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Together We Rise: Interview with Nicky Pullen · Terri Messenger's Genius Zone

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  Hey, hey, hey. And I went to the pictures
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  tomorrow. I took a front seat at the back.
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  I fell to the floor to the ceiling.
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  What? And broke a front bone in my
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  back. Gentlemen, ladies and bald
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  headed babies, I come before you to stand behind you to tell you
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  something I know nothing about. But guess what?
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  What I may know nothing or all about, You guys are going to
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  learn something powerful about how together we rise.
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  I am about to bring on the Queen of Sunshine, happiness, war and
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  the absolute woman who will be able to take you through the
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  magic of the formula, an 8 step formula.
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  Now guys, don't get me wrong, when you listen to the program
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  that she's launching, you're not just going to hear what is
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  available to you to be able to jump on board with.
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  You're about to find out how you can break through the barriers
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  of your life and literally rise into your greatest self, knowing
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  with your energetic vibration of what brings you to life, your
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  value system, and so much more. And if you're a guy, hang around
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  guys, because really, there is so much in this for you as well.
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  And with no further ado, I'm bringing on a woman.
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  A Yogi woman. A woman who knows all about the
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  mastery of the mind. She is a master of
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  hypnotherapist, she is the qualified yoga and meditation
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  teacher. And she is about to bring
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  forward the beautiful, the powerful, the deep dive into the
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  power of your flourishing life. So drum roll for the Aussie and
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  Aussie in the house. Nikki Pullin, come on down.
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  Hello, hello And Nikki, where are you right now?
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  Hi Terry, I am in Coochie, Australia, by the beach in NSW.
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  Absolutely beautiful. We have an Aussie in the house.
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  Aussie. Aussie.
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  Aussie. Oi, oi, Oi, it's kind of like
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  it. It's, you know, when you're
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  walking down the street in Bali because you mentioned you
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  haven't been to Bali before. I haven't.
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  Amazingly, I can't believe an Aussie hasn't been to Bali,
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  right? But it's really interesting that
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  the Balinese are really insightful.
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  They're very intuitive, so you know, you'll be walking down the
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  street. And I mean, I get told I look
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  like a European and yet they know I'm an Aussie and they'll
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  go Ozzie, Ozzie, Ozzie. And then you say oy, oy, oy,
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  it's just a real thing over there.
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  So you know, Nikki, you're known for your bright, vibrant warmth,
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  and you know, obviously you've even been given some nicknames.
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  Happiness, Queen, Sunshine, Light, happiness.
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  And I mean, you are basically the epitome of the rise of woman
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  and you live it and you breathe it and you are just so centered
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  in the divine of masculine and feminine.
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  And I think this is what everyone's going to really love
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  as they hear, you know, what you are actually talking about and
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  how you impact people's lives. But you know, I guess everything
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  always starts with a story. And I, what I say is, you know,
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  Terry Messenger's Genius Zone, you know, I mentioned in my last
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  podcast it really should be called our Weakness Zone because
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  it's got a lot to do with our weakness and how something that,
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  you know, really stirred within us and didn't quite work out for
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  us suddenly moved the compass and truly just elevated into our
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  Zone of Genius. But, you know, I'd like to kind
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  of kick off with how you kind of really understood that you were,
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  you were living through your sister.
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  You were kind of looking at your sister as, I don't know whether
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  you were looking at her as a role model or what that was.
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  You can talk talk us through this, But you were obviously
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  seeing your sister's life playing out and wondering why
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  the heck it wasn't happening for you.
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  Can you talk about that? Like, tell us about what your
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  sister was living, what you saw in her that you know, caused you
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  to feel like, you know, why isn't this happening for me?
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  And you know, tell tell our listeners you know how that
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  really impacted your life. OK, sure.
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  So for me, I was. One of the main points, I was 37
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  years old and I was breaking up with yet another boyfriend and I
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  was devastated. Totally devastated.
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  Not not because I was breaking up with that boyfriend, he he
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  was definitely not right for me, but because I was breaking up
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  again and I desperately wanted family.
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  And this is where my sister comes in, because she was
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  pregnant with baby #4 and I couldn't.
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  Believe it, it was. It hit me to the core because,
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  you know, it was as though she was living my life, as though
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  our lives had been switched. She was living on the beach in
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  Byron Bay, which is our hometown, And with baby #4 on
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  the way, with a loving partner and a house on the beach and all
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  the things that really mattered to me and I yeah, it was like
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  our lives had been switched. I found myself this morning on
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  the. I I was started to eat my
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  breakfast and I just started the tears well up and I just really
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  started to cry and fall apart and I just felt absolute rock
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  bottom. So that was the epitome of that
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  point in time. I just felt so rock bottom.
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  It was a real dark night of the soul like why can't I make this
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  happen for me How is how is this possible.
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  And I just was crying and crying and in that moment a.
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  In that moment, one of the guys from work called, and he
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  couldn't believe he found me in that position because I was
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  always, always the bright, sparkly, happy, you know, wisdom
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  for everybody. And he was just like, Oh my God,
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  pull yourself together, you know, in that moment.
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  So there was no space for that. And miraculously, his wife was
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  in the car next to him, and she'd overheard that
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  conversation. And she called straight back and
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  she said, Nikki, I don't know what's happened.
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  But I can hear you're at rock bottom and it happens to all of
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  us at some point. Here's the number for my
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  kinesiologist. Go and see her.
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  She will help. She's beautiful.
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  And I just, it was like an Angel sweeping in in that moment.
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  You know this opportunity, something to do, some step to
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  take. And so I literally all I could
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  do that day was book this appointment I went and as I
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  walked up the stairs of this. Beautiful light filled room, the
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  essential oils smells came in and everything just started to
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  lift and I climbed up onto that table feeling super fragile and
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  I watched that this woman asked my body questions and my body
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  responded with this wisdom that I just had never seen or known
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  before and it was mind blowing and beautiful and holistic and
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  this incredible rest. Place of seeing this
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  self-awareness and from this restful place which and an
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  acceptance of being in this falling apart place.
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  And so at the end of that session she said to me, you know
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  practice some more quietness and stillness going within.
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  And I said I practiced yoga and she said great, do more of that,
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  do more of that. And so when I went to yoga that
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  night. I asked about teacher training
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  and I signed up for for teacher training and at the yoga center.
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  I practiced and it was a two year deep dive.
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  It was a complete spiritual journey.
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  Oh yeah. Yoga is one of the, you know,
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  one of the most absolutely respected disciplines I've come
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  across. I think yoga is so
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  underestimated, really, because every single Yogi that I know,
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  you know that they really have some of the best practices, but
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  they're woefully, a lot of them are woefully underpaid.
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  Yeah, it's so interesting because I think in the West it's
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  become very much part of the exercise regime rather than the
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  deeper journey of the yoga practice.
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  You know, things change with the times.
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  But yeah, so that that was a massive turning point for me.
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  I went into that deep yoga journey and really that was
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  about shining the light within and actually learning who I was
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  and what my needs and wants and wishes and desires were.
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  And so I went really to the core of my being.
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  And that was the incredible journey of realization with my
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  sister that I've been trying to live a life that.
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  Matched her values without even realizing.
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  This is how these inner barriers are so invisible to us.
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  So did you actually tell her, Nikki, Like, did you say we've,
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  you know, switched lives? Or did you ever explain that to
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  her? I don't know.
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  Yeah, I don't. I look, I tried.
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  This is one of those situations that I had with my sister and
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  this is how I'm so passionate about women supporting women
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  because we. You know, for her it seems more
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  of a threat to have a conversation like that rather
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  than a safe place to to unpack it and to be there for each
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  other. And you know, you know, I've
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  been through some tough times with her, but the the main
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  thing, because I love her two bits and I know she does me too.
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  And realizing that she doesn't love me any less ever.
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  It's just there isn't this capacity or this allowance of
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  women being in. Listening, understanding,
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  hearing, holding all of those things and it's not a threat in
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  any way. So, and that's where I think,
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  you know, this is she needs to switch with you.
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  So it sounds like she needs a little bit of you and you need a
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  little bit of her, you know. So it could have gone both ways
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  in this case, but I hear you so and I feel like this really
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  aligns in with a lot of your story too, which we'll go deeper
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  into a little later because you know, you're talking, you know,
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  from the place of how many women are just channeling themselves
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  into being that person for other people.
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  And you know, and yet also feeling closed down, you know,
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  to to some degree. And you've got a really good
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  explanation for, you know, those women out there.
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  And I know men listen to this podcast too.
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  And we we never exclude you men. Because you know, I I work with
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  the men and the ladies. And I know that even if a man
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  gets to hear the way another woman feels the way that we
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  think, that's gonna really empower you men out there
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  anyways. However, one of the things that
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  you know really happened, apart from the fact that obviously you
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  had that moment at 37, that realization.
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  And I love the story, I love the way you talk about, even as you
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  were going up the steps and taking us through that whole.
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  I mean, it's part of your mastery, right, as a
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  hypnotherapist. And you know that you're already
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  doing that kind of hypnosis by allowing us to to almost imagine
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  what that fragrance of, you know, a aroma of smells that's
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  coming out of the room as you lay down on that bench and and
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  this lady puts her hands on you and discovers that the body is
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  actually like the book is keeping the school because the
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  body can't lie. Right.
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  Right. And yeah, the body just cannot
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  lie. So you know how incredible.
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  Like, I thought it was the weirdest thing.
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  You know, like my husband's a chiropractor and I thought it
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  was the weirdest thing cuz like when we got together there was a
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  lot of speculation and all talk and everything around that.
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  And I remember my kids feeling quite auntie and and and feeling
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  a little bit sort of held back by who's this new man in mum's
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  life. And you know, he's a lot older
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  than me and all those things. And if there was one thing that
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  I remember came back to us that kind of really was to confirm
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  that maybe I was falling for a weirdo, It was when he put a
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  purple book on one of them and opened it up and could actually,
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  the book could actually see where the problems were in the
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  body. But this book, Nikki, like what
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  you're talking about with the kinesiology, it holds like
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  trapped emotions, like it can even tell if a person's been
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  molested what age that happened. And it it just it it's so
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  bizarre. But when you were telling that
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  story, that kind of like flipped up.
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  But you know you obviously grew up feeling like you were living
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  underneath the lid like that you and this is like you're like a
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  soul sister. I totally resonate with this.
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  And even in our pre chat as you were talking me through this, I
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  started having visions. And you know you're talking to a
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  really good hypnotherapist when it provokes visions in the
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  facilitator. Like I was having visions of
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  being closed down by family members.
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  But can you talk us through so our listeners can really
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  understand, you know, what it's like to to sort of grow up or be
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  in this world where you feel like you've got to be down,
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  you've you've got to, you know, have that lid on and you know
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  where you can't really exude your full expression.
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  Can you talk me through this and even where it comes from?
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  Because I know that there'll be people going, oh, yeah, when I
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  was a little child that happened to me.
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  So let's hear your story. Growing Single Mom.
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  Yeah. So we grew up with a single mom
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  for a few years in Wollongong and then moved to Byron Bay when
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  I was just six years old. And that's where I grew up in
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  the Seventies, 80s and 90s, So very blessed to have grown up
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  there. So the way that I think I can
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  express that the best is that. I just don't think the arena
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  that I grew up in or anywhere that I was, it wasn't even such
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  big experiences. But it's all I had that a lot in
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  my life where I just feel like I was too big for the environments
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  that I was in a lot of the time, like my full expression being in
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  a. Being a woman in a patriarchal
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  society, so I don't have anything against.
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  I think the patriarchy is very important and was very important
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  for you know, the masculine elements.
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  However, you know when we're born to be bigger, we're we're
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  bigger all the way along and it just doesn't really fit in with
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  the societal conditioning. And so I constantly felt like in
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  little experiences all the time that I was being shut down and.
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  And the experience of life was shutting me down.
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  Not totally, but just from being my big full expression of
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  energy, of excitement, of enthusiasm, of celebrating
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  others, of celebrating myself, definitely celebrating myself.
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  Like, I remember at gymnastics one time, and I did some
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  tumbling thing and I was like, wow, that was so good.
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  And everyone just shut me down because you don't speak about
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  yourself. Like that, you know, it's like
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  especially as an Aussie, right, Don't you reckon it's a real
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  Aussie thing to be the underdog and the tall poppy syndrome is
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  so huge here in Aussie, it's it's crazy.
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  And so, you know, even like you described to me a bit like I was
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  seeing that story of the crab in the in the craypot where the
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  crab is kind of trying to crawl at the top of the, you know, all
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  the people in there, all good, meaning all, you know, with the
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  right intentions are trying to pull it down.
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  But you were talking about how you had a heart for, you know,
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  helping out your mom and how your family were really trying
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  to pull you back. Can you talk us through that?
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  Because you would have been just a little child at that stage.
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  Yeah, it's just because mom was single mom.
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  I just really saw that, how much effort she made.
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  How she was doing everything on her own, like she was an
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  empowered woman, but that was through full on intention of
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  these kids are not going to miss out because I'm a single mom.
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  And so we had every experience. We went water skiing and snow
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  skiing and camping and on the farm and rode horses and we did
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  all of these incredible experiences.
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  Like my mom is an amazing powerhouse and she was very
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  driven by that experience. And I remember when we first
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  moved to Byron Bay and went to school that she was a school
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  teacher and it was Byron Bay was very conservative back then in
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  the 70s, interestingly. And so it was almost frowned
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  upon to be a single parent. So I watched mum navigate these
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  places. So first through watching that
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  that observation that you know one of the experiences that
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  you're mentioning there is when we were camping in Tincam Bay
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  and you know I think there was. A big storm had come in and
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  there was sand flying everywhere and we'd come back to the tents
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  and everything was out of control.
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  And I just quickly went straight to help Mom.
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  And also at the end of the day, I remember, you know, making her
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  a cup of tea and looking after her because I had this drive to
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  care for her. And you know, and that would
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  often be rewarded as it is these days with black and ice block
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  the next day or something, which is never was the drive for me to
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  do any of these things. But that's.
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  I remember being picked on by my brother and sister, you know,
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  Goody 2 Shoes and always wanting to do, always wanting to do the
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  right thing and getting rewards for it and all of this.
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  And it was obviously, you know, just kids being kids and then
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  putting me down. But that was another experience
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  for me of feeling like, you know, don't be too good, don't
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  be too this, don't be too that. Don't stand out.
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  Don't stand out. Where abouts in your family
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  tree, like where your brother and sister, are you in the
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  middle? Are you the youngest back in the
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  middle? I'm in the middle, so my
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  sister's 15 months older and my brother's 15 months younger.
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  So three kids very close together, Yeah.
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  Fantastic. So you're right there in the
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  middle and you know you it's hard to believe you grew up in
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  the seven. Nikki, you I know our, a lot of
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  our listeners can't see you, but you look so good and I feel that
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  as we go along and you hear Nikki's journey and what?
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  She does. And how she's turned her life
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  around, you'll be able to understand because sometimes
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  when you see a person it's, you know, when they look vibrant,
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  when they are, you know, looking younger for their age, when
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  they've got so much going for them, it's because they're
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  living their life purpose. And you are the epitome of that,
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  right? And you know, everybody has
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  their cross to bear. You know, I always say this and
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  you know. I look on the other side, I
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  like, I feel like I'm a sole sister with you where where you
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  know, I I felt very much pushed down.
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  But unfortunately mine became to the point where I I kind of
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  believed it in the end. And, you know, I recognized,
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  like, you know, because I've been dealing with people for so
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  many years, I realized that, you know, women, especially they get
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  into their 30s. And it's like everything catches
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  up with them and they say that midlife crisis happens, you
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  know, 40s, fifties and beyond. I I beg to differ.
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  I feel like the real midlife crisis, whether it be for women
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  going out on a high, living their best years or whatever,
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  it's like the estrogen years where estrogen is at a.
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  You know, all time high and you know, suddenly everybody kind of
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  remembers their childhood. Suddenly everybody's realizing
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  what they have, what they haven't got.
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  And it's like that starts to get to that point of where's my life
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  going now, You know? And you know you are a great one
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  for shining your light. And you know, really, you know,
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  living and breathing that. And I guess from where I see you
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  is that the problem was in your relationships.
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  And this is not with the girls. This is with the guys.
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  So you obviously had a string while your sister got married
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  and went on and had the life that you felt that you wanted so
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  much and you felt that was your life, do you think?
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  Because what I'm hearing is that you kind of went after the guys
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  that weren't quite, you know, aligning with.
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  Yourself. Do you know what you're
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  attracting? Like?
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  Can you see a pattern through a lot of the men that you were
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  dating or going out with, where there was the learning that
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  Nikki had to have? Like because obviously people
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  come into your life for a reason.
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  What do you reckon was the greatest learning?
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  You had to get to 37 and then go.
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  Something's got to change here. Yeah.
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  Yeah. Well, I think, like everything,
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  nothing changes unless you change.
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  And so really, for me, it was realizing that I wasn't choosing
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  my partners. Instead, I was going with, you
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  know, it was more like when somebody was attracted to me
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  going, being chosen. Being chosen.
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  Being chosen. I just had to really open.
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  Did you hear that, ladies? Don't wait to be chosen anyway.
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  Yeah, yeah, I think that's huge. You don't realize, you know,
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  we're we're hoping, oh, we might meet someone and then somebody
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  shows interest and it's like, I've been chosen, like, so then
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  I would spend my time trying to fit in and make that
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  relationship great. But I wasn't meeting from a
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  place of authenticity in myself. I was, you know, going in,
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  molding myself to be attractive and to be a right fit for that
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  person and then feeling the consequences, like, you know,
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  being made small to fit in. And I was always leading all the
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  joy and the adventure and all the excitement in the
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  relationships, but it wasn't in a balanced way.
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  And there was a couple of times, one time a partner and I were
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  Mr. Plain in New York and he looked at me like it was just
• 25:27
  totally my fault. And I was like, there's two of
• 25:29
  us here, like, you know what I mean?
• 25:31
  And I realized that I I took responsibility for everything in
• 25:34
  the relationships and. You know you're the
• 25:37
  responsibility chick as well. Another thing that you and I
• 25:41
  have got in got 2-3 but just another one like waiting to be
• 25:47
  chosen like. Yeah.
• 25:50
  And I wonder, look, I I really just want to open this up,
• 25:53
  Nikki, if you don't mind, because I know that there's a
• 25:55
  lot of people out there that are wondering why they're not
• 25:58
  attracting the right relationships.
• 26:00
  But you know, I'm having a flashback to school days and I
• 26:05
  when I was in a a girls school and we had this dance and that,
• 26:11
  we had all these guys coming along and it was the first
• 26:14
  dance, you know, where we were going to be with the opposite
• 26:17
  sex. And we, because I was so used to
• 26:21
  being the ugly duckling, and I kind of changed.
• 26:24
  And I've already told that story, but I sort of really grew
• 26:29
  my hair. I'd taken my glasses off and all
• 26:31
  the things. And I remember we were all
• 26:33
  standing there and we had to wait to be chosen.
• 26:37
  And I remember thinking to myself, no one's going to pick
• 26:42
  me, right? No one's going to pick me.
• 26:46
  And then having this, like, because of my past experience
• 26:51
  thinking, well, hang on a minute, what if I turned this
• 26:54
  around? What if I looked at all these
• 26:55
  guys and thought about, like, who would I like to pick me?
• 27:00
  And do you know, in that moment I'll never forget it because I
• 27:05
  was shocked. I was surrounded with five guys
• 27:08
  and I had to choose one. Amazing.
• 27:10
  Because I had to come and pick. But you know what it.
• 27:14
  Just didn't that you know from a psychological reason, because
• 27:17
  I'm sure you would be the you, you are the expert on this
• 27:21
  because you've lived it, breathed it, and and obviously
• 27:24
  gone through this. But I wonder if there's so many
• 27:28
  people out there that become so desperate and like yourself
• 27:33
  looking over your shoulder at your sister, so you're doing the
• 27:37
  whole comparison thing. You're almost doing like a lot
• 27:41
  of people will do the envy thing too, like they envy people.
• 27:45
  And I know Doctor John D Martini says, you know that envy is
• 27:50
  ignorance and comparison is suicide to the success that you
• 27:53
  want because it just kills it off.
• 27:56
  So while you're looking over the shoulder, you know what if you
• 28:00
  became the person who could just finally stand back and go?
• 28:05
  Well, what do I want rather than what does the world want?
• 28:08
  And I I I think just having this conversation with you and
• 28:11
  especially backstage, what I'm hearing is that you are also
• 28:18
  because you're such a giving person by nature.
• 28:21
  Yeah, and very altruistic in the sense of.
• 28:27
  You wanting to be that person to help your mom, you being that
• 28:30
  person to be focusing and channeling your energy into
• 28:35
  other families relationships and then what happens to Nikki?
• 28:40
  So what happened? What was the turn around?
• 28:43
  What made you go? I mean you had the kinesiology
• 28:48
  session and you know what made you go, right?
• 28:51
  OK, this is great. Yeah, this is a really clear
• 28:55
  moment. So this story is when?
• 29:00
  So it's just five years ago now. So because I'm about to
• 29:04
  celebrate the 5th anniversary with my partner, my current life
• 29:09
  partner, who's my, my, my man. So I was, I had broken up with
• 29:15
  this guy who was much younger than me as well.
• 29:17
  So then I started attracting much younger men which was
• 29:20
  interesting when I first dated on you know online and I've had
• 29:25
  this relationship with this guy and I was doing exactly the same
• 29:28
  repeating patterns. And so this time we'd already
• 29:32
  broken up and he was living overseas in France and he was
• 29:34
  coming back into the country and he rang me and he all this
• 29:38
  anticipation. Nikki, I can't wait to see you.
• 29:40
  I'm so excited to see you and connect and see how you are.
• 29:43
  And it was just sounded very real and natural and as friends
• 29:46
  and I was excited to see him. And it was around my birthday
• 29:49
  and when he got into the country, I texted him and I had
• 29:53
  a busy schedule with birthday celebrations and I said, so are
• 29:56
  you here? Are we going to catch up?
• 29:58
  And he wrote back to me something absolutely appalling,
• 30:02
  I can't even remember something really derogatory and horrible.
• 30:05
  And it was insane. And in that moment I went to
• 30:09
  make an excuse for him and I started to type, Gee, that is
• 30:12
  bad jet lag. And then I caught myself in that
• 30:15
  very moment and thought, wow, look at me.
• 30:17
  Abandoning myself, making an excuse for his appalling
• 30:22
  behavior and just totally abandoning myself.
• 30:26
  And I just stopped in my tracks and I drew a line in the sand
• 30:30
  and I saw it so, so clearly. And I said, never again, never
• 30:34
  again will I abandon myself and accept behavior that's just not
• 30:40
  not acceptable. And so I drew that line in the
• 30:43
  sand. It was incredible and
• 30:44
  incredible. That's so good.
• 30:47
  So you just. Yeah.
• 30:49
  And yet I feel that you know your your gift in being able to
• 30:55
  see the best in people. Another likeness that you and I
• 30:59
  both got where you you will see like if you saw some of the guys
• 31:05
  I went out with Nikki, I mean you would you know you'd die
• 31:08
  with a leg in the air. Not to be a visual, but.
• 31:12
  I mean, some of the people I chose, I feel like I almost
• 31:19
  talked myself into it. But you know, it was almost like
• 31:25
  I would do the same thing. I relate, oh, they're like that
• 31:30
  because you know, they can't help it.
• 31:35
  You know, that's just the way they are and.
• 31:39
  Yeah, but how long? And it's interesting because my
• 31:43
  daughter calls me out on it even now.
• 31:46
  Like I will say something when she she'll say something about
• 31:51
  someone and I will give a a kind of a different perception being
• 31:56
  the all ever perception queen that I am and she'll say mum,
• 32:02
  why are you making up an excuse for that person?
• 32:06
  And really, I'm not making up an excuse from where I'm standing,
• 32:10
  but I'm, I guess I'm trying to protect her from feeling hurt
• 32:16
  and get her to see it in another way.
• 32:18
  But that doesn't always work. And I think, you know, you've
• 32:21
  really proven that. And I I noticed too, along the
• 32:26
  way, obviously. Like, can I ask how old were you
• 32:29
  when you met the man of your dreams?
• 32:31
  Like you're now, man. Yeah, My partner now.
• 32:34
  So I was 40. 48, yes. Oh my gosh, you look 38.
• 32:44
  I'm now 53 so. You're a tricker, you.
• 32:48
  Are a tricker girl. OK, guys, you do you you need to
• 32:52
  get into because whatever she's got there is a definitely a
• 33:00
  silver bullet. OK, so you were that.
• 33:04
  Age when you finally met your man.
• 33:07
  I'm I'm kind of wondering where the people, when they're so
• 33:09
  desperate for something, instead of attracting it, they're
• 33:12
  pushing it away. And you know, I saw it about
• 33:16
  money as well the other day. And one of my mentors was saying
• 33:21
  the reason that money comes to me so easily and effortlessly is
• 33:27
  because I I don't second guess it.
• 33:30
  It's a part of my life. And it's like the air that I
• 33:34
  breathe. So it's not a oh, I desire it.
• 33:37
  I desire it. I desire it.
• 33:39
  And you know, I want that. I want that.
• 33:40
  I want that. Because really, when we're
• 33:42
  putting out that want, what we're really doing 9 times out
• 33:47
  of 10 is putting out a lack, isn't it?
• 33:49
  Yeah, Yeah. And you know, I feel like the
• 33:53
  universe 20 years prior. Knew exactly God knew exactly
• 33:59
  what was in store for you, Nikki, and he put a book in your
• 34:03
  hands and he actually, like I always say, it doesn't matter
• 34:08
  what happens to us, how bad are relationships that we've we've,
• 34:13
  you know, ever got into. There's always a great teaching
• 34:17
  from each and everyone of them and when you are 18.
• 34:22
  A guy gave you a book. Do you want to tell us about
• 34:25
  this book and tell us a little bit about it?
• 34:27
  Because I'm always looking and, you know, for good reads anyway
• 34:32
  on the show, and because it's got such a spiritual connotation
• 34:36
  to it, Would you mind sharing that?
• 34:39
  Yes. So for my 18th birthday, my
• 34:42
  partner at the time, my boyfriend, gave me a book called
• 34:47
  The Prophet by Kylie Gibran, and it's the most beautiful book.
• 34:51
  It's a short book and it's a story of a prophet talking to a
• 34:55
  community of people, and the community are asking him
• 34:58
  questions about the different areas of life.
• 35:01
  And when I read this book, it had such a huge impact on me
• 35:06
  because it was like my understanding about spiritual
• 35:12
  spirituality and the world and humanity had been written down
• 35:16
  in this really short book. And I just was blown away that,
• 35:23
  yeah, that my spiritual beliefs and concepts, which I never
• 35:26
  talked about because my family wasn't religious, so we didn't
• 35:29
  have a religion and we didn't talk about it.
• 35:31
  So I said I have my own beliefs, you know, and it was always just
• 35:33
  my secret. So when I read this book by
• 35:36
  Kalal, her little Gibran, I was just absolutely blown away and
• 35:40
  it just opened. I think it just reestablished my
• 35:44
  connection. It was like remembering who we
• 35:46
  are and what we came here to be. And one of the main ones is like
• 35:49
  speak to me of children. And he said our children are the
• 35:52
  arrows that we shoot forth from the steadiness of our boat being
• 35:57
  the parents. And it just, it was like a
• 35:59
  permission piece to go forth and be your great self, like to be
• 36:03
  that arrow shot forth into the world like that.
• 36:05
  We're not the property or the ownership of our family and our
• 36:09
  communities and our culture. We're actually free spirits, you
• 36:14
  know, flown forth in the world to become our great selves.
• 36:17
  And so I think that was the main piece that really spoke to me.
• 36:22
  But the whole book did and it just was, you know, yeah,
• 36:26
  connected me and gave me permission about spirituality.
• 36:29
  And also, you know, when I connected deeply to the yoga
• 36:33
  spirituality and the philosophy of yoga, same again.
• 36:37
  It was like, Oh my God, my understanding of spirituality is
• 36:40
  all here written down. Like who knew, You know?
• 36:44
  So that was mind blowing to me. So I so.
• 36:48
  And I guess that's one of the things I teach that, you know,
• 36:51
  we are conversing with the universe all the time.
• 36:54
  We're a part of the universe. And that intuition like what
• 36:58
  lights us up and those little drops in that excite us and
• 37:02
  those energy bursts, they're guides guiding us along our way.
• 37:05
  And actually, if we could just peel back the layers and listen
• 37:11
  to the what lights us up, the journey unfolds in the right
• 37:16
  aligned way. So that's what I've been doing
• 37:19
  since starting my coaching journey, like really deeply and
• 37:22
  with more purpose and everything's fallen into place.
• 37:25
  My highest value is family and I met my life partner with two
• 37:28
  incredible step kids that are sole family.
• 37:30
  I'm sure we've been together in previous lifetimes because we
• 37:33
  know each other deeply. So you know, what?
• 37:36
  A gift. Yeah.
• 37:37
  And you know, I, I, I just, I hear you.
• 37:40
  And now I can understand why you have created such a all powerful
• 37:48
  program that takes people on this beautiful voyage, this
• 37:55
  journey. From where they are, and even if
• 37:59
  it's not around relationships, it it it's it's a really, you
• 38:03
  know, the universe doesn't know whether you are missing.
• 38:07
  The vital relationship factor, or whether it's the money factor
• 38:12
  or it's the health factor, it's whatever factor you are missing
• 38:18
  in your life. And this program that Nikki has
• 38:22
  designed, founded and created is a step by step.
• 38:27
  To actually awaken you into being that person of who you
• 38:34
  were called to be, and it takes you back to the remembrance.
• 38:39
  So I'm going to go through that in just a moment and I'm so
• 38:42
  excited to do this because as you listen in viewers, what
• 38:47
  you're going to find is you're going to really, really not
• 38:51
  just. Hear something that's so
• 38:54
  powerful, but it's going to give you some vital steps of how to
• 38:59
  do life just by hearing the modules that Nikki has actually
• 39:07
  created. So you know, I look, I I was
• 39:10
  just listening to a podcast this morning actually and.
• 39:14
  You know, a guru who was just talking on the spiritual realm
• 39:19
  and I truly, truly believe what he was saying in the fact that,
• 39:27
  you know, our body, our humanity, our ego is just so
• 39:33
  kind of, I don't know, fallen. And it's so effed up, if you
• 39:39
  will. And it's just so, I don't know.
• 39:44
  It's so subject to the world and and and what's out there.
• 39:49
  And it's measurable. Where our spirit is infinite.
• 39:54
  It's immeasurable. And I was having this moment,
• 39:57
  you know, the other day, like, because I I do believe in God.
• 40:02
  And you know, I know that the Bible says we go to a place
• 40:06
  called heaven. And I was having this kind of
• 40:09
  argument with myself about, well, what is heaven anyway?
• 40:12
  Because I, like you, had a spiritual relationship with
• 40:17
  this, you know, higher entity when I was a little girl.
• 40:22
  Anyway, so it was always there. And what I came to know, Nikki,
• 40:29
  is that, you know, without that higher source, what have we got.
• 40:35
  But do you mind if I take people through this beautiful, juicy,
• 40:40
  powerful program step by step with you?
• 40:43
  Because it's just so exciting. And I'm gonna open up each, you
• 40:48
  know, each module as you have designed it, which is just so,
• 40:55
  so, so incredibly good. But we were talking about
• 41:01
  standing on the rooftop together and looking at what happens to
• 41:08
  this incredible woman when she has reached almost like her
• 41:16
  higher self. And, you know, you described it
• 41:21
  as obviously the magic of your hypnosis and where they've
• 41:27
  flourished and where they've opened up themself to their
• 41:32
  greatest talent. And, you know, I know that
• 41:36
  that's where the community really does really expand.
• 41:41
  But talk, talk to us about how you do this deep dive into this
• 41:48
  magical hypnosis world where they just open up and flourish
• 41:54
  into their talent. What does that look like and
• 41:57
  feel like? OK, so hypnosis.
• 42:01
  And I'm also done a lot of yoga and meditation, as you know.
• 42:04
  So hypnosis to me was just the most incredible modality in
• 42:08
  terms of its meditation with an absolute purpose.
• 42:12
  And so we can. Reprogramming and change things
• 42:15
  that we choose to in our subconscious mind from this
• 42:18
  deeply relaxed, beautiful place using the brilliance and
• 42:22
  creativity of our own brilliant mind.
• 42:25
  So hypnosis to me is incredible. And so for the last part of the
• 42:30
  course that in the last module we do a beautiful inner
• 42:35
  resources. Hypnosis, which is just a
• 42:39
  gorgeous journey of after we've been through all the steps in
• 42:41
  the program and really created the vision.
• 42:45
  So each individual person is creating their vision in this
• 42:49
  most beautiful, colorful, colorful, creative, visual way
• 42:53
  that means everything to them inside their own minds on a
• 42:57
  group powerful journey of deep relaxation.
• 43:01
  So do you feel like you know? Do you feel like people when
• 43:04
  they are because you talk about that being the power of
• 43:08
  flourishing into your greatest, you know, purpose, talent,
• 43:13
  right. Do you see that like because
• 43:16
  you're talking to a community that everybody has their own
• 43:21
  kind of geometrical coding system of color and symbols and
• 43:26
  shapes that represent their higher purpose?
• 43:31
  Yeah, 100%. Like we, I believe that we have
• 43:34
  everything within us like just like you know it's it's the,
• 43:38
  it's the destiny of an acorn seed to become an oak tree.
• 43:41
  So. So I believe that we arrive here
• 43:44
  with all of that potential untapped within us and we can
• 43:48
  grow into whatever oak tree we choose to.
• 43:50
  But this process that I take people through, it's all about
• 43:53
  relationship to self uncovering those layers, getting so deeply
• 43:57
  connected to themselves and that purpose.
• 44:00
  And that potential that then that has the ability to come
• 44:03
  forth and they can truly shine their unique light in the world,
• 44:06
  like permission to be 100% uniquely you.
• 44:10
  And so I can do a group hypnosis where everybody's creating their
• 44:14
  own vision in the hypnosis, like I'm igniting that within each
• 44:17
  person, but they're doing the creation.
• 44:21
  And I'm holding the space and creating a beautiful relax, deep
• 44:25
  relaxation so that the free flowing experience can permeate
• 44:29
  every cell in their body and become their new reality and
• 44:32
  their new story. Oh wow, that's amazing.
• 44:36
  Now in the Module 7, it's all around the power of vision and
• 44:46
  it's like the power of vision into your crystal clear life.
• 44:51
  Like talk me through what actually happens here when
• 44:56
  people have got, because obviously you've done so much
• 45:00
  work, which we're going to go deep into in a moment, I'll
• 45:02
  take, I'll, I'll, I'll go down into your program with you.
• 45:07
  But at this level, at level 7, this is where the power of
• 45:12
  vision, the visionary, comes through.
• 45:15
  You know how what is the way that you awaken that vision in
• 45:20
  people? So well, it's a it's it builds
• 45:26
  through the whole journey. Of course of the together We
• 45:28
  Rise journey and all the other modules.
• 45:31
  But by the time we get to Level Module 7, people are so
• 45:36
  connected deeply to their true yearnings and their true
• 45:39
  desires, and so they're creating a vision for the first time from
• 45:42
  that place of authenticity. And so we, you know, I take
• 45:47
  through a series of journaling questions and we answer the
• 45:50
  questions in, you know, we do a meditation first to really
• 45:53
  reconnect deeply to that place within where the desires have
• 45:57
  been getting clearer and clearer.
• 45:59
  And then we build a vision through answering the questions
• 46:03
  that I take people through and then we go into breakout rooms
• 46:05
  and you get to share your vision with an individual.
• 46:08
  And hold that space for each other.
• 46:10
  And that's where the power is because you know, it's when we
• 46:13
  share and we speak out loud and we hold that space for each
• 46:18
  other that we can see it, we can mirror back to the person and
• 46:21
  they can see their vision coming to life.
• 46:23
  So, but the point is from at module 7, we're so clearly
• 46:26
  connected to our true authentic self that the journey of
• 46:29
  creating that vision is coming from that place of true
• 46:33
  authenticity. So the vision is usually
• 46:35
  different to what it's ever been before.
• 46:38
  And guys, don't don't worry if you are in that position of
• 46:42
  going well. I don't know, I don't know what
• 46:45
  I want because we're going to take you down deep now so you
• 46:50
  can hear exactly from the top. So Nikki's talking about where
• 46:56
  you are when you come out on the other side of her program.
• 47:01
  And you know, we don't expect, and I know Nikki doesn't expect
• 47:06
  you to be able older, just have this powerful vision crystal
• 47:12
  clear of you being this amazing, empowered person living the life
• 47:21
  of your dreams with all the details.
• 47:25
  But, you know, did you have a moment?
• 47:27
  Like, I know that I, I had a Chris Howard moment and I'm sure
• 47:31
  he won't mind me saying this, but I had a moment where, you
• 47:36
  know, way back in 2006, I was doing all the NLP stuff right?
• 47:42
  And I was an absolute. I was like one of those groupies
• 47:46
  I was going to every show. And I'll never forget it.
• 47:50
  Like this is a packed out auditorium audience where all
• 47:54
  the seating is like this. And Chris Howard is really out
• 48:00
  there saying, you know, anchoring us into that, what it
• 48:04
  feels like, what it looks like and getting us to see.
• 48:08
  And you know, to this day, Nikki, I still use that anchor
• 48:15
  that he taught us at that show on how to bring myself into that
• 48:23
  incredible, incredible vision. But do you have a moment where
• 48:28
  you were able to really see your vision and really manifest it,
• 48:33
  that you can perhaps share with the audience and talk us through
• 48:38
  about, you know, what you saw in yourself, how you created it,
• 48:43
  whether it was journaling it, what you said in your journal,
• 48:47
  what you were actually delivering and what you do even
• 48:51
  with your clients to really help that person out there that's
• 48:56
  listening? Because a lot of people just
• 48:58
  don't know. They don't know how to take into
• 49:01
  that. Yeah, I I really believe in the
• 49:05
  power of connecting deeply to how you want to feel, how you
• 49:09
  want to feel in a relationship. So for me, when I thought about
• 49:14
  visioning about the partner that I wanted to be with and having a
• 49:17
  family, you know, and I was in my 40s already.
• 49:19
  So this was, you know, once I started to see the power in our
• 49:22
  own abilities. So for me, it's not around the
• 49:26
  detail of all of the image. And for some people it really is
• 49:31
  that visual detail. For me, it's how it's going to
• 49:33
  feel from the inside out. And So what I talked about in my
• 49:37
  journal and what I imagined being with a partner is just
• 49:40
  being able to feel my full expression and being celebrated
• 49:44
  in a relationship. In my love relationship with
• 49:47
  that and being able to truly celebrate my partner so that we
• 49:52
  could you know that we were. The vision was like we were
• 49:54
  holding hands together, connected, but looking out into
• 49:57
  our own visions fully. And one of the elements that I
• 50:02
  brought in was how I that I wanted to be able to call him my
• 50:07
  love. And that's all we call each
• 50:08
  other. My love, my love, my love that I
• 50:11
  could call my partner, my love. And that it was.
• 50:14
  Truly landed absolutely, deeply and correctly.
• 50:18
  And so we have been each other's my love since the beginning.
• 50:22
  Like it just flew, you know, it just flowed for both of us and
• 50:28
  so and so it was like being, you know, that whole thing about not
• 50:31
  having that lid on it or being my full expression.
• 50:33
  Being celebrated for that, creating a life together that
• 50:37
  fulfilled all of our needs, being able to.
• 50:40
  See and hear each other, being able to talk about the hard
• 50:43
  things, being able to navigate life.
• 50:45
  So I just brought it down in my journaling to all of the things
• 50:49
  that mattered to me. So it wasn't like what he looked
• 50:51
  like, what he did, what it, you know, It was like all of that
• 50:54
  stuff actually doesn't matter when you have true love and true
• 50:56
  deep connection from a place of authenticity and who you really
• 50:59
  are. That's what I wanted.
• 51:01
  And I was so clear. That's what I wanted and it's
• 51:03
  absolutely what I found three months after I.
• 51:07
  Threw that line in the sand, You know, in three months I just was
• 51:10
  like, so clear and you know, wasn't when I drew the line in
• 51:15
  the sand, wasn't when I wrote that, that visualization.
• 51:19
  That was beforehand. You know, you write it and you
• 51:21
  know it and you're clear about it and you let it.
• 51:23
  Forget about it to the universe. Hand it over.
• 51:25
  And so that's powerful. Did everybody hear that?
• 51:29
  You write it, you think about it, you feel it, and then you
• 51:35
  let it go. How powerful is that is?
• 51:38
  Isn't that letting go business? You would know surrender.
• 51:44
  That's got to be a very vital piece.
• 51:47
  It's a vital piece. So yes, absolutely.
• 51:50
  And I think let it, let go are the two most powerful words we
• 51:55
  have in in our humanity like letting go like we hang on to
• 51:59
  stuff so much, but letting go. So definitely in manifesting, I
• 52:03
  absolutely believe and visioning.
• 52:06
  Create that beautiful vision, feel it, see it, hear it, hear
• 52:11
  what's being said. So for me, my love and being
• 52:14
  able to have tough conversations and and the real elements were
• 52:18
  all there and then let it go. And then three months after that
• 52:21
  line in the sand, I decided to go on three dates.
• 52:24
  I booked three dates, online dating in one week and I was
• 52:27
  like, I'm just going to go and meet some men and have a nice
• 52:29
  time and no expectation. No.
• 52:32
  Expectation is another element. And they literally went on three
• 52:36
  dates within one week and they were all lovely.
• 52:40
  But Amir was definitely the one I connected deeply with on a on
• 52:43
  a heart level. And yeah, so there's no, Did you
• 52:46
  hear that, guys? No expectations go in there as a
• 52:51
  clear, you know, just this, this Clear Channel and yet know the
• 52:56
  feelings that you want. And as you heard what Nikki just
• 53:00
  said, she wanted to feel like she could be a full expression
• 53:04
  of herself. She also had that my love, which
• 53:08
  is like an audible sound. And you know what she's hearing
• 53:12
  with that beautiful connection and you know whether it is that
• 53:17
  you are going to be connecting inside Nikki's program, you
• 53:22
  know, with the ultimate relationship, maybe the one
• 53:25
  you've already got, maybe the one that you're longing for.
• 53:29
  But maybe it is that you are really longing for that, calling
• 53:33
  on your life like you're really, you know, desiring to be living
• 53:38
  into that life that you want. You might be feeling like a
• 53:42
  slave to your job or, you know, absent in in that money sense,
• 53:47
  or feeling like you're you're not living to your true
• 53:52
  potential. This is really going to take you
• 53:56
  through these very clear modules.
• 54:01
  And as you're listening to them, this is going to be very healing
• 54:04
  for you, you know, even just listening to Nikki's story and
• 54:10
  what we're talking about. But of course, then comes the
• 54:14
  next module and we're going from the top down.
• 54:19
  So we're getting sort of more to the middle where we're talking
• 54:23
  about boundaries. You know it, Nikki.
• 54:25
  You only need to express yourself here because I've got
• 54:28
  it all here, right? You've already given me the gold
• 54:32
  Nuggets, but the creation of boundaries so that you can stop
• 54:38
  putting your energy into other people's lives and start working
• 54:43
  on yourself. Would you like to really explore
• 54:48
  how important boundaries are and some of your own story and what
• 54:54
  you know about the importance of boundaries?
• 54:58
  Yeah, so boundaries is a really amazing one because we're not
• 55:04
  really taught boundaries. And so one of my favorite
• 55:07
  sayings is balance and boundaries.
• 55:08
  If we can create balance and boundaries in our life.
• 55:12
  Especially if you're thinking in terms of the wheel of life, I
• 55:14
  often get people to fill in the wheel of life as a snapshot of
• 55:17
  where their current satisfaction is in the different areas of
• 55:20
  their life. And usually we see that it's a
• 55:22
  very bumpy ride. You know there's elements where
• 55:25
  it stands out and elements where it's lacking.
• 55:27
  So for me, when you can create healthy boundaries, you create
• 55:33
  balance in your life and you can have an ease and flow journey.
• 55:37
  And So what was happening for me is I was prioritizing other
• 55:42
  people's needs. I've spoken about this a lot and
• 55:44
  I was kind of known as the other mom to many friends and
• 55:48
  families. And and I'm also godmother to
• 55:51
  many kids. Because you know, I loved
• 55:53
  family. I loved kids and and I didn't
• 55:56
  realize that I wasn't leaving any space up front for my needs
• 56:01
  and my wishes and 1. So it's all part of the same
• 56:03
  theme I was. You know, directing all of this
• 56:06
  energy into my highest value, which was family, but it was
• 56:08
  other people's families. And so learning to create
• 56:11
  boundaries around my time and my needs and actually bring into
• 56:15
  the forefront, filling my cup, becoming who I wanted to be,
• 56:20
  choosing partners like, you know, being so clear about who I
• 56:24
  am and going out into the world so.
• 56:26
  Learning to say no is a huge one and learning to be clear on what
• 56:31
  you say yes and no to is how you create boundaries in your life
• 56:36
  that keep you doing the things that align for you and that
• 56:40
  matter to you and and our values, which is the module
• 56:44
  before. This is one of the really best
• 56:45
  ways to, you know, have a pillar of.
• 56:52
  How you choose You know a lot of my modules before this year
• 56:55
  about how to choose your boundaries.
• 56:56
  You know that that which will certainly go deep, we'll go deep
• 57:00
  into that. So I love the way you said that.
• 57:04
  You've got to be able to say no, because the no becomes the
• 57:11
  bigger yes when it comes around. But what was it like for you,
• 57:17
  Nikki, when you know suddenly you had to give up channelling
• 57:23
  all your energy to other people because of, you know, your
• 57:28
  natural, you know, personality and that warm nature you've got
• 57:33
  and work on yourself. What did you find as a result
• 57:37
  it? Do you feel that it enables you
• 57:40
  to give more as a result, or what can someone expect when
• 57:44
  they develop boundaries? Developing boundaries, Yeah, so
• 57:48
  the results from that are incredible.
• 57:50
  So for me then I was able to listen to what my needs which
• 57:55
  isn't once were, which was my whole journey and and I started
• 57:58
  to craft a life. Life in alignment with that.
• 58:01
  So following what lit me up and doing those things and I created
• 58:05
  my own tribe of friends. I found ocean swimming, which I
• 58:08
  absolutely loved. And you know, I started to
• 58:13
  create a life that filled me up and gave me so much energy and
• 58:17
  light to share with others. So I was even more of myself.
• 58:22
  And I often say to my clients, imagine if the entire world was
• 58:26
  giving from an overflowing cup. Like if we learned to fill our
• 58:30
  own cup 1st and be full on all of our needs and personal care
• 58:35
  and sleep and all the things that matter and we were giving
• 58:38
  from that place, it means we're giving from our whole authentic
• 58:40
  self rather than from that depletion or lack.
• 58:44
  You know which most of the world is going around doing.
• 58:46
  And that's the norm in our society.
• 58:48
  And so that's learning. Yeah, that's a huge paradigm
• 58:52
  shift. So when you're giving from the
• 58:55
  overflowing cut, you've got so much more to give.
• 58:58
  It makes sense really, doesn't it?
• 59:01
  It's just it's really not, you know, rocket science.
• 59:04
  Can you tell me about the ocean swimming?
• 59:06
  I'd love to hear about that. What?
• 59:08
  Are you doing with the ocean? Swimming.
• 59:10
  I swim in the ocean every morning.
• 59:12
  Not today, because it was pouring rain for the first time
• 59:14
  in the Sydney streets, emptying into the beach sadly.
• 59:16
  So that's the day to avoid the ocean.
• 59:18
  But. I am an ocean swimmer, so I grew
• 59:21
  up in Byron Bay. I absolutely love the ocean
• 59:24
  because it was right there on my doorstep and now, but I just
• 59:28
  played and frolicked in the sea and I was comfortable in the sea
• 59:31
  because I grew up with it. But when I was walking one of
• 59:34
  the early years in Sydney from Bondi to Bronte and I saw
• 59:38
  swimmers going along the coastline, I was like, Oh my
• 59:41
  God, what is that? I want to do that.
• 59:43
  And I went to yoga that night. And my yoga teacher.
• 59:47
  And I said, I'm going to learn ocean swimming.
• 59:48
  And he said I'm doing it, come and train with me.
• 59:51
  And so I went and learned to swim in the ocean by because
• 59:54
  anything we want to do, we can do.
• 59:56
  So a lot of my coaching is around what are the skills and
• 59:59
  capacities you need to develop to create the life you love?
• 1:00:02
  Because often we're missing those.
• 1:00:04
  And so I saw that, it lit me up. And in that moment I said I want
• 1:00:09
  to do that and I can. And so I found how do you learn
• 1:00:12
  ocean swimming? And I went to train at Bondi
• 1:00:15
  Icebergs with Spot Anderson, who's.
• 1:00:17
  The triathlon champion of Australia, just the person who
• 1:00:20
  happened to be training and he actually said to me, can you
• 1:00:23
  swim 500 meters freestyle? And I said, well, I don't know
• 1:00:27
  because I have never tried. And he said, well, it's a
• 1:00:30
  straight yes or no answer. And I said yes, it was very
• 1:00:34
  funny. And he said OK.
• 1:00:36
  The key to ocean swimming is when you jump in the pool, swim
• 1:00:40
  as slow as you can, like you're about to sink, and then keep
• 1:00:44
  going until you hit 500 meters. And literally, that was the key.
• 1:00:48
  Like I swam. Wow, 500 meters freestyle,
• 1:00:52
  nonstop, as slow as I could and and then at the end of that he
• 1:00:55
  said swim 100 meters as fast as you can.
• 1:00:59
  And the only difference between 100 meters as fast as I could
• 1:01:02
  and as slow as I could was hardly any time difference.
• 1:01:05
  It was all energy expenditure. My gosh, you know, that's a gold
• 1:01:09
  nugget right there. Yeah.
• 1:01:11
  Did you hear that guys? I mean, my my niece swam to 1
• 1:01:15
  rot nest. And you know what?
• 1:01:18
  What the Yogi always believes too?
• 1:01:21
  That nothing great happens in a rush.
• 1:01:23
  So it's interesting that you kind of like really go slow for
• 1:01:29
  that, you know, first initial climb and then you get to the
• 1:01:35
  last. 100 metres and you go like the clappers.
• 1:01:39
  So yeah, I like that. That's so cool.
• 1:01:43
  And you know, listening to that too makes sense because I love
• 1:01:48
  working out the psychology behind people's.
• 1:01:52
  You know what they what they are actually giving to their clients
• 1:01:57
  through the program. And I noticed that what you just
• 1:02:00
  described, like swimming being something that you really love
• 1:02:05
  and that you love doing, and the fact that that's something that
• 1:02:09
  you value right, is truly an aspect of the next module that I
• 1:02:17
  believe connects into aligning your life with your values.
• 1:02:22
  So you can be living on purpose. I told you, you don't need to
• 1:02:25
  look at any notes because I have all your Nuggets here.
• 1:02:31
  You've told me you've given me your, you know, your secret
• 1:02:35
  source. So talk, talk us through, you
• 1:02:40
  know, the way that you really help people to align their
• 1:02:46
  values and what's so important about that.
• 1:02:49
  Yeah, Okay values is one of my favorite things because it's
• 1:02:51
  literally what really matters to you?
• 1:02:53
  What do you value in life and what do you truly value from
• 1:02:57
  your inner self, from your heart?
• 1:03:00
  And so the way that I help people elicit this is we all
• 1:03:04
  know what we love. And so that's the first element
• 1:03:07
  is like complete the statement. I love to, I love to.
• 1:03:11
  You know, for me it was like I love to swim in the ocean.
• 1:03:13
  I love to spend time with family and friends.
• 1:03:15
  I love to feel healthy and energized.
• 1:03:17
  I love to be present with my love.
• 1:03:20
  I love to read personal growth and human potential books.
• 1:03:23
  So it's just keep going. I love, I love, I love and
• 1:03:26
  writing all the things that you love, that you love to do, that
• 1:03:29
  you love to feel that you love to hear that you love to eat,
• 1:03:32
  etcetera. And that's just getting really
• 1:03:34
  connected with, you know, the things that you love in life.
• 1:03:38
  That's a really great place to start.
• 1:03:41
  And then it's like step by step. It's like how do we feel?
• 1:03:47
  You know, I look around with, this is from Dr. De Martini,
• 1:03:50
  actually, because he is the values legend.
• 1:03:52
  And so I've taken a lot from him because it makes so much sense
• 1:03:55
  when you look around your space at work and at home and at work,
• 1:03:59
  what do you have there that that lights you up?
• 1:04:02
  What do you have? What do you make space for in
• 1:04:04
  your home and what really matters to you?
• 1:04:06
  And what sits there gathering dust that you think you want
• 1:04:09
  that perhaps doesn't really mean anything to you at all, or that
• 1:04:12
  you have there to look at, but you don't use doesn't have any
• 1:04:15
  meaning or importance. So we start to really drill down
• 1:04:18
  and then how do you spend your time?
• 1:04:20
  Where do you make time? What do you make time for?
• 1:04:24
  How do we choose to spend our time?
• 1:04:25
  Our time is finite. So you know, for me, one of the
• 1:04:28
  realizations was that in that story I was telling earlier is
• 1:04:32
  that my highest value is family or my second highest apart from
• 1:04:35
  health and Wellness. And I was spending time in
• 1:04:38
  family, but it wasn't creating my own family.
• 1:04:41
  It was spending the time in other people's families.
• 1:04:44
  And so I was being fulfilled in that need, but my greatest
• 1:04:48
  desire was to create my own family.
• 1:04:50
  So it's where we can also start to see where we're getting those
• 1:04:54
  needs met, but not in the way that's aligned with our vision.
• 1:04:57
  And so it really helps to pull apart what's going on on the
• 1:05:01
  inside. Also, where do we spend our
• 1:05:03
  energy and where do you spend your money?
• 1:05:05
  What do you make important enough, you know, to spend your
• 1:05:09
  money on etcetera. And so you know the the evidence
• 1:05:12
  is all around us. It's just starting to pull it in
• 1:05:15
  and make many from it understand how it's benefiting you, how it
• 1:05:18
  isn't. And so this is a process in the
• 1:05:20
  program that people do on their own, you know, through me asking
• 1:05:23
  the journaling questions. But when I'm one to one
• 1:05:28
  coaching, we go really deep on this.
• 1:05:30
  You know, we can go really deep and start to see how to make.
• 1:05:34
  Yeah, you know, I I have to applaud you, Nikki, because
• 1:05:38
  you've just given possibly one of the greatest gold Nuggets on
• 1:05:43
  how a person can tap into their values, because quite often this
• 1:05:50
  is a really hard subject to teach on.
• 1:05:53
  And you know, how do you get people to really tap into their
• 1:05:57
  values? Now you've just given a really
• 1:05:59
  powerful clue. Say I love first.
• 1:06:02
  If you say I love, I love to dance.
• 1:06:05
  I love to walk in the park with my dog.
• 1:06:08
  I love to meet up and, you know, really just be that person and
• 1:06:15
  impact people's lives, You know, what do you.
• 1:06:18
  I love, you know, drinking alcohol.
• 1:06:22
  Obviously that is one that you want to try and change if that's
• 1:06:26
  the case, but you know, what do you love and and and even when
• 1:06:30
  it is something negative like that, like if it is something
• 1:06:33
  like I love drinking alcohol or I love eating food, then what
• 1:06:39
  you've got to do is what the way you could swing that around
• 1:06:42
  because that's that's just that's really powerful, Nikki.
• 1:06:45
  I love that because it's sort of showing me too that you can go
• 1:06:49
  well. What is it that you love that
• 1:06:52
  you thought you that alcohol was giving you, you know, And then
• 1:06:56
  yeah, if it is that that person thought it was giving them some
• 1:07:00
  kind of a freedom, then it's not the alcohol they love, it's the
• 1:07:03
  freedom. So there's I can switch it
• 1:07:05
  around to I love freedom. If it's about the food and I
• 1:07:09
  love eating food and they're being honest with themself,
• 1:07:12
  well, we know that that's just a habit and it's not necessary.
• 1:07:16
  It's only good when you're doing it in the right way.
• 1:07:19
  So if you're overeating, you can be asking yourself, well, what
• 1:07:23
  is that food that you think that you're loving giving you?
• 1:07:27
  And if it is fulfillment, which I know is one of your values
• 1:07:30
  because you teach and preach about that, well, it's not the.
• 1:07:34
  The food or the love of food, it's the love of it's that
• 1:07:37
  fulfillment. And then you can be asking
• 1:07:40
  yourself, what can I do to fulfill myself?
• 1:07:42
  So that is gold. And you know, that is a huge
• 1:07:48
  clue to our listeners. Just in right there.
• 1:07:53
  So if you didn't write that down, guys, write it down and
• 1:07:57
  get crystal clear. And Speaking of getting crystal
• 1:08:00
  clear, we're getting close to, you know, where the rubber hits
• 1:08:05
  the road here. But Module 3 is all about the
• 1:08:09
  law of vibration. And awakening the energetic and
• 1:08:15
  the gold nugget that I heard you sedate here about this module is
• 1:08:21
  that it helps make life decisions.
• 1:08:26
  Would you like to really talk us through this Laura vibration
• 1:08:32
  that maybe a lot of us find a little bit woo woo and what it
• 1:08:36
  really means and and how that can help people to?
• 1:08:41
  Awaken their energy and make life decisions.
• 1:08:45
  Yeah, OK, so energy is just such a huge one for me.
• 1:08:48
  I just think, well, everything in the world is energy.
• 1:08:52
  I mean, this has been proven. And you know, matter is energy
• 1:08:56
  in dense form, so energy is everything.
• 1:09:01
  Energy levels within us. So understanding how to raise
• 1:09:06
  your vibration and bring you know and actually what tops you
• 1:09:10
  up and what takes away from you, what gives you energy and what
• 1:09:13
  drains you energy. So we drill down here into
• 1:09:15
  understanding more about yourself.
• 1:09:18
  This is all journey within. And you know another way to
• 1:09:24
  understand energy is like our thoughts, our beliefs and our
• 1:09:27
  emotions all create an energy vibration in the world.
• 1:09:30
  Like, we all know what it's felt like to walk into a room where
• 1:09:34
  somebody's angry or upset, you know, the elephant in the room
• 1:09:39
  experience. We've all felt energy and we are
• 1:09:43
  carrying our state of energy around with us always.
• 1:09:46
  And that's what's bumping into everybody else's.
• 1:09:48
  So it's another area in balance and boundaries too.
• 1:09:51
  But the way that we really step that I take people into their
• 1:09:55
  understanding their energy and transforming their energy so
• 1:09:57
  they can transform their life is seeing questions like what gives
• 1:10:02
  you energy and what drains your energy.
• 1:10:05
  So we can start to really think about those things and what
• 1:10:07
  people give you energy and what people drain your energy and
• 1:10:12
  just start to be bringing an awareness into your life about
• 1:10:15
  how your energy is being expended.
• 1:10:17
  And is this by choice or not by choice, and is that how you want
• 1:10:21
  it to be or not? So it's another place where you
• 1:10:24
  can become aware of this on an energetic level.
• 1:10:26
  One, you're getting more connected to your whole being.
• 1:10:29
  And two, you can start to see where you're giving away your
• 1:10:33
  energy, where perhaps you don't choose to.
• 1:10:38
  And also, one of the next question is what lights you up.
• 1:10:41
  Being lit up is an energetic experience from the inside, so
• 1:10:45
  you know what lets you up, what makes your heart sing, what
• 1:10:47
  makes you happy, what makes you joyful, what puts you in that
• 1:10:51
  state of presence and flow and creativity where you forget
• 1:10:54
  about time. So that's also energetic.
• 1:10:59
  And then, you know, I asked questions like if you were in
• 1:11:01
  the next 48 hours, given time off from your work and your kids
• 1:11:06
  and given thousands of dollars, what would you go and do with
• 1:11:09
  that? Like, you know, it's
• 1:11:11
  spontaneously dropped in on you here's, you know, one week with
• 1:11:15
  all the money that you want, free time, Where in the world
• 1:11:17
  would you like to go and what would you like to do?
• 1:11:19
  And when people had, like, dropped into that spontaneity
• 1:11:23
  question, it's like where that's when their true desires are
• 1:11:27
  coming forth. You know, that what lights them
• 1:11:29
  up drops in really quickly. Because for some people that's,
• 1:11:33
  you know, understanding that they're an introvert and they
• 1:11:36
  want to go and curl up on a couch somewhere with a log fire
• 1:11:38
  and be in their own space and just be by themselves and get
• 1:11:41
  their energy topping up that way.
• 1:11:44
  Other people like to go and be in community.
• 1:11:46
  Other people like to, you know, go and have a lush holiday
• 1:11:50
  skiing or swimming in the ocean somewhere beautiful or a yoga
• 1:11:53
  retreat going within. So it's really getting to know
• 1:11:56
  what fills your cup from an energetic point of view and
• 1:12:02
  getting to understand what are the self-care practices that you
• 1:12:04
  need in your life to top up your energy.
• 1:12:07
  Because filling your cup is really being topped up
• 1:12:10
  energetically, being topped up on, you know, food, rest, sleep,
• 1:12:16
  all the things that matter and that make you feel topped up.
• 1:12:21
  So yeah, so raising your vibration is really
• 1:12:23
  understanding how to manage your energy.
• 1:12:27
  Be aware of your energy and and feel it flow, ebb and flow,
• 1:12:32
  yeah. And that's Module 3, everyone.
• 1:12:36
  So you know, this is pretty close to, you know when you're
• 1:12:41
  coming in and you're doing a deep dive and getting through
• 1:12:44
  all the Muddy Waters and then getting into that space where
• 1:12:50
  you're suddenly moving into your own vibration.
• 1:12:53
  And I love that you also bring a lot of the practical application
• 1:12:58
  here, Nikki. So it's not just the.
• 1:13:00
  Woo, woo side of it. But it's also helping that
• 1:13:03
  person that's kind of rationalizing things to
• 1:13:07
  understand, you know, energy, like where do you feel your
• 1:13:12
  best? What are you doing?
• 1:13:14
  And I had all these kind of visions when you were taking me
• 1:13:17
  there of driving like a black convertible sports car and then
• 1:13:23
  and then being in the jungle and and and just kind of being me in
• 1:13:28
  that beautiful spiritual space. Of, you know, being with people
• 1:13:32
  and connecting with people. So it's amazing how having a
• 1:13:36
  facilitator that talks you through just listening to these
• 1:13:41
  podcasts. And please subscribe and share
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  if you're enjoying this. And give us a review, because
• 1:13:50
  these are, you know, really powerful, informative gold
• 1:13:56
  Nuggets. Right there, even before you're
• 1:13:59
  jumping into the program itself. But of course, you know, we also
• 1:14:06
  then need to navigate through the Muddy Waters, and in Module
• 1:14:09
  2, it's the crystal clear clarity of your true inner self
• 1:14:15
  being your identity. Would you like to really speak
• 1:14:22
  on this topic from that point of perhaps?
• 1:14:26
  How people don't have much crystal clear clarity really,
• 1:14:30
  and how they don't have that concept of who their true self
• 1:14:35
  is. And you know what this module
• 1:14:39
  does to really switch and help that person to become the true
• 1:14:45
  identity that aligns with their higher self.
• 1:14:51
  Yes. OK.
• 1:14:52
  So in Module 2 we go into to set a destiny intention, which is
• 1:15:00
  getting really clear about which area of your life you'd like to
• 1:15:03
  work on throughout the eight week program.
• 1:15:06
  And this helps really ground in because the idea is when we find
• 1:15:12
  the core area that means the most to us, it will have the
• 1:15:16
  biggest ricocheting effect out through our entire life.
• 1:15:20
  So we journey within to choose an area of focus that matters
• 1:15:28
  the most. What is your deepest yearning?
• 1:15:31
  Which area in your life do you deeply yearn to create?
• 1:15:34
  So for example, somebody might come into the program, you know,
• 1:15:38
  really wanting to grow their business and focus on that.
• 1:15:41
  But what they uncover in this first, in the first module and
• 1:15:45
  that journey deeply within is that what they're really, deeply
• 1:15:48
  yearning for is to meet the partner of their life, you know,
• 1:15:51
  their their life partner who they truly connect with.
• 1:15:53
  And that is the deepest journey deeper than growing the
• 1:15:57
  business, you know, but it's been pushed aside because of the
• 1:16:00
  to want to grow the business for example.
• 1:16:02
  So we go into a deep meditation that goes within and what is
• 1:16:08
  really missing? What are you really yearning for
• 1:16:11
  from the inside out. And this is the place where we
• 1:16:14
  can choose to work font work in. And then we and then I ask
• 1:16:19
  questions about, you know, how do you most desire to feel in
• 1:16:23
  this area And we just dropped really into that specific area.
• 1:16:26
  So everyone can be working on somewhere different on this
• 1:16:29
  journey. So it might be relationship or
• 1:16:31
  your business or your health and Wellness.
• 1:16:34
  There's space for you to be working on because we're working
• 1:16:36
  from the essence and the core of our being so.
• 1:16:40
  And it's understanding that that that deepest yearning is often
• 1:16:43
  the one that's being pushed to the side.
• 1:16:45
  Because you're trying to do life and, you know, keep up with the
• 1:16:48
  Joneses and create the life that and the vision that you think
• 1:16:51
  you want. But actually, you know what is
• 1:16:53
  it without that partner maybe or what is it without that health,
• 1:16:57
  You know, if you don't have your health, how are you going to be
• 1:16:59
  able to enjoy what you're creating otherwise?
• 1:17:01
  And so often people really uncover here an area that they
• 1:17:05
  have been ignoring that's been too hard basket that's that they
• 1:17:09
  don't believe they're worthy of in some way or another.
• 1:17:12
  And so this is a safe place to really feel that, uncover that
• 1:17:16
  and and go let's let's lean into that area for this journey.
• 1:17:21
  Wow, I love that. I love what you said on how that
• 1:17:26
  takes them into the inner core of their essence, of their true
• 1:17:32
  self. I believe that that really just
• 1:17:36
  went in. Did you feel that going guys?
• 1:17:39
  Like, could you feel, you know, Nikki's words?
• 1:17:42
  Just kind of like. Diving right into the center of
• 1:17:47
  your being and just bringing that out in you so you can
• 1:17:53
  become crystal clear about who you are.
• 1:17:57
  Wow. Absolutely love it.
• 1:17:59
  And look, you know, the fact is that we know.
• 1:18:03
  You know and I know that when people come to see us, they've
• 1:18:09
  got a problem. Like, that is what this is all
• 1:18:12
  about. And we're always going to have a
• 1:18:14
  problem. And I feel that, you know, when
• 1:18:17
  you've got enlightened people like you and I who really value
• 1:18:24
  personal development, really value our spiritual higher
• 1:18:29
  selves, you know, we're going to continue to have problems.
• 1:18:32
  This is not about being perfect. Like my problem's just new
• 1:18:37
  level, new devil, you know? So it's it's not like.
• 1:18:40
  We're perfect. But you know, wherever you are
• 1:18:43
  right now, what Nikki is really doing is she's taking you on a
• 1:18:48
  journey so you can break through what you are, where you are now,
• 1:18:53
  so you can move into that next plane, so you can shift and you
• 1:19:00
  know everything she's spoken about from the top.
• 1:19:04
  Of where you are quite an enlightened person and your
• 1:19:07
  talents and your gifts. And you know your intuition and
• 1:19:12
  you know your boundaries, your vibration, your clarity and
• 1:19:17
  everything is is really coming through.
• 1:19:20
  Well, this is the what I call the reality check.
• 1:19:26
  And it it's the first module, it is the breakthrough module.
• 1:19:31
  It is uncovering who you are but getting through those Muddy
• 1:19:36
  Waters, breaking through the inner barrier on your discovery
• 1:19:42
  of self. So let's hear from you, the
• 1:19:48
  authority, on breaking through these barriers.
• 1:19:53
  Into the journey of self discovery.
• 1:19:56
  Talk us through this and what what we can do right here and
• 1:20:01
  now. So this is the area about
• 1:20:06
  breaking through, uncovering and seeing your inner barriers.
• 1:20:10
  So that place where you've been feeling stuck, you know where
• 1:20:14
  you have those repeating patterns and self sabotage in
• 1:20:17
  your life and you know it keeps happening and you do everything
• 1:20:20
  you can to use all your willpower to overcome things.
• 1:20:24
  So what we do is we really drill down the three main areas for
• 1:20:30
  women that we get, that we have those inner barriers are around.
• 1:20:38
  I'm not visible, I'm not enough and I'm and I am alone and
• 1:20:45
  they're the three main ones. So in the program we work with
• 1:20:48
  these and we want to uncover what they actually, you know how
• 1:20:55
  we're heading up against them. And they're an invisible
• 1:20:57
  barrier. Until we start looking at these
• 1:20:59
  pieces through the questions that I guide you through you, we
• 1:21:04
  we can't see it. And until we can see it, we
• 1:21:06
  can't transform it and break through it.
• 1:21:08
  And so understanding which of those patterns and sometimes
• 1:21:12
  it's all three and the elements within them are playing out from
• 1:21:16
  you for you. That's where we need to look and
• 1:21:20
  really do the work uncovering those self limiting beliefs.
• 1:21:25
  And and because this is the lens that we're looking at life
• 1:21:28
  through, we're looking at life through this lens of the
• 1:21:31
  limiting beliefs that have been created since childhood.
• 1:21:34
  Like I think we've all experienced that.
• 1:21:36
  And so we have a belief that's either supportive or negative
• 1:21:39
  and either sabotaging or supportive and that that's the
• 1:21:44
  belief then is what creates the decisions that we make in life.
• 1:21:49
  And so then the decisions, we look at those and they're either
• 1:21:52
  going towards or away from our goals.
• 1:21:54
  And often we're making these actions and decisions around
• 1:21:57
  away from our goals for fear and safety.
• 1:22:00
  And when we can start to uncover those, we can start to see how
• 1:22:04
  we're doing that and how to build the courage and the
• 1:22:07
  presence to be able to choose wisely how you want to choose to
• 1:22:11
  move in the direction with your with your vision and your
• 1:22:14
  boundaries and your energy in into your into your best life.
• 1:22:19
  So then you know our decisions create our actions or our
• 1:22:22
  inactions and our results is what we're looking for like to
• 1:22:25
  you know, what do we want to create in our life.
• 1:22:27
  So we drill down on each of those three main inner barriers
• 1:22:32
  and that's actually that it it's actually Module 4 that we do
• 1:22:35
  that. So we've done this kind of deep
• 1:22:37
  dive first into our self because we want to see what our true
• 1:22:40
  desires are. And then we say, OK, what's
• 1:22:42
  stopping us? What's actually happens in that
• 1:22:45
  area of your life? What actually happens, you know,
• 1:22:49
  when you go to create there, what?
• 1:22:51
  So we drill right down into what actually happens and then we can
• 1:22:55
  see which pattern is playing out for us.
• 1:22:57
  And you know, my 1:00 to 1:00 coaching program is where we do
• 1:23:00
  some deep processes, matrix therapies, clearing negative
• 1:23:04
  influences from your childhood where you can on a subconscious
• 1:23:08
  level and with your inner child in a really positive, beautiful
• 1:23:11
  journey can start to unravel and change those those underlying
• 1:23:18
  beliefs that are preventing you from creating what you want in
• 1:23:21
  life. And it's through no fault of
• 1:23:22
  your own. They were always created for a
• 1:23:24
  really important purpose, to keep you safe in the life you
• 1:23:27
  know. And so that's part of the
• 1:23:29
  Together We Rise journey is that we're in such a safe container
• 1:23:32
  that we can explore these things without any shame or guilt.
• 1:23:36
  We can explore them with absolute open hearts and minds
• 1:23:39
  and just see that we're all doing it in some way or another.
• 1:23:42
  That we all have these inner barriers.
• 1:23:45
  And that when we can see them, you know the the week once we've
• 1:23:49
  started to really see them in in a specific way they're playing
• 1:23:51
  out in our lives. Then that week between the
• 1:23:55
  sessions of the program is to really notice all the times
• 1:24:00
  you're doing the behavior that's playing out that that inner
• 1:24:03
  barrier and and that's where the power is for women.
• 1:24:06
  We need to see it. We need to see it so clearly to
• 1:24:09
  be able to change it because we're playing our role.
• 1:24:12
  Everything that's happening in our life isn't happening to us.
• 1:24:15
  It's happening for us is one of you know, and this is we, we are
• 1:24:19
  playing the other side. So even if you're in a toxic
• 1:24:21
  relationship, you still have to be playing the other side of
• 1:24:25
  that that role which is not standing in your own personal
• 1:24:28
  power to be able to have that experience.
• 1:24:32
  And so when we start to grow and change ourself out of those
• 1:24:35
  patterns into an empowered self and empowered human being
• 1:24:39
  without playing those roles, you know, we can see that, that
• 1:24:44
  we're playing a role. You know, you feel like this is
• 1:24:46
  happening to me. That person is doing something,
• 1:24:48
  You know, for me it was again, it was, you know, around my
• 1:24:53
  sister and she can't see and she this and she that and she this.
• 1:24:56
  And it's like, well, how, what role am I playing in that?
• 1:24:59
  How am I being invisible? How am I abandoning myself and
• 1:25:02
  allowing that to happen? Nobody's intentionally
• 1:25:07
  destroying anyone or or doing anything wrong by anyone that
• 1:25:10
  they literally protecting their own self.
• 1:25:13
  Everybody's running their own show and absolutely.
• 1:25:17
  And I I remember because I heard you're a Doctor D Martini person
• 1:25:22
  as well and you do a little bit of his stuff and and I've done
• 1:25:26
  his, I did his certification back in 2008 and I remember him
• 1:25:31
  saying, are you going to be the master of your destiny?
• 1:25:37
  Or the victim of your history. And this is really what Nikki is
• 1:25:45
  talking about, because we all have those life experiences
• 1:25:51
  where we really need to tap into what we're saying to ourself,
• 1:25:58
  what we do need to break through.
• 1:26:00
  And you can hear here how you can break through where you are
• 1:26:06
  at. And not only that, but rise
• 1:26:10
  together in a community that you'll be held in with this
• 1:26:16
  beautiful lady. Because you know, Nikki, this
• 1:26:20
  community that you've got and this program that obviously is,
• 1:26:26
  you know, we always bring in the timeless, ever evolving
• 1:26:30
  programs. That we know.
• 1:26:32
  If somebody's looking and listening to this in five years
• 1:26:35
  from now, they're gonna know exactly who you are, what you're
• 1:26:39
  about and what your values are. And that is what I'm completely
• 1:26:44
  dedicated to and I am so, so incredibly impressed with what
• 1:26:51
  you are giving to the world. So I'd like to ask you, do you
• 1:26:56
  have any last words? Mottos, philosophies that you
• 1:27:03
  would like to share before we close down?
• 1:27:07
  Sure. Yeah.
• 1:27:08
  So really my biggest motto and philosophy around this time is
• 1:27:14
  that it's time. It's the time for the feminine
• 1:27:17
  to rise. And that doesn't necessarily
• 1:27:19
  mean men, Not women, not men. We all have the masculine and
• 1:27:23
  feminine within each and everyone of us.
• 1:27:26
  And so now is the time for feminine empowerment to rise up
• 1:27:32
  and for the divine feminine to meet the sacred masculine.
• 1:27:35
  I believe within us, within our families, our culture, our
• 1:27:39
  countries and the world. And I believe that this balance
• 1:27:43
  will restore the planet and humanity and we will become
• 1:27:48
  heaven on earth basically. I totally believe together we
• 1:27:52
  rise. Together we rise.
• 1:27:55
  And my programs are for women currently.
• 1:27:57
  But I know I'll be working for men as this builds momentum and
• 1:28:01
  working with men because it's about the change and the
• 1:28:05
  balance, the rise of the feminine to make this sacred
• 1:28:07
  masculine. And you know, the Dalai Lama
• 1:28:10
  prophesized that Western women will change the world.
• 1:28:13
  And I believe he's talking about because we are in the the seat
• 1:28:18
  of possibility and potential to bring this forth.
• 1:28:21
  And I think that the coaching industry has the most incredible
• 1:28:25
  power in terms of we can't, we can't become ourselves by
• 1:28:31
  ourselves, holding space for each other and being in that
• 1:28:35
  place where it's safe to explore and unfold and really shine your
• 1:28:39
  unique light in the world. If we all are just doing what we
• 1:28:42
  came here to do, the world will be in balance.
• 1:28:44
  So. Wow, my message.
• 1:28:47
  Wow, wow. So together we rise.
• 1:28:51
  Thank you so much Nikki Pullen. And remember guys, the links to
• 1:28:57
  join her program are in. Down below.
• 1:29:02
  So just click, Get in contact with this beautiful lady and
• 1:29:07
  rise. Thank you, Nikki.
• 1:29:09
  I'll see you soon, gorgeous. Thank you, Terry.
• 1:29:12
  Thank you so much. OK, so would you like to know
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• 1:29:53
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• 1:30:04
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• 1:30:34
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  See you soon.