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Almost Famous OG: Putting Our Best Foot Forward with DeAnna Stagliano · The Ben and Ashley I Almost Famous Podcast

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  Speaker 1: This is the almost famous podcast with iHeartRadio.
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  Speaker 2: Hi everybody, this is Trista and I'm coming to you
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  Speaker 2: from Lake Tahoe. We are at a beautiful Verbo. It
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  Speaker 2: is stunning and if you have never checked out Verbo,
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  Speaker 2: there are three hundred thousand discounted properties that you can
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  Speaker 2: book within thirty days of check in in Hilton Head,
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  Speaker 2: South Carolina, Cape Cod, Massachusetts, San Diego, Porta, Viarda and
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  Speaker 2: so many more places. So go check out Verbo for me.
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  Speaker 2: But for right now, Hi, we're getting a selfie. I
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  Speaker 2: am sitting next to one of my faves, one of
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  Speaker 2: my favorite leads, very close friend, very long time friend,
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  Speaker 2: well long time. Let's we need to talk about how
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  Speaker 2: long we have known each other. I am welcome or
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  Speaker 2: I'm welcoming. I am welcoming the beautiful Tianna Stagliano. Hi.
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  Speaker 3: Eighteen years. Eighteen years, Oh my gosh, because I's just
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  Speaker 3: celebrated his eighteenth birthday. Yes, he did so eighteen years.
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  Speaker 3: I was at your house and I was holding your
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  Speaker 3: first car. That's right. You still need to me that
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  Speaker 3: your angel baby, angel baby in your house and veil
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  Speaker 3: with just so young and fresh face. Yes, eighteen years
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  Speaker 3: that is so and isn't it true how our friendship
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  Speaker 3: has grown over the years. I know it's just blossomed,
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  Speaker 3: just like blossoms.
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  Speaker 2: Just like an eye, just like us. Okay, how are
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  Speaker 2: you loving Lake Tahoe?
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  Speaker 3: Isn't this amazing? I'm having the best time, right, Okay?
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  Speaker 2: Good?
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  Speaker 3: Like I'm not sure if I'm going to go home
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  Speaker 3: or if I'm going to stay. I's up in the
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  Speaker 3: air at this point, the best time.
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  Speaker 2: I'm so glad because, as I think, you know, this
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  Speaker 2: was kind of my idea because I wanted to play
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  Speaker 2: pickleball selfishly because they always go on these golf trips
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  Speaker 2: and what I you know, other fun stuff. But but
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  Speaker 2: I was like, can we do a pickleball? And I'm
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  Speaker 2: so proud of you because you haven't ever played, or
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  Speaker 2: at least not a lot.
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  Speaker 3: I have never ever played, and I would have to.
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  Speaker 3: I really should credit you, my coach, for all of
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  Speaker 3: my skills, for my athleticism, for just my abilities in
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  Speaker 3: general on the pickleball court. Now, I didn't win a
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  Speaker 3: single game, Yes you did. You want a little tiny trophy.
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  Speaker 3: I'm sorry. I didn't win a single game. But I
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  Speaker 3: looked good. That's right. I'm stayed and I had a
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  Speaker 3: lot of fun. Good.
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  Speaker 2: That's all that matters. That is all that matters.
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  Speaker 3: I'm a pickleballer.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, no one, I mean for real, you're going to
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  Speaker 2: be a pickleballer because you're going to go home and
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  Speaker 2: you're going to find a club, just like I told you,
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  Speaker 2: and you're going to find some fun people to play with,
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  Speaker 2: maybe even get some lessons. You're going to have so
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  Speaker 2: much fun. And it really truly is obsessing, like it's
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  Speaker 2: something to.
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  Speaker 3: Obsess about it ever since. Yeah, I love Birthing a pickleballer.
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  Speaker 3: She's a pickleballer.
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  Speaker 2: You really are a pickleballer, or you can call there's
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  Speaker 2: all there's tons of merch okay around pickleball.
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  Speaker 3: Let's just before we put the cart before the horse. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: let's just make sure I know how to play first.
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  Speaker 2: No, no, no, But what I was going to say
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  Speaker 2: is you're a day dinker, so you can be a
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  Speaker 2: day drinker but also a day dinker because Dnking is
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  Speaker 2: a pick pickleballer.
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  Speaker 3: Day dnker. I'm really doing well. I'm just thriving. Look
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  Speaker 3: at me. Oh my gosh, I love it. It makes
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  Speaker 3: personality right, day dinker pickleballer.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, so tons of people here, who have you been
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  Speaker 2: having the most fun with?
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  Speaker 3: Honest to god, in it, I'm not I'm not being
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  Speaker 3: ridiculous right now. The group as a whole has just
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  Speaker 3: been really awesome. I was laughing. I was having a
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  Speaker 3: conversation with one of my friends because I get up
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  Speaker 3: pretty early, and I was sitting out back and I
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  Speaker 3: was watching the river, you know, and I'm just like
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  Speaker 3: basking in just like the joy, the beautiful trees, thinking
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  Speaker 3: Lord for all of this, you know, I'm just so happy.
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  Speaker 3: And I was laughing because I was on the phone
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  Speaker 3: with a girlfriend of mine and she's just like, how's
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  Speaker 3: it going? And I was like, there is nothing more
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  Speaker 3: fun than taking twenty washed up reality stars, sticking us
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  Speaker 3: under one roof and making us talk about our experience
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  Speaker 3: on television real, right, Who's better? It was more popular?
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  Speaker 3: Who made more money, Who's got bigger boobs? Who laughed more?
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  Speaker 3: Who made out with more girls? Bob guinny there. It
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  Speaker 3: just there's been a lot of laughs. Like I have
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  Speaker 3: a hard time being like, oh, I'm I'm here for work, yeah,
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  Speaker 3: but like this is a this is really great. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: And you know what, I just right. So then I
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  Speaker 3: come back to like, I'm truly blessed. Yeah, you know
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  Speaker 3: what I mean, Yeah, I'm working, but like, how many
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  Speaker 3: people get to say that they're working and they're having
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  Speaker 3: the most fun while doing it?
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  Speaker 2: Totally?
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  Speaker 3: Who gets great to be this lucky, this blessed to
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  Speaker 3: be able to do something like this where we get
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  Speaker 3: to spend a couple of days with our friends right
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  Speaker 3: right when the last time we got to see each other,
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  Speaker 3: we actually just got to be together and talk and
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  Speaker 3: catch up, you know what I mean? Yeah, who really
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  Speaker 3: gets to say that they get to do this? Totally?
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  Speaker 3: I so agree? Yeah, yeah, so a great.
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  Speaker 2: It really makes me happy, and it has been such
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  Speaker 2: a good group, such a good group from all different
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  Speaker 2: you know, walks but end shows and whatever. But I
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  Speaker 2: I love this kind of stuff. It like fills my bucket. Obviously,
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  Speaker 2: my husband is a little bit different in that, you know,
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  Speaker 2: social things are not his cup of tea, and it
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  Speaker 2: kind of drains his bucket a little bit. But I
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  Speaker 2: was like, babe, just let's you can go read, you
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  Speaker 2: can take a nap, you can go hang out in nature,
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  Speaker 2: which is like his favorite thing to do on the planet.
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  Speaker 3: So you know what, from an outsider. Do you know
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  Speaker 3: what is really beautiful is like he just lets you shine, Trista,
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  Speaker 3: Like it's nice to have him here and like I
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  Speaker 3: can see like Ryan would much rather be in his room. Yes,
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  Speaker 3: I'm sorry, not all the time, that's not what I
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  Speaker 3: don't know how I mean that, but yeah, but he has.
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  Speaker 2: He did enjoy. He's gone out, but he did thoroughly enjoy.
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  Speaker 3: Beautiful that he allows you to do these things and
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  Speaker 3: he allows you to shine. He's not fighting you for it,
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  Speaker 3: he's not fighting you in it. He allows you. He
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  Speaker 3: knows you thrive in these things, and he allows you
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  Speaker 3: to do that. And I think it's really beautiful.
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  Speaker 2: Thank you. That means a lot. I'll take I'll take
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  Speaker 2: what she's having. I'll take what she's having. Yeah, he
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  Speaker 2: is good at that. He I think he does get
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  Speaker 2: joy from seeing me happy. And it does. We were
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  Speaker 2: just saying it is exhausting, like being on constantly and
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  Speaker 2: I will be drained, but in the moment, I just
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  Speaker 2: I'll stay up and like have a glass of wine
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  Speaker 2: with everybody and or whatever, you know, cocktail and just
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  Speaker 2: being social and like connecting with people, like the connection,
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  Speaker 2: the deep connection, the that is the meat.
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  Speaker 3: And potatoes of life. I mean, I'm a true extrovert,
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  Speaker 3: so like I thrive in moments like this. But even
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  Speaker 3: when we're just sitting in you and Bob and I
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  Speaker 3: are just chit chatting and talking about the past and
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  Speaker 3: we're getting tired, right the second we walk in here
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  Speaker 3: and we do this, I turn on. This brings me
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  Speaker 3: to life, like there's something really beautiful in it, and
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  Speaker 3: like there's people that you just now naturally gravitate towards.
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  Speaker 3: And this has just been a really great group of people. Yes,
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  Speaker 3: it's been really really great. Yes, agreed. So I want
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  Speaker 3: to get into some like recent stuff, but I know
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  Speaker 3: life has been you know, a little rough as of late,
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  Speaker 3: maybe like you know, maybe a year, maybe two whatever.
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  Speaker 2: I will not be pushing you in any way, shape
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  Speaker 2: or form, But is there anything that you want to
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  Speaker 2: share with everybody about what's going on personally with you
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  Speaker 2: and Steven and where you are at kind of like
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  Speaker 2: mental health wise. Yeah, no, not really.
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  Speaker 3: No, I think there's a beauty in healing, and I
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  Speaker 3: wouldn't think that anyone would like to be in my shoes.
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  Speaker 3: In the last few months. It has not been fun,
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  Speaker 3: and there is some piece of I chose to go
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  Speaker 3: on television, I choose to do podcasts, I choose to
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  Speaker 3: have a life on social media. That is my choice.
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  Speaker 3: That there's also a piece of like my personal life,
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  Speaker 3: my divorce, things that my children will have to read
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  Speaker 3: living out and what has truly been the most difficult
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  Speaker 3: time of my life is violating. Yeah, it's violating.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, I know.
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  Speaker 3: But I'm freaking strong and I'm really resilient, and I
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  Speaker 3: choose every day to keep my side of the street clean.
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  Speaker 2: Good for you and your kids side of the street clean. Yeah,
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  Speaker 2: they're your priority. I know that for a fact.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah, yeah, one hundred percent. But like at the end
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  Speaker 3: of the day, my children get to do is love
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  Speaker 3: their father and they get to love me. I'm their mother.
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  Speaker 3: That's what they deserve.
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  Speaker 2: Yep.
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  Speaker 3: They don't get to deserve. They don't get to take
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  Speaker 3: on the mess of what takes place in broken relationships
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  Speaker 3: and broken marriages, the unhealth that happens. They don't get
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  Speaker 3: to do that. What they deserve and their right is
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  Speaker 3: to love their father and love their mother and feel
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  Speaker 3: joy and happiness and peace and safety in that. That's
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  Speaker 3: what my children deserve, and that's what I hope to
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  Speaker 3: give to.
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  Speaker 2: Them great way of looking at it. I know you've
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  Speaker 2: been through so much and more than anyone going through divorce,
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  Speaker 2: not more than anyone has been through, but it's like
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  Speaker 2: an extreme. Right. The whole jail and all of that
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  Speaker 2: is just an extreme that you don't expect when you're.
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  Speaker 3: No Trista. I would not tell you that I thought
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  Speaker 3: that that that's where I would see myself at forty
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  Speaker 3: three years old. No, No, that was How did you
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  Speaker 3: explain it? Last night? With a sheet?
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  Speaker 2: The woman was like, here's your white sheet, and I
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  Speaker 2: don't know what you said.
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  Speaker 3: It's not a good look. Yeah, it's not. It's not.
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  Speaker 2: It's not where anyone wants to be, especially when you
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  Speaker 2: are an upstanding citizen and a loving mother and a
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  Speaker 2: wonderful human like obviously you know you know what.
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  Speaker 3: I think that as individuals, we all have different highs
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  Speaker 3: and different lows, you know what I mean. And there
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  Speaker 3: are pivotal moments in your life where you choose to
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  Speaker 3: make different choices, you choose to look inward and choose growth.
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  Speaker 2: Right.
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  Speaker 3: My hope is that at some point I can only
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  Speaker 3: go up right, just when I think like things couldn't
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  Speaker 3: get worse in the past few years, and something else
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  Speaker 3: has happened. I have to think, like, Okay, there's that
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  Speaker 3: has to get better. Yea, this can't be my story.
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  Speaker 3: I don't belong here, and I won't pretend to know
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  Speaker 3: the future and I won't pretend to be God. But like,
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  Speaker 3: there has to be a piece in here where like
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  Speaker 3: I needed to take something, I needed to learn and
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  Speaker 3: I needed to grow, and I'm open to that. And
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  Speaker 3: for me, that's where the beauty comes from, right. I mean,
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  Speaker 3: I'm not perfect by any means, and I am human,
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  Speaker 3: and there are many parts of what has taken place
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  Speaker 3: over the last few months that I would love to
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  Speaker 3: never ever have to think a big about again. But
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  Speaker 3: I choose to learn and grow. That's what I choose
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  Speaker 3: to do, and I believe that there's beauty in that.
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  Speaker 2: Yep, I'm right there with you. Okay, enough that So kids,
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  Speaker 2: how are they? You just went to Hawaii? How is
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  Speaker 2: the trip?
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  Speaker 3: This trip was great? My kids are great. They're just
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  Speaker 3: so great. Like I know, everybody thinks their own kids
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  Speaker 3: are great, but mine.
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  Speaker 2: Are really great.
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  Speaker 3: Mine are like really really great, you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 3: They're easy, and they're kind, and they're a lot of
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  Speaker 3: fun and they're happy. They're like genuinely happy, and they're
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  Speaker 3: really polite. It was never been important to me for
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  Speaker 3: my children to be like straight a kids. Like, I'm
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  Speaker 3: not trying to raise geniuses. Yeah, what I want is
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  Speaker 3: to raise good people, good loving and kind people. And
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  Speaker 3: do you know what? They are good, kind and loving
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  Speaker 3: people and they're also really polite. They say please and
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  Speaker 3: thank you with everything that they do. And I'm just
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  Speaker 3: like beaming from the inside because I worked tirelessly on
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  Speaker 3: their manners. Yes, tirelessly.
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  Speaker 2: That's amazing and something you should very much be proud of.
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  Speaker 3: Thank you, I am.
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  Speaker 2: Because my kids could work on their manners a little bit.
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  Speaker 2: If you're listening, Maxwell and Blakesley. My kids are kind
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  Speaker 2: and very happy, and yes, that is the endgame, for
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  Speaker 2: them to be happy. That's all you want, you know,
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  Speaker 2: happy and hell see, every night I pray that my
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  Speaker 2: family and friends are happy, healthy and safe. Yes, those
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  Speaker 2: are that's what I want. Yeah, I've added a few
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  Speaker 2: to mine.
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  Speaker 3: I'm sure my new one is bless him, heal me.
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  Speaker 3: That's my new one. Amen.
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  Speaker 2: Okay, what's it like traveling as a single mom with
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  Speaker 2: two kids who aren't a baby like we were just
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  Speaker 2: talking to Ben about how he's traveling with Winnie.
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  Speaker 3: Who is the cutest thing on the planet. Oh my gosh,
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  Speaker 3: she's really cute.
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  Speaker 2: But you know, traveling with a baby is one thing.
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  Speaker 2: Traveling with kids who need to get up and walk
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  Speaker 2: around and like you know, might not sit there on
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  Speaker 2: their iPad or whatever. Watch a movie. How is it
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  Speaker 2: with you with your kids and traveling.
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  Speaker 3: It's amazing? Okay, good. Addison and Austin are at the
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  Speaker 3: right age. Austin is nine, Addison is eleven, and at
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  Speaker 3: this point, like they're pretty self sufficient, do you know
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  Speaker 3: what I mean? I have genuinely loved my children at
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  Speaker 3: every age, but it's just different. It's just different. And
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  Speaker 3: right now, like they're they're pretty self sufficient, but like
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  Speaker 3: in times that they really need me, but they need
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  Speaker 3: me in different ways, do you know what I mean.
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  Speaker 3: We're very, very very lucky that my kids are well traveled.
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  Speaker 2: Mm. You know.
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  Speaker 3: I was trying to tell my children, like, oh my god,
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  Speaker 3: we're going to Hawaii, like none of our friends are going,
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  Speaker 3: and I was like, easy, easy, Now you know how
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  Speaker 3: grown adults will never hop the water, They'll never go
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  Speaker 3: to Hawaii in their entire life. Ye like you have
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  Speaker 3: a lot to be really grateful for itly so they're
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  Speaker 3: excellent travelers. And the nice thing about this age is
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  Speaker 3: like they carry their own bags. I'm like, hey, you
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  Speaker 3: need some snacks, you better put them in your bag.
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  Speaker 3: We are no longer playing this game. Oh you need
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  Speaker 3: some snacks, they go in your bag. Needs to go
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  Speaker 3: in your bag. Do you have your headphones? I won't
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  Speaker 3: ask you again, yep, and they do. Do they pack themselves?
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  Speaker 3: I hack For the most part. Addison is at the
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  Speaker 3: age where she's very particularly she's wearing, so she likes
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  Speaker 3: to make sure she double checks what I put in
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  Speaker 3: the suitcase for her. Like Austin really doesn't care. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: He's like, whatever, I'll wear the same shorts all week,
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  Speaker 3: well long, I don't care. He's gonna remember his switch
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  Speaker 3: and his phone so he can play roadblocks, and he's
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  Speaker 3: going to bring a book like he loves to read.
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  Speaker 3: And then he's pretty solid. He also just like likes
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  Speaker 3: to sleep, so he has no problem to be like,
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  Speaker 3: can I just like lay on your shoulder? I'm like, yeah, man,
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  Speaker 3: all da yes please. He's the greatest guy in the
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  Speaker 3: entire world.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, snuggling. I miss that so much with Max.
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  Speaker 3: I enjoy my children. I genuinely enjoy my children. I
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  Speaker 3: enjoy to do things with them. And I really enjoyed
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  Speaker 3: vacationing in Hawaii with them. Like they're just they're just
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  Speaker 3: really great. Yes, I.
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  Speaker 2: Love that age there. Let's see, eleven would be like
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  Speaker 2: fifth grade? Is she going into six going into sixth? Okay,
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  Speaker 2: and then he's going in fourth yeah, okay. Oh, it
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  Speaker 2: really is such a sweet time because once they hit
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  Speaker 2: middle school, oh, the dealing with like the mean people
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  Speaker 2: and like, so we were talking a lot about this
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  Speaker 2: today is and Ben walked away from the conversation. He's like,
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  Speaker 2: I want to always have a baby.
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  Speaker 3: I wanted to grow up. We were talking about sex.
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  Speaker 3: We were talking about a great topic of conversation because
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  Speaker 3: your children are older than mine. So you know, I's
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  Speaker 3: asking you and Ryan's advice about like when do you
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  Speaker 3: do it right? Because Austin is nine, Addison is eleven. Yeah,
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  Speaker 3: and I know that I was sharing that like I
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  Speaker 3: was in high school before I heard girls at the
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  Speaker 3: lunch table talking about a bja oh yeah, they were
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  Speaker 3: talking about food, right, I did not know. And then
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  Speaker 3: when I heard that they were putting certain things in
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  Speaker 3: their mouth. I was like, that's absolutely disgusting. I don't
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  Speaker 3: know why you would do something like that. Like I
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  Speaker 3: was like, this is why would you do that? But
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  Speaker 3: apparently these kids these days talk about it at an
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  Speaker 3: early age.
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  Speaker 2: Well not only talk about it, but they see it
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  Speaker 2: through social media and on the internet. And that's why
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  Speaker 2: I wanted to talk about it with you today, because
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  Speaker 2: I think you're right on the precipice of when you
• 17:08
  Speaker 2: really do need to have the conversation with them, because
• 17:12
  Speaker 2: you at least I didn't want my kids learning about
• 17:16
  Speaker 2: certain things through their friends or through the internet.
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: Also, what I was asking you is it's you know,
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: I'm only going to get one go with this, right,
• 17:26
  Speaker 3: you know what I mean? And right they are at
• 17:28
  Speaker 3: an age where I'm trying to figure out when is
• 17:30
  Speaker 3: it appropriate. I don't want it to be too early,
• 17:32
  Speaker 3: but I also don't want it to be too late.
• 17:33
  Speaker 3: I don't want them to be learning about this stuff
• 17:35
  Speaker 3: at school. So I appreciate you know, having friends who
• 17:40
  Speaker 3: are in a different phase of life, but I appreciate
• 17:42
  Speaker 3: you and Ryan sharing openly with me about how I
• 17:45
  Speaker 3: could navigate this with my kids, and not to say
• 17:48
  Speaker 3: that it has conversation. But it was like from my
• 17:51
  Speaker 3: dad and he was like, hey, a guy does this
• 17:52
  Speaker 3: and a woman does this, and like, don't do it totally,
• 17:55
  Speaker 3: don't come home pregnant. That was the extent of it. Like,
• 17:58
  Speaker 3: I want to create a very safe space for my children.
• 18:00
  Speaker 3: I want them to always feel like they can come
• 18:02
  Speaker 3: to me and talk to me. And the truth of
• 18:04
  Speaker 3: the matter is that sex in a capacity when you're
• 18:08
  Speaker 3: ready is a very natural and wonderful thing to have
• 18:11
  Speaker 3: in a relationship. One, yeah, it is, totally, but it's
• 18:16
  Speaker 3: also there's the basics of it that you have to
• 18:17
  Speaker 3: teach your children. And that's where I'm just trying to
• 18:19
  Speaker 3: gauge and understand when is the time to do that totally.
• 18:23
  Speaker 2: And that's hard, and you have to do what is
• 18:25
  Speaker 2: right for you and your family, right, but I just
• 18:28
  Speaker 2: want you to start thinking about it, you know, just
• 18:30
  Speaker 2: because they are at the ages that they're at, and go, like,
• 18:35
  Speaker 2: talk to other people. You know, this is for you
• 18:37
  Speaker 2: guys out there who are listening to go talk to
• 18:39
  Speaker 2: other people about what was right for them, what they
• 18:43
  Speaker 2: were able to do, when they did it, why they
• 18:45
  Speaker 2: did it, you know, all of those things. For us,
• 18:48
  Speaker 2: I just I can't remember exactly when it was, and
• 18:52
  Speaker 2: I just feel like it really allowed my kids to
• 18:57
  Speaker 2: know that there's nothing that I won't talk with them.
• 19:00
  Speaker 2: There's no shame. They I am their safe place. They
• 19:04
  Speaker 2: can always come to me always, and I I want
• 19:10
  Speaker 2: them to. I want them to always know that they
• 19:13
  Speaker 2: can come to me and feel comfortable. And so as
• 19:16
  Speaker 2: long as you establish that, I feel like that's so
• 19:19
  Speaker 2: valuable and important and crucial in a parental, you know,
• 19:24
  Speaker 2: relationship with your child. Yeah.
• 19:26
  Speaker 3: Absolutely, I'm grateful for the advice. You know what I mean.
• 19:29
  Speaker 3: I admire you guys, you know, as parents, a couple.
• 19:31
  Speaker 3: You know what I mean. Thank you?
• 19:34
  Speaker 2: Okay, So what things in your life are you looking
• 19:37
  Speaker 2: forward to? Obviously, you have been working as a private
• 19:43
  Speaker 2: polight attendant, which I feel like is like one of
• 19:46
  Speaker 2: those jobs where it's like a dream job, dream job
• 19:50
  Speaker 2: for people, especially for someone like you who loves the
• 19:54
  Speaker 2: whole like chef, catering, nurturing experience. Tell less about that job.
• 20:02
  Speaker 2: What's going on currently in your work life and what
• 20:06
  Speaker 2: you're looking forward to?
• 20:08
  Speaker 3: I think with you know, everything that's taken place in
• 20:11
  Speaker 3: my life, I'm in a very transformational I'm in a
• 20:15
  Speaker 3: very transformational place. Like I feel like I'm almost like
• 20:18
  Speaker 3: this like rebirth, you know what I mean, which is
• 20:21
  Speaker 3: really exciting, Which is really exciting. I get to decide
• 20:24
  Speaker 3: what do I do next, relationship wise, career wise, as
• 20:30
  Speaker 3: a woman, you know what I mean, as a mother,
• 20:32
  Speaker 3: as as a business person, you know. And I have
• 20:37
  Speaker 3: so many things that I feel passionate about, and I
• 20:41
  Speaker 3: have so many jobs that I love, so I'm trying
• 20:46
  Speaker 3: to figure that out. I've been in corporate aviation for
• 20:49
  Speaker 3: fifteen years, and yes, you're right, I love my job.
• 20:51
  Speaker 2: I love this.
• 20:51
  Speaker 3: It's called corporate aviation.
• 20:53
  Speaker 2: Sorry, I was like, that's a luxury flight attendant or
• 20:55
  Speaker 2: whatever I just call.
• 20:56
  Speaker 3: It's totally corporated. I'm a glorified server. That's what I am.
• 21:00
  Speaker 2: But I work whatever thousand thousand, yeah, you.
• 21:03
  Speaker 3: Know, forty forty eight sometimes okay, yeah, corporate aviation, which
• 21:08
  Speaker 3: is private jets. I do get a lot of interest
• 21:12
  Speaker 3: in my job, and it is a very interesting job.
• 21:14
  Speaker 3: But I think that's what people they see, the glamorous
• 21:18
  Speaker 3: side of my job. You know. I love posting videos
• 21:21
  Speaker 3: of me in the galley making up food because it
• 21:23
  Speaker 3: is it is like you have to be a magician
• 21:25
  Speaker 3: in the air, like, there's no pulling over when I
• 21:27
  Speaker 3: forget the hot sauce. Like, I have to know how
• 21:30
  Speaker 3: to create things and make things in the air from
• 21:32
  Speaker 3: what I've got. Yeah, and I've gotten pretty good over
• 21:35
  Speaker 3: the years of figuring out how to make things in
• 21:38
  Speaker 3: the air, how to make sauces, how to heat things up,
• 21:41
  Speaker 3: how to not heat things up, how to burn things.
• 21:42
  Speaker 3: I've done at a time or two. I could tell
• 21:43
  Speaker 3: you some stories. Tell them, I tell them a story.
• 21:48
  Speaker 3: My biggest fear in the air is a fire on
• 21:50
  Speaker 3: an airplane. Oh, no kidding, because an airplane is literally
• 21:54
  Speaker 3: it'll go up in seconds. Yeah, you know what I mean.
• 21:57
  Speaker 3: I think that anyone who is in a aviation in
• 22:00
  Speaker 3: general would relate to what I'm saying. A fire in
• 22:02
  Speaker 3: the air is very scary. You have to find it quickly.
• 22:05
  Speaker 3: You have to hope you can put it out. You
• 22:06
  Speaker 3: have to hope you can get it extinguished and then
• 22:08
  Speaker 3: get your plane to safety. It's scary. It's terrifying. I
• 22:13
  Speaker 3: cook a lot. If I have the luxury of being
• 22:15
  Speaker 3: at home, I will prep things in my own kitchen
• 22:17
  Speaker 3: and then I take them at work. Yep, and I
• 22:20
  Speaker 3: make some pretty damn good biscuits trista. It's my grandmother's recipe,
• 22:24
  Speaker 3: and I only do it when I have a lot
• 22:26
  Speaker 3: of free time because it's pretty labor intensive for me.
• 22:28
  Speaker 3: I'm not a solid baker, so I follow the recipe
• 22:31
  Speaker 3: to a tea, you know. But there's a lot of
• 22:32
  Speaker 3: folding and kneading and folding and kneading, and then you
• 22:36
  Speaker 3: cut them up into beautiful squares and then you freeze
• 22:38
  Speaker 3: them and there's a lot of butter. And I love boom.
• 22:41
  Speaker 3: So I bake these beautiful biscuits at home and I
• 22:43
  Speaker 3: freeze them overnight, so go so I can take them
• 22:45
  Speaker 3: to my plane and bake them the next day. Yeah,
• 22:47
  Speaker 3: and we're going across the water. So when I say
• 22:49
  Speaker 3: that we're going over Hawaii, it's the largest body of
• 22:51
  Speaker 3: water you'll ever fly over, which is there's a point
• 22:55
  Speaker 3: of no return. Did you know that?
• 22:56
  Speaker 2: What do you mean? No, I don't know what you mean.
• 22:59
  Speaker 3: Hawaii from l Hawaii is the largest body of water
• 23:02
  Speaker 3: you'll ever fly over. Okay, The point of no return
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: is like once you get halfway, if something were to happen,
• 23:07
  Speaker 3: you keep going. Oh until that point something happens, you
• 23:10
  Speaker 3: would turn around and come back. Okay, but there is
• 23:12
  Speaker 3: a point okay that like, if something were to happen,
• 23:16
  Speaker 3: you try to make it the rest of the way.
• 23:18
  Speaker 3: I'm no pilot, so i don't have to deal with that, Okay.
• 23:21
  Speaker 3: I'm just along for the ride. So I'm baking these biscuits.
• 23:25
  Speaker 3: And I make the mistake of putting the biscuits on
• 23:28
  Speaker 3: the top rack. And if you've never seen an oven
• 23:30
  Speaker 3: on an airplane, and a galley is really small, It's
• 23:32
  Speaker 3: very small. If you took a good look at my
• 23:35
  Speaker 3: arms in my hands, you'll see scars up and down
• 23:37
  Speaker 3: because the oven is so small and the racks are
• 23:40
  Speaker 3: like it's like an inch and a half in between.
• 23:42
  Speaker 3: So you just constantly and I'm you work fast on
• 23:44
  Speaker 3: a plane, you know. And if you're thinking about in
• 23:46
  Speaker 3: a restaurant, I'm serving a meal surface sometimes to eight
• 23:50
  Speaker 3: or twelve people, sometimes just a few, but sometimes a lot,
• 23:53
  Speaker 3: And so I'm doing a lot of things in a
• 23:55
  Speaker 3: very small space. I slap these biscuits in the oven
• 23:59
  Speaker 3: and don't realize that when they rise, they sit on
• 24:02
  Speaker 3: the top part of the oven. So pretty quickly these
• 24:06
  Speaker 3: biscuits start burning and the airplane and I've like never
• 24:09
  Speaker 3: done this this was only a few years ago. Okay,
• 24:11
  Speaker 3: So I tend to think that I'm a pretty great
• 24:13
  Speaker 3: flight attendant. And all of a sudden they start smoking.
• 24:17
  Speaker 3: And the other thing that you don't know or you
• 24:18
  Speaker 3: might know about an aircraft is like we circulate the
• 24:21
  Speaker 3: same air, yes, right, So when it starts smoking, like
• 24:24
  Speaker 3: it's smoking, oh, and I'm like, oh, I'm like, you know,
• 24:28
  Speaker 3: I'm trying to wave it. I turned the oven off,
• 24:30
  Speaker 3: like I listened to my cues first, Like, I turn
• 24:32
  Speaker 3: the oven off. Nothing actually like lights, flames, you know
• 24:34
  Speaker 3: what I mean, but like when you burn something in
• 24:35
  Speaker 3: your oven at home. But the problem is is it
• 24:38
  Speaker 3: starts going through the whole air of the aircraft. Crap.
• 24:41
  Speaker 3: So I turn the oven off, and these biscuits are
• 24:43
  Speaker 3: chalk like they're done, and I can't They're too hot
• 24:45
  Speaker 3: to throw in the trash bag. And I'm like, there's
• 24:46
  Speaker 3: no way you can't just toss them out the window.
• 24:49
  Speaker 2: You know.
• 24:49
  Speaker 3: So my pilot, yeah, sorry, sir, no, don't mind the biscuits.
• 24:55
  Speaker 3: My pilot comes back and he's like, are you burning something?
• 24:58
  Speaker 3: And I can't remember what plane, but my galley's in
• 25:00
  Speaker 3: the rear and I was like, yeah, man, like I'm burning,
• 25:03
  Speaker 3: so we end up they have a switch the way
• 25:04
  Speaker 3: they can let some of the air out. But yeah,
• 25:06
  Speaker 3: that was that was not.
• 25:07
  Speaker 2: And were you near the point of no return? Is
• 25:09
  Speaker 2: that why you brought that up?
• 25:10
  Speaker 3: No, I actually did it pretty early. But it's fine.
• 25:12
  Speaker 3: There wasn't a fire. I was just burning biscuits. I
• 25:15
  Speaker 3: just burning biscuits. There was no fire. It just dunked
• 25:18
  Speaker 3: to high heavens. So I did that. And then one
• 25:21
  Speaker 3: other thing when I was a flight isn't. When I
• 25:24
  Speaker 3: first started my job, I had no clue what I
• 25:26
  Speaker 3: was doing. And fifteen years ago they used to just
• 25:27
  Speaker 3: kind of throw us to the wolves, like and they
• 25:29
  Speaker 3: just get on a plane and do whatever. And I,
• 25:32
  Speaker 3: thankfully was pretty good at my job. I had a
• 25:34
  Speaker 3: long history and service industry. I had worked on every
• 25:37
  Speaker 3: level of a restaurant in my life, Like I've managed,
• 25:40
  Speaker 3: I've hosted, I've rolled silverware, I've done it all. Yeah,
• 25:44
  Speaker 3: I get this job and it's you know, this young
• 25:45
  Speaker 3: woman who's been on this account for a really long time.
• 25:47
  Speaker 3: She's like, it'd be easy, peasy, You're just gonna fly
• 25:49
  Speaker 3: to San Francisco. By the way, I baked cookies before landing,
• 25:52
  Speaker 3: and I was like, Okay, I'm gonna bake some cookies,
• 25:54
  Speaker 3: just like, can you just order the dough. She's like, yeah,
• 25:56
  Speaker 3: I'll just get them. You just pop them on a
• 25:58
  Speaker 3: pan and stick them in the oven. And if you
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: know this about me, I am a cook. I am
• 26:02
  Speaker 3: not a baker. Yes I'm not. Yeah right, cool, cool, cool.
• 26:05
  Speaker 3: I get on this plane right before landing. I can
• 26:07
  Speaker 3: see the ground, like, you know, I only have a
• 26:09
  Speaker 3: few minutes. So I get the oven on and she's
• 26:11
  Speaker 3: I remember reciting in my brain, don't mess this up,
• 26:13
  Speaker 3: you know, pop the dough on a pan, set a
• 26:17
  Speaker 3: timer in the oven. Bam. Right, the cookies are finally done.
• 26:21
  Speaker 3: We're probably like three thousand feet. I can see the ground.
• 26:23
  Speaker 3: I'm like, oh my god, serve the cookies. Serve the cookies.
• 26:25
  Speaker 3: I pull them out and they look like these little
• 26:27
  Speaker 3: bon bonds.
• 26:29
  Speaker 2: They little rounds, ye yeah, or not, circles, sears, fears. Yeah.
• 26:34
  Speaker 3: No one told me I had to flatten out the cookies.
• 26:36
  Speaker 3: So if he baked, is this like little ball and
• 26:39
  Speaker 3: everything bakes differently in the air. You've got you know,
• 26:42
  Speaker 3: the elevation, you've got the oven works, you know, faster harder,
• 26:45
  Speaker 3: heet hotter, you know. And so I get this little
• 26:47
  Speaker 3: cookie and at this point, I don't have time to
• 26:49
  Speaker 3: stop start over. We do not have time to.
• 26:50
  Speaker 2: Baby smelling like cookies, so they're probably like, give me
• 26:53
  Speaker 2: a cookie.
• 26:54
  Speaker 3: She bakes the parson cookies every time before landing. So
• 26:56
  Speaker 3: I take this little bon bon out and I'm like,
• 26:57
  Speaker 3: how am I going to do this? I stick it
• 26:58
  Speaker 3: in a little bowl and I stick a little mint
• 27:01
  Speaker 3: leaf on it. It looks cute, and I'm making my rounds
• 27:04
  Speaker 3: and I stick this little bowl in front of the
• 27:07
  Speaker 3: passenger one too like enjoying. He's like, oh my god,
• 27:13
  Speaker 3: this is so cute. And I was like, I thank you,
• 27:16
  Speaker 3: oh so much. So cute, and he was like, wow,
• 27:20
  Speaker 3: little bite sized cookies. I would have never thought of this.
• 27:22
  Speaker 3: It's just a one biter. And he eats this cookie
• 27:25
  Speaker 3: and he was like, you're gonna have to tell her
• 27:26
  Speaker 3: how to do this. Oh whoa, We still have to
• 27:29
  Speaker 3: go home, Trista, I've got to make the same mistake twice, right, crap.
• 27:33
  Speaker 3: And I'll never forget that. Because he's like, oh my god,
• 27:35
  Speaker 3: this cookie, this is a little cute and I was like,
• 27:38
  Speaker 3: oh my god, I did it. By accident. But part
• 27:40
  Speaker 3: of my job is just knowing when not to say anything. Yep,
• 27:44
  Speaker 3: totally knowing when to smile yeah, and then hope the
• 27:46
  Speaker 3: same mistake happens again, right, and it did it? I
• 27:49
  Speaker 3: don't remember because I remember being so mortified by that,
• 27:51
  Speaker 3: because it was like my second or third flight, and
• 27:53
  Speaker 3: I was like, oh my god, this little bon bond.
• 27:55
  Speaker 2: It looked like if you've ever seen that, it looked
• 27:57
  Speaker 2: like a bond bon you need, like a bite sized
• 27:59
  Speaker 2: cookie bonbond.
• 28:00
  Speaker 3: I'll never ever forget it. You're like, no, I'm not
• 28:02
  Speaker 3: doing I can't remember if I made the same mistake.
• 28:04
  Speaker 3: But every time I bake cookies on an airplane now
• 28:06
  Speaker 3: I think of that. Oh that, don't mess cookies up,
• 28:08
  Speaker 3: don't make those cute, don't do it.
• 28:10
  Speaker 2: Okay, So, because you spend so much time traveling, what
• 28:15
  Speaker 2: is your best packing pack?
• 28:18
  Speaker 3: I actually hardly ever unpack really.
• 28:21
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 28:21
  Speaker 3: So because I travel so much, I have just like
• 28:24
  Speaker 3: a second set of everything. So like my work bag
• 28:27
  Speaker 3: I'm carrying around, yep, I have three sets of chargers.
• 28:31
  Speaker 3: I have all different, like I just keep extra sets
• 28:33
  Speaker 3: in my bag. Sometimes in my line of work, I
• 28:37
  Speaker 3: can get a two hour heads up, and I need
• 28:38
  Speaker 3: to be at the airport, so I always need to
• 28:40
  Speaker 3: have pressed clothes, got it ready to go, got it,
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: and then a bag ready to go. Yep. I've made
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: the mistake one time in my career not having a
• 28:47
  Speaker 3: change of clothes and shopping at Target at eleven o'clock
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: at night for underwear. It's just not fun. So that's stressful.
• 28:54
  Speaker 3: I pretty much at all times have a bag packed,
• 28:56
  Speaker 3: like I have a you know, change of underwear bras.
• 28:59
  Speaker 3: But in my toilet tree bag, I have an extra toothbrush,
• 29:01
  Speaker 3: I have an extra razor, I have shampoo, I have
• 29:02
  Speaker 3: everything ready to go, a second thing of face cream.
• 29:05
  Speaker 3: I just like have all of my things already the way.
• 29:08
  Speaker 3: It's just easy to zip up. I put it in
• 29:09
  Speaker 3: my bag. I don't fold my clothes when I put
• 29:11
  Speaker 3: them on my luggage. I roll them Sam, Sam, Yeah right.
• 29:15
  Speaker 3: It helps on the wrinkles, yes, and it helps fit
• 29:17
  Speaker 3: more stuff yes yeah. Yeah, and I'll do I'll do
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: like my shirt and pants together, Yep. I take a
• 29:23
  Speaker 3: couple of pair of jeans because I can wear the
• 29:24
  Speaker 3: same two pair of jeans for eighteen days. Of course,
• 29:26
  Speaker 3: I just do it. Yeah, and I'll roll my things
• 29:29
  Speaker 3: up and I tuck them together and then I stack yep,
• 29:31
  Speaker 3: and I'm also just to just set you over the
• 29:34
  Speaker 3: edge with my neuroses. I do it in like rows.
• 29:37
  Speaker 3: So like here's my workout clothes, They're stacked to the
• 29:39
  Speaker 3: back of the suitcase, like against against the back of
• 29:42
  Speaker 3: the bag because I can stack them two or threefold.
• 29:45
  Speaker 3: And then my underwear is always in the same thing.
• 29:47
  Speaker 3: My toiletrees are always in the same place. And then
• 29:49
  Speaker 3: for some reason, always on the right side of my
• 29:51
  Speaker 3: bag goes my toiletry bag, my makeup.
• 29:54
  Speaker 2: That's why you knew today. So so i's so for
• 29:58
  Speaker 2: everyone listening to your.
• 30:00
  Speaker 3: Room and you're unpacked, I'm like, you're insane. How do
• 30:03
  Speaker 3: you do this?
• 30:04
  Speaker 2: So whenever I get somewhere, I have a carry on,
• 30:07
  Speaker 2: like here we can. I came here with a carry on,
• 30:09
  Speaker 2: and I unpack everything once I get.
• 30:13
  Speaker 3: Somewhere, because I have to crazy.
• 30:16
  Speaker 2: I need to have it organized. I need to have
• 30:18
  Speaker 2: it like here's my workout clothes, here's my underwear, here's
• 30:21
  Speaker 2: my swimsuits, here's whatever.
• 30:23
  Speaker 3: I have to have it all put away.
• 30:25
  Speaker 2: She came in my room and braided my hair yesterday
• 30:27
  Speaker 2: for the pickleball tournament.
• 30:29
  Speaker 3: And she was like real college besties.
• 30:31
  Speaker 2: Yes, and and she was like, wait you take out everything? Well, well,
• 30:38
  Speaker 2: that night or maybe was it that night you called
• 30:42
  Speaker 2: me because we were at different houses and you were like, hey,
• 30:45
  Speaker 2: can you bring me? Was this last night you ringin
• 30:49
  Speaker 2: things out of my suitcase? And how spot on was
• 30:51
  Speaker 2: I in the page from my suitcase? And I was like, okay, sure,
• 30:54
  Speaker 2: I'll go in. And I went into her room and
• 30:57
  Speaker 2: she was like, okay, so go in my bag and
• 31:00
  Speaker 2: in the top part you're gonna find my blah blah blah.
• 31:02
  Speaker 3: And I was like, okay, how does she know? Like
• 31:05
  Speaker 3: the inside flap, not the top pocket, but the bottom pocket,
• 31:07
  Speaker 3: not where my makeup wipes are. But on the bottom
• 31:08
  Speaker 3: pocket you'll find my sockscrab those on the suitcases. On
• 31:12
  Speaker 3: the very bottom you'll find a black pair of leggings.
• 31:14
  Speaker 3: Are like on point, without looking at my bag, I
• 31:17
  Speaker 3: know where everything is, yes, And I can carry on
• 31:19
  Speaker 3: and roll through an airport. It amazes me to this
• 31:23
  Speaker 3: day when I have to commercial when I get through
• 31:25
  Speaker 3: the TSA checkpoint, people who don't know what to do
• 31:29
  Speaker 3: blows my mind.
• 31:30
  Speaker 2: But think they're they're travel as much as you you know.
• 31:35
  Speaker 3: Clear clearly not clearly not. Every time I get on
• 31:40
  Speaker 3: a plane and I sit in the emergency roo, I'm like,
• 31:42
  Speaker 3: you're okay, I'm a flight attendant. I'll save your life.
• 31:44
  Speaker 3: Follow me, leg body leg come this way. Listen to
• 31:48
  Speaker 3: the sound of my voice. What's body legs mean? When
• 31:53
  Speaker 3: you get out? Our windows are smaller? Okay, when we
• 31:56
  Speaker 3: get out of coach exits, Well, you don't want to
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: come out like butt first? How are you gonna get out?
• 32:03
  Speaker 3: What do you mean like people?
• 32:04
  Speaker 2: What you think that people would actually go like that and.
• 32:07
  Speaker 3: Try to get out? Do you know what the number
• 32:08
  Speaker 3: one thing is in an emergency situation? What people forget
• 32:11
  Speaker 3: to do? Do you know why the flight attendant stands
• 32:13
  Speaker 3: in front of you and shows you how to unbuckle
• 32:15
  Speaker 3: and buckle your seat belt? What in a panic situation?
• 32:18
  Speaker 3: In an emergency situation, they did a study the amount
• 32:21
  Speaker 3: of people who forget because when you get in a car,
• 32:24
  Speaker 3: how do you buckle your seat belt? Clicks in, yeah, yeah,
• 32:27
  Speaker 3: clicks in right, right right, push a button and it
• 32:29
  Speaker 3: pops out. They think that on an airplane it is
• 32:32
  Speaker 3: a latch. You have to lift up and remove the lever.
• 32:36
  Speaker 3: True it is different and in a panic situation, in
• 32:39
  Speaker 3: emergency situations, they don't know how to They have found
• 32:42
  Speaker 3: there was a study down on some airplane crash and
• 32:44
  Speaker 3: I can't remember what it was. The people who didn't
• 32:46
  Speaker 3: get out of the airplane. They found that they had
• 32:47
  Speaker 3: broken thumbs from where they tried over and over again
• 32:51
  Speaker 3: to press the button to release the seat belt. No way,
• 32:54
  Speaker 3: because until you're in a situation like that, you have
• 32:57
  Speaker 3: you have what like two types of people, fight or flight. Yep,
• 33:00
  Speaker 3: you know what I mean. Yeah, people who panic and
• 33:01
  Speaker 3: people who don't. I'm a leader, follow me, yeah yeah, yeah,
• 33:04
  Speaker 3: I'm getting out. You can come my way, yes, right, yes.
• 33:07
  Speaker 3: And then there are people who just you freeze, you
• 33:09
  Speaker 3: don't know what to do.
• 33:10
  Speaker 2: Oh.
• 33:10
  Speaker 3: They found in that crash, in particular, that these people
• 33:14
  Speaker 3: had blistered broken thumbs because they were pushing trying to
• 33:20
  Speaker 3: get their seat belt unlatched. They could not remember to
• 33:23
  Speaker 3: lift the lever to release the seat belt. That's why
• 33:25
  Speaker 3: the flight attendant always does it, says it. And I
• 33:27
  Speaker 3: always watch a flight attendant when she does the emergency procedures.
• 33:30
  Speaker 3: I do always because even a panic situation, even though
• 33:34
  Speaker 3: I think if I were ever God forbid, right, I
• 33:38
  Speaker 3: think I would know what to do. But I watch
• 33:41
  Speaker 3: because studies have shown people who don't pay attention they
• 33:44
  Speaker 3: don't remember in a situation. And when you need to
• 33:46
  Speaker 3: get out there's a fire, there's a water landing, there's
• 33:49
  Speaker 3: something like that, you have seconds to survive. That's freaking scary.
• 33:54
  Speaker 3: I'm also a role follower, so oh yeah, and you
• 33:56
  Speaker 3: say listen, I'm gonna listen.
• 34:00
  Speaker 2: Okay. Is it true you shouldn't drink coffee or tea
• 34:02
  Speaker 2: on a flight because the water tanks on airplanes aren't
• 34:05
  Speaker 2: cleaned often? Oh look at that face. I do not
• 34:10
  Speaker 2: order coffee on an airplane. Do you know where else
• 34:12
  Speaker 2: you shouldn't drink coffee?
• 34:14
  Speaker 1: Where?
• 34:14
  Speaker 3: In your hotel room? Oh? Well yeah, oh I remember.
• 34:18
  Speaker 3: Light attendants have washed their pantyhose in those.
• 34:23
  Speaker 2: I do not ever drink slight attendants wash their pantyhose.
• 34:28
  Speaker 2: Coffee makers in a hotel wash disgusting.
• 34:32
  Speaker 3: Also, just here's the thing. I can't go down this
• 34:35
  Speaker 3: rabbit hole trusted because I travel too much for a living.
• 34:39
  Speaker 3: But think about a hotel room. Okay, would you want
• 34:42
  Speaker 3: to clean a hotel room?
• 34:43
  Speaker 2: Hell? No?
• 34:44
  Speaker 3: Do you know what I do? What I always leave
• 34:46
  Speaker 3: money for the maid. I can't imagine a worse job,
• 34:50
  Speaker 3: yeah than to clean someone's hotel room. Yeah, I can't
• 34:54
  Speaker 3: imagine having to do that. So I carry money in
• 34:56
  Speaker 3: my wallet and I always leave it for the hotel staff. Yes,
• 35:00
  Speaker 3: that's a great hat. Do not drink her coffee in
• 35:01
  Speaker 3: your hotel room bit of advice.
• 35:03
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 35:03
  Speaker 3: And do not drink the coffee on an airplane. Okay.
• 35:05
  Speaker 3: So do you see flight attendants coming on the airplane
• 35:08
  Speaker 3: with their Starbucks? Yes, get a coffee on the plane.
• 35:13
  Speaker 2: So I remember when we did Special Forces. Ali Ali
• 35:18
  Speaker 2: Mano was on Special Forces on my season, and she
• 35:22
  Speaker 2: posted a story of the hotel room that we were
• 35:25
  Speaker 2: staying in in Wales. She looked on the inside and
• 35:29
  Speaker 2: it was I know.
• 35:31
  Speaker 3: Don't don't ever look. Don't ever, don't ever look. I'm
• 35:35
  Speaker 3: telling you, I travel too much for a living. I
• 35:37
  Speaker 3: do not watch those shows, those documentaries where they turn
• 35:40
  Speaker 3: the lights off into a black light to see what's
• 35:41
  Speaker 3: in the room. Don't do it. No, I can't because
• 35:44
  Speaker 3: I have just enough crazy in me and I'll never
• 35:46
  Speaker 3: sleep same Sam. And I've lucky in my life. Yeah,
• 35:50
  Speaker 3: like I am. I'm like the highest ranking person you
• 35:53
  Speaker 3: could possibly be like, I have so many points I
• 35:56
  Speaker 3: don't know how to spin them. I cannot look at
• 35:58
  Speaker 3: those things because yeah, once you start thinking about it, totally.
• 36:02
  Speaker 3: I wear my shoes in hotel rooms you just so
• 36:04
  Speaker 3: you know, don't wear my shoes in my house. Wow,
• 36:08
  Speaker 3: what do you think? They have dark color printed carpet
• 36:10
  Speaker 3: hotel names right right. Don't drink the coffee.
• 36:14
  Speaker 2: Oh my gosh, So I don't drink coffee, so I
• 36:16
  Speaker 2: don't have that problem.
• 36:17
  Speaker 3: But fixed don't drink the tea either. I don't.
• 36:19
  Speaker 2: They get the hot water on the plane too, Yeah
• 36:22
  Speaker 2: no no, I just get it from a can, like
• 36:24
  Speaker 2: you know, give me this brite with ice.
• 36:27
  Speaker 3: Say can you drink or the ice? Ice comes? The
• 36:31
  Speaker 3: ice gets brought to the airplane. They don't. Okay, so
• 36:33
  Speaker 3: ice is fine.
• 36:33
  Speaker 2: You'll say, great, we're safe with ice, We're safe with
• 36:36
  Speaker 2: can you're actually open. Oh and don't take your freaking
• 36:39
  Speaker 2: shoes off.
• 36:40
  Speaker 3: On the airplane, please.
• 36:41
  Speaker 1: People.
• 36:42
  Speaker 3: There was a study a long time ago. I'm just
• 36:44
  Speaker 3: really this is people are never going to fly again.
• 36:47
  Speaker 3: There was a study. There was a study done in
• 36:51
  Speaker 3: a laboratory, and I can't remember if they announced what
• 36:53
  Speaker 3: airline I was in a oh, in an air laboratory. Okay,
• 36:57
  Speaker 3: those are bathrooms on an airplane. And there was a
• 37:01
  Speaker 3: study done after like a six or an eight hour flight.
• 37:04
  Speaker 3: What was found on the lavatory floor? Nope? There were Nope,
• 37:09
  Speaker 3: you don't see this, but the producers are shaking their hands.
• 37:12
  Speaker 3: Don't tell them out loud. No, there were. There were
• 37:15
  Speaker 3: strains of hepatitis on the floor. Do you know I
• 37:20
  Speaker 3: will stop someone before they walk into a laboratory with
• 37:24
  Speaker 3: no shoes on. And I'm not being paid to do this,
• 37:27
  Speaker 3: Please save yourself. Do not do that. So put your
• 37:29
  Speaker 3: shoes on.
• 37:30
  Speaker 2: Shoes stay on on a plane, but your shoes stay on.
• 37:36
  Speaker 3: Do not go to the lab What is living on
• 37:38
  Speaker 3: that floor? As holy gross, don't do I could do this.
• 37:41
  Speaker 3: I could go on this tangent for a really long time.
• 37:55
  Speaker 2: Okay, So since we're talking about not taking your shoes
• 37:58
  Speaker 2: off and feet, we have had an illuminating conversation before
• 38:01
  Speaker 2: we started this pod with We were talking about you
• 38:06
  Speaker 2: know what your next step in life is going to be,
• 38:09
  Speaker 2: career wise, what are you going to transl at those
• 38:11
  Speaker 2: Wait a second, well, we're going to transition into and
• 38:15
  Speaker 2: I don't know how it came up when we were
• 38:16
  Speaker 2: talking about fee and we were talking to go about
• 38:21
  Speaker 2: only fans and start a foot.
• 38:23
  Speaker 3: My new career path, Yes, my new career path could
• 38:26
  Speaker 3: be showing my feet for a living. I'm not sure
• 38:29
  Speaker 3: being a dancer is in my future, but showing my
• 38:32
  Speaker 3: feet could be. Yes.
• 38:34
  Speaker 2: So we learned that there is a thing called weeki
• 38:39
  Speaker 2: Wikiki feet wiki feet, and it has you are ranked
• 38:43
  Speaker 2: in order of like good feet, bad feet. Okay, so
• 38:47
  Speaker 2: Easton Easton is producer.
• 38:49
  Speaker 3: I also thought we might be scott free, like we're
• 38:52
  Speaker 3: just old enough to where like this possibly can't be
• 38:54
  Speaker 3: a thing it is a thing, but apparently it is.
• 38:56
  Speaker 3: It's a thing.
• 38:57
  Speaker 2: It's a thing, people, It's a thing. Easton has our
• 39:00
  Speaker 2: Easton has our rating. He looked up our rating before
• 39:04
  Speaker 2: we started. And so we are on the edges of
• 39:07
  Speaker 2: our seat.
• 39:08
  Speaker 3: No, I want you to be mindful that I do
• 39:10
  Speaker 3: not have my feet in view. I want you to
• 39:12
  Speaker 3: be mindful that I am not putting my feet into
• 39:14
  Speaker 3: view because I've got some talons on it.
• 39:17
  Speaker 2: You do not. Your feet are My feet are super
• 39:20
  Speaker 2: swollen and look like sausages right now.
• 39:22
  Speaker 3: So okay, so hit it hit us with us better
• 39:25
  Speaker 3: than what I'm anticipating.
• 39:26
  Speaker 2: Oh gosh.
• 39:27
  Speaker 4: Okay, so to set the expectations, Yes, this is a
• 39:30
  Speaker 4: score out of five.
• 39:32
  Speaker 2: Okay and wait, so wait, and I also want to
• 39:35
  Speaker 2: say what we learned is that they will take like
• 39:37
  Speaker 2: paparazzi photos and they'll zoom in on your feet in
• 39:41
  Speaker 2: order to get the rankings correct.
• 39:43
  Speaker 1: Yes, so okay, yeah, yeah, we're on Trista's page right now.
• 39:48
  Speaker 4: There's a lot of like, there's a there's a red
• 39:51
  Speaker 4: carpet for marriage book. There's one of t recovering from
• 40:00
  Speaker 4: an injury. It looks like an ankle injury.
• 40:02
  Speaker 3: Yes, I broke my ankle. Oh, oh my god.
• 40:06
  Speaker 1: It's gonna make you really think about what you guys
• 40:08
  Speaker 1: post on social media.
• 40:10
  Speaker 3: Yes it is.
• 40:13
  Speaker 1: Okay, we shall we reveal the screen.
• 40:15
  Speaker 3: We shall reveal the scores.
• 40:17
  Speaker 1: Okay, Oh hold my breath.
• 40:19
  Speaker 3: I'm serious, Scarce.
• 40:21
  Speaker 1: We're gonna start with Deanna.
• 40:22
  Speaker 3: Oh god, remember I need to be attractive. Okay out of.
• 40:25
  Speaker 1: Five four point six nine, Holy crap.
• 40:29
  Speaker 3: You've got great feet. See I told you I've heard
• 40:33
  Speaker 3: my new calling. I was waiting for like an audible,
• 40:35
  Speaker 3: like this is where your path is going, and I
• 40:37
  Speaker 3: believe it just came to me. I think God gave you.
• 40:40
  Speaker 3: I'm sorry, tell me that to get a four point six.
• 40:43
  Speaker 1: Five?
• 40:44
  Speaker 3: Wow, that's you have beautiful feet you're talking about anymore?
• 40:49
  Speaker 3: Look at these suckers at I don't know. There's some
• 40:52
  Speaker 3: close ups of my feet, a lot of them.
• 40:54
  Speaker 1: Are you showing off your manicure and your feet are
• 40:56
  Speaker 1: in the background. That's what it looks like, is the.
• 41:02
  Speaker 2: I am really, I am very scared. I am very scared.
• 41:06
  Speaker 2: I'm very scared.
• 41:07
  Speaker 3: Point six that's pretty good.
• 41:11
  Speaker 2: Four point seven out of five that's pretty stick.
• 41:15
  Speaker 3: That's solid. That's I mean.
• 41:18
  Speaker 4: And now, actually, before we move on to Trista, I
• 41:20
  Speaker 4: do you want to check this? They have your shoe
• 41:21
  Speaker 4: size on here, and I want to see.
• 41:22
  Speaker 1: If it's accurate.
• 41:23
  Speaker 3: Okay, that's so true.
• 41:25
  Speaker 1: Say seven? Is that right?
• 41:27
  Speaker 3: It's inaccurate?
• 41:28
  Speaker 2: Wow.
• 41:29
  Speaker 3: You know my friend Ben, he's trying to find me
• 41:31
  Speaker 3: a date. He asked me my shoe size today and
• 41:33
  Speaker 3: I politely just did not answer his question. I have
• 41:37
  Speaker 3: a big ass foot for my body. Put our feet
• 41:41
  Speaker 3: next to each other. No, it's embarrassing. Come on. The
• 41:48
  Speaker 3: producer she just went, she just gasped. Did you hear her?
• 41:59
  Speaker 3: I want you to know that my sister and her
• 42:02
  Speaker 3: husband are going to find this because they have made
• 42:04
  Speaker 3: fun of my feet my entire life, and they probably
• 42:07
  Speaker 3: feel so satisfied right now in this moment. Oh my god, Trista,
• 42:13
  Speaker 3: my toes are longer than your whole foot. Oh, I
• 42:17
  Speaker 3: can't believe I'm allowing you to do this. This is just.
• 42:25
  Speaker 2: Yes. I have had this, this toe ring since I
• 42:30
  Speaker 2: was in I was in college and my dad took
• 42:37
  Speaker 2: me and my stepsister and stepmom to Key West and
• 42:40
  Speaker 2: we got that and I have had it ever since.
• 42:43
  Speaker 2: Even when I get like MRIs or whatever, they ask
• 42:46
  Speaker 2: if you have any like jewelry or whatever that can't
• 42:48
  Speaker 2: be removed, and I'm like, yes that.
• 42:51
  Speaker 3: So don't know.
• 42:52
  Speaker 2: Yeah, I leave it on, it never comes off. And
• 42:54
  Speaker 2: then Deanna has a tattoo's.
• 42:57
  Speaker 3: I got it with my sister. Yeah. You know, people
• 43:00
  Speaker 3: think that I'm all straight waist and I'm not. Look
• 43:02
  Speaker 3: at me. I'm so wild. I have a tattoo. Tattoo,
• 43:06
  Speaker 3: I have three three? Where's the third? A wild? Oh?
• 43:10
  Speaker 3: I'm so wild? You know Ben didn't ask me if
• 43:14
  Speaker 3: there were things about me that he didn't know. Just
• 43:19
  Speaker 3: look at me? Now, where's the third it's for me.
• 43:22
  Speaker 3: I have it for me, but I have it here
• 43:25
  Speaker 3: worthy that's awesome. There was a period of time where
• 43:28
  Speaker 3: I forgot that and I don't ever want to forget
• 43:29
  Speaker 3: it again. When I was eighteen, the cool thing to
• 43:32
  Speaker 3: do is to get a tattoo because you're allowed. And
• 43:34
  Speaker 3: my sister and I had a thing you're allowed or
• 43:37
  Speaker 3: you're an adult. You're an adult, and they will legally
• 43:39
  Speaker 3: give it to you.
• 43:40
  Speaker 2: Because I'm literally like, you're not allowed in my house
• 43:43
  Speaker 2: because my son just turned eighteen.
• 43:44
  Speaker 3: My dad didn't know for a very long time. Yeah,
• 43:47
  Speaker 3: my sister and I had a thing for butterflies, and
• 43:49
  Speaker 3: she's my very best friend in the entire world, and
• 43:52
  Speaker 3: we went together once she turned eighteen.
• 43:54
  Speaker 2: Yep.
• 43:54
  Speaker 3: And I have it on my right foot. She has
• 43:57
  Speaker 3: the exact same butterfly image on her left foot, so
• 44:01
  Speaker 3: when we stand together, we both have it and I
• 44:04
  Speaker 3: still love it to this day. I love it.
• 44:05
  Speaker 2: I have that.
• 44:06
  Speaker 3: I have this one on my ribs and then I
• 44:07
  Speaker 3: have just on my wrist. I have my kids birth
• 44:10
  Speaker 3: dates because I travel so much, and also when I
• 44:13
  Speaker 3: got divorced and had to, you know, split the kids
• 44:15
  Speaker 3: into two different homes, and I miss them. This I
• 44:17
  Speaker 3: just I love it. I touch it, I see it,
• 44:20
  Speaker 3: and it makes me think of my children to love it.
• 44:21
  Speaker 3: But back to my feet, since this is my bright
• 44:25
  Speaker 3: and shining moment, I will have you know that when
• 44:28
  Speaker 3: I get my pedicure, they do compliment how big my
• 44:31
  Speaker 3: nail beds are. Yes, for real, they have a very
• 44:36
  Speaker 3: nice palette. Trista to paint my nails not so much
• 44:40
  Speaker 3: and for those same thing as my nail You didn't
• 44:42
  Speaker 3: know that my my toes are a solid four inches
• 44:46
  Speaker 3: longer than Trista's foot.
• 44:49
  Speaker 2: They are not inches. You don't know your inches. She's
• 44:52
  Speaker 2: not a mathematician people.
• 44:54
  Speaker 3: I wear a nine. I wear a nine, I'm not
• 44:56
  Speaker 3: a seven. That's very it's very flattering because I am
• 44:59
  Speaker 3: a short human and being I am five foot four,
• 45:01
  Speaker 3: you would not expect me to have this massively gargantuan foot. Unfortunately,
• 45:06
  Speaker 3: my toes take up at least three inches of my foot.
• 45:11
  Speaker 3: People should pay for this, I really, I know, selling
• 45:14
  Speaker 3: myself for real.
• 45:15
  Speaker 2: I'm like we might be joining all the only fans. People.
• 45:18
  Speaker 2: You might have to look only fans for feet.
• 45:20
  Speaker 3: That would pay me a good dollar for me to
• 45:22
  Speaker 3: describe these nines in my running shoe on the and
• 45:26
  Speaker 3: a half.
• 45:26
  Speaker 1: For sure, Trista, are you a six and a half?
• 45:29
  Speaker 3: I'm a six?
• 45:30
  Speaker 1: Okay, looks like we have to update some some wiki
• 45:32
  Speaker 1: feed data. Your score.
• 45:34
  Speaker 2: I'm very nervous to hear my score, but yes, please tell.
• 45:37
  Speaker 1: Me point seven seven.
• 45:42
  Speaker 3: So I'm so happy. This is so exciting, this is
• 45:47
  Speaker 3: so exciting.
• 45:47
  Speaker 1: These are both like the very top.
• 45:49
  Speaker 2: Wow, but like, what are like? What's the average? Do
• 45:54
  Speaker 2: we know what the average wiki feet score is?
• 45:57
  Speaker 4: Like?
• 45:58
  Speaker 3: Do they give like two or do you.
• 46:01
  Speaker 2: Know what I mean?
• 46:01
  Speaker 4: I will look into this. I do not know that
• 46:03
  Speaker 4: much about Wiki fee is about their son. Everyone listening
• 46:06
  Speaker 4: is my first time on this website.
• 46:09
  Speaker 3: I will tell you I made a conscious effort over
• 46:11
  Speaker 3: time when I saw other celebrities. I am not one,
• 46:16
  Speaker 3: but when I saw their pictures on the red carpet
• 46:18
  Speaker 3: and their shoes were too small, oh and the toes
• 46:21
  Speaker 3: go over. I talked about this on a different podcast.
• 46:24
  Speaker 3: There are certain things that are a hard pass for
• 46:27
  Speaker 3: saying that I can't sit past sam with men. It's
• 46:30
  Speaker 3: dark jeans and case Swiss tennis shoes. I can't get
• 46:32
  Speaker 3: past it. And then what about birkenstocks and socks? I
• 46:37
  Speaker 3: love it. I'll do it up down. My husband does that.
• 46:39
  Speaker 3: I saw pictures of women on a red carpet one
• 46:43
  Speaker 3: time where the shoes were too small and their toes
• 46:46
  Speaker 3: creep over the edge and they were like climbed, and
• 46:50
  Speaker 3: I just thought, if I have to wear heels that
• 46:52
  Speaker 3: are three sizes too big, please Lord, don't ever let
• 46:56
  Speaker 3: my toes crawl over me. And I would be open
• 47:00
  Speaker 3: to if someone finds a photo with my toes hanging
• 47:03
  Speaker 3: off the ledge of my shoe, please, by all means,
• 47:05
  Speaker 3: send it to tell me.
• 47:06
  Speaker 2: You tell me that's a beautiful pot to me.
• 47:09
  Speaker 1: I just found someone else on Wiki beat.
• 47:10
  Speaker 3: Okay, Ryan, Oh god, what's his score?
• 47:14
  Speaker 1: Oh yeah, four point three six?
• 47:16
  Speaker 3: Yeah, we've got a beat.
• 47:17
  Speaker 1: Is he a size thirteen?
• 47:19
  Speaker 3: He's size eleven?
• 47:20
  Speaker 2: Right? Wow?
• 47:21
  Speaker 3: I mean Ryan has many wonderful redeeming qualities, but we
• 47:25
  Speaker 3: can let him not have the foot score like that's okay.
• 47:28
  Speaker 2: We always tease and you guys, I'm taking this back
• 47:30
  Speaker 2: as ammunition to say, Babe, I have a four point
• 47:33
  Speaker 2: seven to seven.
• 47:34
  Speaker 3: You've got My Wiki feet score is better than yours. Also,
• 47:37
  Speaker 3: you know what they say trista with men and big
• 47:39
  Speaker 3: shoe sizes that they have big, big shoes.
• 47:44
  Speaker 2: Yeah.
• 47:49
  Speaker 1: Would you like to know about Guinea's score?
• 47:51
  Speaker 3: Yeah, we need to know Bob's. I can't wait. Should
• 47:54
  Speaker 3: we bring him in here so that he can hear
• 47:57
  Speaker 3: Noah for another hour?
• 47:59
  Speaker 1: Yeah? So Ryan's at four point three six, Bob Guinea
• 48:03
  Speaker 1: is at four point three three?
• 48:07
  Speaker 2: What about Ben Ben Higgins?
• 48:10
  Speaker 3: We're getting leverage. Now, we're getting leverage.
• 48:12
  Speaker 2: I just need to know Ben's and then we're done.
• 48:14
  Speaker 1: Four.
• 48:21
  Speaker 3: Really, he's done well for himself. He's really thrived. And Okay, Ashley,
• 48:27
  Speaker 3: sorry to ask for Ashley.
• 48:29
  Speaker 2: Ashley, Okay, let's let's go because we have to do
• 48:31
  Speaker 2: almost famous and then we're done.
• 48:33
  Speaker 1: Yes, four point four to four?
• 48:36
  Speaker 3: Oh boy?
• 48:36
  Speaker 2: Wow. So I know that this hasn't officially been announced yet,
• 48:42
  Speaker 2: but I know something and I'm really excited for you
• 48:46
  Speaker 2: to be able to share it with everybody.
• 48:49
  Speaker 3: I think there's some great things in store for me.
• 48:51
  Speaker 3: I totally agree.
• 48:52
  Speaker 2: Thank you, my friend,