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How Do Narcissists Act on FATHER'S DAY · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  Narcissist on Father's Day. Let's break it all in.
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  Let's clap for the narcissist on Father's Day.
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  What? What do narcissist do on
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  Father's Day? How are narcissists going to
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  behave? How are they going to act?
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  What goes through a narcissist's mind on Father's Day?
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  That's what we talked about today, y'all.
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  And guess what? I'm a diagnosed narcissist and
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  it's Father's Day. Let's get it.
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  Let's hop right into it, y'all, Yes, narcissist on Father's Day
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  is going to be a very unique space to be in when you're
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  dealing with this type of person.
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  Let's just look, y'all. I say let's keep it hot and
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  ready like a Little Caesar's pizza.
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  And I mean, let's keep it hot and ready like a Little Caesar's
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  pizza. Let's let's pipe, pipe it hot.
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  Narcissists are going to like, there will be a few different
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  ways the narcissist can act on Father's Day, right?
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  But it really depends on their level of involvement in their
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  child's life. Because if they have 0
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  involvement, 0 involvement in their children's lives,
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  typically you're not going to hear anything from them.
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  Like so many, so many that are since on Father's Day that are
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  that are that are deadbeats, that are just bums that haven't
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  helped that at all, that haven't done anything at all for their
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  kids in forever. You probably won't hear from
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  them today. They might disappear.
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  It's going, it's going to be like this person doesn't exist
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  because they really do. They really exist.
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  If a tree falls in the woods and there's no one else, no one
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  there to hear it, does it make a sound if a he's going?
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  If a deadbeat narcissist gets off of Facebook on or Instagram
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  on Father's Day, do they make a peep?
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  Do you even know? Right?
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  So if they have no involvement, then they're typically not going
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  to. You won't hear from them today
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  at all, right? Or whenever you're watching the
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  whenever you're watching this video, you probably didn't hear
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  from them on Father's Day because they're ashamed.
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  The shame is so deep. The shame runs so deeply in a
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  narcissist's body, in a narcissist's heart or
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  narcissist's mind that they're going to do this type of stuff
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  all the damn time. They're going to do this type of
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  stuff all the time. Seriously.
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  Like they're going to disappear on Father's Day and you won't
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  hear from them because you happened here from them in
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  forever. Like they don't, it's like they
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  don't exist in your life or their kids or your kids lives
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  regardless. So they probably won't exist
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  today, right? They won't exist on Father's
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  Day. So do you, you absolutely have
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  to prepare for that. Prepare your kids for it.
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  Because sometimes your kids might reach out to their
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  deadbeat parents with an olive branch on Father's Day to just
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  say happy Father's Day, right? And they won't hear that you
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  won't they, they won't respond to your kids, which to me is,
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  hey, that's damn near evil. Let's just there's no other way
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  to slice it. If your kids reach out to you,
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  reach out to you on Father's Day, you don't respond.
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  That's evil. That's dirty dog bum ass
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  behavior. And you deserve what you get in
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  life, right? You deserve have the life you
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  deserve, have the life you deserve, which shouldn't piss
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  you off because you get into the life you feel like you deserve,
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  right? They won't like that because
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  there's there's so many like they won't respond to your kids.
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  So be wary of letting your kids, or if your kids want to reach
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  out to them, just table their expectations, right?
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  Especially if their father is a bum on Father's Day, table your
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  expectations, truly table them because that's what's going to
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  happen, right? Like this is the type of stuff
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  that is absolutely going to happen.
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  Like on Father's Day, they might disappear, you might not hear
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  from anything from them at all. But if they have minimal
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  involvement at all, like if they talk to your kids, if they talk
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  to your kids every once in awhile, you just might hear
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  something from them today, right?
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  You just might hear something from them today.
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  Or you're going to, you're going to see a Facebook post with some
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  old pictures of the kids or whatever the case may be.
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  You're going to see, you're going to, they're going to make
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  a, they're going to make some waves.
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  There's going to make some waves today because they expect to be
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  celebrated regardless of how much effort that they put in,
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  regardless of how much money they've paid for child support,
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  how many bills they've helped pay.
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  Whatever the case may be. If they don't, if they are very,
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  if they have very minimal to no involvement in your kids lives,
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  then be prepared for this to happen right here.
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  Because they're going to be prepared for them to just act
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  like today they're kings today, even though they have done
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  peasant work, They're going to think that they're kings, even
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  though they have behaved and acted like peasants.
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  That really is going to be the the brass tacks of it all
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  sometimes, right? They're going, it's going to
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  boil down to that. Sometimes you get to that point
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  right there where you see a lot of narcissistic people like
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  narcissistic deadbeat dads or whatever that be fathers.
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  They will act a monkey today and act wanted to be treated, want
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  to be treated like a king. Now the narcissistic mother on
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  Father's Day, Woo, we'll talk about that later.
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  We'll talk about the later. I'm about this this look, I'm
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  going to talk about the narcissistic moms on Father's
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  Day. I know fellas.
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  I know the the the fellas that follow me, they're like Lee,
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  what about the moms, man, I'm a good dad.
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  I got you. Just hold on, just hold on.
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  I promise. I got you.
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  I got you. No, but seriously, the the so
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  now, if the narcissistic parent is highly involved, like Co
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  parenting with you or counter parenting, y'all know, right?
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  If they're involved, man, they're going to make today.
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  They some of them will make today a living hell for you, for
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  the if you if you have a narcissistic baby daddy or
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  narcissistic ex-husband or husband or whatever and they're
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  highly involved in your kids lives, they might make today a
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  living hell for you, the other parent, because they're going to
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  feel like they're entitled to do so many things right here,
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  right? They're going to be like they're
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  entitled to again, king treatment, king treatment.
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  They want it all they want. Sometimes they don't want even
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  want the kids to be around them on father's.
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  They want they want a break or whatever the case may be, but
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  they expect the kids to go all out for them.
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  They expect if y'all are still together, they expect you to go
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  all out for them. Breakfast in bed, buns in bed,
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  buns in the kitchen, buns in the bathroom, buns in cheeks,
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  clapping cheeks everywhere. They expect a round of applause
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  in every room. They expect the world, right?
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  Even though they are highly involved, they still might be
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  emotionally disconnected, but they want to be celebrated.
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  You're going to get a lot of posts on social media today.
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  They just like going through the going through the motions of
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  being a parent, right? Going through the motions of
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  bragging about doing the bare minimum, bragging about just
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  being present in their child's life, even though they might be
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  emotionally neglectful or and, or physically abusive to their
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  children, right? Physically abusive to their
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  children that they claim to love and care about.
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  So that's something that a lot of people are going to
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  experience today with the narcissistic father that is
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  involved. They're highly involved.
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  Now those pesky narcissistic women on Father's Day, come in
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  and come on in here, come on in here.
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  They might try. If you are a highly active
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  father and you're trying to get your kids on Father's Day, just
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  be prepared for them to try to be prepared for them to have
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  plans. I didn't know today was Father's
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  Day. You why didn't you let me know?
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  Nobody told me it was Father's Day.
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  You didn't let me know. So no, I already have plans.
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  We're going to the where they have to clean their rooms.
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  They got to clean, they got to mow the yard.
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  They got to cut the tree branches down.
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  They got to build a tree house. They got to go work their jobs
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  today, even though the kids are like 10 years old, they got to
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  go work. They got to do this.
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  They got to be in bed by they got to be in bed by 5:00 PM
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  today. So no, they don't have time for
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  Father's Day and no, they can't call you because they're busy.
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  They're going to neglect you on Father's Day.
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  Like the the narcissistic moms on Father's Day are going to
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  make sure that the good fathers, the good parents are there.
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  The good Co parents are neglected.
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  They're going to make you feel like crap.
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  They're going to make you feel like, like, so you have to if
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  you are, if today is your day to get your kids, be prepared for
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  some type of struggle, right? Be prepared for some type of
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  struggle because this happens too.
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  Like they're going to try to struggle.
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  And now if Father's Day just so happens to fall outside of your
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  time, I hate that for you. If today is not your day, your
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  scheduled day with your custody agreement or whatever the case
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  may be, you probably won't get to your kid.
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  You probably won't hear from your kids today.
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  You know, I hope you do. I hope I'm wrong.
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  Somebody, I might be wrong in some situations, but some of
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  them are going to make sure that you that you going to have a
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  living here. Today's going to be a living
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  hell for you. You might as well like it's
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  going to be like you don't have kids, right, Because they're
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  going to be so beautiful. So I don't say it's so
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  beautiful, but they'll be so bitter.
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  I'm going to say it again. They'll be so bitter and
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  spiteful. That's why I came up with that
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  beautiful. They'll be so bitter and so
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  spiteful towards you. They're going to try to make you
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  have a hard, tough day. You will not get your kids
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  today. No, it's not your scheduled day.
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  Click. I would rather stick to the
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  schedule today. Click.
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  The narcissistic mothers on today on today are going to make
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  make it hard for the fathers to to be good fathers.
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  Just spend time with your kids. They're not going to send you
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  any pictures. They're going to block your
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  phone number. They're going to go no contact
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  with today. They're going to give you the
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  silent treatment today because you're trying to be a good
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  parent, right, because you're trying to be a good father.
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  They're going to give you the silent treatment.
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  They're going to make you feel like they're going to put you on
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  punishment today. But also y'all narcissistic
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  mothers, narcissistic fathers on Father's Day.
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  This is one thing that everybody should be wary of the Father's
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  Day Hoover, and what I mean by that is that some narcissists
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  will use today as a way to Hoover you back in as a way of
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  that. Now, today, above all, I miss my
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  family. I wish my family was still
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  together. I wish I didn't have to.
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  I wish I didn't have to celebrate Father's Day away from
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  my family, away away from everybody.
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  I wish that today we could do this and do that.
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  I wish today was a better day. I wish we could.
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  I wish we didn't have to go through this right here.
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  I wish things were different today.
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  I really, really do. I wish things were truly
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  different. I wish I could we could be
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  together. I miss my family.
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  I miss just waking up on Father's Day and doing this and
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  being together on Father's Day. I really do miss that.
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  So today could be one of those days where they try to Hoover
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  you back into the relationship because they claim to miss you,
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  because they claim to want their family back together.
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  Just be careful, y'all, with any holidays, especially Father's
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  Day. It's going to be prime season
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  for a lot of narcissistic people and a lot of manipulative
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  people, a lot of abusive people to try to come back into your
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  life. Watch out for the fathers.
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  They Hoover because they do exist.
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  They do exist. They're going to ask you for
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  pictures, pictures of their kids that they don't even take care
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  of. And then they're going to be
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  like, I wish, I wish we could make it work.
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  I wouldn't have to ask, you know what?
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  I wouldn't have to ask for pictures if we were still in the
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  same house. I wouldn't have to do that,
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  right? I, we.
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  We. I could just get up and go in
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  the room and open the door. And see my kids.
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  And they're sleeping peacefully and I could be at peace.
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  You know. Too bad we can't be like that.
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  It sucks that they had to work out the way they did.
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  It sucks. I miss you.
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  I love you. I want some buns.
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  Be careful y'all. Anyways, y'all holding this
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  video about y'all some peace. I hope we put y'all some
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