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Season 2 - Episode 248 - What to do when difficulties show up · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the Good Morning From the Chicken Coop Podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset
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  coach. Filled with inspiration,
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  distinctions, perspectives, and possibilities, we help you to
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  cultivate a mindset that leads you to create the best version
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  of yourself you could ever imagine.
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  Join Kim every morning from one of her favorite happy places,
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  her chicken coop along with all her chickens.
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  Hey, everybody, good morning from the chicken coop.
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  So let's talk about the fact that we have difficulty show up
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  in our lives. Everybody always wants to talk
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  about the fact that they don't like it when difficulty show up.
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  They feel as though they're, you know, they're, that's their path
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  of complaining. They want to talk about the
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  difficulties. And I will often say, OK, maybe
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  the difficulties are here to be like the sandpaper that shapes
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  us because. When contrast shows up,
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  sometimes it's very helpful for us.
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  Now there are many different velocities on this.
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  There are lots of people who will talk about, well,
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  especially in the manifesting world where they'll say, Oh
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  well, you manifested this and it's not happening to you, it's
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  happening for you. And everybody has their
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  different take on this. And quite honestly, I'm not sure
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  which one is solid. I'm just not.
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  I mean, there's all different variants of it.
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  What for me? I'll tell you what works in my
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  head, I think difficulties are part of the process.
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  I think things show up as the sandpaper and then they shape
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  us. They help us become better
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  versions of ourselves. But we are not going to always
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  like them. And I think sometimes when
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  you're in the middle of something and you hear someone
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  say, well, remember this is isn't happening to you, it's
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  happening for you, you want to punch them in the face, so.
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  And that's just my take on it. I mean, you may have a
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  completely different take on it. So is it true that it might be
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  happening in that way? Maybe.
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  Is it true that it's just a difficulty and it's the
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  sandpaper and you don't like it and part of not liking it is
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  part of the process, maybe. Is it something that you
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  recognize as a, you know, a real sincere opportunity?
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  Maybe. All of the above and then some.
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  And 25 more that I haven't even thought of.
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  What's important to remember. What's incredibly important to
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  remember in all of this is that when the difficulty show up, you
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  don't get mad at yourself for manifesting them.
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  First and foremost, we don't get mad at ourselves for manifesting
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  things. What we can look at is say, what
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  is this trying to teach me? That works best for me
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  personally. What is this trying to teach me?
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  Because if I can stop myself and really pull back and think, OK,
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  this is trying to teach me something, then I'm not quite so
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  angry with it. I'm not quite so frustrated with
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  it. I'm not quite so backed up with
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  it because that is the part that really pisses me off if I'm
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  quite honest about it. So if if I if as soon as I start
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  to lose concept of what I could learn, then all of a sudden
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  boom. There's no growth in it for me.
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  I'm just hunkered down in the in the pain and that's never fun.
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  So keep that in the back of your head that you can ask that
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  question. The other piece of it is when
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  these things show up and they are just seemingly
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  insurmountable. You have to remember it's time
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  to change the driver of who's seeing it.
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  Run through different drivers. Actually, talk to yourself
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  about, all right, who's driving? Who's driving my bus right now?
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  OK, If this one's driving my bus, then is this the best, most
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  resourceful driver right now? No.
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  OK, switch the driver. If you switch the driver, then
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  you end up with a different result.
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  When you switch the driver, you're way, way more better off,
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  way better off. So just keep switching the
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  driver. Keep switching the driver,
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  because then you're going to start.
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  Figuring out different aspects, different truths, all the good
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  stuff. So that's another approach that
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  will help you get through it. And then finally, one of the, I
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  think one of the biggest ones that really, really kind of
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  helps the most when you're hunkered down and you're in
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  panic, is to come back to being in the moment because you're not
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  necessarily thinking about anything.
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  Like you're just in that state of panic and you can't, not
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  thinking beyond the state of panic.
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  So you can't possibly help yourself when that is your
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  directive. You have to go to a different
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  place. You have to go to this neutral
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  ground, pick a driver that is just willing to stay in the
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  moment and say okay, right now in this state, I'm not going to
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  come up with something that's better.
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  I'm going to, I'm going to need to just get neutral first.
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  So even if you can't pick a driver like I talked about a few
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  minutes ago, you can go in and just get neutral.
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  Just get neutral and say I'm not qualified to make a choice right
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  now. I've told many a client as well
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  as myself over the years, I'm not qualified to make any
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  decisions right now. I'm going to need 24 to 48 hours
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  to go through this before I can actually make a decision because
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  I'm too screwed up in my head in this moment.
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  So remember, you always have options.
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  They're always at your fingertips.
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  They're always at your fingertips.
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  And a very vital question is, well, if I didn't panic right
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  now, if I didn't Riddle myself with anxiety right now, what
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  would I be thinking? Always remember the power of
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  your questions are right at your fingertips.
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  All right, my friends, I will see you tomorrow.
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  And I hope you have a blessed day.
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  Bye.