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Lamenting your decisions · Good Morning From The Chicken Coop!

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  Welcome to the good morning from the chicken coop, podcast with
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  Kim Johnson, your creative strategist and master mindset.
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  Coach filled with inspiration, distinctions, perspectives and
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  possibilities. We help you to cultivate a
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  mindset that leads you to create the best version of yourself.
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  You could ever imagine join Kim every morning from one of her.
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  Favorite happy places for chicken coop, along with all her
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  chickens. Hey everybody.
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  Good morning from the In Coop. So how often do you have
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  something that you have to say to somebody or that you have to
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  do and then you do it and then afterwards, you lament it over
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  and over and over and over or you even lamented decision over
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  and over and over, and over of that you've already made.
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  But you lament the decision you've made.
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  So this seems to be coming up a lot lately with clients.
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  So, I figured that I would run this through you guys to because
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  I think this is important information.
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  Shit. It is human nature to Monday,
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  Morning Quarterback. So to speak where we sit there
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  and we say, oh, I could have done this or I should have done
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  this or I could have said it this way or why did I say that?
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  I have no idea why I said such a thing and we drive ourselves
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  insane doing this. And I particularly seeing that
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  this year, because people are feeling through this season, the
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  need to say yes to To a lot more people.
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  And, you know, yesterday we talked about this week, we
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  talked about saying, no, not sure if it was yesterday or not,
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  but we talked about saying no to people, but yet people have
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  said, yes. And then they go ahead and then
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  they get worked up about the fact that they said, yes.
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  And what am I going to do? And how am I going to change
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  this? It's not what I really wanted
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  because you knew all along you didn't want to say yes and then
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  you turned around and said it anyway.
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  So then you Lament The yes, or you are talking to somebody The
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  middle of something, you say something to them and then you
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  just are not happy with the fact that you said it, or more
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  importantly, you didn't say something, you kept it inside,
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  you walked it away. And you said, I'm just going to
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  say what's appropriate or you just reacted in the moment not
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  even knowing what was going to be appropriate.
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  But you just answered however, this happens constantly and
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  everybody that has every person walking the planet has been in
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  this point. Point where we have all been
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  there, we've all done that, we've all made, those little
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  choices in the moment and then gone, what the hell was I
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  thinking when I did that and would be fine to have that
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  thought, right? You could easily have the
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  thought like what was I thinking where we get so screwed up?
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  Is that we go and we start lamenting it over and over and
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  over and over and we keep saying that to ourselves.
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  We keep doing that to ourselves and in the process of doing that
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  over and over and over. And over.
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  And over we take away any chance we have of learning from it
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  because we're not asking the right question.
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  This all comes down to asking the right question, very much.
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  So we have to ask the right questions if we want to get
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  answers, we have to ask the right questions.
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  If we want to have shifts in our identity shifts in how we show
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  up shifts in what we do, we have to ask better questions.
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  You all have heard me say this before on here but it's so
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  important. Aunt must change that must speak
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  into the right question in order for our brain to give us better
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  answers. So it's imperative, it's
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  imperative. Can't say that enough that you
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  stop and save yourself. What can I learn from this?
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  What will I do different next time?
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  Like you actually have to say to yourself?
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  What will I do? Different next time?
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  What will my choice is B next time.
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  How will I know I'll choose the right thing next time.
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  Well you give yourself a sign. You say?
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  When this comes up again because it comes up often with this
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  person or this type of situation that I'm always in.
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  I'm going to use this as a clue. I'm going to use this as a clue.
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  So for me I can tell you in my mind how this works.
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  I am the person that will often say I used too often and once
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  they do it on you anymore, it still does come up every so
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  often but someone will invite me to something and I may seem like
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  a huge extrovert But I'm more of an, a ver where I switch gears
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  and I like to be home, I want that introvert.
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  I don't ever feel alone, probably because I have 37 tons
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  and a bunch of other animals, but I just my beliefs don't
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  allow me to feel alone because they're so strong and I have
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  such conviction with them. So it's very easy for me to
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  disconnect from people. It's very easy for me to just be
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  okay by myself, so, So I will often say I'm going to do
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  something and then I, when the time is growing closer, I will
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  start to feel like I don't want to do it, but there's always a
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  clue long before that right in the beginning.
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  When I get asked the question, I will hear myself in my head.
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  I'll be like There's a sigh and it's subtle.
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  It's a subtle subtle sigh. There's not a like an
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  excitement, it's not words, it's a feeling.
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  It's a quick little tell. If you will about what's about
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  to happen and it's a pattern that gets put into motion, so
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  you have to be acutely aware of your little tiny tells in this,
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  like, what is it? What is that, little teeny weeny
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  tell that you could possibly pull out?
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  So that you wouldn't have that situation and this is it.
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  So I'm going to encourage you to figure out what are your little
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  signs ahead of time so that you don't get yourself stuck and
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  more importantly, I'm going to encourage you wholeheartedly to
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  please please, please realize that it's one okay to do this
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  because it's human, everybody does it.
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  It's not okay to keep doing it over and over and not changing
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  your approach of how you're going to fix it.
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  So that's what you have to go back and look.
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  At. Look at that portion of.
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  It's ok that it happened. But moving forward, you write
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  down your new questions. You ask yourself, those better
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  questions. You make better choices in the
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  moments and then it won't keep happening and you'll be able to
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  change the pattern. So hopefully this is helpful for
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  all of you and I will see you all tomorrow.
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  Have a blessed day. Bye.