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Narcissists Are Changing and It's NOT For The Better · The Mental Healness Podcast

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  Narcissists are evolving. Yeah, that's right.
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  Narcissists are evolving. Narcissists are changing with
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  the times. Just like the.
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  Information is out there for impacts.
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  The same information is available to narcissists.
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  So narcissists are inevitably getting better and being
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  narcissistic, getting better and manipulating people.
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  And that's what we're talking about today.
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  Y'all, Of course, if you're new here, I'm Lee Hammock, I'm a
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  diagnosed narcissist myself. And welcome to another episode
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  of The Narcissist Code. Let's get it.
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  Boom welcome back folks welcome back welcome back yes I am
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  filming in my living room today y'all see my family stuff behind
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  me my kids are downstairs in my office and now I have to film in
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  the living room but. We make do.
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  We make do I got to get this information to you and whatnot.
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  But yeah, yeah. Evolution.
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  What do you believe in evolution?
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  Or not. You're experiencing it right
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  now. In the niche.
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  Or in this whole world of narcissistic abuse, of toxic
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  relationship dynamics. Because again, narcissists are
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  evolving like I. Said before.
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  In the intro in the hook. When I the hooked you in when I
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  said that. Narcissistic people are getting
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  better at being narcissistic. The.
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  Same info, the same videos. This video matter of fact.
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  This video that you're watching? Is also available.
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  To narcissists, you know. What I'm saying I think.
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  That a lot of people will struggle with that right there,
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  right? Because you, you might consider
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  yourself an empath or you might be codependent, whatever you
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  have going on, right? You're a victim of narcissistic
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  abuse. You're a victim of abandoning a
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  toxic relationship, so you go on your hunt for information you
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  want to feel. Better you join.
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  Lee Hammock's support group, The Mental Healers You.
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  Take you take a one, you do a one on.
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  One with Lee Hammock at Mental. Illness.net You do all of this
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  stuff, you watch Doctor. Romney, you watch Sam Vakney.
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  You watch the Bat Wolf, you watch Jacob skateboard, you
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  watch Leon Walker, you watch all these several.
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  World narcissists. But guess what, other
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  narcissists are watching that same.
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  Stuff. Narcissistic people are watching
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  the same things that you're watching.
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  And if you know and guess what, when they're watching those
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  videos. Most narcissists are not
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  watching those videos because they think that they are
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  narcissists. Most narcissists.
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  Are watching those videos because they think that they are
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  the victim. They think that they are the
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  victim of you. So they're watching these
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  videos, they're watching these, reading these books, they're
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  taking these courses, they're joining these groups thinking
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  that they are the victim, right? This is what happens.
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  They think that they are the victim somehow.
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  They're like, well, you know what?
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  I'm the victim of my narcissistic partner.
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  And then they start telling the story like, yeah, so I made.
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  I'm not perfect either, right? I started cheating.
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  I cheated several times. I'm not perfect.
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  I'm yeah, I did that. But the fact that they started
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  giving me the. Solid treatment after I.
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  Cheated. It's abuse.
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  The fact that they didn't want to work on anything, they can't
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  forgive. I seen the video said narcissist
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  never forgive you and I cheated and they would never forgive me.
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  They would never want to work on it.
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  They never tried to get past it. They never tried to work
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  together with anything, right. So this is what happens.
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  Like nobody don't know. This is what goes on.
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  This is what this is what it transpired.
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  I'm the victim here. That's the mentality that
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  they're watching the videos with most.
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  Narcissists are not watching my videos.
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  Trying to get trying thinking that they are narcissists Let's
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  be let's keep it hot and ready. Most of them think that they are
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  impasse. Most.
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  Of them. Are trying to find a way in
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  their minds. To play the victim right now.
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  Are there some? Narcissists that watch my videos
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  thinking that they are narcissists, yes.
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  Thank you. Today you're looking for some
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  type of help. Yes, and shout out to you if
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  you're one of those, shout out to you because I know how tough
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  it is to. Be a narcissist trying to seek
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  help. I get that right.
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  This video is not for you because.
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  If you're actually trying to get better, hey, more power.
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  To you but. If you're not, if you're
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  watching the video, like yeah, I.
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  Was the abuser. I cheated.
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  I did all this. I did a.
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  Bunch of BS to this person and now I've.
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  Been held now me being held accountable is abuse is crazy
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  right? That's a wild mentality to have
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  I didn't do. We can all agree.
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  On that right there. I think that's a wild mentality
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  to have going into it thinking like, you know what?
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  I'm the victim here. I keep having to change my light
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  around y'all cause the sun is going behind clouds and stuff
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  like that. Like my face is getting dark.
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  I like. I'm.
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  Y'all here, y'all here for the y'all here for the material,
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  y'all here to. Hear y'all here to hear it.
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  Right, so y'all can deal with the sunlight, the sun setting
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  and rising and whatever. It's like what, 10:30 here in
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  North Carolina? I don't know what time it is.
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  But guess narcissists are evolving y'all?
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  That's why sometimes when like when you learn you, you can
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  learn. All you want to about
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  narcissists, right? You can learn.
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  So much about narcissistic. People, you watch every video
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  there. Is.
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  You can feel like you're. Narcissist proof.
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  Proof. I said proof.
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  You can feel like you're narcissist proof.
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  Go out there. Start.
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  Dating again get. Out there into the real world
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  and go on a date with somebody, end up falling in love with
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  somebody and six months down the.
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  Road you realize they're narcissists, you be like.
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  Damn how? How did this happen?
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  I've watched so many videos, I've studied, I've took courses.
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  How did this happen? Like, I did everything that I've
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  been taught to do. I waited, I took my time, I did
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  all of this stuff, and it still turns out that they're a
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  narcissist. What the hell happened?
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  Narcissists are evolving. They're getting better.
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  At what they do, you see what I'm saying?
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  And because I'm getting. Because let's say I'm a
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  narcissist. Right, because I get better at
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  what I do, I know what to look out for.
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  Let's say I'm a narcissist. I'm watching Doctor.
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  Romney video about red flags or watch Stronger than Before Lisa.
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  Sunny. I watch the Lisa Sunny video
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  about red flags and toxic manipulative people.
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  Right, I watched that. I know some of these are my red
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  flags. I know that some of these things
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  that are happening that are that are talked about in this video
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  are the red flags that I've done.
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  I know that. So I avoid it.
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  I learned how to avoid it. I evolve, I change with the
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  times, right? You know, 11 red flag of a
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  narcissist is the fact that they can't handle hearing the word
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  no. So I've I know I hate hearing
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  the word no. You tell me no on a first date
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  or second date, even though it hurts, even though it makes me
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  in my eye twitch. I'm not going to give you a big
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  reaction because that's what narcissists do, right?
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  I know I'm trying to be manipulative and this is for
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  the. Higher level narcissist y'all.
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  This is again narcissists are evolving but this I feel like
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  this is for the higher functioning narcissists not
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  these. For lack of better word, not
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  these. Dumb narcissists y'all.
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  Yeah, some people deal. With dumb.
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  Narcissists. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
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  Somebody say, hey, I'm I, hey, I'm just saying.
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  I'm not saying, I'm just saying right some people.
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  Do deal with they're just dumb narcissists, right?
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  Just stupid people. But devil goes on.
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  This is for the higher. Functioning narcissist lower.
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  Functioning they are. Reactionary, right?
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  Lower functioning, lower functioning narcissistic people
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  are super reactionary. They react all the time.
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  They don't know how not to react, right?
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  But the higher functioning narcissist?
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  Are not going to react a lot. They're not going to give you
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  all that energy. They're not.
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  They're they're going to take their time.
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  They're going to take be able to control their reactions for a
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  little while until they get you, until they get what they want.
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  They're going to be able to hide who they are.
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  Better so. In order to figure out who they
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  are, you would have to take more time.
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  You're going to have to make them uncomfortable.
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  You look, they say, you never really know who.
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  Someone is, until you see them angry or uncomfortable or put it
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  in a situation where where they're stressed out you.
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  Never really know who they are. If you if it's all good times,
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  of course you're going to think this is a.
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  Good person you. Have to find some bad times.
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  I'm not saying be intentionally bad.
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  To this person. I'm just saying when some
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  conflict arises, how do they handle it again?
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  Even the. Higher functioning narcissist.
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  Are going to buckle a lot of times under the stress of.
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  Conflict. Because a lot of times they want
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  to, they want to rage out. A lot of times they want to
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  revert back to their old normal behaviors of give you the
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  silent. Treatment right of just ignoring
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  you or just some of them? Just put put their hands on you.
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  You see? What I'm saying you.
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  Have to I know this. Lady, they sound like victim
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  blame. How is it victim blame when I'm
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  trying to help you? How?
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  You know what I'm saying? I know people just be slaying
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  that damn word around you. Victim blamely.
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  How, how, how, how? I'm trying to help you.
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  Because like in this situation, you have to depend on yourself.
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  You can't depend on them to out themselves, you have to pull
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  them out. You think a damn troll is going
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  to willfully come out from under the damn bridge?
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  No, you have to trick them to come out from under the bridge.
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  You have to pull them out into the sun.
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  Like you think a vampire is willfully going to walk all into
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  the daylight. No, they sleep in coffins.
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  You got to open the coffin up and shine the sun on the ass.
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  That's what you had to do. They're not woefully going to
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  give in and out themselves and put themselves in in unnecessary
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  danger. Who would do that?
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  You see what I'm saying? You have to pull them out.
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  You have to put them in these scenarios.
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  Allow them the opportunity to out themselves.
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  You have to pull them into the sunlight and see if they burn.
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  Hey, come over here in the sunlight real quick now I'm I.
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  Like the I like the shade. It's really oh, the shade.
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  I like the shade. The shade is by home.
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  I I sleep and I love the shade. OK, OK.
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  I guess you. Guess you're going.
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  To not fall in love. OK, I'm coming.
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  Somebody. You.
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  I know there's an obtuse example right there, but sometimes it
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  you have it, you have to boil it down to the nitty gritty part of
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  it. Yeah, you have to understand
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  that this is how a lot of narcissist minds work.
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  Like they want to be manipulative, they want to be
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  abusive, they want to be toxic, they want to do this type of
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  stuff, but you have to pull them out in the open and do it right.
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  They, like narcissists, are getting when I say evolving,
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  they're getting better at masking.
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  Who they are? Yeah, the matter of fact, I
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  could be a prime example of this.
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  Let's just use me. As an example here, right?
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  I knew nothing. About narcissistic abuse.
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  In May of 2020 when I first started my platform talking
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  about. Narcissistic relationships.
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  Toxic relationship dynamics. I had zero knowledge of
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  narcissistic. Abuse I had.
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  Zero knowledge of toxic relationship dynamics.
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  Zero. I knew nothing.
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  All the knowledge, most of the knowledge you see that I have
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  right now comes from me talk. Comes from me.
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  Watching videos about narcissistic abuse.
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  Right. My own lived experience of
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  being. A narcissist, right?
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  And dealing with other narcissists in my own life,
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  right? But I, like I said, watching
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  videos, doing the other stuff, Yeah, I've, I've read a bunch of
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  literature. I've done a bunch of that work
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  as well. But that's that's the point.
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  It's out there for me to read. As a diagnosed narcissist, yes,
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  I'm using my information for good.
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  But most narcissists are not trying to.
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  Use it for good. You see what I'm saying?
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  Like I've learned this stuff from watching videos I've.
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  Learned this stuff. From reading books I've read
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  Doctor Romney's. Books I've read, you know I've
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  read. Doctor Peter Salerno.
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  I've read. His books I read.
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  I've read Sam Magnus book. I read Dana Monistar's books.
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  I read so many different books in literature about
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  narcissistic. Relationships y'all.
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  It's out there for me. I use yes.
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  Again, I use it for good because I've.
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  Helped A. Lot of people, right?
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  And also one. Of the main sources of
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  information I get about how to help people is.
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  Talking to survivors. Y'all survivors, Thrivers,
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  psychiatrists, psychologists, therapists, counselors, coaches.
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  I've talked to thousands. Over the last five years I've
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  been. Blessed.
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  I'm so grateful I've got the opportunity to help thousands of
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  people understand what they went through on a macro scale.
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  There's millions of people because I have over 3 million
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  people that follow me across social media, right?
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  I've got the. Opportunity to talk to so many
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  damn people. I've helped so many people too.
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  Y'all I've. Helped so many people, I love
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  it. Y'all don't understand how much
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  I love it. I really do, y'all.
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  So as you're moving forward and you continue to thrive in your
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  journey, just understand that the same information that's out
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  there for you is out there for them as well.
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  Right. And how they use the information
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  let's say I use it for good. Most are not going to use it for
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  good. The bat wolf uses his for good.
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  You some saying he's on his social media talk doing his
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  stuff right here. Whatever case may be right, the
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  information out there for good most times Bat Wolf has.
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  He he has. His drama going on sometimes,
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  right? But we're all going to have slip
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  ups and stuff like that. Yeah.
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  Anyway, y'all, I had a hop off to say I have a one-on-one I
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  have to hop off to right now. But hit the subscribe button if
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  things Lee, Hammer and I. Am out.
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  Peace.