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- 0:27Speaker 2: If I were to make a list of the things
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- 0:35Speaker 4: Death.
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- 0:42Speaker 2: late and without a pencil. And the blank page. Yeah,
- 0:47Speaker 2: I would put writer's block on that list of big scaries.
- 0:51Speaker 2: So many of us are afraid to start writing because
- 0:53Speaker 2: we judge ourselves. because we've been told we're no good
- 0:56Speaker 2: at it, because we don't know what to say. But
- 0:59Speaker 2: writer Suleika Juad is here to tell you it's worth
- 1:02Speaker 2: your time to try.
- 1:03Speaker 3: I've been keeping a journal for as long as I
- 1:06Speaker 3: could hold a pen and have hundreds of journals from
- 1:10Speaker 3: the time I was a kid. And I think from
- 1:12Speaker 3: a really early age, the journal to me felt like
- 1:20Speaker 3: a sacred space. In a rarer space where I got
- 1:27Speaker 3: to show up as my most unedited, unvarnished self. And
- 1:38Speaker 3: it wasn't for anyone. It was just for me.
- 1:40Speaker 2: It became an especially sacred space when Zuleika was diagnosed
- 1:44Speaker 2: with leukemia. And in the moments since that she's been
- 1:47Speaker 2: in cancer treatment or coping with its effects. She says
- 1:50Speaker 2: there's something about journaling that allows for a transmutation.
- 1:54Speaker 3: Sort of alchemy. Which is to say, by the end
- 1:58Speaker 3: of writing my way through a journal, I felt that
- 2:02Speaker 3: some small shift had been enacted. I felt a little lighter.
- 2:07Speaker 3: It was the closest I felt and have felt to
- 2:12Speaker 3: finding a direct line to my subconscious.
- 2:17Speaker 2: Even if she thought she had nothing of interest or
- 2:19Speaker 2: import to say that day, or even if she wrote
- 2:21Speaker 2: in sentence fragments or lists... And researchers have found that
- 2:25Speaker 2: journaling can have health benefits. For instance, when people write
- 2:28Speaker 2: about traumatic or stressful experiences, they see a boost in
- 2:31Speaker 2: their immune function and lower blood pressure. They also make
- 2:34Speaker 2: fewer stress-related trips to the doctor. Sulika wrote a book
- 2:38Speaker 2: about journaling. It's called The Book of Alchemy, A Practice
- 2:42Speaker 2: for a Creative Life. On this episode of Life Kit,
- 2:45Speaker 2: we talk about journaling, why to do it, how to
- 2:47Speaker 2: break through any resistance, and how to stay consistent. even when,
- 2:52Speaker 2: or especially when, you're going through a tough time.
- 2:55Speaker 3: Fold it into some non-negotiable part of your routine. For me,
- 3:01Speaker 3: my one non-negotiable is my first cup of coffee in
- 3:04Speaker 3: the morning. I sit down at my kitchen table each
- 3:09Speaker 3: morning and I write in my journal with that first cup.
- 3:15Speaker 3: And it always happens because the coffee always happens. So
- 3:18Speaker 3: whatever that is to you, try to do it in tandem.
- 3:23Speaker 2: We'll also share some prompts to get you started.
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- 4:43Speaker 2: Do you think there's value particularly in journaling during the
- 4:48Speaker 2: difficult moments of our lives?
- 4:51Speaker 3: I think especially in the difficult moments of our lives,
- 4:56Speaker 3: there's great value in journaling. And to me, the journal
- 5:02Speaker 3: is the space that I go to to make sense
- 5:06Speaker 3: of what has happened to me, to record the Realizations,
- 5:14Speaker 3: many of them painful, that come with having scales falling
- 5:21Speaker 3: from the eyes moment and the opportunity to reflect and
- 5:27Speaker 3: to figure out how I'm going to choose my response.
- 5:31Speaker 3: There are many days where I do not feel like journaling,
- 5:34Speaker 3: where whatever comes out feels boring to me or petty
- 5:41Speaker 3: or embarrassing even, But I think much like going to
- 5:44Speaker 3: the gym, you do it consistently enough and you arrive
- 5:47Speaker 3: to somewhere where you start to see something shift. You
- 5:52Speaker 3: start to see its rewards. And I think in those
- 5:56Speaker 3: moments in my life where I felt most laid bare,
- 6:01Speaker 3: the journal has been a hiding place and a fighting place.
- 6:09Speaker 3: What about you? Do you have a practice of keeping
- 6:12Speaker 3: a journal?
- 6:13Speaker 2: On and off. I also have some journals that I
- 6:16Speaker 2: kept when I was 19 and I look back at
- 6:19Speaker 2: them and I cringe a bit. I'm like talking about
- 6:22Speaker 2: some guy that I'm upset about and I'm like, I'm
- 6:25Speaker 2: so mad or whatever. Like I'm being dismissive of myself,
- 6:29Speaker 2: but I think I'm like, wow, I had such overwhelming
- 6:32Speaker 2: big feelings about something that I want to say doesn't
- 6:37Speaker 2: really matter. Like some person whose name I've forgotten, you know?
- 6:41Speaker 2: It's hard to look at, to see how obsessive you were.
- 6:44Speaker 3: Totally. I, as a rule, typically don't go back and
- 6:48Speaker 3: reread my journals specifically for the reason that you're describing.
- 6:53Speaker 3: I tend to read them with great judgment. And that
- 7:00Speaker 3: then makes it difficult for me to keep writing in
- 7:05Speaker 3: a journal without preemptively judging myself. whether it's the floweriness
- 7:13Speaker 3: of the writing or the content. And I really try
- 7:17Speaker 3: to approach the journal without expectation, without that sense of self-consciousness.
- 7:28Speaker 2: Takeaway one. Sometimes we're afraid to start journaling because we
- 7:32Speaker 2: get in our own heads. As soon as Penn hits page,
- 7:35Speaker 2: we're picturing some imaginary audience reading and judging our words.
- 7:39Speaker 2: We worry we're not making logical sense, or that our
- 7:41Speaker 2: writing isn't grammatically correct, or that our emotions will be
- 7:44Speaker 2: cringy to look back on later. But there is no audience.
- 7:48Speaker 2: You don't have to share your journal entries with anyone
- 7:50Speaker 2: or even look at them again, unless you want to.
- 7:53Speaker 2: So give yourself permission to start. And know that journals
- 7:56Speaker 2: don't have to look a particular way. There's no structure
- 7:59Speaker 2: you need to stick to. And you don't have to
- 8:01Speaker 2: write this thing like it's a memoir.
- 8:04Speaker 3: The entries can be lists. They can be poem fragments.
- 8:08Speaker 3: They can emerged as fictional short stories featuring aspirational narrators.
- 8:19Speaker 3: They can be accountings of various things. There's a great
- 8:23Speaker 3: Mary Ruffel essay called Pause where she talked about a
- 8:28Speaker 3: cryologue that she kept in her journal when she was
- 8:32Speaker 3: going through menopause and where she just had a tally
- 8:36Speaker 3: of the number of times she had cried every day.
- 8:39Speaker 3: And I think that's what makes the journal feel so
- 8:47Speaker 3: freeing to me. There's no right or wrong way to
- 8:51Speaker 3: approach it if it leads you to keeping, as Frida
- 8:58Speaker 3: Kahlo did, a journal that was mostly visual diary entries
- 9:04Speaker 3: with some written entries or a combination thereof. Wonderful. And
- 9:10Speaker 3: over the course of my life, I've tried to give
- 9:14Speaker 3: myself permission to experiment with how I think about the journal.
- 9:21Speaker 2: I love that idea because I feel like I have
- 9:24Speaker 2: this instinct to write in like a memoiristic way. And
- 9:30Speaker 2: I feel like the entries have to be complete and
- 9:33Speaker 2: all tied up in a bow at the end. And
- 9:36Speaker 2: I actually found when I was going through treatment for
- 9:38Speaker 2: breast cancer a couple years ago that I did not
- 9:41Speaker 2: have the energy for that. But I did want to
- 9:44Speaker 2: write down some thoughts that I had, some seeds of ideas.
- 9:48Speaker 2: And so I started doing something a little more creative
- 9:50Speaker 2: and different, like lists. Because I was like, maybe I'll
- 9:52Speaker 2: come back to this and this could be a little seed.
- 9:55Speaker 2: But also just this list is enough. I just pulled
- 9:58Speaker 2: it up. I kept them in a on the notes
- 10:00Speaker 2: app on my phone one is the list of reasons
- 10:02Speaker 2: that this is my fault I drank too much in
- 10:05Speaker 2: college I forgot to knock on wood that time I
- 10:08Speaker 2: forgot to go to the guy in last year and
- 10:10Speaker 2: I was too happy and I had my lymph nodes
- 10:15Speaker 2: removed on my left side. And after the surgery, I
- 10:17Speaker 2: wrote a list of things I never realized I used
- 10:19Speaker 2: my left armpit for because it like hurt too much.
- 10:22Speaker 2: Like I couldn't do these things right after the surgery.
- 10:24Speaker 2: It's like opening jars. You use your armpit for that.
- 10:28Speaker 2: You know, sitting up in bed, lying down in bed,
- 10:30Speaker 2: pumping soap from the dispenser, holding my phone up in bed,
- 10:34Speaker 2: looking back at it. It's evocative. Like it takes me
- 10:36Speaker 2: right back to that moment.
- 10:38Speaker 3: And it tells such a story. I want to reach
- 10:41Speaker 3: through the phone and hug. that version of you who
- 10:45Speaker 3: wrote that list of reasons why it was your fault
- 10:48Speaker 3: and reach back in time and hug the version of
- 10:54Speaker 3: myself that wrote a nearly identical list. Except mine involved
- 10:59Speaker 3: drinking too much, smoking Cleopatra cigarettes, which was, I think,
- 11:05Speaker 3: Egypt's national cigarette during my semester abroad, which seemed perhaps
- 11:10Speaker 3: like a reason to get leukemia. Every sin that I
- 11:14Speaker 3: felt I'd ever committed, every lie I'd told, every promise
- 11:19Speaker 3: I'd broken. I think similarly, my relationship to writing in
- 11:26Speaker 3: my journal changed and the reason I found myself there changed.
- 11:33Speaker 3: I remember I was 22 when I got sick and
- 11:38Speaker 3: I felt this need to record little fragments and snapshots
- 11:47Speaker 3: of what I was seeing.
- 11:49Speaker 2: So takeaway two, if you're feeling stuck or unsure of
- 11:52Speaker 2: how to get started with journaling, here are some ideas.
- 11:55Speaker 2: Try writing in lists or sentence fragments. Write in the
- 11:58Speaker 2: second or third person to distance yourself from your inner critic.
- 12:02Speaker 2: Write directly to whoever you imagine judging your writing. And
- 12:06Speaker 2: experiment with what tools you use to write. Pen and paper,
- 12:09Speaker 2: a typewriter, the computer. In one workshop, Zuleika says, a
- 12:14Speaker 2: participant said they couldn't keep a journal because they have
- 12:16Speaker 2: terrible handwriting.
- 12:18Speaker 3: And the second they start journaling, they start to judge
- 12:22Speaker 3: how their handwriting looks. And I asked this man, you know,
- 12:28Speaker 3: why not journal in the notes app on your phone?
- 12:32Speaker 3: And he said, well, that just seems like the wrong
- 12:35Speaker 3: way to journal. I feel like it has to be
- 12:37Speaker 3: in a notebook with a pen. you know, we have
- 12:41Speaker 3: all of these expectations that we bring that I think
- 12:46Speaker 3: hinder our enjoyment of it. And so for me, really,
- 12:52Speaker 3: you know, the simplest and most important piece of advice
- 13:00Speaker 3: that I have to continuously remind myself of is keeping
- 13:04Speaker 3: the barrier to entry low and remembering that there is
- 13:08Speaker 3: no right or wrong way to keep a journal. And
- 13:13Speaker 3: when I got sick at 22.
- 13:16Speaker 2: I.
- 13:18Speaker 3: Had no desire to do anything, let alone writing in
- 13:22Speaker 3: a notebook. And I decided to do it because I
- 13:25Speaker 3: knew I wanted to be in conversation with myself. Maybe
- 13:30Speaker 3: more than that, I knew I needed to because I
- 13:34Speaker 3: was sort of collapsing in on myself. And so I
- 13:37Speaker 3: made one very important role. And it was just that
- 13:41Speaker 3: I had to show up in the notebook every day.
- 13:43Speaker 3: It could be three pages. It could be a paragraph.
- 13:47Speaker 3: It could be one word. And if I wrote one word,
- 13:50Speaker 3: then I had done my journaling that day and it
- 13:53Speaker 3: was a win. And when I freed myself from the
- 13:58Speaker 3: expectation that there was a right or wrong way to
- 14:02Speaker 3: do it, I found that I wanted to return. And
- 14:05Speaker 3: inevitably I wrote more than one word. And I need
- 14:08Speaker 3: to go on record and say, like, I'm not a
- 14:11Speaker 3: person who is good at being consistent at anything. I
- 14:16Speaker 3: am the person who joins the gym, goes every single
- 14:19Speaker 3: day very intensely for a week, then maybe once or
- 14:22Speaker 3: twice and never again.
- 14:29Speaker 2: After the break, Zuleika shares some of her favorite journaling prompts.
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- 15:28Speaker 2: I know it's going to be hard to choose, but
- 15:30Speaker 2: could you share a couple of your favorite prompts from
- 15:33Speaker 2: the book? Absolutely.
- 15:34Speaker 6: Absolutely.
- 15:35Speaker 3: One of my very favorite prompts is called Just Ten
- 15:39Speaker 3: Images by Ash Parsons Story. And she started doing exactly
- 15:48Speaker 3: what the title suggests when her adopted son was in
- 15:51Speaker 3: the NICU and she was exhausted and a young new
- 15:56Speaker 3: mom and bleary-eyed and did not have time to do
- 16:00Speaker 3: much of anything, much less keeping a journal. that she
- 16:06Speaker 3: was going to record 10 images from the last 24 hours.
- 16:12Speaker 3: And she did this every day in list form. And
- 16:15Speaker 3: I love the prompt because it's both so straightforward and
- 16:21Speaker 3: it always yields something unexpected, especially if I'm having a
- 16:26Speaker 3: really hard day or a hard week. I'll stream of consciousness,
- 16:32Speaker 3: write 10 images down that pop into my brain. And
- 16:38Speaker 3: often they end up telling a very different story to
- 16:43Speaker 3: the one I've been narrating to myself about how my
- 16:49Speaker 3: day or week has gone.
- 16:52Speaker 2: Takeaway three, consider prompts. There are a lot of these
- 16:55Speaker 2: in Suleika's book and you can find journal prompts online too.
- 16:58Speaker 2: And you can also come up with your own creative
- 17:00Speaker 2: way to prompt yourself. Zuleika gives an example of someone
- 17:03Speaker 2: who put 100 paint chip cards in a box and
- 17:06Speaker 2: then pulled one out every day and wrote something about
- 17:09Speaker 2: that color. A poem, an essay, a word. You can
- 17:13Speaker 2: also use other people's writing as a prompt. Their feelings
- 17:16Speaker 2: and opinions might spark something in you, even if you
- 17:19Speaker 2: take things on a tangent or in a totally different direction.
- 17:22Speaker 2: Here's another prompt Zuleika shares from the book.
- 17:25Speaker 3: Another prompt I write to a lot is when I
- 17:29Speaker 3: actually visualize. very much resisted because it sounded hokey to
- 17:33Speaker 3: me at first and it's called A Day in the
- 17:37Speaker 3: Life of Your Dreams by Holly Jacobs who is a
- 17:41Speaker 3: pediatric hospice nurse and the prompt is to write a
- 17:50Speaker 3: day from the moment you wake up until you go
- 17:53Speaker 3: to sleep in the life of your dreams a couple
- 17:56Speaker 3: years out but to do so in the present tense
- 18:00Speaker 3: And I was having a really hard time right before
- 18:04Speaker 3: I found out that my leukemia was back and that
- 18:07Speaker 3: I had relapsed with imagining myself in the future. I
- 18:13Speaker 3: was having so much anxiety about so many big questions
- 18:21Speaker 3: in terms of my relationship to my now husband at
- 18:25Speaker 3: the time with regards to home and where I should
- 18:31Speaker 3: live and what I should be doing professionally and on
- 18:36Speaker 3: and on and on and also this lurking sense that
- 18:40Speaker 3: something was wrong which of course it was and I
- 18:44Speaker 3: think that's the thing when you have had the ceiling
- 18:47Speaker 3: cave in on you it's hard to assume structural stability
- 18:54Speaker 3: and um Yeah, daydreaming about the future can feel really
- 19:00Speaker 3: dangerous and risky. And so I like that prompt because
- 19:06Speaker 3: it forces me not just to imagine myself in the future,
- 19:12Speaker 3: but it also forces me to articulate what I want
- 19:18Speaker 3: for myself in that future, which can feel equally scary.
- 19:21Speaker 2: Yeah. I think it tells you also what you value.
- 19:27Speaker 2: And maybe is a pathway to finding even some small
- 19:31Speaker 2: piece of that today?
- 19:33Speaker 3: I honestly credit my marriage to it. I credit the
- 19:39Speaker 3: place where we live now to it. And not in
- 19:42Speaker 3: some manifesting miracles BS sort of way. But I think
- 19:47Speaker 3: because I wrote to that prompt so... much that it
- 19:52Speaker 3: forced me to really clarify what it was that I
- 19:55Speaker 3: wanted so that when I had the possibility of going
- 20:00Speaker 3: for those things that I wanted or when they appeared
- 20:04Speaker 3: I didn't waste time I could recognize them.
- 20:09Speaker 2: So like I've loved talking to you. Thank you so much.
- 20:12Speaker 3: I have loved talking to you. What a treat. I
- 20:17Speaker 3: feel like I could talk to you for many more hours.
- 20:20Speaker 2: Same.
- 20:23Speaker 5: All right.
- 20:23Speaker 2: Time for a recap. Takeaway one. You don't have to
- 20:27Speaker 2: share your journal entries with anyone or ever look at
- 20:29Speaker 2: them again unless you want to. So give yourself permission
- 20:32Speaker 2: to start and also know that your journal does not
- 20:35Speaker 2: have to look a particular way. Takeaway two, if you're
- 20:38Speaker 2: having journalers block, here are some ideas. Write in lists
- 20:42Speaker 2: or sentence fragments. Write in the second or third person
- 20:45Speaker 2: to distance yourself from that inner critic. Write directly to
- 20:49Speaker 2: whoever you imagine judging your writing. And mix up the
- 20:52Speaker 2: way you write, in cursive or in print, with pen
- 20:55Speaker 2: and paper, pencil and legal pad, on a typewriter, on
- 20:58Speaker 2: the computer, in the notes app on your phone. Finally,
- 21:02Speaker 2: takeaway three, consider using a prompt, the formal kind or
- 21:06Speaker 2: the kind you create for yourself. And you can use
- 21:08Speaker 2: other people's writing as a prompt too. And remember, this
- 21:12Speaker 2: journal is for you and nobody else. So with that
- 21:15Speaker 2: in mind, what do you want to create? And that's
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- 21:30Speaker 2: produced by Claire Marie Schneider. Our digital editor is Malika
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