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Ep 9: They Told You You'll Never Get Over Your Grief. That's the Lie. | Angela Clement · Making Miracles Happen Masterclass

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  SPEAKER_00: All right.
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  SPEAKER_00: So my next guest uh is here.
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  SPEAKER_00: She actually is a former student of mine.
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  SPEAKER_00: I absolutely love the work that she does.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love her as a person.
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  SPEAKER_00: And I'm so glad that you guys get to meet her today.
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  SPEAKER_00: So I'm just gonna let you, Angela.
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  SPEAKER_00: I'm gonna let you introduce yourself.
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  SPEAKER_00: Let everybody know what it is that you do, and you can just jump right in.
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  SPEAKER_00: Is that okay?
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  SPEAKER_01: Absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_01: Thank you for having me.
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  SPEAKER_00: You're welcome.
• 0:37
  SPEAKER_01: Um and so glad all of you are here today.
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  SPEAKER_01: Thank you so much for joining us, and thank you for doing this for you.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's so important.
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  SPEAKER_01: Today is what I'm going to share is um not just something to listen to.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's going to be about you and what you're ready to shift and what you're ready to receive in your own life.
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  SPEAKER_01: So before we begin, I want you to just um take some time to just be here.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, we're gonna set some intentions before we start because intentions are powerful.
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  SPEAKER_01: And if we have a clear intention going in, we have a better chance of getting what we want out of this.
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  SPEAKER_01: So if it feels comfortable to you, you can close your eyes, take a slow deep breath, and exhale.
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  SPEAKER_01: And just let go of anything you brought with you, any tension, any um expectations, and just allow yourself to be here and gently bring your awareness inward to your heart, because your heart is a place that knows all.
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  SPEAKER_01: And ask yourself, what do you need right now?
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  SPEAKER_01: What do you need right now to heal or to move forward?
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  SPEAKER_01: What are you ready to release?
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  SPEAKER_01: And what are you open to receiving today?
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  SPEAKER_01: And you don't have to force this, just notice what comes when you ask those questions to yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: And when you have it, you can just acknowledge it quietly to yourself, or you can put it in the chat if you like.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is your intention for today.
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  SPEAKER_01: And take one more really deep breath.
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  SPEAKER_01: And when you're ready, you can open your eyes.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, as Adrian mentioned, I am a student of hers.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, five years ago, um, I lost my husband to colon cancer, and she was there for me when I was searching for what I should do.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um as a society, we struggle with talking about grief, and grief wasn't something that I knew a lot about before I lost my husband.
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  SPEAKER_01: I really didn't understand the concept of it.
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  SPEAKER_01: And through Adrian's classes, um, I discovered more about energy healing and how much it can help us with some of the heavy emotions.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so I was told that grief lasts forever.
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  SPEAKER_01: I was told that I would learn to carry it and that it would get easier over time.
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  SPEAKER_01: And we all go through grief.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, it's not just the loss of a loved one, it's the loss of finances, it's the loss of a home, it's it's a change in your life, any kind of change, uh divorce, uh uh separation, um, any of those things can cause the process of grief to start.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I've learned over time that grief as a process is really here to help us heal from those changes, help us to let go of the past and move forward into the future.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so when people told me that I would grieve forever, it was pretty discouraging.
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  SPEAKER_01: When you think about the emotion that comes with that loss, I didn't want to carry that forever.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so I was searching for someone that would tell me that I would be okay, that I would be able to live a joyful and fulfilling life again.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I found that person.
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  SPEAKER_01: In fact, I found several people.
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  SPEAKER_01: I've interviewed over 200 people now who have transformed their lives through the process of grief and are living joyful and fulfilling and meaningful lives again.
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  SPEAKER_01: So that changed everything.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I learned that grief is not forever.
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  SPEAKER_01: Of course, we have the process in our life because our life is always changing, and we need that process to help us through.
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  SPEAKER_01: Emotion has to move.
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  SPEAKER_01: Emotion is energy.
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  SPEAKER_01: And this emotion is what we call energy in motion, and so emotions are constantly changing and moving.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes, I love that.
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  SPEAKER_01: If we really give ourselves permission to grieve, we feel it moving through us.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's what I'm talking about.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's exactly what I'm talking about.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I look at grief now as a way of growing and expanding.
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  SPEAKER_01: And um through hope, um, a new life is possible.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I look at hope as our heart opening to purpose and expansion.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so we're going to open to a little bit of guidance.
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  SPEAKER_01: Anyone that knows me knows I work with oracle cards.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so I'm going to pull a couple right now.
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  SPEAKER_01: And now that you've connected with your intention, let's see how these cards fit in with what you've set for yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're going to open up a little guidance, not from outside of you, but from inside of you.
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  SPEAKER_01: Ah, the first card that came up is release old patterns.
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  SPEAKER_01: And this is something that grief does for us.
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  SPEAKER_01: It really helps us reflect on where we've been, where we've come through, and what we want to, how we want to move forward.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so these old patterns are so ingrained in us.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I think, you know, Victoria was talking a little bit about this earlier.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, sometimes we don't even recognize that these patterns are happening in us.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so releasing those stories about the past is really important.
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  SPEAKER_01: And sometimes, like I say, we don't know what they are, but that's okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: Just sitting and going through the process will help you through that.
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  SPEAKER_01: You don't actually have to know all the time what that is that needs to be healed.
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  SPEAKER_01: You just have to give yourself time to be present and with those.
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  SPEAKER_01: So releasing old patterns, I'm gonna pull one more here.
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  SPEAKER_01: Let's see what else comes up.
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  SPEAKER_01: Gift yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I love this.
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  SPEAKER_01: So make sure that when you're going through things, that you always have something to look forward to.
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  SPEAKER_01: And don't expect um the world, you know, we're not going to wait for the world to acknowledge us and to gift us.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're going to do that for ourselves in a way that will change us on the inside.
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  SPEAKER_01: So small things like having a nice cup of tea, um, going for a walk in nature, allowing yourself to have some time to just be creative, uh, writing, drawing, painting, um, dancing, dancing like no one's there.
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  SPEAKER_01: All of those things are ways that we can express the emotion that we're going through.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I love what's coming up in the chat about um spending the day forgiving and healing the old patterns.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes.
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  SPEAKER_01: And and gifting yourself doesn't have to mean that you're going to spend a lot of money on yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: It just means that you're going to take some time to do things that you love to do that bring you joy.
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  SPEAKER_01: And, you know, sometimes in life we get so busy um trying to, you know, earn the money, pay for the house.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, we forget that this little, little things in life are the things that give us a lot of joy.
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  SPEAKER_01: Noticing birds outside singing, noticing the sound of the water running, all of those things are little gifts that nature gives us that we can tap into to make ourselves feel better.
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  SPEAKER_01: And those gifts are there all the time.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you are a gift to yourself as well.
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  SPEAKER_01: Just taking the time to sit in silence and sit in gratitude for what you have is something.
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  SPEAKER_01: So I want you to um go ahead and take another breath and bring your intention back into your awareness.
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  SPEAKER_01: Think about those messages that I just gave you about letting go of patterns and gifting yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: Ah, singing is another way.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's so awesome.
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  SPEAKER_01: I'm gonna pull one more card.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, some people find it challenging to gift themselves.
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  SPEAKER_01: You know, that makes so much sense because, well, partly in life, we are told that if we do that, we're being selfish.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're told that we should be giving to others.
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  SPEAKER_01: And that that sometimes is a really hard thing to get over.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, it's ingrained in us really deeply.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is what I've learned.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you don't gift yourself, look after yourself, fill your own cup until it's overflowing, you will not be able to help others.
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  SPEAKER_01: So it's not selfish in any way to be gifting yourself in these ways.
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  SPEAKER_01: In fact, you are helping the collective by raising your own energy.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yes, having a healthy, loving relationship with ourselves is the foundation.
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  SPEAKER_01: Absolutely.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because when we're in that space, we are raising our own vibration and those ripple effects go out into the world.
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  SPEAKER_01: We are needed right now, more than ever, to be in that space.
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  SPEAKER_01: Okay, the last card I picked was surrender to obsessive thinking.
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  SPEAKER_01: I always love how the Oracle cards come up in this way.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can't make this stuff up.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, this particular one is important because our minds get in the way.
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  SPEAKER_01: We got certain thoughts that go over and over in our head, and these thoughts create emotion.
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  SPEAKER_01: And, you know, the pain of grief is real, but we can cause more suffering by the way that we think about things.
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  SPEAKER_01: And sometimes with grief comes a lot of shame and guilt and even jealousy.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so we tend to push those away.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're told that we shouldn't be angry, but those emotions are real, and allowing those to come up and go through us is important for our healing, but we don't want to hang on to those and ruminate in those thoughts because that's what keeps us stuck.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so it's a balance, it's a balance of feeling the energy and allowing it to go through us and then letting go and releasing that.
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  SPEAKER_01: And I will add, this is really important.
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  SPEAKER_01: If you're letting go and releasing emotion, you're not letting go of your loved one.
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  SPEAKER_01: Some people get mixed up with that a little bit.
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  SPEAKER_01: There is a difference between letting go of emotion and letting go of your loved one.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, your loved one is always with you.
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  SPEAKER_01: That love is always with you.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's never going anywhere.
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  SPEAKER_01: Even if you tried, you couldn't let go of that.
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  SPEAKER_01: So letting go of the emotion is really freeing you to be able to enjoy your life again.
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  SPEAKER_01: And so um, thoughts, patterns, and being able to help yourself by gifting yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: So, we're going to do a little healing here now.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, I want you to guide you through an experience.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, I'm just looking at the time.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, we've got time.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want to guide you through an experience.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is something you need, or it's not really something you need to figure out.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, you really don't need to do anything, but just allow yourself to receive.
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  SPEAKER_01: You've already set the intention.
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  SPEAKER_01: We've done that.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, so what we're gonna do now is we're just going to heal whatever comes up for you at this time.
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  SPEAKER_01: So if it feels comfortable and you're in comfortable place, close your eyes and take a slow deep breath in, and then exhale and just let your body soften and let your shoulders drop and let your jaw relax.
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  SPEAKER_01: And we're going to bring you back into that intention and back into that awareness, whatever came up for you earlier.
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  SPEAKER_01: And we don't have to analyze this, we're just going to feel into it.
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  SPEAKER_01: And usually when we feel into that, we're going to notice in our body something.
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  SPEAKER_01: There might be a twinge or an itch or um a sensation in your body somewhere.
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  SPEAKER_01: We don't have to overthink it.
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  SPEAKER_01: It might be just a heaviness.
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  SPEAKER_01: Ah, back pain, yeah.
• 17:21
  SPEAKER_01: Might be pressure.
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  SPEAKER_01: It might be just a subtle sensation.
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  SPEAKER_01: And there's never any right or wrong about this.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's just whatever comes up for you.
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  SPEAKER_01: So don't overthink it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now, instead of trying to change that sensation, let's just allow it to be there for a bit.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're just going to give it a little bit of space.
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  SPEAKER_01: And just imagine that this energy, and that's what everything is, it's just energy.
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  SPEAKER_01: Let's imagine that it can begin to move really gently naturally.
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  SPEAKER_01: There's no pushing it.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're just allowing it.
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  SPEAKER_01: And maybe it's just changing.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe it's transforming.
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  SPEAKER_01: Maybe it's just evaporating.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're gonna give that a minute.
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  SPEAKER_01: Now imagine a light or an energy.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's beginning to flow into that space.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's really soft and supportive.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it's a calming energy and a calming light.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it's filling up any space or place that felt a little heavy.
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  SPEAKER_01: And you might feel some warmth or a sense of opening that is happening.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're just gonna give ourselves a little bit of time to receive that.
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  SPEAKER_01: And if you're having trouble receiving, I want to give you a tip.
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  SPEAKER_01: Think of something that you love dearly.
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  SPEAKER_01: That when you think about it, your heart just jumps with joy.
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  SPEAKER_01: Think about how grateful you are to have that in your life.
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  SPEAKER_01: This is the energy of receiving.
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  SPEAKER_01: So we're just gonna allow ourselves to be in that energy without effort, without meaning to understand, you're just in that space and you're absolutely safe to receive.
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  SPEAKER_01: And notice if something feels a little lighter, maybe a little more open.
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  SPEAKER_01: Even just slightly.
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  SPEAKER_01: Because that's enough.
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  SPEAKER_01: That's the beginning of this momentum.
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  SPEAKER_01: Getting started.
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  SPEAKER_01: You're steering the ship.
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  SPEAKER_01: You're changing the direction.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's your own inner wisdom that knows how to do this.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're just giving it the space to do it.
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  SPEAKER_01: Take another really deep breath in.
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  SPEAKER_01: And we're just gonna let this settle into your body.
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  SPEAKER_01: And we're gonna let this become a part of you because it's beautiful.
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  SPEAKER_01: You're beautiful.
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  SPEAKER_01: Feel your body.
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  SPEAKER_01: Take another really deep breath.
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  SPEAKER_01: And we're gonna return.
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  SPEAKER_01: You can wiggle your fingers, wiggle your toes, and as you're coming back, just remember this is something that's always been within you.
• 22:44
  SPEAKER_01: Feel your feet and your hands.
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  SPEAKER_01: Another really big deep breath.
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  SPEAKER_01: And when you're ready, open your eyes.
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  SPEAKER_01: This what you experienced um isn't something outside of you.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's something inside of you.
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  SPEAKER_01: And it's something that's always been available to you.
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  SPEAKER_01: I want to acknowledge each of you for taking this time to be here for you.
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  SPEAKER_01: This really is gifting yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: It's an example of gifting yourself, and you're doing it, and it's important.
• 23:36
  SPEAKER_01: It takes courage to open up your heart to healing and to feel because sometimes those emotions can be big ones.
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  SPEAKER_01: And to allow yourself to receive support is huge.
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  SPEAKER_01: Lots of people suffer in silence, and you're not doing that.
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  SPEAKER_01: So good for you.
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  SPEAKER_01: And if something in today's experience resonated with you, ah, there's lots of shaking and yawning.
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  SPEAKER_01: I could cry with joy.
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  SPEAKER_01: Aw.
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  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, because those emotions are coming up, and that's okay.
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  SPEAKER_01: We're gonna let them release.
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  SPEAKER_01: And just remember, healing doesn't happen all at once.
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  SPEAKER_01: Um, sometimes it begins with one breath, one moment of allowing, and one small step toward yourself.
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  SPEAKER_01: So thank you for allowing me to share this experience with you.
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  SPEAKER_01: And remember, you're not broken, you're transforming.
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  SPEAKER_00: That is so awesome.
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  SPEAKER_00: I love that.
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  SPEAKER_00: Thanks, Adrian.
• 24:51
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you for this.
• 24:52
  SPEAKER_00: It's amazing what we're seeing in chat.
• 24:54
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah, I love it.
• 24:55
  SPEAKER_01: Thank you so much.
• 24:57
  SPEAKER_01: I'm so grateful for you all being here and sharing that with me.
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  SPEAKER_01: Appreciate it.
• 25:02
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you.
• 25:03
  SPEAKER_00: Lots of shaking and yawning.
• 25:04
  SPEAKER_00: I didn't really notice the shaking until I read your comment.
• 25:07
  SPEAKER_00: Physical release.
• 25:08
  SPEAKER_00: I imagine.
• 25:10
  SPEAKER_00: I am transforming.
• 25:11
  SPEAKER_00: Yeah, I love how you said that.
• 25:14
  SPEAKER_00: Transforming.
• 25:15
  SPEAKER_00: That is beautiful.
• 25:16
  SPEAKER_00: Thank you so much, Crying, but in the best way.
• 25:21
  SPEAKER_00: Um, when I first met you, did you ever think you could be this powerful when it came to healing and helping people unleash their own healing?
• 25:27
  SPEAKER_01: Oh, I had no idea.
• 25:28
  SPEAKER_01: I was just so excited to just meet you at that time.
• 25:35
  SPEAKER_01: I just remember thinking, celebrity healer.
• 25:38
  SPEAKER_01: Wow.
• 25:42
  SPEAKER_01: Yeah.
• 25:43
  SPEAKER_01: Who knew?
• 25:44
  SPEAKER_01: You know, miracles do happen.
• 25:47
  SPEAKER_01: And you are making miracles happen.
• 25:49
  SPEAKER_01: So thank you so much for this platform and this opportunity.
• 25:52
  SPEAKER_01: I really appreciate it.
• 25:54
  SPEAKER_00: You're welcome.
• 25:54
  SPEAKER_00: I'm happy to do it.
• 25:56
  SPEAKER_00: It's been such a pleasure meeting you from day one to now.
• 26:00
  SPEAKER_00: It's so amazing to see how you've grown and even just witnessing, you know, what the chat is saying about your experience.
• 26:08
  SPEAKER_00: I mean, it's just amazing.
• 26:09
  SPEAKER_00: So congratulations for your growth.
• 26:11
  SPEAKER_00: I told her she was awesome.
• 26:13
  SPEAKER_00: I love her.