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HASH it OUT! It's a matter of life (and) death! · Johnjay & Rich On Demand

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  Speaker 1: We got a husband and wife that want to hash
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  Speaker 1: it out on our radio show. We've got Becky the wife,
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  Speaker 1: easy Kill the husband. Good morning, both of you.
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  Speaker 2: How are you? Good morning?
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  Speaker 1: Okay. Wait, so since we have Bothy on the phone,
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  Speaker 1: we got to go one at a time. So Becky,
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  Speaker 1: I believe you're the one that reached out to us.
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  Speaker 1: Can what's your situation and hash it out as we
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  Speaker 1: have people kind of like we solve issues on the show.
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  Speaker 2: So Becky, good morning, good morning.
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  Speaker 3: We're big fans of yours. So we were hoping again
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  Speaker 3: help us figure this thing out and navigating this situation.
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  Speaker 3: So my father in law is terminally ill and my
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  Speaker 3: husband wants to pull up this last massive okay list trip.
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  Speaker 3: The reality is that we just don't have the money for.
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  Speaker 3: We will have to get and complete dead for and
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  Speaker 3: it will tank our financial future. Eazy Kills is pretty
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  Speaker 3: much give me an ultimatum if I don't get on
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  Speaker 3: board with this trip, that we'll put it in deck.
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  Speaker 3: He wants a divorce.
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  Speaker 2: Oh yeah, oh my, So, like we have to hear Ezekiel.
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  Speaker 4: My dad is dying. This is probably our last chance
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  Speaker 4: to have like a big family trip. And I know
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  Speaker 4: it's a lot of money. I think you're overthinking it.
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  Speaker 4: We just we put it on the cards and it's fine,
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  Speaker 4: we'll figure it out later.
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  Speaker 3: I mean figuring it out later. It's like how people
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  Speaker 3: end up living with their parents and their parents' basement,
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  Speaker 3: and honestly that's taken right now. But your dad who
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  Speaker 3: is and going through it, and we just don't have
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  Speaker 3: the funds for huge tour in Europe, Like we don't.
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  Speaker 4: It's not like we're it's like a vacation or anything.
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  Speaker 4: This is for the family. This is for all of us.
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  Speaker 4: That creates memories. It's a legacy.
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  Speaker 5: Can I ask you a question, Becky? Yeah, okay, So if
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  Speaker 5: this situation were reversed and it was your father in this,
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  Speaker 5: in this exact situation, would it be worth spending the
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  Speaker 5: money to you?
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  Speaker 3: Then I wouldn't want to put us in a position
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  Speaker 3: where we are going to get a divorce or in
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  Speaker 3: a financial strain that it's like we literally will have
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  Speaker 3: to we wouldn't have money to pay our mortgage. Like
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  Speaker 3: this is not I feel like I will scale it down,
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  Speaker 3: which is what I've been trying to say.
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  Speaker 6: Have you thought about maybe you don't go, and maybe
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  Speaker 6: you let your husband go with his dad if you're
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  Speaker 6: not that close, and then maybe you save half the money.
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  Speaker 2: Right there.
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  Speaker 3: We haven't even talked about that because I got an
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  Speaker 3: ultimatum from a Zekiel that if I was in a
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  Speaker 3: boorg he was contemplating divorce.
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  Speaker 4: I feel like this is a this is a family
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  Speaker 4: thing that we should be able to be doing together.
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  Speaker 4: And honestly, if she's not there or she doesn't want
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  Speaker 4: to be there, then I don't know does she even
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  Speaker 4: want to be a part of this family.
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  Speaker 6: Well, for her, it's a.
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  Speaker 2: Financial thing, not a right.
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  Speaker 7: So I'm wondering, like, do you have to go to
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  Speaker 7: Europe like Easykiel, Is that your dad's like dying wish
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  Speaker 7: that he wants to do Europe? Or can you do
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  Speaker 7: something within the.
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  Speaker 2: States that's maybe good Tennessee.
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  Speaker 7: Go somewhere a little bit closer to home where it's
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  Speaker 7: not international flight.
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  Speaker 6: Oh, like the Paris Hotel in Vegas, it's much closer
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  Speaker 6: something like that.
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  Speaker 7: You know.
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  Speaker 4: No, no, no, I mean we've as part of you know,
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  Speaker 4: our culture. We've never been out of the country. He's
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  Speaker 4: always wanted to go, We've always talked about it. He's
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  Speaker 4: never had a chance to go and I want to
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  Speaker 4: do this for him.
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  Speaker 1: Hey, let me jump int real quick. So when you
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  Speaker 1: take say about going with the family, who's going on
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  Speaker 1: this trip? Who do you want to go in this trip?
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  Speaker 1: How many people?
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  Speaker 3: To me?
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  Speaker 4: Dad, Mom, Becky? Of course? Uh are my dad's brother
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  Speaker 4: maybe wants to come.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, you have to pay for all of it. They
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  Speaker 1: don't have funds that they can help pay for this
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  Speaker 1: to help.
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  Speaker 4: I mean, all the funds are going going to the
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  Speaker 4: thickness and the illness.
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  Speaker 2: Okay.
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  Speaker 1: So I look, I feel like I could speak from
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  Speaker 1: this from experience.
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  Speaker 2: Actually I have very similar to this.
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  Speaker 1: So my sister wanted to take my mom wanted to
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  Speaker 1: go to this little town outside of Paris called Lords,
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  Speaker 1: which was holy Water and he was supposed to heal people.
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  Speaker 1: And my mom really wanted to go. And it was
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  Speaker 1: in October. And I remember telling my sister, I go,
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  Speaker 1: let's just go later.
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  Speaker 2: I go. I can't go. I can't take off whork
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  Speaker 2: and go in October.
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  Speaker 1: I just can't. It's a big ratings period. I go,
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  Speaker 1: there's no way I can go. And my sister got
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  Speaker 1: so mad at me, and she's like, Mom's dying, we
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  Speaker 1: need to go. And I went, and I remember it
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  Speaker 1: was like four days because I was like, I got
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  Speaker 1: to get back.
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  Speaker 2: I got to get back. And I think I had.
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  Speaker 1: This issue in my head where I didn't think my
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  Speaker 1: mom was ever going to pass. I just didn't seem
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  Speaker 1: real to me. And I am so glad I went.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so glad I went. Those pictures pop up all
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  Speaker 1: the time on my memories and we had the best time.
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  Speaker 1: It was really my mom was really started to deterior.
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  Speaker 1: I remember we had to hold her up when we
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  Speaker 1: went places. It was really really sad. But it was
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  Speaker 1: such a great memory and I'm so glad we were
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  Speaker 1: able to do that. So in my you know, so
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  Speaker 1: for me having the experience this, I would say, do it,
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  Speaker 1: put yourself in that credit card debt and figure it
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  Speaker 1: out later.
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  Speaker 2: That's just me.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if all thirty of you need to go.
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  Speaker 1: For me, it was just my sister, my mom and me.
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  Speaker 1: So I don't know why, Ezekil, you just don't go.
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  Speaker 1: Your dad, your mom and you and your dad's brother
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  Speaker 1: or whatever. I don't know if you need, you know,
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  Speaker 1: everybody to go. So that's my two cents.
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  Speaker 5: I mean, Ezekiel, if you did pair down the people going.
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  Speaker 5: That would also make Becky happy because it would be cheaper.
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  Speaker 2: All right, So that's hash it out. Let us know, guys,
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  Speaker 2: let us know what you're gonna do.
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  Speaker 1: Okay, thank you, I hope. I mean, don't threaten divorce either.
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  Speaker 1: I mean a lot of people say terrible things. When
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  Speaker 1: you're going through a parent dying, you say a lot
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  Speaker 1: of things that you regret later.
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  Speaker 2: So you guys should go see a therapist or work
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  Speaker 2: it out. Thank you, Thank you, guys, thanks
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  Speaker 4: Thank you for all that it was well