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- Jo Watson: Welcome back to Unfiltered Faith. I'm Joe Watson, and it's time to breathe. Time to slow down. Time to let your shoulders drop, and time to step into the sanctuary. Not the sanctuary that we're all so familiar with, but the one that God is building inside you. This is the space where we tell the truth, sit with the hard things, and let God breathe hope. into places we thought were permanently broken. Today we're stepping into a tender conversation, one that many of us know all too well. Betrayal. Because betrayal doesn't just break trust, it breaks rhythm, it breaks safety, and it breaks the way your heart interprets love. One of our listeners Wrote in with a question that I believe is going to speak to more than just her. It's going to speak to anyone who has ever had to rebuild themselves after someone mishandled their vulnerability. So before we go any further, I want to read her letter. And as I read it, I want you to breathe. I want you to let the words sit. Because sometimes healing begins with simply admitting this hurt me more than I knew how to say. Here's her letter. Dear Joe, how do you trust again after betrayal? Because I honestly do not know how. Someone I trusted broke something in me that I'm still trying to understand. Now I question people's intentions, their words, and even the moments that feel genuine. I'm always waiting for the next person to hurt me again. I want to love without fear. I want to let people in without wondering when they will betray me. I've become guarded because vulnerability cost me something. But how do you lower your walls when the person who taught you to trust was also the person who taught you betrayal? I just want to feel safe enough to trust again. How do you teach your heart that not everyone is coming to hurt you when the person you trusted most already did? Signed How do I trust again? First, let me say thank you for your letter, and thank you for trusting me with your story. And I also want to say I'm so sorry for your pain. You wrote what so many people feel but don't know how to articulate. Let me say this clearly. Betrayal is not just an event, it's an earthquake. It shakes your identity, it shakes your discernment, it shakes your confidence, and it shakes your ability to interpret love. And here's the truth you need to hear. You are not broken, you are bruised, and bruises do heal. Scripture shows us that even Jesus. experienced betrayal. In John thirteen verse eighteen, Jesus says, Even my close friend, someone I trusted, has turned against me. So if you feel confused, disoriented, or guarded, you're not weak. You're human. But here's the part we often miss. Healing trust Doesn't begin with trusting people again. It begins with trusting God again. Because when betrayal happens, it's not just trust in others that gets damaged, it's trust in your own ability to choose, discern, and feel safe. So let me give you three truths to answer and anchor your heart. One Your walls were a response to pain, not a reflection of your identity. God is not asking you to tear them down overnight. He's asking you to rebuild them with him, with wisdom, and not fear. Psalms thirty-four, eighteen says, The Lord is close to the brokenhearted. Number two. Not everyone is your assignment. Not everyone deserves access to you. Trust is not a blanket you hand out. It's a seed you plant slowly. Proverbs four twenty three tells us to guard your heart for everything you do flows from it. And number three, healing. Doesn't require rushing. It requires honesty. You don't have to pretend you're ready. You don't have to pretend you're not scared. God heals what you reveal. Psalms one hundred forty seven three says He heals the brokenhearted and binds up their wounds. You ask, how do you teach your heart? That not everyone is coming to hurt you. You teach it gently. You teach it slowly. You teach it by letting God show you safe people, not by forcing yourself to trust unsafe ones. And you teach it by remembering that betrayal was something done to you, not something wrong with you. Family, some of you are living behind emotional barricades you never meant to build. You're functioning, but you're not open. You're present, but you're not available. You're in relationships, but you're not letting anyone see the real you. And I want to tell you this God is not asking you to trust recklessly. He's asking you to trust wisely. There is a difference. Trust is not the absence of discernment. Trust is not pretending people are safe. Trust is choosing to believe that God will warn you, that He will guide you, and that He will protect you even if someone fails you. Your heart can learn safety again. Your spirit can learn rest again. Your vulnerability can be redeemed. I want to take a moment right here to pray for our listener who wrote into the show and to pray for those who are listening to the broadcast today who have been hurt. By someone they trusted. Father, for every listener who has been betrayed, mishandled or wounded, I ask you to breathe peace into the places where fear has taken root. Remind them that you are their refuge, their protector, their healer. Restore their ability to trust not recklessly but confidently. Heal the fractures in their identity. Show them safe people, healthy community, and relationships that reflect your love. And remind them that betrayal was not the end of their story. It was the beginning of your rebuilding. Amen. As we close today, let me say your heart will not stay in hiding. God is sending people who will honor your vulnerability, protect your softness, and handle your trust with care. The fear that has followed you will not follow you into your next season. You will love again freely. Wisely and without the shadow of past wounds. And the place where betrayal tried to break you will become the place where God restores you. Family, thank you for sitting in this sacred conversation with me. If betrayal has touched your life, hear me, you are still capable of love. You are still worthy of trust. And your heart is still safe in God's hands. And if you are struggling with pain that is too much for you to bear. This episode is not a substitution for professional therapy or pastoral care. Please seek the help that you need. And until next time, family, unfiltered faith, God is moving, so stay ready. And to God be the glory.