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The One Where Lala Spills The Tea On Herself & Welcomes Burn Survivor Aaliyah Shepard · Untraditionally Lala

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  Speaker 1: Hello, my beautiful ladies and gen sure, there's a couple gents.
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  Speaker 1: Just all my folks, all my people. Welcome to another
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  Speaker 1: episode of Give Them La La. What day is it?
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  Speaker 2: What day is it?
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  Speaker 1: Well, it's this stile air Wednesday.
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  Speaker 2: It's Monday right now.
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  Speaker 1: But this layer feeling a little like, can I tell
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  Speaker 1: you I've realized that when I decide to go and
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  Speaker 1: do something, mm hmm, if I go to bed, let's
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  Speaker 1: just say anytime after midnight, Like, it's all the same
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  Speaker 1: after that, when you're going to bed after midnight, I
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  Speaker 1: could be going to bed at midnight and it might
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  Speaker 1: as well be five in the morning, because it's all
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  Speaker 1: no matter. If I get eight hours of sleep, I'm
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  Speaker 1: the next morning, I'm gonna feel sick. I'm gonna feel depleted.
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  Speaker 1: I'm not gonna be digging life.
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  Speaker 2: That is the same for me. That's so weird. Yeah, yeah,
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  Speaker 2: that's the same for me. If I go to bed
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  Speaker 2: after midnight, and it doesn't matter if I have one
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  Speaker 2: drink or five, I will feel the same. So usually
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  Speaker 2: when I go out, I just don't drink because I'm like,
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  Speaker 2: what's the point.
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  Speaker 1: What's the point?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah?
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  Speaker 1: Well, and I told my my mom I tell my
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  Speaker 1: beautiful mother because we're obsessing over a Game of Thrones
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  Speaker 1: right now and like I cannot stop watching. Yeah, but
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  Speaker 1: I told her, like, when the clock hits eleven, we're done.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, you go to bed.
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  Speaker 1: I go to bed. There's no more because if we
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  Speaker 1: push into midnight, my my whole next day is going
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  Speaker 1: to be shot.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: And even though it's a weekend, Like my kid doesn't care. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: my kids like time to wake up and play and
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  Speaker 1: run around.
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  Speaker 2: And it's exhausting right right, and just but.
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  Speaker 1: Just like if I go to bed too late, I'm
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  Speaker 1: like fuck this.
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  Speaker 2: And it's easy to do that with Game of Thrones
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  Speaker 2: because you're like, just one more. We have to see
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  Speaker 2: what happens next, like just one more. And then with
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  Speaker 2: Game of Thrones, next thing, you know, it's freaking three am.
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  Speaker 1: Three in the morning, and I'm having to wake up
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  Speaker 1: and be mom and run a business and put food
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  Speaker 1: on the table and pay these bills.
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  Speaker 2: So you're exhausted today, You don't seem it.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know, not at all.
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  Speaker 2: You look your skin is glowing. She's got the pony Bunton, which,
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  Speaker 2: if you guys don't know, is the new is the
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  Speaker 2: new style. It's actually starting to get probably old now,
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  Speaker 2: because it's been like going strong for about two weeks.
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  Speaker 1: But it's two weeks and it's over, and I'm just
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  Speaker 1: caught on.
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  Speaker 2: It's the thing that Kim Kardashian and all these supermodels
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  Speaker 2: have been wearing.
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  Speaker 1: I'm so done with that. By the way, Kim. Kim
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  Speaker 1: Kardashian brings back the middle part, go fuck yourself. I've
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  Speaker 1: been rocking that shit since the first grade.
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  Speaker 2: I know the middle.
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  Speaker 1: Kim Kardashian brings back the swoop Bang. No, I've been
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  Speaker 1: rocking that shit all season, I know. But because my
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  Speaker 1: season doesn't air until God knows when it's gonna look
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  Speaker 1: like Kim Kay did it with shame, do it like
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  Speaker 1: like Kent did it first looks better, But make no mistake,
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  Speaker 1: the swoop Bang never went out of stock.
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  Speaker 2: That's true. That's true.
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  Speaker 1: I love me some, Kim Kardashian. Yeah, you know that,
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  Speaker 1: I like, I only know for celebrities. Yeah, Kim Kardashian, Rihanna, Beyonce,
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  Speaker 1: Haley Beaber yeap.
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  Speaker 2: No, that's true.
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  Speaker 1: Done, she says.
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  Speaker 2: Done. Okay, So with that, you didn't come in today
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  Speaker 2: seeming exhausted to me, But you did seem over some things.
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  Speaker 2: You seem just like I'm done with these things? Can
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  Speaker 2: we share with what they are? We're bored with something?
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  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, just can I tell you so? Like
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  Speaker 1: I'm familiar with the athlete game. When I was a
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  Speaker 1: youngin like early twenties, I loved I loved a good athlete. Right,
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  Speaker 1: I'm so bored with them now?
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  Speaker 3: Yeah?
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  Speaker 2: Why like you?
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  Speaker 1: Because I'm I just am I'm like, you dribble a ball, Okay,
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  Speaker 1: you got the wrong audience member unimpressed, right, you dribble
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  Speaker 1: a basketball. You may be great at it, like great, perfect,
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  Speaker 1: it's cool. Yeah, but I'm like, what you think you
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  Speaker 1: don't gotta like show up? You got to show up.
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  Speaker 2: Like you gotta give me something anything.
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  Speaker 1: Right, And it's like you're asking me all of these things,
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  Speaker 1: and then I respond to you and it's I'm just bored. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: Like I'm just bored. I don't think it's just an
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  Speaker 1: athlete thing. I just think it's a day and age thing.
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  Speaker 1: You know. It's like I'm no stranger to what these
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  Speaker 1: men are doing. I know I'm one of seventy two
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  Speaker 1: hundred chicks that you're talking to. Sliding in my DM
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  Speaker 1: got it. Yeah, all right. I don't think I'm special
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  Speaker 1: to you, but like, don't make me be bored.
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  Speaker 2: Don't make me bored. It's the and people know.
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  Speaker 1: It's don't make me be bored.
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  Speaker 2: Don't make me be bored. This, don't make me be
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  Speaker 2: bored putting that on a T shirt. No, it's like
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  Speaker 2: the thing where in this might not be true and
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  Speaker 2: some people are gonna.
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  Speaker 1: Hate me for it.
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  Speaker 2: But it's like the the hot girl or the super
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  Speaker 2: hot guy with no personality. And I know that's not
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  Speaker 2: the case because look at you, Lalla. I know that's
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  Speaker 2: not the case with everyone. But there is like something
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  Speaker 2: where if you have a certain talent or you're super
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  Speaker 2: super hot, your personality in some people just kind of
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  Speaker 2: falls by the wayside or the effort is just not there.
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  Speaker 2: It's like here, I am, my presence is gift enough.
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  Speaker 2: I don't have to keep a conversation going. I don't
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  Speaker 2: have to keep it interesting. And that's not the vibe, no, because.
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  Speaker 1: When you're boring, you're forcing me to be boring and
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  Speaker 1: I'm not boring. And let's be honest, I'm not walking
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  Speaker 1: in here. Look in like Irena shake all right, I
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  Speaker 1: know my place. I know my place, so like you
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  Speaker 1: need to know your place right because you're not. Michael B.
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  Speaker 1: Jordan's all right, wait to see single, Oh yeah, Michael.
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  Speaker 1: Can I tell you though, I loved when so Michael B.
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  Speaker 1: Jordan came in a close second to Kobe Bryant For me.
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  Speaker 1: I used to watch Hardball every single day with Keanu Reeves.
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  Speaker 1: I don't know if you ever saw it the Baseball
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  Speaker 1: movie okay, and Michael B. Jordan played Jamal and when
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  Speaker 1: Jamal makes his exit or Michael B. Jordan makes his exit,
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  Speaker 1: which is like middle of the movie, and then he
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  Speaker 1: doesn't come back until the very end, Okay, I would
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  Speaker 1: stop the movie and start it from the beginning because
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  Speaker 1: I'm like, all I want to see is a freaking
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  Speaker 1: Jamal on the screen.
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  Speaker 2: So he was younger, then he was a baby.
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  Speaker 1: He was so young really, and then all of a
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  Speaker 1: sudden years later, and can I tell you he was
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  Speaker 1: so hard to look up on the internet because you
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  Speaker 1: look at Michael B. Jordan and he was like he
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  Speaker 1: had maybe like a couple movies, yea, and Michael Jordan.
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  Speaker 1: Michael Jordan's like, where the fuck can I look up
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  Speaker 1: Michael B. Jordan, Like they meet him on my screen somewhere.
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  Speaker 2: Have you ever seen him in person? No, Okay, I'm
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  Speaker 2: interested to see if he's got like I've heard that
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  Speaker 2: he has like the most like you know how sometimes
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  Speaker 2: you see hot people and then he.
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  Speaker 1: In person You're like, okay, it's a little I think
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  Speaker 1: he might be on the shorter side though, is he
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  Speaker 1: heard he's on the shorter side.
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  Speaker 2: But I've heard his energy and his like way of
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  Speaker 2: carrying himself. Height doesn't matter. He's just like he's just
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  Speaker 2: like the lead.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah, coming in hot. However, I was sleeping with someone
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  Speaker 1: for a while okay this was years ago who was
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  Speaker 1: like extremely close to him.
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  Speaker 2: Oh like thick, thick, thick, and you never did you
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  Speaker 2: get any tea on him?
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  Speaker 1: Or no? Can I tell you what? I'm so not
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  Speaker 1: that person. You don't want I need tea?
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  Speaker 2: Yeah I'm good or just like some I like tea
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  Speaker 2: if it's like innocent, like if you knew that, like,
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  Speaker 2: oh my god, he's obsessed with cats. He has like
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  Speaker 2: seventeen in his.
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  Speaker 1: House and like, oh my god, and I want to
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  Speaker 1: talk about it.
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  Speaker 2: That's the kind of tea you know.
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  Speaker 1: When people were saying when we ask people like what
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  Speaker 1: do you want to see on the podcast? And they
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  Speaker 1: were like, more tea, spilly. I'm like that ain't me. No,
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  Speaker 1: I'm not the type of person where I hear something because,
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  Speaker 1: by the way, I know a lot of shit.
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  Speaker 2: I know, I know, I know, you know, Yeah, you
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  Speaker 2: totally do.
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  Speaker 1: I can just tell like, I'm well aware of all
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  Speaker 1: the Kathy Hilton stuff that went on behind the scenes.
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  Speaker 2: You are, I've been reading about that. I'll have to
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  Speaker 2: ask you off of the podcast.
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  Speaker 1: I just it's not my I don't need to talk
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  Speaker 1: about it, right, I know so much right that if
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  Speaker 1: I were to run over to one of these little
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  Speaker 1: Bravo blogs and share the tea is piping hot, the
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  Speaker 1: English breakfast is ready to be spilled, all right. But
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  Speaker 1: I'm just saying I just don't care, Like what is
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  Speaker 1: you know?
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  Speaker 2: What does it do for you?
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  Speaker 1: Yeah? I'm the person who hears things and then I'm like,
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  Speaker 1: oh cool, moving on. So this is not the podcast
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  Speaker 1: to come to hear me spilling the teeth. I always
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  Speaker 1: tell people, if you want good teeth, yeah, you head
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  Speaker 1: over to the Juicy Scoop.
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  Speaker 2: Speaking of tea, though, this is the tea tea you're
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  Speaker 2: gonna get on.
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  Speaker 1: This podcast, there's a lot of tea about myself.
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  Speaker 2: I'm constantly telling you on MYLF but that is good
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  Speaker 2: because you have the right to do that.
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  Speaker 1: It's you that I could spill.
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  Speaker 2: The lalla ta you'll hear is a lalat And I
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  Speaker 2: are actually going to be in New York this week.
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  Speaker 1: I need it so bad. Just I don't know what
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  Speaker 1: it is about today. Yeah, I even post it on
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  Speaker 1: social media. I'm like, I'm going to be very vulnerable
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  Speaker 1: night right now, Like my life is so weird and
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  Speaker 1: I usually wake up in a fantastic mood. And what's
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  Speaker 1: weird is that, like TMI, right now, I'm like on
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  Speaker 1: the tail end of your period, my friend, okay, And
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  Speaker 1: it's usually at the beginning where I'm like a raging
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  Speaker 1: and I know, I'm like, okay, lot, you just got
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  Speaker 1: to like sit in the bed before you take everyone out.
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  Speaker 1: You know why you're feeling this way. But I'm feeling
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  Speaker 1: like that today. Are you just a little bit like defeated?
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  Speaker 1: Like so I post it because I'm looking forward, like
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  Speaker 1: I just want to go and be around people who
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  Speaker 1: are uplifting to me and inspiring. And I'll be honest,
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  Speaker 1: who want to show me a lot of love, Like
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  Speaker 1: I need love right now. I'm a needy bitch right now.
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  Speaker 2: You're a needy bitch right now. Yeah, I don't feel it,
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  Speaker 2: but I I didn't even see that post. I'm going
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  Speaker 2: to look at it right now. But what I love
• 10:08
  Speaker 2: about this it's event at shopify in Soho and you
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  Speaker 2: can find the details about it on Lawless page and stuff.
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  Speaker 2: But is that you get to just like it's almost
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  Speaker 2: like tour because I remember how much you loved talking
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  Speaker 2: one on one with your people before the show, and
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  Speaker 2: this is like that where you're gonna be able to
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  Speaker 2: talk to them one on one and take photos and stuff.
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  Speaker 2: And I remember how much that seemed to lift you up.
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  Speaker 2: So I'm excited lift that.
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  Speaker 1: Yeah. Yeah, because I feel like people that are coming
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  Speaker 1: like they're just my people.
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  Speaker 2: Yeah, they're people.
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  Speaker 1: I just want to feel like inspired. It's my first
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  Speaker 1: ever pop up for the brand. So we're gonna have
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  Speaker 1: like all my merch, We're gonna have beauty skin, give
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  Speaker 1: them la la baby Like it's so people can come.
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  Speaker 1: We can bump gums if you want to shop. You
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  Speaker 1: can shop if you want to just have a drink
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  Speaker 1: and bump gums like.
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  Speaker 2: It's free to show up.
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  Speaker 1: Just RSVP all you have to do. That's the other thing. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: it's just an experience. Just click the yeah and show
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  Speaker 1: it all in. If you want to buy something, you
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  Speaker 1: buy something. If you don't, you don't like whatever, let's
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  Speaker 1: just hang out. So I'll post it again. I'll post
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  Speaker 1: the link again.
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  Speaker 3: Yeah.
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  Speaker 1: Coming to New York October first, I really really what
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  Speaker 1: is going on.
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  Speaker 3: With my three?
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  Speaker 2: I had hiccups for five hours yesterday.
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  Speaker 1: I haven't had hiccups since I was like a child.
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  Speaker 1: Like Ocean gets them all the time.
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  Speaker 2: I don't want to eat something spicy. Is that when
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  Speaker 2: she gets them? When she eats something spicy.
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  Speaker 1: Well, I don't give my one spicy food. Yeah, after
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  Speaker 1: she has a Tabasco sauce, she really gets digg ucks.
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  Speaker 1: I love you, jess Not a mom, You're.
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  Speaker 2: Not so not a mom yet?
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  Speaker 1: Epos? Does she get them too?
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  Speaker 4: No?
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  Speaker 1: She does not.
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  Speaker 2: Sometimes I think like, oh my god, I could do
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  Speaker 2: this mom thing. And other times I'm like I'm never
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  Speaker 2: going to be able to have a baby because I
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  Speaker 2: just don't know some things.
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  Speaker 1: No, Jessica, you have a working brain, all right. When
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  Speaker 1: you have the baby, you're gonna know, hot sauce probably
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  Speaker 1: not a good idea for my one and a half
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  Speaker 1: year old. Right back to what I was saying, Yes,
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  Speaker 1: all you have to do is RSVP. I'm coming to
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  Speaker 1: New York October first, is when you guys can come
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  Speaker 1: hang out and play with me in Flameland. And also
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  Speaker 1: Sophia Franklin, yes, is going to be there, and she's
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  Speaker 1: the one who is going. We're doing like a little
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  Speaker 1: one on one interview.
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  Speaker 2: With a Q and a after. So if you want tea,
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  Speaker 2: I mean, maybe Laala will spill, maybe she won't, but
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  Speaker 2: you could at least ask.
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  Speaker 1: Right by the way, that's the thing. I'm gonna overshare her. Yeah,
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  Speaker 1: So when people ask me things, I haven't. I have
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  Speaker 1: not conquered the art of being like next question.
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  Speaker 2: No, not at all, Because on tour people would ask
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  Speaker 2: her things and I would be like in the wings,
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  Speaker 2: like shaking my head no, like don't answer it, and
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  Speaker 2: then she would go off and I.
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  Speaker 1: Was like, no, I know, I need to I need
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  Speaker 1: to learn how to shut up.
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  Speaker 2: No.
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  Speaker 1: They loved it, well, yeah, and then I suffer the
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  Speaker 1: repercussions of oversharing. It happens every time, that's true, and
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  Speaker 1: the links in her bio.
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  Speaker 2: By the way, I just I was checking to make.
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  Speaker 1: Sure coming out with me because I'm needy and I
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  Speaker 1: need you guys to lift my spirits. And by the way,
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  Speaker 1: I post it because I'm leaving my mom at home
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  Speaker 1: because I'm like, you know what, this is my time,
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  Speaker 1: because I have like a few boys living in New
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  Speaker 1: York where I'm like, you know what, come one, come all.
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  Speaker 1: Maybe I don't care. We rip the band aid off.
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  Speaker 1: There's no turning back. We'll see.
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  Speaker 2: So if you see La La out and about in
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  Speaker 2: New York with a fine looking man, mind your business,
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  Speaker 2: keep walking your business.
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  Speaker 1: Oh my god, I met the hottest guy over the
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  Speaker 1: weekend too.
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  Speaker 2: Can we Okay, so I saw a picture of him.
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  Speaker 2: I mean, she's not lying, but can we get into
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  Speaker 2: that at all? No, how you met him? Or do
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  Speaker 2: you want to keep this all close?
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  Speaker 1: I want to keep it close, keep it close for
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  Speaker 1: right now, okay, right now, and then I want to
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  Speaker 1: spill all the tea on it.
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  Speaker 2: Oh my god, you.
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  Speaker 1: Know see, let's just let's see. Today's episode is really
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  Speaker 1: inspiring because you know, I love this podcast because we
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  Speaker 1: can bring people on who have incredible stories and hold on.
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  Speaker 1: Jess it's my mom. Okay, Mom, Hi, baby, you want
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  Speaker 1: to see Cruisy? Say yeah, Okay, I go baby, I
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  Speaker 1: love you. All right, I'm gonna finish this podcast. Hi,
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  Speaker 1: I'm gonna finish this podcast, and then I'm coming home
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  Speaker 1: and we're gonna go to Britney's house. Okay, okay, all right,
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  Speaker 1: I love you. Oh, I'll see you in a second.
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  Speaker 1: I love you, Bye baby, Okay, bye bye bye? How
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  Speaker 1: stinging cute? Was that? So about my guest? She wrote
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  Speaker 1: me a letter. It was a letter that I want
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  Speaker 1: to have framed because her story is devastating but absolutely uplifting,
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  Speaker 1: and she's a survivor. She's a burn victim who is
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  Speaker 1: now I believe, in the fifth grade, and I just
• 15:20
  Speaker 1: want you guys to hear her story. I think it's
• 15:23
  Speaker 1: important to hear people's stories, especially these young kids, where
• 15:29
  Speaker 1: they experience things that not many people have experienced. It
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  Speaker 1: has shaped her entire life. And I mean the letter
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  Speaker 1: she wrote me. I just I wrote her back and said,
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  Speaker 1: I am so excited to see what you do in
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  Speaker 1: your future because someone who's been through what she's been
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  Speaker 1: through at that age, and just the way that she
• 15:51
  Speaker 1: wrote me and her mom is amazing. So I'm very excited.
• 15:54
  Speaker 1: Without giving too much away and telling you guys her story,
• 15:56
  Speaker 1: I want it to come from her and her mom.
• 15:59
  Speaker 1: So my next guest is Aliyah, and you guys will
• 16:03
  Speaker 1: hear her up next. Okay, I'm super excited about this guest.
• 16:10
  Speaker 1: Not only am I excited, I'm extremely inspired. Her name
• 16:15
  Speaker 1: is Aliah. She sent me a letter and the cutest
• 16:18
  Speaker 1: T shirts for me in ocean. Aliyah, how are you
• 16:21
  Speaker 1: my love?
• 16:22
  Speaker 3: Good?
• 16:23
  Speaker 1: Good? We like that. So for my listeners who don't
• 16:27
  Speaker 1: know you or your story, can you tell us about
• 16:31
  Speaker 1: who you are?
• 16:32
  Speaker 3: My name is Eliah Shepherd and I've born survivor.
• 16:36
  Speaker 1: Oh my gosh, By the way, you're absolutely beautiful. I
• 16:39
  Speaker 1: mean that face. Hi Mom. We got Aliah's mama with
• 16:44
  Speaker 1: us too, Alia, are you comfortable sharing with my listeners
• 16:49
  Speaker 1: how you became a burn victim? Because I have your
• 16:53
  Speaker 1: bio in front of me, and just how old you
• 16:56
  Speaker 1: were and what that was like for you?
• 16:58
  Speaker 4: Yes, when I was eight years old, I leaned over
• 17:04
  Speaker 4: a candle and I barn for myself.
• 17:08
  Speaker 3: Well, the fire caught up to my suret into flyings.
• 17:12
  Speaker 1: And like when that happened? What I mean, Mom, were
• 17:15
  Speaker 1: you there?
• 17:16
  Speaker 4: No, So we had left to go to the store too.
• 17:21
  Speaker 3: Because it was my older daughter's birthday the next day.
• 17:24
  Speaker 3: So my husband and I left the.
• 17:25
  Speaker 4: Store with the other kids, and my oldest said, she's like,
• 17:29
  Speaker 4: my mom can watch to Leah.
• 17:31
  Speaker 3: We'll be fine, and I said okay. On our way back.
• 17:34
  Speaker 4: Is when we got the call from my oldest daughter
• 17:37
  Speaker 4: and all she said was Aliah's on fire, Houses on
• 17:41
  Speaker 4: fire and hung up the phone. So we instantly panicked
• 17:45
  Speaker 4: and sped home. We were probably like thirty seconds from home.
• 17:49
  Speaker 4: We pulled up, We ran upstairs to our apartment and
• 17:53
  Speaker 4: my oldest was just pulling Aleah out of the shower
• 17:56
  Speaker 4: and she.
• 17:57
  Speaker 3: Was completely burnt.
• 18:00
  Speaker 4: The whole front torso was burned, the whole back and
• 18:04
  Speaker 4: she had pieces of like her legs that were burned.
• 18:07
  Speaker 3: The whole back of her head was completely like singed
• 18:11
  Speaker 3: and burned.
• 18:11
  Speaker 4: All the hair was gone, and there was like little
• 18:13
  Speaker 4: fires throughout our house, and my husband started putting the
• 18:18
  Speaker 4: fires away, And at that time I worked at the hospital,
• 18:21
  Speaker 4: so my instant reaction was just to hold her arms
• 18:23
  Speaker 4: up because I knew if she put her arms down.
• 18:26
  Speaker 3: Then it was gonna stick together. And so we had
• 18:33
  Speaker 3: called one in one.
• 18:35
  Speaker 4: Ironically, there was two other fires going on in our
• 18:38
  Speaker 4: apartment complex at the same time as ours, due to
• 18:41
  Speaker 4: different things, and so every time we called the fire department,
• 18:46
  Speaker 4: they thought that we were calling for those ones. They
• 18:49
  Speaker 4: were all ready going off, so they weren't coming to
• 18:52
  Speaker 4: our house.
• 18:54
  Speaker 3: And so I ran outside.
• 18:56
  Speaker 4: We got one of the firemen and they came to
• 18:58
  Speaker 4: our house, and they knew they had to get her
• 19:00
  Speaker 4: to the hospital right then. And the shirt that she
• 19:04
  Speaker 4: was wearing is one of those sequin ones. Well, when
• 19:08
  Speaker 4: she leaned over the candle, that pulled the fire, and
• 19:11
  Speaker 4: so it instantly caught her on fires like she was
• 19:14
  Speaker 4: engulfed in flames like instantly, and all of those sequins
• 19:17
  Speaker 4: melted into her chest. And so when she got to
• 19:20
  Speaker 4: the hospital, they knew that they were that they couldn't
• 19:23
  Speaker 4: treat her because we lived in Idaho, and so they
• 19:26
  Speaker 4: knew they had to life flight her somewhere else, and
• 19:28
  Speaker 4: so they life flighted her to Utah. And when she
• 19:34
  Speaker 4: got to Utah, my husband had flown with her, and
• 19:36
  Speaker 4: I was pregnant with our last son, and the doctor
• 19:40
  Speaker 4: called and.
• 19:40
  Speaker 3: She was like, you me get down here now.
• 19:44
  Speaker 4: She's not gonna make it, and so I went into
• 19:48
  Speaker 4: panic mode.
• 19:49
  Speaker 3: I drove to Utah instantly.
• 19:52
  Speaker 4: She had coated on the way to Utah, and then
• 19:55
  Speaker 4: two more times in Utah, and the first week was
• 20:00
  Speaker 4: like the hardest week because everything kept going wrong, like
• 20:04
  Speaker 4: she was coding.
• 20:05
  Speaker 3: They didn't think she.
• 20:05
  Speaker 4: Was going to make it, and so she died and
• 20:09
  Speaker 4: they would have to bring her back. So she did
• 20:11
  Speaker 4: that three times, and so they were like, she's not
• 20:14
  Speaker 4: going to make it, and so they were having us
• 20:16
  Speaker 4: like make funeral arrangements, like preparing us, and uh, I
• 20:20
  Speaker 4: think that that was like the scariest thing in the world.
• 20:23
  Speaker 4: And then they put her into an induced coma and
• 20:26
  Speaker 4: then after that they were like, well, she's not going
• 20:29
  Speaker 4: to be a normal kid if she overcomes this, because
• 20:32
  Speaker 4: she was burned on over thirty nine percent of her
• 20:34
  Speaker 4: body with third, fourth and fift degree burns.
• 20:38
  Speaker 1: But she did a survivor right there, Aliah, do you
• 20:42
  Speaker 1: remember any of it? Yes, I mean, at the age
• 20:45
  Speaker 1: of eight, I can't even imagine. And then you know,
• 20:50
  Speaker 1: you just I mean I'm looking at you and you're definitely,
• 20:54
  Speaker 1: like I said, a survivor. And for someone to tell
• 20:58
  Speaker 1: you as a mom, I now can understand because I
• 21:02
  Speaker 1: have a daughter. If someone were to tell me, number one,
• 21:06
  Speaker 1: your kid is engulfed in flames and then their heart
• 21:09
  Speaker 1: is stopping, I mean, I can't even imagine what you
• 21:12
  Speaker 1: were going through in that moment. So after you find
• 21:16
  Speaker 1: out like she's going to be okay, you know she's
• 21:20
  Speaker 1: going to survive, what was the next step that they
• 21:23
  Speaker 1: told you to take?
• 21:24
  Speaker 4: At first, we still weren't out of the woodworks. So
• 21:28
  Speaker 4: every week was like a closer step two. Okay, we're
• 21:34
  Speaker 4: getting a survival rate. So with fifth degree burns, that
• 21:37
  Speaker 4: means that the fire has gone down into your muscle
• 21:40
  Speaker 4: and has now hit like your bones and stuff. So
• 21:43
  Speaker 4: they removed a lot of her muscle out of her back,
• 21:46
  Speaker 4: her arm, her hip, and they said that she want
• 21:49
  Speaker 4: to walk again, they said she want to ride again.
• 21:52
  Speaker 4: And we were prepared that, you know, we were going
• 21:55
  Speaker 4: to have a disabled child.
• 21:58
  Speaker 3: And then.
• 22:00
  Speaker 4: For us it was more like because both my husband
• 22:02
  Speaker 4: and I were very strong individuals, We've come from very
• 22:07
  Speaker 4: hard backgrounds, and so we're like, we can't do that.
• 22:10
  Speaker 3: We can't let her make this like a disability.
• 22:13
  Speaker 4: And so every time they would come in and want
• 22:15
  Speaker 4: to do something new, we'd get to try to encourage
• 22:21
  Speaker 4: her to do make sure that she did it, you know.
• 22:23
  Speaker 4: But then like so she's had thirteen surgeries so far,
• 22:29
  Speaker 4: and so and she's not done. So after the first
• 22:33
  Speaker 4: couple of weeks, like when we were in the we
• 22:38
  Speaker 4: were in like what I call the gray area of
• 22:41
  Speaker 4: either she'll make it or she won't. She had to
• 22:44
  Speaker 4: keep having autographs done and hemo graphs, and the autographs
• 22:52
  Speaker 4: are or sorry, the hemographs are when they use like
• 22:56
  Speaker 4: kadab or skin, and so they would use that to
• 23:00
  Speaker 4: her tissue back so that we could use or do
• 23:02
  Speaker 4: the autographs.
• 23:04
  Speaker 3: And so for her, she had five of.
• 23:07
  Speaker 4: Those done, and we spent almost three months in the
• 23:10
  Speaker 4: hospital in Salt Lake, and there we met so many
• 23:16
  Speaker 4: like the nicest people, Like Utah has some of the
• 23:19
  Speaker 4: nicest people ever, and.
• 23:22
  Speaker 3: We've like grew a whole family there in Utah.
• 23:24
  Speaker 4: But we uh would have to go through through physical
• 23:28
  Speaker 4: therapy daily, we'd have to go through wound care daily,
• 23:31
  Speaker 4: She'd have to she kept getting regrafted and then we
• 23:35
  Speaker 4: finally got to go home after almost three months. And
• 23:40
  Speaker 4: when we went home, she continued to have grafting done.
• 23:44
  Speaker 4: Actually goes next month for another surgery, surgery number fourteen.
• 23:48
  Speaker 2: Tiya because you said you'd worked in a hospital at
• 23:50
  Speaker 2: the time. Correct, had you ever seen anything like this
• 23:54
  Speaker 2: or dealt with anything like this or was a lot
• 23:56
  Speaker 2: of this sort of brand news?
• 23:58
  Speaker 3: Now all of this was brand I knew to all
• 24:01
  Speaker 3: of us.
• 24:01
  Speaker 4: So I worked in the lab, so I only you know,
• 24:04
  Speaker 4: mess with blood, that was it.
• 24:07
  Speaker 3: This was even for because we lived in.
• 24:09
  Speaker 4: A small town in Idaho, So even for our doctors
• 24:13
  Speaker 4: and our nurses there, it was like horrifying because they'd
• 24:17
  Speaker 4: never none of them actually knew how to handle this
• 24:21
  Speaker 4: situation right, And they were calling like other hospitals and
• 24:25
  Speaker 4: surrounding areas that did burn, like you dealt with burn
• 24:28
  Speaker 4: survivors and stuff, and asking them questions and so it
• 24:32
  Speaker 4: was pretty intense because we didn't know what to do
• 24:37
  Speaker 4: or any of that.
• 24:38
  Speaker 1: Well, yeah, how would you know what to do? I mean,
• 24:41
  Speaker 1: it's like, to be honest, I didn't even know that
• 24:44
  Speaker 1: fifth degree burns existed until I got your guys's letter.
• 24:51
  Speaker 1: You know, my grandfather I experienced he caught on fire
• 24:55
  Speaker 1: and had third degree burns on his back. So when
• 24:57
  Speaker 1: I read fifth degree burns, So I'm so glad that
• 24:59
  Speaker 1: you you said what that meant, that it goes to
• 25:02
  Speaker 1: the bone. How would you know how to deal with that?
• 25:05
  Speaker 1: So for her fourteenth surgery that she's going back for, first,
• 25:09
  Speaker 1: I want to ask you, probably a stupid question, Aliah,
• 25:12
  Speaker 1: you've been through thirteen of these. Is it something you're
• 25:16
  Speaker 1: used to or every time you have to go in
• 25:19
  Speaker 1: do you get nervous? I know that it's a really
• 25:21
  Speaker 1: silly question, but I just want to know.
• 25:23
  Speaker 4: Many times when I go in, I get nervous, but
• 25:26
  Speaker 4: then some like the other few times, I'm used to it.
• 25:30
  Speaker 1: All right, So the fourteen surgery, and what will that
• 25:32
  Speaker 1: one entail?
• 25:33
  Speaker 4: Right now, they want to do more lasering. She gets
• 25:36
  Speaker 4: lazed during every couple months and they may have to
• 25:40
  Speaker 4: do more grafting, and then we are waiting for a
• 25:44
  Speaker 4: time period. It might be like Christmas break or something.
• 25:47
  Speaker 4: She's gonna have to have a major surgery where nope,
• 25:51
  Speaker 4: showing there, She's going to have to have a major
• 25:54
  Speaker 4: surgery where they regraft all of her armpits and everything.
• 26:00
  Speaker 3: So when they do that, that's that Those are the
• 26:04
  Speaker 3: scary ones.
• 26:05
  Speaker 1: Those are the scary ones, yeah.
• 26:06
  Speaker 4: Because usually she's very prone to staff infection. Okay, and
• 26:11
  Speaker 4: so those are the ones where they're scary like her
• 26:14
  Speaker 4: last one. She had her hips regrafted and she had
• 26:19
  Speaker 4: developed staff.
• 26:20
  Speaker 3: And merca in her hip. And so they have my
• 26:24
  Speaker 3: bleach faths.
• 26:25
  Speaker 4: And there's a big medical term for m but I
• 26:28
  Speaker 4: can't remember, but anyways, it's a bleach fath. So essentially
• 26:31
  Speaker 4: they're just pouring bleach over that open wound.
• 26:34
  Speaker 1: Wow.
• 26:35
  Speaker 2: And so.
• 26:37
  Speaker 3: Those are the scariest ones. So we're waiting for that one.
• 26:41
  Speaker 1: So I want to know, a Leah, what what do
• 26:43
  Speaker 1: you like to do? I mean, all of the things
• 26:46
  Speaker 1: that doctors told your mom and dad that you wouldn't
• 26:49
  Speaker 1: be able to do? Can you do them?
• 26:52
  Speaker 3: Yes?
• 26:54
  Speaker 1: That's dope. Well, yeah, what do you like to do?
• 26:56
  Speaker 1: Do you draw?
• 26:57
  Speaker 2: Do you play any sports? Do you You obviously send
• 27:00
  Speaker 2: amazing notes and packages. Lala got the cutest package from you.
• 27:04
  Speaker 2: But yeah, what do you like to do?
• 27:05
  Speaker 3: I like to play basketball and do art? I love that.
• 27:09
  Speaker 1: Do you have a favorite basketball team?
• 27:13
  Speaker 4: No?
• 27:14
  Speaker 1: No, what about the Utah Jazz? I'm from Utah? You know.
• 27:19
  Speaker 3: The Utah Jazz did send her a package when she
• 27:21
  Speaker 3: was in the hospital.
• 27:23
  Speaker 1: I love that.
• 27:24
  Speaker 2: I did want to ask about the hospital because Aliyah,
• 27:27
  Speaker 2: you were in there for quite a while and I
• 27:31
  Speaker 2: know it sounds like you're still back. Did you kind
• 27:34
  Speaker 2: of make any friends with the nurses of their doctors?
• 27:37
  Speaker 2: I know, Tia, you said you met a lot of
• 27:39
  Speaker 2: amazing people. Were there any experiences did you kind of
• 27:42
  Speaker 2: like make friends with any of them or anything like that?
• 27:45
  Speaker 3: Yes, I had two friends in then, and I made
• 27:49
  Speaker 3: some friends with the doctors.
• 27:51
  Speaker 4: Oh.
• 27:51
  Speaker 1: I love that. I love that too. I love that
• 27:54
  Speaker 1: you said, by the way, you wouldn't know it by
• 27:56
  Speaker 1: watching me on TV, that I'm nice. But I feel
• 27:59
  Speaker 1: like I'm pretty nice and I'm from Utah, so I'm
• 28:04
  Speaker 1: I did want to ask you, Aleah one more thing.
• 28:07
  Speaker 1: You said in your letter that you sent to me
• 28:09
  Speaker 1: that you've experienced bullying, but it's from more adults than
• 28:14
  Speaker 1: kids your age. Do you feel comfortable sharing more about that?
• 28:18
  Speaker 4: Yes?
• 28:18
  Speaker 1: How do you feel about that?
• 28:20
  Speaker 4: Mama?
• 28:20
  Speaker 1: Well, I know Canda whoop as right? Sorry, cover your
• 28:25
  Speaker 1: ears a Leah.
• 28:26
  Speaker 4: So it's hard because you would expect an adult to
• 28:30
  Speaker 4: understand more than a child. But as an adult, I
• 28:35
  Speaker 4: guess you have more of an opinion. Whereas kids they're
• 28:38
  Speaker 4: just like whatever, Like they just go with the flow.
• 28:41
  Speaker 4: They don't care.
• 28:43
  Speaker 3: Even with you know, color, kids don't really see color.
• 28:46
  Speaker 3: They just want friends, you know, whereas adults they a
• 28:50
  Speaker 3: lot of them see that kind of thing.
• 28:52
  Speaker 4: And so we've had lots of comments come from adults,
• 28:55
  Speaker 4: or staring or just ignorant things. There's been lots of
• 29:01
  Speaker 4: times where I've had to hold my tongue because I
• 29:05
  Speaker 4: least apartment.
• 29:06
  Speaker 3: So I can't do the things I want to do.
• 29:10
  Speaker 4: But when it comes to kids, they just look at
• 29:14
  Speaker 4: her and they're like, dang, you survived that, whereas adults
• 29:18
  Speaker 4: are like, dang, are what's wrong with her?
• 29:20
  Speaker 3: Like what happened to her? Why does she look like that?
• 29:23
  Speaker 4: And that was one of the things that we had
• 29:25
  Speaker 4: to really instill in her is that she's, you know,
• 29:30
  Speaker 4: beautiful no matter what. And if somebody bowlies you, you
• 29:35
  Speaker 4: give them a compliment back, because if they're bowling you,
• 29:38
  Speaker 4: there's just something wrong with them.
• 29:39
  Speaker 1: I love that you say that, because I have to
• 29:41
  Speaker 1: take that, you know, like kill them with kindness. It
• 29:45
  Speaker 1: sounds like, you know, you hear that all the time,
• 29:47
  Speaker 1: but I've noticed that that kind of does put an
• 29:50
  Speaker 1: end to things when they start coming for you. It's
• 29:52
  Speaker 1: so interesting that these grown adults who are responsible for
• 29:56
  Speaker 1: raising children that you hope will go out into the
• 29:59
  Speaker 1: world and be productive and kind. And you know how
• 30:03
  Speaker 1: how do you fix that when like the parent who's
• 30:06
  Speaker 1: responsible for making that happen is an asshole?
• 30:11
  Speaker 3: Yeah?
• 30:11
  Speaker 1: Sorry, Aleah, I say naughty word sometimes again coming here, You'll.
• 30:15
  Speaker 3: Make this simple.
• 30:15
  Speaker 4: What did you say to the doctor when she told
• 30:17
  Speaker 4: you you want to be able to write again or
• 30:19
  Speaker 4: walk again?
• 30:21
  Speaker 1: She goes, the hell I want Yes, Queen, you better
• 30:26
  Speaker 1: tell them girl, I love it. I love That's the
• 30:30
  Speaker 1: best attitude. Can I tell you? When I read your
• 30:32
  Speaker 1: letter and I told you this at the beginning, you
• 30:34
  Speaker 1: are so inspiring and I want you to know that
• 30:37
  Speaker 1: there are gonna be people who are gonna say things
• 30:40
  Speaker 1: to you, but you keep that thick skin, Aliyah, because
• 30:42
  Speaker 1: it has nothing to do with you and everything to
• 30:45
  Speaker 1: do with them. And with this Mama you got, you're
• 30:47
  Speaker 1: gonna be just fine in life. And we are sending
• 30:50
  Speaker 1: you so much love for your next surgery. You're gonna
• 30:54
  Speaker 1: be amazing. You are amazing, and I am so grateful
• 30:57
  Speaker 1: that you guys took time to be on my podcast today.
• 31:00
  Speaker 3: Very much appreciate.
• 31:01
  Speaker 4: Like we said in the letter, we definitely weren't expecting
• 31:04
  Speaker 4: this when she started her business. We wanted to try
• 31:08
  Speaker 4: to give back to the people that inspired her, you know,
• 31:12
  Speaker 4: gave her some confidence, and you're definitely one of them.
• 31:15
  Speaker 4: She watches you because I watch you on you know, VANDR,
• 31:19
  Speaker 4: Pump Rules and everything, and so you know, she gets
• 31:22
  Speaker 4: to see your spunky side and how you don't put
• 31:26
  Speaker 4: up with bull crap and that's, you know, something that
• 31:29
  Speaker 4: she's been able to embrace. Especially when people are you know,
• 31:32
  Speaker 4: mean to you, you give it right back. And so
• 31:36
  Speaker 4: in a way, without you knowing, you've also helped her.
• 31:40
  Speaker 4: And so when she created her business, she wanted to
• 31:44
  Speaker 4: give back to those who unintentionally and without knowing helped her.
• 31:49
  Speaker 4: And you know that's why we sent that to you
• 31:51
  Speaker 4: because you were.
• 31:52
  Speaker 3: One of them.
• 31:52
  Speaker 1: Well, I'm beyond humbled and honored to be sitting here
• 31:56
  Speaker 1: talking to you guys. And where can people find your business?
• 32:00
  Speaker 3: On her Instagram and then it's also on Facebook.
• 32:03
  Speaker 1: Okay, and what is your Instagram?
• 32:05
  Speaker 4: It's Aliah dot Heart's on Instagram. Yeah, Instagram is more
• 32:11
  Speaker 4: of her business and on Facebook it's under Aliah's Journey
• 32:16
  Speaker 4: and that's more of We document everything. So anytime she
• 32:19
  Speaker 4: goes in for a surgery, anything, we document everything, because
• 32:23
  Speaker 4: we want people to see when you.
• 32:26
  Speaker 3: Fall hard, you can, you know, stand up and be
• 32:29
  Speaker 3: even stronger.
• 32:30
  Speaker 4: And that's what her business about is she wanted to
• 32:34
  Speaker 4: create something that would help others remember who they are
• 32:40
  Speaker 4: before whatever it was that happened to them happened. And
• 32:44
  Speaker 4: so that's what Aliah's heart is all about, is making
• 32:48
  Speaker 4: sure that others know how strong they are inside and
• 32:51
  Speaker 4: out and letting you know if you're you know, whether
• 32:56
  Speaker 4: it's physically a physical thing or mental or whatever it is, like,
• 33:01
  Speaker 4: you're beautiful no matter what, and you're strong, and you're
• 33:04
  Speaker 4: courageous and all of that.
• 33:06
  Speaker 1: Amen to that. I said it in the letter Early.
• 33:09
  Speaker 1: I can't wait to see what you do in your
• 33:10
  Speaker 1: future because you, my love, are absolutely incredible. Thanks so
• 33:15
  Speaker 1: thank you so much