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No One Is Coming To Save You (Episode 2) · Natty Unfiltered

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  Foreign welcome
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  to Nadi Unfiltered Podcast Episode two.
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  In this podcast we are talking about
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  side hustles, self worth, motherhood,
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  and stepping out of your survival mode. Because you
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  weren't meant to lose yourself in motherhood. If you've
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  ever felt like there's more waiting for you but you didn't know where to
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  start, you are in the right place. So let's get
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  into it. No one is coming
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  to save you. That's something that resonated
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  with me for on so many different levels. And what I
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  mean by this is that if you want something bad enough,
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  you need to do everything possible to go after
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  it. Nobody's going to do it for you. You can
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  dream all you want, you can manifest all you want, but if you
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  not going to start putting one foot in
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  front of the other, nothing's going to happen. Nothing in life just happens.
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  You need to make it happen. Yes, you can have
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  people along the way that can guide you, that can help you.
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  They can give you advice, business advice,
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  mental advice. Because running a business is as
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  much as mental as is it physical.
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  So it sometimes it takes an army. But you need to
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  just rely on yourself and
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  nobody's going to do it but you.
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  So if you're waiting for permission, this is it. I'm giving
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  you my permission to just go ahead and start.
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  Few weeks ago, I actually met this nurse and we were talking about
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  just what I do and life in general.
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  And she said that she wanted to.
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  First she commented about my hair and she wanted to make
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  her hair short, but she was afraid to do it just
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  because it's a big jump from going a little bit longer here to very
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  short hair because I have a pixie cut. She also wanted
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  to start her own business and we didn't get into what kind of business it
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  is, but when I told her that I was a realtor and I was
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  doing digital and affiliate marketing,
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  she was very intrigued and she said, you know, I should
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  just go after it and just do my business.
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  And I told her, yes, you should. What are you waiting for?
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  We have days go by, weeks go by,
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  months go by, years go by. And when you still sit
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  around and you have that dream and desire
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  to go after creating a business,
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  doing something online, traveling,
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  even simple things is cutting your hair, which is not very simple because you
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  know, it doesn't grow that fast. Not like for
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  men, they go cut their hair and two weeks later they,
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  you know, the, they go for another haircut anyways,
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  maybe like four weeks. The point is, is that we
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  Tend to just wait around and then we'll look back on our lives and think
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  oh my gosh, why didn't I start that earlier? Because I sure had.
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  So many, so many times I think about
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  it, I'm like, why was I afraid to put myself
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  out there and just start that business?
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  Be online because we know that everything is now driven
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  by social media, online, product presence.
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  Any business that you look up online, they have Instagram accounts,
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  TikTok websites. I think that it's
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  all about the our mindset.
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  Once our mindset shifts, things begin
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  to shift in our lives. The mindset shift goes
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  from survival mode to purpose mode. So when that happens you,
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  it's just like a light bulb goes into in your head and you just
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  become so driven in achieving what
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  you want to achieve. Now I'm
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  sure you are like me who probably still struggling
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  to overcome the fear. I've come a long way from
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  having peer control my
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  life. Also the self doubt and also
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  the biggest one is the judgment. Especially sometimes
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  you have it from family. You sometimes think that family
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  could be very supportive and you tell
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  them that hey, you know, I want to start that business. And when you have
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  family that doesn't support you, that doesn't get behind you,
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  they question. Of course it can become daunting,
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  more scary. But this is when
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  you just have to regroup and remember
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  why are you doing what you are doing?
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  Don't seek approval from others. You want
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  to find that right support
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  system that can guide you,
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  that can give you advice.
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  Also point out some things that maybe you
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  overlooked. But at the end of the day, as long as you do
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  your research and you write things
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  out and do need the capital, maybe you don't.
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  When I wanted to start digital marketing
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  and affiliate marketing, I knew about affiliate marketing just being the
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  in the influencer space.
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  But I didn't know much about digital marketing and how I can
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  make money from digital
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  products. And I've listened to other
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  moms talk about it and I did my
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  own research. It took me months just to make
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  sure that it was real. Something that I can also do
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  and I invested in. First it was one
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  course and then a different course to learn the skills.
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  I had to put myself out there on social media in
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  a different way than just showcasing the beautiful
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  outfits or the restaurants or the places
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  that was visited as a family. Cooking,
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  which I love to do and showcase different dishes
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  and how I make them for my family.
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  When introducing the products and digital products
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  and being an affiliated space,
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  I had to create videos that were completely different.
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  I Had to talk to the camera, I had to get my point across.
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  And I tell you that I sucked.
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  I would kind of freeze and there
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  was so many things that were going through my head that I wanted to say
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  in the video and I had to make it short. I couldn't just
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  ramble on. As we know, the attention
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  spam for a lot of us is very short.
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  And when you take into account Instagram,
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  TikTok, YouTube, people go on those applications
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  and for different reasons,
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  you have to catch people's attention very quickly for them to
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  stick around and to listen to you and to what you have to say.
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  And people have to, they need to like
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  you, they need to trust you and then they
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  will go ahead and buy from you.
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  Sometimes it could be different than just showcasing a pretty dress
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  or outfits or makeup or hair products.
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  Then when you are trying to tell
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  people about digital products and digital products or something
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  that is a course, it can be ebook, it can
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  be digital guide. We a lot of times don't realize what
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  digital products are. But the point that I'm trying
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  to make is that when you are in
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  uncharted waters and something is new and something that
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  doesn't feel natural to you, it does take
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  time to learn, it does take time to
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  practice. And like in my case, I had
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  to do so many videos that I did not like
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  hearing myself looking at myself. I asked
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  for opinion from others that
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  close to me and I decided to and not decided.
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  But I, when I had that, I pivoted. I changed the videos
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  because their advice was important to me and
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  I wanted to improve myself because I wanted to grow on
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  social media. I wanted to get my point across in the
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  right way.
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  That's something that helped me along the way.
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  And when something that helps me,
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  something that worked for me, I wanted to share with
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  others, you know, that mental kind
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  of like this mental block for me.
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  I remember I used to, and I still to this day sometimes struggle is that
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  even though I've been in sales for so many years in
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  being school and college,
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  but when I love a product, I tend to talk about it and
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  share with other people. But I remember when I was trying
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  to sell this beauty line that I've
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  used it for at least probably a year. And then somebody told me,
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  why don't you sell it? You, you love it, you use it, you know,
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  introduce it to other people. And I thought, okay, you know,
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  why not? Yes, I love the product. I would love to share it with other
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  people. Well, when I start to
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  do that inside of me, I felt Like I was selling the product.
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  I wasn't like sharing my love, which was
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  kind of stupid and crazy because it was
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  just that mental block that I had to work through.
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  I think that because I was in
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  that kind of a stage of like, okay,
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  I was selling the product, which before I was just sharing
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  the products that I loved. I love the skincare,
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  I love the, the makeup from the line.
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  But once that I introduced myself as being like this salesperson
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  for the line, something in my head just shifted.
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  I did this for some time and I just gave
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  it up. At some point I wasn't getting the support that I
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  needed, even from my close
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  friends, which I thought that I would get the support from my
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  close friends, but that wasn't the case. So throughout
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  life I just kind of started to learn that yes, we all change
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  as we start getting older. But I was again
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  faced with the fact that, hey, I need to be relying on myself
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  and doing things that puts
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  a fire under my butt. Something that even if I
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  don't get the support from those close to me, I still am going
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  to pursue it and go after us like, okay, screw them. This is
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  what I wanted to do. And when I got into the online space of
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  digital affiliate marketing, the whole thing of like
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  Amazon reviewer, I wanted to succeed real bad.
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  And I would do anything to make myself better, to make my content
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  better, to succeed and to share my
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  wins with others, with other moms that are looking for
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  that outlet, that creative outlet, that financial
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  stability, that financial abundance and something
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  that makes them happy and something that fuels
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  their like kind of fire or just it goes
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  beyond just raising your family and
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  because it's still huge. You know, being a mom is just the greatest thing that
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  I've gone to do and continue to
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  do. But I've also want. I have these
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  dreams and desires for myself which ultimately is
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  good for my family too. Think that when mom's happy,
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  everybody else is happy. That's what I think and I'm sure you can
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  agree with it as well. So I just want you to
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  stop and think and de de dig
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  deep inside and ask yourself what
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  makes you happy? If listen, if going to 9 to
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  5 job and corporate job is what makes you happy, then I'm all happy
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  actually for you. I've always said that I envied in a good
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  way people who love what they do.
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  I think a lot of us are going to our work because
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  we need that paycheck. Not many of us.
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  And I know that I've spoken to a lot of people actually
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  love what they do. Now when you run your own business,
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  your business does not run just nine to five.
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  Your business you can be working in till
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  the very like late nights. You can be getting up super early
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  to work on the business. This is your business and you answer
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  it to yourself. But then at the end of the day,
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  that's what brings you joy and that's,
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  and if this is what brings you joy and happiness, then this
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  is what, this is what you do.
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  So you just need to kind of think like,
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  okay, what makes me happy? What do I want to do? Do I want
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  to create the business? Do I want to get on social media
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  and share with people like my likes? If you're like cooking
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  or you're a nurse, you want to share some,
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  some knowledge with the nurses that are getting into the field and
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  they're beginners. If you're a real estate agent, what do you want to share with
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  other realtors that are new in the business? And we always can learn. Even if
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  you have been in business for quite some time, you can still learn things.
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  But what's stopping you? Just write down what's,
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  what is your biggest, what are your biggest goals?
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  What, what have you been desiring that you wanted to
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  do? What is preventing you from doing that? What you
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  can do to actually overcome that fear.
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  What you can do to start might have to fall
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  on your face two times, but then you get up and you keep on going.
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  It's like when kids starting to learn,
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  they first crawl and then they try to get up and then they
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  take their first couple of steps, they fall down and then get
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  up and then they keep on going. So that's what you need to
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  do as well. It can be scary, it can be unknown what's
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  holds in the future. But if you don't start, how are you going to know
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  what's the future holds?
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  And you might be happy that you,
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  that you started, that you gave it that push
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  to yourself and continue doing, continue persevering,
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  continue asking for help, learning, growing.
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  And I am rooting for you.
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  So this is it for this episode.
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  And I ask you, you can leave also what topics you would like for
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  me to cover in the future episodes. I would love to know.
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  Thank you for listening. And I until next.