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BONUS: I’ll Be There For You! · Untraditionally Lala

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Speaker 1: Hello, gorgeous, Welcome back to the bonus episode of We
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Speaker 1: Give Them All, a podcast on the heels of what
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Speaker 1: we spoke about on last week's.
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Speaker 2: Regular old episode.
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Speaker 1: I want to put out there some fantastic organizations that
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Speaker 1: have been vetted and you can go to and give
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Speaker 1: whatever you possibly can. Los Angeles definitely needs you, guys
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Speaker 1: right now. And remember LA isn't just home to celebrities
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Speaker 1: with a lot of money. People have come from all
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Speaker 1: over the world in hopes for dreams and a better life.
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Speaker 1: And a lot of those people came and have been
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Speaker 1: in their homes for decades and they're just regular people
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Speaker 1: like us.
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Speaker 2: And I want you to remember that part.
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Speaker 1: Before I give this laundry list of incredible organizations. In
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Speaker 1: the last epis Landon, I cut you off and you
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Speaker 1: weren't able to talk about the incredible firefighter program for inmates.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, and I think we need to talk about that.
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Speaker 3: I think it's really cool, pretty impressive, one awesome that we.
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Speaker 4: Could get additional resources, right and additional manpower to go
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Speaker 4: out and fight it. But this program, I was reading
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Speaker 4: a guy the kind of that used to be in
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Speaker 4: and he's out now, and he was detailing how it
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Speaker 4: works and it was really really cool. And so this
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Speaker 4: program one CalFire comes in. It's a voluntary program. You
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Speaker 4: have to agree to go into it. So some people
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Speaker 4: were I think talking about it was like, oh, terrible conditions.
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Speaker 5: How can you force these people to go work? Right?
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Speaker 1: Oh okay, So people thought it was like, hey, you
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Speaker 1: inmate four seven, five six, get your ass out there.
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Speaker 2: And that's not what it's like.
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Speaker 3: No, not what it's like at all.
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Speaker 4: And so be you have to volunteer to go into it,
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Speaker 4: and you have to have less than seven years on
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Speaker 4: your prison sentence left because it reduces the time you
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Speaker 4: have to serve by doing this. And CalFire comes in.
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Speaker 4: They do a short training, not like a full fire training,
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Speaker 4: but a short train and they work only with they
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Speaker 4: don't use water at all, and they're fighting, so they
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Speaker 4: get like hand tools to like clean the brush so
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Speaker 4: they prevent the fire from spreading more got us, So
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Speaker 4: so they go in on the ground. They don't man
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Speaker 4: an engine or anything like that. But once they get
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Speaker 4: into the program, they go into these fire camps. It's
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Speaker 4: not just during the wildfires. They're out of prison, out
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Speaker 4: of the prison system, or not the prison system, but
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Speaker 4: out of the prison walls for the rest of their sentence,
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Speaker 4: and they're in these wilderness camps where they train, you know,
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Speaker 4: and they're there and doing stuff year round. They're living
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Speaker 4: in the wilderness, which sounds you know from this one guy,
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Speaker 4: it's a hell of a lot better than the prison system.
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Speaker 4: They get better food out there during fires, they get
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Speaker 4: really good food, he was saying.
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Speaker 3: And they make a little bit of money.
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Speaker 5: It's not a lot. It's five ten dollars a day all.
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Speaker 4: Year round, and then during a wildfire they get additional
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Speaker 4: one dollar per hour when they're actively fighting it.
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Speaker 6: But the other thing that is great is they're learning
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Speaker 6: and they could can Can they be firefighters when they're
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Speaker 6: out of prison?
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Speaker 5: Is that something that they Yeah.
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Speaker 4: So it's the program is really awesome because when they
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Speaker 4: get out, they're eligible to get their record completely expunged,
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Speaker 4: which makes it a lot easier to get any type
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Speaker 4: of job. But they also have programs, like Ventura County
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Speaker 4: has one that'll take them in to help them actually
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Speaker 4: become official firefighters when they get out.
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Speaker 5: So it's giving them a career as well.
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Speaker 3: Really awesome.
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Speaker 5: That's a way to do it.
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Speaker 4: And I saw TikTok again, going back to last week
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Speaker 4: when we were talking about TikTok going away, but interviewing
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Speaker 4: some of these inmates that were fighting, and a lot
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Speaker 4: of them were like, I found my passion, Like I
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Speaker 4: really love doing this, Like I'm helping people. And they're
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Speaker 4: not violent offenders either, right, you have to be like
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Speaker 4: minimum security.
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Speaker 5: They couldn't have done anything crazy.
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Speaker 2: So there's stipulations on who's eligible.
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Speaker 4: Yeah, it's not just hey, we'll take anybody, right, you know,
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Speaker 4: it's stipulation on who's eligible. But a few of the
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Speaker 4: people were like, yeah, I'm excited. I'm I get to
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Speaker 4: go into the Ventura County program. When I get out,
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Speaker 4: my record's going to be cleaned. I'm like, like I
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Speaker 4: get a fresh start and I get and I found
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Speaker 4: something that I love and that I can help people.
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Speaker 3: Like what an awesome thing that is.
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Speaker 1: And you said that they have to have seven years
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Speaker 1: or less on their sentence, right, seven.
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Speaker 6: Years or less to be elegy left, So like say
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Speaker 6: you went for ten and then you served, and now
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Speaker 6: you can do it.
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Speaker 5: Yeah, okay, yeah, makes sense.
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Speaker 1: That is an incredible program and they did. They did
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Speaker 1: make a difference. So here's some ways that you can
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Speaker 1: help out, you guys. Baby to Baby is accepting donations
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Speaker 1: to support children impacted by the wildfires. I have to
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Speaker 1: tell you, Ocean, because we left, and she actually just
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Speaker 1: had the fire department at her school, so she's very
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Speaker 1: into telling me that. You know, when she knew about
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Speaker 1: the fire, she said, Mom, we have to call nine
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Speaker 1: one one and we have to tell them. And I
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Speaker 1: tried to explain the best way that I could. Hi, Baby,
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Speaker 1: what happened to you?
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Speaker 5: Do you want to come over here and say hi?
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Speaker 2: She's in Christmas pajamas.
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Speaker 1: She pulls them out because mom, am I allowed to
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Speaker 1: wear Christmas pajamas because I.
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Speaker 2: Said, you can wear whatever you want.
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Speaker 1: Ocean, what are you going to do with some of
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Speaker 1: your toys and clothes for kids that were affected by
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Speaker 1: the fire? I kinda give a little bit toys away.
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Speaker 5: I love that.
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Speaker 2: That's so great.
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Speaker 1: So I know a lot of people with kids have
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Speaker 1: been trying to explain the best way they can, and
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Speaker 1: I think, you know, we need to explain to our
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Speaker 1: kids who are old enough without making it scary, but
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Speaker 1: how we can help. I mean, it was a tremendous
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Speaker 1: learning experience. I can't say the Ocean at the beginning
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Speaker 1: when I said we're going to clear your toys out,
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Speaker 1: was excited about it, and then we had to sit
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Speaker 1: down and had a very productive conversation.
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Speaker 2: You can also go to go fund me.
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Speaker 1: They have compiled the list of verified fundraises for people
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Speaker 1: impacted by the fires. Spc ALA's Disaster Animal Response Team.
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Speaker 1: They're looking for donations to support emergency services, temporary animal shelters,
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Speaker 1: and front line and veterinary care.
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Speaker 2: Mom was watching the TikTok and.
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Speaker 3: She was like this, this is on the talk. She's on
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Speaker 3: the top talk.
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Speaker 2: She was like, look at these firefighters. They're saving animals.
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Speaker 2: And it's like I'm like, babe, that's AIS. Not watch
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Speaker 2: but then no comment. I went into the comments section.
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Speaker 2: Actually most people did believe it. There were only like
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Speaker 2: two people that were like, guys, it's AI.
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Speaker 4: Well did you see everybody that thought that the Hollywood
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Speaker 4: sign was on fire?
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Speaker 5: Because did you see the AI?
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Speaker 4: Yeah, it was in flames, and people are like it's gone,
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Speaker 4: and then other people are like, it's right here.
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Speaker 3: I don't like AI, you guys, what's so crazy?
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Speaker 5: Is work near it?
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Speaker 6: And I saw the Hollywood Sign on fire and I
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Speaker 6: was like, it's got to be real.
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Speaker 5: It's got to be and I had to wait till
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Speaker 5: the next lot. Yeah, it was so crazy, anything was possible.
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Speaker 1: The Los Angeles Fire Department Foundation is accepting donations to
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Speaker 1: support firefighters on the front lines. The found is seeking
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Speaker 1: monetary donations wildland brush tools, hydration backpacks, and emergency fire shelters.
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Speaker 1: The California Fire Foundation is looking for donations. The Salvation
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Speaker 1: Army World Central Kitchen that's spearheaded by chef Jose Andres.
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Speaker 1: He has a relief team in southern California to assist
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Speaker 1: first responders in their families. The Los Angeles Regional Food
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Speaker 1: Bank Direct Relief is also accepting donations Community Organized Relief Effort.
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Speaker 1: All of these links, you guys, are going to be
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Speaker 1: posted on the video. As far as mental health resources,
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Speaker 1: Los Angeles County Access Center will put that phone number
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Speaker 1: up nine to eight eight Suicide and Crisis Hotline you
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Speaker 1: can call or text them. That'll be posted California Department
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Speaker 1: of Public Health, Los Angeles County Department of Mental Health Resources.
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Speaker 2: All of these again are going.
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Speaker 1: To be posted on the video that also comes out
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Speaker 1: today on YouTube. I'll make sure on my Instagram at
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Speaker 1: Give Them La La Pod will.
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Speaker 2: Post all of it.
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Speaker 1: So I wanted to talk about good hearts in the
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Speaker 1: world right because we don't see them, I feel as
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Speaker 1: much as we should. They're definitely highlighted on the news.
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Speaker 1: When you watch the news, you see great people who
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Speaker 1: have come together and they're doing their thing. A lot
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Speaker 1: of us don't watch the news anymore. We only get
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Speaker 1: our news from social media platforms, and you go into
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Speaker 1: the comments section and it is a cesspool of people
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Speaker 1: who are just not that kind. It's okay, I'm not
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Speaker 1: going to judge them. I'm going to leave it at that.
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Speaker 1: But I asked people on Instagram some stories, so I'm
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Speaker 1: going to read some of those while I do that. Easton,
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Speaker 1: can you tell me a time that you were meeting
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Speaker 1: someone and they showed up for you?
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Speaker 5: Yeah?
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Speaker 6: When Dad passed, Okay, I had Alec Russin and Taylor
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Speaker 6: Apcood and I will say their names because they saved.
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Speaker 5: Me because we say them all all the time.
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Speaker 6: But yes, those two after Dad passed and I found
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Speaker 6: him in the morning, I because Mom and you you
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Speaker 6: wanted to be at the grand and then you guys
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Speaker 6: left and I was just there and Taylor and Alex
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Speaker 6: slept over at the house for.
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Speaker 5: Like two weeks straight.
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Speaker 6: Yeah, as I was like waking up in night terrors
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Speaker 6: and they'd wake up with me. Yeah.
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Speaker 5: So they were the ones who good people.
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Speaker 4: Yeah.
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Speaker 5: They yeah, pulled through.
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Speaker 6: I mean Alex took work off and to just help
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Speaker 6: me and yeah just be Yeah, even if I was
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Speaker 6: just sitting there, they were just there, you know blank
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Speaker 6: stare so yes, And I'm glad that we did this
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Speaker 6: podcast because I.
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Speaker 5: Kind of forgot about it. You know, well use time
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Speaker 5: goes on. Yeah, but yeah, no, they showed up for you.
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Speaker 5: I love that.
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Speaker 2: Do you have a time planned?
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Speaker 4: Yeah. I mean after my my parents split, I was
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Speaker 4: twelve and you know, just a very very rough time,
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Speaker 4: rough for my parents as well, and unfortunately, I think,
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Speaker 4: you know, more common than not, but the kids kind
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Speaker 4: of get forgotten about in the whole thing of it.
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Speaker 4: You know, my parents are great, I love them, but
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Speaker 4: they were going through a tough time. But just my community,
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Speaker 4: you know, my teachers at school really took extra time
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Speaker 4: with me to you know, to make sure I was okay.
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Speaker 4: I remember those conversations, you know, them keeping me after
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Speaker 4: class and checking in, you know, making sure I was good.
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Speaker 4: Other people in my community making sure you know, I
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Speaker 4: still stayed active in like sports and things like that,
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Speaker 4: so that I wasn't just following.
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Speaker 5: Off sitting at home and emotions.
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Speaker 4: Unfortunately, I saw other people. I had a couple other
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Speaker 4: close friends that all within the same year our parents split, and.
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Speaker 3: You know, not one had.
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Speaker 4: A good community support system as well, and he's turned
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Speaker 4: out great.
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Speaker 3: The other did not.
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Speaker 2: And he's the other one.
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Speaker 3: You I'm just.
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Speaker 4: Kidding, But the other one he's been you know, he
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Speaker 4: went to drugs and he's been in and out of prison.
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Speaker 4: And I think, you know, with good support team is
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Speaker 4: without that, I could have gone down that same exact past.
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Speaker 5: Yeah.
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Speaker 4: And they didn't need to do that, right, They didn't
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Speaker 4: need to come and take that extra time, but they did.
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Speaker 1: They did it because they have good hearts. I think
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Speaker 1: for me, it was when dad passed away and I
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Speaker 1: was very deep into the bottle and we came out
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Speaker 1: to Utah for his wake and people who I haven't
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Speaker 1: seen in years, who just you know, even from high school,
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Speaker 1: where it was like you're here right now, And it
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Speaker 1: also made me open my eyes like, wow, I need
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Speaker 1: to show up a little bit harder for people, because
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Speaker 1: people can look very strong and on the inside they're crumbling, and.
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Speaker 4: It's the little things through hard times, like check in,
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Speaker 4: send the text, yeah, call somebody like don't just you know,
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Speaker 4: I know we talked about last week that people, you know,
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Speaker 4: once the news stops covering it, it's the long term
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Speaker 4: stuff like continue to check in. I'm glad you said
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Speaker 4: like a mental health resource on that list, because I
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Speaker 4: think what people think about the physical destruction, but for teenagers,
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Speaker 4: for little kids, for anybody really, but the trauma that
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Speaker 4: people went through during oh this is going that is
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Speaker 4: going to be a long term effect and check in
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Speaker 4: on those people.
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Speaker 5: It's going to be a battle. Well. Not her mom,
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Speaker 5: my mom's mom, me me.
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Speaker 6: She lost her home in a fire when she was
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Speaker 6: young and we were talking about it and it still
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Speaker 6: impacted her through my mom being alive, and it was
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Speaker 6: before that.
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Speaker 5: So it's incredible what this devastation can do.
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Speaker 4: My oldest sister McCall, she was living in Florida for
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Speaker 4: a year doing a year of college out there at
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Speaker 4: my grandparents when a tornado came through and destroyed my grandparents' home.
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Speaker 4: Terrible thing, but it struck it. I think like three
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Speaker 4: thirty seven or something in the morning, and for years years,
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Speaker 4: my sister would wake up at that hour every single
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Speaker 4: night because of the trauma. Of course, you know, I'm
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Speaker 4: good night tre for the people in the palace heads.
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Speaker 4: It was a nighttime thing for the people in Altadina,
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Speaker 4: you know. I mean, it's those effects will be long lasting.
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Speaker 4: And get the help you need. Don't be afraid to
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Speaker 4: get the help. And also if you know somebody that
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Speaker 4: you think could use it, encourage them be a help.
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Speaker 3: Not just money either. It's take care of your brain.
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Speaker 6: Right, yeah, because I hope, and I just hope a
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Speaker 6: lot of people that have lost things keep their mental
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Speaker 6: and I hope a lot of people make it easy
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Speaker 6: for them to keep their mental Like with all the
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Speaker 6: loss that they've had, the last.
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Speaker 5: Thing you want to do is go down a darker route, right,
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Speaker 5: you know. And that's the thing. It's like, we were
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Speaker 5: going to be in.
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Speaker 7: A very tough situation for the next five to ten
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Speaker 7: years plus, and it's very big to keep everybody mentally
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Speaker 7: saying and not go down the path of you've lost everything.
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Speaker 5: Why am I here?
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Speaker 2: Yeah, no, you're absolutely right.
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Speaker 1: So I had a lot of people write in and
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Speaker 1: these are I said, big, big or small? Because even
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Speaker 1: something small could be something huge, right, Hey, a dollar.
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Speaker 5: From everybody in this country would be in an enormous.
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Speaker 1: But even like land in set a text friends bringing
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Speaker 1: meals over after my three week hospitalization a premium nick
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Speaker 1: you two and a half months.
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Speaker 2: Isn't it wild?
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Speaker 1: Where it's like someone just showing up to be like
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Speaker 1: anything you need, You need a meal, you need a
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Speaker 1: phone call, that's just like, hey, let me vent and
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Speaker 1: just like you being a soundboard for me makes all
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Speaker 1: the difference.
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Speaker 5: And those meals taste the best home cooked meals. Wow,
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Speaker 5: you cared for me, you thought of me. This food
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Speaker 5: really tastes great.
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Speaker 3: Yeah.
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Speaker 1: House fire summer before senior year and the church community
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Speaker 1: helped dogs clothes housing. There were a lot of people
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Speaker 1: that wrote in about experiencing their houses burning down and
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Speaker 1: how their community a lot of people saying the church
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Speaker 1: that they were a part of really stepped up to
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Speaker 1: the play. And I think that that's amazing that, you know,
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Speaker 1: it's times like that were your community maybe people that
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Speaker 1: you didn't.
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Speaker 2: Expect to show up for you.
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Speaker 1: It's like, Wow, Jan from three houses down, who I've
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Speaker 1: said three words too, is like really showing or.
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Speaker 5: I'm sleeping in her basement right now.
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Speaker 2: Yeah, exactly.
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Speaker 1: My fiance gifted me his geep because I couldn't afford
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Speaker 1: to buy a new car, very kind. My marriage fell apart,
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Speaker 1: my best friend came and stayed the night with me.
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Speaker 1: That goes back to what you were talking about Easton.
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Speaker 1: Isn't it wild what someone's just mere presence? Oh, it's
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Speaker 1: just for your mental.
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Speaker 5: Health, that's the thing. And like I would just blank
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Speaker 5: stare at the TV.
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Speaker 6: It was on, but right like I just wasn't there,
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Speaker 6: and I could feel my emotions start and like everything
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Speaker 6: starting to just melt and like just anxiety starting. And
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Speaker 6: I would look left and I would see the two
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Speaker 6: people or somebody that was taking the time, and just
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Speaker 6: looking at them would reset me right.
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Speaker 5: And at least that and then yes, you didn't have
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Speaker 5: to talk.
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Speaker 6: Didn't have to talk. I didn't have to say anything.
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Speaker 6: Just looking over at them and just seeing them even
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Speaker 6: scrolling their phone, I knew it was like, Okay, things
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Speaker 6: are normal.
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Speaker 2: I feel for this person because.
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Speaker 1: After Dad passed away, I always hated the night coming
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Speaker 1: because it meant everybody was going to go to bed
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Speaker 1: and shut down and I was going to feel alone
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Speaker 1: and having mom and you that was great, but it's
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Speaker 1: like you guys are also very vulnerable.
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Speaker 6: I'm gonna tell you, did you not feel And I
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Speaker 6: know it sounds weird, but I felt like when we
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Speaker 6: were together it was great, but like when I was
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Speaker 6: going down a terrible anxiety or depression.
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Speaker 2: Moved from this situation.
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Speaker 6: Yeah, but you and Mom couldn't help because I'd look
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Speaker 6: at you and it's like, what help are you going
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Speaker 6: to give me?
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Speaker 5: We're in the same boat sinking. I need somebody else
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Speaker 5: over here.
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Speaker 6: Really, So like that, when Mom went to la I
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Speaker 6: was like, I cannot because I will crumble.
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Speaker 5: So I had like, well, we did crumble.
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Speaker 2: We we would go through a bottle of champagne.
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Speaker 1: And then we realized when we would go to Ralph's
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Speaker 1: the genius idea of why.
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Speaker 2: Don't we each just get our own? Why don't we
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Speaker 2: each get too?
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Speaker 5: All we can say is it got you through it right?
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Speaker 5: I don't know is when you're dealing with heartache and.
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Speaker 2: You do the best you can, every emotion.
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Speaker 5: Size bottles to another level. You were like, let's just
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Speaker 5: get the big one. Lauren loved falling downstairs.
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Speaker 2: Literally, and.
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Speaker 1: My boss bought me a last minute ticket home to
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Speaker 1: Alaska from North Carolina to say goodbye to my dad.
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Speaker 1: That is the nicest thing. Plane tickets are so beyond expensive.
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Speaker 5: That's a distance too, and.
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Speaker 1: You literally plan you don't expect a parent or a
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Speaker 1: loved one to pass away, right, And you kind of
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Speaker 1: go through your year and you're like, Okay, I'm going
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Speaker 1: to go home for Christmas, so I save my money
18:07
Speaker 1: to go home for Christmas. And most people they either
18:09
Speaker 1: go home for Thanksgiving or Christmas, like they don't do
18:13
Speaker 1: both because flights are expensive.
18:15
Speaker 5: That was really people to say that though they just
18:17
Speaker 5: don't want to see their family twice.
18:19
Speaker 1: We're back, We're back on they give them all a
18:23
Speaker 1: podcast The.
18:23
Speaker 5: Shade, But no, it really it's incredible.
18:26
Speaker 6: But also to be noticed, like you have to be
18:31
Speaker 6: a very decent employee, I feel like as well, so
18:34
Speaker 6: she's an amazing employee.
18:36
Speaker 5: I'm glad that her boss could do that because now
18:38
Speaker 5: you feel like you're scene as well. You know you're valued, Yeah,
18:43
Speaker 5: you know they care about you. Yes, So that's yes,
18:46
Speaker 5: good to both of them on that well.
18:49
Speaker 1: And people just it goes back to what moms taught
18:52
Speaker 1: us forever, and sometimes you don't do it in the
18:55
Speaker 1: moment but as long as you learn from it where
18:58
Speaker 1: it's like shoe on the other foot in this moment,
19:01
Speaker 1: what would I want someone to do for me? How
19:04
Speaker 1: would I want someone to respond to me right now?
19:08
Speaker 1: And I feel like there's a lot of times that
19:10
Speaker 1: we don't do that. There's been many times where I
19:12
Speaker 1: don't do that, and I look back and I'm like,
19:14
Speaker 1: I would not have appreciated if the roles are reversed
19:17
Speaker 1: and someone said what I just said or did what.
19:20
Speaker 5: I just did.
19:21
Speaker 6: One thing that mom stuck with that, she said that
19:23
Speaker 6: stuck with me is treat people how you would like
19:26
Speaker 6: to be treated.
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Speaker 2: That sounds golden. And a rule is that gold rule.
19:33
Speaker 4: That that's like that sounds like a Michael Scott quote
19:35
Speaker 4: when he's like when he's like, what's what's he says
19:37
Speaker 4: like he says some quote and then it's Michael Scott,
19:39
Speaker 4: Wayne Gretzky, you know, treat people you want to be treated,
19:43
Speaker 4: at least at Burningham Jesus, Yes, yes, pretty.
19:52
Speaker 5: Much, Yeah, exactly right.
19:53
Speaker 1: Stuck in Kenya airport credit card canceled due to fraud.
19:57
Speaker 1: Oh and it stranger bought my flight home.
20:02
Speaker 5: Wow, did you add that's.
20:06
Speaker 2: That is another level.
20:07
Speaker 3: I hope you've kept in contact, stranger.
20:10
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's that's an acquaintance. Now. That was not cheap.
20:17
Speaker 4: That is I'm sending them a Christmas gift every year
20:20
Speaker 4: for rest of my life.
20:21
Speaker 2: Yeah, for real, that is so kind.
20:24
Speaker 1: But even that like pay it forward, where like you're
20:26
Speaker 1: going through a drive through and you're like, I want
20:28
Speaker 1: to pay for the person behind me is.
20:30
Speaker 6: The person who paid for the plane ticket? What if
20:33
Speaker 6: they were in the same boat and somebody random.
20:35
Speaker 1: Did it on the other foot, and maybe it's really
20:38
Speaker 1: happened to him, but maybe he was sitting there being like,
20:40
Speaker 1: you know what, I can only imagine what this girl
20:42
Speaker 1: is going through.
20:43
Speaker 2: I can absolutely afford to do this for.
20:45
Speaker 1: Her, or maybe he can and he just wanted to
20:47
Speaker 1: be a good person or she, But regardless.
20:51
Speaker 5: Very fucking, very grand deed.
20:56
Speaker 2: This one is a long one.
20:57
Speaker 1: I also want to say a lot of you guys
20:58
Speaker 1: because these but these can get long. When I ask
21:01
Speaker 1: you for something so heartfelt, you're like, I get that.
21:04
Speaker 1: It's like you can't fit it all in one thing.
21:06
Speaker 1: You can send a DM and I can screenshot them,
21:09
Speaker 1: or send a DM, screenshot it and then send it.
21:11
Speaker 1: That's what this person did. My grandmother and I were
21:14
Speaker 1: very close during her final days with terminal cancer. I
21:17
Speaker 1: would travel between LA and San Francisco every week for
21:20
Speaker 1: about three months. I'd arrive from San Francisco in LA
21:23
Speaker 1: at six am on Mondays and head straight to my
21:25
Speaker 1: job at an LA agency, where I worked in the
21:28
Speaker 1: mailroom for just seven dollars per hour. Even though we
21:32
Speaker 1: both earned very little. My coworker slash gusband would buy
21:37
Speaker 1: me a large Starbucks coffee and leave it on my
21:39
Speaker 1: desk every Monday morning. I know it sounds silly, It doesn't,
21:43
Speaker 1: by the way, but this small act of kindness meant
21:46
Speaker 1: a lot to me. He had to work for an
21:47
Speaker 1: hour just to buy that coffee. Ten years later, they
21:51
Speaker 1: are still in the best gusband in psycho bitch marriage.
21:54
Speaker 3: Wow oh same them?
21:57
Speaker 6: Yeah yeah, yeah good, I relate, No, but that really
22:01
Speaker 6: is because when I was in Utah and I was
22:03
Speaker 6: working my nine to five, yeah, like I would go
22:07
Speaker 6: into my office and like very rarely, like somebody would
22:11
Speaker 6: bring me a coffee and like just like a coffee
22:13
Speaker 6: for you, just somebody in the office that we were
22:15
Speaker 6: close with.
22:15
Speaker 5: But I would do it for people as well.
22:17
Speaker 6: But it was just crazy to see, like it was
22:20
Speaker 6: nice to have like a coffee.
22:21
Speaker 2: You're like, oh, okay, let me tell you that's a
22:23
Speaker 2: love language.
22:24
Speaker 5: No, that is? That is I mean, well even you know.
22:26
Speaker 4: It was supposed to start my new job, right yeah,
22:29
Speaker 4: on the thirteenth and Saturday Eastern, and I had stayed
22:32
Speaker 4: up pretty much all night because we're seeing the flames
22:35
Speaker 4: they coming up over the mountain and we're like they
22:37
Speaker 4: cut the news at once, like, what the hell is
22:39
Speaker 4: going on?
22:40
Speaker 5: We see the fire? Is it coming? The evac zone
22:43
Speaker 5: is like two blocks from We're laying in bed just
22:45
Speaker 5: not sleeping and talking.
22:47
Speaker 1: You know.
22:47
Speaker 4: It took a drive at what like three, and we
22:48
Speaker 4: see all the police cars blocking it off and getting
22:51
Speaker 4: people out of there, very bright, and so we didn't
22:55
Speaker 4: really sleep. And so I text the my new boss,
22:58
Speaker 4: who I'm supposed to start for in two days, and
22:59
Speaker 4: I'm like, hey, I don't know what's going on, Like
23:03
Speaker 4: can can we push the start date? And just him
23:05
Speaker 4: responding being like this is their start date. It's like
23:08
Speaker 4: the least to the of our concerns, like take care
23:10
Speaker 4: of you, make sure you're good. He's like a few
23:13
Speaker 4: days isn't going to affect anything like just we'll figure
23:17
Speaker 4: it out, you know, and like he you know, he's like,
23:19
Speaker 4: don't worry about it, and taking.
23:20
Speaker 3: That worry off of the weight off of you as.
23:23
Speaker 4: I'm already worrying about all this other stuff Like that
23:25
Speaker 4: meant a lot to me. And it also going back
23:26
Speaker 4: to the person who the boss flew them out, you know,
23:29
Speaker 4: to see there, to see their parent before they passed.
23:31
Speaker 4: But for me, it's like even before starting this job,
23:34
Speaker 4: I'm like, Okay, there's respect he've got. Like it's not
23:36
Speaker 4: like nope, you've got to start like I don't give
23:38
Speaker 4: a shit.
23:38
Speaker 6: You know.
23:39
Speaker 2: It's like were you directly that did you? Did you
23:44
Speaker 2: have to evacuate it, or were you impacted?
23:48
Speaker 5: No?
23:49
Speaker 2: But people that I love and just the place that
23:52
Speaker 2: I call home.
23:52
Speaker 1: I just feel like there's other things we could worry about, right,
23:56
Speaker 1: So I feel like it's going to be that's a
23:59
Speaker 1: great start.
24:00
Speaker 2: A bad start, but a great start too.
24:03
Speaker 4: I said, we're just getting all the bad for the
24:05
Speaker 4: year outright at the beginning, so it's just good from here.
24:09
Speaker 5: So that's why I have that I'd rather have the
24:12
Speaker 5: bad news first, give it to me.
24:16
Speaker 2: Do you want the good news or the bad?
24:17
Speaker 5: News.
24:17
Speaker 1: First, I'm like, it's bad, bad, What do you mean
24:20
Speaker 1: You want to put me on a high and then
24:22
Speaker 1: drop me thirty thousand feet?
24:24
Speaker 2: No, thank you?
24:25
Speaker 1: Drop me thirty thousand Yeah, I.
24:30
Speaker 5: Will get to thirty.
24:31
Speaker 1: Butteen, this one's really sweet. I teach my aunt tragically
24:36
Speaker 1: passed away. My teammate did my lesson plans for two weeks.
24:40
Speaker 1: As a teacher, you can't just take off. This helped
24:43
Speaker 1: me so much, take off and grieve. The reason why
24:46
Speaker 1: some of these may you may be thinking while I
24:49
Speaker 1: can't read this is true, but also because you have
24:52
Speaker 1: to compact them into such a small space, which is
24:54
Speaker 1: why I encourage the d to just DM and send them.
24:57
Speaker 2: But I love you guys.
24:58
Speaker 1: Writing it after that is huge because teachers do.
25:03
Speaker 3: Not get Teachers should be a year.
25:07
Speaker 5: I think I've said it.
25:08
Speaker 2: I've said it a million times.
25:10
Speaker 1: How the is Lebron James making so much money dribbling
25:13
Speaker 1: a basketball but teachers who are responsible for our future,
25:19
Speaker 1: these children will be the ones that go on to
25:22
Speaker 1: make a difference in our world.
25:24
Speaker 5: Pay them thirty. It's just.
25:28
Speaker 3: How do we bump that up?
25:34
Speaker 1: After a domestic violence situation, someone from church as a
25:37
Speaker 1: kid took me in until I got an apartment.
25:40
Speaker 2: Huge.
25:41
Speaker 1: I think anytime someone offers up their home a safe
25:45
Speaker 1: space and and has someone else come in is like
25:49
Speaker 1: the most incredible human on the planet because that is
25:56
Speaker 1: as someone who adores their home. And I'm very and
25:59
Speaker 1: I'm not saying that this person has bad energy. I'm
26:02
Speaker 1: saying anytime you have someone new come into the house
26:05
Speaker 1: and it's an extended period of time and you don't know,
26:09
Speaker 1: you know what the future holds, how long they'll be there.
26:13
Speaker 1: And this is me talking very selfishly, just a little
26:16
Speaker 1: bit coming off, and I'm aware of it.
26:18
Speaker 3: I don't think it's coming off.
26:19
Speaker 1: So anybody who says you are welcome at my home,
26:23
Speaker 1: I'm like, that's a good freaking person.
26:26
Speaker 5: It's a great person.
26:27
Speaker 4: And also one thing that I have learned over the
26:30
Speaker 4: last like two years that I've been working on. But
26:34
Speaker 4: if somebody's offering you something and I don't really like
26:37
Speaker 4: to accept things, it's hard for me. It's really tough
26:40
Speaker 4: for me to receive. I love to give, okay, have
26:42
Speaker 4: to give. I hate to receive a weird thing. It's
26:44
Speaker 4: like I love giving the people, but I read if
26:48
Speaker 4: you don't accept something like it feels good to give,
26:50
Speaker 4: and if you say no, you're taking away that good
26:54
Speaker 4: feeling from that person who's trying to.
26:55
Speaker 5: Give to you.
26:56
Speaker 3: So accept it. Don't feel bad about accepting it.
26:58
Speaker 4: If they're offering it, if they're offering to bring you food,
27:00
Speaker 4: if they're offering you a place, take it now. Don't
27:04
Speaker 4: take advantage of it, but take it, you know, take
27:08
Speaker 4: it and let them be generous to you, and in
27:11
Speaker 4: turn let them have that good deed. Let them have
27:14
Speaker 4: that good deed because you like to do it, and
27:16
Speaker 4: then in turn later on remember that and do good
27:19
Speaker 4: for somebody else.
27:20
Speaker 1: I think a lot of people have a hard time
27:23
Speaker 1: receiving because they.
27:24
Speaker 5: Don't want to feel in need.
27:27
Speaker 1: Like or like they're indebted to somebody, like because I
27:31
Speaker 1: did this.
27:32
Speaker 2: For you, you then owe me.
27:34
Speaker 6: And what's so crazy, though, is your giving and your giving.
27:37
Speaker 6: I like to think I'm giving as well, but like
27:39
Speaker 6: every time your guys are giving, I never feel indebted.
27:43
Speaker 5: I still don't like you.
27:44
Speaker 3: See, I'm keeping a list. I've got a list.
27:49
Speaker 1: Well, what you just said reminded me of Joey Tribiani
27:52
Speaker 1: when he's thinking of what he's going to say in
27:54
Speaker 1: his speech. When Monica and Chandler get made. He's like,
27:57
Speaker 1: it's about giving and receiving, and when you give and
28:00
Speaker 1: then you receive, you're constantly giving a lot.
28:07
Speaker 5: Of that stuff like that.
28:10
Speaker 1: No, I think anyone opening their home amazing. I opened
28:13
Speaker 1: my home to YouTube fools.
28:15
Speaker 5: We're going to get the hell out. I'm just kidding.
28:17
Speaker 2: I'm just kidding. I'm trying to lie rightness.
28:20
Speaker 4: The likeness the list of law has on us is
28:23
Speaker 4: it's getting bigger and bigger every day.
28:25
Speaker 2: I don't keep a list.
28:26
Speaker 1: Oh okay, I only I The only time I the
28:30
Speaker 1: only time I use a list of everything that I've
28:33
Speaker 1: done is when I want to force you guys to
28:35
Speaker 1: spend more time with me. And like I did this,
28:40
Speaker 1: get upstairs and watch a movie with me.
28:43
Speaker 5: And there we are.
28:44
Speaker 2: I'm a, I'm a. I like time. I love time together.
28:47
Speaker 3: She's like, you've only spent eighteen hours to day with me.
28:49
Speaker 5: I need a few more.
28:50
Speaker 3: I need the day's not over.
28:53
Speaker 1: I got diagnosed with breast cancer last year, and my
28:56
Speaker 1: coworkers all made me food, the comfort.
28:59
Speaker 5: Of all things, comfort food.
29:01
Speaker 2: I love this.
29:02
Speaker 1: I was in a really bad car accident a few
29:04
Speaker 1: years ago and was trapped in my car. An old
29:07
Speaker 1: man who saw the accident manage to get in and
29:10
Speaker 1: sit next to me and just held my hand and
29:12
Speaker 1: comforted me until I was eventually cut out of my car.
29:16
Speaker 3: Wow, incredible that I'm going to tell you right now.
29:19
Speaker 6: I get claustrophobic, I get a whole lot of things,
29:22
Speaker 6: And if it would have just been me sitting in there,
29:24
Speaker 6: I would have.
29:25
Speaker 5: Had a pancy.
29:25
Speaker 1: Your mind runs wild, and if there's just a person
29:28
Speaker 1: who's willing to sit there and take your mind off
29:30
Speaker 1: of what's going on. I mean, I love reading these
29:34
Speaker 1: because I feel like in times like we're in right now,
29:38
Speaker 1: we need to talk about people who like still make
29:41
Speaker 1: a difference.
29:42
Speaker 2: One infertility.
29:44
Speaker 1: After spending forty five thousand dollars on IVF five times
29:48
Speaker 1: and seven EUIs, my mom helped us adopt our two
29:51
Speaker 1: boys by pulling from her retirement.
29:53
Speaker 2: She wanted babies just as bad as we did. Oh, Mama,
29:57
Speaker 2: the mama always pulls through.
30:00
Speaker 5: Hey, if a mom can be a grandma, it's.
30:04
Speaker 1: It's like a different form of love, mom said. I
30:07
Speaker 1: asked her, what what does it mean to you to like?
30:10
Speaker 1: What is the feeling that you get? She's like, I
30:12
Speaker 1: can't describe it. It would be like trying to describe
30:16
Speaker 1: the love a mom has to someone who hasn't yet experienced.
30:20
Speaker 2: Being a mom if they want to be a mom.
30:23
Speaker 2: She was like, you can't explain it.
30:25
Speaker 5: Yeah, that's what she told me.
30:26
Speaker 6: She was like, the love I have for Ocean is
30:28
Speaker 6: just very different, yeah, but very Yeah.
30:32
Speaker 2: I loved all of those.
30:33
Speaker 1: I want to thank you guys for writing in and
30:35
Speaker 1: participating in our bonus episode. There were a lot of
30:39
Speaker 1: people who wrote in and that makes me extremely extremely grateful.
30:44
Speaker 2: I love you guys.
30:45
Speaker 1: Thank you for tuning into another episode to give.
30:46
Speaker 2: Them La La bonus episode. Landy, thank you for it
30:50
Speaker 2: was fun having.
30:51
Speaker 5: Thank you for having me.
30:52
Speaker 3: It was fun to be here. Go give, go, help
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Speaker 3: do something.
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Speaker 1: So amen, Amen, Easton, thank you for showing up again.
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Speaker 1: You guys have the best week on the planet. I
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Speaker 1: love you and I'm gonna catch you on Wednesday.
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Speaker 5: Bye bye,