Latest / Man In Your Corner with Shaun Tucker / Ep. 66 | Overcoming Fear and Dad Guilt to Achieve Your Entrepreneurial Goals
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- Shaun: Welcome back to the reset episode 66 with me, Sean Tucker. Why are you scared to go and get what you want? Too often you think you've got it all figured out. And then what happens, you go, you walk towards where you want to go. And right before you actually say what you want and go and ask for what you want. turn around and you walk away. See fear is the thing that keeps us stuck, comfortable. and very much in touch with our current reality that we're getting sick of. So why do you even want something different if you're too afraid to go and get it? I know, right now, you're thinking, but it's hard man. Well, of course it's hard. No one ever said change was easy. It's actually simple, but it's not easy. It's the same with anything. you're learning, know, a lot of the time you are actually learning to forget actually. It's you're going through a process of unlearning to learn something new and where you've had negative experiences. you're actually trying to integrate something new. If you've tried to learn to become a master salesman and you had a really terrible mentor. who basically shame cycled you, shame coached you and made you feel humiliated. So now whenever you go into a sales environment, your body responds to that as a freeze or flight. or maybe even fight, right? That's then mirrored by your client or prospect who's on the other side receiving what you have to offer. And what happens when you two dogs in the arena who don't like each other or don't like that environment that they're in? They're not going to be calm. They're going to be chaotic. They're going to fight. Or one's going to roll over and submit, right? There's nowhere to run away in a cage. And when you're in these kind of high pressure environments where it is do or die. This is what we're trying to get away from. And I don't mean run away from it. I mean, allow yourself to really contain what it is you fear and hold presence and safety for the person you're meeting. So you can see them for where they're truly at and mirror back and challenge. where they're at and where they want to go. This is the same for when it comes to having a meeting with someone who, you know, maybe it's a performance meeting. How we receive feedback is how we respond to feedback. If you're reacting to the feedback that you get, It's probably suggesting that one, it's triggering them, and two, it's probably gonna trigger in you because there's something unresolved. There's some sort of emotion that needs processing so that you can actually start thinking clearly. Because where there's an unprocessed emotion, there is a thought that's governing that. And if you're... stuck in the way that you think because you have unprocessed feelings in your body you're never going to see the light of the day. You're going to keep repeating the same old cycle day in and day out. So every time you go to face your fears, you go to try and get what you want, you knock on the door and you run away, that's only conditioning you deeper into the pattern of staying the same. I mean, one of the questions that I love is what's the worst thing that can happen? If I call this person right now, what's the worst thing that can happen? if I actually ask this person. Tell this person, I know I can help you. And it's going to cost you this much of time, of money, and of commitment. then I know I've done my job properly. Given that, that this person has something I can help them with and I've walked them through a process where they can see exactly what's stopping them from getting what they want. once you have gone through that process. And that person is sitting there literally holding back the feeling. that has stopped them this many times from actually going towards where they want to go. Let's say it's getting back to cricket. You might have not have played cricket for years. And that's something that you really wanted to do. And every day, and every minute. You lean away from it. more and more unlikely it is that you're gonna actually go and get it. So the question is, do you really want it? Is it aligned in the version of you that you're becoming to continue down that pathway of achieving the goal that you set out to get? Maybe it's not clear in your mind why. Why it's important. When you understand why it's important and you're able to connect the dots as to what it will do for you, you can probably start to see the pattern of it becomes a no-brainer. And this is exactly what happens in processes or sales calls. someone who has something to offer you. will take you through a process to help you understand what's stopping you from being that version of yourself that you can believe in. that you already do believe in. And that investment that you make is literally just a commitment to yourself. So I'd love to know, is this content that I'm speaking with you on, is it helpful? Is it helpful in understanding maybe what's stopping you from living your best life? What's stopping you from attracting that dream relationship or maybe getting the client that you've always wanted? And if you more content like this, let me know. Because I so much ⁓ I want give and we only have such little time to give it. If I don't know, I'm going to keep on throwing ⁓ stuff out until I hear back ⁓ what actually for you. So if you found value in this episode today, I invite you to share it with just one person. Thanks for stopping by and tuning in and I'll see you in tomorrow's episode.