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- 0:00Erin Gray: In today's episode, I'm introducing to you a practice that changed everything for me and that I recommend with all of my clients, and that is money dates.
- 0:09Erin Gray: I'm going to show you how to create a ritual that supports both your business and your personal finances, that helps you build trust with yourself and with your money, and creates a space for clarity, for gratitude and for circulation.
- 0:25Erin Gray: Do you want to create a system to stop avoiding your money?
- 0:28Erin Gray: Maybe you're feeling guilt and shame when it comes to your finances.
- 0:32Erin Gray: Welcome to your Money, your Rules.
- 0:34Erin Gray: I'm Erin, a former certified financial planner and CFO, and yet I used to avoid my money and had fear, no matter how much we had.
- 0:43Erin Gray: I can't wait to teach you how I overcame my money avoidance and started consistently managing my finances in a really simple way.
- 0:51Erin Gray: It's time to get comfortable with money.
- 0:53Erin Gray: Is your gut telling you it's time to do money differently?
- 0:57Erin Gray: If you're craving clarity and a plan that actually feels right for you, this is your invitation to schedule a one-on-one master your money coaching session with me.
- 1:08Erin Gray: We will co-create a system that feels aligned, that is empowering to you and built for your unique energy.
- 1:16Erin Gray: If this feels like a full body, yes, you can head over to my website, generatealifeallivecom, and schedule your call.
- 1:25Erin Gray: Let's make money feel satisfying again, okay.
- 1:30Erin Gray: So let's talk about money dates.
- 1:31Erin Gray: This is something that I probably well, let's.
- 1:35Erin Gray: Actually, there's two sides to this.
- 1:37Erin Gray: It's something that I probably avoid for a really long time.
- 1:39Erin Gray: Then I did it from a place of like have to and like not enoughness, and then now I'm at the place where it's so fun and I look forward to doing this.
- 1:48Erin Gray: So a money date is just a weekly ritual where you sit down and intentionally connect with your money without shame, without the hustle, without going through the motions, without the dread.
- 2:01Erin Gray: It's not about getting everything perfect, you know, in the beginning.
- 2:05Erin Gray: It's really about creating safety, security, clarity and choice around your financial life, right?
- 2:13Erin Gray: So I was talking to a client last week and I was saying, you know, introducing money dates to her.
- 2:19Erin Gray: And she's like, well, what do I do?
- 2:21Erin Gray: And I'm like, okay, well, think about if you were to go on a date with you know someone that you were interested in, what would you do?
- 2:24Erin Gray: And she's like, well, what do I do?
- 2:24Erin Gray: And I'm like, okay, well, think about if you were to go on a date with you know someone that you were interested in, what would you do?
- 2:26Erin Gray: And she's like, well, I would get dressed up and I would look forward to it and I would have a good time.
- 2:30Erin Gray: And I was like, yes, that's exactly what we're gonna do with our money.
- 2:33Erin Gray: Now, maybe in the beginning for you you may be like love, money, money loves us.
- 2:41Erin Gray: For some people that's too far of a jump of your nervous system.
- 2:44Erin Gray: But like, what is it?
- 2:45Erin Gray: Maybe it is, you know, just a.
- 2:49Erin Gray: Maybe it's not a date initially, maybe it's just, you know, a time where you get to sit and be with your money, right, and you can look at this of two ways.
- 2:57Erin Gray: You can either have two separate times or dates, you know, or you can combine the two, where you look at your business and your personal money.
- 3:07Erin Gray: But it is coming from a place of care and attention and love ultimately.
- 3:13Erin Gray: But if you can't get to love, it's coming from a place of neutrality and curiosity.
- 3:18Erin Gray: So the first step is what do you want it to look like?
- 3:21Erin Gray: Like setting the space.
- 3:22Erin Gray: So maybe it's lighting a candle, maybe it is putting on some music, like I talk about, you know, piano guys, and I love to play piano guys because it feels so soft and nurturing and nourishing to my nervous system.
- 3:37Erin Gray: Maybe you get your favorite drink or your.
- 3:41Erin Gray: You know I love iced tea.
- 3:43Erin Gray: Maybe you drink hot tea.
- 3:44Erin Gray: Maybe you grab a latte.
- 3:45Erin Gray: Maybe you, you know do your coffee, your seltzer water, whatever it is Like?
- 3:50Erin Gray: How do you want to set the scene and the space for you to interact with your money and really starting to dive into your body of like?
- 4:01Erin Gray: How do I want to feel during this interaction with my money?
- 4:06Erin Gray: So maybe in the beginning, you're doing some breaths and you're noticing what your breathing is like, or you're even maybe noticing the resistance that you're feeling like.
- 4:17Erin Gray: Celebrate that.
- 4:18Erin Gray: Just recognize that this is about you learning how to reconnect your self with your money and your relationship, and so we don't need to rush this right.
- 4:30Erin Gray: For many women, we can only go as fast as what we feel safe to do.
- 4:36Erin Gray: So right.
- 4:37Erin Gray: So think about what is really nourishing to your nervous system and what feels good for you to support yourself to sit down and do this exercise.
- 4:49Erin Gray: Okay, so I'm going to break this down into the business side and then also the personal side.
- 4:54Erin Gray: So, from a business check-in place, looking at your revenue what income came in?
- 5:01Erin Gray: Are you celebrating it Like every single bit, no matter where you are in your business journey, if it's your first dollar or first couple of hundred dollars or it's, you know, thousands or hundreds of thousands, millions, right what came in and celebrating it, naming it, blessing it, like thanking the clients that trusted you and love to give you their money in exchange for what you're providing for them.
- 5:30Erin Gray: Looking at your cashflow what's working, maybe, what's not working, what might need adjusting and then looking at your expenses, or what I call receipts of appreciation, you know, are you resourcing your business intentionally?
- 5:45Erin Gray: So I had this conversation with a client last week.
- 5:48Erin Gray: You know I I was asking her I'd looked at her P and L for the last three months and I said there were a couple of things that were the bookkeeper had not allocated properly, and so we were reviewing some things and she was like, oh, wow, I didn't recognize that I was still paying for that, and so it's just an opportunity to sit down and be with your money and to look at it and like, what are the new subscriptions that are coming due, what you know new things in your business do you want to invest in and are they still in alignment?
- 6:18Erin Gray: Sometimes the answer is yes and sometimes it's not, and that's okay.
- 6:21Erin Gray: It's just taking a look and seeing where you are obviously paying yourself first.
- 6:26Erin Gray: You know, if you're just getting started, just starting with something so that you get in the habit, and obviously if it's something that is, you know that you this is your primary source of income of making sure that you have a tax account allocated, that you are putting aside money for taxes depending on how you are taxed for federal and for self-employment tax and just building up that habit of paying yourself first.
- 6:57Erin Gray: Now you can look at I always suggest tithing because I think it is such a beautiful way to show the universe or God that we are an abundant right.
- 7:09Erin Gray: Like giving to some people.
- 7:11Erin Gray: If you go to church, then you're tithing there.
- 7:13Erin Gray: But if you are don't go to church like I do, I do not go to church.
- 7:17Erin Gray: But like tithing to the people that have given you spiritual food, giving back and and um, circulating your money right.
- 7:26Erin Gray: So is there somewhere or someone that you want to support?
- 7:31Erin Gray: And I really think, getting in the habit of doing this?
- 7:34Erin Gray: Um, because I know that a lot of us think, oh, when we make X, y, z, we're going to give, but that starts right now, today, no matter what income amount you are generating.
- 7:47Erin Gray: So, from a personal check-in, looking at your total income, like I count my husband's income and I count my business income and I count our investment income, and I just look at all of our income and, like I said, in the business, one right, blessing it, showing gratitude, celebrating how it's increasing, just being in that space of having.
- 8:08Erin Gray: And then I take a look at our spending, like where did our money go this week?
- 8:12Erin Gray: Is it in alignment with our values?
- 8:14Erin Gray: Do we enjoy, did we enjoy it Like actually being in the celebration of spending our money?
- 8:19Erin Gray: Taking a look at, I mean, the celebration of spending our money.
- 8:21Erin Gray: Taking a look at I mean I do this more so from a before I take out my credit card.
- 8:32Erin Gray: But if you aren't at that place yet, where you are in an awareness, taking an emotional inventory after the fact cause that is how awareness starts is were you spending from an aligned place?
- 8:40Erin Gray: Were you spending from avoidance or trying to feel better?
- 8:45Erin Gray: You know, sometimes some women will say, you know, I went shopping because I was feeling so like really getting into your body and asking yourself, like all of these choices that I made, would I make them again?
- 8:57Erin Gray: Or was I making it from a reactionary place or from a very intentional place?
- 9:03Erin Gray: Taking a look at your goals, you know, and are your money moves matching what your desires are?
- 9:10Erin Gray: And I always look at all of this right.
- 9:13Erin Gray: How are we circulating our money?
- 9:15Erin Gray: So, looking at when you sit down, who is the woman who feels so calm and so peaceful with her money and feels so grateful for the amount of money that she has and how it's growing and how she's circulating it?
- 9:31Erin Gray: So what you can also do is take some time to journal and embody this, integrate.
- 9:40Erin Gray: This is like what are the patterns that you are noticing, like you can take some time to look at.
- 9:45Erin Gray: Okay, when I saw that money date on my calendar, how did I feel in my body?
- 9:51Erin Gray: Was I excited?
- 9:52Erin Gray: Was I looking forward to it or was I feeling like, oh, I have to do this right?
- 9:58Erin Gray: Taking a look at what are you grateful for, really getting intentional, not just like check off the box and if you are listening to this obviously because you are, but you know when you are listening to this and you are thinking about, well, aaron said I should do this.
- 10:14Erin Gray: That's not the place that I want you to come from.
- 10:17Erin Gray: I want you to come from and get to the place of why do I want to take care of my money, why do I want to sit down with my money?
- 10:26Erin Gray: And you formulate your reasons why you would want to do this.
- 10:31Erin Gray: So asking yourself and getting really clear on like, what am I so grateful for?
- 10:37Erin Gray: And then what, moving forward, what small step would feel supportive to me and my nervous system next week?
- 10:47Erin Gray: So simple and easy, you know, taking it a look at is, first and foremost, of like getting prepped from a nervous system regulation and also a 3d perspective of like where do I want to sit down and set the space to be with my money?
- 11:00Erin Gray: And then looking at it from a business check-in place and then also a personal check-in.
- 11:04Erin Gray: And then also, you know, having conversations with your spouse.
- 11:08Erin Gray: Does your, does your spouse do the personal and you do your business, or what does that look like?
- 11:12Erin Gray: And having conversations.
- 11:14Erin Gray: If you want, that's a bonus If you want to have a conversation with your spouse and then embodying this right, bringing this into your body so that you are a person that feels calm and feels peaceful and feels sufficient and abundant with your money.
- 11:30Erin Gray: So if you're tired of pushing through the financial stress that you might be feeling and you are craving a clear, aligned plan.
- 11:38Erin Gray: I want you to know that this is your opportunity to respond to something that feels good in your body.
- 11:45Erin Gray: In our master your money coaching session, we're going to simplify your finances and align your strategy with your energy and create real momentum toward what lights you up.
- 11:57Erin Gray: To schedule this call, you can head over to my website, generatealifewelllivecom and book your session today.
- 12:04Erin Gray: I'll see you in the next episode.
- 12:06Erin Gray: I would love it if you would leave a review for this podcast.
- 12:09Erin Gray: It helps the show grow and I love hearing from you.
- 12:12Erin Gray: And if this episode resonated with you and you have a business bestie who is also avoiding her money, will you share this episode with her?
- 12:21Erin Gray: My mission is to help more female entrepreneurs feel safe and empowered with their money.
- 12:27Erin Gray: Okay, I'll see you in the next episode.