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EP242: Billou & Arpa - Entitlement Vs. Gratitude · The Sovereign Man Podcast

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  Speaker 1: - So everyone should understand that
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  Speaker 1: there's that trust account.
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  Speaker 1: All of them require giving.
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  Speaker 1: So if you're going into a relationship,
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  Speaker 1: that you need to make regular deposits in.
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  Speaker 1: And if you're not making deposits,
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  Speaker 1: you can't make withdrawals.
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  Speaker 2: - You're a man living in the modern world
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  Speaker 2: In a time when men and manhood are not what they once were,
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  Speaker 2: you live life on your own terms.
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  Speaker 2: You're self-sufficient.
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  Speaker 2: You think for yourself
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  Speaker 2: and you march to the beat of your own drum.
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  Speaker 2: When life knocks you down, you get back up
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  Speaker 2: because in your gut, you know that's what men do.
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  Speaker 2: You're a badass and a warrior.
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  Speaker 2: And on the days when you forget,
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  Speaker 2: we are here to remind you who you really are.
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  Nicky Billou: - Welcome to "Sovereign Man Podcast,"
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  Nicky Billou: where we aim to make men masculine again.
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  Nicky Billou: I'm your man, Nicky Billou.
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  Nicky Billou: I'm here with my man, Rob Arpa.
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  Nicky Billou: Welcome, Arps.
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  Nicky Billou: - Thanks, brother.
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  Nicky Billou: - So brother, let's talk a bit about
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  Nicky Billou: entitlement versus gratitude.
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  Nicky Billou: So there's a lot of men today
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  Nicky Billou: that have a communist mindset,
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  Nicky Billou: by which I mean an entitled mindset.
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  Nicky Billou: And men who have a capitalist mindset
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  Nicky Billou: have a gratitude mindset.
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  Nicky Billou: - Yes.
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  Nicky Billou: - So would you talk to me
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  Nicky Billou: about what is the definition of an entitlement mindset
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  Nicky Billou: versus a gratitude mindset?
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  Speaker 1: - Yeah, so I think to put it in plain English as possible,
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  Speaker 1: you know, entitlement is a mindset of someone
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  Speaker 1: that thinks they deserve something, right?
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  Speaker 1: I get this a lot with my business too.
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  Speaker 1: I get young employees that think they deserve,
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  Speaker 1: you know, these higher pay rates and stuff like that.
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  Speaker 1: Uh, like, don't get me wrong.
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  Speaker 1: I understand the, the market conditions they're experiencing.
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  Speaker 1: Then at the same time, you know, someone with zero proven, uh, skill
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  Speaker 1: sets can't really like technically they're not entitled to anything.
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  Speaker 1: Um, so, you know, it's like, it's like an automatic, uh,
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  Speaker 1: qualification for benefit.
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  Speaker 1: You know, you know what I'm saying?
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  Speaker 1: Is that, is that clear to you?
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  Speaker 1: - Gratitude, you know, what the automatic entitlement
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  Speaker 1: to benefit, that's like someone that thinks
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  Speaker 1: that they should receive something of value for nothing,
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  Speaker 1: which technically I guess--
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  Nicky Billou: - They haven't earned it, is what you're trying
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  Nicky Billou: to say here, right?
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  Speaker 1: - Yeah, exactly.
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  Speaker 1: It's unearned.
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  Speaker 1: They think that just because they were born
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  Speaker 1: or migrated to a certain country,
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  Speaker 1: that there's benefits they should receive
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  Speaker 1: just for the sake of being there.
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  Speaker 1: I think that's not the whole socialist/communist platform, is that everybody is equal, when in actuality, that's not really how it works.
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  Nicky Billou: They're not saying everybody's equal, they're saying everybody deserves equal results.
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  Nicky Billou: That's the whole problem.
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  Nicky Billou: Like before God, we're all equal, but we don't all deserve equal results in life. You deserve the results you generate.
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  Speaker 1: I forget who studied it.
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  Nicky Billou: Because Thomas Jefferson in the Declaration of Independence said all men are created equal.
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  Nicky Billou: Created equal.
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  Nicky Billou: Right.
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  Nicky Billou: We are all created equal.
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  Nicky Billou: Yes.
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  Nicky Billou: We don't go through life equal in terms of what we deserve.
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  Nicky Billou: What we deserve is a function of what we earn.
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  Speaker 1: Correct?
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  Speaker 1: Well, I think what we earn is a bit of an odd way to say it, but I think it's value.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of people have this odd notion of self-value and what value they produce for somebody else.
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  Speaker 1: Even with the whole idea of a debt currency, I get into arguments with people too around
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  Speaker 1: this debt currency idea.
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  Speaker 1: like if you if you're providing a value to someone else, that are going to pay
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  Speaker 1: you for that value. Now, how much value is a is always a, you know, a great
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  Speaker 1: contention. Yeah, but there's hope because that's an exchange of value, not
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  Speaker 1: a not something for nothing, which is the promise that the socialists and the
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  Speaker 1: communists use as their gateway into into power. But that's not the reality
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  Nicky Billou: of what happens after the fact, right?
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  Speaker 1: So, you know, to have that entitlement and mindset
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  Speaker 1: where youth, where someone thinks
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  Speaker 1: they automatically deserve benefits
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  Speaker 1: without providing any sort of value,
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  Speaker 1: in my eyes is 100% fucking incorrect.
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  Speaker 1: There's absolutely no way.
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  Speaker 1: And like, not for nothing, man,
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  Speaker 1: like I'm not exactly the richest man
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  Speaker 1: that fucking walks the earth,
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  Speaker 1: and I'm quite content with what I get
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  Speaker 1: understand that I get paid for the value that I put out there.
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  Speaker 1: Now, is my self-value slightly higher than my competitors?
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  Speaker 1: Maybe, maybe below.
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  Speaker 1: But I honestly truly believe that in a free, open capitalist market, you are going to get
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  Speaker 1: paid what you deserve based on what kind of value you're producing.
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  Speaker 1: You know, we're now we're saying gratitude mindset, gratitude mindset is someone that
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  Speaker 1: understands, you know, that they aren't there, they're not do anything for nothing.
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  Speaker 1: Right.
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  Speaker 1: So you're, you know, so someone that is in that gratitude mindset, is grateful for the
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  Speaker 1: opportunities that they have to express their value in exchange for, you know, some sort
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  Speaker 1: benefit, whether that's cash or something else. And I think that's the thing that gets lost.
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  Speaker 1: A lot of our young students in our social school system, they're being taught this entitlement
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  Speaker 1: behavior. And I think that's partially to do because the school system, post-secondary,
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  Speaker 1: is a for-profit enterprise.
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  Speaker 1: Now, let's be clear, like under taxation,
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  Speaker 1: they might fall under non-profit
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  Speaker 1: because they're going to take a bunch of that profit
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  Speaker 1: and they're going to spend it on stupidities
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  Speaker 1: like stadiums they don't need
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  Speaker 1: and other centers they don't really require
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  Speaker 1: to do the job that they're supposed to do
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  Speaker 1: and they just do that and that.
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  Speaker 1: In my opinion, it'll wait to
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  Speaker 1: launder fucking money.
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  Speaker 1: But the people that are running those institutions,
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  Speaker 1: they're not doing it out of the goodness of their fucking heart.
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  Speaker 1: They're doing it because they're getting paid
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  Speaker 1: and they're getting paid well.
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  Speaker 1: You know, you can look at whoever, you know, the board of directors at U of T, the CEOs
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  Speaker 1: of all these institutions that are post-secondary, they're not doing it for fucking free.
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  Speaker 1: And there's nothing wrong with that.
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  Speaker 1: But I think for them to convolute the message of saying, oh, if you come to our school and
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  Speaker 1: you graduate from this program, you are entitled to these benefits is a load of horseshit that
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  Speaker 1: they should not be spewing.
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  Speaker 1: And I think that's a big problem with our current society today.
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  Speaker 1: People's, you know, students are being told that they are entitled to something because of their education,
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  Speaker 1: which is in fact not true.
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  Speaker 1: And the data actually shows that our forefathers who've learned by doing rather than studying,
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  Speaker 1: actually have an increased efficiency doing the same exact work.
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  Speaker 1: So as they're being replaced by students of school,
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  Speaker 1: their efficiency and therefore their value
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  Speaker 1: is lower than their predecessors who learned,
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  Speaker 1: you know, climbing the ranks and doing it the hard way, so to speak.
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  Nicky Billou: So the truth of the matter is that a man with a gratitude
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  Nicky Billou: mindset is grateful for his opportunities.
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  Nicky Billou: Yes. He does not.
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  Nicky Billou: He does not expect to be handed opportunities. Right.
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  Nicky Billou: He goes out there and finds a way to create
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  Nicky Billou: or uncover opportunity.
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  Nicky Billou: And then he shows gratitude for them and he acts.
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  Nicky Billou: While an entitled person sits there whining,
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  Nicky Billou: complaining because of their neuroses
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  Nicky Billou: and their insecurities.
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  Nicky Billou: And as a result of these neuroses and insecurities,
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  Nicky Billou: they don't actually show any gratitude.
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  Nicky Billou: So opportunities don't come their way.
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  Nicky Billou: and they become part of the problem
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  Nicky Billou: in a free Western society.
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  Nicky Billou: And let's be honest with everybody here.
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  Nicky Billou: There is going to be a time where the productive classes
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  Nicky Billou: are gonna stop giving a crap
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  Nicky Billou: about what the entitled classes think.
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  Nicky Billou: - Yeah.
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  Nicky Billou: - And when that happens,
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  Nicky Billou: - I think it seems to work.
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  Nicky Billou: - If that happens, there's gonna be a cold civil war,
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  Nicky Billou: which I think is already in place.
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  Speaker 1: - Underway.
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  Nicky Billou: - And at some point it could turn hot.
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  Nicky Billou: The problem that these socialist entitled types don't understand is that the capable
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  Nicky Billou: classes will kick the crap out of them if the Civil War ever goes hot.
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  Nicky Billou: Because most of them are the ones who, first of all, have weaponry, right?
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  Nicky Billou: Secondly, know how to use it.
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  Nicky Billou: And thirdly, if they get to the point where they think, "Okay, the only way this is
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  Nicky Billou: gonna go our way is for this to go hot," man, they're gonna fight to win.
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  Nicky Billou: They're gonna be grateful for the opportunity to fight to win.
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  Nicky Billou: While the entitled classes are gonna wind their way to defeat.
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  Nicky Billou: So to me, the entitled socialist Marxist classes are on their way to defeat and oblivion.
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  Nicky Billou: Perhaps even destruction, really.
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  Nicky Billou: Not physical destruction, at least mental and emotional destruction.
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  Nicky Billou: I wonder your thoughts on that, Art?
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  Nicky Billou: Yeah, so you propose a very, very interesting outlook.
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  Speaker 1: That's not exactly what I'm seeing.
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  Speaker 1: let's look at what's going on in today's world, right? Where you have China and Russia as what
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  Speaker 1: we can consider as the, well China's probably the best example of the epitome of what a loosened
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  Speaker 1: version of communism, closest to socialism could possibly be. But we can also see that,
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  Speaker 1: if you remove the Hong Kong portion of that equation out,
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  Speaker 1: nobody emigrates to China.
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  Speaker 1: No one.
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  Speaker 1: No, no, no.
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  Speaker 1: People will like, yes, because they're open, Westerners and others will try and do,
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  Speaker 1: you know, business with them.
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  Speaker 1: Yup.
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  Speaker 1: Um, and, and maybe there's some that are there, uh, for, for a portion because of,
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  Speaker 1: because of that business that they do with them, but nobody goes to China for
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  Speaker 1: looking for a better life.
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  Speaker 1: You know what I mean?
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  Speaker 1: But then when you look at the flip side now, let's look at someone like Javier Mele, who
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  Speaker 1: I'm a fan of, who's gone out and openly said, the stats are out there, having a free and
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  Speaker 1: open market with the least amount of government intervention pulls more people out of poverty
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  Speaker 1: into the middle class and into the upper class
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  Speaker 1: than any other system out there.
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  Speaker 1: And he was fighting to open up Argentina's market
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  Speaker 1: and who is ideally, what he's doing is saying
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  Speaker 1: to everyone in the world, as countries like ours
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  Speaker 1: is trying to cage wealth in the country,
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  Speaker 1: he's looking to attract wealth and investment, right?
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  Speaker 1: Now let's look at like say the state of California
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  Speaker 1: versus the state of Texas,
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  Speaker 1: where California is kind of doing the exact same thing
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  Speaker 1: Canada's doing, where they're trying to entrap
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  Speaker 1: their wealth because it's been driven from them out
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  Speaker 1: to a state like Texas, right?
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  Speaker 1: And states like Texas, same thing with New York.
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  Speaker 1: New York is trying to do the same thing.
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  Speaker 1: They just elected Mandami there who's--
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  Speaker 1: - Yeah, well, he's a communist, right?
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  Speaker 1: He's a communist in socialist clothing,
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  Speaker 1: which is really what it all is.
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  Nicky Billou: - Yeah, he's an obvious, he's almost like
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  Nicky Billou: you're saying he's a communist.
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  Speaker 1: - But he did, he pulled off the exact communist move
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  Speaker 1: where the promise of the socialized programs
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  Speaker 1: with government owned grocery stores or whatever, whatever.
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  Speaker 1: And then it's turned out that,
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  Speaker 1: that's not exactly what he's doing
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  Speaker 1: because the utopian view that they promised
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  Speaker 1: does not fucking exist.
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  Speaker 1: Right, like it's just, it's a marketed lie
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  Speaker 1: to convince people who may be having a rough go at it
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  Speaker 1: or is acting out of pure jealousy and spite.
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  Speaker 1: And that's really what entitlement is, right?
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  Speaker 1: It's a very jealous entitlement,
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  Speaker 1: jealousy that leads to entitlement, right?
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  Speaker 1: Where one person sees what the foods
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  Speaker 1: of another person's labors may be,
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  Speaker 1: and they're like, "Why can't I have that?"
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  Speaker 1: And they don't have the skill set
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  Speaker 1: to provide the value for someone
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  Speaker 1: to earn that and be grateful for it,
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  Speaker 1: so they wanna take it by force.
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  Nicky Billou: - So communism's driven by jealousy and envy,
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  Nicky Billou: while capitalism is driven by, I would say,
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  Nicky Billou: enthusiasm and possibility.
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  Nicky Billou: - Well, I think it's a meritocracy, right?
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  Nicky Billou: It's she who provides the most value.
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  Speaker 1: - No, we already said that.
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  Nicky Billou: I'm talking about what is the emotional underpinning of this.
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  Nicky Billou: The emotional underpinning of communism
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  Nicky Billou: is jealousy and envy, period.
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  Nicky Billou: - I think so.
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  Nicky Billou: - Jealousy and envy.
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  Nicky Billou: The emotional underpinning of free market capitalism
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  Nicky Billou: is excitement, enthusiasm, possibility.
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  Nicky Billou: There's no jealousy, there's no envy.
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  Nicky Billou: There's lots of excitement
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  Nicky Billou: And also gratitude.
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  Speaker 1: - Yeah, gratitude, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: I have not met an individual
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  Speaker 1: who is out there seeking opportunity
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  Speaker 1: and when they achieve that,
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  Speaker 1: they're not grateful for the outcome that they've got.
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  Speaker 1: You know, we see this,
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  Speaker 1: like in the trades, you can see this quite a bit.
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  Speaker 1: And you can tell the difference between,
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  Speaker 1: you know, the person that owns and operates that business
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  Speaker 1: versus employees that are just working in it,
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  Speaker 1: there's a different sense of gratitude, right?
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  Speaker 1: Where the employer knows like,
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  Speaker 1: when you're working contract to contract,
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  Speaker 1: you know, the next contract is never guaranteed
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  Speaker 1: in a timely fashion.
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  Speaker 1: So they're grateful for that.
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  Speaker 1: But you know, it does come with its benefits, right?
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  Speaker 1: All risk comes with benefits,
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  Speaker 1: higher risk, higher benefit.
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  Speaker 1: But where someone that's just an employee
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  Speaker 1: and punching a clock, you know,
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  Speaker 1: there's always an entitlement and expectation of certain hours pay and whatever.
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  Speaker 1: And regardless of sometimes of their performance, if they've had a real high entitlement attitude,
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  Speaker 1: like if you go to Walmart, I'm sure you'll find a bunch of their employees, they have
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  Speaker 1: this entitlement attitude where they think they're there or they feel, because it's not
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  Speaker 1: logical, they feel they have their worth more than what the action
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  Speaker 1: boards are willing to produce.
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  Speaker 1: And they usually go under the lie of, you know, I'll do more if you pay me more
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  Speaker 1: upfront and it's like, yeah, that's not always how it goes.
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  Speaker 1: No, it's not.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: That's not.
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  Nicky Billou: So what can a man who's listening to this do to be more grateful and less entitled?
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  Speaker 1: More grateful and less entitled.
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  Speaker 1: That's, that's a, that's a good question.
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  Speaker 1: you know, because that's gonna, that's almost like a whole state of being change.
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  Speaker 1: You know, how did you ask the question, man?
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  Speaker 1: That thought's come up, like how many times have I stood around a circle
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  Speaker 1: and I hear some of the men getting into the entitlement behavior
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  Speaker 1: and then, you know, this whole discussion of, you know, the entitlement comes up
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  Speaker 1: and it's like, look man, instead of being an entitled brat,
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  Speaker 1: be grateful for the opportunity.
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  Speaker 1: Right. Because, you know, no employee has,
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  Speaker 1: you know, the right to to do a half-assed job.
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  Speaker 1: You know, you're you're you're hired to do that.
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  Speaker 1: And it's like everyone's like needs to embrace the
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  Speaker 1: the the give it your best or stretch your best.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Right. Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Because unless you're exceeding expectation, you really don't have
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  Speaker 1: but the grounds to ask or demand for more.
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  Speaker 1: I forget who said it,
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  Speaker 1: someone I think it was an old idea mantra
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  Speaker 1: from back in the 70s and 80s
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  Speaker 1: was to only promise 10% and always look to over deliver
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  Speaker 1: as if every client was the last
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  Speaker 1: and there was nothing else left after.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, you know, like that's a good quality to possess.
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  Speaker 1: Always try to over deliver on what you promised.
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  Speaker 1: And you know, entirely--
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  Nicky Billou: - Grateful people over deliver.
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  Nicky Billou: So to be more grateful,
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  Nicky Billou: you gotta have an over deliver mindset.
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  Speaker 1: - Yeah, yeah.
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  Speaker 1: To be an over, always look,
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  Speaker 1: whatever the agreement your employer gives you,
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  Speaker 1: take that as your bare minimum standard of operating.
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  Speaker 1: And if you're going to do the bare minimum,
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  Speaker 1: expect the bare minimum.
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  Speaker 1: And I get it.
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  Speaker 1: You know, there are, you know, people will say,
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  Speaker 1: well, you know, I've done X, Y, I've done more,
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  Speaker 1: I've done this, and my employer's taken advantage of me.
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  Speaker 1: Blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
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  Speaker 1: But that's a very small picture.
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  Speaker 1: This is your experience only where you need to balance
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  Speaker 1: and take a look at now,
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  Speaker 1: is it possible that the company cannot afford to pay more?
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  Speaker 1: If you're doing such a great job
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  Speaker 1: and if that employer is not treating you well,
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  Speaker 1: then why stay there?
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  Speaker 1: Go look for other employment.
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  Speaker 1: I can't tell you how many people I've come across
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  Speaker 1: that have this mentality where
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  Speaker 1: they won't leave the position they're in,
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  Speaker 1: they're going to sit there and wait until they're fired.
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  Speaker 1: And it's such an odd way of seeing--
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  Speaker 1: - That's an entitled mentality.
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  Speaker 1: - Very, very entitled, right?
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  Speaker 1: You think you're worth more,
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  Speaker 1: So you're going to do less until you're terminated, which makes
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  Speaker 1: that zero, zero sets, but that's why people earn the least amount
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  Speaker 1: of money that they earn.
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  Speaker 1: Most employers, believe it or not, for people that aren't employed,
• 19:15
  Speaker 1: that are listening to this, an employer's expectation of you doing
• 19:19
  Speaker 1: your job is at a 50% level.
• 19:21
  Speaker 1: If you do half the job you're supposed to do, they will, they will drag
• 19:26
  Speaker 1: your employment out in definitely.
• 19:29
  Speaker 1: If you do more and you, you know, you threaten to leave 75% more, they might
• 19:35
  Speaker 1: entertain it.
• 19:36
  Speaker 1: You do a hundred percent more like they're, they're going to do whatever they can to
• 19:40
  Speaker 1: keep you.
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  Speaker 1: But if you're doing 50% or less and you threaten to leave, they're not going to
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: care.
• 19:46
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 19:47
  Speaker 1: They're going to kick your ass out.
• 19:48
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 19:49
  Speaker 1: I've got employees in my, in my organization right now that are 50% or less.
• 19:56
  Speaker 1: Uh, but they're smart enough to know that if they threatened to leave that I just
• 19:59
  Speaker 1: told him to walk.
• 20:00
  Speaker 1: So they haven't done that, but, uh, we'll be actively looking to replace some of
• 20:05
  Speaker 1: them, you know, this spring.
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 20:07
  Speaker 1: It's facts.
• 20:08
  Speaker 1: It's facts.
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: No.
• 20:09
  Speaker 1: Well, yeah.
• 20:10
  Speaker 1: At the end of the day, as, as the employer, I have to, I have to look out for
• 20:15
  Speaker 1: what's best for everyone and their families and not just one individual and, and
• 20:21
  Speaker 1: their own circumstances.
• 20:23
  Speaker 1: I need to make sure our company is profitable for the longevity for everybody involved.
• 20:31
  Speaker 1: That's not just a single employee.
• 20:33
  Speaker 1: That's nine of them, their families, my suppliers, their families.
• 20:39
  Speaker 1: Everyone's got a stake in our business to succeed.
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: So I can't make full business decisions based on one person.
• 20:46
  Speaker 1: That's not going to happen.
• 20:47
  Speaker 1: It's not going to work in their favor.
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  Speaker 1: someone that's grateful and expresses gratitude, you know,
• 20:53
  Speaker 1: they'll, they'll go above and beyond to do their job.
• 20:55
  Speaker 1: They'll be happy to do their job.
• 20:57
  Speaker 1: They'll be happy to earn what they earn.
• 20:59
  Speaker 1: And, you know, if someone did that job that well, and came to me and asked me,
• 21:04
  Speaker 1: you know, can, can you afford to pay me a little more?
• 21:07
  Speaker 1: I would do everything I could to ensure that they were being happy.
• 21:11
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: I love it.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: Love it.
• 21:13
  Speaker 1: I think another, another thing too, the entitlement versus the gratitude thing.
• 21:19
  Speaker 1: I find that people who have an entitled mentality are often not spiritual people.
• 21:27
  Nicky Billou: Yeah, entitled or not.
• 21:30
  Nicky Billou: Not spiritual at all.
• 21:32
  Nicky Billou: Not only that, they don't believe in God.
• 21:35
  Speaker 1: Yeah, yeah.
• 21:36
  Speaker 1: You know, it's crazy.
• 21:40
  Speaker 1: But even science doesn't carry.
• 21:42
  Nicky Billou: They are atheists.
• 21:43
  Speaker 1: Yeah, they're weird people.
• 21:46
  Speaker 1: They are odd people.
• 21:47
  Speaker 1: I've never met...
• 21:49
  Speaker 1: - They are weird and odd.
• 21:51
  Speaker 1: - Like I've met some religious people that are not nice,
• 21:54
  Speaker 1: but I've never met a religious person
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  Speaker 1: that wasn't grateful to some extent for what they have.
• 22:02
  Nicky Billou: - You are spitting facts, Mark.
• 22:04
  Nicky Billou: You are spitting facts.
• 22:05
  Nicky Billou: This is 1000% correct.
• 22:07
  Nicky Billou: - Yeah.
• 22:07
  Nicky Billou: - 1000% correct.
• 22:09
  Speaker 1: - Yeah, so my advice to anyone that's out there,
• 22:13
  Speaker 1: enter into the workplace with a great,
• 22:16
  Speaker 1: having that mindset of being grateful,
• 22:19
  Speaker 1: that gratitude mindset.
• 22:20
  Speaker 1: - But this is more about just the workplace, okay?
• 22:22
  Nicky Billou: This is about life.
• 22:24
  Nicky Billou: - This is life.
• 22:24
  Nicky Billou: - As a whole, right?
• 22:25
  Nicky Billou: 'Cause it's--
• 22:26
  Nicky Billou: - Yeah, well as--
• 22:27
  Nicky Billou: - You're in a relationship with somebody,
• 22:29
  Nicky Billou: and as a man, you can't be some entitled little punk.
• 22:33
  Nicky Billou: You know, you're gonna lose that friendship,
• 22:36
  Nicky Billou: you're gonna lose that relationship, it's over.
• 22:38
  Nicky Billou: You gotta be grateful you're in the relationship.
• 22:41
  Nicky Billou: - Yeah, yeah.
• 22:42
  Nicky Billou: - Right?
• 22:43
  Nicky Billou: - When you're in ties with somebody,
• 22:44
  Nicky Billou: you can't be entitled to that friendship.
• 22:47
  Nicky Billou: You gotta be grateful that you're friends with that person.
• 22:50
  Nicky Billou: I'm grateful you and I are friends.
• 22:52
  Nicky Billou: I'm fucking super grateful.
• 22:54
  Nicky Billou: I'm grateful that you and I work together in Sovereign Man.
• 22:57
  Nicky Billou: I'm a thousand percent grateful.
• 22:59
  Nicky Billou: Like every freaking day, I'm like,
• 23:01
  Nicky Billou: fuck, pinch me, man, I'm not doing this all by myself.
• 23:03
  Nicky Billou: I got ARPA helping me out.
• 23:05
  Nicky Billou: I'm so grateful.
• 23:05
  Speaker 1: - And a few others, yeah.
• 23:07
  Nicky Billou: - Yeah, and a few others too, for sure.
• 23:08
  Nicky Billou: - And a few others, yeah.
• 23:09
  Nicky Billou: - It started with you and me,
• 23:11
  Nicky Billou: and as we were going through this,
• 23:12
  Nicky Billou: we thought, you know what, we're gonna need
• 23:13
  Nicky Billou: to grow other leaders and we're gonna need help.
• 23:17
  Nicky Billou: And the more people we brought into leadership,
• 23:20
  Nicky Billou: easier things got for us, right?
• 23:22
  Nicky Billou: Those less stuff, shit that we had to do
• 23:26
  Nicky Billou: because many hands make for light work.
• 23:29
  Speaker 1: - Yes, 100%.
• 23:31
  Speaker 1: And that's the truth in any endeavor.
• 23:35
  Speaker 1: I think, you know, in terms of many hands
• 23:38
  Speaker 1: making for light work, maybe the process
• 23:41
  Speaker 1: which, you know, a task is accomplished, it wouldn't be the same way you do it.
• 23:45
  Speaker 1: You know, or maybe the outcome isn't as good as someone, you know, as you would
• 23:48
  Speaker 1: do it, but at least it gets done to this level of competency until you find, you
• 23:53
  Speaker 1: know, the individuals that will, uh, you know, exceed expectations.
• 23:57
  Speaker 1: So it's happened to us before where someone's done something slightly
• 24:00
  Speaker 1: different, but the, the results were better.
• 24:02
  Speaker 1: And then all the time.
• 24:04
  Nicky Billou: Had all the freaking client.
• 24:07
  Nicky Billou: People need to understand that, right.
• 24:10
  Nicky Billou: They really do.
• 24:11
  Speaker 1: - Yeah, I think if there's takeaways,
• 24:15
  Speaker 1: I think men should take away,
• 24:17
  Speaker 1: drop the entitlement, and the man's entitled to shit.
• 24:22
  Speaker 1: And I don't remember if it was Jordan Peterson
• 24:25
  Speaker 1: that said it or who said it,
• 24:27
  Speaker 1: but one of them had said like,
• 24:29
  Speaker 1: when it comes to equality and socialism,
• 24:34
  Speaker 1: everyone's out there,
• 24:36
  Speaker 1: they're fighting for equality of outcome,
• 24:39
  Speaker 1: not equality of opportunity.
• 24:42
  Speaker 1: - And that's nuts.
• 24:43
  Speaker 1: - And that's crazy, because to think that every person
• 24:47
  Speaker 1: has the exact same skill set to produce
• 24:50
  Speaker 1: the exact same results is absolutely ludicrous.
• 24:54
  Speaker 1: Ludicrous.
• 24:56
  Speaker 1: I know how to skate, but I'm not great at fucking hockey,
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: so I don't expect to get NHL player style wages
• 25:03
  Speaker 1: and whatever they get.
• 25:06
  Speaker 1: I don't expect that at all.
• 25:08
  Speaker 1: but I am grateful for the opportunities that I have doing the work that I do.
• 25:14
  Speaker 1: And I'm happy about that.
• 25:15
  Speaker 1: And, you know, you should be on being grateful.
• 25:18
  Speaker 1: We, you know, men that are out there, you know, you should have a givers mentality,
• 25:24
  Speaker 1: you know, back in my old day and I day.
• 25:26
  Speaker 1: So they used to say givers gain because yeah, the gentleman wrote a book on that
• 25:31
  Speaker 1: because he's the person that did the whole thing.
• 25:33
  Speaker 1: But, you know, in our circles, we, we, we talk about, um, uh, the, the, uh,
• 25:38
  Speaker 1: what's it called the, uh, the, uh, account there, the, um, uh, the words.
• 25:43
  Speaker 1: This gives you a little help me out here.
• 25:45
  Speaker 1: The, the, the, it's always part of, uh, early issue of training.
• 25:50
  Nicky Billou: There, you're telling me, and then I'll be able to say, cause I'm not sure.
• 25:53
  Speaker 1: Um, the, uh, the council.
• 25:55
  Speaker 1: So doing things for others allows you to make deposits into,
• 25:59
  Speaker 1: uh, trust account, trust account.
• 26:02
  Speaker 1: There we go.
• 26:03
  Speaker 1: a trust account. So everyone should understand that there's that trust account. And there's
• 26:10
  Speaker 1: ways to make small deposits and large deposits. All of them require giving. So if you're going
• 26:17
  Speaker 1: into a relationship, understand that relationship's going to have a trust account that you need
• 26:24
  Speaker 1: to make regular deposits in. So if you turn it around, and if it doesn't have to be a
• 26:29
  Speaker 1: significant other, it could be your friend, a friendship of sorts.
• 26:35
  Speaker 1: And if you're not making deposits, you can't make withdrawals.
• 26:37
  Speaker 1: The unfortunate part is, unlike today's bank where if they hold your cash and make some
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: kind of interest on that investment, that generally doesn't happen with trust accounts.
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: Withdrawals cost a lot more than the deposits do, but regardless of the fact, if you're
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: making deposits, you know, through, you know, small deposits could be things like
• 26:59
  Speaker 1: showing up to events, you know, where, where larger deposits are giving your
• 27:04
  Speaker 1: best to what you do, you know, everyone loves, you know, likes it when someone
• 27:08
  Speaker 1: goes above and beyond what they promise.
• 27:10
  Speaker 1: Those are larger deposits.
• 27:11
  Speaker 1: And then you, you can, you can draw from that.
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: Um, it's worked for me in my life.
• 27:17
  Speaker 1: I've been able to accomplish quite a few things by, by building
• 27:21
  Speaker 1: trust and drawing on it.
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: So that's things to understand, be grateful for everything you have,
• 27:29
  Speaker 1: seek out to do the best and make the largest deposits possible.
• 27:32
  Speaker 1: And then when the times comes, be grateful when you pull out withdrawal,
• 27:36
  Speaker 1: because you're not entitled to that withdrawal.
• 27:38
  Speaker 1: You put the work in, sure, but there's no entitlement around that.
• 27:41
  Speaker 1: - No entitlement to anything.
• 27:43
  Speaker 1: - No, you're not entitled to anything.
• 27:46
  Speaker 1: No, but you should be, you know, but when you, when you make the ask and the,
• 27:50
  Speaker 1: and the other party agrees and shows up, be grateful, be happy.
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: - Yeah.
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: - It's a much way better way to live life in gratitude rather than entitlement.
• 28:03
  Speaker 1: Because entitlement always leads you down a suck hole of hate, anger, and jealousy,
• 28:08
  Speaker 1: where being grateful, you know, leads to, you know, happiness and contentment.
• 28:13
  Speaker 1: And you know, what else would someone else want to be?
• 28:15
  Speaker 1: Why wouldn't you want to be happy?
• 28:17
  Speaker 1: - Not a thing.
• 28:19
  Nicky Billou: A man is going to win in life when he's grateful and he's happy and he's content and he's gonna lose in life when he's
• 28:26
  Nicky Billou: uh angry jealous
• 28:29
  Speaker 1: Yeah, i've never have you ever met a
• 28:33
  Speaker 1: person
• 28:34
  Speaker 1: Who's created a lot of wealth that was angry
• 28:38
  Speaker 1: Or entitled. Yeah, never never not one person
• 28:42
  Speaker 1: They're always grateful grateful for everything even if even when they're when they're paying me
• 28:48
  Speaker 1: for doing labor, they're always grateful.
• 28:51
  Speaker 1: They really are.
• 28:52
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 28:53
  Speaker 1: They really are.
• 28:54
  Speaker 1: Yeah.
• 28:55
  Speaker 1: It's a beautiful thing.
• 28:56
  Speaker 1: It's a much way better way of being grateful.
• 29:00
  Speaker 1: Yeah. Great episode, Art. Thanks very much.
• 29:03
  Speaker 1: Yeah, anytime. Did we hit all the points that you wanted to get?
• 29:07
  Nicky Billou: Yeah. This topic was well looked over, and we really gave it a strong level of
• 29:18
  Nicky Billou: and we explained the difference between gratitude and entitlement very powerfully and we
• 29:24
  Nicky Billou: Gave men a really good question to ask themselves, which is how can I be more grateful and less entitled in life?
• 29:30
  Speaker 1: Yeah
• 29:31
  Nicky Billou: And if every man wakes up every day and asks that question of himself and spends just a minute thinking about it
• 29:36
  Nicky Billou: Just a minute man. You'll come up with some good answers. I hope them have a better day
• 29:41
  Nicky Billou: Yeah, and that's what we aim to do on the sovereign. Yes, sir
• 29:46
  Nicky Billou: And that's a wrap.
• 29:50
  Speaker 2: Thank you for listening to the Sovereign Man Podcast.
• 29:53
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• 29:57
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