Latest / The Hypnotist / Marina Kostina and Adam Cox on Why Hips Don't Lie and The Power of Podcasting for Therapists
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- 0:00Welcome to The Hypnotist, the show that gives you inside
- 0:03access to cutting edge hypnosis with real clients facing genuine
- 0:07issues. Brought to you by the
- 0:10hypnotherapist, demanded by celebrities, CEOs and even
- 0:14royalty. Adam Cox.
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- 0:40Hi, it's Adam here and I'm joined by Marina Costina and
- 0:44we're going to have a chat about what we're going to be doing at
- 0:48Hypna Thoughts Live for our post conference workshops.
- 0:52Marina, how are you doing? I'm doing great.
- 0:55Thank you. Great to you.
- 0:57Great to speak to you because I think the last time that we
- 0:59spoke was briefly it hit No Thoughts live I think last
- 1:02summer and you were on my podcast I think 4 years ago,
- 1:06something like that because I was in Tenerife at the time.
- 1:09Yes, it was right after you launched your podcast, like not
- 1:14too long after. And I was fascinated by your
- 1:19success. So I cannot hear, you know, wait
- 1:21to hear about what you have to offer today.
- 1:24Yeah, amazing. And I know you've, you've had a
- 1:27bit of a tough time over the last few years, to put it
- 1:31mildly. But sometimes I, I really do
- 1:34think that good things come from bad things.
- 1:37And you know, I've, I've seen a, a book that you've released and
- 1:40obviously you're doing a, a post conference workshop as as well.
- 1:43Tell us a little bit about what's been happening in your
- 1:45world. Yes, absolutely.
- 1:48Thank you so much. Yes, since we talked, I three
- 1:51years ago I had a near death skydiving accident that kind of
- 1:57broke me into 52 pieces. I lost completely my face and
- 2:01has been going through surgeries still not done.
- 2:05But during this time, like you said, in order to not go crazy,
- 2:11I continued working and learning even more about therapy,
- 2:16especially for trauma. And I really got dove into
- 2:21something that I worked on for a long time already, but somatic
- 2:24healing. And I decided to do a post
- 2:28conference workshop on somatic healing.
- 2:32I call it Hips Don't Lie because I combine a lot of things from
- 2:37my belly dance and dancer background, yoga background, and
- 2:44also somatic work of different gurus in this area.
- 2:54And I kind of created my own version of the somatic healing
- 2:58that I use on my own trauma and also use it for my clients.
- 3:05So that's going to be my workshop.
- 3:07Absolutely. And I think somatic healing is,
- 3:11is such an important thing because people will commonly
- 3:15mention things like, you know, where they feel pain in their
- 3:18body and, you know, certain phrases I used to pick up on as
- 3:22a child, like some people would say, you know, like they're fed
- 3:24up to the back teeth and, you know, it's a pain in their arse
- 3:27and things like that. And, and you would hear these
- 3:29kind of references to body sensations linked to emotions
- 3:33and things like that. Tell us about your journey into
- 3:36somatic healing. Oh, wow, that's that's great
- 3:39that you actually mentioned it because, you know, I always
- 3:42laugh like with things like pain in the butt, you know, and
- 3:45things like that. But it's not just by chance,
- 3:49right? This expressions always are
- 3:51based on something real. I, you know, first of all, I'm
- 3:56very in touch with the body because, you know, like I told
- 3:59you, I was a yoga teacher dancer.
- 4:02So I feel the body and I, I really am connected to the body.
- 4:06But unfortunately, many people are not.
- 4:10And we really don't listen to our body until our body starts
- 4:15screaming at us. And that scream either disease
- 4:20or muscle tension is often an indication of some traumatic
- 4:26event or some emotions that are not processed, that are stuck
- 4:31there because we are like animals, you know, we're
- 4:34designed to have. We're in the constant motion.
- 4:38So it's not. So we're always in a great
- 4:41state, right? In the expanded state, we shrink
- 4:45and we expand. We shrink and then expand and
- 4:47we're in cycles like, right, Our nervous system works this way.
- 4:52But when something traumatic happens and it doesn't have to
- 4:55be like you fall from the sky, you know, it can be something
- 4:59supposedly minimal, but it's just the way you've reacted to
- 5:02it. You did not process the emotion
- 5:07well and it gets literally stuck in your body and then your body
- 5:13gives you signs. But because we're so
- 5:15disconnected in our day and age from our body that we don't
- 5:19listen until it creates a big problem.
- 5:23So we're going to study how where emotions are stuck.
- 5:30I'm going to give body map of emotions.
- 5:35We're going to talk about how the nervous system and even
- 5:39biology of a human is different when you are healthy and when
- 5:46you are traumatized. Traumatic brain is a different
- 5:50brain that a usual, you know, common brain.
- 5:54I notice it on my on myself. But the good thing is that of
- 6:00course we can reverse the stains and we can work through the
- 6:03body, and if we combine it with hypnosis, then we become a
- 6:08powerhouse, really. And and tell us about your heel
- 6:12method. What that's What's that all
- 6:14about? Well, I combined a lot of
- 6:17different things that I learned from different disciplines.
- 6:21And so we're going to do some things from belly dancing, you
- 6:27know, my signature move that everybody always laughs at like,
- 6:31you know, laughs at in a way that oh, it's such a cool, fun
- 6:34activity. So, you know, we do shimmy
- 6:36dancing. It's a shimmy therapy, but there
- 6:40is a deeper meaning behind that, right?
- 6:46I actually teach you how to move your attention from different to
- 6:52different points in your body and how getting out of your mind
- 6:57is actually the best thing you can do for yourself.
- 7:00I also teach breath during that workshop because I actually got
- 7:07trained a while ago, a long time ago in breathing.
- 7:11And I believe that breath is pretty much everything, right?
- 7:15It's our most basic tool for living and it would be silly not
- 7:21to include it into somatic work. So I teach different, you know,
- 7:25biology of breathing. I teach different types of
- 7:29breathing for different types of problems.
- 7:32So you can give it, you know, either use it for yourself or
- 7:35give it to your clients. They can experience relief right
- 7:40away. And imagine you have a hypnotic
- 7:42session and you also teach them breathing and somatic work and
- 7:47how to navigate through their trauma through somatic healing.
- 7:53That becomes very powerful. You know, sometimes, Adam, I
- 7:57have clients who come to me and they have no idea what happened,
- 8:01right? Why they are anxious, why they
- 8:04have panic attacks. You probably had that too,
- 8:06right? And yes, we can access that
- 8:12through hypnosis, but I honestly think that the quicker way is to
- 8:16see through the body. So I actually have a diagnostic
- 8:21that I teach you how to diagnose the through the body, understand
- 8:26what kind of problems you might have.
- 8:29So it sounds amazing because there's a fusion of different
- 8:32kind of modalities here all at once to kind of release it seems
- 8:36like what whatever that locked in motion pain or or kind of
- 8:40sensation is, which sounds. And when you're talking about
- 8:42breath, I was getting flashbacks of about 20 years ago.
- 8:45I, I found this kind of breathing ratios and then
- 8:49learned about pranayama kind of breathing and it was just
- 8:51revolutionary for me. Really kind of taught me really
- 8:55to kind of breathe my diaphragm rather than my chest.
- 8:57And that's been, you know, a complete game changer for me.
- 9:01It is, you know, I honestly, everybody always says that, you
- 9:05know, my results are miraculous. But I mean, if you see my first
- 9:09picture and all of the prognosis that I was given by the doctors
- 9:14that I wouldn't walk by myself and things like that.
- 9:17I mean, I really attributed to all of these things that I teach
- 9:22I to energy work, to hypnosis, to somatic healing and breath is
- 9:29a part of it. Like, you know, breathing not
- 9:31only calms my nervous system when you know, like I have a
- 9:35surgery on Wednesday, right, 20th.
- 9:39You can imagine the amount of stress, right?
- 9:42And anxiety, but I can still navigate through life because I
- 9:50use this tools. So in a way, this horrible
- 9:54situation gave me like, you know, I'm a researcher.
- 9:59So now I don't just learn about it.
- 10:02I'm actually applying tools and I'm testing on myself and then I
- 10:07include them in my frameworks to offer to clients and, you know,
- 10:12for training. So that's kind of valuable thing
- 10:18that I can say. I walk my talk, you know,
- 10:20literally. Amazing.
- 10:23It sounds sounds wonderful. Give us a little bit of an
- 10:26elevator pitch. If people are going to be a
- 10:27hypno thoughts anyway, why should they come to your
- 10:30workshop as a as a bit of an extra?
- 10:33Well, I think that if you have, if you work on trauma, if you
- 10:37work with trauma, the fastest way to access trauma and to
- 10:42release trauma is through your body, sorry to say, not even
- 10:46through the subconscious mind. And like, you know, of course,
- 10:49it's all connected, but through your body.
- 10:51And so if you get this tool, you're going to have for a
- 10:55really fast way of detecting trauma in your clients and
- 11:01really in in yourself and releasing the trauma.
- 11:05And like you said that I combined so many different
- 11:08modalities. So you're going to get so many
- 11:10different modalities at once in one workshop, like breathing
- 11:15stands, like a separate training, right?
- 11:18You're gonna have breathing training.
- 11:21You're gonna have I forgot to tell you that there's gonna be
- 11:25also Adam, Have you ever watched Light to me serious.
- 11:31You know what, it was one of my favorite things and I, I kind of
- 11:33didn't know about Ekman until I saw that TV show.
- 11:37And then when I saw that TV show, I actually did his course
- 11:39about micro expressions and, and kind of reading very quickly.
- 11:44The kind of the tells that that come from I, I love that TV
- 11:47show. Right.
- 11:48So I'm trained by Doctor Akman, OK, And I am going to include
- 11:54that into my workshop. I I'm trained in that method and
- 12:01we're going to include it in the workshop because our face, like
- 12:06you said that we have micro expressions and micro
- 12:08expressions for those who don't know, those are very like
- 12:11they're split second rate expressions that the muscle
- 12:16tension rate, whatever you say is movement that indicate
- 12:21different types of emotions. And even if we're life, we try
- 12:25to keep our face straight and pretend like we always do, most
- 12:31of us in life to be polite or not to hurt feelings of others.
- 12:35These expressions never lie. And there are universal
- 12:39expressions, right? Universal feelings that across
- 12:43that can be found across all different cultures and they have
- 12:47unified way of being expressed. And when trauma happens, though,
- 12:54the emotions are also kind of in a way stuck in our face.
- 12:58So sometimes when you know, you can look at the older people or
- 13:02people with wrinkles and you can tell if they're like, you know,
- 13:05we're sad people, angry people, happy people, right?
- 13:08Can you, Sometimes you can tell, right?
- 13:11You can tell. It's, it's the, it's the smile
- 13:13lines in the eyes, isn't it? You can see them.
- 13:15Right, exactly. So we go deeper than that and
- 13:20that helps you understand your client.
- 13:24It also helps you, you know, people when they come to us,
- 13:29they say the truth or they don't either on purpose or they just
- 13:35don't know any better. So it's easier for you to kind
- 13:38of like detect like the truth detector and again, understand
- 13:43your client much better, but also detect trauma that is stuck
- 13:47in the face. I actually do.
- 13:51I have a special session. Unfortunately it's not a part of
- 13:55the workshop. It's too much.
- 13:57But I also use microcurrents to work with trauma on the face
- 14:04using micro expressions. So it is a powerful tool to
- 14:08have. I have to say it sounds like an
- 14:10amazing workshop and if I wasn't doing a workshop myself I would.
- 14:14I would definitely be there. So maybe if we switch roles now,
- 14:19and maybe you, you ask me about my workshop and I'll, I'll see
- 14:22if I can be anywhere close to as informative as as you've just
- 14:26been with me. You're so wonderful.
- 14:29To be honest with you, I am very, very upset that we're at
- 14:33the same time because you are just this genius man that I
- 14:40watched. I literally watched.
- 14:42I think that we got to know each other.
- 14:44You were probably a year into your podcasting and then you
- 14:49just like created this massive impact.
- 14:53I mean, first of all, the quality, the ideas behind your
- 14:58podcasts are just so unique and so incredible.
- 15:02And then you have like enormous number of downloads that just
- 15:07keep growing. And it's I, I can't fathom like
- 15:11how fast you develop that. So can you please tell us what,
- 15:17what kind of secrets are you going to teach people in that
- 15:20workshop? Yeah.
- 15:22And, and it was very strange because I kind of accidentally
- 15:26became a podcast because I accidentally got a radio show
- 15:30because I was looking for studio space.
- 15:32And then because of the radio show, I then had hundreds of
- 15:38previous episodes where I launched my first podcast called
- 15:42Modern Mindset that that you were on.
- 15:45And then lockdown. Lockdown came along and I knew I
- 15:49couldn't see so many hypnosis clients.
- 15:51So I thought it would be great to have a hypnosis podcast so I
- 15:55can practice being experimental and innovative with hypnosis.
- 16:00So it was actually right at the beginning of lockdown when I
- 16:03created the hypnotist podcast. You were on the Modern Mindset
- 16:08podcast, I think exactly a year after it launched because I
- 16:12remembered I was living in Tenerife at the time in the
- 16:14second lockdown and we had that conversation then.
- 16:19And for for me, I love being, I love nested loops, I love
- 16:24metaphors, I love getting inspiration from movies and
- 16:27books. But equally, I found that my
- 16:30best stuff comes from the client in front of me.
- 16:34So most of my hypnosis sessions are the result of the actual
- 16:39hypnosis I did with the client. And it's just my voice being
- 16:42recorded. So it keeps the confidentiality,
- 16:45you know, very confidential that you never know who I'm working
- 16:47with. But what it means is that people
- 16:49listening can hear real hypnosis based on real client sessions
- 16:55where the clients had real issues.
- 16:57And it gives almost like a sneaky look into the therapy
- 17:01room while maintaining all of that confidentiality.
- 17:05And that's really what I think made the podcast grow because it
- 17:08was a bit different from other hypnosis podcasts.
- 17:12It is incredibly different from other hypnosis podcasts to be
- 17:16honest with you. I, you don't even know I already
- 17:19like had a crush on you before we met because I had a YouTube,
- 17:25a video with your, I think it was, it was an anxiety,
- 17:32something like that dealing with anxiety.
- 17:34I was trying to find really good material and I was fascinated
- 17:38with the way you are presenting the information.
- 17:42And as a hypnotist, I saw all of the different techniques you use
- 17:46and you pack it all together. And also with the quality of
- 17:50your recordings. Are you going to be hoping
- 17:54people like me who you know, always records just into my
- 17:59phone? Would you touch upon the
- 18:03technology, technological aspect of podcasting and how to even
- 18:09run it? Yeah, I think the technology is
- 18:13the daunting bit for a lot of people.
- 18:15And the great thing about podcast is that the average
- 18:19smartphone has a pretty good microphone these days.
- 18:22So you don't need really expensive microphones.
- 18:25You can even just use, you know, a smartphone to start with.
- 18:30I use my computer and Ausb microphone, I still have it over
- 18:35there. It's a cheap little kick.
- 18:37You just plug it into a laptop and that's good to put you in
- 18:41the top 5% of all podcasts. It was only after the podcast
- 18:44really kind of blew up for me that I, I started investing in
- 18:48what I call the Joe Rogan mic, which is the, you see this
- 18:51microphone, it's the shore SM 7B and you see it on all the, the
- 18:55podcasts on YouTube because it's just such a good microphone.
- 18:59So microphone, you know, the, the computer, you don't need
- 19:02fancy mixing desks, but we're going to talk through the, the
- 19:05technical bits. I think the key thing that makes
- 19:08a a podcast successful, though, it isn't so much the technology
- 19:11and it is the concept. If you come up with a good
- 19:14concept, then you can find an audience.
- 19:17You can find an audience from from anywhere, but it's the
- 19:21audience that kind of vibrates with your particular content.
- 19:25Some people like my voice, some people don't like my voice, but
- 19:28you know you're going to, you're going to find the audience
- 19:30that's right for you. And I think that's the great
- 19:32thing about technology is that you put stuff out there in the
- 19:36world and then people that resonate with that and like that
- 19:40kind of content, they, they listen again and again.
- 19:43And you, you build an audience of people that like what you do
- 19:46need what you do. So we're also going to be
- 19:48talking about not just how to come up with the a format and a
- 19:51concept and the recording and the technology bits, but also
- 19:55how you then grow the audience and turn that audience into
- 19:59clients. Because for me, my podcast is
- 20:02now my primary way of generating clients.
- 20:05And I used to spend thousands of of pounds each month on Google
- 20:09Adwords and I don't do that at all anymore.
- 20:11It all comes from YouTube and and podcasts.
- 20:14So I think it's a very, very cost effective way to generate
- 20:18new clients. That's wonderful.
- 20:21And you already kind of touched upon my next question, but let's
- 20:26kind of unwrap that because I think that many people would
- 20:29really want to know the concept. Of course, you came up with the
- 20:35most amazing concept based on books and movies.
- 20:39I was like fascinated by that. How did you even come up with
- 20:42that? Are you gonna, is there any way
- 20:47that you could guide people to find their own concept?
- 20:51Because, you know, like somebody like me looking at you honestly,
- 20:54I feel a little intimidated in the sense that, oh, I don't have
- 20:59a concept like you. I will never be good at
- 21:01podcasting. You know, like that is the
- 21:04probably common feeling for somebody who comes, you know
- 21:08what I mean? Like how do I?
- 21:10How do I stand out? So I think, I think there's
- 21:14different things that make people stand out.
- 21:16I would love to say that, you know, that concept was an
- 21:20original concept, but it wasn't. I I just thought, what kind of
- 21:24stuff did I like when I first became a hypnotist?
- 21:27And it was reading the the real transcripts of Milton Erickson
- 21:31working with clients that was way more interesting for me as
- 21:34to how he interacted with clients than just written
- 21:39descriptions of theories and protocols and, and those things.
- 21:43And there was a great book that I read early on called Magic in
- 21:46Action by Richard Bandler. And that was real transcripts of
- 21:52Richard Bandler, early Richard Bandler.
- 21:54So 1970s, early 80s, interacting with clients using NLP
- 21:58techniques to create rapid change.
- 22:01And I found that the real stuff, the real interactions with
- 22:04clients was interesting for me. So when I came up with an idea
- 22:08for the podcast, I thought, well, that's the bit that's most
- 22:11interesting for me. So therefore I want to do
- 22:12something that I would be interested in and that was the
- 22:16real hypnosis sessions with the real clients with a bit of an
- 22:19explanation as to why I use certain techniques and and
- 22:22metaphors and approaches. So it wasn't an original
- 22:26concept, but it was fairly original for a hypnosis podcast.
- 22:32I'd seen the same concept in written form in transcripts, but
- 22:35never in audio form. Most hypnosis was recorded
- 22:41generic sessions or I love the Mike Mendel and and Chris
- 22:46Thompson podcast, the brain software podcast, but that's
- 22:49educational and that's training. And you can find some really
- 22:54good hypnosis recordings, but they they seem like they're
- 22:56scripted and generic, not aimed at one particular person.
- 22:59So my concept wasn't original. It was just original for
- 23:03podcasting. And I would encourage people to
- 23:07the the clue of what will be a winning concept is the things
- 23:10that you already find fascinating, that the things
- 23:13that already are interesting for you and that you like listening
- 23:19to. And it will be some variation of
- 23:21of that. And even if it's a similar
- 23:24concept to someone else, what will make it different is you
- 23:28the fact that you're hosting it. And if someone was to exactly
- 23:33copy my format, it would still be different because they're a
- 23:37different hypnotist to how I am. So there is lots of scope, I
- 23:41think, for originality. And, and I believe that there is
- 23:46no competition in hypnosis because if you were to stop 100
- 23:50people in the street and ask them, you know, is there some
- 23:54kind of traumatic memory that still, you know, kind of plays
- 23:57on their mind? Is there an addiction they want
- 23:59to change? Is there anxiety that comes up
- 24:01too often? Is there a habit they want to
- 24:04change? Of those 100 people, all 100 of
- 24:07them have something that they want to change.
- 24:09So there's too much work out there, too many clients out
- 24:12there. And I think we need, we need
- 24:13more podcasters out there doing hypnosis stuff because the more
- 24:17we can raise awareness of hypnotherapy and, and it's the
- 24:22benefits of doing hypnotherapy well, the better it is for
- 24:25everyone in the world of hypnotherapy.
- 24:29I love it. I love the concept of, you know,
- 24:31the approach is like feeling abundant about this as opposed
- 24:34to scarcity and competition. I'm the same way.
- 24:37Absolutely. Well, my last question then to
- 24:40you is when I think of podcasting, because, you know, I
- 24:43always feel like, you know, especially after this
- 24:45experience, I have a lot of things to offer to people trauma
- 24:49wise, but I always honestly get stopped stuff myself because it
- 24:55seems that starting a podcast, it's like starting another
- 25:00business. And how am I going to find time
- 25:04or is it going to cost me a lot of money?
- 25:07Or, you know, because I always think I I will spend all of this
- 25:11hours creating this amazing content.
- 25:14And then if it's not marketed, if people don't hear it, then
- 25:18it's just pretty much, you know, just sitting there, right?
- 25:23Are you going to be covering something about how to, I don't
- 25:28know, maybe it's marketing or, or maybe it's a better word of
- 25:33how to spread this love and joy to other people and give them
- 25:37this access to you. And so your podcast does not
- 25:42also become another business that you need to carry on.
- 25:48You know what I mean? Because you also want to do
- 25:50therapy. I, I, I think, I think a podcast
- 25:53has to give more than it takes. And if it, if it takes more than
- 25:56it gives, then it's probably not the right thing.
- 25:59So that's why in this one day workshop, we cover all the
- 26:02things to increase the probability that it becomes this
- 26:06kind of infinite well of things that are beneficial, that might
- 26:12be awareness, that might be credibility, that might be
- 26:15opening doors of opportunity, it might be new clients, it might
- 26:18even be the monetization of the podcast.
- 26:20So we we cover a lot in the day to mean that it isn't like a
- 26:24full time job. It is just something you do as a
- 26:27as a hobby that you know is enjoyable and just gives you all
- 26:30these benefits forever. For everyone turning up at the
- 26:33workshop, I'm going to be giving free access to my online course,
- 26:36which is called the same thing. It's called podcasting for
- 26:39therapists, but it's an online course.
- 26:41So therefore they don't have to remember everything in the day.
- 26:43They've also got the online course.
- 26:45And in terms of growing your audience, there is a few
- 26:48strategies that that work, you know, utilizing social media or,
- 26:53you know, something that that I've started doing more is
- 26:57introducing guests onto my podcast that I know that my
- 27:01audience would be interested in. And then you get that kind of
- 27:05cross fertilization. So you get the benefits of other
- 27:10audiences and and then they share your podcast for you.
- 27:13So there's all these different strategies that once you have
- 27:16it, it doesn't have to cost lots of money to promote your
- 27:19podcast. It's just a way of once you have
- 27:22it, you want it to grow and ideally grow organically without
- 27:26paying to grow it. Because it has to be something
- 27:28that that gives you and contributes to your business,
- 27:32your reputation, your, your quality of life, not not taking
- 27:36away from it. This is wonderful.
- 27:39This is absolutely wonderful. I think that it's a very useful
- 27:44and very needed a workshop for us.
- 27:47And, you know, many hypnotists, they just, they, they have so
- 27:51much, you know, to share, but they just afraid, you know,
- 27:56because they just don't know how to start.
- 27:58So thank you for offering this and sharing so generously all of
- 28:03your knowledge and all of your experience.
- 28:05It's been lovely to speak with you again, Marina.
- 28:07And yeah, I'm looking forward to seeing you in Vegas in what
- 28:10would it be about 3 months time? Four months?
- 28:12Oh. Yeah, not, not too long.
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