: wouldn't go to a game. I do understand your point,
• 1:07:27
  Speaker 2: but a ticket would be wasted on me. I would
• 1:07:30
  Speaker 2: just be bored the entire time. That's what you think, OP.
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 3: Yep.
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 2: That's what you think.
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 3: Yep.
• 1:07:35
  Speaker 2: I thought that too.
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 3: Yep.
• 1:07:36
  Speaker 2: And it was very entertaining.
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 3: Tell them.
• 1:07:38
  Speaker 2: I did get invested. Every time Jude Bellingham was.
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 4: On the screen. What was your investment? Jude Bellingham.
• 1:07:42
  Speaker 2: Locked in.
• 1:07:43
  Speaker 3: Okay. That wasn't what I was going with this. I
• 1:07:45
  Speaker 3: was going somewhere different.
• 1:07:46
  Speaker 2: The soccer was good too.
• 1:07:48
  Speaker 3: I was going like the atmosphere. Yeah.
• 1:07:51
  Speaker 5: When you're in a stadium, I saw like some LA game.
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah. And- When those drums start beating.
• 1:07:57
  Speaker 2: It's electric.
• 1:07:59
  Speaker 4: And those flags start waving.
• 1:08:01
  Speaker 5: And it doesn't stop until halftime. And then it comes
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 5: back again after when the game starts back. The energy
• 1:08:07
  Speaker 5: is infectious.
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 2: No, I was in Culver on the steps watching the
• 1:08:13
  Speaker 2: last game. And it was crazy. We were up and
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 2: down and up and down.
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 3: It's magnetic. It's something to.
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 5: You gotta see it. You gotta feel it. But for
• 1:08:24
  Speaker 5: your home security, chill, girl.
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  Speaker 3: I'll miss it.
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  Speaker 2: Not worth it.
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  Speaker 3: I'll see you on TV.
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  Speaker 4: I'll go to a bar. I'll go to a bar.
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  Speaker 4: I'll get some good energy. It won't be that energy,
• 1:08:34
  Speaker 4: but it'll be good energy. Right.
• 1:08:35
  Speaker 3: Find me the dopest bar. Yeah. You're fine.
• 1:08:39
  Speaker 2: Common2 says, so congratulations on your new separate bank account
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  Speaker 2: to which he does not have access. OP says, I
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  Speaker 2: won't be doing that or anything related to our finances
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 2: until I speak with a lawyer. One of my friends
• 1:08:52
  Speaker 2: went through a divorce and her husband faced consequences in
• 1:08:55
  Speaker 2: court for separating money and withdrawing financial support. And I
• 1:08:59
  Speaker 2: do not... want that to happen to me i'll only
• 1:09:02
  Speaker 2: be following advice from my lawyer comment three says sell
• 1:09:05
  Speaker 2: the tickets on the secondary market make a loss into
• 1:09:08
  Speaker 2: a win depending on the match you could make two
• 1:09:10
  Speaker 2: or three times op says i don't have the tickets
• 1:09:15
  Speaker 2: my husband had them and i have no idea how
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  Speaker 2: i would even access them Now he's telling me he
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 2: transferred them to either his dad or his brother. He
• 1:09:23
  Speaker 2: won't say because he doesn't want me to be able
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 2: to ruin this for them.
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  Speaker 3: I'm done. Oh, no.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that's crazy.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:09:30
  Speaker 2: Common 4 says, reported as fraud to your credit card company.
• 1:09:33
  Speaker 2: OP says, I did. The credit card company said it
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  Speaker 2: isn't fraud because my husband already made payment and confirmed
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  Speaker 2: it with his purchase.
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  Speaker 3: Yes.
• 1:09:42
  Speaker 2: I'm not giving up, but credit card company won't budge.
• 1:09:45
  Speaker 2: Update nearly five months later. Well, I think OP wants
• 1:09:50
  Speaker 2: to get the divorce. I think that is pretty solidified.
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 3: I mean, go for it.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: I think, yeah, at that point when he spends $ 3, 000
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 2: of your money, I think that is a time to leave.
• 1:10:01
  Speaker 3: That stings.
• 1:10:03
  Speaker 4: Five months later, OP finds out husband put all his money.
• 1:10:07
  Speaker 4: All the rest of the emergency money on Spain to win. Oh,
• 1:10:10
  Speaker 4: could you imagine? On Spain to win it all.
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 3: Oh, and he came up.
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 4: That's like the dream, right?
• 1:10:18
  Speaker 2: Update nearly five months later. I posted five months ago
• 1:10:21
  Speaker 2: and my update is just a small one, but I
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 2: have left him and I'm seeking a divorce.
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:10:27
  Speaker 2: That's what I like to hear. I moved out four
• 1:10:29
  Speaker 2: months ago. We had been going to marriage counseling because
• 1:10:32
  Speaker 2: of how strained things got after he got fired from
• 1:10:35
  Speaker 2: his job. For the second time during our marriage.
• 1:10:38
  Speaker 4: Man.
• 1:10:39
  Speaker 2: But the World Cup tickets were the nail in the coffin.
• 1:10:42
  Speaker 2: Before I moved out, he had the gall to complain
• 1:10:44
  Speaker 2: to me about how he couldn't afford some of his
• 1:10:46
  Speaker 2: favorites from the grocery store. And whose fault is that?
• 1:10:50
  Speaker 4: Lionel Messi's. It's Lionel Messi's fault.
• 1:10:55
  Speaker 2: Maybe the World Cup will feed you.
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:10:57
  Speaker 2: If it wasn't for me working some overtime, we wouldn't
• 1:11:00
  Speaker 2: have been able to buy any food at all. I
• 1:11:02
  Speaker 2: had already hired a lawyer, and since there was no
• 1:11:05
  Speaker 2: case for a fault divorce, I have to be separated
• 1:11:09
  Speaker 2: from him for a year in order to get a divorce.
• 1:11:12
  Speaker 2: Although my lawyer said the only thing filing on a
• 1:11:14
  Speaker 2: fault ground does is forego the one-year waiting period. It
• 1:11:18
  Speaker 2: doesn't affect the settlement or the division of assets. I
• 1:11:21
  Speaker 2: may have to pay some spousal support since I was
• 1:11:23
  Speaker 2: the higher earner, but it's a small price to pay
• 1:11:27
  Speaker 2: for being rid of him. He doesn't want a divorce.
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 2: He asked me to stay and continue marriage counseling. He
• 1:11:32
  Speaker 2: still went to the game three months after I left.
• 1:11:36
  Speaker 3: Yep.
• 1:11:36
  Speaker 2: While also telling me I should stay. Also, to address
• 1:11:39
  Speaker 2: some things from my first post that kept coming up,
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 2: his dad and brother did not care about him spending
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 2: our emergency fund on the tickets. His dad, his brother,
• 1:11:48
  Speaker 2: and his friends thought he was right.
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 4: Of course, of course they thought he was right.
• 1:11:53
  Speaker 2: They got to go to the World Cup for free.
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 4: Yeah, they're like, we're going to the World Cup. This
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 4: is the way. This is the right thing, yeah.
• 1:11:59
  Speaker 5: If it was a Canada team playing, they got knocked out.
• 1:12:03
  Speaker 3: They got knocked out so quick.
• 1:12:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, what game did you go to?
• 1:12:08
  Speaker 3: They didn't really perform that well.
• 1:12:10
  Speaker 2: We all live in the city where the game was played.
• 1:12:12
  Speaker 2: No one would have to get a flight or a hotel.
• 1:12:14
  Speaker 2: At least there's that. I don't watch soccer and even
• 1:12:17
  Speaker 2: if we could have afforded tickets I wouldn't have gone
• 1:12:19
  Speaker 2: to a game. My anger was about him draining our
• 1:12:22
  Speaker 2: emergency fund. It wasn't about me not being invited to
• 1:12:26
  Speaker 2: the game. We got a little bit left to this story.
• 1:12:29
  Speaker 2: Do you have any final thoughts?
• 1:12:30
  Speaker 5: Oh yo if your partner is not a sail on
• 1:12:35
  Speaker 5: your ship and an anchor you gotta like release that anchor.
• 1:12:38
  Speaker 2: And that's That's a great way to say it. Where'd
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 2: you get that one from?
• 1:12:41
  Speaker 3: Just came from a top.
• 1:12:42
  Speaker 2: That's so good.
• 1:12:44
  Speaker 4: From me.
• 1:12:44
  Speaker 2: From me.
• 1:12:45
  Speaker 5: Like, come on. Like, yeah, get away. Because sometimes you
• 1:12:50
  Speaker 5: make mistakes.
• 1:12:52
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:12:53
  Speaker 5: And you probably are with the wrong human.
• 1:12:56
  Speaker 3: Yeah. That's just what it is. Yeah.
• 1:12:59
  Speaker 2: I mean, I really hope that the World Cup was
• 1:13:02
  Speaker 2: worth losing his marriage.
• 1:13:03
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 1:13:04
  Speaker 3: Apparently it was.
• 1:13:05
  Speaker 2: Apparently.
• 1:13:06
  Speaker 3: Apparently it was.
• 1:13:07
  Speaker 2: Yeah, his marriage was worth $ 3, 000 and three World Cup tickets.
• 1:13:10
  Speaker 5: Indignant, though, of complaining about not buying his favorite food.
• 1:13:15
  Speaker 2: That would send me over the edge.
• 1:13:17
  Speaker 3: That's so funny.
• 1:13:18
  Speaker 2: For him to go, where are the Doritos?
• 1:13:20
  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah.
• 1:13:21
  Speaker 2: Why don't we have my Doritos? And she goes- We
• 1:13:24
  Speaker 2: can't afford them. He goes, what the heck? We can't
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 2: afford my Doritos?
• 1:13:27
  Speaker 4: I can't have poutine anymore.
• 1:13:29
  Speaker 3: What happened? Oh my gosh.
• 1:13:31
  Speaker 2: We got one sentence to finish it off. I am
• 1:13:34
  Speaker 2: following the advice of my lawyers regarding finances and will
• 1:13:37
  Speaker 2: not be fully withdrawing financial support as many comments suggested.
• 1:13:41
  Speaker 2: I don't want to face the consequences in the divorce
• 1:13:43
  Speaker 2: proceedings and will follow my lawyer's guidance on how to
• 1:13:46
  Speaker 2: proceed no matter how much the comments double down on
• 1:13:49
  Speaker 2: what I should do. That is the way to go.
• 1:13:52
  Speaker 2: I think we should leave it to the lawyers.
• 1:13:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah. Now she has to pay. Oh, yeah.
• 1:13:59
  Speaker 2: Now she has to pay a lawyer.
• 1:14:00
  Speaker 3: Oh, no. She has to pay him. Oh, yeah.
• 1:14:02
  Speaker 2: Because spousal support.
• 1:14:03
  Speaker 3: Because she earns more. Yeah, she earns more.
• 1:14:06
  Speaker 2: Crazy. That's tough.
• 1:14:06
  Speaker 3: That is tough. So twice, he didn't get laid off twice.
• 1:14:11
  Speaker 3: Guess what?
• 1:14:11
  Speaker 2: He got fired twice. Yeah, this does not seem like
• 1:14:16
  Speaker 2: a guy who's very good at his job or at thinking.
• 1:14:20
  Speaker 3: Financial responsibility.
• 1:14:21
  Speaker 2: Financial responsibility.
• 1:14:24
  Speaker 4: He's more of the now guy.
• 1:14:25
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 1:14:26
  Speaker 4: Not the future.
• 1:14:26
  Speaker 3: He's not a future guy. And then, yo, sometimes the
• 1:14:28
  Speaker 3: now guy could be fun if you're like 19.
• 1:14:30
  Speaker 2: Yeah, and maybe that's.
• 1:14:31
  Speaker 4: Why she married him.
• 1:14:32
  Speaker 2: She's like, wow, this guy's so fun. And then she
• 1:14:34
  Speaker 2: was like, ooh, every year he gets less fun.
• 1:14:38
  Speaker 3: Right.
• 1:14:38
  Speaker 5: Yeah, he's like, like, homie yeah in high school used
• 1:14:43
  Speaker 5: to be the man homie yeah she probably.
• 1:14:45
  Speaker 2: Is like oh wow you were so adventurous and like
• 1:14:48
  Speaker 2: spur of the moment and then she's like oh actually
• 1:14:51
  Speaker 2: that's not a good thing anymore yeah but uh that
• 1:14:54
  Speaker 2: is the end of that story and i think that
• 1:14:58
  Speaker 2: it was our final.
• 1:14:59
  Speaker 4: Story final story so yes.
• 1:15:00
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• 1:15:03
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• 1:15:05
  Speaker 4: Yeah where they find where they can find you.
• 1:15:08
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• 1:15:10
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• 1:15:12
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• 1:15:14
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• 1:15:16
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• 1:16:34
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• 1:16:38
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• 1:16:40
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