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5-MINUTE FRIDAY: What 'Finding Your Why' Really Means · Hurdle with Emily Abbate

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  Speaker 1: Bonjour, hurdlers. I will say this now. I cannot speak
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  Speaker 1: French at all, but I am in Paris and you
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  Speaker 1: are listening to five Minute Friday. I'm here right now.
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  Speaker 1: Was invited by Adidas to celebrate one hundred days out
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  Speaker 1: to the Olympics. They revealed their kits earlier this week.
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  Speaker 1: I was so stoked to be a part of that
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  Speaker 1: experience and also had the opportunity to sit down with
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  Speaker 1: some stellar athletes who will be coming to the Feed
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  Speaker 1: in season seventeen. As a note for all of you,
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  Speaker 1: Hurdle is going on a season break next week for
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  Speaker 1: two weeks. I can't We've been going straight through this year.
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  Speaker 1: I think something like thirty two or thirty four episodes
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  Speaker 1: so far and season seventeen premieres. Let me get the
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  Speaker 1: date for you here on May sixth with I'm not
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  Speaker 1: going to lie a pretty stellar episode. But in the meantime,
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  Speaker 1: I want to talk to you about what I interviewed
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  Speaker 1: someone about yesterday. I was sitting down with Grant Holloway.
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  Speaker 1: This will not be on the show. It was for
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  Speaker 1: an upcoming article on GQ, and I asked Grant how
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  Speaker 1: it is that he shows up day in and day out.
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  Speaker 1: He was talking to me about how rigorous his training
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  Speaker 1: schedule is, how dialed in he is on not just
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  Speaker 1: the way that he prepares and the way that he
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  Speaker 1: excels within sport, but also the way that he recovers.
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  Speaker 1: And he takes his nutrition really seriously. He can tell
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  Speaker 1: me exactly what he eats for breakfast, lunch, snack, dinner,
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  Speaker 1: He gets his sleep in, he goes to acupuncture, he
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  Speaker 1: does body work. And he told me that he was
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  Speaker 1: so sure that he wanted to remove the butt and
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  Speaker 1: the if, that he had a really rough year on
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  Speaker 1: the track in twenty twenty two and knew that he
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  Speaker 1: was finally ready after that tough year to put his
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  Speaker 1: best foot forward to go all in. And I can
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  Speaker 1: really appreciate that. I think it takes a lot of
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  Speaker 1: diligence to get to a place where you're willing to
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  Speaker 1: remove the butt and the IF. I will say this,
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  Speaker 1: and I say this reflecting on the episode that I
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  Speaker 1: put out a couple weeks ago talking about how I
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  Speaker 1: want to be back here this summer. You can be
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  Speaker 1: in a place where you want to remove the button
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  Speaker 1: the IF, but it's so important that no matter what
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  Speaker 1: you have going on, and no matter how diligent you
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  Speaker 1: are in the pursuit of the things that light you
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  Speaker 1: on fire, that you find grace with yourself. Grace looks
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  Speaker 1: like knowing that I'm giving everything that I have to
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  Speaker 1: something and also being okay knowing that there's more to
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  Speaker 1: me than whatever goal I'm going after. I have the
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  Speaker 1: opportunity to talk to you so many athletes and share
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  Speaker 1: their stories with you here on the show, and so
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  Speaker 1: many of them have talked about the sacrifice and the
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  Speaker 1: opportunity cost that goes hand in hand with going after
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  Speaker 1: their big goals, and they have come to a place
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  Speaker 1: where they understand that as a human they are so
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  Speaker 1: much more than their sport, and we are so much
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  Speaker 1: more than our goals. So I believe that it is
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  Speaker 1: so important, regardless of whatever it is that you're going after,
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  Speaker 1: that you find that grace and that compassion for yourself
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  Speaker 1: and you talk to yourself like you would a loved one.
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  Speaker 1: It's one thing to push yourself toward the things that
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  Speaker 1: excite you. It's one thing to put in the work
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  Speaker 1: to go all in, but it's another thing to make
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  Speaker 1: sure that you have that essential amount of compassion that
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  Speaker 1: enables you to be kind, to be good, to be
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  Speaker 1: considerate of the human that you are outside of your goals.
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  Speaker 1: Can you tell that I'm giving myself a little bit
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  Speaker 1: of a pep talk. I also do want to say
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  Speaker 1: this because if you are someone that is trying to
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  Speaker 1: remove the button, if I would encourage you to dial
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  Speaker 1: in on your why, sit down and write down why
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  Speaker 1: this thing is important to you. And I don't want
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  Speaker 1: one sentence, right, I want pages. I want you to
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  Speaker 1: visualize and think about and look at what it is
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  Speaker 1: about that goal, what it is about that thing that
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  Speaker 1: really resonates with you, and candidly. Sometimes when doing this exercise,
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  Speaker 1: I realize that the thing that I thought that I
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  Speaker 1: wanted might not be so glitzy and shiny and exciting
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  Speaker 1: after all, and that's okay. In order to move forward,
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  Speaker 1: in order to find clarity, whether that clarity reveals what
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  Speaker 1: it is that you thought that you were after or not,
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  Speaker 1: you have to get honest about where you're at and
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  Speaker 1: so get specific on your goals, what your why is,
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  Speaker 1: by giving yourself the space to explore it and knowing
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  Speaker 1: that it's okay to pivot, it's okay to shift, it's
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  Speaker 1: okay that maybe the thing that you wanted. Isn't the
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  Speaker 1: thing that really is the best for you after all?
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  Speaker 1: But you can't make that realization unless you give yourself
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  Speaker 1: the air, the space to really dive. All in my
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  Speaker 1: prompter you this week is what is your why? What
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  Speaker 1: is the big goal that you are going after right now?
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  Speaker 1: And take the time to write on it. What is
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  Speaker 1: your why? What are you going after? And I'd love
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  Speaker 1: it candidly if you tag me in your big goals
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  Speaker 1: on social tag Hurdle, tag me over at Hurdle podcast
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  Speaker 1: and over at Emily a Body and let's dream big together.
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  Speaker 1: And now a listener question.
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  Speaker 2: Hi, Emily, my name is Lisa. I'm calling you from
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  Speaker 2: the great state of Maine. I've been a Hurdle listener
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  Speaker 2: for the past couple of years now, and I wanted
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  Speaker 2: to start by thanking you for all the light that
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  Speaker 2: you bring into the world. I love sharing little nippets
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  Speaker 2: of your podcast with my students as they try to
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  Speaker 2: find their own way in this world. I'm a middle
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  Speaker 2: school teacher and my question has to do with where
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  Speaker 2: you saw your life headed when you were in college.
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  Speaker 2: Did you think that you'd be hosting a show like this.
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  Speaker 2: I know that you went into journalism and writing, and
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  Speaker 2: I just didn't know if hurdle was something that you
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  Speaker 2: imagined and manifested or was it something that was a
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  Speaker 2: culmination of a lot of other activities. Thanks again for.
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  Speaker 1: What you do, Hey, Lisa, this is a good one.
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  Speaker 1: You know, it wasn't on my radar at all. In college,
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  Speaker 1: I double majored in political science and journalism, so I
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  Speaker 1: definitely knew that I wanted to do writing. I briefly
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  Speaker 1: thought about law school and then decided that just was
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  Speaker 1: not for me. I interned at Fitness Magazine my junior
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  Speaker 1: year of college, and then I interned at the Hertford
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  Speaker 1: Current newspaper my senior year of college. Got a job
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  Speaker 1: right out right out of college as a paid intern
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  Speaker 1: at Cafe Mom's The Stir, which was a woman's lifestyle
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  Speaker 1: blog back in twenty ten, and then got hired at
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  Speaker 1: Cafe Mom a few months later as an editorial assistant,
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  Speaker 1: and so I ran full force into digital media. I
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  Speaker 1: worked in digital at Cafe Mom. Then I worked as
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  Speaker 1: a fitness editor at Rodale, which is no longer. It's
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  Speaker 1: a publishing company that was sold to Hurst, and then
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  Speaker 1: I left Rodale and got let Go just signed the
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  Speaker 1: Times publishing industry corporate layoffs. Standard landed at Self Magazine
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  Speaker 1: five days later. Was the fitness editor itself for a
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  Speaker 1: year before Self Magazine folded, And so I was having
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  Speaker 1: this like sensive career as a digital and print journalist.
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  Speaker 1: I was doing the things itself that I dreamed of
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  Speaker 1: doing ever since I was little. I was on photo shoots,
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  Speaker 1: I was interviewing athletes. I was getting to go to
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  Speaker 1: cool events and travel the world and just so much
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  Speaker 1: awesome stuff. I had my dream job at the time,
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  Speaker 1: and when I lost that job, I had no thought
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  Speaker 1: or inkling that I would start a podcast. But I
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  Speaker 1: did know that I had a goal, and my goal
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  Speaker 1: was to empower other women to find their own potential
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  Speaker 1: to level up in whatever way excites them. I knew
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  Speaker 1: that I wanted to use my voice for good, and
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  Speaker 1: I got to a point in my freelance writing journey
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  Speaker 1: after I left Self Magazine that I felt as though
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  Speaker 1: some of the articles that I was writing they didn't
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  Speaker 1: excite me, they didn't feel like I was pursuing my
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  Speaker 1: passions and my purpose, And so I did. The thing
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  Speaker 1: that I talk about on the show pretty often was
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  Speaker 1: that I made an a b and C list Column A,
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  Speaker 1: it's the things that you're doing right now that you
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  Speaker 1: absolutely love, Colum B the things you're doing right now
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  Speaker 1: that you're kind of okay with, that you like and
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  Speaker 1: you don't mind, and callum cee the things that you
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  Speaker 1: want to step away from, the things that you could
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  Speaker 1: totally do without and candidly you probably don't like doing
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  Speaker 1: them at all. How can I look at this list
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  Speaker 1: and start to do more within B and A knowing
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  Speaker 1: that getting rid of callum C, especially when money is
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  Speaker 1: involved and you have to make a living, it doesn't
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  Speaker 1: happen overnight. And I make this list twice a year
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  Speaker 1: still to this day, doing an honest audit with myself
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  Speaker 1: about how I'm expending my energy and what I want
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  Speaker 1: to be doing more of, and what I want to
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  Speaker 1: get rid of, meeting myself with where I'm at and
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  Speaker 1: having that honest dialogue. And so back to the question, No,
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  Speaker 1: I never thought that I'd be podcasting, but podcasting and
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  Speaker 1: having these conversations it makes me feel like I am
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  Speaker 1: so aligned with my passion and my purpose, and it
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  Speaker 1: also has opened the door for me to step into
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  Speaker 1: every version of myself. It's opened the door for me
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  Speaker 1: to meet myself in every iteration, and I'm excited to
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  Speaker 1: meet the Emily that will be in five years. I've
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  Speaker 1: learned so much about the things that excite me personally professionally,
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  Speaker 1: I know now that I am so excited to do
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  Speaker 1: more event hosting, more facilitating, and I love nothing more
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  Speaker 1: than the moment of impact, as I call it, the
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  Speaker 1: moment where I see the light bulb go off where
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  Speaker 1: I can have a conversation with someone or be facilitating
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  Speaker 1: a dialogue and see that they two are really understanding
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  Speaker 1: and comprehending their own big potential and are excited to
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  Speaker 1: go and do the next thing, to take the next leap.
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  Speaker 1: That's what I want to be dialed in on. So yes,
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  Speaker 1: I'm podcasting, but I'm also constantly understanding that there's more
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  Speaker 1: to this and I don't exactly know what that is,
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  Speaker 1: just like I didn't exactly know what that was when
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  Speaker 1: I started podcasting, and that I think is the really
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  Speaker 1: good stuff at Emilybody at Hurdle Podcast. And also, if
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