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DA CREW PODCAST SEASON 2_ EPISODE _33_ HOST NATALIE HARVEY · DA CREW Podcast

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Hello, Hello, Hello, and welcome to the Crew Podcast. I
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am the Visionary Queen Angela and welcome to Season two. I want to thank
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you for tuning in and for all of your support throughout season one. We're
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hello everybody, and welcome to a new episode of Let's Chat When that I
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am your wonderful and gracious host, Natalie Harvey. Hope everyone is doing well.
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Hope everybody has had a wonderful Sunday, a productive week. You know,
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we're getting ready now for the Easter week and coming up today's Palm Sunday.
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So I just hope everyone is doing well and fantastic and just fabulous all
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around. Today it's just me, no guests. We'll have a guest on
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my next show. Thank you all for tuning in when my last show and
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I had my previous guest, MS Donna. That was a wonderful episode.
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If you did not see it, you need to go and check it out.
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You know, you can always go back and receive the replays on our
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Facebook page at the Crew Podcast or on our YouTube page which is also the
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Crew Podcast, or on my page I share it as well. But tonight,
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tonight we're gonna have a conversation because you know, I just love to
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have a good old conversation. Talking is something that we do. We are
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a people that love to talk. Women, we love to talk. Men.
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Y'all like to talk to even though y'all act like y'all don't like to
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talk, but y'all like to talk. But we're gonna just have a quick
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little conversation tonight, And basically what we're going to talk about is how do
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you find yourself after you quote unquote lose yourself to a situation, a circumstance,
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a relationship, a situationship, just whatever it is. How do you
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find yourself? How do you bounce back after going through something that whether it
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was good something, whether it was something that you ain't have no business being
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in. How do you find yourself? What do you do to bring yourself
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back or not so much bring yourself back, but become a better you?
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How do you find the way? How do you find a way to become
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a better youth? You know, life is just so crazy at times,
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and we're all searching for something. We all want to become something or someone
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or emulate someone, and we do that with the idea that you know,
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if I be this way, it can grasp the attention of someone or something,
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but not necessarily realizing that when we do that, we lose a little
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bit of ourself or we just if not even a little bit, we just
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totally lose ourselves in this game of life or this phase of life that we
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are in, and we don't sometimes always realize it right when it happens.
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Sometimes other people see it before we can see it. But when we do
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realize it, how do we pull ourselves back? How do we say,
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okay, who am I? What have I become? And how am I
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gonna get myself back? Or get myself in a space where I am okay
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to say I messed up, I shouldn't have done this, or let me
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let me go back to the drawing board and start all over again, let
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me wipe the slate clean, let me let me be accountable for what my
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transgressions were, or figure out how did I contribute to whatever took place?
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But how do we find ourselves and be conscious enough to bring ourself back?
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How do we say Okay, I made a mistake. Let me let me
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fix this, let me see how I can do this. Sometimes that's not
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always easy. Sometimes we don't want to do it. We don't want to
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be accountable for our actions. But that's how you have to You have to
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do that in order to become a better person. Do we always want to
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be that better person? Absolutely not. I and I'm going to say,
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I'm gonna start with myself. Do I always want to be the bigger person?
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Hell no, child, Let me tell you I don't want to do
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it. Sometimes I don't like it. I just I will be stubborn to
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the bone. I will stand on my hill sometimes and say no, I
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don't want to be the bigger person. I want to be the petty person.
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But when you sit back and you think, you realize, how was
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that gonna get me what I want? How is that going to put me
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in a better situation? It's being is being stubborn, it's being stuck in
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your ways going to help or is it going to hinder? What the progress
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that you want to make or to Is it gonna help or hinder being the
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person that you know you should be And knowing that being the person that you
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are capable of being. Is it going to do that? No, it
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not. Necessarily it does not. Sometimes it makes things worse when we become
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one with understanding who we are. Then sometimes we gotta take out all of
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the outside noise. We gotta take all of the elements out and just figure
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out, Okay, I'm here. I don't want to be here. I
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don't necessarily like being in the space that I'm in, but I gotta figure
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out a way to navigate it so that I can get on the other side.
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Now, when I get on the other side, am I gonna not
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even pause before we even give Let's let's let's retrack that before we even get
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to the other side, what we have to go through in order to get
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to the other side. Sometimes we don't want to deal with that. We
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don't want to deal with the growing pains. And it's growing pains. No
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matter how old you are, you go through growing pains. No matter what
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situation you deal with, you go through growing pains. I again, I
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can speak for myself. You all know what I have gone through recently health
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wise. I've gone through other situations in life that I necessarily don't like.
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The growing pains, but I do know it is necessary for my one,
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my survival, one, my mental health, for my overall being the person
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that I know I can be. I have to go through these growing pains.
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Sometimes it makes me annoyed and upset, and as someone special to me
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always says, it makes me flash. But then I have to come back
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down to earth and realizing that flash wasn't gonna get me nowhere, and me
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spazzing out is definitely not gonna get me anywhere. So let me take the
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good with the bad. Let me see how I'm going to mesh them all
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together. Let me see how this is going to turn into being what it
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needs to be to put me on the path. To understand that I have
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to go through the valley. I don't like the valley, but I gotta
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go through the valley. I don't like I don't like going through all of
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these trials and tribulations, but they gotta go through the trials and tribulations because
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I see where I need to be on the other side. The other side
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always looks good to us, but what we have to do to get to
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the other side, I don't necessarily want to do it. The other side
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looks like the prize. Sometimes it is the prize, sometimes it's not.
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But what we have to do to get to there, the work is necessary,
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Accountability is necessary, knowing, getting to a place of understanding. I
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have to become who I want to be, and I have to go through
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this in order to be who I want to be. Is going to get
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me to where I need to get on the other side. Now, some
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you may say, well that that sounds all well and good, but I'm
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so far gone, like I've gone through this, I don't know how to
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come back from this. I don't know what my mental is. My mental
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is all screwed up. How do I deal with it? Who can I
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turn to? What can I do to understand that? This space that I'm
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in? I don't like it. I don't like the situation that I'm in.
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I don't like the people that's in the situation with me. I don't
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like nothing about it. But I want to get to where I need to
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be. I just don't know how to do it. Well, funny that
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you should ask that is it an easy road? No? Is it a
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road that sometimes you want to go on? Absolutely not. If you are
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a spiritual person, If you are a person that believes. And I understand
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there are many religions out there. But if you, whoever you serve,
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God, Buddha Allah, whoever, you become one with your creator. When
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you become one with your creator, and you act for that guidance to help
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you to understand where you are and be able to say, I don't like
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where I am, but I know that there's better. I need to find
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who I am. Help me find who I am. That way I can
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figure out what my next phase is going to be. Who I want to
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be in my next phase. Some of us don't like who we are presently,
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and you have that starts with asking again your creator, asking God to
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teach you how to love you. Until you know how to love you,
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you can't love anybody else. Now, let me tell you something. Don't
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go try and say, oh I love this person. No no, no,
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no, no no no no. Love yourself first. That is the
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first and the most important thing. You love God, you love whoever your
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creator is, and then you love yourself. Because when you love yourself,
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can't nobody do anything that you. Whatever you whatever you let a person do,
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you allow them to do. You love yourself more than anybody can love
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you in this world. You and God, you ask him to come and
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show you how to resonate inside of you so that that love that you have
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for you can now be be emulated as you walk, as you grow,
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as you become this person that you want to be, that you need to
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be. It is necessary. Yes, it is necessary for your survival.
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Okay, just like food is necessary, loving you is necessary for your survival.
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Without it, you are just walking around here aimlessly, without a cause,
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a concern, or a care. It shouldn't be like that. It
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should not be like that. So on this road of redefining who we are
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and figuring out who you want to be and bringing yourself back from whatever situation
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or catastrophe or crisis that you have been through, one of the things that
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you can do. It's also writing, and as everybody no, I am
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a big advocate for writing your feelings, jotting down whatever you are feeling,
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because sometimes we don't want to talk to anybody. Sometimes we don't want to
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hear the outside noise from other people. And it's not necessarily that it's noise,
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but we just don't want to hear the truth. People don't like the
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truth. Again, I yes, me, I don't like hearing the truth
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of all the time I want to hear it, and the times I'd be
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like, nah, I want don't tell me. I don't want to know.
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But in order to get to the point where you are able to accept
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the truth, you have to be able to receive the truth. Like I
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said, writing out your feelings, stating what you feel in that moment,
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understanding that as you write, you release every everything that you are wondering,
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that you are questioning. Sometimes we're humans, we have questions, We don't
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understand everything that goes on with us. All of the time. Writing releases
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your private thoughts, thoughts that you don't want somebody else to know because you
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may think it may look crazy to you to another person the stuff that you
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are thinking. No, you don't always have to share your private thoughts.
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Get your journal, write it. If you do have somebody that is a
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confident, someone that you can talk to and they're not going to judge you,
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but they are going to listen to you, and then you again are
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able to receive what they are saying to you. That's another great way on
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the journey of rediscovery, redefining, figuring out who you are, understanding that
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there's people out there in your corner that want to see you do better,
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that want you to achieve, that understand this road is not easy for you.
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So sometimes you need that accountability partner to be that person to say,
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I come back here, step back, stop a minute, you're going too
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far. Come back some let's reevaluate, let's reassess the situation, and then
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take it from there. Then say, okay, I understand where I made
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my mistake. I understand this was not the right thing to say. I
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understand I shouldn't accussed that person out. They may warrant it, but I
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understand I shouldn't a custom out. Sometimes we gotta reserve I cuss outs.
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I'm just trying to trust me again, I'm speaking for me. I'm telling
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you what sometimes works for me. I ain't even saved though all my life,
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and God is still yet working on me. Trust and believe. But
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anyway, I digress, you know, having that understanding that, yes,
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this is not easy. I've gone through things. Whatever the situation has been
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has just took me for a loop, and it has messed with me mentally.
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It has messed with me emotionally. It has even messed with me physically.
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You may not look the same. Hell I've gained away, my hair
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grown back. But you have to understand sometimes you got to lose yourself to
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find yourself. It's when you find yourself that you are able to say,
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you know what, I love who I am. I'm here, I'm not
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going anywhere. That situation did not kill me. It made me stronger.
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That situation may have tried to break me, but it didn't. I'm stronger
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because of it. It I'm wiser because I learned from it. Everything that
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we go through in life, we have to take it as a lesson.
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Learn never doubt who you are, never underestimate the power that is within you.
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When you start to do that, then that's when, as church folks
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and a lot of us that believe, that's when the devil wants to come
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in and try to play with your mind. The mind is the mind is
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a strong thing. The mind is something that when we are able to grasp
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and understand the concepts of life and where we want to be in life,
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and we let our mind, we use our mind in the correct way,
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There's nothing that can stop you. There's nothing but matter of fact, shouldn't
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say that you are the only person that can stop you from doing things in
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the way that you need it to be done, or in the way that
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it should be done, or in the way that it is aligned for it
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to be done. Don't let nobody stop you from doing you. Don't let
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them stop you, nobody stop you from fulfilling your purpose. Don't let anybody
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tell you that you are less than and you can't do it. See that
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can't work. I don't like it. I don't like it, and it's
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a whole lie that should have never been in the vocabulary. Can't just don't
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work. I can and I will. I may have trials along the way,
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but I can do it, and I'm gonna do it by any means
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necessary. Love yourself. Trust yourself. If you don't trust yourself, nobody's
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going to trust you. Trust your instinct. Listen to your instinct. Listen
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to that small voice that sometimes we don't want to listen to, and it's
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telling us something for our own good. Listen to it. But not only
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that. Surround yourself with people that are going to have your best interests at
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heart. Somebody that is able to say to you, I love you and
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I want to see you do better. I've seen you in your worst time.
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I've seen you in your great time. I've seen you in your not
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so great, in your in between time. But because of that, I
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still love you for who you are, and you're going to do great things.
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You're going to get better, You're going to achieve everything that you want
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to have that person in your corner because there's a lot of people that want
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to see your demise rather than want to see you rise. Oh girl,
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that was a word. Let me say that again. There's people that want
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to see your demise rather than want to see you rise. Me. I
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want to see you rise. I don't want to see nothing happened to it.
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I don't want to see having nothing happened to nobody. I want to
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see people achieve their greatest potential. I want to see you overcome every obstacle
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that has faced and played you and been in a roadblock in your life.
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That is what I want. Do I understand that there's gonna be trials and
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tests. Yes, I've been there and I'm still going through some of my
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own tests and trials, But I rather see you on the other side with
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the metal and the goal and being able to say I made it, then
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saying I don't know what happened. I want to know. Mm hmmm mm
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hmm. Again, there's more people I need a patent that matter fact,
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I'm gonna write that down. There's more people that want to see your eyes,
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that want to see you rise. So on that note, I'm gonna
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start to wrap up. But remember, on the road to rediscovery, there's
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always gonna be a test. There's always gonna be a trial. It's up
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to you how you want to handle it. It's up to you who you
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want by your side to say I got your back, I got you.
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While you're going through this, I got you. Don't worry about it.
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Yeah, you may think sometimes nobody sees, nobody understands. Trust me,
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pray there's one or two people that may be there that's gonna have your back
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and ride with through to the end. But make sure at the end that
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you are okay with who you are and you are okay on the path.
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Then you want to go and don't let nothing stop you from being who you
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are and rediscovering who you are. Because you may like who you discover yourself
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to be this time around, you may not have liked the person before,
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but you may realize that this person that I have rediscovered, you actually like
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this person that you've rediscovered. You actually realize that this person is more than
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what you thought the former person was. The former person must probably didn't realize
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all of their potential. The former person probably didn't realize that they had all
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of that they have inside of them. But this new person, trust me,
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ain't nothing stopping them. Nothing is going to get in their way once
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they are able to say I am okay with who I am and who I
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am going to be? So on that note, that was tonight, So
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let's chat with Nat. I will be back eight for the first s they
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April, and that's gonna be another good show. I'm going to have a
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guest on that night. Yes, your circle is very important because your circle
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can make or break you. And men, let me let me give you
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a word of advice. Men, Okay, come close, come closely.
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Let me say this to you. When you have that person that is in
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your circle and you know that that person has your back, don't don't don't
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don't go out there and play them because the same person that has your back
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may be the same person that you're gonna come right back to all right.
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So again, on that note, this was let's chat with that. I'm
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gonna wish you guys a good night, have a great Easter, have a
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great week. I love you, y'a'll be good all right bye. Oh
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