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Don't Be a Bother | Pele Yoetz | Hachzek Day 111 · The Torah Sparks Podcast

• 0:00
  SPEAKER_00: Alright, Hevra, I hope you're doing amazing.
• 0:02
  SPEAKER_00: I hope you have a Guten Kvittle.
• 0:04
  SPEAKER_00: Here we go.
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  SPEAKER_00: In Palayoit, day 111, 111.
• 0:09
  SPEAKER_00: Avil in covid, Allah, Hadavar M'Oid.
• 0:12
  SPEAKER_00: If it's very difficult for you, we're talking about applying effort.
• 0:15
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes you should do it yourself.
• 0:17
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes you should have others do it for you.
• 0:18
  SPEAKER_00: Sometimes you shouldn't bother people.
• 0:20
  SPEAKER_00: So let's say it's very um burdensome for you to do it.
• 0:24
  SPEAKER_00: Um so then says the Pela Yoids, Hadavir Mi'o'id, oh shit.
• 0:30
  SPEAKER_00: Or if you have to, by you being required to do something, you're gonna be uh needing to turn away from your heavenly responsibilities, or it's something that it's physically limiting for you.
• 0:44
  SPEAKER_00: In those circumstances, then you should ask somebody else, don't be hesitant to do so.
• 0:54
  SPEAKER_00: Anyone who prevents his disciple from servicing him, attending his needs, so he's withholding him from kindness and you're removing from him the fear of Hashem.
• 1:06
  SPEAKER_00: This refers to as Tamid, who's an upstanding disciple.
• 1:10
  SPEAKER_00: He possesses a desire to increase in merit through the mitzvous.
• 1:16
  SPEAKER_00: Then if you're the Rebbe, if you're the teacher, you should allow your two student to do this because it's in a tremendous mitzah.
• 1:22
  SPEAKER_00: Shizcha Yiras Yeras Shamaim, because the reward is a heightened level of fear of heaven.
• 1:31
  SPEAKER_00: Right?
• 1:31
  SPEAKER_00: You're gonna um honor the sage, and then right away it says you will fear Hashem, because the two are related.
• 1:39
  SPEAKER_00: There's no greater kindness than this.
• 1:52
  SPEAKER_00: If you see that it's another person's desire, they really want to serve you, they want to get you something, they want to spend effort in doing something to fulfill your need.
• 2:03
  SPEAKER_00: They think that it's a mitzo to do so, and they're doing it to connect a shem, as mitsu, zakosvala, susurton, ki ritsono, shall adam zaokavodo.
• 2:14
  SPEAKER_00: This is the man's will, and this is his honor, because a person's honor is his will, and you should let him do it.
• 2:23
  SPEAKER_00: And the glory of heaven is actually going to be intensified through this process, and a shem will be praised.
• 2:33
  SPEAKER_00: Like we say that the the poor the poor person does more for the rich man than the rich man does for the poor person.
• 2:40
  SPEAKER_00: You never really know who's helping who sha usher, right?
• 2:44
  SPEAKER_00: Well, how do we know this?
• 2:45
  SPEAKER_00: Because the rich man he gives some silver coins to a pauper.
• 2:50
  SPEAKER_00: But the the anim provides the rich man with the merit of entering into the world to come.
• 2:55
  SPEAKER_00: It's so much greater.
• 2:58
  SPEAKER_00: Right over here, this case is no different.
• 3:06
  SPEAKER_00: The one who's being served does more kindness with the one who served him than the server has done for the man that he's actually attending to.
• 3:15
  SPEAKER_00: It like flips the whole thing on its head.
• 3:16
  SPEAKER_00: You think you're being helped, but really the guy's helping you doing more.
• 3:19
  SPEAKER_00: Okay.
• 3:24
  SPEAKER_00: Because the server is just expanding a little bit of effort, but you are enabling him to bring pleasure to um the creator, and it's going to be an abundance of good that's in return.
• 3:38
  SPEAKER_00: A person must not judge based on looks.
• 3:42
  SPEAKER_00: Shemara los saber panam yapos shiroto shores.
• 3:45
  SPEAKER_00: Um he can't just ref rely on the fact that a person is showing a happy face.
• 3:50
  SPEAKER_00: Oh, so now that shows that he's good, he wants to serve me.
• 3:53
  SPEAKER_00: You really have to know if the guy really is excited to do so.
• 3:58
  SPEAKER_00: Maybe he's only doing it because maybe he has only a happy face because he's really embarrassed to do otherwise.
• 4:08
  SPEAKER_00: A person must not be willing to accept um the help from another person, meaning for another person to service him, to attend his needs, until it's very clear that he wants to do it.
• 4:21
  SPEAKER_00: Because then it's going to be in this realm where it's actually a mitzvah and you're bringing uh sruh to your creator.
• 4:32
  SPEAKER_00: Even if a person knows that this is the case, he's not allowed to accept these services from a person who studies halachos and is not his student.
• 4:42
  SPEAKER_00: Shari Amr Basalush Tamish from Mishani Halachos, because Khazal said Gamaran Megillah, it's forbidden to make use of somebody who learns halachos.
• 4:53
  SPEAKER_00: Because there's a reason to suspect that he's just gonna feel that his honor was being slighted or the likes.
• 5:13
  SPEAKER_00: You don't have to refuse it.
• 5:19
  SPEAKER_00: If the service that's required at the moment is something that's actually degrading and it's beneath the scholar's dignity to do so, so then don't accept the services.
• 5:34
  SPEAKER_00: If you're accustomed to carrying a load such as this for yourself, all is well and good.
• 5:38
  SPEAKER_00: If you have love, is ya kure ana bezilusa di doch lobina.
• 5:42
  SPEAKER_00: If not, then I do not wish to glorify myself through you are disgaste disgrace.
• 5:49
  SPEAKER_00: We're not talking about um just uh regular services, where you have to actually weigh um and and make sure that it's befitting.
• 6:05
  SPEAKER_00: The same is true regarding any request that a person wishes to make of his friend, the chal minus or vushi lo im chaveru, as well as any interaction that he will have with his friend.
• 6:18
  SPEAKER_00: He has to always be careful to ensure that he's request what he's requesting is not going to be annoying and irking, um, a bother for the other guy.
• 6:30
  SPEAKER_00: He has to consider uh each person as if he does not want to perform this act of kindness.
• 6:39
  SPEAKER_00: You have to assume also that even a small inconvenience is going to grow to be burdensome and it's gonna be a difficulty.
• 6:48
  SPEAKER_00: Umasukave shall chaveir mikal of negetzchar mitzah.
• 6:52
  SPEAKER_00: On the other hand, even a heavy burden of his fellow, it should be considered insignificant in his eyes, and the fact that the reward in doing so is going to be much greater.
• 7:06
  SPEAKER_00: He cannot uh place the burden um upon anyone until it's very clear that he wants to do so.
• 7:12
  SPEAKER_00: Like we said, try to understand the end, meaning what a person really wants and what's going to really give him joy and satisfaction.
• 7:23
  SPEAKER_00: And in this way, you'll find favor in the eyes of both God and man, wishing you a marvelous rest of your day, and Ritzosham will pick up with a new topic tomorrow.