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Adore Your Life feat. Vanity Ware · We Talk Back

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  Speaker 1: Welcome to We Talk Back Podcast, the production of iHeartRadio
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  Speaker 1: and the Black Effect Network Talk.
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  Speaker 2: So we're just two unapologetically black women with an opinion
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  Speaker 2: who talks.
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  Speaker 3: What's up y'all?
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  Speaker 1: Thank you for tending in for a new episode that
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  Speaker 1: we talked back at your girl AJ holiday.
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  Speaker 4: What's up?
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  Speaker 2: Ten Damn y'all is big tan band. I love y'all
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  Speaker 2: so so so very much and I missed y'all. Thank
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  Speaker 2: you all for coming back. How was your weekend? AJ?
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  Speaker 2: What weekend? Okay?
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  Speaker 1: Because I literally had a day and a half to
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  Speaker 1: myself yesterday. I'm last week Okay, that's all I had.
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  Speaker 1: Excuse me, A half a day, not a day and
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  Speaker 1: a half because we were working. What do you mean
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  Speaker 1: you wasn't working this past weekend because I was.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, that was one day.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, but the weekend is only consisted of two days, right,
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  Speaker 1: So I worked Saturday and half a Sunday.
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  Speaker 3: So yeah, I had half a day off last week.
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  Speaker 2: I guess I work every weekend, so it don't feel
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  Speaker 2: no different for me.
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  Speaker 1: Shit, bitch, I been needing a day to decompress, a
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  Speaker 1: full day to decompressed. I didn't get it, So yeah,
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  Speaker 1: I did get rolled by a hag Sunday night and
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  Speaker 1: my fucking air condition went out.
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  Speaker 2: That was very weird.
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  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, I said some mean shit about somebody before
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  Speaker 1: I went to sleep, So I'm like, damn they Mama
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  Speaker 1: probably can't even fucked with me.
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  Speaker 2: I had an interesting dream last night as well. I
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  Speaker 2: think I'm really healing. Like I had a dream that
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  Speaker 2: my current self was going back to my childhood self,
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  Speaker 2: and like during moments that I remember of like some
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  Speaker 2: type of trauma, I was telling my childhood self that
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  Speaker 2: I was never going to leave her and that she
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  Speaker 2: is okay. And I remember literally picking my childhood self
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  Speaker 2: up and hugging her hmm. In different situations like I
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  Speaker 2: was in the window looking like waiting on my daddy,
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  Speaker 2: and I came and got myself out of the window
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  Speaker 2: and I was like, come here, I got you. I'm
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  Speaker 2: never Ain't that crazy? Yes?
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  Speaker 1: And that makes me want to cry a little bit
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  Speaker 1: because that is the one thing I can remember about
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  Speaker 1: my fucking daddy is leaving me yep, and waiting for
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  Speaker 1: him at the window, looking at him.
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  Speaker 2: Leave, wait, waiting for him to come.
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  Speaker 1: Oh, I'm watching my daddy pull off when he said
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  Speaker 1: I can go with him.
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  Speaker 2: So I think that was. I was like, am I
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  Speaker 2: healing myself subconsciously? Am I sleep?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: I mean that's when we do our most work for real,
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  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. Like, really, that's when you're awake.
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  Speaker 1: This life right here. It's like a little simulation sometimes
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  Speaker 1: when I'm driving out of highway and like the sky
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  Speaker 1: looks like super clear and super beautiful, I really be
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  Speaker 1: feeling like I'm in a droom show. I'm just riding
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  Speaker 1: and and somebody's like somewhere controlling the button manipulating me.
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  Speaker 1: For real, I'm just like present but not present, you
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  Speaker 1: know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: So, yeah, you ever driven home and then got home
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  Speaker 2: and like I don't remember none of.
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  Speaker 1: The ride all the time, bitch driving a fucking Charlotte
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  Speaker 1: on Saturday.
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  Speaker 3: I don't know how I got there, but I just appeared.
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  Speaker 1: It had me down on the phone all type of
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  Speaker 1: shit mixed up and just I don't know, Thank you God.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you God. That's what i'd be like, because I
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  Speaker 2: don't know how I made it here. I don't remember
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  Speaker 2: playing attention to a lick of that ride. Thank you God.
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  Speaker 2: That's all you can say.
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  Speaker 1: Man, you gets you where you're going as safely even
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  Speaker 1: when your ass ain't paying no attention.
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  Speaker 3: Chib me and my weekend was a bunch of Oh.
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  Speaker 3: I did go out Sunday.
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  Speaker 2: I did go out to eat and stuff with my
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  Speaker 2: my nieces in town.
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  Speaker 3: That's always nice, Aaron. I love Lendy so much.
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  Speaker 1: He's very She's a She's a scorpio though, so she
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  Speaker 1: not always No bit will strike your eyes, okay, but
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  Speaker 1: for the most part, my nieces and nephew are some
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  Speaker 1: good people.
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  Speaker 2: Amen to that. Let's get in the sins.
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  Speaker 3: You got going on a child.
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  Speaker 2: The fertility rate in the US dropped to an all
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  Speaker 2: time low in twenty twenty four, were less than one
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  Speaker 2: point six kids per woman, new federal data shows. It
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  Speaker 2: says the decline might be driven by women delaying or
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  Speaker 2: foregoing childbirth due to economic concerns, later marriages, and inadequate
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  Speaker 2: support like parental leave and affordable childcare. Historically, the rate
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  Speaker 2: was around three point five. In the nineteen sixties, they
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  Speaker 2: was busting the wide open and having and then peaked
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  Speaker 2: at replacement level two point one in two thousand and
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  Speaker 2: seven and now aligns with Western europe countries. European countries,
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  Speaker 2: so despite an increasing one percent increase in total births
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  Speaker 2: I used to client for most age groups with adjustments.
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  Speaker 2: Attribute it to updated since his population estimates estimates incorporating immigration.
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  Speaker 2: So yeah, bites is not having babies like they used to.
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  Speaker 2: Not in America anyway, Why you skip that last part?
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  Speaker 2: Oh you wanted me to go into that. Yeah, go
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  Speaker 2: into that. It's very important and Troup administration has promoted
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  Speaker 2: measures like expanded ivfxs and baby bonuses to boost rates,
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  Speaker 2: but experts like Leslie Root and Karen Does all argue
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  Speaker 2: there's no cause for alarms you and it is a
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  Speaker 2: fertility delay amid ongoing population growth and criticize the policies
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  Speaker 2: that's symbolic rather than addressing core needs.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, So as somebody who will probably have to do
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  Speaker 1: in vuture, like no doctor has said I can't conceive naturally,
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  Speaker 1: but I have one tube, right, so the safest way
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  Speaker 1: probably for me to conceive would be via en vitro.
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  Speaker 3: My old job. The deductible least be one hundred dollars.
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  Speaker 2: That's it.
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  Speaker 1: There are more women having fertility issues than waiting to
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  Speaker 1: have a baby, I believe, and I think there's a
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  Speaker 1: lot of changes that happened in the last decade in America.
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  Speaker 1: That's probably causing more women not to be able to conceive,
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  Speaker 1: because how many women do you know having problems getting pregnant?
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  Speaker 2: Uh, honestly, not that many. I don't know. I don't
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  Speaker 2: know know many that many people that are trying to
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  Speaker 2: get pregnant right now. My peers have had their motherfucking kids.
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  Speaker 3: I still had a couple homegirls and no kids, you
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  Speaker 3: know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 2: Most of the ones that don't have kids either lying
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  Speaker 2: about not wanting them or don't want them. You know.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, a couple a couple of my friends like don't
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  Speaker 1: want kids, but for the most part, like they might
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  Speaker 1: be delaying, you know, because of course you want to
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  Speaker 1: get your husband first.
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  Speaker 3: But I mean you started some years start passing by,
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  Speaker 3: like what we're doing.
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  Speaker 1: So I do have a couple of friends who froz
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  Speaker 1: their eggs, so they that's really not fertility issues. Actually,
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  Speaker 1: one she had she was like peri menopausal, so she
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  Speaker 1: froze her eggs, but she ended up conceiving, Okay, naturally,
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  Speaker 1: no problem. So I think there's a lot of there's
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  Speaker 1: a lot more things that's contributing to the decline in
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  Speaker 1: the birth rate. So now they want to pay people,
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  Speaker 1: like in China and shit like that. They be trying
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  Speaker 1: to pay people now to have babies, when all before
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  Speaker 1: they were like putting a like a caught off many
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  Speaker 1: how many how many kids a family could have. So
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  Speaker 1: maybe they're about to start doing that in America. If
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  Speaker 1: y'all ever traveled through Middle America, like just driven like
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  Speaker 1: from the east to the west coast.
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  Speaker 4: It's a lot.
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  Speaker 1: Like most people only live on the outside of the country.
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  Speaker 3: We are not overpopulated.
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  Speaker 1: It's like concentrated areas, right, the major cities that are
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  Speaker 1: overcrowded with a bunch of people.
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  Speaker 3: Like we're all living in one area, right.
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  Speaker 1: But if you want to get some land and build
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  Speaker 1: some shit in Montana somewhere, you can have a.
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  Speaker 2: Whole and you can count to yourself. Yeah, a whole lot. Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: So some black families like on ig like Brian laying
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  Speaker 2: out there and putting big gas homes on it.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, I want to do that, you know, because I
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  Speaker 1: do not aspire to you know how people be like,
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  Speaker 1: oh my kids, my kids go to a white school.
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  Speaker 1: We live in an all white neighborhood. I don't have black neighbors.
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  Speaker 1: That is not what I aspired to have. Okay, yes,
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  Speaker 1: I would love to live in a neighborhood with a
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  Speaker 1: bunch of black people, affluent flant families with money and.
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  Speaker 2: Me being someone who went to school and was in
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  Speaker 2: classes with only white students. It is not good. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: it's not a flex no shape to white people like
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  Speaker 2: they're cool or whatever. But we don't have nobody that
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  Speaker 2: look like you in class. You get alienated. So yeah,
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  Speaker 2: y'all know, I believe in social engineering. Okay.
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  Speaker 1: I feel like everything is always like trying to like
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  Speaker 1: everything is always Everything in life is marketing, right, this
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  Speaker 1: was marketing. We got ads running through it. TV is marketing.
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  Speaker 1: You get like what fifteen minutes of TV and how
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  Speaker 1: many minutes of commercials? So when everybody starts doing something,
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  Speaker 1: I'm going right when everybody else is going left.
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  Speaker 2: That fucking t app that just.
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  Speaker 1: Came out that when viral that all the podcasts are
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  Speaker 1: talking about is just all on social media, just all
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  Speaker 1: of a sudden, Like, who don't.
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  Speaker 3: Y'all to talk about this?
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  Speaker 1: See, people got to be conscious of like are you
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  Speaker 1: doing this because you want to? So now we're talking
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  Speaker 1: about on the back end. Now this is the bad
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  Speaker 1: part of this app. So apparently the t app was
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  Speaker 1: recently hacked after going viral exposing seventy two thousand, seventy
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  Speaker 1: two thousand user photos. So the t app designed to
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  Speaker 1: help women spot red flag men and catch cheaters hasn't hacked.
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  Speaker 1: After going viral this week, the app announced it had
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  Speaker 1: discovered unauthorized access to archive data system, and a statement
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  Speaker 1: on social media Friday, the data system held an estimated
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  Speaker 1: seventy two thousand.
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  Speaker 2: Why am I.
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  Speaker 1: Adding the number with user Seventy two thousand users submitted images,
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  Speaker 1: including thirteen thousand image images of selfie, some of which
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  Speaker 1: included photo IDs submitted during account verification. In addition, fifty
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  Speaker 1: nine thousand images publicly viewable in the app from posts, comments,
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  Speaker 1: and direct messages from other two years excuse me, from
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  Speaker 1: over two years we're also accessed.
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  Speaker 3: So this app ain't even that old. But anyway, major marketing, I.
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  Speaker 2: Know my selfie of them you signed up for this app. Well,
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  Speaker 2: I didn't make it that far. I just did this
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  Speaker 2: selfie portion, uh huh, And that was as far as
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  Speaker 2: I got. So here's the thing. I saw this ugly
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  Speaker 2: They was like, nobody will see this selfie. That's what
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  Speaker 2: they said in that shit like looking like this, This
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  Speaker 2: is not a cute selfie.
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  Speaker 3: Now you're selfie about to be on an ai acount.
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  Speaker 1: Right, Okay, so yeah, the app got hacked, so now
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  Speaker 1: it's a whole hot mess.
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  Speaker 4: Right.
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  Speaker 1: But then I also saw this other Instagram user. She
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  Speaker 1: put a post up and she was saying, y'all bitches, y'all.
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  Speaker 2: Women better be glad that men.
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  Speaker 1: Now.
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  Speaker 3: I don't believe that men aren't chatty patties.
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  Speaker 1: I actually believe men probably talk shit about women even
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  Speaker 1: more like you know, amongst themselves, amongst their peers. But
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  Speaker 1: imagine if men were to have an app talking about
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  Speaker 1: who all they don't smash? What red flags you got,
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  Speaker 1: what your bathroom look like, what that microwave look like? Right,
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  Speaker 1: putting your picture up for other men to comment and
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  Speaker 1: add on to your body count essentially like y'all bitches
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  Speaker 1: would commit suicide.
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  Speaker 2: The app would fail.
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  Speaker 5: No, y'all would kill y'allselves. If people really know.
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  Speaker 1: I always used to say, man, if my dog or
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  Speaker 1: my cat could talk bitch, okay, that is what this
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  Speaker 1: would be.
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  Speaker 2: Equivalent.
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  Speaker 1: Toss should be like, she's holped me out. I saw
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  Speaker 1: that god Belly used to be like bitch at me,
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  Speaker 1: like pitch, what the fuck is my water? But yeah,
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  Speaker 1: y'all were really like I feel like a lot of people,
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  Speaker 1: a lot of women would literally die. I don't think
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  Speaker 1: we can handle the ship we'd be putting men through.
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  Speaker 1: We already can't handle like criticism, and we can't handle
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  Speaker 1: the truth a lot.
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  Speaker 2: That's why I've never go on that park to balloon shit.
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  Speaker 2: I would never go on those like that.
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  Speaker 1: Me neither me neither that shit is. I don't know,
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  Speaker 1: it's just I got some other things about that. Have
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  Speaker 1: you watched it on Netflix yet?
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  Speaker 2: I hadn't.
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  Speaker 1: I tried it, Yeah, because it's different right on Netflix,
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  Speaker 1: That's what I heard. Yeah, Yeah, I don't think women
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  Speaker 1: can deal with rejection.
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  Speaker 2: Well you know what I'm saying.
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  Speaker 1: We're not used to getting rejected at least a man
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  Speaker 1: want to at least have sex with you, a nigga,
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  Speaker 1: turn your pussy down, like, oh my god.
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  Speaker 3: The world is about the end, right, And that's.
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  Speaker 2: Because we're not typically the ones who are doing the approaching,
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  Speaker 2: you know, mm hmm. That's why we don't have to
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  Speaker 2: be rejected as much. We don't do it publicly.
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  Speaker 1: Bitch is definitely be hopping them in's inboxes because some
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  Speaker 1: of my friends be showing me the messages of women
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  Speaker 1: that you know be in the inbox, and I definitely.
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  Speaker 2: Be sneaking to meek coffee. Are you married? Do you
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  Speaker 2: like coffee?
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  Speaker 1: And the same way like you might never respond to
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  Speaker 1: a guy and he can like stays in your DM.
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  Speaker 1: Women be doing that same shit.
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  Speaker 2: Right and if they don't say nothing back, I'll be like, Okay,
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  Speaker 2: well he's gay.
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  Speaker 1: So next obviously, so y'all better stop partaking in that bullshit.
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  Speaker 2: Man.
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  Speaker 1: If y'all don't want these men to come up with
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  Speaker 1: some shit on us, man, because listen, lord, listen, here's
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  Speaker 1: the thing.
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  Speaker 2: What could they really I think about that, And I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: what could they really say.
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  Speaker 1: If one hundred two hundred three hundred men posts they
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  Speaker 1: smash because some women out here got that type of
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  Speaker 1: body that kind of BodyCount, Some women got that type
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  Speaker 1: of body body count, and they on this app like,
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  Speaker 1: men ain't shit, not the same. You ain't shit just
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  Speaker 1: because you got a high body count. That's not what
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  Speaker 1: I'm saying. But I mean, like, you know, you leave it.
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  Speaker 1: It is open for judgment.
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  Speaker 2: Okay. The niggas that come on like if they could
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  Speaker 2: just tap and say I hit two, it's gonna be
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  Speaker 2: niggas who lie in. I definitely got bodies I.
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  Speaker 1: Never got right, like who who? Yeah, So I don't know, y'all,
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  Speaker 1: Bett be careful, be careful. We all exposing these guys
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  Speaker 1: man karma.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, but sometimes these niggas be need exposing. Sometimes I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: I'm not talking about like guys who are just out
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  Speaker 2: here they and and having their way, you know, which
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  Speaker 2: is mad. I'm talking about like real life predators.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 2: But then you know, I said this one thing I
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  Speaker 2: saw home. I seen this one thing where this nigga
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  Speaker 2: was going on a date with a girl. She picked
• 15:07
  Speaker 2: him up from his apartment complex, and he said, can
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  Speaker 2: we run by McDonald's and get my mom and brothers
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  Speaker 2: some food real quid before we go. So they went
• 15:16
  Speaker 2: to McDonald's and ordered the food, and then he was like,
• 15:19
  Speaker 2: oh shit, I looked at the wilder in the house.
• 15:21
  Speaker 2: So she paid for it right. He took her back
• 15:24
  Speaker 2: to the apartment to drop it off, and he never
• 15:26
  Speaker 2: came back downstairs and blocked their phone number. Apparently he
• 15:30
  Speaker 2: was getting his baby mama and son food from the
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  Speaker 2: McDonald's and used her they was broke. Damn. Niggas be predators.
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  Speaker 1: Women do that too. Women be predators. Women are apex predators. Okay,
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  Speaker 1: let's be clear, and we want to get your ass
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  Speaker 1: up out of here.
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  Speaker 2: We're gonna do whatever we gotta do too. Yeah, so
• 15:52
  Speaker 2: we not gonna act.
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  Speaker 1: Like women don't be using men for food, Like women
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  Speaker 1: literally have niggas name programmed in their phone as a
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  Speaker 1: restaurant Applebee's whatever, Apple, that's nasty Bees. Yeah, so we're
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  Speaker 1: not gonna act like women don't do that type of
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  Speaker 1: scammy ship. And guess and guess what's not happening. A
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  Speaker 1: man is not putting them on the app about it.
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  Speaker 2: They just move on.
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  Speaker 1: They might not ever say your name, they may talk
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  Speaker 1: about the story, but they not exposing you in the
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  Speaker 1: way that women be exposing men.
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  Speaker 3: I just don't think it's cool.
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  Speaker 1: And then the predatorial thing, like I understand that, right,
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  Speaker 1: But then I also don't believe every woman that's involved
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  Speaker 1: in a me too movement because you see what's happening now,
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  Speaker 1: like women lie, We act like women don't lie. Women
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  Speaker 1: are not always on honest, no, no, because she's still
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  Speaker 1: just a person, you know. Yeah, And let's not like
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  Speaker 1: we don't have lion deceitful ass female friends. Like we
• 16:48
  Speaker 1: know the type of shit some of our friends be doing.
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  Speaker 1: Why try not associate myself if somebody super like Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: because when is my it is my turn coming out?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah? So all right, so it says here Lakers DeAndre eighton,
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  Speaker 2: I think that's how you said. Accused of stranded ig
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  Speaker 2: model in Turks and k COO's after she refused to
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  Speaker 2: sleep with him. So this girl came to Turks and
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  Speaker 2: k Co's, uh, and when she wouldn't give them nine,
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  Speaker 2: she got left and she was stranded there.
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  Speaker 3: How are you stranded? Did you not have any money?
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  Speaker 2: Did you not listen to flute out one oh one? Girlfriend?
• 17:30
  Speaker 2: You need to go back to season one. Baby girl,
• 17:33
  Speaker 2: we taught you what to do when getting flewed out,
• 17:35
  Speaker 2: because you're never stranded. If you got money and exactly
• 17:39
  Speaker 2: got no money, you should not go nowhere. Your mama
• 17:41
  Speaker 2: should have taught you that. Yeah.
• 17:43
  Speaker 1: I wonder if this is the person in the image,
• 17:46
  Speaker 1: because you know, sometimes they just be putting people. I mean,
• 17:49
  Speaker 1: why they give her name his name but not hers? Right,
• 17:54
  Speaker 1: I don't be I don't always be like going with
• 17:56
  Speaker 1: the illustration so because I know they'll use rand the
• 18:00
  Speaker 1: mask people.
• 18:00
  Speaker 2: Well, I don't seen a couple of different illustrations that
• 18:04
  Speaker 2: look like the same female.
• 18:06
  Speaker 1: Okay, well, I mean you ain't never stranded or maybe
• 18:09
  Speaker 1: just she just it's just maybe semantics. I don't know,
• 18:12
  Speaker 1: but yeah, you ain't never stranded. If you got money,
• 18:14
  Speaker 1: like I would enjoy my vacation, I'll go get me
• 18:16
  Speaker 1: a resort and be chilling. Yeah, and you fuck running
• 18:20
  Speaker 1: meet somebody you actually like, because I don't.
• 18:22
  Speaker 3: I really don't feel.
• 18:23
  Speaker 1: Like women fly out with no intention intention on having sex.
• 18:27
  Speaker 1: Something happens and it turns the pussy off, right, and
• 18:31
  Speaker 1: now you're not getting nothing because I'm not back.
• 18:33
  Speaker 2: To But that don't mean you're gonna get it just
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: because you bought a plane ticket, right, it's the vibe envibent.
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: I'm not gonna have sex with you, period exactly, and
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: I wouldn't give Yeah, yeah, don't be going flying out nowhere.
• 18:49
  Speaker 1: First of all, if you don't want to smash, I
• 18:51
  Speaker 1: feel like you should stay Yeah.
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: If you know that you come in and you leaving
• 18:55
  Speaker 2: your pussy at home, you should stay home too, Yes,
• 18:59
  Speaker 2: because what are you doing? Because you you gotta know
• 19:01
  Speaker 2: that that's childish flying you out because he wants y'all probably.
• 19:04
  Speaker 3: Don't talk about smashing everything else.
• 19:06
  Speaker 1: Like girl, if I do that ship, bitch, it's on
• 19:09
  Speaker 1: the fucking pop as soon as I see your ass.
• 19:11
  Speaker 2: Okay, what are we doing?
• 19:13
  Speaker 1: No, I al I need to eat first, But antake
• 19:18
  Speaker 1: a shadow like, bitch, you didn't even get to wash
• 19:24
  Speaker 1: it this nigga, Like what's some niggas like that?
• 19:26
  Speaker 2: But I know I've seen some stories.
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: But yeah, stay your ass at the house or have
• 19:32
  Speaker 1: some fucking money alway, any options.
• 19:36
  Speaker 2: Always even if you bring your coachine, you know you're
• 19:40
  Speaker 2: gonna pop it open and that's your currency. Still have
• 19:42
  Speaker 2: some money, bitch, like you should never go nowhere talking
• 19:45
  Speaker 2: about I'm stranded. I don't see this too many times.
• 19:50
  Speaker 3: And that's whack of a man.
• 19:52
  Speaker 1: I've went, I've been food out right, and then you
• 19:57
  Speaker 1: know the guy is like, you know, we don't He
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: was after we don't have sex, right, I mean, if
• 20:04
  Speaker 1: we didn't have sex, it would have been okay. But
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: I mean that's in retrospect at that point. You seeing
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: that shit after the fact. But I'm not going to
• 20:12
  Speaker 1: place in not smashing. I'm just not if I'm not
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: comfortable with you not yes again you could say some
• 20:17
  Speaker 1: shit do some shit in it.
• 20:19
  Speaker 2: And like in my twenties, I went to La to
• 20:21
  Speaker 2: see this guy I knew very well. We went to
• 20:23
  Speaker 2: this we went to church together, like we grew up
• 20:25
  Speaker 2: in the same church. You know. So I've known this
• 20:29
  Speaker 2: man my entire childhood in life, and I was playing
• 20:33
  Speaker 2: ball overseas he was now in La. He asked me
• 20:36
  Speaker 2: to come to La. We were having a good time,
• 20:40
  Speaker 2: was talking about, you know, our childhood, the church family,
• 20:45
  Speaker 2: who was doing what, and then like we went to
• 20:48
  Speaker 2: a nice dinner and then that night he was trying to,
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: you know, take it to the next level sexually, but
• 20:54
  Speaker 2: he did not want to use a condom and I
• 20:58
  Speaker 2: was like, no, I'm not with that, like I'm ever
• 21:01
  Speaker 2: believer of using protection. And he did. He got mad
• 21:07
  Speaker 2: and said he ain't want to do it if he
• 21:08
  Speaker 2: had THEO.
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: No, that's that's absolutely happened to me before from a friend,
• 21:14
  Speaker 1: like somebody I have been in school with from middle
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: school on up. Absolutely, And he said what I said,
• 21:21
  Speaker 1: don't know, fucking you wrong. He was like, I know,
• 21:24
  Speaker 1: let me phrase it properly. He said, I know what,
• 21:30
  Speaker 1: I know what the what the bitches be doing that
• 21:33
  Speaker 1: I fuck with or some shit like that? What you
• 21:38
  Speaker 1: fucking somebody else? What makes you think they're not fucking
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: somebody else? You think you got my control over Debo?
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying?
• 21:45
  Speaker 1: Yeah, you think you got my control over these women
• 21:48
  Speaker 1: that I'm supposed to trust that you know what they're
• 21:50
  Speaker 1: doing to stow add my Kucie to the sis, bob Stick.
• 21:53
  Speaker 2: Absolutely fucking not.
• 21:55
  Speaker 3: No men are retarded.
• 21:58
  Speaker 2: That's in my twenties. Why he was awesome, Why you
• 22:01
  Speaker 2: need to use a condom? You got something? Are you retarded? Yes?
• 22:08
  Speaker 2: You are? I use that word every episode. I gotta stop.
• 22:11
  Speaker 2: I'm sorry.
• 22:12
  Speaker 3: Why that is retardation?
• 22:13
  Speaker 2: Because what that don't make no sense? Like that's your logic.
• 22:18
  Speaker 2: That is scary logic.
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: Because if he's using that logic with you, the other
• 22:22
  Speaker 1: people he's smashing without a condom, he's also then well,
• 22:25
  Speaker 1: if you got to use a condom, that mean you
• 22:26
  Speaker 1: got something. I don't got to use no cordom, I
• 22:28
  Speaker 1: don't got nothing.
• 22:30
  Speaker 2: What what? And probably ain't got tested cheating until you do,
• 22:36
  Speaker 2: but it won't be me. So he was and listening.
• 22:40
  Speaker 2: He thought like he thought it was a flex to
• 22:42
  Speaker 2: like all right, got mad, got up the next morning
• 22:45
  Speaker 2: and left and was gone for a long time. I
• 22:48
  Speaker 2: know people in LA and I got fuck you money baby.
• 22:51
  Speaker 2: I was out of there when he pulled up. It
• 22:53
  Speaker 2: was a g wagon, pulled it up with sitting me
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: away from there with your scarfrap Ryan next na same.
• 23:09
  Speaker 1: That's how you gotta treat her, man, because who you're
• 23:11
  Speaker 1: playing with, right, it's getting.
• 23:13
  Speaker 2: Rough by him. Man.
• 23:13
  Speaker 1: Some of these dudes are lame okay, and they just
• 23:16
  Speaker 1: happen to get some money.
• 23:18
  Speaker 2: Mm hmm.
• 23:19
  Speaker 1: Right, so they think that, you know, because they have
• 23:21
  Speaker 1: this money now, everything else is supposed to just come easy.
• 23:24
  Speaker 1: And then when you don't is and then you're the
• 23:27
  Speaker 1: ig model with the fat ass. I'm sure he ran like, oh,
• 23:30
  Speaker 1: I know she going right, especially if she gets fluid
• 23:33
  Speaker 1: out often she still gets to picka choose so she
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: want to smash right, but she.
• 23:38
  Speaker 2: She definitely can't. First of all, I would have never
• 23:43
  Speaker 2: I would never told the world this story that anybody
• 23:46
  Speaker 2: stranded me anywhere.
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I would not have. But you know they want
• 23:50
  Speaker 1: the cloud. Yeah, girls be lame to.
• 23:53
  Speaker 2: I keep saying that you want to notice the story
• 23:57
  Speaker 2: is the salvation army, baby, please help me get hold.
• 24:04
  Speaker 1: I'm gonna tell a story, but I ain't telling names,
• 24:06
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like I feel like that's
• 24:08
  Speaker 1: why I'm never just trying to expose people.
• 24:10
  Speaker 2: Man, I ain't never tell nobody I'm stranded nowhere. That's
• 24:16
  Speaker 2: one of the things that's going down with me. Maybe
• 24:18
  Speaker 2: my best friend in the sound she.
• 24:20
  Speaker 1: Just felt stranded because the person she came here to
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: be with just left her.
• 24:23
  Speaker 2: So that is like maybe it wasn't financially stranded.
• 24:26
  Speaker 1: Maybe just yeah, yeah, because like say, for instance, somebody
• 24:30
  Speaker 1: tell you to get out their car. Of course you
• 24:31
  Speaker 1: got the uber app right, That is still leaving you
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: stranded though, yea, even though you can get to where
• 24:37
  Speaker 1: you're going, Like they left.
• 24:38
  Speaker 2: Me for dead, like Mama, yeah, you left me.
• 24:44
  Speaker 3: So maybe maybe she had a couple of dollars. I
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: don't know, but y'all, y'all young girls, do not leave
• 24:48
  Speaker 3: y'all fucking house with.
• 24:50
  Speaker 2: No money ever, any draws and money in your pocket.
• 24:56
  Speaker 2: You never know what's gonna happen.
• 24:58
  Speaker 1: And Mama always told me that even know what's gonna happen,
• 25:01
  Speaker 1: make sure I don't wear draws in this age.
• 25:03
  Speaker 2: So anyway, I.
• 25:05
  Speaker 3: Gotta work by that. I wear a by no holy draws.
• 25:11
  Speaker 1: But make sure you got some motherfucking money in your
• 25:13
  Speaker 1: pocket or somebody who got some money who don't mind
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: those sending who don't mind sending it to you something.
• 25:18
  Speaker 2: You gotta have some type of means life.
• 25:22
  Speaker 1: Right, all right, y'all, So let's get into this week's episode.
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: We have a lovely guest when we talked back this week.
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: Her name is Vanity Where, and she is a super
• 25:34
  Speaker 1: tech girly and she is going to give us a
• 25:36
  Speaker 1: little bit little tidbits on you know, black women in tech,
• 25:42
  Speaker 1: how do you get in tech? What adore your life?
• 25:46
  Speaker 1: Is also like a little movement she has going as well,
• 25:51
  Speaker 1: So y'all stay tuned.
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: All right, y'all. So y'all know everything is tech and with.
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: The rise of AI. Right, So today's guest is essential
• 26:07
  Speaker 1: if you're in a job market. Why are you smelling
• 26:09
  Speaker 1: that crazy? We have Vanity Where on we talked back
• 26:15
  Speaker 1: this week, and she's a certified life and business coach
• 26:19
  Speaker 1: with over thirteen years of experience in tech and she's
• 26:22
  Speaker 1: helping people all over the country land high paying tech roles,
• 26:25
  Speaker 1: secure global contracts and shift their mindset to align with
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: their purpose. All right, so welcome to adore your life.
• 26:33
  Speaker 2: Yes, yes, absolutely, thank you for coming on. I'm excited listen,
• 26:41
  Speaker 2: and I'm so proud of you.
• 26:42
  Speaker 4: Thank you.
• 26:43
  Speaker 2: Oh y'all know each other?
• 26:44
  Speaker 3: Yeah, oh.
• 26:48
  Speaker 2: I'm not since I got to Charlotte.
• 26:50
  Speaker 6: So literally a very long time. Oh hey girl become
• 26:54
  Speaker 6: a mother and yeah literally.
• 26:58
  Speaker 2: So let didn't know about tech because y'all her Instagram.
• 27:01
  Speaker 2: It's all right, So you're so funny on there, like
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: you make tech funny and I always think of tech
• 27:07
  Speaker 2: as some born as nerdy shit low key, right, I
• 27:10
  Speaker 2: mean it is, but but you make it cool and
• 27:13
  Speaker 2: you make it funny and you make it interesting. And
• 27:16
  Speaker 2: one of my friends reached out to you. All right,
• 27:18
  Speaker 2: this is all right, this is kind off topic, but
• 27:20
  Speaker 2: a little bit about a scrum master.
• 27:23
  Speaker 4: What is that?
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: Because yeah, that sounds like something filthy? What dad?
• 27:28
  Speaker 6: Because the scrum card I see, I see where your
• 27:30
  Speaker 6: head is going. There, I see where your head is going.
• 27:33
  Speaker 6: But a scrum master is basically just a person who
• 27:36
  Speaker 6: is kind of like a business a project manager. They
• 27:41
  Speaker 6: kind of the person who just make sure the company
• 27:45
  Speaker 6: is agile.
• 27:46
  Speaker 4: They make sure the company can really.
• 27:48
  Speaker 6: Flow together and really like accomplish their goals, whatever the
• 27:52
  Speaker 6: business goals are.
• 27:52
  Speaker 2: So there's no filter involved. No, I mean, well you
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: can tell topic. It's gonna tell abate that.
• 27:58
  Speaker 4: Hell all right, I'm not.
• 28:04
  Speaker 2: Part yeah the name, like, how did they come up
• 28:07
  Speaker 2: with that? You know? That's what you refer like? Girl.
• 28:11
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  Speaker 2: them out, all right? So let's talk healing in high places.
• 29:08
  Speaker 2: All right, So let me see what I got here.
• 29:11
  Speaker 2: How black women in corporate tech navigate burnout. So let's
• 29:16
  Speaker 2: talk about burnout and what that looks like, especially for
• 29:18
  Speaker 2: black women.
• 29:20
  Speaker 6: Well for me because I can really only talk for me,
• 29:23
  Speaker 6: you know, but for me, burnout is just like when
• 29:25
  Speaker 6: I'm feeling like overstimulated and I really want to crash out,
• 29:29
  Speaker 6: you know, like I just don't. I don't want to
• 29:32
  Speaker 6: get to a point where it's like I'm feeling depressed,
• 29:34
  Speaker 6: but I kind of just feel like, you know, I
• 29:37
  Speaker 6: just want to go in my room.
• 29:38
  Speaker 4: I don't want to be bothered.
• 29:39
  Speaker 6: And with having a kid or a daughter, that's just
• 29:42
  Speaker 6: you can't really burn out exactly.
• 29:44
  Speaker 1: It's like they know when you need a break and
• 29:46
  Speaker 1: they come talking right right.
• 29:49
  Speaker 4: Yeah. So I'm like, we can't allow ourself to do that.
• 29:52
  Speaker 2: So in the tech world, how would you encourage like
• 29:57
  Speaker 2: tech girlies to navigate that environment? Like what some ways
• 30:00
  Speaker 2: that they can navigate burnout?
• 30:02
  Speaker 6: So some ways that they can navigate burnout is for me,
• 30:05
  Speaker 6: it's doing like affirmations first.
• 30:07
  Speaker 4: I know people be like information is so cliche, but no.
• 30:10
  Speaker 6: It really works because like for me, I'm the only
• 30:12
  Speaker 6: black person, a black woman, and almost we just hired
• 30:16
  Speaker 6: a new black man last week. So like I'm the
• 30:19
  Speaker 6: only black woman in the room, and you kind of
• 30:21
  Speaker 6: feel like you have to shrink yourself. And so those
• 30:24
  Speaker 6: affirmations like I should be in this room right, it
• 30:27
  Speaker 6: needs to be heard. Those are the affirmations that you
• 30:31
  Speaker 6: kind of want to say to yourself. So you don't
• 30:32
  Speaker 6: start that shrinking yourself, Like you don't.
• 30:34
  Speaker 3: Start overthinks like imposter syndrome and stuff like that.
• 30:37
  Speaker 4: Start overthinking like should I get braids?
• 30:39
  Speaker 1: Like no, for real, because unfortunately, it is a uniform
• 30:48
  Speaker 1: in the corporate world, you know what I'm saying. Like
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: I think it's changing though, because you got the white
• 30:52
  Speaker 1: boys who come in with sleeves up, whole sleeve tattoos.
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: So we're in the corporate setting now like our generation
• 30:58
  Speaker 1: all right, the millennial.
• 30:59
  Speaker 2: Linials, not so many boomers exactly.
• 31:03
  Speaker 3: That's changing.
• 31:04
  Speaker 4: Yeah, it's changing.
• 31:05
  Speaker 6: So like I would just say, make sure you're seeing
• 31:07
  Speaker 6: your affirmations and making sure that you build community. So
• 31:10
  Speaker 6: that's like therapy, gone outside, getting outside. I don't care
• 31:14
  Speaker 6: if you got to me and still get outside, you know,
• 31:16
  Speaker 6: build that community or make that safe place for yourself.
• 31:20
  Speaker 6: But it's just being at home, dancing, doing your thing.
• 31:24
  Speaker 6: Just build community and go to therapy. I really and
• 31:27
  Speaker 6: going to therapy.
• 31:29
  Speaker 4: And let's talk about that.
• 31:31
  Speaker 3: Yeah, therapy is definitely is important.
• 31:33
  Speaker 1: And I just think that I think women Black women
• 31:36
  Speaker 1: in particular, we do therapy.
• 31:39
  Speaker 3: You know what I'm saying. If it's just congregating with
• 31:41
  Speaker 3: each other and talking through our shit.
• 31:42
  Speaker 1: That's right, We at least talk, right, So, yeah, it's
• 31:45
  Speaker 1: absolutely important in every facet, every sect.
• 31:48
  Speaker 2: Of your life.
• 31:50
  Speaker 1: What about cold switching, cold switching and tech and corporate, Like,
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: how do you navigate that and then still stay you know,
• 31:59
  Speaker 1: authentic to yourself because I've always prided myself on just
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: it's just easy to be yourself. Yeah, So in any setting,
• 32:06
  Speaker 1: any job I ever had, as soon as I walk.
• 32:08
  Speaker 3: In the doors, here comes trouble because me and setting.
• 32:12
  Speaker 6: Well, I feel like I don't really necessarily believe in
• 32:16
  Speaker 6: cold sweets. I believe in literally being yourself because you
• 32:20
  Speaker 6: can only kind of keep that up for certain exhausting
• 32:24
  Speaker 6: then eventually you're gonna start like breaking through, Like you're
• 32:27
  Speaker 6: gonna start being your real self. That's like when you're
• 32:29
  Speaker 6: in a relationship with a man, and he code switched
• 32:31
  Speaker 6: for the.
• 32:32
  Speaker 3: First that representative, that representative was there.
• 32:36
  Speaker 4: It is just the same experience in text.
• 32:38
  Speaker 6: So I really believe that you should just be yourself,
• 32:40
  Speaker 6: like going there being yourself. I mean, if you want
• 32:43
  Speaker 6: to like fancy up the way you talk a little
• 32:45
  Speaker 6: bit more, you know, sound a little bit more professional,
• 32:48
  Speaker 6: you can do that, but like, again, how long are
• 32:51
  Speaker 6: you gonna do that?
• 32:52
  Speaker 3: Cause that gets you gonna come out you get frustrated, right.
• 32:57
  Speaker 4: Like, yeah, I see a lot of women that do that,
• 33:01
  Speaker 4: you know, they're like.
• 33:02
  Speaker 2: I'm like, it almost comes as second nature after some time,
• 33:07
  Speaker 2: Like being in these environments, I'd be like, I find
• 33:09
  Speaker 2: myself saying, you bet you. I don't girl in real life, But.
• 33:16
  Speaker 3: Where did that?
• 33:16
  Speaker 2: Where did that come from?
• 33:18
  Speaker 4: Your grandmama?
• 33:23
  Speaker 2: You bet you?
• 33:24
  Speaker 4: You bet your grandma?
• 33:28
  Speaker 2: We're just trying to stay up. She was half white.
• 33:30
  Speaker 4: I'm here, you're not what I'm picking up on? What
• 33:35
  Speaker 4: you learn? You bet you got it.
• 33:39
  Speaker 2: But it's just like you know, like you code switched on.
• 33:43
  Speaker 2: It's not even on purpose. It's just like growing up.
• 33:46
  Speaker 2: I just feel like we've had to do it so
• 33:49
  Speaker 2: much that we just assimilate sometimes but I'm like, because
• 33:55
  Speaker 2: I'm from Charleston and we extra geechee, and then people
• 33:58
  Speaker 2: you come to Charleston, you really gonna hear geechee. I
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: do try to articulate my words more because of the
• 34:03
  Speaker 2: different settings I'm in, But for the most part, like,
• 34:06
  Speaker 2: I've never had.
• 34:07
  Speaker 3: To just not be me in any setting.
• 34:09
  Speaker 1: And if you fuck with me, you with me, you don't, right,
• 34:12
  Speaker 1: So I think, yeah, I would agree that people.
• 34:14
  Speaker 3: Just should try to stay tue to themselves.
• 34:17
  Speaker 6: Yeah, because again, you deserve to be in that room,
• 34:20
  Speaker 6: and you add value.
• 34:21
  Speaker 4: Whenever you start to, like as simulate too much, then
• 34:25
  Speaker 4: you kind of lose your voice in the room.
• 34:26
  Speaker 6: They hired you for a reason, but that woman of
• 34:29
  Speaker 6: color to give a different viewpoint on things.
• 34:31
  Speaker 2: Absolutely, But do y'all remember that episode of Insecure, the
• 34:34
  Speaker 2: black girl. She was played by dang I can't think
• 34:38
  Speaker 2: of who was played by you. She was like a
• 34:40
  Speaker 2: summer intern like for the law firm, and they wanted
• 34:46
  Speaker 2: she was in there, like in the break room like
• 34:47
  Speaker 2: and yeah, you know what I said, And that was
• 34:49
  Speaker 2: crazy and Isa, no it wasn't. It was Molly. Molly
• 34:54
  Speaker 2: was like seeing it, you know, Like so then some
• 34:59
  Speaker 2: of the partners came to Molly, because Molly is the
• 35:01
  Speaker 2: black woman, was like, maybe you could, you know, talk
• 35:04
  Speaker 2: to her fellow negro right and tell her to negro
• 35:08
  Speaker 2: a little bit right. They didn't say that, but that's
• 35:09
  Speaker 2: what they were asking her to do. She refused to
• 35:12
  Speaker 2: do it. You know.
• 35:14
  Speaker 1: Yeah, well but I feel like that's a little different
• 35:16
  Speaker 1: right cause it is. It is a time and place
• 35:17
  Speaker 1: for everything, like you got and o how to be
• 35:19
  Speaker 1: your Yeah.
• 35:21
  Speaker 6: It's like she because they telling you them people looking
• 35:24
  Speaker 6: at you like girl like in their way, so like
• 35:27
  Speaker 6: if you're not reading the room, then you're going to
• 35:28
  Speaker 6: continue to be doing too much looking crazy.
• 35:31
  Speaker 2: Yeah. Yeah, it's just like a slippery slope though, because
• 35:33
  Speaker 2: you don't know when to be too much yourself and
• 35:35
  Speaker 2: when to like you bet you.
• 35:38
  Speaker 3: You know, I don't never feel like you bet you.
• 35:42
  Speaker 6: I could say, like the people you bet you, they
• 35:46
  Speaker 6: really like they kind of like your lingo. Like literally
• 35:50
  Speaker 6: I said, I was in the office and I said, no,
• 35:52
  Speaker 6: did he do. One of my coworkers he was like,
• 35:54
  Speaker 6: I'm gonna go say that to my son this weekends.
• 35:56
  Speaker 4: Like he's a girl. I'm take it up people, and
• 35:59
  Speaker 4: I'm gonna say no.
• 36:02
  Speaker 2: You know. All right, so soft life meets hard tech.
• 36:11
  Speaker 2: Let's talk about how the soft life movement works or
• 36:13
  Speaker 2: doesn't work for black women in high pressure tech roles.
• 36:17
  Speaker 4: Okay, I feel like it works. Like you're making more money,
• 36:21
  Speaker 4: all right, so you're.
• 36:22
  Speaker 6: Able to really like just show yourself self care like period.
• 36:27
  Speaker 6: So you're you have the money, so why not do it?
• 36:30
  Speaker 4: Get order a cleaner, like get somebody clean outsource like
• 36:34
  Speaker 4: you know.
• 36:35
  Speaker 6: And I feel like it's very important because you really
• 36:38
  Speaker 6: start to feel like you're doing a lot in the road.
• 36:42
  Speaker 6: You're really like moving, you're doing your job or whatever,
• 36:45
  Speaker 6: and it's important that when you come home you know
• 36:48
  Speaker 6: how to just have that soft life and you allow
• 36:50
  Speaker 6: yourself to have that soft.
• 36:52
  Speaker 4: Like Yeah, that's the part for ye.
• 36:55
  Speaker 3: Yeah.
• 36:57
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 36:57
  Speaker 1: I just saw this post on Instagram and and it
• 37:00
  Speaker 1: was a podcast and then we're talking about like how
• 37:04
  Speaker 1: basically talking about like the average income amongst black people
• 37:08
  Speaker 1: in the major black cities, so like Atlanta, Charlotte, DC
• 37:11
  Speaker 1: or whatever, and it was like Charlotte sneaky, Charlotte will
• 37:15
  Speaker 1: sneaky with the money we got all the banks here,
• 37:17
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying. So most black people like
• 37:19
  Speaker 1: a lot of them are making at least eighty thousand
• 37:21
  Speaker 1: dollars above t one hundred thousand dollars plus if you
• 37:25
  Speaker 1: work at Wells Fargo.
• 37:28
  Speaker 2: Regions.
• 37:29
  Speaker 1: All of those banks, yeah, are here in the area.
• 37:32
  Speaker 1: So yeah, like the girlies in Charlotte got a lot
• 37:34
  Speaker 1: of suffre bill Lei's.
• 37:35
  Speaker 2: In Charlotte is high too.
• 37:37
  Speaker 1: The bill's high everywhere, man, Charleston higher than Charlotte really,
• 37:42
  Speaker 1: absolutely for sure.
• 37:44
  Speaker 4: Rent I say that though, because it's like a tourist city,
• 37:47
  Speaker 4: so they go.
• 37:48
  Speaker 2: In the beach.
• 37:49
  Speaker 4: Yeah, yes, yeah, I could see that.
• 37:51
  Speaker 2: It's stupid.
• 37:52
  Speaker 1: And then a lot of people they moved down with
• 37:54
  Speaker 1: their tech jobs working from home. They moved from New
• 37:57
  Speaker 1: York where you're paying like five thousand dollars for a
• 37:59
  Speaker 1: low ass. Now you can come down here and get
• 38:01
  Speaker 1: a baby mansion, you know, in Charleston, which is still
• 38:05
  Speaker 1: it's high for us. So they're now boosting up the
• 38:07
  Speaker 1: cost of living essentially because now they're catering to a different,
• 38:10
  Speaker 1: different demographic.
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: Of people that's trumping in town. So it's terrible. Yeah,
• 38:14
  Speaker 2: So I know you help people get into tech, Like, well,
• 38:17
  Speaker 2: how do you go about doing that? Like what's up?
• 38:19
  Speaker 6: Well, really, I feel like a lot of people think
• 38:21
  Speaker 6: like you have to be a nerd, you have to
• 38:22
  Speaker 6: be super smart, you have to be super techy, and
• 38:24
  Speaker 6: that's just really not the case. There's a lot of
• 38:26
  Speaker 6: roles that are not You don't even have to really
• 38:29
  Speaker 6: know a lot of tech, you know, you just got
• 38:31
  Speaker 6: to know how to really talk to people. So like,
• 38:34
  Speaker 6: for me, I'm a business analyst, Like that's what I do.
• 38:37
  Speaker 4: I just talk to.
• 38:37
  Speaker 6: People in game requirements. So I feel like the main
• 38:41
  Speaker 6: thing that you need to know is how can you
• 38:43
  Speaker 6: tailor your skills, whether you come from like customer service,
• 38:47
  Speaker 6: whether you come from being on a podcast, Like, how
• 38:50
  Speaker 6: can you tailor your skills to fit into tech? So
• 38:52
  Speaker 6: that's kind of what I do. I just kind of
• 38:54
  Speaker 6: like get your resume and say, let's fix it. That's
• 38:58
  Speaker 6: tailor your skills to tech. Oh, you were on the phone,
• 39:00
  Speaker 6: you talked to people. Oh, you analyzed and looked at reports.
• 39:03
  Speaker 4: So that you're an analyst.
• 39:05
  Speaker 6: They're not trying to pay you analyst money, right, and
• 39:08
  Speaker 6: you know they're trying to say you still customer service,
• 39:11
  Speaker 6: but you literally know them systems like the back of
• 39:13
  Speaker 6: your hand.
• 39:13
  Speaker 4: You an analyst. Let's fix those things.
• 39:15
  Speaker 6: Let's fix those titles and that's really fixed the resume
• 39:18
  Speaker 6: to taylor what you already be doing. And so once
• 39:22
  Speaker 6: you do that, they're like, oh snip, I didn't know
• 39:24
  Speaker 6: like I could do that. That's really what it's about,
• 39:26
  Speaker 6: just learning your skills.
• 39:27
  Speaker 2: I saw this.
• 39:28
  Speaker 1: Little sneaky thing on YouTube one where this guy he
• 39:31
  Speaker 1: basically took the description from the job and y'all can
• 39:34
  Speaker 1: try this, try.
• 39:34
  Speaker 3: And see if it works.
• 39:35
  Speaker 1: He took the description from the job, so now you
• 39:38
  Speaker 1: know your resume is white sheet, black paper, black letters.
• 39:42
  Speaker 1: He took the description from the job and he copied
• 39:46
  Speaker 1: and paste onto his resume, but made it really small
• 39:48
  Speaker 1: and white so it would be blending in with the
• 39:50
  Speaker 1: white part of the page. And then that way, because
• 39:53
  Speaker 1: now what they're using to select candidates for jobs, they're
• 39:58
  Speaker 1: using AI. Yeah, so there's scared. They're not a hiring
• 40:01
  Speaker 1: managers not looking at every single resume. They're looking for
• 40:05
  Speaker 1: the things that the AI is looking for, the things
• 40:07
  Speaker 1: that match the description of the job. So even if
• 40:10
  Speaker 1: you're a resume, like you literally got to tell your
• 40:12
  Speaker 1: resume for whatever position you're looking for, right, whatever position
• 40:16
  Speaker 1: you're applying for. But he put it like real small,
• 40:18
  Speaker 1: so in that way.
• 40:19
  Speaker 4: Like AI exactly exactly.
• 40:24
  Speaker 1: And if you black, make sure you put white.
• 40:26
  Speaker 3: Ye, make sure you put white on your resume.
• 40:31
  Speaker 4: I mean you know an application that person yes, and.
• 40:36
  Speaker 2: Then show it black. Yep, I'll called that.
• 40:37
  Speaker 1: Black because they got And so this is why people
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: be so mad about the Affirmative Action ship right, like
• 40:45
  Speaker 1: or them taking out the the DEI stuff.
• 40:50
  Speaker 4: It is.
• 40:50
  Speaker 1: It causes some type of like when you have to
• 40:53
  Speaker 1: meet a quota as a corporation, like we got to
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: have a certain amount of black people, a certain amount
• 40:57
  Speaker 1: of white people, certain amount of women, a certain amount
• 40:59
  Speaker 1: of you with with uh handicap and all this different things.
• 41:05
  Speaker 1: What if they already met their quota for a black
• 41:07
  Speaker 1: woman mm hmm, we already know it's probably the small
• 41:10
  Speaker 1: in comparison to who's actually being hired. So d I
• 41:13
  Speaker 1: isn't helping black women really, right? So yeah, if you
• 41:16
  Speaker 1: a black woman, put waite or don't answer.
• 41:20
  Speaker 2: It's not Rachel Dozel on your way to the top.
• 41:23
  Speaker 4: I mean you had.
• 41:27
  Speaker 2: You have to you play the system, man. So what
• 41:36
  Speaker 2: is it like dating as a high earning black woman though?
• 41:40
  Speaker 6: I mean it's just like any other role, Like no,
• 41:43
  Speaker 6: whether if you're a nurse or you work at McDonald's.
• 41:46
  Speaker 4: These men ain't shit. Was that on a spreadsheet? Was
• 41:51
  Speaker 4: that on Excel?
• 41:54
  Speaker 2: Did you do a B look up for that? Not?
• 41:57
  Speaker 4: This is a I talking right. No, Yeah, the man
• 42:03
  Speaker 4: a't ship. But I just feel like when you have
• 42:07
  Speaker 4: your own money, like in.
• 42:08
  Speaker 6: This generation of like Chicken Nigga, get a man, I
• 42:12
  Speaker 6: can say that, right, you should.
• 42:13
  Speaker 2: Say whatever you want watching you.
• 42:16
  Speaker 6: I'm just saying when you're in that whole like mina
• 42:19
  Speaker 6: frame like you, and you're dealing with a woman with money,
• 42:22
  Speaker 6: you're dealing with a high caliber woman.
• 42:24
  Speaker 4: So you have to come correct.
• 42:26
  Speaker 6: So as a tech person, you just kind of got
• 42:28
  Speaker 6: to separate the real men from the fakes.
• 42:32
  Speaker 4: And learn to deal with high caliber men. You can't
• 42:35
  Speaker 4: go for the.
• 42:35
  Speaker 6: Drug dealers because that's what you like you, because they're
• 42:39
  Speaker 6: not gonna understand you, you know what I'm saying.
• 42:42
  Speaker 3: So, girl, you ain't telling me shit.
• 42:45
  Speaker 4: You got her own for the ones that and that's
• 42:47
  Speaker 4: what they say.
• 42:48
  Speaker 3: I am a drug dealer at heart, thoats.
• 42:49
  Speaker 2: You see, that's the problem.
• 42:50
  Speaker 4: We be like real life hustler at heart. Girl.
• 42:54
  Speaker 5: By people are an aspect of sometimes you know what
• 43:01
  Speaker 5: I'm saying, until you like.
• 43:02
  Speaker 3: Stop selling dope.
• 43:05
  Speaker 4: But you just got to go for a high caliber men.
• 43:07
  Speaker 4: Like at the end of the day, he.
• 43:08
  Speaker 2: Is a high caliber man.
• 43:09
  Speaker 4: You know.
• 43:10
  Speaker 3: I think people be confused in high earning with high value.
• 43:13
  Speaker 6: Well both, you know what I'm saying, because they can
• 43:16
  Speaker 6: have I know, men that have money, but they still name.
• 43:18
  Speaker 4: So like, you gotta have both.
• 43:22
  Speaker 6: You have to know how to treat me and really
• 43:24
  Speaker 6: cater to me and love me with consideration if you
• 43:28
  Speaker 6: can't do that, because when you're dealing with a high
• 43:30
  Speaker 6: caliber man and you're dealing with like a man that
• 43:33
  Speaker 6: has money, like they don't care about the money.
• 43:36
  Speaker 4: They consider you for anything.
• 43:39
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I agree, And doesn't it feel good to be considered?
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: That's all we want? Man, go ahead, Yes it's toasty. Yes.
• 43:48
  Speaker 2: So outside of tech also a life coach. So what's
• 43:52
  Speaker 2: the difference between like life coaching and therapy?
• 43:57
  Speaker 4: Yeah? I love that question. That's an amazing question between.
• 44:00
  Speaker 6: I feel like therapy focuses mainly on like trauma, like
• 44:04
  Speaker 6: the things you want gone through in your past, you know,
• 44:07
  Speaker 6: trying to work through that so you can get out
• 44:09
  Speaker 6: of your own way. A life coach is that's what
• 44:11
  Speaker 6: they do. They help you get out of your own way.
• 44:14
  Speaker 6: So they're like you're a goal person. You go to
• 44:16
  Speaker 6: and you be like, you know what, I want to
• 44:18
  Speaker 6: go back to school, but I'm over assimilated. I don't
• 44:20
  Speaker 6: know the steps. I'm like your cheerleader. I'm like your
• 44:23
  Speaker 6: person that's gonna be like you're getting.
• 44:25
  Speaker 4: We had these we had these goals. Here's week two.
• 44:28
  Speaker 6: We said we was gonna be here where you at why?
• 44:31
  Speaker 6: And then I'm also the person that's like, basically, I'm
• 44:34
  Speaker 6: also the person that's gonna be like, let's go celebrate
• 44:37
  Speaker 6: no matter how big or little.
• 44:38
  Speaker 4: The win is. So I kind of feel like that's
• 44:41
  Speaker 4: the difference the the therapists.
• 44:42
  Speaker 6: They focus on your past and they can't help you
• 44:44
  Speaker 6: with your future because your future basically you know, you
• 44:47
  Speaker 6: know your past basically yes the time, all the times.
• 44:54
  Speaker 6: But the life coaches and what that helps you in
• 44:57
  Speaker 6: the present moment.
• 44:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, yeah, because I.
• 45:00
  Speaker 1: Think therapy like therapy is cool, right, but they just
• 45:02
  Speaker 1: give you the tools to kind of try to help
• 45:05
  Speaker 1: you navigate through the things right. Sometimes good, but they
• 45:10
  Speaker 1: just keep they just keep bringing bringing up all the
• 45:13
  Speaker 1: bad things.
• 45:14
  Speaker 2: That's what you do every.
• 45:14
  Speaker 1: Time they go to therapy, Like therapy like that, like
• 45:17
  Speaker 1: you just unpacking on somebody.
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: Packing old ship and sitting it on the table. That's
• 45:20
  Speaker 2: what I feel like. I'm just sitting it on the table.
• 45:22
  Speaker 2: It was down I had to bury and now we
• 45:25
  Speaker 2: brought it on the table, but we ain't really did
• 45:27
  Speaker 2: nothing with it. That's my issue with therapy. Sometimes I
• 45:30
  Speaker 2: feel like we're pulling it all out, but what are
• 45:33
  Speaker 2: we doing it?
• 45:33
  Speaker 3: Do they really want to heal you though? When that's
• 45:35
  Speaker 3: their job?
• 45:35
  Speaker 1: Because if everybody was healed, which healing supposted like supposedly
• 45:39
  Speaker 1: has a destination, right, So if they actually were to
• 45:42
  Speaker 1: help you heal whatever the thing is, you wouldn't need them,
• 45:46
  Speaker 1: just like doctors exactly.
• 45:48
  Speaker 3: Dermatologists recommend no.
• 45:50
  Speaker 6: One is God, no one can heal you like they
• 45:53
  Speaker 6: can help you heal, but you have to do the
• 45:56
  Speaker 6: work deal exactly. So when you're pulling those emotions out,
• 45:59
  Speaker 6: and that's what the therapist is helping you do, instead
• 46:01
  Speaker 6: of bearing it and then getting triggered and then wondering
• 46:04
  Speaker 6: why I'm this far triggered, it's like, let's go ahead
• 46:06
  Speaker 6: and help you get used to talking about that. So
• 46:09
  Speaker 6: therefore you're not staying staying in the trigger you know
• 46:13
  Speaker 6: how to kind of like Okay, I'm triggered, but but
• 46:14
  Speaker 6: I'm not, you know, instead of like staying there in
• 46:18
  Speaker 6: spiraling down. I feel like that's why I feel like
• 46:20
  Speaker 6: therapy is good. And then like the life coaching is
• 46:22
  Speaker 6: where it comes in and it's like.
• 46:24
  Speaker 4: All right, how are we healed?
• 46:26
  Speaker 6: Let's let's get some goals. Now, let's accomplish some things.
• 46:29
  Speaker 6: Now that's gonna make you even feel even more healed.
• 46:32
  Speaker 2: So if I come to you and I'm like, hey,
• 46:34
  Speaker 2: I would like a session, what would be the first
• 46:36
  Speaker 2: thing we would do? We just sit down and what Well,
• 46:39
  Speaker 2: if you want.
• 46:40
  Speaker 4: The session, the first thing I'm gonna do is say
• 46:41
  Speaker 4: why what do you? What do you? What are you
• 46:43
  Speaker 4: trying to accomplish?
• 46:45
  Speaker 6: Like, you know, that's that's the first thing, because you
• 46:47
  Speaker 6: I feel like you always got to know your why things?
• 46:50
  Speaker 6: So why what is it? What made you feel like
• 46:52
  Speaker 6: you needed help? What made you feel like you needed
• 46:54
  Speaker 6: an accountability partner? And we get to that, you know,
• 46:58
  Speaker 6: and once we get to that, we start going to goals,
• 47:00
  Speaker 6: trying to figure out what makes you happy?
• 47:03
  Speaker 4: What is it?
• 47:04
  Speaker 2: You know?
• 47:04
  Speaker 6: And if we don't know what that is, then we
• 47:07
  Speaker 6: need to sit down and unpack that a little bit.
• 47:10
  Speaker 2: What makes you happy? That's a hard question.
• 47:12
  Speaker 1: I ask people that all the time, Like once you
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: take away like family and money, like what really makes
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: you happy? Yeah?
• 47:20
  Speaker 2: Dicking food for me.
• 47:24
  Speaker 5: Yo, now food food Yeah, But for me, it's took
• 47:31
  Speaker 5: me a while to get here.
• 47:32
  Speaker 6: So I feel like, for me, like love makes me
• 47:35
  Speaker 6: happy because God is love, and so like long as
• 47:38
  Speaker 6: I have self love, I'm able to no matter how
• 47:41
  Speaker 6: many times I get my heart broken, continue to love again.
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: Yes, So that's the hard part. Yeah, because like you said,
• 47:49
  Speaker 2: these niggas I don't like. I don't like saying niggas
• 47:51
  Speaker 2: ain't shit. I don't like saying that.
• 47:52
  Speaker 1: You shouldn't say that for real, because if you ain't
• 47:55
  Speaker 1: never ran into a nigga that is shit, like kids are,
• 47:58
  Speaker 1: you might not be shipped, right.
• 48:00
  Speaker 2: So that's why the fight saying that. But I just
• 48:03
  Speaker 2: I have dated quite a few undesirable people in the lifetime.
• 48:08
  Speaker 6: I can't say you're right, you shouldn't say that that's
• 48:11
  Speaker 6: true because I you know, I'm dating someone that is
• 48:15
  Speaker 6: like really.
• 48:16
  Speaker 3: A great rights we just hadn't gotten to the person.
• 48:19
  Speaker 4: But I feel like you meet y'all.
• 48:22
  Speaker 2: I feel like you.
• 48:24
  Speaker 4: Give me who you are.
• 48:26
  Speaker 6: You mean who you are, so it feel like that
• 48:29
  Speaker 6: man ain't shit nine times out of ten.
• 48:30
  Speaker 4: It's something in you that.
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: I was just telling my homegirl because like my next relationship,
• 48:36
  Speaker 1: I need to be different, right. We talked about this
• 48:38
  Speaker 1: a little bit, but I am such a fragnizer, okay,
• 48:44
  Speaker 1: like like shut.
• 48:45
  Speaker 3: Up, no, you know I do, Like.
• 48:50
  Speaker 1: I just need to let everybody know, like, hey, I'm
• 48:52
  Speaker 1: not available. Like I don't be doing that, you know
• 48:55
  Speaker 1: what I'm saying. I don't really like like I be
• 48:57
  Speaker 1: allowing niggas to fragnize with me.
• 48:59
  Speaker 3: That's a problem because I kind of like it.
• 49:01
  Speaker 1: Okay, that's the problem, Like just still chatting up with
• 49:05
  Speaker 1: people you know you have no business chatting up with
• 49:08
  Speaker 1: and you don't really even want to fuck with them
• 49:10
  Speaker 1: no more.
• 49:10
  Speaker 2: You just so do you? Just you just like to talk.
• 49:14
  Speaker 1: That's the problem. How the fuck do I shut up?
• 49:18
  Speaker 1: I do like to talk, and sometimes you need to talk.
• 49:20
  Speaker 2: To different people so you enjoy a variety when I
• 49:25
  Speaker 2: don't think there's nothing wrong with that as long as
• 49:27
  Speaker 2: the conversations aren't.
• 49:29
  Speaker 1: But you know, these men can't be your friend, Okay,
• 49:31
  Speaker 1: they can't be your friend. They waiting on the male friends.
• 49:34
  Speaker 1: I do have male friends, right who will never you
• 49:38
  Speaker 1: know or some we probably you know and now we're friends.
• 49:42
  Speaker 1: Like that didn't didn't work. But for the most part,
• 49:46
  Speaker 1: even those like they will still smash you. If you
• 49:48
  Speaker 1: call and say, hey, you want to smash you want
• 49:51
  Speaker 1: to have sex, they gonna fuck you.
• 49:53
  Speaker 3: That's not your friend.
• 49:54
  Speaker 2: You see what I'm saying.
• 49:55
  Speaker 1: That's why men don't want their women with other men.
• 49:57
  Speaker 1: And I understand because these niggas ain't shit. Yeah, oh
• 50:04
  Speaker 1: maybe shit, because why are you even fragnizing?
• 50:07
  Speaker 3: Okay, see, that's what I'm working on.
• 50:08
  Speaker 4: I say, if we say men ain't shit, we have
• 50:10
  Speaker 4: to own and say is it a.
• 50:12
  Speaker 3: Part of me?
• 50:12
  Speaker 4: It's a little part.
• 50:13
  Speaker 3: No, it's a major part.
• 50:15
  Speaker 4: I realize that for sure.
• 50:17
  Speaker 2: But the difference is it's male friends that if they
• 50:22
  Speaker 2: was like, let's have sex, you're gonna say no. But
• 50:25
  Speaker 2: men aren't gonna say no.
• 50:26
  Speaker 3: That's what and that's why you're there.
• 50:28
  Speaker 1: You Okay, you consider them your friend, right, but they
• 50:33
  Speaker 1: really don't consider you their friend because they will smash you.
• 50:37
  Speaker 3: That's why.
• 50:38
  Speaker 2: No. But that's still like because you're still their friend,
• 50:41
  Speaker 2: they just can't fuck you.
• 50:42
  Speaker 3: A boy.
• 50:49
  Speaker 2: All right, So I'm saying, like, you have guy friends
• 50:52
  Speaker 2: that you if they were like, I want to have
• 50:54
  Speaker 2: sex with you, you'd be like, absolutely not, we're friends. But
• 50:57
  Speaker 2: if it was the other way around, they're gonna have
• 51:00
  Speaker 2: sex with you, which makes them more ain't shit than you.
• 51:03
  Speaker 6: I don't have nobody like that. I only have one
• 51:05
  Speaker 6: guy friend and he likes men.
• 51:08
  Speaker 4: Like I don't.
• 51:10
  Speaker 2: You don't have no male friends.
• 51:11
  Speaker 6: I have no male friends because, like you said, they're
• 51:14
  Speaker 6: gonna try to.
• 51:15
  Speaker 1: I know the men love you, girl. Nigga hate to
• 51:17
  Speaker 1: have my conversation. I always talk about what a nigga said, Oh.
• 51:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah, my homeboys such and such.
• 51:22
  Speaker 6: I don't have no male friends unless you like my cousin,
• 51:25
  Speaker 6: my brother like family.
• 51:26
  Speaker 4: But other than that, like I don't.
• 51:28
  Speaker 3: Have Okay, I have to evaluate that.
• 51:29
  Speaker 2: I got to get rid of all my male friends.
• 51:31
  Speaker 2: This is the PSA. Why is you can have friendship
• 51:34
  Speaker 2: with men without it being inappropriate.
• 51:37
  Speaker 6: They start saying I want to fuck them, they cross
• 51:39
  Speaker 6: the line and you gotta cut their ass off.
• 51:41
  Speaker 2: But they might not say that to you every They
• 51:43
  Speaker 2: may not say it, but you know, MoMA, you start
• 51:46
  Speaker 2: feeling it, you're crossing the line.
• 51:48
  Speaker 6: So if you don't say anything, you just continue to
• 51:50
  Speaker 6: allow them to say you're right now, mean.
• 51:52
  Speaker 2: Enough credit, y'all. Not every man don't want to fuck you,
• 51:56
  Speaker 2: not right now. I don't want to fuck you like
• 52:01
  Speaker 2: some men are your friends.
• 52:02
  Speaker 4: That is true, but I've never Thomas you shaking your head.
• 52:05
  Speaker 2: Niggas always want to fuck every time. Yes, thank you.
• 52:09
  Speaker 3: And that's why men don't want their women having men at.
• 52:13
  Speaker 2: Because men in my life that are my friends.
• 52:15
  Speaker 4: That did y'all start off that way?
• 52:20
  Speaker 3: Did I have some friend?
• 52:22
  Speaker 4: Some friends they make you.
• 52:23
  Speaker 6: Feel at some point like I could fuck them if
• 52:25
  Speaker 6: I wanted to, if you was to call them and
• 52:27
  Speaker 6: be like, I want to.
• 52:29
  Speaker 3: We gotta test that one day.
• 52:30
  Speaker 2: We gotta call our best male. I want to ruin
• 52:33
  Speaker 2: the friendship by doing that. That's what's gonna happen.
• 52:36
  Speaker 4: No happen. The's not gonna put the line down. I'm
• 52:39
  Speaker 4: not gonna be like all right, they're gonna laugh first.
• 52:42
  Speaker 2: But that's because the way men look at sex and
• 52:44
  Speaker 2: the way we look at sex is different. It is
• 52:46
  Speaker 2: more casual for them. I think you don't think so.
• 52:50
  Speaker 4: That's so they don't value their friendship.
• 52:51
  Speaker 1: They just like, oh no, I feel like we think
• 52:53
  Speaker 1: could be men value their friendships more than they value
• 52:57
  Speaker 1: like their relationships because usually like when you our guys
• 53:01
  Speaker 1: friend and then y'all start to start dating and then
• 53:03
  Speaker 1: shit start going sour, it's the friend in you he misses. Yeah,
• 53:08
  Speaker 1: you know what I'm saying, Like the related once you
• 53:09
  Speaker 1: add the titles and all that shit, it just get weird.
• 53:13
  Speaker 2: So what you're saying, Tomas, You're saying, y'all, I'm talking
• 53:16
  Speaker 2: to our videographer. You're saying that I'm giving men too
• 53:19
  Speaker 2: much credit. Yeah, I mean, I'm.
• 53:21
  Speaker 4: Sure there's an exception, but general.
• 53:24
  Speaker 2: Time, Damn, that's crazy.
• 53:27
  Speaker 4: That's all. I'm got no male friends. This is my
• 53:29
  Speaker 4: one male friend.
• 53:31
  Speaker 1: I'm I'm trying to hit that. Oh no, no, no, no, no, no,
• 53:33
  Speaker 1: not there. I just want my guy to be my
• 53:36
  Speaker 1: only Yeah, that's all.
• 53:38
  Speaker 2: You want your guy to be your only male friend.
• 53:40
  Speaker 2: That's not no.
• 53:41
  Speaker 1: I mean, so, okay, I have mal Why the fuck
• 53:44
  Speaker 1: did we get here? But anyway, I have male friends
• 53:46
  Speaker 1: that I know we would never have sex like this
• 53:49
  Speaker 1: is really like a family member essentially, right.
• 53:52
  Speaker 3: But then I do have men that I know that
• 53:54
  Speaker 3: I do consider friends that I know what snash me.
• 53:59
  Speaker 2: Those are not my friends.
• 54:00
  Speaker 1: Really, I consider them my friends, but they wait on
• 54:04
  Speaker 1: me to let them smash get drunk.
• 54:09
  Speaker 3: I'm drunk. They a'nna never get no drunk.
• 54:13
  Speaker 4: Look if it works out, well that's why we sweat.
• 54:17
  Speaker 4: And first of all, take one more girl. I'm down.
• 54:22
  Speaker 3: When this fucking wig starts, slide back.
• 54:23
  Speaker 2: I know something. Listen, it's okay, it'll be fine. Ask
• 54:27
  Speaker 2: me your coach. Ladies. Damn, So my friends not my friends.
• 54:32
  Speaker 3: They are not your friends.
• 54:33
  Speaker 2: Okay.
• 54:36
  Speaker 1: The only friend you got we had on we had
• 54:38
  Speaker 1: on our last episode. Terry's the only one boy you got. Yes,
• 54:44
  Speaker 1: the only stand up guy you're gonna meet for real,
• 54:47
  Speaker 1: and I don't know, he might still smash your ass.
• 54:53
  Speaker 4: One night. Everybody.
• 54:57
  Speaker 2: I don't think that. I think I think.
• 54:59
  Speaker 1: There's guy me and Terry, but friends his first grade girl.
• 55:04
  Speaker 2: Have integrity and they would be like, no, I don't
• 55:07
  Speaker 2: want to ruin our friendship.
• 55:08
  Speaker 6: Some will and if they do that, I just never
• 55:11
  Speaker 6: ran into a guy that is like that, unless he's
• 55:14
  Speaker 6: married or something and he's very com what about you,
• 55:16
  Speaker 6: you know? But again, like I don't have male friends.
• 55:21
  Speaker 6: You never did like not like that.
• 55:23
  Speaker 2: No, No, talking about Yeah, let's okay, all right, cheers,
• 55:30
  Speaker 2: cheers to not fucking your male friends. Okay.
• 55:38
  Speaker 1: So you know, one of the things that the men
• 55:42
  Speaker 1: the internet men, the men of the Internet complain about
• 55:45
  Speaker 1: is the Internet.
• 55:50
  Speaker 3: You're a fuck rad pill, it's the Internet.
• 55:52
  Speaker 4: Internet, Okay.
• 55:54
  Speaker 1: They complain about like women with the degrees, talking about
• 55:58
  Speaker 1: degrees and how much money they make and all this stuff,
• 56:01
  Speaker 1: and they like, they don't care about it, right, But
• 56:03
  Speaker 1: how do how do you help women like separate themselves
• 56:07
  Speaker 1: from these job titles?
• 56:08
  Speaker 2: You know what I'm saying?
• 56:09
  Speaker 4: Yeah, well, yeah, again that's.
• 56:13
  Speaker 3: Men say that can not really help them. But you
• 56:15
  Speaker 3: know what I mean, just like life.
• 56:16
  Speaker 4: Coach them to it.
• 56:18
  Speaker 6: Men say they don't care, but they very much want
• 56:21
  Speaker 6: to be attached to a bad girl, like a woman
• 56:23
  Speaker 6: they look good, got hurt, e e, you know, independent,
• 56:27
  Speaker 6: They very much want to be attached you know what
• 56:29
  Speaker 6: I'm saying. Like, so you have to recognize that as
• 56:32
  Speaker 6: a woman that makes money, like, they want to.
• 56:35
  Speaker 4: Be attached just like you want to be attached to
• 56:37
  Speaker 4: a high valued man.
• 56:40
  Speaker 6: They want to be attached to a high valued woman
• 56:42
  Speaker 6: because it makes them look good.
• 56:43
  Speaker 4: They have ego to just like you.
• 56:45
  Speaker 6: So you have to understand to recognize that and just realize,
• 56:48
  Speaker 6: like are they borderline trying to like attach yourself to
• 56:51
  Speaker 6: you and use you because that's what meles men do.
• 56:55
  Speaker 3: Now I'm more so talking about like women, not even
• 56:58
  Speaker 3: talking about men.
• 56:59
  Speaker 1: It's like women going out into the world being their
• 57:03
  Speaker 1: titles and degrees.
• 57:04
  Speaker 6: I don't agree with that because I feel like you're
• 57:06
  Speaker 6: so much more than that, And I like even with tech,
• 57:11
  Speaker 6: like I cater to people who don't have a degree.
• 57:13
  Speaker 4: You can still get in text are really yeah, So
• 57:17
  Speaker 4: I cater.
• 57:18
  Speaker 6: To that, Like, don't get so attached to the your
• 57:21
  Speaker 6: I mean agree, that's an accomplishment.
• 57:22
  Speaker 4: You did your thing right, but don't get so attached
• 57:26
  Speaker 4: to that that's all you really have to offer, because
• 57:29
  Speaker 4: you take.
• 57:30
  Speaker 6: That away that you're boring, Like what else do you
• 57:32
  Speaker 6: bring to the table, Like are you funny?
• 57:36
  Speaker 4: Can you make me laugh?
• 57:37
  Speaker 1: Like you know, girls can be lame too. I don't
• 57:40
  Speaker 1: think women realize they can be lean. They can just
• 57:43
  Speaker 1: be lean, Like it's just like all you work and
• 57:47
  Speaker 1: you just you don't spit on it, like you.
• 57:51
  Speaker 6: Just you don't got no you don't got no jazz,
• 57:54
  Speaker 6: You don't get a little drunk and pass out nothing stick.
• 57:57
  Speaker 2: Why so you're thinking that women are becoming successful and
• 58:05
  Speaker 2: that becomes their identity as you're.
• 58:07
  Speaker 1: Saying, yeah, and that's what the men are talking about,
• 58:09
  Speaker 1: which I can understand. You know, I have met some
• 58:11
  Speaker 1: extra snooty bitches and I'm like, really, bitch, your foot
• 58:14
  Speaker 1: look bad, Like you shouldn't even be acting like that.
• 58:19
  Speaker 6: But my dad he's always like, brought that cinero me, Like,
• 58:23
  Speaker 6: regardless of what you are, whether you're a nurse or
• 58:25
  Speaker 6: whether you're a tech, you're just great at that at nursing, right,
• 58:30
  Speaker 6: but there's so much more to life than that. You're
• 58:32
  Speaker 6: just great at tech. But it's so much more like
• 58:36
  Speaker 6: than that.
• 58:36
  Speaker 2: But sometimes people find their validation through their hard work
• 58:40
  Speaker 2: and their achievements.
• 58:41
  Speaker 6: Okay, so what happens when you go to the bottom
• 58:44
  Speaker 6: and get to the bottom and God ships you of
• 58:45
  Speaker 6: all that?
• 58:46
  Speaker 4: Because that happened to me period.
• 58:48
  Speaker 6: I lost my job for seven months and I couldn't
• 58:50
  Speaker 6: lean on the title.
• 58:51
  Speaker 4: So what you're gonna do then?
• 58:53
  Speaker 2: Right?
• 58:53
  Speaker 4: You got to know who you are outside of that exactly.
• 58:57
  Speaker 2: But I can understand how if my if I was doctor,
• 59:01
  Speaker 2: where that might be like something I don't want.
• 59:04
  Speaker 1: I hate talking to doctors. I just can't stand it,
• 59:08
  Speaker 1: except for one. One of my best friends is a
• 59:10
  Speaker 1: she's a psychologist. Like that's a little bit different. But like,
• 59:15
  Speaker 1: y'all don't know everything because this book, like first of all,
• 59:18
  Speaker 1: this this this this whole medical system is based off
• 59:22
  Speaker 1: some bullshit, you know what I'm saying. I lean more
• 59:24
  Speaker 1: towards like herbal medicine and things like that, which a
• 59:26
  Speaker 1: lot of the pharmaceutical stuff have in it.
• 59:29
  Speaker 3: But it's like the doctors think.
• 59:32
  Speaker 1: That they know everything and that doesn't necessarily have to
• 59:37
  Speaker 1: be a medical doctor.
• 59:38
  Speaker 2: Just anybody with m D trust a doctor who act
• 59:42
  Speaker 2: like they didn't know ship.
• 59:43
  Speaker 1: Though a lot of them do act like they know
• 59:46
  Speaker 1: stuff and they don't like they literally googling some ship
• 59:48
  Speaker 1: just like they don't tell you.
• 59:50
  Speaker 2: Would you go to a doctor and they was like,
• 59:52
  Speaker 2: and they're not confident, would you want that to be
• 59:54
  Speaker 2: your doctor? Like we go see, I know I was
• 59:58
  Speaker 2: a little bit.
• 1:00:02
  Speaker 4: Talking like that.
• 1:00:04
  Speaker 6: That's a difference between being like confident and then just
• 1:00:07
  Speaker 6: not being humble, like being asshole, being a bitch, thinking
• 1:00:10
  Speaker 6: you're like arrogant. There's a difference between that and so
• 1:00:13
  Speaker 6: like you just gotta know how to like, you.
• 1:00:16
  Speaker 2: Know, be human.
• 1:00:18
  Speaker 1: A lot of doctors I feel are on the spectrum
• 1:00:20
  Speaker 1: like they really don't have No, they really don't have
• 1:00:24
  Speaker 1: like the social skills, you know what I'm saying, because
• 1:00:27
  Speaker 1: the decisions that they have to make, they literally make
• 1:00:29
  Speaker 1: life and death decisions a lot of times, like they
• 1:00:32
  Speaker 1: and they're playing God, not really necessarily playing God, but
• 1:00:34
  Speaker 1: if somebody's time to go, they gotta disconnect themselves from
• 1:00:38
  Speaker 1: that incident, you know what I'm saying.
• 1:00:39
  Speaker 2: So a lot of them.
• 1:00:40
  Speaker 3: Don't have empathy. I feel like they they lose it.
• 1:00:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, I think they're in those positions because they never
• 1:00:46
  Speaker 1: had it though.
• 1:00:47
  Speaker 2: No, no, no, al right, So listen, my sister used
• 1:00:49
  Speaker 2: to work in the medical field, my older sister. When
• 1:00:51
  Speaker 2: she joined the military, they had her working in the
• 1:00:54
  Speaker 2: hospital and noting find families. The family was their party,
• 1:01:00
  Speaker 2: and then she had to talk to them and do something.
• 1:01:02
  Speaker 2: I couldn't do it.
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 4: I couldn't do that.
• 1:01:03
  Speaker 2: And she said, like, for the first year of her
• 1:01:07
  Speaker 2: military career, she cried every day.
• 1:01:09
  Speaker 4: Yeah, I would have.
• 1:01:10
  Speaker 2: She couldn't handle it. It was a lot, you know,
• 1:01:12
  Speaker 2: it was emotional every day. And then after the first
• 1:01:15
  Speaker 2: year was over, it's just like far for the course,
• 1:01:18
  Speaker 2: it's just like the job. It's the job. So it's
• 1:01:21
  Speaker 2: like she kind of lost the empathy that she had
• 1:01:23
  Speaker 2: because it was just so similar to school shootings. Remember
• 1:01:28
  Speaker 2: the first time we had a school shooting and how
• 1:01:30
  Speaker 2: we was like, I can't believe this. I can't children.
• 1:01:35
  Speaker 2: Now we have a school shooting, we'd be like, damn,
• 1:01:37
  Speaker 2: that's crazy. It's the same shit. We not even we
• 1:01:41
  Speaker 2: lose it after if it keeps happening. It's you know,
• 1:01:44
  Speaker 2: it's possible to lose that empathy.
• 1:01:46
  Speaker 4: You just got. You just can't have a god complex.
• 1:01:49
  Speaker 6: And a lot of them have a god complex, like
• 1:01:50
  Speaker 6: cause you kind of feel like you got because you're
• 1:01:52
  Speaker 6: saving lives, you know what I'm saying.
• 1:01:54
  Speaker 4: But you're not, and that's what you have to work on.
• 1:01:57
  Speaker 1: Yeah, because I had one of my MD friends tell
• 1:01:58
  Speaker 1: me some people just need to die, that's to be said.
• 1:02:01
  Speaker 2: Some people just need to.
• 1:02:02
  Speaker 1: Die, like you know, like the families be wanting to
• 1:02:04
  Speaker 1: keep them, but really it's time to go.
• 1:02:06
  Speaker 2: Yeah, well that's true, because.
• 1:02:07
  Speaker 4: We all die.
• 1:02:09
  Speaker 6: I can see that because that is true, Like, why
• 1:02:11
  Speaker 6: would I just be sitting here keeping this person comfortable?
• 1:02:14
  Speaker 2: Did y'all see that?
• 1:02:15
  Speaker 1: Story with the in Georgia, them keeping this girl, thirty
• 1:02:18
  Speaker 1: one year old nurse who something happened during her pregnancy
• 1:02:22
  Speaker 1: and she ended up brain dead and they kept her
• 1:02:25
  Speaker 1: pregnant to have this baby. Yes, the family wanted to execute,
• 1:02:29
  Speaker 1: like they want to take her off of life support
• 1:02:31
  Speaker 1: and then just let her and the baby go on.
• 1:02:33
  Speaker 1: But the state of Georgia like, she's just the cane
• 1:02:36
  Speaker 1: with this baby growing and now I think the baby's
• 1:02:38
  Speaker 1: like paralyzed.
• 1:02:39
  Speaker 4: It's not, it's just not even why did y'all do this?
• 1:02:42
  Speaker 4: So sad? I hate that and they used her as
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 4: an experiment and.
• 1:02:44
  Speaker 1: I just yes, yes, and to prove of like a
• 1:02:47
  Speaker 1: point with the with the abortion stuff, Yo, that's nasty
• 1:02:51
  Speaker 1: And that's not even an abortion essentially.
• 1:02:53
  Speaker 2: Because she's not even really alive essentially, right, but the baby.
• 1:02:56
  Speaker 1: So the whole thing with that is that the life
• 1:02:59
  Speaker 1: versus choices, that the baby should have a choice. Essentially,
• 1:03:02
  Speaker 1: the baby is now a person itself without the mother exactly.
• 1:03:06
  Speaker 6: That's why we et, that's what we're doing exactly.
• 1:03:09
  Speaker 2: And that's definitely playing God exactly.
• 1:03:12
  Speaker 4: That's what I mean. God complex sad, nasty core work.
• 1:03:17
  Speaker 2: Yeah, well listen, if anything happened to me. Look into
• 1:03:20
  Speaker 2: the camera, keep.
• 1:03:21
  Speaker 3: Me here as long as I'm out of here, deuces.
• 1:03:25
  Speaker 2: I'm not back up. I'm gonna come back. I'm gonna
• 1:03:28
  Speaker 2: come back next time.
• 1:03:29
  Speaker 1: I might come back as me the next time, but
• 1:03:31
  Speaker 1: I do not want to be alive and suffering, Absolutely not.
• 1:03:34
  Speaker 1: I'm not afraid to die yet. I'm getting the fun
• 1:03:36
  Speaker 1: up out of here. I'll see yall niggas next time
• 1:03:38
  Speaker 1: because this shit is get Oh, I would.
• 1:03:43
  Speaker 2: Be back outside.
• 1:03:44
  Speaker 4: Just give us a guy.
• 1:03:52
  Speaker 1: So we got social media, we got Instagram, all those
• 1:03:54
  Speaker 1: things like how do you reprogram your inner algorithm as
• 1:03:58
  Speaker 1: a black woman in tech?
• 1:04:00
  Speaker 3: Oh, take a break, get off of social vacation.
• 1:04:03
  Speaker 1: You know, they say Americans take the least amount of
• 1:04:05
  Speaker 1: vacation and out of everybody in the world.
• 1:04:08
  Speaker 6: Take a break and then also learn how like when
• 1:04:10
  Speaker 6: you take a break to literally deactivate your social media,
• 1:04:13
  Speaker 6: like we are so tied to ours.
• 1:04:15
  Speaker 4: I be trying, like we don't even know how to
• 1:04:17
  Speaker 4: live in a moment.
• 1:04:18
  Speaker 6: We taking a we in the moment, taking a picture
• 1:04:20
  Speaker 6: of the moment and not even living the moment.
• 1:04:22
  Speaker 1: I can live in the moment. I don't take pictures
• 1:04:24
  Speaker 1: like I'm me neither. Like, honestly, me and AJ don't
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 1: do it enough.
• 1:04:28
  Speaker 2: Like every meeting we had they were like, can y'all
• 1:04:31
  Speaker 2: be more active on social media? And we'll be like yeah,
• 1:04:34
  Speaker 2: and then we be You're gonna do it this time.
• 1:04:38
  Speaker 2: It's just not my couple of teams. So I'm an
• 1:04:41
  Speaker 2: older millennial or I'm just not are you? Honestly, I
• 1:04:46
  Speaker 2: am thirty older millennial, so I'm just not tied to
• 1:04:52
  Speaker 2: my I am tied to my phone, but not in
• 1:04:54
  Speaker 2: a way where I just want to share every meal
• 1:04:56
  Speaker 2: I've had, every moment. If we're out doing something fun,
• 1:05:00
  Speaker 2: I'm not the girl taking pictures. I'd be like, send
• 1:05:02
  Speaker 2: me those pictures, yeah, when you're done. Yeah.
• 1:05:04
  Speaker 1: The younger girlies, I mean they editing at the table,
• 1:05:07
  Speaker 1: at the dinner table, like they editing like all day long,
• 1:05:11
  Speaker 1: Like they're actually real time doing this content like real exactly.
• 1:05:16
  Speaker 2: But are they living because it looks like you are
• 1:05:22
  Speaker 2: you really living? Are you just a walking Truman show?
• 1:05:28
  Speaker 4: Well I can't.
• 1:05:30
  Speaker 6: Speak for any of them, but it's like a combination
• 1:05:32
  Speaker 6: of both. For me, it's like, all right, I'm living
• 1:05:34
  Speaker 6: in this moody.
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 4: Oh, let me.
• 1:05:35
  Speaker 6: Remember to take a picture of this I mean, you
• 1:05:38
  Speaker 6: do what I naturally do a little video, a little
• 1:05:41
  Speaker 6: one too, and then I could put it together and
• 1:05:43
  Speaker 6: it's gonna appear like I'm living you know what I'm saying.
• 1:05:45
  Speaker 4: But it is some people today they on the ground
• 1:05:48
  Speaker 4: with it. They's getting all the.
• 1:05:50
  Speaker 2: The boyfriends know how to do it?
• 1:05:51
  Speaker 4: Now, how to do they ain't even dating their boyfriend.
• 1:05:54
  Speaker 5: The boyfriend literally just a videographer. What's your wife Instagram? Right,
• 1:06:08
  Speaker 5: your videographer?
• 1:06:13
  Speaker 4: Those pictures turned out good?
• 1:06:15
  Speaker 1: That Like, who the hell is living with dj mvy
• 1:06:18
  Speaker 1: to do that ship all day?
• 1:06:19
  Speaker 2: No?
• 1:06:19
  Speaker 4: Literally? Yeah, literally, that's great.
• 1:06:24
  Speaker 2: Sorry, What advice would you give to anybody that's like
• 1:06:28
  Speaker 2: either pivoting from another field and wants to get in
• 1:06:32
  Speaker 2: tech but isn't like tech savvy? Do it?
• 1:06:35
  Speaker 4: Like I said, anything can be tailored to tech.
• 1:06:37
  Speaker 6: I know nurses that have hit me like, hey, I'm
• 1:06:41
  Speaker 6: going to book a session with you because I'm tired
• 1:06:42
  Speaker 6: of standing on my feet for eight hours. And that's
• 1:06:44
  Speaker 6: fine because you can get in and be a scrum
• 1:06:46
  Speaker 6: master for health care. You could be a business analyst
• 1:06:49
  Speaker 6: for healthcare.
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 2: Yeah. People.
• 1:06:50
  Speaker 1: One of my friends she's like a administrative healthcare.
• 1:06:54
  Speaker 3: Yeah, so it's definitely tech.
• 1:06:56
  Speaker 6: Yeah, it's definitely tech. So anything everything is tech. If
• 1:06:59
  Speaker 6: you use a computer, it's some way some.
• 1:07:01
  Speaker 4: Texts there And that's why you cancel me out right
• 1:07:04
  Speaker 4: your phone. You don't know what's going on? Hold what setting?
• 1:07:15
  Speaker 2: And who the fuck are you saying that to?
• 1:07:17
  Speaker 3: Girl?
• 1:07:19
  Speaker 4: I ain't never heard no white person say you bet you?
• 1:07:22
  Speaker 4: They say they say like unless they just be a face.
• 1:07:25
  Speaker 2: To Rodgers that like, can you get back to me
• 1:07:29
  Speaker 2: before four? You bet you?
• 1:07:31
  Speaker 4: Got you? You know what? I want to use that
• 1:07:33
  Speaker 4: on Monday?
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 2: Hold on.
• 1:07:34
  Speaker 1: When when somebody's sending you something and it says a
• 1:07:37
  Speaker 1: S A P. What does that mean to you? Like
• 1:07:40
  Speaker 1: when though possible? Like whin though like right now?
• 1:07:44
  Speaker 2: It means immediately or whenever you can get it done?
• 1:07:47
  Speaker 2: I mean I mean actually the send the acronym name.
• 1:07:49
  Speaker 4: Okay, like for me because I'm a procrastinator I used
• 1:07:53
  Speaker 4: to be. I'm recovering mm hmm.
• 1:07:54
  Speaker 6: I gotta do that ship right now because if I don't,
• 1:07:57
  Speaker 6: then I'm gonna be in a procrastinator. And I'm a
• 1:07:59
  Speaker 6: the that they a SAP means tomorrow and they really.
• 1:08:02
  Speaker 2: Meant right now right, so tell me.
• 1:08:04
  Speaker 1: And I tried to explain this to her, because in
• 1:08:06
  Speaker 1: the corporate world, if I get an email, if I.
• 1:08:09
  Speaker 3: Send somebody some ship and I said I need this
• 1:08:11
  Speaker 3: ace app, I need you to do it right now.
• 1:08:14
  Speaker 1: So now if I put as soon as possible written out,
• 1:08:17
  Speaker 1: it's a little different.
• 1:08:19
  Speaker 2: So okay me and her. I send her a message
• 1:08:22
  Speaker 2: like I need this ASAPA. I'm busy.
• 1:08:28
  Speaker 1: All yeah, I just put that was my tone is
• 1:08:32
  Speaker 1: via text? Baby, why are you putting that tone behind?
• 1:08:34
  Speaker 2: That's how I heard it.
• 1:08:35
  Speaker 3: I said I can't do nothing. I said, I can't
• 1:08:38
  Speaker 3: do it. I can't do nothing else asap right now.
• 1:08:41
  Speaker 2: No, you said you know I'm working, you know I
• 1:08:43
  Speaker 2: got a job or something like that. That's how you
• 1:08:45
  Speaker 2: said it. I'm like, I.
• 1:08:46
  Speaker 3: Said, you know that, I know you know I'm working.
• 1:08:49
  Speaker 3: I can't do this as app.
• 1:08:51
  Speaker 6: Yeah, well it was the it was the all caps
• 1:08:54
  Speaker 6: for me. That's why you probably felt like she came
• 1:08:57
  Speaker 6: into like that, because she probably felt like.
• 1:08:59
  Speaker 4: I'll like you yelling like.
• 1:09:03
  Speaker 1: So if you send an email in the corporate world
• 1:09:05
  Speaker 1: with some all at me and I'm about.
• 1:09:08
  Speaker 2: To capitalized by itself when you put it in there,
• 1:09:12
  Speaker 2: it just got big and I sent you and then
• 1:09:14
  Speaker 2: she was like, I know you know that, I know.
• 1:09:16
  Speaker 3: It wasn't That wasn't the first message, ten B.
• 1:09:20
  Speaker 1: That wasn't the first message, multiple it was a slew
• 1:09:22
  Speaker 1: of messages and then that was the last one. So
• 1:09:25
  Speaker 1: now I got all these tasks to do on top
• 1:09:27
  Speaker 1: of what I'm currently doing. It has nothing to do
• 1:09:29
  Speaker 1: with her.
• 1:09:30
  Speaker 3: On this podcast.
• 1:09:31
  Speaker 4: How did that make you feel? Absolutely? That's why you
• 1:09:34
  Speaker 4: said it absolutely.
• 1:09:35
  Speaker 2: So I'm supposed to know that this hall call that
• 1:09:39
  Speaker 2: we are called instead been talking about this is stuff
• 1:09:44
  Speaker 2: that we already had to do instead of texting.
• 1:09:47
  Speaker 6: Okay, so maybe you could have just or helped me,
• 1:09:50
  Speaker 6: You could have positioned the text a little bit better.
• 1:09:53
  Speaker 1: And that's like, hey, do you think you can actually
• 1:09:56
  Speaker 1: just needed to be said that you think you can
• 1:09:57
  Speaker 1: do that?
• 1:09:58
  Speaker 4: We all working?
• 1:09:59
  Speaker 2: Why do I need to?
• 1:10:00
  Speaker 4: But maybe you just need to say that because.
• 1:10:02
  Speaker 3: I wouldn't send you a SAP ever, because I know
• 1:10:05
  Speaker 3: you're working.
• 1:10:06
  Speaker 2: But what's the difference. I don't see all. I get
• 1:10:08
  Speaker 2: what you're saying, but no, like it's just as soon
• 1:10:13
  Speaker 2: as you're possible. That means as soon as possible, So
• 1:10:16
  Speaker 2: when it's possible, send it.
• 1:10:18
  Speaker 1: What I'm trying to get you to see is like
• 1:10:20
  Speaker 1: the perspective and the difference and why people read things,
• 1:10:23
  Speaker 1: especially via text.
• 1:10:24
  Speaker 3: Even when you send an email, I.
• 1:10:26
  Speaker 4: Don't really like I don't really like that text, and shit,
• 1:10:28
  Speaker 4: I ain't gonna lie. I'm a caller. Yeah, I want
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 4: to talk.
• 1:10:30
  Speaker 3: I want to talk.
• 1:10:31
  Speaker 6: Because like, as being an overthinker, you can overthink yourself
• 1:10:37
  Speaker 6: into someone like, oh she got an attitude or and.
• 1:10:39
  Speaker 4: That might not even be a tone.
• 1:10:40
  Speaker 6: And I fell out with a person because they thought
• 1:10:43
  Speaker 6: I had an attitude be a text and I didn't
• 1:10:45
  Speaker 6: even think.
• 1:10:48
  Speaker 1: And that's why I be saying don't text, because we
• 1:10:51
  Speaker 1: be having all like this is a whole nother thing.
• 1:10:53
  Speaker 1: We have all type of little wearshit going on via text.
• 1:10:56
  Speaker 1: But if we could just talk.
• 1:10:58
  Speaker 2: Yeah, but I understand that. But so I get like,
• 1:11:01
  Speaker 2: I got a million moving parts. I'm in school, I'm
• 1:11:03
  Speaker 2: traveling from place to place, I'm doing here, doing the podcast.
• 1:11:06
  Speaker 2: I don't have time to talk to you all the time.
• 1:11:08
  Speaker 2: But if I could just send a message, what's the
• 1:11:10
  Speaker 2: difference between an email and a text? Texting?
• 1:11:14
  Speaker 1: If you got something, if it's real important, if it's
• 1:11:16
  Speaker 1: real pertinent, you pick up the phone and said it
• 1:11:19
  Speaker 1: cannot be that important. You gotta have plenty time to
• 1:11:21
  Speaker 1: sit and text a paragraph. I an't got time to
• 1:11:23
  Speaker 1: text a bag.
• 1:11:24
  Speaker 6: My thing is I just kind of feel like it's
• 1:11:26
  Speaker 6: about the person. Everyone's different. So she's basically telling you
• 1:11:29
  Speaker 6: that her her communications staff is to call her.
• 1:11:33
  Speaker 2: Yeah, after that, I argued about that. After we argued
• 1:11:36
  Speaker 2: about it, Now she wants to call her texting for
• 1:11:40
  Speaker 2: five years.
• 1:11:40
  Speaker 1: She can find a text from five years ago. Whell
• 1:11:42
  Speaker 1: I told her to stop texting me. I know you
• 1:11:45
  Speaker 1: can five years ago, I said, Tammy, if it's business,
• 1:11:47
  Speaker 1: please call me.
• 1:11:49
  Speaker 2: I bet you find find it.
• 1:11:51
  Speaker 4: Who girl, you know what?
• 1:11:52
  Speaker 2: I google Google the other day. I'm gonna tell you.
• 1:11:54
  Speaker 2: After we finished recording.
• 1:11:55
  Speaker 1: Anyway, we all wrap it up anyway, So we got
• 1:11:57
  Speaker 1: a segment and we talked back cause dumbitch stories or
• 1:12:01
  Speaker 1: for the men, it is DESCEMP series. So you have
• 1:12:04
  Speaker 1: to give us a time or a moment where you
• 1:12:06
  Speaker 1: got played by I mean opposite sex. I assume you're heterosexual.
• 1:12:10
  Speaker 2: I don't know. Yes, you know millennials.
• 1:12:12
  Speaker 6: I got it's been a time, and it been a
• 1:12:14
  Speaker 6: time to be alive. But the most one I feel
• 1:12:18
  Speaker 6: when the man he tried to money manipulate me, meaning
• 1:12:24
  Speaker 6: like he was trying to use me but like giving
• 1:12:27
  Speaker 6: me like he was homeless, a little bit like sad
• 1:12:30
  Speaker 6: story like I need I need a move in with you,
• 1:12:32
  Speaker 6: I need help with this, and we're dating and at
• 1:12:35
  Speaker 6: first he came off shown like you know, he was
• 1:12:37
  Speaker 6: that man, he had it together. But then the representative
• 1:12:40
  Speaker 6: fell off and he showed his true colors and then
• 1:12:43
  Speaker 6: he kind of like did like this little sip ass story.
• 1:12:47
  Speaker 1: And me being the person, I am like, oh okay,
• 1:12:50
  Speaker 1: this could be my husband.
• 1:12:51
  Speaker 3: Let me help my husband, Let me help.
• 1:12:53
  Speaker 6: Girl a good man, Savannah, let me help my husband.
• 1:12:58
  Speaker 6: I did that, and then I realized, this is what
• 1:13:01
  Speaker 6: the fuck you do?
• 1:13:03
  Speaker 4: You do this to every bitch.
• 1:13:05
  Speaker 1: So he's a hobosexulator money You were giving him a
• 1:13:12
  Speaker 1: lot of money.
• 1:13:12
  Speaker 6: No, I wasn't like giving him a lot of money,
• 1:13:14
  Speaker 6: but like when I say a money manipulator, meaning like
• 1:13:17
  Speaker 6: I don't know if you ever be one date, but
• 1:13:18
  Speaker 6: have you ever went on a date and the guy
• 1:13:22
  Speaker 6: orders for you, like and that's fine if you order
• 1:13:26
  Speaker 6: for me, right, but it's kind of like you order
• 1:13:28
  Speaker 6: for me because you don't want me to get an
• 1:13:30
  Speaker 6: expensive drink like you you have a budget and you
• 1:13:34
  Speaker 6: want me to stay within your budget.
• 1:13:36
  Speaker 2: That I don't like people to order for me. That
• 1:13:39
  Speaker 2: piss me off real fast.
• 1:13:41
  Speaker 4: And so that's what I mean by money manipulation. Because
• 1:13:43
  Speaker 4: then when we leave and.
• 1:13:44
  Speaker 6: I was like, oh, I wanted to order the drink,
• 1:13:45
  Speaker 6: you kind of said, oh yeah, you tell me, Oh
• 1:13:48
  Speaker 6: why I had a budget? Why the fuck did you
• 1:13:50
  Speaker 6: take me on a date? And if you if you
• 1:13:53
  Speaker 6: had a budget, that's fine. Why didn't you say that
• 1:13:55
  Speaker 6: from the beginning. While we get there and the waitress
• 1:13:58
  Speaker 6: is right there and she's like, oh, what do you
• 1:14:00
  Speaker 6: want to order?
• 1:14:01
  Speaker 4: Oh, she'll have a Bahama Mama.
• 1:14:03
  Speaker 2: She's gonna have that.
• 1:14:04
  Speaker 4: That's a lift, nigga. I want to patrol.
• 1:14:10
  Speaker 6: I want some can order me a Bahama Mama five dollars.
• 1:14:19
  Speaker 3: On a special special So you ain't dat niggas to
• 1:14:22
  Speaker 3: use groupons.
• 1:14:23
  Speaker 2: I presume, okay, got it.
• 1:14:24
  Speaker 4: That's the money manipulation part.
• 1:14:26
  Speaker 2: Hmm. I don't know.
• 1:14:29
  Speaker 1: I just feel like he stole wants today and he
• 1:14:31
  Speaker 1: doesn't really have the money to do so. But you
• 1:14:33
  Speaker 1: do need money to be outside, Like outside, it is
• 1:14:36
  Speaker 1: expensive soon as you step your foot out there.
• 1:14:38
  Speaker 2: One hundred dollars a couple more inches.
• 1:14:40
  Speaker 1: Two hundred dollars, Like it's expensive to be outside and today,
• 1:14:43
  Speaker 1: either if.
• 1:14:44
  Speaker 2: You can't be, if you can't spend money, be creative.
• 1:14:47
  Speaker 6: That's what I say, exactly, Like you could have just
• 1:14:49
  Speaker 6: been like you could have got you a bottle of
• 1:14:50
  Speaker 6: wine and said, hey, let's go to a park, let's
• 1:14:52
  Speaker 6: have a picnic.
• 1:14:53
  Speaker 4: But you decided to take me to this this lounge.
• 1:14:57
  Speaker 4: We ain't here.
• 1:14:58
  Speaker 2: You can't spend no money.
• 1:15:00
  Speaker 4: Don't you go ask me if I want.
• 1:15:01
  Speaker 6: To assume you won't know I want a hookah. I
• 1:15:04
  Speaker 6: don't even don't know hookah, but I'll say you I'm glad,
• 1:15:09
  Speaker 6: I'm not a man, but just don't even smoke cooker.
• 1:15:12
  Speaker 2: Just get hookah because the nigga paid for it.
• 1:15:14
  Speaker 5: I like cooker, I like, I don't like hookah, but like.
• 1:15:20
  Speaker 4: Most men won't hookah themselves, So.
• 1:15:22
  Speaker 2: Like you're nothing hookah?
• 1:15:23
  Speaker 4: Daddy?
• 1:15:26
  Speaker 2: Is this guy?
• 1:15:28
  Speaker 6: I just basically told him he doesn't like he doesn't
• 1:15:31
  Speaker 6: have enough money to date me right now and you
• 1:15:33
  Speaker 6: have to get your priority straight. And he was like
• 1:15:36
  Speaker 6: hell when I gave him the example of us going out,
• 1:15:38
  Speaker 6: and I was just like, I kind of feel.
• 1:15:39
  Speaker 4: Like you were, you're too afraid.
• 1:15:42
  Speaker 6: I'd rather you be standing up with me and be
• 1:15:44
  Speaker 6: real and say, look, I'm wanna budget right now, whatever
• 1:15:47
  Speaker 6: the case may be, and be more creative. And I
• 1:15:51
  Speaker 6: was just like, you don't have that for me right now.
• 1:15:52
  Speaker 6: And I'm dating high value men because I'm a high
• 1:15:54
  Speaker 6: value woman, and I blocked his ass up today.
• 1:15:57
  Speaker 4: It's nothing else for us to talk about.
• 1:15:59
  Speaker 2: What else, nig it's gonna be mad about that statement
• 1:16:02
  Speaker 2: though all they Yeah, they're gonna be like because I
• 1:16:05
  Speaker 2: feel like guys are always they feel like they're only
• 1:16:07
  Speaker 2: validated through their pocket.
• 1:16:08
  Speaker 3: Well they're not.
• 1:16:09
  Speaker 6: Just say though, you could have communicated. That's the part
• 1:16:14
  Speaker 6: for me. You did not communicate what You didn't have
• 1:16:16
  Speaker 6: to give me your whole life.
• 1:16:18
  Speaker 4: Story, what's going on, But you could have.
• 1:16:20
  Speaker 6: Literally, I respect a man that says, hey, this is
• 1:16:22
  Speaker 6: our budget for the day, like this is where I'm
• 1:16:24
  Speaker 6: at with it?
• 1:16:25
  Speaker 4: Okay, great?
• 1:16:27
  Speaker 2: And if he said we got sixty five dollars, you're
• 1:16:29
  Speaker 2: gonna be like.
• 1:16:30
  Speaker 6: She It's just you can be creative with sixty five
• 1:16:35
  Speaker 6: dollars if it's a creative date.
• 1:16:36
  Speaker 2: No, I agree, But I think a lot of men
• 1:16:38
  Speaker 2: are laved by ego and they don't want to admit
• 1:16:41
  Speaker 2: that they ain't got it, and then then.
• 1:16:43
  Speaker 1: They have to get over the ego because that's where
• 1:16:45
  Speaker 1: repair comes in. That's where change comes in. Right, put
• 1:16:47
  Speaker 1: your ego to the side and fix your fucking life.
• 1:16:50
  Speaker 2: It's not like having to look at your woman in
• 1:16:52
  Speaker 2: the face and be.
• 1:16:53
  Speaker 4: Like look, but then you get the girl.
• 1:16:55
  Speaker 2: They will never hold on baby looking me. You gotta
• 1:16:57
  Speaker 2: get these bahama mamas. I'm gonna get you too, okay,
• 1:17:00
  Speaker 2: two for five.
• 1:17:02
  Speaker 4: If you would have set the tone, been like okay.
• 1:17:06
  Speaker 4: But if you ain't set this tone, you.
• 1:17:08
  Speaker 2: Know you lead.
• 1:17:10
  Speaker 4: Yeah.
• 1:17:10
  Speaker 1: I didn't been out with a guy before, and I
• 1:17:12
  Speaker 1: just saw how he looked at the receipt and I
• 1:17:15
  Speaker 1: just put money on the table and then just don't.
• 1:17:17
  Speaker 3: Talk to them.
• 1:17:17
  Speaker 4: Yeah, because that's just yeah, Like.
• 1:17:19
  Speaker 1: Nigga, you just pay for this whole thing and get
• 1:17:21
  Speaker 1: up out of here because I don't need.
• 1:17:23
  Speaker 2: No man fretting over the bill.
• 1:17:26
  Speaker 1: I do too, but don't you gotta get listen. Women
• 1:17:29
  Speaker 1: come with the money. They come with the money.
• 1:17:31
  Speaker 3: It's just true.
• 1:17:33
  Speaker 1: And then you you'll then have access to the woman
• 1:17:35
  Speaker 1: you actually want because a lot of times these guys
• 1:17:37
  Speaker 1: be settling for who they got because that's where their
• 1:17:39
  Speaker 1: pocket's at. Right, then she don't expect much exactly right,
• 1:17:42
  Speaker 1: But then they want women who have who have expectations
• 1:17:46
  Speaker 1: to come down here so they can still have access
• 1:17:48
  Speaker 1: to that puss. No, because you don't want that for
• 1:17:52
  Speaker 1: your daughter, so quit playing in our faces. I am
• 1:17:54
  Speaker 1: Jerome's daughter, okay, and he don't want that for me,
• 1:17:57
  Speaker 1: so quit playing on me. So, yeah, you got this
• 1:17:59
  Speaker 1: star dating until you get your shit together. It's for
• 1:18:01
  Speaker 1: women too, and the sane for women.
• 1:18:03
  Speaker 4: You women, like literally.
• 1:18:05
  Speaker 2: When you say that, get your shit together, you mean
• 1:18:07
  Speaker 2: like financially but all the things.
• 1:18:09
  Speaker 3: Yeah, fun, Like how do you you're not a broke man?
• 1:18:12
  Speaker 3: Is not a happy man.
• 1:18:13
  Speaker 1: These niggas on the internet don't have a couple of
• 1:18:15
  Speaker 1: dollars and they fucking mad.
• 1:18:17
  Speaker 2: I don't know nobody who's heavy broke.
• 1:18:19
  Speaker 6: Nobody, nobody, And like, I really feel like it's supporting
• 1:18:22
  Speaker 6: for women too, because like when I was like not
• 1:18:25
  Speaker 6: working at one point and whatever, I'm not going on
• 1:18:28
  Speaker 6: no dates, I'm not having self, I'm not having I'm
• 1:18:30
  Speaker 6: not I'm not doing none of that because I can't.
• 1:18:33
  Speaker 6: I literally the guy I'm dating now we started talking
• 1:18:36
  Speaker 6: in that moment. I was like getting back on my feet,
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  Speaker 6: had got like a lower paying job, and he was
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  Speaker 6: like wanting to He was like, I want us to
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  Speaker 6: be together, and I was like, I do not feel
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  Speaker 6: comfortable being with you. I'm not where I want to be.
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  Speaker 6: And he just could not understand it. He was like,
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  Speaker 6: why don't you want to be with me? And I
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  Speaker 6: was like, because I'm not making the money I want
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  Speaker 6: to make. Yeah, I can't focus on you right now.
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  Speaker 1: And that's the attitude that men should have too, like
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  Speaker 1: get your get your shit, yeah the man, so you
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  Speaker 1: could be happy.
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  Speaker 3: I want a happy man. I got a happy man.
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  Speaker 2: Everybody where they can find you, plug all your things.
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  Speaker 4: And I got you guys a gift.
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  Speaker 2: Oh we love gives. We got what we got.
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  Speaker 6: So I got you guys a journal.
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  Speaker 4: Okay, because I feel it's important to right.
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  Speaker 6: Oh, I look your things out okay, and it's really
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  Speaker 6: it's a lot of room in here to write.
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  Speaker 4: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: I love a journal. I'm gonna turn it to a
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  Speaker 1: frog if this is thank you so much. I really
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  Speaker 1: will use this.
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  Speaker 2: It's all nice.
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  Speaker 4: This is good life coaching. Uh.
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  Speaker 3: Yes, adore your life.
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  Speaker 4: Adoor your life, because I feel like you have to
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  Speaker 4: endore your life to just live.
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  Speaker 2: Like I needed. I needed a new one, So thank
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  Speaker 2: you min. It's full.
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  Speaker 4: I year that whatever you went in there, Aja, it
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  Speaker 4: don't matter.
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  Speaker 2: She gonna write spells in there, that's no.
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  Speaker 1: I have a spell books I write in there. Okay, No,
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  Speaker 1: it's the same thing. I just haven't written. And she
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  Speaker 1: gave me.
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  Speaker 2: Like a car. I gave her a couple of journals
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  Speaker 2: that she using like the keep up chair balance.
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  Speaker 4: Yeah, so she might pull them out and write them.
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  Speaker 4: I just want you to write how you're gonna adore
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  Speaker 4: your life in that one? Got it going forward? We
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  Speaker 4: appreciate it, y'all for having me.
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  Speaker 2: This is great. I love you so much.
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  Speaker 3: Give me I want to hug too.
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  Speaker 4: Yes, now, this was amazing. And Thomas, thank you as well.
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  Speaker 2: Because all right, closest with out girlfriend.
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